10 Ways to Prepare Yourself for Marriage with Ken and Tabatha Claytor

Ever wondered why some relationships flourish while others flounder? Today, we're going to guide you on a journey to unlock the answers. We start by shattering a common misconception: your satisfaction comes from God, not from being married. With insights drawn from our own experiences, both as singles and married individuals, we propose 10 transformative ways to prime yourself for marriage. Our aim is to help you step into marriage as a fulfilled individual, rather than two halves seeking completion.
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[@altheazane3173]

Get in shape physically, emotionally (heal), financially, educationally.... Prepare yourself... Be at the standard that you require😊

[@Lakay8]

Agree 😊

[@margareinert230]

Perfect 🤩

[@carlaandrews1110]

Yes, Lord!

[@bonitahopkins2958]

Some asked, "would you marry you"? 😊

[@sunguarmagan9535]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@willarolen7581]

AMEN!!! The Holy Spirit told me to play husband with God first. If I can submit to God, then I can submit to the husband.

[@BelovedbyHim]

Isaiah 54v5-8

[@Joelle__K]

This! This has been my most recent revelation as I pray about marriage.

[@byrnenoel6317]

Intro: Principles-- 1. You do not have to be married to be fulfilled. 2. You are still single in order to prepare for your singleness 10 Ways To Prepare Yourself for Marriage 1. Don't Compare Your Relationship Status 2. Don't Believe the Lies of the Enemy 3. Don't Get Pressed (stressed, upset, or annoyed) 4. Don't Be Picky 5. Don't Settle 6. Get Your Finances 7. Deal With Your Past and Get Healed 8. Growing (in) God 9. Get in Shape 10. Get a Solid Understanding of What Marriage Is All About

[@lakishamumford2329]

Thank you. ✨

[@April-tn7zz]

Thank you for this

[@sheilakarwani788]

Thank you for this summary. 💯

[@evelynjumbo2447]

Thank you for this podcast

[@janenarhyum4383]

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[@oo5240]

Love how Tabatha looks at Ken with so much love and admiration and how he asks for her perspective and values it 😍😍

[@yurireyes176]

I'm 32 and finally letting go of so much garbage in my soul 😢😢😢😢😢😢 Lord thank you for the word of God!!! Thank you you are making us perfect as you are perfect! Praise the Lord!!!!

[@ladya4445]

Single in my 40s and totally agree with 2nd point. I was never ready in my 20s (was surprised when friends yearned for it). I was still not ready in my early 30s. The thought started in my late 30s but only as a thought. But now, I'm more than ready and i see it happening soon am glad I waited. I needed to know me first plus being left to take care of siblings after my parents died while I was in my early 20s. I needed me space after the "kids" left the nest. I'm now more than ready to care for my man and dedicate to marriage.

[@sarab.6592]

Same I was definitely not ready in my 20s and was even uncomfortable when my friends were talking about marriage. I was a mess back then but now im in a better place and I’m enjoying 30s club better😌

[@mbiandabarbara1633]

When he said , “I am better than her list “ I was so moved. “He checked all the boxes that she didn’t even know that she needed”. This is so beautiful, and comforting. Knowing God has the best for me .

[@user-lm1wq8hs7l]

Thank you so much. I really needed to hear this. 35 no kids and single, I really love that I stumbled on this it feels like a confirmation. Amen!!!

[@helenbelanger]

As a 24 y/o woman who aspires to be married, I deeply appreciated this conversation. I will practice these 10 tips.

[@christopherreed3638]

Heyy 😊

[@merabobore1453]

We really do need those 10 keys

[@idivas_Tricia]

Many women fail to prepare adequately for marriage, resulting in dysfunctional unions. Mastering three key factors beforehand can make all the difference.. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h5jVmaOPhZd9kLc

[@joycewatt8289]

32:53 You might not have to be a certain shape but you SHOULD BE in shape meaning as healthy as you can be within your control. I work in healthcare and I heard someone say, “Your health is not your doctor’s responsibility. It’s yours.” That is so very true! Even biblically…God has some health standards that IF we followed them we’d have less health challenges.

[@slime361]

Kindly share with us those biblical health standards God set for us. It will be helpful.

