Exposing Trisha Paytas' Disturbing History of Abuse

[@iNabber]

Please like this video, and comment beans or something, interaction really helps boost these videos more than you know - subscribe too if you forget x

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[@iNabber]

also i deeply apologise for that intro, me and jacket were losing our minds

[@CJ-qm9xz]

you shut your mouth, that intro was everything ily

[@bottleflipbabysandbananas]

The intro was good!

[@ninagee2513]

the intro was absolutely hilarious, don’t apologize

[@CheekieCharlie]

Were?

[@ThePestyHun]

I like that you liked your comment lol 😆

[@ghost-husband]

As a dude who's been SA'd, the way he so casually admits they forced themselves on him sexually was heartbreaking. I hope he gets away from Trisha soon because no one deserves to be abused like this.

[@thetea4093]

I’m so sorry that happened to you, I hope you’re doing better now

[@infinite_pest]

stop using they/them pronouns for trish. saying she's nonbinary for views, kind of cheapens it for people who actually identify that way

[@ghost-husband]

@@infinite_pest I understand that but like I don't wanna misgender someone just because I suspect that they're not actually trans.

[@Syphrilyn]

@@infinite_pest Views? You mean likes right? Also, I'm pretty sure the post didn't get likes for they/them pronouns. Speaking for me personally I use they/them pronouns for everyone out of habit because I don't know a lot of peoples gender because the internet allows a lot of anonymity. I dont think jas had any ill intention with using those pronouns. (Saying this as a person who uses he/they as his pronouns)

[@infinite_pest]

@@Syphrilyn no,. idiot. i mean views.

[@twentysevenhundredseasons7068]

THIS is why when people say they’re concerned for her child I don’t think it’s punching down… I’m not saying she won’t/can’t be a good mom, but if she treats her kid even 1% like she acts on the Internet, that kid will have issues… I’m not even sorry about it. I’ll never bully her or comment on her stuff about it, I’m just saying, her kids well-being isn’t off limits..,,if she’s had psychical or emotional abusive behavior with all her partners, she can certainly have them with her kid. I hope I’m wrong. I sincerely hope I’m wrong.

[@hibiscustea9274]

not even that, the kid will get messed up regardless even if she did or didn't treat it the same way because of association and knowing exactly who Trisha's kid is. There's also the fact the kid later down the line finding out about Trisha from either genuinely concerned people or classmates

[@Smaugette]

@@hibiscustea9274 I can see parents knowing what she's about and not letting their kids play with hers. Sucks for the kids.

[@spinasoul]

Even if they treat your child like they rule the world the kid will see how she treats her partners and will believe that is normal, not an issue and will grow up to be an abuser, for sure the child could grow up happy but growing up happy in an enviroment that tells you that you can be a terrible person with your partners and suffer no consequences will affect them in the long term (to their overall happiness and mental health)

[@Handle70770]

The rest of the world is going to have to deal with her child. I’m gonna say it, she’s a bad mom. That child is going to be spoiled, not have proper emotional regulation and there is no saving any level of intelligence. She’s a bad mom.

[@ciera1647]

Dude I didn't even know she had a kid XD so much happens with her like 24/7 XD

[@oh-no-plz-no2299]

It's seriously scary what people will ignore online just because they like that person. I don't know how people can still support Trisha, they have never once been legitimately remorseful or changed.

[@nunyabusinessllc]

I think the people that ignore Trisha‘s behavior are people who relate to her and are just like her. That’s the only explanation I can think of for why she still has fans

[@TheNamesAllison]

Yeah. I can't stand people who think "She's playing a character" is a valid excuse. It's actually scary that people think that's ok. Edit: Also it's scary how much mental health has been exploited recently. There's so much corruption... I really feel that we're at a point where either we're going to fight for what's right or lay down & allow corruption to continue to win. & if it wins then there's no hope for us.

[@lav3nderbees]

people support her because they feel bad about her stories about her eating disorder

[@mykaruest3620]

Because nobody knows 100% if this real or just some elaborate gags or skits.

[@11amanie]

i love trish haha

[@emanon9084]

What I find gross is how in the tiktok, she can laugh at Moses as he puts his fingers down for every horrible, abusive, and toxic thing she's done to him, but the SECOND she's able to put her finger down for something, it's like she holds all this power. Now she's all "SEE??? I'M A VICTIM TOO!!! SEE??? TOLD YOU THIS HAPPENS TO ME!!" and that's super manipulative. Waiting for your chance to strike and then making it seem like it's worse, or worse, like it somehow justifies what you've done to the other person. Her 1 finger vs his 8 fingers down she thinks that her SINGLE one holds some kind of significant weight to validate her behavior.

