Exploring Masculinity: A Heart-to-Heart with Men on What it Means to Be a Man (Full Episode)

[@IdeastoIncome]

The 50/50 conversation was missing an element of age. The men who talked about their women holding them down and paying the majority of the bills happened when they were very young. It makes sense when you're young but when you get older, no woman wants to take care of a 40-year-old man.

[@lyricbrutha6604]

Exactly! That was left out of the conversation. As a youth you can risk it but in your 30s and 40s, who has time to wait around for you to figure things out.

[@LaTashaChante]

Exactly my thoughts ma’am!

[@APD089191]

🔔🔔🔔!!! Nothing more to add!

[@gemmabriggs8139]

There shld be no 50/50 in a marriage . It shld be 100/100, Once married there shld be no mine or hers or his . It shld always be ours regardless of aging . When we first got married I had nothing but he was there to take care of me . Now that am making good money I shld be there to for him .We are married snd we are one . What’s mine is his and his is mine . We both have access to our Money. We both have freedom to do what we want but once the other disagree about something then it will not be done . It’s love and respect .

[@rebecca4829]

@@gemmabriggs8139 Maybe I'm wrong but it sounds like they were describing the dating stage and not marriage.

[@zandilesokhela1578]

"I am not faithful to my wife ,I am faithful to God,she benefits from the relationship I have with God" Done!❤

[@rlanders6]

You hit the nail on the head. Bless you and your wife is blessed!

[@gogoldiego]

So true

[@ayodeleterry6717]

True definition of "submission". A woman submits to a man that FIRST submits himself to God. She must first trust and know that her man is under and faithful to the righteous guidance so that submission is worry-free.

[@PrsWater8]

Women can confirm men... all she has to do is hold a mirror and compare his actions to his words. The average man's thoughts of who he is, don't match his behavior. Things like honoring their word, self awareness, good character, and being humble are a thing of the past for many men.

[@AleciaRenece]

SPEEEEEEAK!!!

[@denisefrank164]

Both men and women have masculine and feminine energy. Masculine energy is about doing, it's action-oriented, whereas feminine energy is about being, and creative intuition.

[@brotha_pedat]

Be careful with that. Because that might contribute to the trope that women are human BEINGS and men are human DOERS because it might devalue the humanity of both. And I'm sure you have no desire to do that...

[@denisefrank164]

Men, by nature, are fixers, protectors, providers etc. Those are all action words and stem from the nature of a man. A man operating in his masculine energy is: * A Leader * Takes action * Reasons * Is Logical * Adventurous * Strong * Loyal * Firm * Focused on survival * Confident * Focused * Proud * Honorable * Efficient * Powerful * Caretaker A woman operating in her feminine energy is : •Empathetic * Nurtures * Is fluid * Has a softness about her * Receptive * Open * Devoted * Creative * Compassionate * Community minded * Heavy on feelings * Supportive * Intuitive * Life focused * Understanding When men and women are in balance w/their masculine and feminine polarities, things flow vs being stifled or suffocated when out of balance. It’s my belief that until WE reprogram mindset around the stigma about what it means to be male or female, men and women will have trouble meeting in the middle and where the other is.

[@brotha_pedat]

@@denisefrank164 That's a list of GREAT attributes, no doubt, YET yet is not mutually exclusive.

[@brotha_pedat]

@T you don't have to be *nasty* about anything.

[@Peacebsteele]

Thank you for this 🥰🤷🏾‍♂️

[@mstmklry]

Notably, the married men on this panel have a very distinct perspective from the single men.

[@queenqueen1053]

He said a man is knowing who to be in the room at the right time !!! I SHOUTED!!!!! Yessssssss

[@ljthirtyfiver]

Man is who to be in the room ? So the room changes and he changes ? The right time ? Well What’s the wrong time?

[@zaynayoung2780]

Girl - me too! That was a WORD right there.

[@VioletNicol]

I was so happy when the preacher spoke up because that’s who I am interested in. The men who aspire to be the better man the right man for me. Maybe there’s a history but we need to break chains not bind ourselves to them.

