Control - Improvised Short Film

Not all domestic abuse is physical, could you tell the difference?
This is a short film about emotional domestic abuse, the film was shot in a single day and was completely improvised by both actors.
Starring Stuart Goodwin and Anna Downes.

[@mandygreen9152]

i was in a relationship like that, so charming he was in the beginning, but the control was subtiel, there should be more films about this the hidden abuse also called covert narsisissem

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

If you listen to podcast .. there is narcissist apocalypse , actual victims tell their stories ..

[@joycenichols6187]

I was also. But at the end was physical. That's when I left. I didnt know treatment and words were violent. But I knew through my mother and dad relationship what the violence was.

[@PaperMario64]

Typical narcissist

[@sarahnelson_93]

I was with a covert narcissist for 5 years. They love bomb you in the beginning so you think they’re your soul mate and then exactly. The control is subtle until you look up and don’t recognize the person in the mirror anymore because you have confirmed to be everything they want you to be. Nothing is ever right or enough and it’s always your fault. It never got physical but the emotional and mental abuse and being separated from my family was devastating. Good for us girl for leaving people like that.

[@susansherlock6934]

Yes, same here, very subtle...it took 33 sessions of domestic abuse counselling to bring me out of my trance ..

[@SydneyInTheSky]

Immediately this makes sense when she jumps up when he walks in.....been there. It’s like a natural bodily response eventually 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@belindahutchinson5333]

That’s true. However in this instance I think she just moved out of his favourite seat.

[@gabby20]

This was hard for me to watch as it was like watching myself 2 years ago , same type pf control , mental and physical. I was constantly under a spell of manipulations of lies and deciet. Now I'm still healing. It's hard but anyone going through this or any kind of abuse Get out. Great Vid

[@dp.2766]

Run! Go grey rock! A black eye is much easier to heal from!

[@amandalidey329]

Right. Well I'm 39 now. & my relationship like this started at 22 (met at 20) until almost 30. Soo yes, I definitely get that. These men/women too are disgusting.

[@allisonb.8492]

same!@@amandalidey329

[@GradKat]

This was good. I was in a relationship very like this one. The actors did a great job portraying an atmosphere of suspicion, menace and implied threat.

[@EternalIrisLimited]

thank you. implied threat, something extra missing, the fact we cant see all of it, is part of what we were going for.

[@nabirahbukhari]

Mentally abusing your spouse is also domestic violence Great message conveyed in the short film

[@EternalIrisLimited]

thank you

[@nabirahbukhari]

@@EternalIrisLimited 💖💖

[@amandalidey329]

Mental abuse is just as bad as physical.

[@carljohnson2194]

@@amandalidey329 it’s not equal. Physical is worse but still mental is bad yes

[@amandalidey329]

@@carljohnson2194 Its equal imo. Mental/physical/emotional. All a sign of "abuse " soo u think one is better than the other,??. If u look up facts about unfortunate situations like this. It states "Mental abuse " can actually be worse than "physical" When I was "20" yrs old. (My daughter's age) I met someone who was just strictly a friend, nothing else, we ended up dating when I was 22 (which was very unexpected) he had been just a friend for 2 years, nothing else. Wellll me being young, way less wiser, etc. It started with Mental & emotional 1 year later when we were then actually living together & then thats when the physical abuse started. Keep in mind I wasn't even 25 yet, easy to buy $1,000 omega necklaces from Kay jewelers for our first Christmas & literally $175 breakfasts on the water with champagne & bloody merrys for breakfast. All this fancy wining & dining. At that age u look at it differently. U can't "Buy my love " I appreciated it but all the flowers seemed to work too, until u get a Lil older & wiser & realize it was & meant nothing. Thank GOD I didn't marry him. I definitely looked & picked out "princess cut engagement 💍 " which I need a queen ring lol. But that would have been a nightmare.!! My point is, They are all the same & effect u the same. Soo if u never been in a situation like that, I wouldn't speak on it. That's your opinion tho. I'm 39 yrs old. Let me tell u, if a "man" put his hands on me. That would be the first & very last. Some are just imo sick & maybe don't know how to love. I really don't know. Lol, bc I don't mentally, physically or emotionally abuse anyone I love. That's not love. That lasted for 7 years & by the grace of God the night he strangled me, I put his sorry a☆☆ In jail & I didn't stay bc I didn't "value myself " or bc I wanted too. I was in a definite, difficult situation at that time. I tell my daughter who is 20 now the same so she never goes thru that & I hope father's out there raise their son's the way they would want him to treat his gf/wife in the future & definitely for sure their daughter's & 🙏 their not wiping the tears off their daughter's face for the EXACT same reason. Sad but true. Just thought I'd fill u in on what "abuse" means. They are absolutely equal.💯

[@rubberbiscuit99]

When you feel contempt coming from someone who claims to love you, run. These people are not safe to be around, no matter who they are to you. Run.

