Exploring Chicago Vlog + Answering Your Personal Questions About Breakups, Dating & Feeling Lonely

[@shawnahare4299]

As someone who is old enough to be your mother, this vlog was refreshing. It's wonderful to see that you take your mental health seriously.

[@AbbeyYung]

❤️❤️❤️

[@ivorysooya2786]

No you aren't old;girl! Just ppl minds are old not you!💕

[@danicageeslin9836]

Agree!!

[@AngiedeHerreraWhite4053]

I also am old enough to be your mom, but I love your videos. It's funny, I'm not a vlog watcher,, but this was like spending a day with a friend!! You are a smart, strong, beautiful woman and you have got so much going for you!! Your family must be so proud of you!!!

[@jocelynbowers6965]

Being alone is different than being lonely and it seems u are handling them both. Good for you Abbey, keep up the great, positive attitude!!

[@AbbeyYung]

very true! ❤❤

[@traceytrotter9934]

I believe in always being a tourist where I live, no matter how long I've been there. Makes life much more fun. And I never really date per se. If you are social, go to parties and hang with friends you will meet someone. Formal dating is so uncomfortable and rarely leads to anything. Good luck Abby and enjoy life! 💖

[@mallaryroberts3346]

The last section of this video make me teary 🥲 wasn’t expecting that, I’m so happy you had family during that time who rallied for you and and had your back. That’s really nice to have. And enjoy your alone time in this phase, I’ve been married 8 years in August and we’ve been together 13 years in May, we have a 4 year old and my alone time is almost non existent. If I can get a 20 min shower, that’s heaven lol But I love it also. I had a work conference recently and it was an overnight conference and that hotel room all to myself was the best thing ever 😂😂

[@AbbeyYung]

❤️❤️ exactly! I know I will be feeling that same way at some point 😂

[@tracywofford3384]

I totally choked back tears when you talked about your family coming to be there for you.

[@tee6084]

I really appreciate your openness about the struggles you’ve been facing with your mental health. It really helps to see others be real about their struggles and it helps to take away the stigma of anxiety and depression. I hope that you feel better soon. 💛

[@larawright9260]

Hello…do you think Abbey sent the What’s App message? I got it too..

[@michelleandino7309]

Yay to exploring Chicago! ❤❤❤ And from what I can see, your apartment looks beautiful! Hopefully everything is much better there.🌺

[@AbbeyYung]

Much better ❤️

[@vnokesCO]

Well said & ditto, Michelle! Thank you for sharing Abbey 🥰 I would definitely like more vlogs like this. Enjoy your alone time. Take yourself out on dates. And good luck on dating others - I'm dating again after taking a long break after a bad break-up & I'm still a bit hesitant to put myself out there again.

[@vnokesCO]

I forgot to add this: You should contact your dentist about your tooth. They can let you know if it's something to be concerned about & come in, or alleviate your concerns. I hope it feels better soon!

[@moneszka33]

Abbey I just love anything you post, you’re so authentic and true to yourself. Thanks for sharing your experiences, and as you said keep treasuring the times that you spent by yourself, those moments won’t come back as often in the future once you find your partner and decide to have a family. Believe me you will missed them (I stayed single and lived by myself until I was 36, now I have a lovely family but there are times where I just wanna send them away a little bit so I can chill out hahaha). Love to see your channel grow.

[@AbbeyYung]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@70sladyalways25]

Love the new apartment and life update! I’m 62 and I can tell you to do ALL the things you want to while you can. Enjoy this phase of your life. I know good things are ahead for you. Life is full of choices and changes that we all navigate. Such a blessing to have a family that loves and supports you! You have such a beautiful soul. Thanks for all the research you do in order to share with your followers! Love your channel ♥️

[@AbbeyYung]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@adriannajauregui8816]

Enjoy the alone time Abbey. It’s so worth it. To be in tune with yourself is so beneficial in a lot of ways. We learn so much from our experiences especially a break up so just keep it moving and enjoy it all day by day. Stay safe ❤️

[@Sera-R]

I haven’t been to Chicago in years so it was so fun seeing all the places again! I love that you went to Uncommon James. Thank you for the vlog!!! Btw-thanks for always being so real . You are a terrific person and I know someone great will come into your life soon!!!