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

This is what abusers do: play the victim. Cultivate sympathy and pity. Reverse the order of victim and offender.

[@Astarion_ruined_my_life]

Came to the comments to say exactly this. It's so fucking gross that she just laughs at the abuse she does to him. like "haha im so quirky and ill get away with this cause im a woman with blonde hair and blue eyes. teehee."

[@shadehdin2210]

Completely agreed. She will never apologize or state she’s in the wrong. Just make lies and excuses for her behavior. Back in another of David’s videos she said she gave Jason a h**djob while he was asleep while laughing it off.

[@futuristicgirl14]

@@Astarion_ruined_my_life too bad she’s also 80% filler, fake, and obese. I feel like the blonde hair blue eyes thing is moot here

[@lilacmarble8720]

my jaw actually dropped when i saw that tik tok. like everytime he put a finger down he looked at her first, and all she could do is laugh. actually so terrible i feel awful for him

[@FateWorseThanDeath]

I find it interesting how when she was the abused she was "in an abusive relationship" but when she was the abuser she had "an altercation where she got out of hand" 🤔🤔

[@Adorablepizza146]

I noticed she said that too. It's like she is trying to lessen the blow of what a terrible partner/person she is.

[@SH-py7qj]

She was never abused. She was always the abusers but manipulated her audience to believe that.

[@quinn799]

Fraser, this wasn’t “possibly” abusive. He put his finger down for “have they ever forced themselves on you sexually”. THAT IS R*PE or at the very least SA. It’s beyond abusive, it’s horrifying and criminal. No two ways about it.

[@bfp909]

flabbergasted that Moses has normalized that so much he casually put his finger down in a game like this?? admitting to it in a tiktok? insane

[@alexvessel2498]

I think they said "possible abuse" for legal reasons. It's why you'll hear content creators say "They allegedly did xyz..." They can get in trouble for saying outright "they did xyz..." It seems small, but youtube's terms of service and the actual law are both weirdly specific in what could potentially be labeled as slander or disinformation. They seem to not definitively say if somebody did something or not. They just say "alleged" or in this case "possibly"

[@sofiarodriguez6768]

Hey while I agree with you I'm almost certain they use the word "possibly" because it could get them sued otherwise. Same with words like "allegedly".

[@quinn799]

@@sofiarodriguez6768 I didn’t use the right word, I remember that part felt genuine unlike in my opinion and stuff

[@theflowerhead]

You're right. It's a hard topic to cover. I guess it's good to be careful since it was a tik-tok trend and just a finger down? (Fuck, I hope she didn't. But it's scary.) But it made me EXTREMELY uncomfortable. Also, that anyone thinks that's okay and entertaining, it's "funny"..like wtf people. Even if it didn't happen you're still gross Trisha!!

[@DragonHotCoffee]

"If they ever forced you s**ually" is a big no no from me. That person is abusive full stop and if the victim can get out, it would be best

[@softly_l0ving]

Sometimes I forget she exists and I wish it stayed that way

[@emmmahezw]

I always forget until something wild happens, which it inevitably does. I really hope she’s not lying about actually getting help, because she truly needs it. Now, she really needs to try and get her issues in check. She’s having a child, and the thought of her mentally and emotionally abusing her child is disgusting

[@indiashante1560]

I do too until she hasn't another big drama filled moment lol

[@killermiller1980]

I feel this comment throughout my soul.

[@RealElongatedMuskrat]

not only that, but I forget that she's pregnant and then feel the rising dread again when I remember

[@Kellz82-p7p]

I've got no doubt that's a very relatable feeling,I'm like with her & that horrific "family" channel 🤡

[@sinclairehiggins4907]

“Its just trisha” feel and sounds like “boys will be boys” like it acknowledges the wrong and give it an excuse all in 3 words

[@PuppyMochi]

Yes this!!

[@Johnathanbyers]

Yeah but thw phrase “boys will be boys” is used to explain by men are loud and rough with each other and how we have high sec drives. It literally is never used as an excuse for men to commit crimes. Shit like this is why no one with a working brain supports modern feminism. You all dont think before you speak

[@des5264]

I wish I could like this a million times. I hate that trisha being a troll excuses all her bullshit

[@katiekatch]

Right! The "boys will be boys" thing was meant for stuff like boys coming home with rips in their knees or scrapes from playing. Now it's just used as an excuse to be shit full people.