[@crystalcole888]

Contempt. That's the perfect word. I've met a bunch of these guys and they would go back and forth between love-bombing... and contempt. Just showing disgust for me for no apparent reason. That definitely it's one of the main things to look out for.

[@ginasverige2570]

💔❤‍🩹

[@shirleymotteram2225]

Very powerful, remember that feeling, so subtle but so destructive to self.

[@EternalIrisLimited]

thank you, subtle and behind the scenes with almost a feeling that we are not seeing the worst of it, is what we were going for.

[@emilynielsen4378]

Eternal Iris Film and Photography You nailed it. Thank you.

[@deanlangworthy3311]

Her calling for "pizza" to 999 or 911 in the US is a good way for someone in a situation like this woman in the video to say that they need emergency services right away. My landlord's gf is a 911 operator and this technique has helped ppl in these situations. Very recently here in toledo ohio where she works. A lady called using the pizza thing while her mom was abused by her bf. Saved the lady's life

[@cthulhusmom]

I was thinking the same thing. I wonder if they have the same method everywhere

[@seg6629]

Yes brilliant wish I'd of thought of that when needed 😢

[@benchapman91]

Hi - director here Theirs a reddit post about a woman who called 911 for a pizza and police turned up probably saved her life, so in part it's based on that as well as other research on domestic abuse, and just the concept if your stuck in a difficult situation like that that's about to turn even more sour need to find a way anyway to get the hell out to get some help.

[@elizabethdockcastle7570]

Wow absolutely amazing actress ! She got into character so perfectly very believable!

[@trinitywright7122]

She's good, makes me feel the anxiety. A couple of these things reminding me of things that happened in my last marriage that I didn't even realize were controlling.

[@gerrimiller3491]

Actions speaks louder than words. I've learned this is so important to pay attention to

[@vanessaneto1]

Wow, so real. Really powerful. Anyone who has managed to get out of such a relationship deserves praise. You should be proud of yourselves. No point condemning or feeling shame. You're out that's what's important, let the healing begin. ❤

[@PuddilyOops]

Anybody insisting that “gender is performative” THIS is the rebuttal. This doof in the porkpie hat doesn’t need to say anything or raise his hands. She Knows that he has the physical means to back up any implied threat. Both of these actors did a phenomenal job. The tension in this short film was so palpable.

[@louisahallman7313]

This is how I live right now every single day. No physical abuse so far but the mental emotional n verbal abuse is so destructive He’s a pastor too so no one would believe me. I have only told 2 people n thankfully they believe me That actress shows exactly how I feel the fear the shaking anxiety n the actor is exactly like my narc husband who drills me w accusatory questions over n over I need to escape

[@granmabern5283]

I went to (free) counselling at the nursing station when I felt helpless. Went regularly for a couple months “ to learn how to be a better person”...haha...he instantly started behaving better. Isolation is toxic. I think women often enable this or even cause it by an unhealthy form of submission. Christ told us, “ Love thy neighbour like you love yourself.”. If you don’t love yourself, practically and honestly and pertinently, then this stuff can creep in. He is getting better all the time, thanks be to God! It never got terrible but it was going downhill. I think they are insecure and they don’t like or love themselves in a healthy way. Some of them learned it at home so they start right away. Others get this way because they are submissive at work and with other people, so they tend to want to control their spouse to make up for it. Now mine has started his own company, so he is in control of his life and his interactions and is much happier. He worked too many hours before so he couldn’t have a part time business, unfortunately. Now he has his swagger back and we get along fine.😅🎉❤Reading the “ Good woman” Epistle from Wisdom 31, 10-31 that is a part of the Catholic Mass “ Cognovi” scriptures, helps immensely. “ Who shall find a valiant woman?”😊

[@campfireaddict6417]

@@granmabern5283 Doesn't matter if you do or don't love yourself.

[@janbuchanan3920]

This type of abuse is abhorrent, get out, don’t stay.....you’ll end up dead!

[@r4tgl]

It's important to not let it degenerate to this. Stand up for yourself immediately, even in the beginning of a relationship. No one can bully you if you don't allow it. Never be afraid to end things early in a relationship. If you are uncomfortable with your partner, they shouldn't be your partner. One of the most damning of the 4 horsemen is contempt once this is exhibited in a relationship it is near impossible to repair.

[@happydillpickle]

I'd go for completely impossible to repair. It always makes me immensely sad when I see people trying desperately to make things better in a hopeless situation like this as that was me, and it's really hard seeing others going through the same, yet still having that miniscule bit of hope that things will get better if only they can make changes to their own behaviour. Such a desperate place to be. The only hope is running and never looking back.

