Man to Man: Challenging Perceived Masculinity | Karega Bailey and Jay Barnett | Black Love Series

Toxic masculinity. What is it? Is it really an issue or is it some buzzword? We brought in two brothers to have a conversation about masculinity in all forms, but especially centered around being Black men: Karega Bailey, artist, educator, and angel father, and King Jay Barnett, author, speaker, and mental health therapist.
Perhaps more important than the question of what is toxic masculinity is “how do we acknowledge behavior that is toxic that seems to be consistently perpetrated by men”? Honestly, there are so many questions and points asked that this is only one piece of the framework necessary for healing. But we have to start somewhere and this is a great start with two phenomenal brothers.
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[@coachwhitneysmart]

There is nothing more healing and inspiring to me as a Black woman than seeing a group of beautiful Black men who are self-aware and emotionally intelligent, be vulnerable enough to share their inner thoughts and challenges. This is how we help heal each other: holding space, truly listening with our whole bodies and listening to understand and not to respond🙏🏾🥹✊🏾💗🔥🔥🔥

[@sharonroseman5918]

Beautiful conversation between Beautiful, self aware black MEN. KAREGA has such a calmness to his presence

[@tracyb246]

This was broken down so simply. It’s worth a rewatch ✨✨✨

[@nnena3631]

As a note, one premise of the term "toxic masculinity" stemmed from men defining Masculinity by toxic behaviors. In my understanding it was not a matter of villifying Masculinity but villifying the expression of harmful behaviors categorized as "Masculinity." There has been very little pushback from men up until now regarding this concept because one of its earlier iterations was "man's nature" whereby men were often excused for displaying negative nehaviors under the premise that they just couldn't help it bc they were a man, and that's just what they do, i.e. fits of anger, cheating, not communication, lack of self control/regulation etc. This served men by providing a scapegoat for them to hide behind. Admittedly "toxic Masculinity" has become anything people don't like. Healthy balanced masculine expression is as necessary as feminine. Recalibration is necessary. In this video, it's good to redefine the premise that Masculinity is nuanced, encompassing assertive, non aggressive traits. This is a message most NEVER hear, or embrace.

[@malambongwenya9617]

So succinctly put I concur its not as you said it's not villifying it but calling out the toxic behaviors allowed or given a pass saying it's the innate nature then perpetuated until it's a norm which is being highlighted.

[@kiyawilliams3140]

This was amazing to see as a black woman. My teenage son will be watching. ❤

[@debrawilliams2781]

It wonderful to hear dialogue with 3 beautiful Black Men. God Bless! I think a good starting point for men is for the more knowledgeable ones get together on the regular with less fortunate ones where you get to have open dialogue where you come in peace, egos left at the door, no judgements allowed and there is free talk, period! Where women talk freely and truthfully, good or bad unfortunately MEN DO Not HAVE that, they mostly BS WITH EACH OTHER!

[@inthereign]

This was so massively transparent and inspiring! Thank you Black men for breaking past every negative thing that the world labeled you and breaking new ground for men to show up and get the unity, clarity, strength and transparency that is so needed for our leaders to become the leaders GOD made you to be!

[@divifemtv]

Give yourself grace for the daily practice... Whew! 🙌🏾 Beautiful conversation💛💛💛

[@vjsim1]

You men made me cry (in a healing way). I learned so much from this conversation. Beautiful.

[@marvinrobinson2767]

… dopeness 🔥🔥 I’m connected & familiar w/ Jay … but Karega is just as relatable in his calmness.

[@shescultivating]

So much poetry in this conversation.

[@shavonhampton3535]

This is a powerful collaboration! I love the language of these brothers. It’s masculinity at it’s best. It’s beautiful. Beautiful masculinity. I love their work individually, so to see & hear them together is just beautiful.

[@shanialeann1248]

I loved this conversation so much. It was so refreshing, revitalizing, and restorative to me because a young female I try my best to give men the freedom and the space to be themselves but the grace to continually evolve. I love Jay's mantra if you will, "that a man who finds his voice finds his way", but I'd take it a step further not excluding the focus and say that a people who find their voice will find there way. An today i'd argue that today the Black community is full steam ahead in that regard to evoke sustainable change.

[@enolagoodman]

This was really, God. Thank you, guys. Much Love❤

[@129_C0ll]

These 2 men….. I can never turn away when either of them talk. They always leave me speechless!

[@fazetharu6826]

It’s me I’m nigkas but I’m watching these videos trying to be a better version of myself for myself and my community around me. And I preciate you brothers for the content that’s helping me on this journey

[@kimberlyw8666]

All I can say is BEAUTIFUL ❤

[@armonieasley1788]

Just thank you for BEING! This absolutely is amazing!🔋👑👑👑

[@imaninyla]

I am here for people being honest, accountable, and intentional.

[@jamesbond6501]

Definitely have felt that happiness was not a thought just work

[@ShadyBabe31]

As a woman this was beautifully said … thank you 🙏🏾 for this wisdom

[@shanesalomon7191]

This podcast spoke on everything I’m going through right now. Right now I am experiencing anxiety/panic disorder and I’m learning what I been needing for myself from myself. Im learning to love myself, what it means to show myself grace, and to be proud of myself. Yeah, this was an amazing podcast!

[@princessreesepieces]

This is very insightful ....understanding principles of male/female energies and the correlation to power/authority/presence/etc. Sharing this. Thank you

[@MsHJones]

This was BEAUTIFUL.

[@albertbrown359]

Masculinity is connected to the nature that a man is created.Not only our physical appearance but our thought processes as responsible beings.

[@Shaqt0418]

Thank you for this conversation guys. Really

[@revriggs]

Y'all helping me brothers! 😭

[@SiriusAspirations]

Such a beautiful powerful conversation, so needed by our brothers ❣️

[@abhitaaustin3384]

This conversation is so incredible! Thank you! Shared it already with so many of my peeps.

[@pamcochran2546]

Thank you so much for being the two gentlemen on learned so much 💛💛

[@sonniebates4989]

A Master Class. THEE most enlightening and insightful conversation facilitated by men I’ve ever heard. Captivating.

[@JessicaWhiteheadAKA]

Powerful.....in every aspect !!!!

[@jadeclement4175]

This was amazing 👏

[@lasavinegivens9295]

I can listen to these type of men talk all day. Why? Their energy is inviting, calm and a secure place . They all speak in a matter they are heard , and it is not a debate. This is what make women feel safe. They are coming from healed place.

[@AlchemyGames88]

This is an amazing discussion for both men and women. I wish I could blast this all over the world ❤ . It so important especially to our black men to give themselves grace first that habit will naturally envolve into giving the rest of the world and your especially your partner the spcae to be human

[@kwamestar968]

Insightful

[@karenowens4504]

Tracy B I agree.

[@Cierra00x]

Great discussion

[@nathanjosephalard]

As men, we have the capability to hurt and love. It's condescending to say that women dont have the same. Emotional control is required, period - it's not a masculine vs. feminine issue - the masculine vs. feminine conversation is foundational to feminism.

[@HelloMsSongbird]

I HAD TO CLICK!!!

[@dwightwatson6895]

This is my tribe and train of thought. Found through random search.

[@fechina1]

❤❤❤❤

[@patriciashort7908]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@helifynoe9930]

"Man to Man". Well that's new. All I have been hearing about lately is man to woman, or woman to man.

[@ladymaefire]

❤🙏🏽💕

[@lionmd1]

What are those containers with the green top?

[@jamesbond6501]

Still go dance

[@nkhen_c357]

The two men look like brothers.....