[@cric9962]

I enjoyed listening to the men, they all brought unique and very valid perspectives on the various issues discussed. I particularly liked how the pastor in the white sweater articulated his points.

[@neema1]

I love this... It is refreshing to see men discussing self-development. Honestly, some men do not seem to care about personal development. How to break off from societal conditioning

[@lyricbrutha6604]

I wish that this conversation was more in depth about why men have the urge to cheat so much and have multiple women. Can we discuss the toxic music and media that push men participating in degenerate behavior? Yall so willing to admit that most men cheat but won't break down the mentality of a man who can't control his urges. Yall want a pass and you want women to be okay with you spreading yourself all over creation. Then you want submission and a pillow/pillar while you out here acting a fool. Let's really get into it.

[@AleciaRenece]

THANK YOU!!!! A MAN FINALLY SAID IT. This was horrendous.

[@Potencylogic]

I can’t stand beta simp in pastors. Jesus was not sold and fony

[@Gods-son33]

Ummmm. 57% men and 54% of women admitted to cheating sometime in their life. 22% married men and 14% married women “admitted” cheating. Practically same rate. Miss me with the “men cheating” narrative. Too many studies and statistics that PROVES cheating is almost identical over genders 🙄🫡

[@AdventuresinGrace]

Thankyou for saying this. Do you have friends who think like you? If so you need to redo this conversation and host.

[@soiledskin]

❗️❗️

[@dawnbrooks1309]

I'm in love with the message Dr. Bobbi shares! Thank you for being obedient to your calling!❤

[@hotchocolategirl1der]

So many generalizations. I like the doctor's definition of his OWN manhood. He spoke about himself, not every man, or what anyone else thinks. That takes a lot of confidence, which seemed to immediately offend some of them. He defined himself, for himself first and now he is a great help to our community.

[@Shuntora21]

These topics are very important for both parties ( men and women). Women don’t understand men at all including actions, thought process, how they move, e.t.c. I am glad this panel was diverse and the truth was explained. I will be watching more episodes; very interesting topics that were discussed. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Thefitmarquee]

I suggest a part 2 with a smaller panel. Some people didn’t get to chime in because others were more vocal. 👌🏾

[@shalanathomas7751]

God makes man a man! When a male comes into a relationship with Father God through Jesus Christ he comes into the knowledge and understanding of his REAL identity of being man! ❤️

[@taebrown384]

Tell it 👏👏👏👏

[@88niteowl88]

Amen!!

[@staceyadams5951]

I enjoyed listening to my brothers and all of their prospective on the panel. I am a successful black man who has raised 2 very strong, confident and appreciative black boys. I have nice things. When I think of all the great things I heard from this panel, what was most admirable was the brother with red Yankee hat in black. I believe his point about crying with his daughters over the hamster was most profound. That statement spoke to me as a father, a son, a brother, and a black man. My success isn't my money or my nice thing. I would trade it all. I am not willing to trade my connection with my black sons who see their dad as their hero. Thank you who ever you are in the red hat. You hit home for me. I run into so many men who are looking to have that very same relationship with their children. Often times when it's too late. Continue to cry with your daughters. God bless you sir. We as black men can learn a lot from you. I actually want to give a shout to all of the brothers in black. All of you were quiet, but you were profound when you spoke.

[@wmenofdestiny]

He said we (ladies) see an idealistic man is one who provides for more than one. Lol. No we don’t. We look at man as a man who provides for his family, period. And that is doing for the community and why the community has gotten so bad is because men aren’t in the homes, not because they aren’t in the community. They aren’t in the homes. Anything he does beyond his family is extra and that’s great but a man in our view is one who does for his family. 9:55

[@juanitasykes4853]

I absolutely love love love this dialogue. I’ve realized I actually think like a man 😂 but my question is WHY do so many men lack, vision and ambition! My God. My husband was poured into in some many ways and so many angles and still lacked EVERYTHING! Until I realized it was not worth it. Some investments flop clearly but there are so many that lack ambition, drive, and have absolutely no vision.

[@tinishaturner1849]

I really like seeing dr Bobby Prices personality! This is a really good group of men and dialogue.