[@MiriamHernandez-cv7em]

What if you try to break up with them and they won’t leave ,they keep coming around and stalking you . I’ve tried putting protective order on him and he has threatened me in so many ways . I think the beast think to do in my situation is to pack my bags and leave far!!! ✌️

[@happydillpickle]

@@MiriamHernandez-cv7em Yes it is. The only way to be free/safe is to leave with no way of them finding out where you have gone, changing all means of contact (phone, email, social media, cutting off mutual "friends": unfortunately, people who refuse to take sides don't have your best interests at heart if they know what's going on). Wishing you the very best of luck.

[@lucindaklopper4151]

It is easier said than done... ask someone who is in such a relationship that is a highly sensitive person and has been so charmingly brainwashed that she didn't realise until it was too late. I need to go for trauma counseling when I get the guts to move out and divorce my husband. It is the most difficult thing to do if you are so guilt-ridden by the pain you are going to cause because together with being and HSP I am also an empath. I understand your message and agree, but as I said it is not thay easy to identify especially if it is really subtle for years until one day you wake up and you don't know who you are

[@jessi3271]

@@lucindaklopper4151 I'm going through the same thing as I have twice can't believe I'm going through it again, bless you and I agree with what you're saying, there's signs but then there isn't at the same time.. it's unexplainable really then you're just left in shock. It's weird!

[@breakingpoint3893]

I used to date a guy who saw me as his personal maid, every time he'd ask me to cook or grab groceries or do the dishes, I'd say your legs aren't broken last I checked, do them yourself... I don't know if I'll ever find love or feel worthy enough to be loved but I do know I'll never put up with that again so long as God let's me live.

[@jewelhaines8842]

Uhhh, there is NO way I could live like this...I feel so bad for people that do. 😪 Great video, the tension was so thick, I felt uncomfortable!!

[@blancav1873]

I live this every single day it's torture! Walking on eggshells every single dam day! It's a nightmare! I can't wait to leave!! I tried to leave once about a year ago and that didn't go well for me unfortunately so now I'll have to do it without him knowing I know people think it's so easy to just pack up n leave but in my situation it's not that easy. Plus I have two disabled Lil girls it makes it even harder plus no help from family I have no parents to help me they're gone so I'm on my own with two kids it's hard I pray I'm able to walk away safely soon 🙏

[@jewelhaines8842]

@@blancav1873 I'm SO sorry. I pray you and your daughters are able to get out. Is there a shelter where you live??

[@farahsummers1171]

@@blancav1873 Are you & your girls ok?? Much love ♡♡♡

[@blancav1873]

@farah summers hi yes we are ok as ok as we can be I guess still hanging in there I'm in the process of trying to buy a home for me and my girls if God willing that dream should come true that will be the key to my freedom my beautiful sweet freedom!! Thankyou so much for taking the time to reach out to me. That really means alot!!! God bless!! I hope you are well I hope you are happy And free! 😊🙏❤️

[@nicky2591]

@@blancav1873 I hope you hurry up and leave him ,it will be,the best thing you ever do ,and to stay single , because you don't want to attract another one of these guys ,they go hunting ,for vulnerable women .good luck ,don't tell him it could cost you your life .

[@trudiswanson9855]

People can't understand how a look can control you. That look 😥is not just in scripted movies.

[@schannstewart9385]

Emotional abuse...how they make you feel. I remember that with my ex

[@JST-bc5te]

Oh My Gosh, this is me right now. My husband watches my every move and he says he can do what he wants. I get a little each month and now he says that I will have to pay for house repairs he has money but he says he does not. He told awhile back that I was responsible for my health care. I am trying to get financing assistance.

[@hannie6486]

I hope you're in a better situation now, if you want, I could pray for you.

[@JaneA544]

Please try to leave, your partner is not worth living like that, I hope you are in a better situation

[@trinitywright7122]

Get out. Run.

[@wisdomknowledgelover6293]

My Ex husband told me he would no longer pay for my bills ..(the gym, car repairs, gas, any clothing.. ) I was not allowed to drive his car but he would not help me get mine fixed so I could get work...

[@jessicavargas5535]

Hi beautiful soul, how are you healing now.

[@lajuanjackson24]

This is powerful, people don't understand how this can happen, but it's an over time kind of situation and by the time you yourself understand, your entire circle of peeps see you a whole different way as a couple, it's not even enabling when you don't get it for so long. It's sad really sad. I'm learning so much from these from my early childhood and no wonder I've done the things the way I have. Domestic violence is like a cancer, it just eats away at your very soul and core. We really have to come together, so the younger generations don't repeat us. I appreciate your video. God bless you.