[@susanthomas5883]

The part about how your parents 'got you'....brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing your heart with us. Truly thank you. I loved this video.

[@susanthomas5883]

THIS IS NOT ABBEY!!!!!!! THIS IS A SCAMMER!!!!!

[@thebeauty_minimalist]

I really like this vlog format, so fun! I love how you talk about embracing doing the things you love to do alone, like reading and taking walks! Also I love shopping alone 💜

[@brittnabuurs7915]

I would love to see a get ready with me for a date night!!

[@stephanieannhunt]

Your story about your family coming to get you has me in tears! Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@AbbeyYung]

❤️❤️❤️

[@awins3032]

You are so blessed with a wonderful family! That is not the case for many people. Loved the rawness and honesty.

[@andreajackson8699]

Thank you for sharing your heart and hurts. One of my kiddos is dealing with challenges and I have learned not to assume everything is okay but to ask and to listen and to be tuned in. The signals are not always obvious. Glad your family gathered to support you. 💙 I loved that your sis put on your favorite podcast. When my kid was having dark days we watched a lot of MASH reruns, and sometimes just giggling about that spurred some great heart to hearts.

[@cassthompson3386]

You sound like a great momma :) Your kid is lucky to have you....the M.A.S.H. reruns got me though 😆 that's great.

[@ginadavidson9536]

Abbey I just loved this vlog it was great to get an update on your life. Please do more of these you are such a light in this world and we all need that, I hope you find a wonderful partner you are so deserving of that. Have a wonderful day.

[@Yogi-Bajogie]

Amen for sisters Abbey! Best friends for life:)

[@lisagerson7735]

Great video! Can you show us your new place, it looks so beautiful

[@johns3641]

Loved hearing the deeper side to your life - you got this!

[@Foxy81824]

Dating is exhausting. First dates are the worst. I’m always tempted to be a jerk and cancel last minute.

[@AbbeyYung]

Sooo tempted 😂

[@dodipalmer856]

To build on another comment, I am old enough to be your grandmother! It is amazing that you have gained so much insight into yourself and life. I wish I’d been there at your age. I’m not sure I’m there now!❤️

[@Chelbsn]

I loved this format! And, I'm 49 so my kids are around your age, my oldest is 25. Your memories recovering after a breakup, and the way you relayed it... Tears. I can say, this many years on the other side of it all... First, you will always have some portion of that that you carry with you because I believe that when you feel something so deeply, whether joy, pain or other, it leaves a mark on your soul. I can also say that as my children have gone through that that watching your children go through that type of pain, my children are my heart... So watching them and being unable to do a lot to help them heal, or not being able to just "fix it" for them like I could when they were young, that for me was incredibly painful as well. But the happiness that was waiting for me, and the happiness that was waiting for my kids is so so so much better than anything else experienced prior. It's there for you too and once you get there, you just know

[@joeleeashley3853]

Hey Abby, Chicago is cool. Glad you are in a new apartment. You will have to do a video about that, it looks nice.😃

[@swineinny1]

Can you tell us about how you got your apartment?

[@rmp8950]

Enjoyed this so much!! Waiting on your apartment tour soon, it looks beautiful. Also I love & appreciate all the research you do on products, I'm the type of person who just wants to know what is good to purchase.. OH and you could be my gr/daughter, 2 of mine are older...

[@KinniMoo]

I have to say that, since you have been opening up and giving us chance to get to know the real you, I am enjoying your content so much more! I always respected your reviews but found it hard to make a connection with you like I do my favorite influencers. I am saying this totally in a constructive way so I hope it comes across that way. Previously I felt you kept viewers at arms length and it came across a bit cold. Now that you have opened up and let us see what a warm genuine person you are! Now I look forward to your videos! Best of luck finding those wonderful new friends in Chicago! ♥️

[@ambermatthews7365]

Love this! Please make more Chicago vlogs! I live in Chicago and love to see my city through someone else's eyes. Also, I wish we could hang out but that would be weird, right? haha.

[@Madamchief]

awww bless you Abbey; you're adorable even when you're gloomy 💞

[@AbbeyYung]

🥺🥺 thank you so much ❤

[@TheGracefacekiller]

This was great! Especially as a single girl that just moved to Charelston by myself. I’ve never felt more empowered though! Also!!! Where is the couch from?!