[@CosmicAli_TheObserver]

Well said.

[@Karthonic]

Aw, beans! But you're right the "It's Just Trisha" dismissal has definitely caused her to do a lot of harmful shit...because she thinks she won't be held accountable... And if anyone's curious the Wifeys at r/Trishyland have well documented timeliness of all her scandals...

[@nikkydalby7126]

Can’t wait to spend hours browsing & reading everything!

[@nunyabusinessllc]

That’s on Reddit for anyone who was wondering…..Ty wifey

[@WeldingQueen]

Nothing is truly shocking about what she says and does anymore. How else would she stay relevant? Well there are always those ppl that are actual fans 🤔😲 🤯

[@tomato5499]

Shes like a car crash; You get annoyed when people look yet you can't keep yourself from looking either. Its so disastrous that it couldn't get worse yet you still have an urge to look.

[@AmandaDixson]

I stopped listening to anything she says, once I heard her on Ryland's podcast say she trolls everyone on the internet, and her whole online life is one big lie. I can't trust Trisha and neither should anyone else. She's self admitted to being untrustworthy.

[@Imxel21]

Being an ironic fan is the same as an actual fan. You’re still supporting her. I noticed people (who aren’t affected by what she’s said and done) try to use that as an excuse

[@annalysethevexedvixen]

the people that go "don't take her too seriously xx"

[@VeeWholesome]

trisha reminds me of the person in the friend group who always does terrible things and is enabled by everyone else because "it's just (name) being (name). it's what they do." but when it's the decent, can-do-no-wrong friend who makes a mistake, or acts out once, then it's game over for them.

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

oh my god this description of a friendship just forced my eyes open holy shit- this is completely off topic of the video but thank you lmao holy fuck i didn’t realize that’s what the friendship really was. this makes it way easier to come to terms with the break up tysfm

[@VeeWholesome]

@@kirbysthiccthighs hope you're doing okay! 💖

[@dextrition]

its like the whole "boys will be boys" saying. its so toxic and never ends well

[@me-dc8pj]

@@kirbysthiccthighs the same thing happened to me. Hope it gets better for you, if nothing else look forward to their future failure- the best revenge is a huge success as Frank Sinatra said

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

@@VeeWholesome thank you so much💜💜 i’m doing much better than i was a few months ago!! wasn’t easy but things are looking up, lol- def feel free after escaping that one.

[@iambored5585]

Some influencers and celebrities are so bold like they will come onto the internet and admit to literal crimes and times where they broke the law and then get upset when they get called out

[@gptheog4667]

Member that one time we had that president and he was all.. "I COULD SHOOT SOMEBODY IN MIDDLE OF TIMES SQUARE AND NOT LOSE ONE VOTE!!!"...?... Ah yes... Good times...

[@Taywanee]

Like James Charles, Shane Dawson, Jeffree Star…

[@alexeir3690]

This is on my mind now so sorry if it gets said later, but I need to talk about that “toxic relationship” TikTok. I’m so worried about people bc of this platform. There’s a constant romanticizing and fetishizing of really serious problems, and this is one of them. Those “put a finger down if” that Trisha’s partner was responding to? Those are domestic violence. That is the shit that gets you numb going “oh that’s just x” so when they start getting even more controlling and start physically abusing, the victim has normalized it in their head. This is not cute, this is not a “fun couples thing.” This is really dangerous behavior and if you found yourself listening and realizing that your partner does this to you (or that you do this to your partner) please seek help immediately. There are tons of resources from national hotlines to local services and shelters. It’s never too late to get help.