[@chelseawarren8774]

This was right on time!!! I’m 29 years old and I was beginning to feel like I was behind in the race. However, I was reminded that I’m in a place of preparation and that’s ok!! It’s just Me and God

[@msshay421]

I am 31 and feel the exact same way. Just me and GOD!

[@karlimack3914]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@crazyleaf257]

That's right when I really really wanted to get married and I was getting desperate I got to the end of myself in conversation with god and I said you know what God I give it up I surrender and if it's just you and me forever from now on I'm fine with that. It must have been a week or less that he brought my husband into my life and I know for sure for sure that God brought him. After having that lesson and I am in marriage and struggling with marriage things now I am realizing God wants me to bring that same Spirit of surrender into my marriage as well! Wow the challenge of life and spirituality never ends

[@Demeris2]

Good word! Preparation for marriage is rooted in Identity. Identifying with who God has made us to be is the key to properly preparing for marriage.

[@Options23]

AMEN, Absolutely!! God Bless

[@boohookidscreations8003]

Lovely couple. I love the spiritual connection. I have been married 12 years but me and my husband lost this connection, we are almost no longer one even at a spiritual level. It doesn't feel right, I pray that God brings us back to oneness.

[@lovelife8968]

You all are still one it just doesn't feel good. Feeling suck and don't always tell the truth love beautiful but think of it as action not feelings. It may take work for sure. I'm praying for you!

[@brendaharding8010]

It takes 2 however.....both of you have to want to be in the marriage.

[@pamelamashaba4515]

You don't have to be married to be fulfilled...truth there...thank you for wise biblical advise 😊🇿🇦👍

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

You’re welcome 😊

[@mjtuno]

I just started listening to you guys and I absolutely love your videos already. I’m a single 45 yo Christian man and praying for a Godly woman. While I wait, I’m preparing myself.

[@hey2930]

Currently courting with a set day and I must say learning to realize that I am still single until I get married was such a conviction for me. I must still prepare because I am absolutely still single. God has been molding me and transforming me into such a beautiful soul. He even gave me a new mindset on having kids and being fruitful and not using birth control. Gods in control of my womb.

[@rockymountainprincess9078]

God answered your prayers...He led me to your channel 😇. I'm blessed to be here. All glory and praise to Jesus 🕊.

[@Addi_Academy]

I’m 26 own my house and have a good job single my whole adult life and working on trusting God for a husband …I struggle with it and in a healing/growing/trusting season I got a lot of work to do but I’ll definitely get through it in Jesus name !

[@etheroluwa9388]

Amen 🙏

[@pleasedeliverme]

I just found ya'll tonight and absolutely love this topic! I'm 62 my husband died in May of 2023 and I told myself I want to get myself spirituality ready first before I even think about looking for a husband. Ya'll are nailing it❣❣❣. Thank you guys❤

[@Tim_merriweather]

I am grateful that I’ve found this podcast at 30 years old wanting to be married these videos are extremely helpful.

[@naagabapheonah9345]

Same here

[@AdrienBryantTube]

God told me to pray in the word regarding marriage. I’m divorced and children are grown. You helped alot. Thanks

[@carlaritchie331]

Can't agree more! These were excellent points. Don't look for someone to complete you, be complete and the best you can be before a relationship, so you have what is needed to contribute to a fulfilled partnership. Treat yourself as God's temple, the best that he designed you to become. Bring God's best for you into a union that honors Christ as the center of an honorable marriage.

[@reneewilhite5336]

I really like how you honor your wife's opinion and presence in your conversation/podcast

[@queenstorm439]

Yes, sis, I'm in my waiting season for my KINGDOM HUSBAND SPIRITUAL ANOINTED SPOUSE! ❤ God!!! IS preparing him and me! Patient, I must say it's hard, but GOD!!! HAS it all in control! AMEN 🙏 🙌 ✨️

[@Ashley08888]

6:49-7:07 is a real word! I lived by it for about 5yrs. I am single,happy AND OK with it. I love my life ❤ I love what God is doing with my life. If God bring a husband to me in this life, coo...if not, coo!