[@honeyhoney1252]

My ex was nice at the beginning but soon as we was married he changed like flicker of the switch, he abused me rapped me put a plastic bag over my head tied me up lucky my late father found me in time with 6 week old baby at my side he saved my life but the flash backs comes back the nightmares i rather be happy on my own then be in a relationship my ex destroyed my trust in men, i still getting help the judge made a power of arrest against him for life,i moved area start fresh with my girls and at peace now

[@coreyanderson7424]

I actually started smoking after what I think is, or was abuse. From a Covert Narcissist. At least, that's what I think she is. The rages she would go into, and the passive aggressive stuff got to be too much after a while. And one day, she had done some things again to me, and treated me like crap again, and somehow I was given a cigarette at a gas station to calm my anger. I started smoking sometime after that. Been smoking since. She's gotten worse with age. Abuse is not just physical, for sure.

[@chezza2116]

2 years ago I got away from my abuser... we have a son together... he still controls and belittles me to this day

[@thefighter8884]

Lmfao

[@irraxxa1677]

The fighter 888 bruh-

[@benchapman91]

[@thefighter8884]

@@irraxxa1677 it's attention seeker mate can't u see " we have son " he stills controls me " lmfao

[@westcoast747]

Tell him what a waste of space he is!

[@mazieswift1683]

~ Im 12 years out of an abusive marriage, emotional and physical. This message speaks volume. * please leave * your life is worth So. Much. More. ( Im lucky to be alive )

[@thnkswdsh]

Damn right! Abuse can be found in anything outside physical! As a male I have nothing at my defense, ever, against my childrens mothers threats for up till today... 10 years of mental abuse. Not the police, socialservice or any other agancy has taken no others part than the mothers at start! But the truth comes at the end. But long after!

[@osajohnson1957]

The acting is great! Is this a compulsive disorder. I saw him adjust the remote.

[@benchapman91]

Yh a little bit of compulsiveness from him was part of the plan, the cause of problems here is definitely his issues not hers.

[@zohryakanowah3324]

dont let a man control you,..youre not a puppet

[@thefighter8884]

She shouldn't be smoking

[@terrortower666]

zohrya kanowah And don’t let a woman control you. Anyone should get help in controlling relationships. ANYONE.

[@zohryakanowah3324]

@@terrortower666 sure

[@zohryakanowah3324]

@Nick Nation kind of...but in 1 side,..like in an abusive or controlling relationship,..Sure its both,..in this world, its both. But certainly its the majority of men who control. I dare to say.

[@jerrymorganjr]

Don’t let anyone control you.

[@yeshuarules8154]

In the first 3 minutes, if you are in anything like this. JUST LEAVE. Better to be alone than in this kind of hell.

[@gilgamesh7055]

They start of so charming and perfect, until you feel like your entire world belongs to them. And then something bad or inconvenient happens in their life that makes their mask crack a little, showing you something ugly that you at first decide to let slide, and may continue to let slide if you dont find the strengh you need to Get Out.

[@laremi3577]

Exceptional actors !

[@artmeacademywiththesaltyse9537]

She’s not a person to him, but an appliance. Hat tip ( Hg Tudor)

[@osajohnson1957]

WoW. That is spot on. An Appliance.

[@sabrinay9430]

People like that are insecure, unhappy people. Why would you want to control and abuse someone. What about love? You ever tried loving someone? I feel sad for them really.

[@HFDZ119]

please add subtitles. I don't understand him the way he speaks.

[@veronicawelsh5313]

Brilliant film! Spot on!

[@benchapman91]

Thank you

[@jellybeen88]

My heart breaks 💔 for these Women Who's in this Situation. 😞

[@eyeopeningtruth7518]

Hell, no one should visit. Narisstic man and woman are very polite in the beginning so that a person can trust them. World is full of wolf's under sheeps skin. That s why I love to be single

[@acolley2891]

They will ask your children these questions behind your back. "Did anyone stop by?" " did your mother go anywhere?"

[@DM-hx9ym]

They are such good actors/actress. I'm commenting on this video to get it on KZbin algorithm.

[@ContinuumConceits]

Commenting helps it get to algorithms??

[@benchapman91]

Thank you :)

[@gracecallowayable]

All about control!!!👠👠👠

[@puspasingh9106]

Snake in the grass just leave this type of toxic

[@doctorshell7118]

Reminds me of my ex husband. I kicked him out and divorced him after 6 months. Boy was he pissed.

[@jasonsandifer3250]