[@lindseystein9676]

It’s messed up that abuse was turned into a fun little game. Is that common on tiktok? I avoid that platform

[@emmmahezw]

I’m really hoping that the kids on tiktok have more sense than that. I mean, kids in the US are seeing so much more violence recently up close. But, that doesn’t mean that most will go out of their way to hurt people. Yes, they develop a sort of tolerance for violence due to exposure. But, most people inherently believe that it’s wrong. Hoping it’s the same for the impressionable people on tiktok. It most likely is. Also, thanks for naming places to get help! I’m a victim of abuse from a partner and his father and stayed for almost 5 years, and people need to know that there is help out there. :)

[@melissashilkoff]

I was thinking the exact same thing. People might even want to be abused just so that they can join in on this wrong trend. It's absolutely terrifying

[@mikalin9286]

@@melissashilkoff there have always been “weirdos” who have loved the Joker and Harley Quinn dynamic abusive relationships (calling my younger self out here too- no shame intended). But I think the kids/ young people will be alright- we all watched our parents scream and fight and divorce or stay together and keep screaming and fighting, most people I have noticed are more invested in making healthy connections romantic or otherwise. Being desensitized to violence doesn’t necessarily mean drawn to it- thankfully.

[@theMoporter]

The trend is usually only used by survivors talking about the trauma inflicted on them, using humour as a coping method. Using it like Trisha and Moses did is bizarre.

[@WhiteRaven696]

Trisha’s outed her ex Sean as gay (mental abuse), held Jason prisoner in her home (emotional abuse) and has beaten Moses (physical abuse). She’s literally the worst you can be.

[@SH-py7qj]

She also beat Jason, had a knife to his throat, sent death threats to this ten year old son, crashed her car into his house while high. Honestly that’s not even the majority of stuff 😮

[@TheFirstHurrah]

​@@SH-py7qjWhoa whoa whoa where did you hear she sent death threats to his son??? I never heard that before. And the knife thing is Bora Bora right? Where was it said she held it to his throat??

[@germanshepherddogs]

She doesn't realize that she has confirmed SO many times on camera admitting to physically hitting and abusing her husband and ex boyfriends. And this can be used against her in a court of law, should Moses choose to prosecute her. Ethan had on a lawyer recently on H3 podcast and specifically asked what is required to sue for domestic abuse and how one incident can indicate a potential pattern and abusive mindset. I'm surprised nobody caught on to what Ethan kept asking about with that lawyer. All I could think of was how Trisha hit Moses.

[@Lind5aywho]

I think Trisha and Onision are of a particular “trolls are funny” generation of KZbin who never evolved past that. Then the trolling blended into their real life and we can no longer tell what is satire and what is real. Unfortunately NOW It’s mostly real…

[@Appazap]

Exactly that

[@laurastall4419]

It's the explanation vs. excuse argument. Mental Illness struggles can *explain* behavior, but it can't *excuse* it. One needs to recognize their own toxic behaviors even if they're struggling! I've been so lucky that some of my friends have remained my friends because I was really hard to get along with in high school lol. It took time but I recognized my behaviors, explained that a lot of it came from my own struggles, but also apologized and acknowledged that there was no excuse!

[@elizabeth-cd9rn]

totally! something i’ve heard people say that i think gets it across well is “your mental illness is not your fault, but it is your responsibility”

[@BankruptMonkey]

I love that you pointed out Trisha has the ability to get therapy and medication so she has even less reason to use Bipolar to excuse being a repeat domestic abuser

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

She mentioned she stopped going to DBT and other treatment for no reason. That's a choice.

[@frankiemckane6314]

Domestic abuser get off on it cause it’s a power exchange while the other person gets weaker. Makes you feel powerful.

[@MaliaMydnight]

I have BPD and I've been in therapy for a year and a half and some change. There. Is. No. Excuse. For. Bad. Behavior. Period. Yes, it was the BPD, but you still did the thing. So recognize it, own up, and apologize. It's that easy. And the only time I've ever hit my husband was when my doctor gave me new meds (with one the of side effects being wanting to unalive and he still gave it to me 🙄) and I had what I needed to do (no, I won't tell you the plan. You don't want to know) and my husband was trying to stop me. I punched his chest, and he got me in a bear hug and held on as I fought and screamed at him that I HAD to do it, and when I wore myself out, he put me to bed and stroked my hair while I cried. The doctor got a very colorfully worded call the next day. But that's still not okay. I had no control over myself. I was truly insane during the hours it took. But that's still not okay, and I apologize to him, and he said it was fine, just so long as I don't take another. I said never again. I don't understand why Trisha would side with Amber just because of the mental illness. NO. It's already bad, WE DON'T NEED MORE STIGMA. A personality disorder is a disorder that's literally in the name. It's like this: It's Halloween, and you go to a themed party. Let's say Roman era themed just for funsies. Men and women in robes, some wearing armor, and so on. Now, you know most of these people, they're your friends, and wearing a toga or Roman armor hasn't changed their individuality; of course not, that'd be ridiculous. It's the same with a personality disorder, except NO ONE wants to be here. Regardless of what three letter diagnosis they have, it's a themed party. They're all wearing the themed costumes, but in doing so, they too still have their individuality. Because it's severely personal. You may have a bad run in with someone with BPD, and left you traumatized. But that was them. They have their own problems and are probably refusing treatment. That doesn't mean the next person with BPD will act like them or treat you the way they did. We're still actual people under those words. I'm gonna stop ranting. 😅😂

[@notexactlyscience]

I have BPD too!! I appreciate everything you said. It’s hard to look at ourselves and realise we have flaws, but I’m proud of us.

