Married at 22 Divorced at 24|To think my husband was a Preacher and Psychologist|Shocking Behaviour

[@ivanmalangadayz1713]

Abuse starts with verbal - emotional and then physical. Be careful, once s/he starts throwing strong words and swearing, run away and never look back.

[@QueenShaz-oc3qg]

a point of a finger is also part of the beginning

[@thalithamngomezulu457]

I love that warning It is not going to stop. It is gonna get worse and worse

[@thalithamngomezulu457]

Yes yes very Tue.sister

[@mankwanamoabelo4032]

Very very very true😢

[@xolekagxulu5405]

True🤞

[@vinolialindt5234]

She’s is well spoken, educated and has nice teeth. Love you girl❤

[@ScissorN]

Narcissists hates being given the silent treatment , it cripples them to the core . Thats the only time they feel out of control and they hate being out of control

[@sybillamula]

He loved you when you were helpless and dependent on him and the minute you started making something of yourself, he was intimidated😢

[@Vv-fl2rm]

Jen ever loved her. It was about his ego and the boost he got from her dependency and innocence. A man who abuses and mistreats you later has never loved you.

[@indolilyindomitablelily7306]

That's a narcissist

[@YouTuber11111]

I haven’t watched this yet and I’m about to, but I just want to point out that the twins look STUNNING hunnay! I love that you guys enjoy matching and looking gorgeous together! 💕 Looking forward to hearing this! 🤍

[@madamt4714]

I can relate, so proud of you for sharing your story it will indeed help other women who are going through abuse

[@JASMINE-F-A]

May we never marry our enemies .

[@sinethembamkhwanazi2724]

I sometimes feel that those who are challenged the most God has a plan for you and knows that you'll come to him in good time and with what ever you face that will someday save his people❤.

[@Sibumagazine]

I don't think he was the enemy, he married a broken guy 😢 May God heal that guy...I know the feeling of being raised in an abusive household takes God's grace to be delivered

[@christianaffirmations5639]

Thank you for getting into the story and not delaying on the video. Well edited as well. The lighting is a bit dark though.

[@rachelrangongo5622]

One of my favorite girls in the world. You such a survivor and an inspiration Vee

[@veniceditshego3602]

I love you ❤

[@elishadung797]

Keep it up twins! Good work. I m also having fraternal twins a boy and a girl. Thank you. May the Good Lord strengthen you guys.

[@DR_Zandipetronella]

This is a heartbreaking story. Last night as I was sleeping I had a dream and a Pastor was abusing his wife and he said it proudly to my face on that dream and I got angry and left immediately.And today I come across this video.I pray for all women to gain strength and leave any space that has any form of abuse.

[@mathapelongwenya864]

I opened up to One of the elders at our church when I was in an abusive marriage, he told me that one day as I was passing him to greet after church God told him that " this lady is abused by the husband" but he overlooked it bcos the husband was a pastor and looking all humble and innocent in the public

[@spm9130]

When you separate from a narcissist, it's not easy to fall in love easily with men. It takes time, and honestly you need to heal and rebuild your self-esteem and grow as a person.

[@mathapelongwenya864]

True it took me 4 years to heal, luckily God sent me strangers who were so relaxed and funny always joking.... I learned to laugh again n to be happy instead of being fearful. But what I love now that I am ready to love again is I see nonsense from a distance and stop it right there. I am rewriting my book of life with love and wisdom

[@sunshinezee4438]

Whether a person is Christian or not ~ Hurt people, hurt (other) people! We must learn to heal from our past traumas. ❤️‍🩹

[@rajahsulaiman3023]

She's a strong woman,

[@rajahsulaiman3023]

How will I be able to meet with her?

[@zamambhele242]

Very true,

[@tendanipelaelo6293]

Easier said than done though

[@Galiemelato]

Narcissists don't know what love is, he never loved you from the beginning🥹. All they do is love bombing. so sorry you had to go through all that.

[@Geegee-r1n]

Yes he never loved her ,thanks for the comment. Even before the marriage he had issues with who she was as a person,from her career to her strengths.There was never love there ,just someone trying to change and control her. she was young,he had money,there was power imbalance and she thought it was love!

