Exactly what to say when she pulls away

[@NDJTv75]

Men, stop questioning why they pulled away, start questioning why you care so much about it. If you love yourself enough, you wouldn’t allow these mind games and tests to bother you in the slightest.

[@ozonelayercake]

Bingo

[@lr1698]

It’s human psychology/ behavior.

[@cottagegymfun]

Be true to yourself and when you meet the right person be true to her. Don't chase. No need for that. I'm in my 50s and I saw girls chasing my son. He just gets turned off by them. One particular lady was really nice but he's about his focus so he ignored her even though her families came knocking 😂 Guess what, that young lady didn't give a flying fig about the dozen boys chasing her

[@boraksaham7001]

Agreed...Focus on yourself Men, Many Women's out there which will appreciate you...

[@gabrieltetteh9830]

I did this to one girl a couple months back, and she came back apologising and telling me how sorry she is. Guys....it works like magic.

[@mykallstarrtafari9638]

Me too 😅

[@rogue_spirit]

You accepted her back, meaning you forgave her! So expect her to repeat the cycle again!😌

[@gabrieltetteh9830]

@@rogue_spirit she wasn't my girlfriend. Just someone I was getting know.

[@eddiemartinez1337]

Yup and I guarantee she won’t do it again.

[@LuisAguilar-r7g]

@@gabrieltetteh9830 I’m in the works hopefully she come back.

[@franciszico828]

Who has time for all these mind games ? The next guy can have her

[@topdoochannel6609]

@@franciszico828 😂😂😂

[@Connor4x4]

Dude. You have to play these games.

[@templehenley1376]

Just have money that's all ​@@Connor4x4

[@JMD481]

😂😂😂 good question

[@tonystuartda1st]

Women play more mind games than Professor X and wonder why they have so many "X men"

[@godfreyduffus6567]

She won’t reach out if she has someone else in mind

[@Shinedigitall]

@@godfreyduffus6567 it's better atleast you won't waste your time

[@fitforlifepft1]

@@godfreyduffus6567 This is not necessarily true.. Sometimes they want to know if you are in control or if they are in control of the relationship. To her, your response is a microcosm of the world as her danger most of the time will be domestic, and so if you can handle the problem within, she knows you can handle the problems outside. They actually mold you into a born winner whether we like it or not! They are the test of your psychological manhood!

[@KJThePublicist]

@@fitforlifepft1 This is valid

[@RevealedFilms]

@@fitforlifepft1cute but let’s not pretend there’s not other options also in the mix. It’s 2024

[@philipramsden4975]

​@@RevealedFilmsTrue, but you can't be worrying about the other dudes out there. Focus on you and what you and her have going on. If you're that dude to her, that's a wrap. You have to give a woman the option to choose you

[@raymondwilliam9925]

This the First Lady I’ve came across that tells the truth.

[@ARMSTRONGUMOREN]

Silence is golden...

[@ElevateMyRelationships]

That is the TRUTH.

[@martraudsaar8556]

Just let me tell you as a former teacher of rhetoric that your way of speaking is absolutely enjoyable. So, I'm not so much for the content but the structure of speech, pronunciation, pitch and gestures. It is very well done and my best compliments!

[@gabrieltetteh9830]

Glad someone shares my sentiments.

[@xOFFtheCUFF]

Be careful too, use good judgment. How do you know when she comes back if she’s been sleeping around with other dudes would you take her back? I wouldn’t.

[@boraksaham7001]

I don't received her back

[@KJThePublicist]

This only works if she's interested... if she has a roster full of men then this is a game of survivor...may the best man on the island win

[@JordanQuest_]

Yeah and that roster full of men are doing the exact same thing as one another. Chasing her, acting needy and treating her like she’s some rare commodity. She isn’t and she knows it.

[@MoorBlood]

Men, women that carry on this way deserve to be alone. Women who are with men that they truly desire will not play these games. If she’s into you, she won’t “pull away” or change her behavior. She’s taking to another man that simple. She isn’t testing your emotional control.