[@katarzynarymszo929]

I 100% agree. Yes BPD can make you impulsive, sometimes manipulative and harmful towards others - although that's not the case for everybody because there are diffrent types of BPD and you know everybody with this disorder is diffrent and not only people with BPD end up abusive - but that doesn't Mean we can do whatever we want. Especially that there are meds that can help manage your symptoms and therapy that can put you into remision. Period. If you fucked up admit it, apologize and try to break pattern and learn new coping skills. There is no excuse to keep doing harm to yourself and others especially if you love them

[@katarzynarymszo929]

Also yes Amber Heard and Trisha unfortunally are participate in stigmatization of BPD. Because not everybody with this disorder done things like that. There are 200 ways or even more that BPD can manifest and there is even silent BPD. It is just like looking at every people with Bipolar disorder through the prisma of Kanye West.

[@jeishiikanzaki]

It hurt watching Moses while Trisha sat there and laughed like it's okay that they did these things.

[@15mxr07k]

I have BPD and while it’s difficult to deal with, I’m in no way an abuser… it’s maybe a reason to have difficulties but in no way an excuse for abuse. Get help, get therapy, get yourself under control before you date people and hurt them.

[@soccersinger101]

Trisha is a person who literally profits off of saying anything that is controversial, she say one thing rides from the publicity high and then says something else when she realizes people are somewhat over it, she says something else but this time she slipped up and actually exposed how awful she actually is and she's trying to cover that.

[@vntajones]

Isn’t Moses her husband baby daddy a rapist too

[@madmadammim1971]

*they

[@stagecoachmmc]

@@madmadammim1971 Trisha actually uses she/they now so using either of those is okay to her! /nm

[@heatherhauna923]

​@@madmadammim1971 smdh 😂

[@SH-py7qj]

@@madmadammim1971 she claimed she’s a cow woman *cis woman but I’m keeping that typo there lol

[@tiredallthetime1636]

I’m so genuinely concerned for her child, she clearly has been abusive both physically and emotionally the entire time she’s been online. Even if she isn’t physically abusing her child I have no doubt that she will emotionally/verbally abuse them just like she has all her exes and past friends and even people online. She will absolutely manipulate and gaslight them as they get older and fly off the handle as soon as they aren’t doing exactly what she wants. It’s heartbreaking to know what’s going to happen to that child and not being able to do anything about it.

[@minnie_malism]

i mean, she’s most likely narcissistic. i’m a daughter of a narcissist and yeah. it’s pretty bad (i have cptsd among other things).

[@HoneyM1lkart]

​@@minnie_malism same I hope Moses takes the kid and runs

[@tricksfollies9549]

As Mr. Beard said, if anybody other influencer was discovered to be a domestic abuser, their career would instantly be over. Somehow, Trisha is still able to have an audience AND a platform despite all of the harm she has caused. Edit: The only way to get rid of her is to ignore her, that's the only way to finally be free of her.

[@HoneyM1lkart]

Ryan did a great video on her

[@arthurmoganshat3903]

It's honestly so sad that she keeps getting away with this stuff.

[@CWazBroadwayBandGeek]

Trisha has shown time and time again her refusal to change and grow. And with a child on the way, that kid is going to need some serious therapy.

[@kitsa33]

That kid's gonna come to this world with brain damage

[@thevcountdown9824]

Her pregnancy is fake, mark my words. She is faking it all.

[@futuristicgirl14]

It’s so sad that her baby isn’t even out of her body yet and those that know a little about Trisha collectively agree that her child will need therapy

[@SH-py7qj]

People need to stop calling her a troll, the nasty stuff she does is genuine and her victims offline can assure you she doesn’t just stalk and harass for views. Many of her opinions are also genuine and consistent and when she gets backlash is when she acts like it was a troll. That’s why she never faces accountability.