These stories very disturbing, This was absolutely terrible and Very difficult to watch I Hope that any Woman and any other person’s experiencing any similar situations and violence Survives and Escapes such terrible circumstances. Men you must keep your cool, Men you must mind your temper, Men breathe, relax, and whatever you are upset about... it is simply not that serious, Men DONT hurt your Lady, Never beat up your Woman, Never beat up your wife, girlfriend, or any woman, that’s NOT is what being a man is. Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man tough... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man strong... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man cool... Beating up a Woman doesn't make a man a man.... Beating a woman is Not masculine Beating Women is NOT sexy Beating Women is NOT manly Using abuse, and force for sexual gratification, intimidation, by harmful behavior for sexual intimacy with someone doesn’t make a man, strong, tough, cool, or, manly. This behavior displays only the absolute weaknesses of the person committing this sort of violence. I believe in the Safety and Well-being Women, Children, and Men WOMEN Have the RIGHT to FEEL SAFE and BE SAFE This is a reply post regarding a article on Assault Against Woman: For what is statistically true, or accurate, and even what is not included statistically, and all other crime such as this is what is ( violence against women) Always unacceptable... Women have the Right to Feel SAFE and be Safe... No woman..., or person....child...should ever have to experience this kind heinous personal intrusion in their lifetime, this seems to be occurring at least according to news reports more, and all to often. Actually this activity should be in a stage, or state of Reversal, and NOT Increasing, I am continually upset as well as greatly disturbed in hearing such stories, as I have always have been... My Heart Always... goes out to any person which have experienced any such similar experience of intrusion, attacks, and, or invasion of their personal well-being... due violence, and or violent behavior, I will continue Praying for the Safety and Well-Being of Others... Keep everyone SAFE PLEASE BE SAFE Your Life is important Advocate of Humanity, Author, Writer, Poet, Safety Advocate Jason Sandifer, Michigan MESSAGE REPOSTED 12/04/2021

[@Squeremy]

What's the difference between an improvised short film and a regular one?

[@msmarks1130]

I didn't understand a word he said.

[@irraxxa1677]

Same tf was he speaking

[@gregarmstrong5951]

Same here, only heard "your paying"

[@vividbinauralbeats2254]

Same

[@ContinuumConceits]

Me too, but the washing machine is going so l will blame the noisy machine , can’t it be quiet when l am watching important things

[@HannahBanana_XO]

😂😂😂🤦‍♀️

[@anonymousone7448]

She was a nervous wreck.Like a cat on a hot tin roof.

[@kimtagliareni]

This is me. Was me. I'm finally saw it for what it was, living separately, in therapy but have yet to divorce....as I try to explain, I guess I'm more in it than I thought. Damnit...this is me.

[@nicky2591]

This is even worse,for the children,and seeing,your farther.beat your.mum and then beat you ,I resent my mum for making us live. That way ,she would leav then go back , because he'd say he's sorry and won't do it again,and she would go back ,the best thing about it as soon as I herd him say it at 5 years old I knew it was a lie ,I knew he didn't love her ,and that he was only using her ,but my mum just kept going back ,he's beat us to,and soon the sexual abuse would start , grooming,.it has ruined my life ,I'm 50 and nothing good has come of me ,all it did was set me up to be used by men when.i.was.older ,and what happens when you stay with a violent man ,you set your daughter up for a life of hell ,not just her childhood,bit her whole life ,you basically destroy her ,and if you have son's and you stay ,you will ruin his life to .if you carnt leave then give them up for adoption.because it's sick ,to live like this ,ho hear those punches going in ,your mum's stomach ,while praying to God in tho kitchen,then seeing her coming running out with her jaw hanging,and blood everywhere being terrified ,and taking 50 years to find out that birds of a feather flock together.im not saying that it's the same for.all.just in my case ,and no man should ever hot or control.a woman .my biggest fear in life is dying,being reincarnated,and having the same parents all over again ,I pray to God that I'm protected from that .maybe I will spit on his grave.Dont program your daughter to go with violent men ,by staying with a violent man ,and don't program your son to be violent,by staying with a man who beats you , because if you do your son will beat you to .thanks mum for showing me ,that I'm a woman that doesn't deserve to be respected,and that I'm worthless,and thanks dad for telling me that men will only want me for one thing ,and they will get bored.as for thinking that victoms of violence and sexual abuse get over it ,they don't ever it stays deep inside haunting them.forever these men don't love they use ,somone to cook ,someone to waght on somone to clean ,to have sex with ,and they will never be faiful ,but will acuse you iv heard it Sean it 7 violent relationships, now single ABIT lait now at 50 ,and to truly,not know what it is like to be loved ,when they say sorry ,they won't do it again,it will happen again,it will never stop ,it gets worse, because I'm a sense they are testing you ,praying on you ,youl end up with no self esteem,think was your farther violent, because,we often go for men like our fathers ,how messed up is that

[@sharonbell8895]

I seize to care how someone feels when threatened by the fact I am in control how I feel

[@eg1197]

Could you CC this?

[@jacqui1101]

I second that!

[@AxelAxe]

What city did you guys shoot the film?

[@benchapman91]

Birmingham UK

[@fetishisticrose]

This needs to be broadcast. Truly helpful. Please heed to these and all warning signs.

[@tamikagamble3408]

I would've put something in that tea that would've either knocked his ass out cold or kept him running to the damn bathroom. Abuse is NOT ok. 😡😡😡

[@carolynmirra5634]

Why can’t you hear them talking?

