Eva ON her son being at Sterkfontein Psychiatric Hospital , mental issues and parenting

[@boipelokuju6704]

One can only get this information from here... my no 1 podcaster. Thanks Promise & bigger thanks to mum Eva. This is what parents need to hear.

[@2manyofus333]

My daughter is 23 doesn't drink doesn't smoke, was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a year ago. Its been a journey. I'm a single parent and its just the 2 of us in the house. its tough living with her, whenever her psychosis triggers i call the police. her psychiatrist told me her mental illness was triggered by my moms passing, she was very close with her grandmother after viewing her body she was never the same. she gradually started to act out of character, until she had an episode that left me in disbelief. Thank you for the guests I'm not alone. wish i was as strong as her.

[@lovelerato1]

I am so sorry. I hope you have a support system. A place for you to talk when it gets too much.

[@SipheleleMazibuko-k7z]

She looks too beautiful for her age and all the life adversities happened😮❤. Haibo waze wamuhle loMama 🙌🏼. She’s aging gracefully. God’s peace is upon her.

[@mamotebangevasegoe4171]

Ngiyabonga. It's good genes, nothing else❤

[@tumi2610]

Mom of a 8 year old boy. And you brought me to tears when you spoke about the shouting, because I've also become that mom and my son keeps reminding me that I don't always have to shout. It breaks my heart to hear that my shouting could be doing more harm than Good. Thank you Promise I think alot of us needed to hear this, and hope it helps us so better❤

[@Princess_Lehlohonolo]

Ai tumi every kid is different. My mom shouted,strict,beat me up that method of parenting made me not to fetch adolescent and to stay away from bad Influence. Nou I have a 4year old I shout at him,because that what I know I don't know a different way of parenting

[@tumi2610]

@@Princess_Lehlohonolotrue I totally agree though it's really tricky. I guess I still belive the old way works, however like any system it has its flaws. Kids definitely do need to be reprimanded but from what I got from this conversation is not to be your child's enemy, not to shout even when it's not necessary, sometimes a conversation is enough and maybe sometimes the shouting is also necessary

[@beniesmatsetse2202]

Shouting at a child is very dangerous believe me

[@lynnemtare-ro4oz]

Me too am thinking of sitting down today with my daughter and talk and apologise

[@tumi2610]

@@lynnemtare-ro4oz I highly recommend ❤️

[@mindretirementinstitute5546]

Thank you, Mama Eva, for acknowledging the coaching services we provided. We're delighted that Coach Puseletso Modimogale had such a significant impact on your life. We're excited that our journey with you continues and look forward to supporting other parents facing similar emotional challenges and self-neglect.

[@nomsambele7148]

As a mommy of two boys under 4 WOW I needed to hear this and I will always need to hear this truly we need to work on ourselves as women and really take time to ourselves to regroup. "The work is hard but you have to be willing"

[@katlegophalatse2749]

These teachings are top tier.

[@PanaNorBobo]

This is the best episode........mental illness is real and a lot of people are either ignorant or uninformed. We need to work together for our youth.

[@esmert1622]

I learnt a lot from this loving mom❤️, God bless you mama Eva

[@sibongilenkwana8835]

Promise, please invite one life coach to give us crash course on how to improve ourselves as parents...

[@tumi2610]

Mama Eva must come back to tell is how she managed to get through the years of what sounds like a beautiful marriage. She sounds like she has some gems to share on building a healthy marriage

[@Mosima_Moloto]

Thank you so much for having mama Eva. I’ve learnt a lot 😇🙏

[@reabecoethabane5059]

This podcast is the best I’ve ever listened to. It really spoke to me. Thank you Mme Eva Sego, you opened my eyes.🌸🌸🌸

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

Mme Eva understands how and when anxiety starts. I wish more parents knew about this. She really understands the root cause of mental issues.

[@MapulaRamokgopa]

Healing the Mother wound... What a deep meaning. Thank you for this episode.