[@evelyn-nm6iy]

literally knowing someone who was abusive and has changed, she clearly has not changed 🤡. people who learn from their mistakes are empathetic and seem to put more effort into it than people who havent gone through that. trisha justs decides what side they'll play today and then runs with it wholeheartedly.

[@chatnoir9038]

I have a bunch of relational trauma. I have been abused and that caused me, in later relationships, to behave in a way that sometimes was abusive. But I'm no longer like that. As a teenager, I had an abusive partner who would manipulate me and destroy my self esteem. He would constantly comment how I wasn't pretty enough and compare me to others. He would suggest that I dye my hair, change the way I dress, do plastic surgery etc. He would also be super shady and disappear on me, not answering for a few days, and would openly flirt with other people. He would also be very impulsive, aggressive and reckless with alcohol, and would get himself into very dangerous situations. I was constantly worried about his safety. He also did some other things to me that I don't want to even mention here. This relationship left me with so much insecurity and mistrust. When I started dating my now-partner, I was honestly shitty. I was very jealous, didn't trust him, I would constantly ask who he was talking to, I would read through who he followed on social media. I would even get triggered when he commented positively (even when respectfully) on a celebrity's appearance. I still felt I was not good enough, that someone would try to take him away from me. We got into arguments. Then I decided that I really want to make the relationship work, and that meant I had to work on my issues. I started introspecting and connecting dots about my childhood and past relationship, and reading up on C-PTSD. This gave me tools to survive. I would still get triggered, but now I could separate that reaction from who I was as a person and what I actually believed to be true. I would explain my feelings to my partner every time it happened. I would say something like "I'm going through this trauma reaction now, that's why I'm upset. It's not your fault, you didn't do anything wrong, it's just something that happened before that causes me to react when I'm reminded of it. I know that you are a good person and I love you". He would then reassure me, hold me, and then slowly, it started getting better. I would get less reactive, and I would, even when triggered, stay in a more calm state and internally evaluate the feeling I had, whether to trust it or not. When I slipped up, I would always apologize and work to genuinely make amends and learn. Nowadays, I don't really experience that pathological jealousy anymore. I actually trust my partner. My partner offering me a stable environment for this emotional work was invaluable, I could not have done it in a volatile relationship. Discovering feminism also helped, as I started to empathize with women and I would no longer see them negatively, as a threat or my competitors. This helped so much. I no longer strive for male-defined perfection in my looks in an effort to stop people from leaving me. I dress to express myself. I feel free. I trust that my partner is with me because he loves me, for all that I am. Even if we break up someday, I will survive and someday I might find someone else, or I will learn to be happy alone. I guess my point is just that yes, people can absolutely change, but it needs serious work. And that work has to come from the person themselves and it needs to be a continuous effort and lifelong commitment to do better.

[@jasminelavonne]

@@chatnoir9038 Thank you for sharing your story, I've suffered many years with those traumas and have spent many more trying to correct them all. Boy is it a mother f*cker. This gives me hope that all my hard work isn't in vain💪🏾

[@theMoporter]

@@chatnoir9038 This is such a great comment, thank you for sharing. I don't have the same experiences as you, but from my own CPTSD from being abused: it gets better. We'll never be "cured", but it does get less severe, we get better at coping with our triggers, the pain dulls. In those hard moments, remember that things won't be this way forever ❤️

[@katarzynarymszo929]

​@@chatnoir9038Thank you both for your comments! It is giving me as a person who also went from traumatic experiences and developed BPD because of that Hope that I can change and that If I continue my therapy and taking meds I will get better. I wish you a good luck in your recovery

[@anachronism5271]

While untreated mental illness can explain a lot of things, it doesn't EXCUSE it. And I don't think they realize that difference.

[@elizabeth-cd9rn]

yes! as a fan of true crime, i hear a lot of people say “oh well they had these disorders so it’s not their fault” or “they were abused in the past so it’s not their fault they’re a serial killer.” the thing is, while these horrible things aren’t your fault, you are still responsible for your actions. plenty of people are mentally ill and have been abused but don’t turn out to be the worst possible kind of person.