[@jacquelynpowell7964]

Who tells these men that their wives should be submissive? Their parents? Their clergy? Whoever it is is sick!

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

I can feel that.😢

[@thomasswenson6549]

Can you make a few videos where the woman is the abuser?

[@TracyVanBrocklin]

Ive thought of it differently recently. I only have this much time left on ny hourglass. I KNOW lots of people would bid high at that auction, so WHY am i giving it away for free? Chasing the garage truck?!

[@Whowhodatdat]

I've been in two abusive relationships...fun fact...they weren't charming at all...from the first day the were like that 😵‍💫🥴 why tf did I continue being with them...the one though wasn't control freak but it doesn't matter, he hit cats and people outside every time he went out bc he couldn't stand specific people like drunks, drug addicts etc...he went alone into medication etc...i am not saying though, I'm a difficult person as well to deal with... I have anger issues and AuDhd and I'm suuuuuper weird to routines and lifestyle.... the first abusive relationship though was completely different, again though showed his true colours first day, but I always give chances...he wouldn't let me go, and the reason he eventually did, was because he said I brought him bad luck and that he had accidents and failure bc of me 🥴🥴🥴🥴😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@brittjuh729]

In this right now, but now only just for 48 hours😢

[@coolallycat76]

is that Darren Day?

[@benchapman91]

No the actor is Stuart goodwin

[@keeleymj9836]

what is the name of the background music? X

[@nabirahbukhari]

👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼

[@dotpeat1372]

I can't even comprehend this. Why staying in close proximity of such a prick. There are loads of good guys; I feel embarrassed by his behavior. An open society has much more to offer! Escape & exp!ore!!!! Independent what gender you are. Respect, the basis, if not GO!

[@ContinuumConceits]

He is playing big boss, very unpleasant behaviour the actor portrays! Horror to being talked to like we are bloody 5 year olds! Never again!

[@noemiareis1121]

Hugly inside and outside

[@deajahjohnson8408]

Ok 👌🏽 t,open to at o,yin or the morning running 🏃‍♀️ is a new ❤️🧡

[@sabah4123]

Jesus God Almighty controls, not us. 🤷‍♀️🇦🇺

[@Rose-dl6xg]

Creepy Man!!! And it should be against the law!!!!!!

[@suebotchie4167]

She is smoking because???

[@sarahzepeto8886]

Yeah

[@janedoe6071]

All these videos like this on KZbin don't show things how they get way worse.all these relationship not one shows without physical abuse.non of these share 4my

[@benchapman91]

The idea was to focus on the emotional/control aspects to leave the physical side unknown - hinted at not explicitly shown. Also because the physical side is rarely all of it - it starts with controlling behaviour

[@janedoe6071]

@@benchapman91 im just confused because everything I've watched physical abuse is involved.yelling is involved.situation Iknow is the person has never even yelled ONCE.in 10yrs.he doesn't get mad.we all get mad.but to never hear a person yell.or get into it with ppl.so its hard 2truly understand any these because not a single one is like that.trust me I know emotional bs.nobody story is less than the next person.idont mean that.imsorry. ❤..4me tho.theres alot ididnt see happen.iwonder if ppl even know in hands of someone with no consious how deep&dark this stuff gets.REAL LIFE storys told by ppl.all these short films..there so simple..would love to see sumn just beyond the same stuff.cuz it gets way more sinister&crazy insane than anything I've seen so far..add ppl everywhere helping that person..it def gets crazier than a movie.hope u see this b4 I delete it.just incase..👀

[@benchapman91]

@@janedoe6071 yeah I mean in an only 12/13 min piece shot in one day I knew couldn't fully encapsulate the whole issue, was trying to focus on one side. Also iv seen quite a few films that contain domestic violence and (not naming names) I think some of them don't approach it very well, I think sometimes people have a (accurate but far too simplistic) view of domestic abuse - if someone hits you leave and walk out the door. An understanding of the emotional manipulation the threat of violence that side of thing, was more what going here - everyone can have a different view of where/what happens (after the end of film and outside of what we see on camera) between the two of them. I am writing a longer project (and have been for about 3 years) which looks at domestic abuse in greater detail than this - including at physical violence.

[@insanebabyskyinsane9642]

You crazy 😜 lol 😂

[@izukumidoria8644]

Is anyone like me I'm submissive and would like a tiny bit of control in a boyfriend but not in a bad way

[@ContinuumConceits]

What about reversing the roles, would you like that? Or do you not feel worthy to be the superior one? It is one thing accepting to be subservient, but when it can’t be reciprocated because the person doesn’t trust you, there is a problem :)

[@lizardme88]

Women are better off alone

[@ellienaeem3515]

Think of why someone is manipulative or controlling though they could of had a rough childhood... it isn’t their fault they just want to be understood and not get hurt again

[@jenniferhampton5171]

They must learn to get their needs met as an adult without abusing, harming and torturing others. No excuses.