[@jarvis6518]

💯

[@tyrecess]

Mine is her dad! But she’s a strong girl any moment she gets she’s calling or texting! We’re teens tho lol 😅

[@fitforlifepft1]

Jessica, I like you! You tell the truth!! What is Crazier is, if she said she needs space, men should tell them, I’m feeling the same.. lol.

[@Andy-wp6lj]

This video came at the right time. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@ElevateMyRelationships]

@@Andy-wp6lj keep your head up! If she pulls away, give her space. Match and mirror her. Be strong :)

[@philipramsden4975]

After you go through it a few times, it doesn't even phase you anymore. You actually start to enjoy it and you can focus on your own things.

[@anthonio4816]

@@philipramsden4975 exactly!

[@questioneverything751]

It’s really stupid the games people play now.

[@L.ATRAFFICNMADNESS]

I don’t even care anymore, the moment she pulls away. I go get another girl, that will give me her time. Women act like they are special, they act like they are “busy” most of these women are on their phone 95% of the time. If she doesn’t reply, keep her out of your mind. The less you think about her guess what, she will eventually reach out. Women sense when you’re having fun without them. Gentlemen, there’s more women in City than men. Stop chasing and replace them ! Stay up

[@GregO0oo]

*”Oneitis”* is a serious condition that too many men suffer from. 😑🤦🏾‍♂️

[@governmentxx1896]

And this is working 🤪🤘🤙🤙

[@Ngelengele7]

I am voting for u

[@VALLANCEGAMING]

You are actually wrong, I get it tho I used to think that way but you need to think of women (That matter to you) as a rose bud, you give them time to bloom, you don't beg.

[@GregO0oo]

@ If she’s not giving you choosing signals, you’ll be waiting for her to “blossom” forever…not all buds produce flowers!

[@nananyantakyi1549]

Great advice, I think Jessica is the best dating coach for men on Africa KZbin that I have seen so far.

[@brightaddai9088]

I’m new here, been going through a lot in my relationship lately and decided to come online and do some research fortunately for me I came across your channel and bet your videos are really helping me. At first I was really hurt and could feel it in my chest broo but watching your videos continuously has healed me completely and I always come on here to see if you’ve posted something new. Thank you Jessy you’ve done alot for me ❤❤

[@xOFFtheCUFF]

😂 when she reaches back out to you and ask, how have you been? you tell her “ really really good. The world is a sweet place. I love it !!!so many opportunities and adventures that I’ve been going on.😂

[@Oshiko_Sam]

I'm amazed at how well you understand and express the exact feelings we experience. You always manage to touch on the right issues at the perfect moment. Thank you.❤

[@JessicaOS]

My pleasure!

[@Jay-de7pn]

m gone forever with my pride and dignity intact.. I don't have time for mind games.

[@GregO0oo]

💯✅

[@levylindokuhle6691]

Mine she pulls away then reach out again, she recently asked for break I gave her without any complaint and I started to apply no contact she gets mad and ask me why I’m ignoring her I’m not sure if she forgot that we on break

[@JessicaOS]

Smh. You shouldn't allow her to play games

[@RevealedFilms]

On a break. Shes exploring another guy….move on

[@EriPages]

Move on. Never entertain a woman who tries to play power games with you. This will teach her to respect you. Just casually ignore her and move on.

[@wavystudios4702]

@levylindokuhle6691 man she's getting her back blown out by someone else and don't want you interrupting her moment with the other dude.. let her ass go for good

[@chandansabarwal6826]

@@levylindokuhle6691 don't go on their words , see their actions, women themselves don't know what they say , everything is wet in emotions

[@kingiibluelyrics]

I can't miss this, I always rush here after the notification. Thanks Jess

[@JessicaOS]

Hope you enjoyed it!

[@kingiibluelyrics]

@@JessicaOS Yeah, I did, I am going through challenging phase in my relationship, but you usually guide me in your teachings. Thanks once again.

[@waco9208]

Im using the same tactic on this girl i just met, wish me luck with this one..... I used this method for years... It really works. Confidence is key 🗝️

[@noahkwabena9515]

Folks are just playing games with people's hearts and minds. oh how I dislike people like that! Do you want him/her or not? If you don't, get the heck out of his/her life and stop wasting his/her time? Tired of these games. Crazy generation!

