Exactly How The Being There Method Works

[@AlluretheGOAT]

I’ve actually done this method many times over the years without knowing that it was a method. The problem that I have always encountered is that by the time they fall in love with me again, which they all did, I have usually met someone new.

[@JamesonSanders-on7xp]

I must ask. How long did it take for each of them to fall in love with you again after employing this method? How long were you doing this?

[@sscott5340]

I’m 56, and proud to say, I’m learning from your videos, well done sir.

[@elharrop]

How on earth are you supposed to do this if you're heartbroken?

[@Jdock64]

You have to move on to do this, both of you, which is complicated, this is a step that requires move on, I'm currently on it, I'm really sorry if you're heartbroken, I hope you recover soon, remember that there are always other things you can focus on. Good luck!

[@rideoutlondon]

Strength

[@Koga-Ed]

Just don’t.

[@sudhanshuvyas]

it means you are not secure yet and need to learn to enjoy your own company before others see they enjoy your company.

[@cassandrapeters4980]

You can’t yet .

[@dndhomev9954]

Found this video Sunday. Texted my ex fiancé that day that I had to change the password on a shared account. He immediately responded and thanked me. I then told him “also Bridgerton is back on”, one of our favorite shows. Before you know it we were watching it “together” while texting. That turned into 7 hours of texting followed by 4 hours on the phone. We are officially back together!! Watching this video I realized I was the perfect candidate. He had “moved on” with someone else. I had exercised 2 months of no contact. During that time the few times he reached out I was courteous but short. Didn’t try to drag conversations. Also I would drop a few inside jokes to help remind him of how good we had it. If I had not followed Chris’s and Coach Lees advice, I don’t know how long reconciliation would have taken! Stay strong everyone, what’s meant to be will be!!

[@JaStargazer]

My approach is simple. I'm happy for her, I'm happy she is still part of my life And If she ever feels like getting back together I'll think about it But meanwhile I'll look for someone I can love even more.

[@Jennifer-di4nl]

This is exactly what your mindset has to be to get your ex back 👆

[@firemage8707]

man i hope i can do this as well without getting emotionally wrecked

[@Koga-Ed]

@@Jennifer-di4nlif the goal is to get your ex back, then you don’t have the right mindset that’s stated here. Just detach from that goal. Instead focus on having a joyful life and simply allow what’s coming on your path. Chances are it may even be better than your ex. And if by chance you and your ex do get together, that’s just a nice twist of fate. Just don’t focus on that outcome. You will do yourself short with withholding yourself a lot of other great opportunities. Wish you lots of happiness.

[@wildwoman4911]

I am getting the same idea I had when I watched your discussion with your coaching partner Anna, and, now I know why. I keep thinking if one practiced the being there method before a breakup occurred, it probably wouldn't have happened! And, now, it came through clearly that one must come from a secure attachment style! You could coach breakup prevention! The other idea is that I can handle anything and I know I can. Eureka! Perhaps I have truly healed from my dysfunctional childhood!

[@kanoelanifoy6510]

It feels degrading to do this, so I guess I’ll just stay insecure lol

[@plantationcreationz5201]

This does work I did it in 2021 Made me look very secure and sane

[@BruceJC75]

Man I’m not smart enough to play these games. Either that or I’m too smart to even try lol.

[@ladymay7789]

I put this method into action and also distanced myself while my friend was in the midst of his disastrous rebound. He panicked and came back in tears within five and a half months. He wound up walking away and also creating distance from the rebound due to a physical confrontation between him and her ex- which became a safety issue for him. This was over a year and a half ago.

[@cassandrapeters4980]

Soooo after months of listening to your channel I took the quiz… 67 percent chance looks grim lol

[@Jennifer-di4nl]

This does work of done right but it's probably the hardest thing to fake, you really have to change.

[@nellie6657]

I did this 2 years ago with a friend who had become more, was there for him without knowing it was a method.. he did go through a lot in those 2 yrs and came back (when I had finally moved on) for about 4 months.. then disappeared again a month ago with no explanation :/ I’m starting to wonder if the being there method is a way for them to almost keep you as an easy option. :( come and go as they please..

[@lisasunshine7654]

If one is genuinely grieving the breakup, and genuinely moving their life forward, AND had a real friendship with their ex previously, it is doable. It will require one to get more secure and have courage. 💗

[@caoskin]

Im confused on the last part when they pull back and you pull back then reengage. I haven’t read that yet on the article.

[@private4735]

Good video. Interesting. Could work.

[@akosfellner5061]

Great video.