[@Sugarglitter]

So the message is what makes a man is, a man that manipulates his girlfriend/wife and living off her until he becomes successful and then leaves or cheats ? LOL What a prize

[@47shadows76]

Well, we still don't know what a woman is so...

[@sydonie22A]

There was a little immaturity in this but I love this❤️❤️

[@MomTheEbayer101]

A little! It was about 80%

[@loveneisha]

You can tell who's married and who isn't. You need to properly vet your panelists next time. This was hard to watch because most of those men were out of their mind. At 20:55 is exactly what's wrong with a lot of bm. Smh

[@sincerelysandi]

The pastor …”we make us everybody” I’m with the pastor. His knowledge was key❤ The doctor said what Catholics do to boys was like wow!!

[@kutloanoloretta6967]

Doc is such a character 😂 loved it ❤️

[@destinyani]

I love to hear men talk with their perspectives and it’s an important conversation ❤

[@angelacoleman2035]

Very eye opening discussion from a male perspective on relationships... This is the first time I've heard what men really want in a woman.. I like the diversity of men on the panel from married to single and dating. Good discussion...👍

[@jadachoates11]

Love Pastor Stephen Chandler! Union Church where you at?! ❤️❤️❤️

[@theetravelhippie]

Why does the woman always have to educate when men have access to the same internet we do?

[@einarnunez1689]

That’s funny 😂

[@lisacox3750]

The last place people need to be educating themselves is from the internet. Not for serious stuff. Just saying.

[@tcg1972]

@@lisacox3750 It's better than doing no research at all and just spouting hearsay and the internet can be a valuable resource if you know what sites usually have accurate information.

[@AleciaRenece]

Like... The men should be in the doctors office with their wives... The men should know just as much (if not more) as the mom. Especially because he needs to support her in every way. These men are lazy at best, or They don't care at worst. It's so sad.

[@rparris27]

The guy in the white sweater is the best at explaining things

[@princedevonbr21]

I always say Lead with Love and Understanding. 🙏🏾

[@uniquelydesignedtv5878]

Wow, I really like that!!!

[@princedevonbr21]

Thanks Everyone. I’ll be sure Tap In 🫶🏾

[@47shadows76]

Pastor Steve is Always on Point. Excellent balance of spiritual leader and cool bro. 😎

[@Potencylogic]

Lies

[@47shadows76]

@@Potencylogic Where's the lie?

[@ymsg1577]

This is powerful seeing us talk on a public stage without foolishness. Much obliged gentlemen!

[@Potencylogic]

Respect to the brother with red shoes.. he’s the realest 🫡

[@amonmayoyo304]

We are trying to make manhood one dimensional while it is multidimensional , being a man is knowing who to be in the right space

[@angellebvi4784]

Amazing conversation. The perspectives bring life and hope to women who have withered along the way. It also brings much needed clarity. Just as the thoughts conflicted here on stage every perspective women think about has been covered. Appreciated

[@denysebenjamin2283]

This panel is a worldly panel, I will not take advice from these men. Ladies study your Bible so you can see the devil in sight.

[@fhl1369]

You are correct and wise and most importantly you listen to the Holy Spirit. There are very few men on that panel that follow God Almighty s word. Ladies beware of most of these men that are single thinking cheating is fine and man's physical needs come first and for the married ones that think cheating is ok and just care about the man's physical needs first shame on them. None of that panel that believe it's natural to go against God's word should be preaching anything but to put God first and obey God's word. I dare you to disagree with God. You won't win but face terrible consequences. Guaranteed

[@AleciaRenece]

Thank you so much for saying this. I'm surprised so many people are supporting this nonsense and trash. It's so disappointing. I wouldn't have even posted this.

[@fhl1369]

@@AleciaRenece I wouldn't have posted these men discussing nonsense either if I were them. I just think they are worldly and do not have the Holy Spirit wisdom. They are promoting evil thoughts that are not of God and we needed to call them out.

[@Vonbe]

This was pretty good. I loved the variety of male perspectives!

[@cherylbuckingham7026]

This panel needs Dr. Phil FR FR!