[@joycewatt8289]

I’ll be married 15 years in a couple of weeks. I just came across you guys. Y’all funny 😂 “You said the name!” Lol “Now I’m gone call out ALL their names” Any who, I pray that you all help MANY in and out of the Body of Christ! Let’s MAKE MARRIAGE GREAT AGAIN 🙏🏽

[@daniellejones8460]

As a single women, I appreciate your content! Keep it coming🫶🏾

[@crazyleaf257]

You're right about women not chasing and don't act like you're not available. God spoke to me when I was single and he said you can look for your husband but don't be obsessed with it cuz I was so obsessed with it and he was calling me to get more into scripture and to surrender to him but still be open to finding my husband and it all happened when I got my head right. Yes absolutely chasing did not work I tried it and I didn't realize I was doing it but I got wiser and wiser as I went

[@happywings15]

being single has been a blessing. And the freedom we get to serve, journey, dream and achieve is unmatched. Dont let the narrative of having it all ruin the quality blessing you have right now

[@Makeitawesome4you]

Hi Mr & Mrs Claytor. Thank you for what you shared. I'm a 21 years old male and I thank God that I got to see this podcast. Now I can prepare on my own pace & have less challenges in the future. Thanks, God bless you.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Glad to have you watching!

[@gorgeouswales9635]

First time here. This talk was good. I’ve been married 16 years my spouse disappointed me by not recognizing our anniversary, even as i decorated not sure what happened, even when I questioned later about it, all I got was “ I’m sorry” so pray for us. Thank you both. Blessings!

[@descaprice1995]

Praying ❤

[@whitneyj6463]

My fav takeaway: DON’T BELIEVE THE LIES OF THE ENEMY! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@nomsa653]

“In your single season, you are training yourself for what you are going to do for the rest of your life…” Wow!

[@laurarhodes634]

Love it! Good information to prepare me again for marriage. I am widowed but looking forward to getting married again, so I want to be a better wife

[@CharlotteBillingz]

You are so right, Christians shy away from certain conversations and that’s why a lot of young people is in the dark about certain things.

[@kelg.7481]

Hello, I stumbled on your page and so glad I did. I have been divorced for four years, I was married for 13. Your podcasts ,your information have helped me to see some of my mistakes in my first marriage. Although some were ignorant, because of lack of knowledge. Moving forward, I’ve been praying that the Lord will give me wisdom as it relates to being the wife that my husband needs the next time. Please keep doing what you do and God bless.

[@dimakatsomakimoloko4947]

I am not married yet, but this was amazing. Love you guys and your honesty❤ all the way from South Africa🇿🇦

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Hey guuurrrllll🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@smomothomnguni2849]

Hey Di ♥️🤩🇿🇦

[@courtneyblake929]

Im 32 and single must I say I enjoyed every second of this ❤

[@arnettaword3170]

I JUST CAME ACROSS YOUR CONTENT, I'M SINGLE , BUT THIS JUST BLESS MY SOUL. THANK YOU.

[@shadeadewumi4299]

The Lord led me to this channel..the Lord has been talking to me about preparing myself for marriage. And I had been looking for the right content and I came across this channel on Friday and it gives me all the information I need ....now I'm been schooled by this channel..im grateful

[@bonitahopkins2958]

I am a widow now. My husband was a baby saint when we got married. We did not match Spiritually. It caused a lot of problems because he was spiritually immature. Our walk with Christ wasn't the same. Now, considering possible remarriage, I know now I must have a man who at least matches me spiritually, and I really still need emotional healing from past post trauma experiences. God bless you two for sharing 🙏🏾 😊❤

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Praying with you for healing from your past traumas!

[@Kinggdomsuss]

I had one relationship that ended and one told me I was “depressed” . Which I was very happy until the way I was treated in the relationship. I then dated another person and came to realization that it was the same person with a different face. A month later we broke up and he told me “you’re unhappy” and as I grew in God I learned that you will keep taking the same test until you pass it but also that the enemy will make those people say the same things about you so you’ll start believing it about yourself. Thank God I never held on to it, but I peeped it. Just touching on the topic at 10:00

[@ibeabuchivictory5665]

10 ways to prepare yourself for Marriage. 1. Don't compare your relationship to others. 2. Don't believe the lies of the enemy. 3. Don't be pressed. 4. Don't be too picky. 5. Don't settle. 6. Get your finances right. 7. Deal with your past and get healed. 8. Growing God.1 Corinthians 7:32. 9. Get in shape; Spiritual, emotional and physical. 10. Get a solid understanding of what marriage is all about.