[@avelakhoza6140]

Yep so true, they love bomb to the core. My ex husband would write long Facebook posts about me, how much he loves me and all that. People still think I was a lucky lady, not knowing what was happening in closed doors. I have no voice to share with the masses like he does, so I let him win, but on the flipside I know I won, I don't care about what people think, what he fed them. I won by getting a strength to exit that dark place of marriage.

[@HloiMollo]

I agree. They dont know how to love

[@bridelamb2000]

So proud of you sister, you are the voice of this generation🙏 God bless you all ladies❤

[@HisPrincess_]

Truly. Today morning I woke up w such a deep heartache and I cried to the Lord for help and for him to make a way for me. I’m dealing w a heartbreak w a leader a whole pastor who has a ministry and I have constant heartaches because I had such high expectations because I thought he is a pastor I would have gone through What I went through. This is def God speaking. 🙏🏽 Thank you Lord

[@evahmontsho6328]

My only daughter went through the same😢 Thank God for giving you strength and the power to survive❤. Remember the Bible say that I know the plans I have for you plans to prosper you and not to harm you🎉

[@HloiMollo]

My only daughter is still in that toxic marriage. I pray that God open her eyes

[@frostedwindows1]

One lecturer at Varsity once said, " we do psychology because we are sick, and we also seek help." I never believed it.

[@NqobileNgwenya-sx6to]

I dont know why i find this comment funny...maybe it's the truth in it..😂

[@carolinephorosi2345]

Thank God that you are still alive and here to testify, I paid for someone else's sins as well in my previous marriage but I'm still here, stronger and single

[@mathapelongwenya864]

Yoooo this lady's story is 90% exactly what I went through. By God's grace I left, Unfortunately the narsassist is refusing to give me a divorce in the name of he loves me and he has faith that God will restore that evil union making me look like the crazy one to the world.

[@Joanna-vt8io]

Me toooooo!

[@abigailranga9036]

Don’t go back honey . God know what you went through. Your feelings are valid

[@mathapelongwenya864]

@@abigailranga9036 Thank you sis

[@favouredandsaved]

The court can actually grant you a divorce if he's making it difficult

[@SelloLebea-yd2pq]

80% of divorces initiated by women

[@thembu5854]

This is so so heavy 💔 1st time I was able to differentiate the twins 😊. Looking 🔥 as always

[@thrivingforward7481]

Big mistake that most Church girls do is jump into marriage without fadting n praying asking God to confirm and show them signs that this is realy my kingdom spouse..marriage its like an achievement to them like they hit jacpot so they r blinded by that they cant even see who they r marring ,obsessed with a ring cant blame them much on that one coz black wonan r groomed to see marriage as a Goal... My point is Ladies *just bcoz he goes to church it doesnt mean his a man of God* church is like a hospital some patients respond to treatment some they dont ,so Ladies wake up pray n ask God to confirm...otherwise more abuse n divorce amongst Christians will escalate ....face reality n wake up Ladies

[@kholisaable]

On point

[@avelakhoza6140]

I fasted and prayed, I remember I used to fast for 3 days, without water and food, every week for 3 consecutive months and prayed really hard. I think the biggest pressure is when you're proposed by a known church member and people keep pushing for you to be together. I did pray, I don't think I've ever prayed so much in my life for anything than when I was proposed to marriage.

[@victoiredouniama9125]

Exactly 💯 , you also forgot to mention some pray and fast but are too quick to take a decision without the Lord revealing to them if it is his will or not.

[@ntombikoloti2034]

I ran away from such a patner a nice guy he was but he will kill me with his words I attempted to leave him for two yrs it's not easy to leave but 2023 helped me escape and I'm free he likes to play victim

[@elizabethsilas3191]

She’s well articulated

[@AvuzwaKeei]

I am doing my master's in clinical mental health counseling and this is just so interesting. It's a proven fact that most people who grow up in broken homes tend to be abusive themselves especially men who grew up with dad's that beat up their mothers. What I don't get is how as a psychologist, he did not seek help because he knew those things would come back to haunt him.

[@QueenShaz-oc3qg]

she sounds like she is describing my deceased husband and all I had endured in our 7 year marriage, may his soul rest in peace. i am sorry lady, things happen to us for a reason.