[@katarzynarymszo929]

Yep. It is an explanation of behaviours but the decision to continue in toxic cycle depends on the person. Of course Mania/hypomania, BPD, NPD etc untreated can cause harm but that doesn't Mean person Has to be patrionize. People without the Mental Health issues also can be violent or abusive. That is sad truth. And not everybody with mental illness will be harmful

[@melissashilkoff]

When she says "yeah" at 18:35 she's acting like what she did was so cute and adorable! That was a completely nauseating moment from an absolute devil of a person. I find it so incredible offensive when people excuse their behavior because of their metal illnesses. I suffer from multiple mental illnesses and I would NEVER in a million years abuse my partner or anyone else in my life. It just makes me want to cry when I hear those reasons. Finally, my god, I'm sure it was so scary being the abuser. It must have been the scariest thing that has ever happened to her. I'm sure she was so much more scared than the person she was abusing.

[@letterborneVods]

As someone with illnesses as well I believe they can, by themselves, be the reason why one might lash out or be very irritable. I’m often this way and can be quite bitchy. But for everything beyond that, imo the person needs something I call the ‘a-hole gene’ in order to ever act like that. Mental distress might make you upset or frightened, but maliciously hurting other people to that extend? No. You just must be an a-hole. (I use that word to keep it light btw, abusers are definitely a lot more than that.)

[@ghost-husband]

I do get it to some extent since having mental illnesses sometimes makes you hurt people around you without meaning to but obviously abuse is a completely different thing. Mental illnesses isn't an excuse to abuse your partner. I really hate the way they react to him admitting to the abuse but it especially hit me hard the way he so casually admits to the SA/R*pe :/

[@KawaiiSemeKiller]

As a dude who’s been mentally abused by a woman, it’s just really.. really hard to see Moses be laughed at by her as he admits to what she did to him with the fingers down.

[@futuristicgirl14]

Too bad Moses is a borderline rapist

[@HoneyM1lkart]

I hope he runs

[@alexeirahfao5414]

beans as horrific as this was to watch, it's important to spread the information around! Good job in managing to get through all of this yourself and researching it all. I echo your ending sentiment, in that I hope people can just stop supporting stuff like this and making safe spaces for these kinds of abusers.

[@sami_the_neko2475]

Seeing things like this terrifies me for the child that's growing inside her right now. Like I can't imagine what their life is gonna be like, because I genuinely don't think she'll have one of those 'child gives clarity to do better' types of moments. I fear for that child's safety and life in general because of how she is, and 'its just trisha' will probably allow it to go on way too long :((

[@vickiemouse236]

Sad! She will probably use this innocent baby to make money! I Pray that doesn’t happen 🙏🏻🕊✝️🌸♥️

[@maiajarvis404]

Beans. Always love your content as it's easy to follow and frankly, bloody hilarious. You kept me entertained through the pandemic, through having my first leg broken. And now I'm still enjoying it while recovering from having my second leg broken. Hope Kenji is well and all hail the king of lovely dumplings.

[@OMG1BECKY1]

Do you owe the mob money?

[@maiajarvis404]

@@OMG1BECKY1 Nah it was the Duolingo bird. I missed one to many Spanish lessons...

[@arrianacorr]

You’re so funny haha. Fraser kept me entertained through the pandemic too. I hope you heal well and are okay!

[@maiajarvis404]

@@arrianacorr thank you kind stranger :)

[@lureyas]

trisha paytas' existence confuses me, not in a mean way but just like...idk im constantly confused

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

She cultivates a wacky bimbo personality for two reasons: to troll people for clout/money and for plausible deniability. Just like Boris Johnson plays a goofball so people see him as less toxic than he is.

[@miss_fit]

As much as I disagree with making any sort of content giving this person any attention whatsoever, I'm really glad you made this video.

[@jaimereynolds258]

Thank you for talking about this.

[@iNabber]

thank you for watching and supporting :)

[@JadoDog]

I mean, it's not just a Trisha issue. Her audience and society has an issue as well. We saw it happen with Trump, but for some reason, when a public figure admits to heinous actions in a casual manner, people just take the information casually. It's like the public figure becomes an authority on the matter which translates in peoples' heads as, "Well she's not acting like it's that big of a deal, so I guess it's not that big of a deal".

[@SH-py7qj]

Completely agree. She’s admitted to rape multiple times over years! It’s crazy.

[@Jenny_andy]

At this point nothing we find out about her surprises me anymore

[@yeoldehotdog306]

To anyone who has read or heard someone read Trisha's book; the fact she has SA'd Moses isn't a surprise.