[@marriedtothemuffinman]

The story about your family coming to get you is so wonderful - THAT is what it means to really love someone and be a family. You sound like you're doing great taking care of yourself and keeping your priorities straight. Dating is fun but exhausting, so good for you for making sure you are really certain about a guy before you get too serious. 💜 Show yourself compassion and please keep up the great YT content! (And now for my "big sister" moment - try not to stress about turning 28 and being "late 20s!" I went on my first date with my now-husband the day before my 28th bday. Late 20s is a great time of life and a great time to meet someone, and when you meet the right guy he will value you as the treasure you are.)

[@CT8852]

Spending time with people who nourish you, and add value to your life is so important! Glad to see you in your new apartment. You got this! 🌺 Karen

[@Calllyy29]

We need to be besties! I feel like we are the same person. I have had very similar experiences to dating and have completely changed my mentality. We do not have to settle!! I too just turned 28 soo cheers girlfriend 💕

[@bellaablondiee]

Love vlogs from you! Love seeing you happy in your new beautiful space ❤️

[@julielyons9180]

You should have moved to Fl. The Sunshine State. Plus the people are so nice and much less violence down here. I hope your tooth is okay you should go get it checked.

[@lkessler1]

I love these types of vlogs. I love watching you and Taylor Wynn, and I’m old enough to be your mom 😂. I just love watching you girls live such independent lives.

[@angeliquebullock466]

Love the new apartment! Do you watch Kelly’s life, she is moving to Chicago soon and I think y’all would get along great!

[@AbbeyYung]

I've never heard of her I'll have to check her out!! 💞

[@roberta9428]

Loved this video and hope you do more like it. I’m single and in my 50’s. All my friends are married with kids and the thought of trying to start over and make new friends and this age is scary. I’m an introvert like you and it’s hard to put myself out there. Also I work from home and need to force myself to work at the library or a coffee shop once a week or so like you suggested.

[@larawright9260]

I LOVE the vlogging style! Please do more….💕

[@julieo4580]

Where’s your sectional from? I’m on the hunt and it looked comfy but practical. Lol.

[@catnipaddict88]

Thank you for the break up tips. I moved out of the home I shared with my ex (it’s weird to even call him that). We were high school sweetheart, lived together for 8 years, 12 years total. I moved in with my parents, who converted their garage for me to have a place to live. My own mom did most of the work ❤️ I’m glad I’m not living alone bc I don’t think I could handle the loneliness

[@Nonyabiz370]

I was drawn to watch this video because I’m from Chicago. Grew up on the NW side, and later lived in buildings on LSD and then on Clark Street, across from the zoo. I LOVED being so close to the lake! Sometimes I could hear when the lions were being fed, early in the morning. Watching sailboats go by from my kitchen table. Most miss sitting on the rocks, just off the water, either daydreaming, thinking, or just mindlessly staring off into space. Oh, how I relish those memories of walking home from my job downtown and stopping to get my feet in the sand, or stopping at the Children’s Petting Zoo to feed the ducks. I’m glad I pressed the play button on this vlog, not only for the walk down memory lane it affords, but because the advice you gave is all wonderful. I’m married now, living on the East Coast, hoping to one day move to Vermont. As someone who is very introverted, one tip I learned along the way is to not let my fears keep me from what could potentially be a wonderful thing. I used to get scared when I really liked someone. So scared, in fact, that I would unconsciously sabotage myself. I know that’s not always something that is easily controlled - at least for me. You seem much more outgoing and confident, but to anyone who may be scared of the whole dating-thing, taking things slowly really is the best advice. Along with NOT not giving a potentially great relationship a chance for fear of getting hurt. Thanks, Abbey! 🌸😊

[@lucylu6408]

I love these videos!! Thanks for sharing and so glad things are better compared to that awful apartment nightmare previously!! 😉

[@diyinvestorjacqueline2332]

Your new apartment looks so much better…newer safer….love all the windows …thanks for sharing …fun video

[@Murdoch1214]

That sweater looks great on you. Where is it from ? I like the loose band on the bottom! I am in the same boat as you girl. I just had a really great date this past Friday, and really excited to see where things go! This past year has been difficult. I am 32, work from home mostly and live alone. Small friend group and most are married and starting to get pregnant. I find dating has burnt me out a little. Loved hearing I am not alone!