[@kofib3]

Seems like good old fashioned communication face to face has been thrown out of the window. 🤷🏿

[@speedoflight3395]

It’s not a game. It’s a subconscious behaviour.

[@johnsina6851]

Play the game or get played bro

[@Ahwgsvsb]

Jessica this is what currently happening in my relationship 😢 my girl has pulled away thanks for your informative content,,, you comforted my heart 🙏

[@michaeljewell53]

Blokes who are inexperienced in relationships often panic and jump to the wrong conclusion that she has a new guy or get paranoid that she's 2 timing, I've done this myself and double or even triple texted-big mistake but you get wiser with maturity,younger guys can let emotions take over and it often wrecks their chances,you are perfectly correct as usual Jessie,btw you look lovely in the blue 💙 outfit.

[@ElevateMyRelationships]

100%. Have to keep your cool and be unbothered, give her your space and keep focusing on you. :)

[@thabisolebona7225]

I almost fell for it

[@philipramsden4975]

I made the mistake with her once. Took her 3 months to come back around. Ever since I haven't chased or reacted when she pulls away. She always comes back around double and triple texting me after she takes her space

[@ElevateMyRelationships]

@@philipramsden4975 understanding the difference between masculine and feminine energy is a beautiful thing

[@Iammajorfx]

I love listening to you so much. We haven’t spoken for a couple of days and yesterday she sent me a meme streak saying “Someone’s son is making me happy” and I was unbothered 😂 Not that I don’t like her but I realized she loves the chase.

[@jacks.554]

I have a simple but very powerful answer for all your questions: WALK AWAY and don’t look back, live the best life ever and the right girl will find her way to your life! God blessed everyone!

[@russelllevers9513]

I have a situation. I met this amazing girl and I feel deeply in love.. likewise her. Someone spread rumors about me. And we haven't spoken in about a month to be honest. But i have not been chasing her. Because I know that if she really loves me She will come around. Thank you for your advice your my favorite relationship coach. Wish I could talk to you one one . These days.

[@ElevateMyRelationships]

Keep building you man. Don’t chase a thing, value your time :)

[@johnsina6851]

If it's a month bro move on, some girls judge by rumours she would have reached out by now: u can send a Hi message if u really want to. And gauge the response from there . If she puts in no effort wish her well and move on

[@asdfxcvbn746]

don't say anything. replace her. immediately. expeditiously. women treat men poorly & become bad people when they overestimate their own sexual market value. its what women do. show her how easily she can be replaced to make her have to re-evaluate her own value. the literal second things don't work out with the other guy she ghosted you for, she will think about you. she will try to monkeybranch back down to you from the guy she felt was an upgrade, but make her go lower than you by making yourself unavailable. make her have to get a guy lesser than you. then she will see your value & see that you were always above her value wise. no contact fixes women's narcissism & solipsism real quick.

[@russelllevers9513]

If More guys listen to your advice i CAn tell you there lives would be better. I love your honesty and how you explain the Truth thank you again

[@ayegbemiicanada9635]

Always fulled of wisdom God bless you with more wisdom You are doing a great job. Thank you

[@JessicaOS]

So nice of you

[@bandilenkala8380]

Thanks for your guidance. This is currently happening now. She used to start the calls after I phoned her at first, now all of a sudden she's quiet. I only tried 3 calls to check and I subconsciously chose to apply your method. If she doesnt come back, its life and things can change. Especially with myself

[@dorneeeuring6103]

Jessica, you are spot on. She left me and I went on continuing my life now she’s contacting me and telling me she misses me. You have to guys play it cool especially when they’re in the wrong in the relationship. You have to make the woman work to get back into your life otherwise she will continue to keep taking you for granny.

[@benjaminspann1892]

Thanks Jessica O's for the great advice!!!

[@JessicaOS]

Any time!

[@raysfonexchange]

As a seasoned pro, I can confirm Jessica is spot on!

[@thecloser677]

Pure Gold!!! Good game!!