[@lupusinfabulaaa]

Oh my

[@wisdomknowledgelover6293]

They have no right to hurt someone else...

[@westcoast747]

Controlling behaviour is learnt behaviour, which is damaging and toxic. It needs to be unlearnt.

[@treegirl3770]

Hmmmmmmmmmm... interesting. Ellie Naeem

[@AN-lm6bs]

This woman should be abused - for her bad acting. Relax… it’s a joke! Remember those?

[@julietcrowson3503]

I've seen much worse in real life ...

[@kleinhocico9915]

Is she unemployed? She should start getting a job and become more independent.

[@julieverelst1685]

People like you are the reason women like her are in these kind of situations!!! Work, work, work!! If you didn't use this as a tool to control in the first place!!! Oh sorry I forgot abusive men need these tools because otherwise they would be single but then have the cheek to turn it on women and say using them for their money!!!! I was saved by Our Lord and saviour Jesus Christ. Who opened my eyes and just so you know all things belong to God and are thanks to God. Maybe before you comment on what someone should do you should think about what should be done to stop and prevent this. Have a beautiful day and may God open your heart 🙏❤️

[@elizabethbennet4791]

Horrible to be this pathetic and dependent. Why?

[@clairebearie87]

She's trying hard not to laugh in parts

[@shabdizfilmproduction2821]

Poetry seller Award winning Iranian short film Afghan refugee boy sells poetry in a park, bringing joy and love to others and the woman protests against the forced headscarf . پسر پناهنده افغان در پارکی شعر میفروشد و برای دیگران شادی و عشق می آوردو اعتراض زن به روسری اجباری kzbin.info/www/bejne/m3W4lZd8asqKjqs

[@amandalidey329]

I really wish they had films like this out 10+yrs ago. So sad. ❤️‍🩹 She's too pretty for him anyways. He looks like a lowlife just by the way he's presenting himself so far.

[@williamj.dovejr.8613]

Don't let anyone control you.. whether it's a man or a woman. Get away from them.

[@MiriamHernandez-cv7em]

I’m working on that at the moment ,I’m tired of crying and it’s draining me 😢

[@melodieperkins7080]

@@MiriamHernandez-cv7em it takes time be patient with yourself. Take each day step by step, your safety is important not what others think they don't live the nightmare

[@pfb74]

​​@@MiriamHernandez-cv7emou will break free. I believe in you. Be safe please and take care of yourself.

[@jonathanlemonwrestlingshow9251]

Controlling is wrong 😑

[@SublimeLullaby]

You could almost feel the thick repellant energy when he sat down next to her

[@ingacrosby1554]

As soon as he walked in the door, he looked like he was going to start some shit. She should have taken that boiling water, & threw at him & ran like hell out the door.

[@redriddinhood9778]

That' s something we all say... me too. But, easy to say and hard to do

[@trishd.405]

People who abuse you like this think you are their property. In their minds, they own you.... But, you are NOT their property !!!! My niece was in a relationship with a man who abused her in every way. We didn't know it because she was afraid to tell anyone. When she finally did she had to run away in the middle of the night a asked a couple at a gas station to help hide her. Thank God they were good people and they helped her. They got her to the airport and someone in our family supplied a ticket for her to get back home. He had taken her far away. She escaped him !!!! He searched for and threatened her until he overdosed on drugs one day. Now, at least she is safe from him. If you are being abused, run and go to a church or somewhere safe !! 🙏🙏🙏

[@blitzkrieg6872]

This just made me so happy to read and hear that your niece got away from him!

[@pollytheparrot8929]

Oh god.. Thank god she escaped.. God bless❤🙏

[@tnpfocusgroup7252]

Going to Church is the best place to run Great advice

[@tnpfocusgroup7252]

Very thought provoking glad to see your niece fought to stay alive

[@ginasverige2570]

❤❤❤

[@rosiesingleton6480]

My husband was a knight in shinning armor in the beginning. Then slowing his true colors came out. He was a wolf in sheep’s clothing. A super control freak. Taking my keys, phone, even my wedding ring. He had to see what clothes I laid out to wear to the next morning. Then the verbal abuse followed by pushing, head butting - I had bruising. Came home from work one afternoon & found him dead in our bedroom from a massive heart attack. I truly believe I would have been dead if our marriage lasted longer.

[@amandalidey329]

Oh I can relate. How about as soon as u walk in the door, they wanna grab your purse & go thru it, looking at receipts & what's on those receipts. That's another one I forgot about.

[@rosiesingleton6480]

@@amandalidey329 totally disgusting & so insecure - major losers. Love is blind is an understatement.