[@kholisaable]

Thank you Twinz for the session, informative and useful but it felt rushed. Certain parts could have been elaborated on. Maybe have Part 1 and 2 if the interview is longer than the time allocated. Venice, thank you for sharing, continue to work through your pain.

[@aluwanimuavha6865]

Yes can we have part 2 please 🙏 ❤

[@sebonalomorotsi9151]

You are strong my lady I am soo proud of you 😊

[@tarirobizaro2448]

It was the title for me .We tend to forget that pastors, bishops,the communities role models are human beings too. I can relate but I thank God we ended up not getting married and when I think of it today I can say God works in mysterious ways just trust Him.

[@thandilelucas4538]

The abuse started very early but she only realized when it was physical am sure the was a tension building stage where he tried to make sure she has a low self esteem am happy that she finally found the courage to leave the marriage

[@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008]

I just see your braveness and a woman of virtue, i love the fact that you rose up even after the downfall or shut down of your mind and body, i'm really inspired i need that book 📙🙏❤

[@melinahkewagamang3513]

I'm scared that I met someone of that kind I'm glad he showed his color there worst was we almost got into a physical fight I never cried like that thank God I chose to meet him in a public place

[@sunshinedube5214]

M so sorry for what u passed thru sister. I was in the same situation lyk u but now m free but the damage was already done

[@zanelemncube1726]

You such an inspiration Venice❤!

[@josephinemokone8195]

She is soo beautiful and you are strong baby girl and you still young to go through ❤

[@mamagaseangelique1282]

Girl from my hood neighbor love you girl your strong.

[@carolinephorosi2345]

Their brokenness make these abusers to seek vengeance on innocent people like they wanna practice what happened to them in others, my ex hubby did exactly the same because according to him his father abused his mom and he hated him to the core and I was not responsible but hey I'm here and happy because I'm out of that dark tunnel of despair

[@neegee3755]

Happy for you ❤

[@JustAThought155]

Regarding love, his love is probably based on his ability to control. I was raised with an abusive parent who would tell me they loved me as I had bruises and dried blood on the wounds they inflicted. A psychopath’s version of love is based solely on themselves. And their ability to control is how they feel “in love.”

[@thalithamngomezulu457]

Truly he is a psychopath he enjoys inflicting people with pain. And degrading them . I love the channel and thTwins

[@thrivingforward7481]

The Lovebombing phase was over,His mask has fallen and U started seeing the real him n his true colours......for the fact that he was psychologist too so he was a perfect Narcissist

[@nokubongampendulo4882]

The guy that wanted to abuse me thought he was winning because I was quite. One day I told him that, "you know what you are doing to me I can do it to you better than you, you know that moss" I said it slowly looking straight into his eyes. He went out and changed completely after that conversation.

[@ntsoakisheleni5791]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@aprilmotau-pm6gr]

Hahaha you make my day dear!

[@tarirobizaro2448]

😂😂😂 I'll use that line in future

[@lilianmwende6031]

Taking this line now

[@apehekiemieze4141]

😂😂😂😂😂 another level of bravery

[@aubritechitsolution]

he was jealous, you are anointed

[@Peachcobler22]

Bathong! A whole psychologist 😮 So disgusted!

[@Sibumagazine]

Askies sis❤may God heal each and everyone.

[@sybillamula]

She was too young ad he targeted her to control her

[@XekoDiana]

❤my lil sis❤... proud of her 😊

[@dikeledimonang6334]

Awesome.... how can i get the book, I'm in Botswana. Thank you for the programme . we are empowered. Abuse is painful

[@mphomphafe-fish9209]

There are pple who are so sick out there, hv gone thru 2 of these experiences, the first one the psychopath husband attempted killing me twice, but like Vee, i stayed nd still wanted to fix the unfixable...i just dnt understand what abuse does to people's mind..it is so hard to even try to explain or even describe it. Testimonies like Vee's need to be told for the young ones to avoid falling prey of abusers who thrive in seeing others suffer at their hands..may we wise up..May the Lord have mercy

[@nkiyasisuprise3913]

iam learning yoooh, red flags are not meant to be ignored,,,,,thank God u came out of the marriage alive

[@MphoDebra-ji3yj]

I can really relate aucy,I salute you on working on urself

[@ndekah1592]

I relate so so much to her story. I also suffered narcissistic abuse from a so called pastor.I also remember being called “a broken woman” I’m even thinking maybe I was with the same guy this lady was with 😂. One day when I’m ready I’ll share my story.