[@tammyikama-obambi7641]

Im finally getting the concept of the right amount of confidence towards my relationship with God and others...as long as Im good with God everything and everyone else should be the added extras. If I get married or not being honestly good either way....sets a standard that pleases God and makes life more fulfilling. Learning to rest and wait in Him makes a difference.

[@chizetteparlor887]

Phenomenal!!! I was just asking THE LORD how HE wants me to prepare....🙏🏿🙏🏾🙏🏼🙌🏻🔥

[@kukuaparker1341]

Me too!!! And then i found this video!! Ha!

[@manudi]

❤

[@flydollronda1926]

Happy to find your channel, single woman here soaking in all of the knowledge 🙏🏽

[@pamelagreen5133]

You both are doing an awesome job preparing singles and educating the married on how to live and operate by God's way in their marriages. May God continue to bless and keep you both under His wings.

[@TEWMUCH]

Love how yall look at each other and talk to each other. ❤

[@valentine_music]

Real Gems - You guys bring great value. I pray that as I’m getting ready my partner is also getting ready through the Word of God and help from the Holy Spirit. Can’t wait for Thursdays and looking forward to Alive Conference Orlando-registered- Stay blessed !

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Love to hear it!

[@bernadettejohn3055]

I am so blessed by your message, I am married i wish i had herd these things before, but God is good .

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Amen! Thanks for watching!

[@deepinside663]

Wow, I'm getting married this year and this is such invaluable information, your maturity is refreshing. God bless you for your service to the people of God

[@lindagatwiri869]

I believe I am one of the people you prayed for to discover this channel.I've learnt alot from this video and I'm going to watch other videos you guys have made. Thank you amd God bless you.

[@Doinglifewithkenandtabatha]

Thanks for watching! God bless you too.

[@gloriaparham8489]

YESSS PLEASE DO A PODCAST ABOUT HOW TO WIN A GODLY MAN

[@agnesr.4664]

0:07 - I literally DROPPED everything to grab pen and paper to write down ALL of the revelation that is going to be downloaded.

[@tamayranorville7959]

Yes, do the podcast on “ how to win a man.” I would love to hear what you have to say about that. Great podcast guys, thank you ❤. As a single Christian woman this thought me so much and I’m guilty of number 3. I’m at this point though where I’m just getting to love myself first, so I could reach the point where I’m like “regardless if I get married or not I’m still going to be happy.” Thanks again

[@damiodunaiya4038]

That's how God rolls when you trust Him, and have a relationship with Him and follow His rules! That person He'll send you will surpass your list. Amen I claim it too. Amen🙌🏾

[@zberumen6404]

Just a single lady stopping by to say, thank you! I took great notes. God bless

[@leyamwanza338]

Revelation in those words for the longest I felt like there was something wrong with me.. not feminine enough not clean enough not caring enough.. but I am enough ❤

[@chopperr_]

Loved this! Thank you ❤

[@maryannzafra2]

Every couple should have this kind of conversation. I love that me and my fiance are doing the same thing.

[@immaculatabassey3394]

I'm grateful to God for stumbling into this channel I'm 45 and single mother I have been desperate to get married and I had my list but your teachings have made me a new person in Christ I love how you both are and I know God will also bless all of us that have been praying for God's sent husband

[@alafebetty5141]

I am blessed by this. God bless you two. Amen

[@user-uw9zv3jb7p]

Love how you keep it real and yet tie it in with the Bible . This is a well needed ministry . Thankful you’re both willing to be honest and vulnerable. Please note anything you’re honest about just makes everything real and this is not a negative thing .

[@priscillacastro224]

As a 40 yr young single 😁, I really appreciated this message. It’s definitely my single season and I agree 100% needing to give yourself time with God so he can heal the broken pieces and restore you even better than before❤. May I make a request about something that I don’t hear from pastors when talking about relationships.. and that’s singles who have kids, who didn’t follow the right way, or did, but now are single and have kids (young or teens) in the pic as well. Can you talk about that and give your perspective and advice to both men and women?

[@chozen.x]

Right!!! I need perspective on my situation

[@latoyabasden4725]

Amen!!!!