[@karlathomas1226]

You cannot apply this method if your ex requests no further contact when they break up with you-especially when they’re involving another person. You need to go ahead and implement NC. If you don’t hear from them and have waited around 4 months, do ONE simple reach out (Hail Mary) and that is it. If they don’t respond, move on.

[@ca7ix]

I already tried to fight and break off her relationship with the rebound. They went closer to each other now. I went into no contact straight. It's been 20 days, still hurting. Will this still work? We were together beautifully for 8 years when she suddenly dumped me and went straight into rebound 3 days later.

[@danielaustin1165]

Would you still advise a 45 NC if it's 5 months after break up and new relationship is 2 months in? Or would you advise shorter?

[@marcelovieira895]

I just wonder if on my 1st conversation I should just ask afterwards: Hey, are we ok to talk eventually?

[@karenkopitt2314]

How are you doing

[@karenkopitt2314]

I got my ex back

[@karenkopitt2314]

Whxapp the helper of me

[@karenkopitt2314]

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[@epicminecraftplayer1969]

@@karenkopitt2314 how did you manage to do that?

[@chchchchiaaaa339]

Does this approach differ from a male perspective?

[@greerphillips4756]

I was totally expecting the "being there" method to be about being present in the moment so that you don't keep focusing your thoughts and energy on your ex. Yikes. This is a no. If your ex has moved on, let them move on, and you should too.

[@maybugz]

If you ended the relationship I think it can work if you want them back. I wouldn't bother if I was dumped by them.

[@nanmcgowen]

Me too… it’s click bait and a very bad idea. Morally you are now placing a third person in jeopardy for a GAME… its no morally gray, its harm to another. Its clearly lack of integrity

[@vidamiklos2411]

How to do this method if we live together and we have 2 child?

[@annettemcclain347]

Man I would do ANYTHING THAT U SAY TO DO.... but im blocked, and shes showing she is married to him... please help

[@JMaeVilla]

Being blocked is kinda upsetting. I've been there. Stay strong

[@kathiphillips6424]

He randomly unblocked me after 5 months. Idk why he hasn’t contacted me. I’m leaving it alone. Just feels better mentally to know I’m not blocked anymore

[@SATANIST66677]

Need help quick...went no contact and 2 and a half month later she came bacc and for 7days she tried to get my attention and showed me vulnerability...Like an idiot I kinda pushed her away when I now realize that it was clear she wanted me to tell her that we where getting back together but I didn't and now she found a rebound...I pushed her into is harm and it's killing me inside so NOW WHAT!? Do I go no contact onother 2month and let the honey moon pass even tho she's only been with 8m for 9days and she wanted me back rmtwo weeks ago??? Her birthday is this Sunday the 13 do I use that occasion to write her a msg asking to be just friends so I can start trying the "being there method" right away???

[@rebeccajohnson5658]

I noticed that a few of my exes are jumping into my conversations online to get my attention and to cause me and other person chatting to fight. Is that part of the being there method or something else? Need advice Chris

[@lenahall1164]

We have been broke up now for seven months he saw somebody new but they are now done he still consistently text me is it too late to do a no contact

[@Brian.Murphy]

I guess this could work for the extra anxious ex, but seriously WTF? Morally gray for sure, have you no feelings for the new partner? But hey, I guess I'll know what to watch out for!

[@princhipessa1969]

I actually got my ex back With the “being there” method in 2020 @ (gulp) 3 yrs but it works! We were together a year but my ex has some issues with abandonment/ rejection and perceived that from me because she thought I wanted to move away (long story!) anyway ….. we split up in February 2022, I did my NC and just last week we had our 1st semi decent conversation. She’s not serious with anyone but dating - naturally I hate that- moving very slow & cautious how I tackle “being there” this time around 😬 she has a lot of work to do on her side but I still love her and we have a very long history.

[@SATANIST66677]

How did it turned out?

[@princhipessa1969]

@@SATANIST66677 I left her this time around! :) she vanished for months then just contacted me a week ago needing advice lol - out of her 50,000 “friends” she turns to me, her devoted ex for advice. Long story short she’s still pissed off and told me to have a nice life. I’ll give her month to return again. Like I said, she has issues. I’m over it. This method does work though… I just no longer want her back.

[@MenMovement]

I'll keep watching to get some ideas ☝️

[@MenMovement]

@@JMaeVilla i do not have problems lol. "To get some ideas" for my channel

[@JMaeVilla]

@@MenMovement oh!