[@DraiAKA]

This was a quality conversation. I loved the dialog around the first question. Hearing the men define manhood is something I've never heard asked before. Great discussion, fellas.

[@latricenarcisse5426]

Pastor Stephen 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 always gets it right!!!!

[@zaynayoung2780]

Does he stream his service? I may need to do a virtual visit. What's the name of his church please?

[@emidaria7942]

@@zaynayoung2780 Union Church! and they do have online services on their website

[@joystratton4658]

Dr. Bobby is the most mature person on this panel!! They need to let him speak

[@keke410]

I smiled when I saw this. Blk men having an intelligent conversation. Bring us more .....

[@truh_von_tay]

Buddy with the dreads is a gump. He one of them “woke” “alpha” boys. He need to read more books.

[@TBland-ir8kl]

Nah. Maybe stop reading those books! That's why he's so messed up.

[@truh_von_tay]

@@TBland-ir8kl 😂 right. That manosphere stuff is crazy. It’s simple: find your purpose, find a woman to help you fulfill it, serve others.

[@mimimi9326]

yup. I only recognize him out of these guys bcuz i have seen some videos on IG reels and it was toxic. Blocked him after that

[@cozyatcocos]

i’m disappointed at some of the responses from you young men. Everybody’s into outer appearance, healthy eating blah se skip It doesn’t matter if you have a healthy body if your spirit and soul is not in alignment with discipline first and foremost a relationship with your higher power, that will keep you because you can’t keep yourself.! This is why I see more and more sisters staying by their self or unfortunately, moving on to different races! I myself wont go there, but if this is the display in the mindset of our man, what’s the point of trying with you? Thank you to the pastors. We’re trying to break it down to you but you can’t hear you think that you’re worth a lot by your physical appearance will fade and nobody’s gonna put up with your BS. When you’re shallow, everybody can see the depth of you! Smh i’m praying for your brothers and I hope that you put a panel women on here season and young ones so that we can really get a handle on the breakdown of communication and healthy relationships in the black community. get it together brothers sisters are tired of you!!! I have some beautiful daughters and you single man you would not be the type of man that I was one of them. I am not a Christian woman so don’t get it twisted but I do know what is right and I do have a relationship with my higher power! I’m tired of everybody looking at black man and thinking you guys are a joke and don’t take yourself seriously but come on now you gotta stop and listen to what you said in this video and step it up!!!! Smh

[@HealLove_Prosper]

This is in response to the 44:00 min mark(roughly) in regards to Love doesn't sustain a marriage. Love is THE only thing that will sustain a marriage the problem is we really don't know how to love or what it means to love. When people talk about legacy that's a word that satisfies the flesh and the ego. The enemy would absolutely love for us to think that it's about legacy instead of love. GOD IS LOVE and when you establish your marriage on Love(God) your "legacy" building will take care of itself. Don't be deceived by the devil and have him turn your focus away from love to put your focus on "Man made Legacy". Here is a scripture to meditate on: 1 John 4:8 Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. Amen. and Amen.

[@fhl1369]

You got that right! Praise the Lord!

[@siantelove]

Loved seeing a different side of Dr. Bobby Price. He just comes across as refreshingly masculine.

[@kimmccarley8033]

Dang after hearing how y’all feel about beauty I’m gonna go on and just be single for the rest of my life because now I see that no matter what I have to offer that because I’m not that physically attractive that he’s always gonna be looking. 😔 But I love, love, loved everything about this panel!

[@marvalousmarva9539]

Sistah, know that you are beautiful inside and out. Keep head up high. Know your value.❤❤

[@hyacinthjones1818]

I enjoy listening to the panel, it is interesting to listen to what each man's opinion is whether they are right or wrong. We should have more of these discussions from men. Women could get an idea how men thinks.

[@tinishaturner1849]

Let’s really talk about 50/50… it isn’t just finances. If both parties go to work, who is raising the children? If both parties are going to work, who’s maintaining the home? Who’s Keeping Dr’s appts? Attending parent/teacher meetings? Both parties working and maintaining a home can be done but something will suffer for it. Be it time with family, “lesser important” chores etc. something will lack. 50/50 isn’t just a financial thing. It’s maintaining your lifestyle. We are both always doing 50/50 even if one is a stay at home parent.