[@ervinsmoviecorner8748]

So close to 245K subscribers, Abbey!❤️❤️

[@deemorgan5046]

Yup, Another mom tyoe, probably not the right demographic to ask but loved the format.Your advice on breakups, trauma is spot on. Godspeed, Dee

[@bella2432]

Hi Abbey! Njoy your time alone and learn from it, because it is the best thing you can do for yourself. Be proud of your journey you’re doing so well on your own

[@fionadarragh1004]

Hi Abbey ❤, Such a great Vlog of the city from what we seen 😀, the Coffee Shop ☕ was super cute 😍. Hearing you talk about your experiences that you went through and are still going through with moving to a new city, brought tears 😢 to my eyes. I'm so grateful for you doing this video and for sharing 💗 I enjoyed watching this very much ❤. Take great care of yourself and wishing you the best in life that you truly deserve to have. All my love 💓!

[@ambernoland1506]

Is it weird dating someone knowing that they can watch all of your videos/vlogs, and they maybe feel like they "know you so well" but you don't know them at all? Or just the fact that it might kinda feel "stalk-y if they tell you they watch your vids... I could see someone falling for you by watching you online because some of us might feel like you're a friend or big sister from watching. I'm just wondering if you feel you need to be more guarded because of your online presence.

[@evabossuyt6288]

Love the vlog, love the tips! Have a great week :)

[@lemonroe9680]

Your makeup/skin was perfection in this vlog! Would love a tutorial ♡

[@chericoffman6321]

I hate first dates. Or I used to. I quit dating because I’m over 50 and just don’t have time or patience for it.

[@alanna4148]

Future nurse here, I HIGHLY recommend you see your dentist ASAP. When your tooth or veneer is giving you pain like that, it is only going to get worse. Your body is telling you that something is going on that shouldn't be. Please go have it checked out. And be careful and do extensive research on which dentist you see if you plan on getting a new dentist in your area. Trust me a lot of wrong doing dentist out there

[@Cwagify]

I think this is a time of your life that you will look back fondly on. I love living alone. Also in regard to dating, I think it’s so much fun. I just read a book called How to Not Die Alone. It has made me reevaluate my approach to second dates. I heard the author on a podcast and she was hilarious which is what intrigued me.

[@blancherussell2891]

You're young and beautiful, you're intelligent, you are in a great city, you have good boundaries, and you have a lot to offer. You'll meet someone when the time is right. How I wished my parents were still alive when I listened to your story.

[@dianer8108]

Hi Abby,it's great to see you are so much more at ease and relaxed at your new apartment. You seem to be in a good healthy space right now,enjoying your you time. Good to take time on the dating life after having a serious relationship. Your just a beaming array of sunshine. That coffee shop was so nice and a great spot to be around people and still work. 🌷

[@alanna4148]

Your apartment is beautiful!! Is it a new building? How did you find it? You should do a video giving tips to single woman going to live on their own for the first time and getting their first place ! 🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@danalichvar3460]

I just got out of a 4 year relationship. The out of body experience you described when you’re initially alone is so true. It’s hard when all your friends are engaged or married, but you’re right this is a temporary life phase. I’m planning a solo road trip to see places I haven’t been and friends I haven’t connected with in some time and I’m hoping that will give me the jolt I need to remind myself there is so much more to life than our relationships.

[@Backwardspajamas44]

You have parking at your apartment AND you paid for parking to go walk on MI ave?! Girl you are ballin.’

[@patriciaarodriguez6641]

I have a tip for you about transitioning into single life again. You need new friends. I don’t mean forget your current friends but also seek out new ones that match your lifestyle too. I explored with meetup when o went thru the same thing years ago. Chicago should offer plenty of other opportunities.

[@sherrys8321]

Fun blog! You have such a good head on your shoulders. I went to went a wedding a week after I broke up with my fiancé. Probably not a great decision but it I was my girlfriend’s date and didn’t know the couple so I think that helped with distancing myself from what I was going through and where I was. I do not recommend doing that after a major breakup but thankfully I had fun.

[@superjules21]

To be married till 30 is crazy! Just chill and date and maybe you find the right person and after years you can marry if you really think it's great but not searching for the husband and marry after 1 year ... That's just crazy :D

[@heleneboily1825]

I love these videos and I think that you are so mature. Being connected to ourselves is the best thing to find our way to inner peace. You are a beautiful person!