[@gidelamkwanazi]

Ausi Eva strength my sister and thank you for being a voice of reason to many mothers out there 💞

[@tumeloangelthai7953]

You've come a long way siswam. We're all so proud of you... Can't wait to hear you narrate the story to the world. For Kay and others!🎉

[@sisg.official]

This channel keeps bringing value content. Big ups Promise

[@QueenOfSheba_]

I know aus'Eva from church. My heart breaks for her and her son. May God be with you my sister...

[@elizabethpuling]

Hi Queen can you please get me Eva's support group number❤

[@vuyokazimtwecu9896]

Parenthood is tough, we are dealing with different demons attacking our kids

[@lebogangsebopa5471]

I never comment on the channel, I normally and like🙈 but this has been by far one of the most powerful interviews I have watched❤ it made me introspect and reflect...what an eye opener, I think to most of us mothers. Thank you mama Eva🙏 may your beautiful work grow to leaps and bounds as you try and rebuild broken generations❣️

[@nasutunjekwa707]

I hope sis promise reads most comments. I normally watch her podcasts but today I have subscribed. Your podcasts are always informative and educational.

[@mbalixalisa5975]

Thank you this session was fruitful and I have learned a lot as a mother

[@JenniferN55]

I needed to see this as a mother of a 2 year old. Its not easy but this kids are our reason for breathing, our everything. Let's do better, I'll start now.

[@qaqambafuzile5967]

She's so beautiful, thank you for the experience and wisdom mama

[@nondumisobhila6887]

Thank you for this interview, I have learnt a lot as a young mom and definitely looking at parenting in a totally different way❤

[@solomonoupamakola]

You are correct; life is about choices (decisions). However, we must do our best to ensure that the conditions in our children's environment are accommodating. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us.

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

This topic is triggering! The drugs were sent to destroy generations. Thanks Promise for bringing this Mbokodo. I think she needs to be a regular guest. Lots of wisdom! Thoroughly enjoying this conversation.

[@lifewithvivy]

Ae Promise u delivered maan...thank u so much yoh we need to work on ourselves as mothers...❤

[@monwabisiguwa1487]

God bless you mama Eva🙏🏿❤️ We need more insighful and informative content like this. This is the content that will help families in similar situations.

[@sylviamodise3887]

What you are touching on is so true. I am a 40 year old woman, I suffer from Bipolar Mood Disorder, I got diagnosed when I was 17 years old. As a child, I was surrounded by people who would shout at you for anything and everything. I would get frustrated by this and cry and when I cried they would shout some more. As a result I felt unheard and learnt that crying was bad. I still don’t like people who raise their voice at me, I also struggle and feel easily intimidated when people push me to act or respond quickly. It has taken me a long time to figure out what brought on my mental issues but I am managing it very well using meds and therapy.

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

Well Done! Keep going!

[@sharoonlungilehlatshwayo9598]

Promise I love you more my dear.... this is soooo powerful❤❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing mommy... I respect you a lot. Love from Eswatini 🇸🇿

[@noxolosakang6547]

Oh, the love of a mother , of a parent, you hear it how she say, "we didn't want him to have our blood in his hands". This reminds me of the love of God to us who are imperfect and very sinful. Be strong and courageous mama Eva, ❤️ is and many hugs from me.

[@nomsachironda9624]

Thank you for this eye opening show 2dae I'm definitely going to stop shouting at my baby girl starting from 2day I promise my behavior really need to improve for my daughter's future...💯🙏

[@bobogona]

The idea is not to adress the issue when you are annoyed give yourself and the child time to calm down then sit them down also explain how him/her behaviour made you feel believe me kids are clever once you have a conversation with them they understand and the outcome is more positive for both of you.