[@jd2422]

Hypergamy is just another term that describes promiscuous behavior, the sad truth is that even if you find someone who’s values, morals and goals around life align with yours, it’s only short term, people change, life changes, nothing is permanent. Stop wasting your time, fix your own emotional baggage, make a plan for your life and go for it. As for women, it’s just a numbers game, never get emotionally attached to a specific woman, if something doesn’t work out move on and do it fast. If you find yourself fixating on a specific person it means that you have a lot of work to do with yourself. Detach, do the work and get better, yourself is the only person you can and should be investing in.

[@xxxyyy-iy4hf]

You are the best Auntie Jess, Blessings.

[@russelllevers9513]

I love your advice!!!! It's very very awesome keep up the great work you are doing.

[@WilliamRaphaelTCHOUTANANDA]

You are totally right I have experience it several times she has been texting back alone

[@juniordube2526]

Shoutout to whoever brought you here boys

[@h2f259]

10/10 merely for that one point - Do NOT fill the silence!

[@christophersemenya9890]

Love you from south Africa

[@MilahKuwimbAkol]

Appreciate you Jessica all way from South Pacific. Your videos are helpful.

[@JessicaOS]

Happy to help!

[@Its_superdave09]

Spot on! Thank you Jess!

[@nelsongoncalves5379]

Happened to me b4 and I have a regret, I wish I see this video b4, thank you for sharing life learning

[@SenjuHatasaki]

You know the best part ....we don't even give a shit ...we just grind and get those Capital "P"s fam💯

[@ARMSTRONGUMOREN]

Great insight...i love this.

[@gabordudas5404]

I needed this today. Thank you!

[@addoasante7437]

Jessy sometimes is not easy oo she will hurt you, pull back and again and it will be difficult to erase what she did oo

[@SHAMSUDDEENADAMUIBRAHIM]

True 😂😂😂

[@lindseyyah1]

Shalom my divine sister, great to see you

[@JessicaOS]

Thanks

[@garykuech50]

Totally get it.. Take your time.. 5 simple words...

[@cyruskimani139]

Thanks a lot jes...I really needed this it came at the right time 💯

[@Love_Hurts]

Youre very beautiful and charismatic. Thank you for advice appreciate it.

[@fegursonokwori8193]

Thanks Jessica. This is what i need right now. Theres this girl im interested in but she says she just wants friendship. Meanwhile we usually text and see daily but all of a sudden, I realised that shes not texting me again except I do. For about 3days now, ive decided not to text her and see how it goes. If she doesn't text, ill just have to move on

[@sonnyedson2225]

It's great. It works perfectly. Unless, of course, she has someone else she values more than you.

[@Nasilla_Mc]

all this is true,,she hit me back after silence mode,,thank u Jessica Os❤

[@joelg9700]

I love your insights. ❤❤❤❤

[@mauricemutua869]

Brief and powerful. Wow!, this is wisdom, thank you.

[@mjpalmirojr.2466]

Great advice. Much to be applied and watch as your experience paves the way to n u developmenta. Just believe.

[@EriPages]

Very good.

[@robertbaileyr9976]

I’ve tried this. If she pulls away, I don’t say or do anything then she pulls further away. Then I pull away and it will be done. Women over 40 don’t play those type of games.

[@cottagegymfun]

The key is that you don't pull away. That way when she comes around, you are there for her. Don't crowd her is the point of the video.

[@miltonmawewe5248]

Madam Jess🥰🥰 always The Teacher💙💙 Love You Ma'am 💪💪

[@gilbertmortensen3493]

Thank you for your. Channel😊 thank You for your advice

[@andrewnauth101]

just went through this with a woman that's older than me but the thing is that she did this to me during my time of mourning being that i had a death in my family smh

[@godfreyduffus6567]

I’m going to try all what you have said on this video Jessica

[@JessicaOS]

Good luck

[@sirtype-alot3391]

Imagine a world where some of these women are actually grateful for a good guy who cares enough to even TRY to fix things he did not break in the first place. Imagine a world where a good guy who truly cares for her doesn't "push her away" by trying to resolve issues and does not get taken for granted by her.