[@AbbeyYung]

Thank you so much 🥺❤️

[@LauraLVTGW]

I've never been to Chicago, thank you for the tour!!! I moved almost 3 years ago, 800 miles from home. Due to the pandemic, haven't seen my family since.😪. Also just wanted to let you know how helpful you have been for my skin, hair and makeup routines. I appreciate all your hard work, thank you!💖💖💖

[@AbbeyYung]

yay I'm so glad to hear that! ❤

[@rachel.c.p]

Loved this type of video! Do we get an apartment tour of your new place? See how you decorated/styled it?!!!

[@lindablair3837]

Figure out where your interests lie; architecture, working out, cooking, art, whatever it is. Then, find a way to engage in it with others. It's a win, win.

[@the_eerie_faerie_tales]

I haven't gone on a "first date" for like 6 years lol - with my now ex.. we were together for 3 years starting in 2016, then thankfully we broke up right before everything went to 💩.. I was finally free for a couple months, then.... needless to say all the BS lockdowns kept me from meeting anyone.. the closing of public places, the drastic changing of the places that were still open.. (ridiculous discriminatory policies which keep me from being able to enter). Also, it seems even harder now to find men I'm not only compatible with, but even attracted to... I can't be attracted to a man who wears a mask for example, and they are few and far between. Guess I'm destined to be the token old crazy cat lady 😸

[@kristilambert3416]

Love thè new apartment Abbey!! Is that an espresso maker? Just loved this vlog🧡

[@happygoluckyme6926]

Don't be worried about your tooth when they fixed it they had to mess with a lot of stuff that's been there for a really long time and it's gonna hurt but it's gonna go away once it settles down. And it can take about 6 months to a year.

[@myatreethe9222]

I love your videos, your personality is so lovely and you are absolutely beautiful. I also love that you are so inclusive of dark skin girls like me in all of your videos. ❤

[@lilshawtyspice]

“What are you guys still doing in here come on” 😭😂🙏🏼❤️

[@michellechesek8567]

Not me tearing up hearing about your family being by your side during the breakup 🥺

[@gracejones2831]

I lived on Dearborn and Goethe for 20 years. Love that city.

[@annalem87]

Whole city of new dudes❤️😂👍 love it👍

[@JLeigh75309]

Abbey - so glad you're in a better situation. New friendships aren't always easy to make as you get older. I'm confident you'll meet a great guy who will be both a great friend and a great love.

[@AbbeyYung]

❤️❤️❤️

[@JLeigh75309]

🤗🤗🤗

[@Megan43210]

Love your appliances and floors! Super cute

[@alexandramarron7689]

I love your videos so much! I am from Minnesota which makes me love you even more! I feel like I’m hanging out with a friend when I watch your videos. I am going to Chicago the week after Easter and low key hope I run into on the street so I can say hi haha I went through a tough breakup many years ago and now I’m happily engaged! It does get better after those difficult times. Those years alone are definitely essential for personal growth! Thank you for being vulnerable 🤍

[@AbbeyYung]

Awww MN friend I love it ❤️

[@itsme6591]

Love getting to know you better.

[@sharlahillis4914]

Loving this type of video!

[@janicejune]

Me too with the sandwiches! I never eat them anymore, and just the past week I have had like 4 of them! Your new place looks super nice! I live just west of the city, but love getting to the city whenever I can. Can you do videos on how you run your business? How you find time (and how you balance) for Insta, TikTok, KZbin? Do you ever feel awkward filming on the street (do other people look at you)? I too love my alone time and watching KZbin and Netflix. Also, I am 47, and have been married (and hated my life). I can laugh about it now. You are being smart in your thinking about not rushing into things. Sounds like you have a wonderful family! You do a great job on content!

[@AbbeyYung]

I love that idea I'll add it to my list! ❤❤

[@lubnan08]

First dates aren't fun. Just do a coffee then go from there.

[@eyung7842]

Not me crying on the elliptical watching your advice section 🥺 Love u ❤️❤️

[@AbbeyYung]

Love you sister 🖤

[@claudiameyer5275]

Love you space! Congratulations

[@innsywincy]

Yaaaas queen!! Love the taking things slow part of dating as well! 👏🏼

[@caramelcookie1765]

I’m glad I clicked on this video

[@KnifeModders]

Where is your hoodie from?? Super cute!