[@mamakariba]

Your son is so blessed to have you MMA Eva ❤ you look so beautiful and you carry so much strength 😊

[@xikombisonukeri455]

Thank you so much 😢 I really appreciate this podcast

[@ChannelleSwartz]

Yoh this story cuts very deep. As kids we are afraid to speak up about our silent battles. Then what is next is torture when having to numb the pains of having to deal with the "voices inside our minds" May God intervene and mend our homes so parents can hear kids out to speak freely and kids allow parents to speak openly about trauma's they have or need to deal with

[@mahlakomnisi5156]

Jooo, guys, I am 50 yes old. I am told I do gentle parenting. My mom, daddy, granny, never gave me a hiding, never screemed at me. I do the same and am so disciplined. I brought all my grannies goats being a her girl, never repeated a school shirt, clean clean, I got my degrees on time, I had kids at 30. Am no perfect but yep, gentle parenting it is.

[@Winterflowers1]

How are the kids behaving coz this may mean that we need to adopt this parenting style for our kids to be well balanced individuals

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

I also do gentle parenting. My 8 year old is my best friend.

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

Women are trying to keep these men at home by doing everything. Breadwinning, Baby Making, Home Keeping...they are exhausted, overspent and under appreciated. The MOST important job is to be at home with the kids, leaving your home everyday to go work while you have growing kids is such a risk as you miss all flags your kids show you.

[@YolandaBuka]

Wow. I really had hoped one day that I would hear from the other side you know, from the parents side and to know how it is that they see and understand the issue of "troublesome" children. Thank you.

[@thetruthkeepsus]

This has really touched me. ❤ from Namibia 🇳🇦

[@BossLady-w2g]

May the good Lord help us as we parent, I can't do this journey without God🥺 I need him to intervene daily

[@tshenololydia7994]

Parents really go through alot . I remember how my mom went through this with my sister until she passed away. But God sees everything, things will be fine. He will never leave us nor forsake . He will indeed strengthen us. God comforts ♥️

[@ckngivdtb37910]

This episode just made me realise I need to go to therapy to deal with the childhood wounds inflicted by my mother. I will still keep my distance from her for my sanity. She definitely lost a caretaker in her old age, she will feel how I felt.

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

❤️‍🩹 I hope you can fix things cause you will need her one day.

[@phats_more]

I am sorry about your pain. Consider praying to God to ask Him to help you forgive your Mother. Healing isnt easy but its possible. May God give you strength.

[@mamotebangevasegoe4171]

My Mom is currently with me. She is not well, I am doing the best I can with what I have. The battle is truly not mine, but God's. She never validated me, she still does not approve of what I do. I choose to do me. With God being my help. I love her and I pray for her to be happy and content. I keep the faith.

[@rosehlatshwayo7238]

Thank you darling for coming to the show, we’ve learned a lot from you today we wish you all the best with your son hung in the God won’t live you to go through this on your own stay strong. Lots of love all the way 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@beloved-mn2lw]

childhood traumas are real. My mom used to smack and give silent treatment even a week. and now im doing it to my husband, also shouting at kids. May God help us

[@AFitHealer]

I wish promise can invite me on this podcast to share my experience with working with drug addicts, am 23 years old, I am a traditional healer and my rehab is the first of its own in the country. When we help substance users we do it holistically knowing very that substances triggers a lot, physiological, neurologically, and the biological make up contributes to our youth resorting to drugs.

[@mahlogonolophokanoka7183]

Why not email her?

[@tshwarilekabe9150]

Love you mamane, im so proud of you ♥

[@elizabethpuling]

Hi dear, can I please have Eva's support group number. I have a super intelligent nephew who's doing exactly what Eva just narrated. It's a sad situation indeed😢

[@tshwarilekabe9150]

@@elizabethpuling Hi, please go to the end of the video she shares her details there

[@ThandiweSibuyana]

Thank you for this podcast…learnt a lot as a future parent 🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@Ngunikaz]

May the Lord help this mother , mothers are the best thing

[@katlehorapeana7589]

Beautiful interview 🙏🙏Rea leboga ❤❤

[@Mgozi101]

Every child has 3 "lives" one they live at home, one at school and one they have with friends outside school and home. Usually they are very different from each other.