[@amandalidey329]

@@rosiesingleton6480 Yes

[@FallenSummer84]

I'm really sorry to hear this. Leaves emotional scars. That's so scary and I'm sorry you had to find him passed away but I'm glad you also don't have to endure that anymore... I hope you have found a life partner who is your true match. My ex spouse never physically abused me. However, he kept me isolated and controlled who I could talk to and when I could go out, taking both sets of car keys. He verbally abused me, mentally abused me. He also controlled my clothing (underwear especially) and would accuse me of physically cheating and made me share my location on my phone.

[@amandalidey329]

@@FallenSummer84 So sorry u had to go thru that. If they only knew how it felt then maybe these men wouldn't act like this or treat the ones they care about like this.

[@ingacrosby2013]

You could tell she was scared of him.

[@chrissymarsha2282]

That was me

[@Squab1972]

Inga Crosby walking on eggshells that is a sign of coercive control.

[@HareshBakshi]

and the fake smile on her face...trying to hide her fear and unpleasant feeling about him that would bring more tears and torture to her if she let that be seen

[@westcoast747]

If someone gives you the creeps, be nice but get rid of them. This is for any kind of relationship, friendship, co workers, friends etc.

[@redbone8844]

Great advice I always say it goes for everyone

[@GodsPrincess4eva]

But sometimes that person being nice gets attacked by the person they are being nice to. It’s not an option depending on the situation.

[@artmeacademywiththesaltyse9537]

She’s reflecting on the golden era. Wanting that initial love bombing. It’ll never return, he loves the control.

[@jodifloria6647]

This is my life .. only my husband insults me as he comes in and finds fault in everything.. nothing I do is good .. and I told him many times to leave my apt . He won't pay for anything except things for himself. He calls me names but I'm thick skinned and he will not wear me down ..

[@mariancounsellor]

Have you considered getting a divorce from him? It’s not just about wearing you down but what about having a good quality of life?

[@jodifloria6647]

@@mariancounsellor I have divorced . Just waiting the decree from judge .

[@rainrowan4939]

One day my ex came stopping into the summer house where I had being sleeping saying I couldn't live here anymore. Panicky I asked why what have I done now. He said he had heard on the radio that they were making verbal and emotional abuse illegal so I had to go. Which is weird as he thought he was the best person ever. But he then said I can't have you lying about me. But it's almost like for the first time he had admitted what he was doing.

[@benchapman91]

so sorry to hear of your struggle, i hope your situation improves soon. emotional/verbal abuse deserves to be illegal, to my knowledge tends to build very slowly, and often if people remain in the relationship builds into physical, financial, and or sexual abuse over time. 'Get out while you can' but that's very unnuanced advice which doesn't show the complexity of how to deal with being in love with someone that abuses you. again, i hope your situation improves soon

[@rainrowan4939]

@@benchapman91 thanks very much. I left two years ago as soon as my daughter went to uni. I have a more peaceful life but do have flash backs.

[@farahsummers1171]

You probably have PTSD Rain! ♡♡ (speaking from experience.) I haven't been able to access them yet sadly but I hear CBT & EMDR are both really helpful. Much love. x

[@Halpin2006]

You have some great cinematography in this short film. Very suggestive.

[@LetMeThink007]

I would really like if some of these videos also show men as victims of domestic violence. As a therapist, I have had male clients who were abused, controlled, etc., by their female partners. Fundamentally, we are all the same. Domestic violence is genderless, so to speak. I do however, know and appreciate that the majority of perpetrators are male.

[@beckyjade3677]

Yes and let's just say some of the men are very good at manipulating to turn the woman into a psycho and abuser by the secret behaviour and they are so cunning and charming they fool the therapists. My dad is one and they are unbelievable

[@LetMeThink007]

@@beckyjade3677 anyone can be fooled for a little while

[@LetMeThink007]

@@ellemorgan1331 I’m truly sorry for your experience. Wishing you all the best for the future. Hugs

[@elizabethsieling6664]

Quite true. My husband's ex pushed him down a flight of stairs, punched him in the eye and he cant see well out of it plus broke his phone.

[@tamiewert808]

Stats prove most spousal abuse is perpetrated by the male. By a lot! And men are larger and can inflict more damage generally speaking.

[@m.ggonzalez925]

Do not allow your partner to manipulate and control you because it makes your life miserable. A good relationship should be balanced. Leave them when you detect their narcissistic behavior earlier in your relationship because someday you will be their prisoner.

[@lovehope8092]

Some are just too cold to be warmed by another's love. Wishing all who are still healing... peace, rest, and calming companionship 💚

[@redwoods7370]

Women in the West get strong and get good educations so you can make your own money and take care of yourself and your children. I know this is simplistic but it worked for me and has worked for others. Harder for women in Eastern cultures but not impossible.

[@dominiquethomas7933]

You know after the man hits the girl he says sorry

[@EternalIrisLimited]

for sure. iv got a script im working on on domestic abuse (this was unscripted) and it basically ends on the apology.