[@littlemissalltrac]

Amazing! I just got back from my first trip to Chicago! I was there for the IECSC conference! Loved it, was only for 4 days but I'm seriously debating on moving there 😂. Might visit a few more times.

[@traceyv9961]

So funny you said daughter, because my step-daughter also lives alone in Chicago and struggles with some of the same things you have mentioned, especially working from home and not having a ton of social opportunities. You are a gem....and I love your videos. Stay you, stay strong....hugs back!

[@alanna4148]

I enjoyed this video! Can you please give us an update of your current place! And/or tour of it ?? .. I just turned 27 this week and I am single too. I went through a horrible break up from a long term relationship exactly 1 year ago. It was the only relationship I've been in. I'm doing the same focusing on myself but I don't have as many friends. I basically have less than a hand full of friends. So it's really hard honestly

[@terrirojas]

You’re right, every thing is temporary. Next, change “by myself” to “WITH myself”. As for dating, I hated it until I dated my now husband, so I know what you’re feeling. It will happen organically, forced or not, so you do you. I guess I should watch the video all the way thru before commenting, but there you go - you got out of the tub and it was the funnest first date because you had no expectations. Also, for future reference, people don’t change - so your slow approach is a good one because what you see is what you get - don’t look for “potential” it’s not there. 😜

[@isabel6033]

I recall 10 years ago when I moved from Texas to Chicago for college … Chicago was SO much nicer …. I met my man before graduating with my MBA & 10 years later I’m a Suburb woman with a career living in Illinois. But we never go into the city unless we have too because it’s just SO bad now … We need to fix the city to what it use to be … It feels like little third world country in the city. Sad 😔

[@tanyatj7121]

Was the coffee shop in an old wool store building that has bee refurbed? It looked soooo nice. I was envious 😘 .... Love your VLOG, great spending time with you. 💞🇦🇺🌻

[@blissfulluxurylife]

Yassss!!! Love the vlogs ❤🙏🏼🤩

[@alisoncurran9631]

Oh my goodness question 1!!! Then two! YES! I hate first dates 🤣 short on time and I'd rather spend precious spare time with friends/family but I do want and am ready for a boyfriend - viscious cycle! Work from home too, feel that Abbey! 👏

[@stomas5640]

Lived in a suburb of Chi town for 10 years. We took the train downtown at least once a month and ALWAYS acted like tourist so fun. Now in Phoenix and DO NOT miss the 9 months of cloudy cold temps, rain, snow and humidity but still loved downtown Chicago. If your into music and live bands check out 7Th Heaven Band---- will not disappoint

[@kaylan2083]

Abbey, I live in Minneapolis and when I first moved here I met a lot of my friends through River Valley Church. If you can find a church in Chicago with thriving small groups, you'll make a ton of friends (guys + girls) and then inevitably meet even more people. Plus a lot of people in these groups are single (some married), so you'll have a range of friends to uplift and support you. I've made some amazing friends through River Valley and my small group still meets even though some of us don't even go to that church anymore. We've just built such great friendships.

[@Sam-uw2wo]

Unrelated to the video, if you haven’t tried out Volare Ristorante in Chicago you absolutely should. It’s an Italian restaurant that makes their own pasta. So so good.

[@annanaylor]

Jusssssttt perfect-ahhhh love the modern new apartment. Have I missed a tour? Bless ya for the week, ya smashing it, looking healthy and happy again yay. From NZ headin into Autumn and so the mood reminder was good...i have it aswell!

[@julielyons9180]

You are a beautiful young woman and you will meet your forever guy one day. You are extremely young your only in your 20’s and you are very mature. Have you ever thought about dating someone older. Guys mature slower then we do. I am sure you will meet someone. I wish you all the best at everything you do. I am 57 and went through a friendship breakup over this past summer. This friends was a friend for 40 yrs. she is a Godmother to one of my sons and I will admit I miss her but I have no clue what happened she just won’t talk to me and I tried several times she won’t even answer me. Maybe in time we will be able to talk again. We both live in different states now but I miss speaking with her over the phone. I am glad you were able to patch up things with your friend.