[@mamelisa.official]

Aibo waze wa open minded Mzali...thanks for trying❤

[@reginamarou7825]

What a powerful episode ❤️May The Good Lord Be With You and Your Family Mama Eva.. Sis Promise and Ma Eva you guys look so beautiful ❤️ 💕

[@mashudumikosi3272]

Wow Mom Eva I love you. God bless you. I really learned a lot from this podcast. I could heat that Promise also learned hey. This was great I must say. I commend your life couch, she's doing a great job❤

[@neokedijang2770]

I loved this episode most Mothers can relate to this

[@Kgomzaza]

Wow!!! I really learned a lot from this episode . Thank you... 😊

[@patienceikombele9161]

Shouting is bad. My daughter gave me silent treatment for a week, and I was dying inside. I missed her. I will never again.

[@LesediBaleseng]

How old is she?

[@zandile6544]

Mental illness is real. I'm single parent raising a daughter who has mental illness and I've done everything to help her. In my case my daughter is the one shouting, fighting me,goes for weeks even months without speaking to me, Her cup is never full. I've done my best to help her. At this point I think I'm the one who needs assistance to heal the pain that she causes me

[@bethhlongwane1808]

I'm so sorry to hear that, my sister is also the same .

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

Goodluck to the both of you. I’m rooting for your relationship as mom and daughter- the strongest bond!

[@sindiswanyandana1423]

Mam Eva's story is the same as mine, son in drags & didn't found out later that he has mental illness, also went to jail because of violent & currently for the past 4yrs he overdose on drugs & his in the vegetable state & his brother passed away during that time, I don't know how to grieve for the older son 😢😢

[@sulezinyembezigqeba]

Ohw what a beautiful episode 🤍

[@bethhlongwane1808]

I love both ur calm and patience demeanor ❤

[@MphoRatiro]

I personally don't mind indoor vlogs as long as i get to see you nje ka itumela ❤❤

[@chilotaoliver6067]

One thing i loved here is that for once we have a narrative is of a good man. If possible mama needs to also address her son's matter spiritually since she says the other child was diagnosed with ADHD at 2 - this highlights that its not just her having bleed her own wounds on her son

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

I love it too. I’m glad the boy has a loving gentle father in the home. He’s luckier than most kids.

[@leratomathenjwaeducation]

Thank you mama Eva, God has our back. I am so proud you started a support group. I will touch base.🙏

[@QueenDee1207]

I need guidance bcs I am that mom who always shout.i don't even know where I got that bcs mom would shout bt it never affected me bcs I am a very 4giving human n don't hold hurts to heart. I just don't wanna shout bcs can't hold it .yho I shout bathung and a minute or when I'm the middle of shouting I know that I am wrong n it hurts .😢

[@QueenShaz-oc3qg]

I made a decision many years ago, in my teen years that i do not want kids, i had observed the suffering that is in this world, i later changed my mind, in my 40s, but now i am not certain any more, Mama be comforted, the Lord is your strength.

[@sibongilenkwana8835]

When is it Mental illness and When is it Witchcraft/Demonic activity? Where do we draw the line between the two?

[@sylviamodise3887]

Please get a medical diagnosis. In everything or anything we do, we ask God to lead us or our ancestors depending what we believe in. Whether the problem is medical or not, we ask or seek spiritual intervention.

[@kgathomamakoko9990]

Am grateful ❤❤❤

[@kelebogilemabye3825]

I believe in montessori curriculum. It teaches independence and great life skills

[@MadamTMT]

As always; morwedi wa Maipushe never disappoint ❤❤❤.

[@NoxYekela]

I'm so touched by this 😢 thank you... Where can we follow Ma Eva?

[@bojangmekgwe3205]

Beautiful content ❤❤

[@mphomotaung9095]

The default settings!!!!! 🙌🏾

[@UnathiKenene]

I hear and feel you.Dont blame yourself. There is no formula or school for parenting. Let's ask for God wisdom.