[@LuuNdlovu-co4hx]

I honestly feel like MOST pastors are abusers.

[@spm9130]

The reason why she didn't get to the point of being done was the short period of the marriage. With me it was 20 years before I could plug up the courage to leave.

[@mathapelongwenya864]

20 shoooo my lady, I'm so sorry. I'm happy you found yourself. I was exhausted by 11 years I can just imagine 20 years of hell

[@gracekalumbi5569]

So sorry..... Its been 7yrs and I'm leaving soon....

[@mathapelongwenya864]

@@gracekalumbi5569 may the good Lord fight for you and hold you by his mighty hand out of that he'll

[@avelakhoza6140]

I was exhausted at 5 years, Ahhhh it was enough. He never laid his hands on me but him screaming over me everytime I try to communicate things that are bothering me, things we needed to fix in marriage was enough, not to mention the emotional cheating on WhatsApp and deleting flirting messages and yet a man of God in Public, who loves his wife. The reverse psychology and gaslighting. Ay even 5 years was long

[@mathapelongwenya864]

@@avelakhoza6140 May God heal and restore you queen

[@zaneleluhabe8863]

Broken people 💔 break others...misery loves company

[@aluwanimuavha6865]

Can we please have part 2, 😢❤❤❤❤❤

[@geraldineminyuku829]

Oh I know her. My friend used to talk a lot about her and the work they did in sports back in varsity.

[@malebelomaphutha6566]

The moment I saw both titles on one person i knew there's a narcissist in the picture. They like titles of adoration

[@cobainbride]

What an amazing lady you are Venice!❤

[@rotondwamulaudzi5319]

This story was so painful to listen to. I would suggest that your guest approaches an attorney for advice. If they didn’t approach a court for divorce, it is possible that they are still legally married. Most likely, In community of property even.

[@claudiemunyai8650]

My goodness as a psychologist I'm so appalled 💔 It makes me wonder about how many practitioners who are entrusted to uphold the practice of care and protection end up doing the opposite especially behind the curtain of life. Your cry for help was not heard hence you crumbled years later because indeed it does catch up with you when not addressed 💔 I'm so proud of you and I believe your book is a gem for our youth Keep up the awesome work you do 🎊 keep shining that light 💯🎉❤️

[@apehekiemieze4141]

Worth sharing ,thump up ladies❤

[@AfiDeSouza-qf6nf]

Some of them, comes in to destroy us and still our personality and happiness in Life.

[@faithmwangi7486]

From Kenya, volume too low, struggling to hear. It's maximum everywhere on my computer.

[@leratogao2267]

It’s your device hun

[@OlufunmilolaImamOtubu]

I knew someone like her husband 😅. The more you appear to be happy, the grumpier they become 😊

[@indolilyindomitablelily7306]

They're sadistic

[@HisPrincess_]

Thank you so much for this sharing🥺 so many women and men are going through this including myself 🤍“Watch out for false prophets. They come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ferocious wolves” Mathew 7:14 Also age is really not just a number that is something that I have come realisation w. As women it is so important to love and care for ourselves so that when we see such toxic behaviour we can let go and leave because we know ourselves, what we want and what we deserve. Shuu God is Good God is soooo sooo sooo Good. Thank you Lord 🙏🏽

[@Uniko2012]

Good that he wanted out,he saved both of you

[@MavisMathinya]

That is why we need deliverance before marriage and it is important

[@matloujacqui1668]

I'm suffering migraines right now due to overworking. At times I would be walking on streets not seeing anything around me😢. I'm suffering.

[@SgcinoLMakhathini]

You are healed in Jesus Christ of Nazareth Mighty Name Amen.

[@henrylucretia8142]

Thanks u for sharing your story be bless 🙏🙏 amen and amen thanks u Lord for the blessings to you all 🙏 🙏 amen 🙌🙌

[@LesediTsabeng]

😢😢😢 You went though what I went through my dear.