[@GregO0oo]

They usually don’t appreciate “good guys” until they hit the wall. 🧱

[@sirtype-alot3391]

@GregO0oo Nowadays not even THEN.

[@GregO0oo]

@@sirtype-alot3391 True! 💯✅

[@templehenley1376]

Just have money, the rest na Story, they can never pull away

[@emmanuelagbafor2027]

Jessica my favourite relationship coach🎉

[@tiborhorvath1702]

She is right guys… but keep in mind this is for a woman that is into you also. Don’t just think this will apply to any woman randomly. I think a lot of dudes get this confused.

[@tomtshehla]

Thank you am in this situation right she is baby mama and lately she is pulling away

[@angelapenn522]

On time video. Thank you

[@AleksandarMihailovic-ik2vi]

Hi Jessica, keep the good work, i like your "older sister" advice in every video you post 🙂❤️.

[@wilsonpatterson]

Been a while since I have listened to your posts. I have been busy. This post is awesome. 😊😊😊

[@Benzbehustling]

Sometimes dealing with some women is just a headache

[@issigmundc]

Welldone Jessica

[@antoniobagiolini7126]

You are the best coach

[@ElevateMyRelationships]

Great vid! Appreciate what you do :)

[@papacashflow]

I needed this

[@governmentxx1896]

Great content ses The background sound is so suiting🎉🎉🎉✨️✨️♥️

[@boraksaham7001]

Love is all about both side and not 1 sided...

[@destinysodje1167]

Thank you Jessica ❤

[@hilairenaki]

Thank you so much

[@NANIPRINCE-lc4de]

Its true! 100%

[@king-gyeetips9133]

All this will be effective if you have lot of options. She Pulling away won’t hurt if u got options. If u don’t have options and she pulls away, u might be tempted to reach out on several occasions. So guys don’t date one 😉

[@privateaccount6827]

Totally get it. Take your time. That's perfect. But it is six words ;)

[@CosyMcube-bl5ub]

Tell her goodbye 👋 Become Ritch.Simple❤

[@OurovenaAdjankara]

Your too good 😘 thank you

[@peteremmanuelkitsamba4867]

by the time she comes back, she has probably been run through

[@FlawedmanServingajustGod]

We were supposed to go out, and she says if this goes right.... Then, messages xyz didn't go right the next morning. I already told her about communicating correctly. I haven't text her back.

[@bempowered138]

When they pull away, you should pull away too!

[@desmondadjei4412]

I got a question. What if she asks, “Why didn’t you even bother to check up on me”. As a guy, what’s the best response?

[@fitforlifepft1]

This is her admitting her absence was an attention grab… Shameful! lol.. Kiss her and say, you have my attention now.. lol

[@RevealedFilms]

Had this before. Just switch the focus…”been focused on X, you good?”

[@marekknieshtschav6391]

"oh I assumed you were a fully funcitoning adult"

[@desmondadjei4412]

@@RevealedFilms That’s hard man 😅

[@ristegorgiev5114]

i tried this few times and i got absolutely nothing 😂 i was unfriended by her or she will unfollow me block me etc and nothing happens

[@GregO0oo]

You dodged a bullet each time; count your blessings…😅

[@user-bj2nh2tz3y]

What if she played mind games and we failed them. Yet she supposedly found someone new but still reaches out time to time

[@hilairenaki]

You are great

[@judickaelsam3103]

The problem is that this kind of mind game of chasing / pulling away is exhausting in the long run. Love should be natural, without constantly forcing, without trying to manipulate the other's feelings, it's a mutual effort. If your partner needs to test you in order to be attracted to you, it's because she doesn't really love, value or desire you. You will never have peace of mind with this person

[@shan5445]

A woman knows what she wants.

[@bjornviir3333]

usually she traded you for a new guy, its done.

[@LuhckhyBouy]

I don't think I will date again I can't imagine doing everything possible for someone i love and she ends up playing mind game with me

[@jacks.554]

I feel you. You answered the question to the big problem of this society of ours why there are lots of single moms or women over 30 and men don’t want to date them.

[@obibinibakin-george9928]

What if it’s not the attitude you wanted to get from her. Some women have victim mentality and needs to be addressed when they come back