[@unbotheredbklyn2789]

I am here for Dr. Price. 😊

[@LH-tc6so]

And as RC Blake's has said your father or father figure may have taught you to be a man but your mother taught you to be a GENTLEMAM whoa boy I wish RC was on this panel!

[@ArmandyLaPearl]

The gentleman in the brown collard shirt says a lot of amazing things

[@angelfire6421]

This was interesting. It was a great conversation. It would have been better without the audience. It felt like going to the movie and having to listen to people yelling at the screen.

[@MomTheEbayer101]

What’s bothering me the most are the women in the back ground clapping at some of the foolishness being spewed out by some of these immature men! Ladies just because it sounds deep doesn’t mean it’s deep! SMH!

[@siantelove]

Clapping and screaming for the foolishness. I was so confused? 😕

[@siantelove]

I loved getting a mature perspective from the older men. They saved this panel 😂

[@LH-tc6so]

I would have loved to have seen RC Blake's on this panel

[@Noise_floorxx]

All I see are 8 broken men with fragile ego, except for the older pastor.

[@loveneisha]

Chile I couldn't even get through it without laughing and yelling at my phone.

[@2881bean]

Jerry Flowers is needed on this panel.

[@jonquindiagan682]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@philiciabernard]

He got BOTH the pastors out of their seats!! 🤣🤣🤣

[@cytinachavis9157]

I'm so glad to hear this discussion.

[@manecajones4022]

Excellent! I enjoyed this, very insightful. Wish the names of the panel were listed somewhere.

[@CeeceeH1819]

Interesting convo, sounds like a group of good men. But a few of them seem to be leading with their flesh. I like good men but want myself a RIGHTEOUS man.

[@demoore5938]

Agreed

[@HelenRodgers-zv1xd]

I believe that women, the right women, help a man become a greater man. They help each other become greater than what or who they were before they met.

[@vanessathomas2965]

I loved truthfulness between this the men on this panel. I agree with some not all of the responses but, enjoyed it non the less.❤

[@fhl1369]

Are these guys pastors? There's not much bible quoting going on here in this discussion. I would advise everyone not to take advice from anyone that is not living the word of the Lord cause it's just hearsay. Be careful

[@AleciaRenece]

Agreed.

[@irenenyonga]

3rd from the right is pastor to Union church, Stephen Chandler. He has some really good advise on marriage, dating but also life in general based off of God’s word.

[@priscillachinsembu4669]

Yeah I really wouldn't listen either😂😂😂 because there's something different when you're being ked by the holy spirit and the word of God.

[@user-ij4sw7tx4o]

There was a little immaturity in this but I love this

[@amonmayoyo304]

Beauty is subjective , beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder

[@ajm935]

I would listen to the happily married men on the stage & not the single guys. The married men seemed to have the most rational and level headed advice. The single guys were real weird with their comments.

[@thetherapeuticcoacht.7260]

Great conversation! This shows that men/black men are dynamic beings and it takes more men to share their personal beliefs and thoughts, so that we can grow together.

[@zaynayoung2780]

LOVED THIS, LEARNED ALOT & AFFIRMED EVEN MORE!!

[@lakeishabradford8793]

I get to pick the vision I submit to! Love this

[@LaTashaChante]

A woman can’t make a man a man, he learns that from another real man…but she does make him develop into her husband

[@ljthirtyfiver]

Buddy is the letterman sweater made a great point. My only concern is that many people that live paycheck to paycheck want to be Rich but don’t want to invest or do what it take in fear of losing what little they have. So it’s the Same as divorce ..many don’t want to lose what they have. Took some serious sacrifice to get rich and/or stay married . Shame people if you want to but let’s understand why

[@ljthirtyfiver]

No scamming bots under this comment . In his name I pray

[@jamillyawalker7946]

No 50/50 financial responsibilities i agree with doc. The women these days who work hard and are boss women who can more than help in the household financially were described in the bible as a Virtuous woman.