[@MohauHuma-zj6ng]

Very proud Sesi Vee. 🥳🥳🥳🥳

[@Lusanda_._]

Pastors!! Pastors!! Pastors !! 😓 they’re just monsters shem… Im noticing almost everyone married to a pastor is going through HELL!! but most ladies are silent about it probably cause they don’t want to let down people who are looking up to them

[@ArenaOfLibertyMinistry]

Never generalize...doctors,lawyers and etc are also that.its just how he was

[@abigailk1401]

😢😢😢😢That's very painfull.... It took me from where I was...

[@phomelelonkoana4585]

Yey I’m no 4 to comment🤩 Big up to you twins… you are doing a great job❤

[@Godislove1292]

I need to talk to this lady. I’m in the same situation and I need a voice of reason coz I’m loosing myself and I’m scared I might just perish. Please let me know how I can get in touch with her.

[@MsRebekahofYHWH]

There is power in testimony ❤

[@thutosenna2441]

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Bathong wee I understand exactly what you went through my sister.Basadi ke kopa lo ithuteng go ikuela go santse gona le nako pleeeeeeeeeease.Do Not Keep Secrets tsa Abusing man for a long time ngicela

[@godsfavouritedaughter3476]

Mine used to call me damaged goods and told me how lucky I am to have him.

[@sibusisojoseph]

When someone is evil in heart they feel nothing even when the hurt you,they don't care at all,you become good for nothing. But God is above all😊

[@elishadung797]

Twins, i love you. You are so gorgeous. I love your makeup ❤

[@faithsdollsville2662]

I love your channel. But the volume is a bit lower than usual.

[@centtwinz]

Noted!

[@lizzienkhoma5785]

I agree ❤❤

[@mphomashego6252]

First to comment💃💃💃 I love your podcasts🥰

[@centtwinz]

Yay! Thank you!

[@mookhobrenda2349]

He was a narcissist, I have a husband like that

[@matshidisomphuthi4403]

I am so sorry for that, I hope that one day you are set free.

[@rorisanglethole4025]

My husband is a narcissist too. I'm gathering strength to leave him.

[@Verah345]

@@rorisanglethole4025I’m so sorry may god give you strength 🙏

[@ramaselaviolet2993]

Sorry dear, you need to get out while you still can

[@abigailvilane]

​@rorisanglethole4025 I believe you will leave soon especially now because you are aware of what he is and you not in denial

[@peaceful22023]

The man calculated your whole relationship. Narcissist cannot love. Yet, they envy your Godly ability to love. I am happy you kept on being about your Father God's business.

[@MifupaMikavu23]

Watching from Kenya 😊

[@rozettameyer4145]

well done❤

[@tshidimochakisa9395]

Thank you so much ❤❤

[@RuthMadumo]

When we start denying that we are only human inhumane things start happening to us so just be true to yourself so as to see your mistakes coming and have the skills to.deL with them before tjey deal with you

[@noluvondlebe8513]

Wow gal I'm proud of you ❤

[@SakhileTfwala]

Would love to get the book, cant get your contact

[@thulisilethulisile2137]

Bathong Venice 😭😭, to think that you have been a gently child 🤗.

[@mmeme5861]

What a wonderful lady....i hope the ex watched this.....

[@lesegomodjadji8680]

😢😢😢 this is sad.

[@fundiswafundie2117]

I have a lived this life and now m starting to recall more

[@peaceful22023]

Check for legal documents proving that you are legally divorced. Narcissist are very deceptive. You don't want him owning half of everything you own. Better safe than sorry.

[@MicaylaBaloyi]

Wow Iam so inspired my sister "

[@kms708]

I feel like the podcast was too short

[@DabbyMuyunda-sh2kl]

Watching from Zambia

[@redtaggirl493]

Lol wena you were married to my ex husband. I can relate to a lot of things

[@thalithamngomezulu457]

😂😂😂😂😂😂Wow

[@thembimbex5259]

This is exactly what happened to me :(

[@mavischifamba2356]

How can I get this book

[@jacklinekundu7142]

Hi,this story resembles mine,may l have the contact of this lady pls

[@MAMOSOMARY]

How can i get the book?

[@MAMOSOMARY]

??

[@MrsL.]

​????

[@mmakgotso_tines]

They shared her email and number towards the end of this podcast