[@HarleyQ604]

How can I do no contact, when I have 2 hours 3 times a week, that I literally have to be with him (visit with our daughter currently staying in a foster situation). So we don't have any choice we both have to ( and want ) to be there.

[@taylormorrison946]

Make sure you limit contact. Only talk to him about your daughter when needed

[@gracelepri-valitutti2633]

What if he is a crush will this work?

[@JMaeVilla]

You can get him. Trust me

[@gracelepri-valitutti2633]

@@JMaeVilla he is seeing someone else and he only gives me work attention. He has told me he's very attracted , flirts with me but won't show much. He says he thinks it's more for sex but l haven't been with him sexually over a year. I don't know what to do. I say away but work keeps us connect. He will not have any personal conversation with him. I feel he holds himself back but then l could be wrong. Please guide me. I fighting with myself because as work related l was giving him a thank you gift but don't know if l should. Without his help on work, l wouldn't have no income but in return l made him so much money.

[@JMaeVilla]

[phone]

[@JMaeVilla]

He helped me get my ex back few days ago with no delays.

[@MM-ce1pw]

Did no contact and we back in talking and catch up. But find out he is with another woman he doesn't know I know so do I mention that I know or just carry on like I don't know?

[@h7pubg]

update?

[@GiorgosYfa]

How did it go? And who broke no contact? Dumper or dumpy

[@Koga-Ed]

A lot of words, little content, self made-up ‘methods’ with quasi intellectual names but (again) with little content. And as the cherry on the pie: learning viewers how to manipulate and at the same time saying it’s his duty to warn them for entering this ‘grey area’ ……. 🤔 Hmmm, sounds like a politician 😉. My advice: just stay your authentic self and get on with your life. There is a reason your ex is called “your ex”. And do you really want someone who already has moved on to someone else so easily ? Breaking up hurts, but you will get over it. The right person will come in time. And if needed, in the meantime you can always learn something about communication and attachment styles to get a better understanding about yourself and relationships dynamics.

[@bradmarcus26]

NO ONE ON EARTH is worth groveling over to use this method.

[@izaszasz7191]

If i tryed to sabotage in the first two days do i still have chance?

[@karenkopitt2314]

How are you doing

[@karenkopitt2314]

I got my ex back

[@karenkopitt2314]

Whxapp the helper of me

[@karenkopitt2314]

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[@caoskin]

Thank you for this. I keep on listening to your conversation with coach Anna yet i still cant get the clear thing on what to do.

[@nanmcgowen]

Yes you’re advocating pursuing someone that will just continue this enmeshed and painful cycle over and over. Why not advocate for these individuals to heal so they don’t want these toxic relationships? This is just promoting persons to pursue lifelong a life long pain cycle rather than living their lives in all aspects… you are talking about mimicking rather than authentically changing ones life. I don’t get this… This is what is called ‘first stage thinking’. Sad

[@EmilyGloeggler7984]

That method doesn’t always work, even when diligently applied. If you want facts, if they dump you and left, move on and don’t expect them to ever come back.

[@traelmate37]

It’s true and Chris says this numerous times in his material - you may do everything right and it still may not work. You have to be prepared to lose in order to win - the secret is to know you’ll be ok should you lose, and treat the win as a bonus. It can’t be faked.

[@Trex7124]

Meh..!, Why not give it a shot. He's a walking red flag anyway. could be a little bit of fun. (In the meantime, I have a fair bit of money to spend on a new career)

[@robertbenedek4463]

Omg, what a mindfuck, all these methods... What actually do you expect from your (ex)partner should you manage to gain them back with such sophisticated maipulation?? How would that reanimated relationship look like on the long run, or even after a few weeks?? It is very immature to use such methods for building relationship fundaments. It's like building a high-rise building on sticks. Intention is real, it is a force in the relationship. Be honest, assertive, wise, authentic instead. Both, with yourself and with your partner. My advise: do NOT try to manipulate. Be real.

[@RPJs-Cuisine]

Great channel but u should really speak on Men not being Simps. If ur ex moved on to another Man. Bruhhh, as bad as it hurts. Hang that shit up. Its 1 step bellow cheating. Dont be a BETA guys!

[@nomsab9131]

But as a so called "alpha", you wouldn't be sitting under a page that helps people get their ex's back 😂

[@RPJs-Cuisine]

@@nomsab9131 never once have I ever said I was a Alpha, but probably am judging by how people like to copy me. But a Beta, I am not. And truth be told Im fascinated with intersexual dynamics. I have self respect and dignity. However, even us top shelf Men do fall in love a few times in life.