[@prosperityprincessprincipl5470]

Absolutely love this segment.

[@seanrumby356]

I agree "NO" Men should not ever identify with being Feminine. But WE are Human and have emotions as well as women. We shall show emotions to things in Life.

[@arlenekbswanson]

Unfortunately a lot of ppl on this panel being vocal but clearly functioning from a place of their own standards….. hearing toxicity here. God should be the standard.

[@jaymorr2414]

My man with the dreads kill all that alpha beta male stuff. You alienate and downplay the good alot of good brothas do because they ain't balling. We all help move the community in a positive direction.

[@jocelynford4209]

Exactly. I agree. His values and viewpoints of manhood and longevity of love & relationships personally don’t align for me.

[@demoore5938]

I agree vehemently with these comments. Focusing more on semantics and “buzzwords” be open to have an expansive mindset. I love sitting in the midst of wise counsel.

[@anthonyhill1858]

this was Legendary

[@DynamicUnoTea]

For a panel about Masculinity, it was mostly about what they want in a woman.

[@khandygurl01]

Right!!! I was like…. This took a turn almost immediately & was no longer about healthy masculinity lmbo

[@Zayindjejfj]

Well yeah... what men desire in a woman is a big part of masculinity. Masculinity is largely designed to attract women.

[@DynamicUnoTea]

@@Zayindjejfj That's weird. Masculinity should be able to exist even if there aren't women around. Because what would become of men if women largely became disinterested in them? Mem would lose a big part of their identity without women.

[@TBland-ir8kl]

Most men cheat?! Where are they getting this from? Maybe in their circles.

[@luckylib]

@whatappme5248 stop you scammer

[@yvettedixon8770]

Honest conversation❤

[@carlean1457]

Best show ever. I am loving this. ❤ Thank you sirs so much.

[@tiffanycrenshaw5421]

Ohhhh this was soooo good therapy indeed 🌹

[@clublulu399]

That single season baby

[@2rich2miss]

Good conversation with good points all around.

[@audreybuchman1972]

Men, HAVE VULNERABLITY, SENSITIVITY, COMPASSION if that's being feminine THEN men have feminine traits. Women, HAVE STRENGTH, ANGER, FORTITUDE so Women have masculine traits.

[@sydonie22A]

I wished this generation of men all had this mindset

[@EnamoredStyle]

What is the gentleman’s name in the white sweater? He has so much wisdom. I would like to listen to more of what he has to say.

[@henrybrown9711]

He is Pastor Stephen Chandler

[@AseARenee]

He’s on KZbin. Union Church, amazing!

[@tjbroussard3524]

Can you add your panels handles in the description for what projects, podcast, or brands they are building?

[@damilolaamusa5588]

The only problem women have with "building with a man" is getting abandoned when things get GOOD.

[@josephjamesiii7669]

Manhood, Womanhood, Generates From; Parenthood, And, God Included In Our Daily Lives, Helps Us To Proceed Forward In Conviction Of Who We Choose To Serve In Our Daily Livelihood

[@jeimyreyestv]

When I hear all this amazing discussion I go back to what God lay on what a man is and a women in the Bible that our guide and rule and if this roles will be the right way we will have no confusion

[@Noise_floorxx]

AMAZING?

[@goingtobe2003]

Hello Mr. AO. It is day 10 of no meat. Thanks for the video.

[@lalaa.291]

This was a great idea.

[@HealthyGMom]

Thank You 🙏🏾

[@janellamurphy5665]

I love these men panel segment discussions!!! Excellent job Anthony Oneal!!! May God continue to bless and use you and these kings for His glory🦁

[@davidowusu9746]

Why is a man always a protector and provider or builder lol. What is a man outside of women and society? Because society and women are going to tell you what they want you to be. I think a man is authentically and unapologetically himself, honest, has his own personal principles not influenced by others that allow him to consciously bear good fruit and not to be compulsive and most importantly, has the COURAGE to follow his truth and to go for what he thinks is best for himself, his family and his community .

[@put_some_english_on_yo_drip]

Should have had Dr Umar there! That would have gotten real interesting👀