[@LovableMe137]

Thank God for sending me this video !! New subbie alert🥰

[@siya1386]

Thank You so much for changing my perspective on being single and how exciting it can be. AMEN

[@khadiatus.4800]

Yes to the podcast "How to Win a Men"

[@shequaniawright8236]

Beautiful marriage!! I aspire to have this one day ❤️🙏🏾 a Spirit-filled & God-fearing one! Thank you for this ! God bless you both ✨

[@culturedblemish831]

This was such great insight. Thank you ✨💌

[@FaithFoodFashionFinances]

This was so good.

[@jameilia-9031]

I’m so blessed to have found this channel

[@Nokie2010]

So glad I found you guys! We need more of this rock solid content!❤❤❤

[@normaramirez9687]

Love this thank you so much!!!❤

[@itssilvermadallion]

You guys are Amazing! And Funny!!! Thanks so much for the Gems!!! ❤

[@shanettahannah5478]

I love the honesty! 💕

[@traceegadson7969]

This was really helpful and on point. Thank you for sharing!

[@teresabernardo440]

Thank you for this.

[@ATSGENXStyle]

Absolutely Love positive communication on Single talks! I'm desiring to be married❤

[@andrearonaldo11]

Amen!! Keep up the great kingdom work!!

[@jefradrianstafford1230]

I’m truly grateful I found your podcast!!

[@evelyntaylor9215]

I'm borderline marriage... this was awesome for discussion with my future husband

[@jaimematus7308]

Thank you for this 🙏❤️

[@lydiamadjinodji7228]

great content

[@emmakarikari1]

Really enjoyed Tabithas perspectives and additions here!

[@abigailmakome1634]

Insightful ❤

[@victoriaking4570]

Thank you, you all are a blessing!

[@joanajayi-majebi638]

So much wisdom 💎💎💎

[@mangelique_]

Loved this video. Thank you

[@jessicadixon5530]

My God, love, and love this

[@vivienneduncan550]

God bless you both. I was just scrolling through KZbin for something spiritual to watch and I came up on your interesting topic. I had to watch to the end,very intriguing. I am a committed Christian woman who lost my husband last year to cancer. May his soul rest in peace. However, lately I am feeling like I still have some love and care in me my Boaz that the Lord is preparing for me and is preparing me for. I just want to take care of my spiritual being and allow the Lord to take care of the rest. God bless you.

[@jennyblessing6403]

"have a life" the second time am hearing that in a day! Thank you Holy spirit ❤😊

[@sonyapayne4547]

Thank you for your transparency.

[@jackiek4159]

These tips were so timely! Thank you guys! 🙏🏻💞✨

[@creativemasterspro]

So many gems!! I have sent this to multiple friends

[@BrookeLynn-sr6vy]

I could be wrong but I think there are lots of teaching for the women and their is a constant shortage of taught men. So women are aging and ending up single longer because there isn't a lot of godly men to meet. I encourage them to keep chasing after God and praying but they are slowly becoming the forgotten saints in the church.

[@shequaniawright8236]

I believe that not everyone is going to find a spiritually mature man, but once He loves the Lord & is working toward that daily, it can still be the will of God. We just have to pray about that person. To be spiritually mature is a process for both men & women so it’s just a matter of process & nothing is too hard for God 🙏🏾

[@TheBlaxkWolf]

@@shequaniawright8236if he’s not a spiritually mature man when he pursues you then it is a sin to be dating and marrying him. The Bible says not to be unequally yoked.

[@shequaniawright8236]

@@TheBlaxkWolf that is not true. This is false teaching. The scripture said not to be unequally yoke with an unbeliever. If the person is a believer and they are like minded, but maybe they just began their journey or not as mature as you, that does not make the relationship unequally yoked. “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?” ‭‭II Corinthians‬ ‭6‬:‭14‬-‭15‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

[@taliagoodwomanmann]

I agree. Christians are constantly being told that women should be a Proverbs 31 woman, but they fail to speak to them men in how they should be a Proverbs 22 man.

[@user-yl6wz9ez7s]

Hi Ken and Tab one of my favorite Christian Power Couple. I am kinda late watching y'all podcast but it's so good and I am really enjoying it and learning also. Blessings and thank for sharing the Real Real ❤

[@quaneicehunt412]

First time watching. Great session and insight!

[@renitalinear9852]

Loved this!