[@mmatladirenoldahshoba8546]

Listening to this as a mother am so worried cz sometimes I really don't know where it went wrong ...my son will be turning 39 in September and am telling you he started this drug issue I thinks since 19yrs after completing matric with flying colours ...I tried it all still there no change as am speaking to you right now he is in prison for stealing...he is my only son...I really need help n am started to loose focus cz now I have him a lot I always shouting at him bcz I can see gore am trying to do things for him but he always goes back to his old ways....there's a lot I think he was brought up from this family am married to...his step dad doesn't wanna hear anything ngaye😊 am worried kuthi if I die akanje they gonna throw him away I dnt know what to do anymore

[@xhosakoloni4716]

Why he went to jail please asked for more info.

[@mamotebangevasegoe4171]

We ended up getting him arrested because he had badly assaulted a second member in the house. It was a cry for help.

[@NeoModiadia]

Yooo thanks promise for dis episode yooo m a mother of 3 Nd I shout too much I sometimes break down Nd cry coz f the fear in their eyes it ends today

[@Lorena711]

Promise you swapped chairs with the guest my compulsive obsessiveness keeps wanting to place you on the other chair where I am used to see you seated 😂😂 Parenting is such an extreme sport. Strength to you Mom Eva and every other parent out there. We are all doing our best.❤

[@CremeDeLaCreme01]

Same😂

[@NEOTSHETLHANE]

Thank u so much i really learned a lot Mom Eva ❤ Mommy i heard u mentioning dat ur baby girl was diagnosed with ADHD...what was de solution?

[@bobogona]

There is no solution for ADHD but the Dr’s can prescribe pills for the person to be able to cope with day to day life.

[@NEOTSHETLHANE]

@@bobogona thank u so much ratolaaka, ll definitely take my son 2 de doctor as at school dey suspect it might be

[@jaydenmalatji]

Please take him to a child psychologist first for an assessment first.

[@bobogona]

@@NEOTSHETLHANE You are welcome,he needs to be assessed first but bear in mind that it won’t be confirmed on the first assessment it is a process and goodluck hang in there🫂

[@Lesego-gn2yc]

Being a mother requires grace! Bleeding onto people who weren't responsible for hurting you...😭 Being forced to keep peace at the expense of your mental health is tough! I need Puseletso in my life!

[@nnnsandra]

But I also think that mothers are blamed enough for many things let’s not add to the blame.

[@Miss_Sir2]

Exactly!! Haybo it’s too much

[@mamolewamodiba9159]

I was raised by an angry parent who doesn’t explain to us why he’s angry or who made him angry. I am trying my level best to raise my son different to how I was raised. Whenever I shout at him I would apologize. The shouting obviously comes from the angry parent who raised me and would not apologize whenever he breaks my heart.

[@katethagane]

I had the same problem with my son sending him to jail

[@nthatijermina926]

Yooooh am not a mom yet but it's my wish to be...we learning alot here promise wow I can't miss anything

[@Marthashiningstar]

Not easy to b a mom and some ppl will come here and say that's how u raise kids,u spoiling children,wait till urs is showing u flames dear

[@NkamohelengLebakeng]

58:30 Promise wasn't concentrating, she was sleepy

[@nompumelelobuthelezi7949]

I feel bad watching this podcast,i am a loving parent but i shout and beat my kids and i have realized that they have also picked up my habits it kills me

[@Ladyfavoured]

Growing up my mother was the type to shout for hours, saying painful things that i still carry of today. As an adult I despise it when someone raises their voice at me. I dont like it when people speak too loud.

[@gloriamaholwana2986]

Fatherless

[@nosiphoradebe6297]

The father was present. Perfect 2 parent home. Kid still turned out troubled.

[@busisiweisaacs5835]

​@@nosiphoradebe6297We are hearing the mothers side of the story...only after hearing the kid narrate his story it will be determined if the parenting was good or not...children are individuals, they need attention individually fully...exactly like n a romantic relationship...

[@JackieNtwayagae]

She didn't say anything about the father

[@lindatafeni9402]

This was a profound insight/instalment 🫶 I’ve learnt a lot about myself and the importance of looking at myself first ❤️ bravo Promise 👊 this lady spoke so well and a good teacher “emotionally I’m touched..