[@Emily-rm4je]

i remember the whole frenemies james charles and david dobrik exposing era really made me think that trisha was putting in the work to become a better person. it’s a shame really.

[@sungie_soongie8842]

the thing here is that absolutely nothing about that woman will ever surprise me anymore. she's done so many terrible things that at this point you could tell me she actually murdered somebody and i wouldn't be shocked.

[@RavenWing1972]

I'm a survivor of SA, and my abuser was a narcissist. It's been 15 years since it happened and I still suffer with C-PTSD and night terrors as well as a number of other mental illnesses. Every single day is a struggle but that would not be an excuse for me to abuse another person.

[@kmaree2603]

Thank you for making this video. She needs to be continuously called out. She really should’ve been cancelled so long ago, she’s done so many bad things it’s insane

[@darthowen7210]

At this point I’m starting to believe Trisha does things like this to purposely start drama and stay relevant cos no one would talk about her otherwise

[@yukikanegawa7470]

Nah, Trisha just doesn't realize what she's doing is bad or why others would think it's unjustified. It's too long for a long con.

[@miranda13c]

That is 100% what she does. She has done that from the beginning basically. She isn’t getting enough attention over her pregnancy so she knew that bringing up Amber Heard and RELATING to her would cause the drama and attention that she desperately craves.

[@hanner8830]

You’re JUST starting to think that? Bless your heart, I wish I had that much faith in humanity 😁

[@darthowen7210]

@@hanner8830 I haven’t paid any attention to Trisha at all in the past 2 years but after seeing this I realise why people are talking about her so much

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

without a doubt. she’s always been the attention seeker/problematic loud creator.

[@nos5915]

she is ACTIVELY gloating about being abusive??

[@RockstarWolfie]

Idk if iNabber has an editor or if it’s just him, but either way the editing makes the video even more hilarious and easier to comprehend and stay interested in

[@shazzydeal9605]

As someone who's son attempted to unlife himself due to DV I want people to know how serious this situation is for men. When we went looking for help for my son we discovered that there was 3 options for men for an ENTIRE state while there for 8 options in one town for women, We need to encourage, support and believe men when they come forward and not make them feel weak or 'less of a man' for doing so. At least when a women is being abused she can fight back, men are simply not allowed to. I'm saying this as someone who was beaten by a man so badly that I was blind for 3 weeks & was left with a broken jaw.

[@helenlesley9509]

I agree with you 1000%

[@theMoporter]

There's not really an "at least" here. If you get police coming out who are abusers themselves, they always side with the abusers, and there's upwards of 40% chance that will happen. All those women's shelters are a way to support women victims when the police are far more likely than not to ignore or abuse them themselves. The fact that these shelters are often full is a damning indictment of how women victims are treated. However, that's no excuse for the shockingly low availability of unisex and men's shelters. Police are only slightly less likely to discriminate against them, and even less likely if they're not white or straight or abled. Male victims are so often weaponised by misogynists that they end up getting tarred with the same label. I can't imagine how awful it must be to come forward about abuse as a man and see thousands of hate-filled bigots use that as an excuse to dismiss or attack other survivors just because they're women. Only being believed when it's convenient for horrible people. That in turn is used by ignorant assholes to equate protecting victimised men with bigotry. It's an awful situation for absolutely everyone and it only hurts survivors the most.

[@thevcountdown9824]

Omg I hope you and your son are ok now

[@shazzydeal9605]

@@theMoporter I, in parts, agree with you but as someone who has experienced it from both sides I can only speak from my experience. When I was abused the police instantly arrested my male abuser. with only my injuries as evidence as at the time I could not speak Yet when my sons abuser beat his face in, stabbed him and left more than enough psychical evidence but HE was questioned first and asked if he had put his hands on her and even had an officer say to him ' Well why would she hit you first when you're bigger than her' She breeched the DV order 18 times and he was told by police that she's not a threat to you, she's half your size and female'' EXACT WORDS SAID! She showed up at his work and attacked him in front on an entire bar and the police told him to simply ignore you. 'She's smaller than you' If a man had done the same he would have been arrested, there is no doubting that. It has now been 6 years since this has happened and she was charged two years after the incidents and that only happened because we paid for a lawyer to get involved. There is so much evidence, including her telling an officer to his face that she will do it again and there is nothing they can do about it, letters, phone calls, video evidence that is clear and has her stating her name and yet STILL there was no action by the police until my son involved a lawyer.

[@kyatonic1]

Well I totally agree here abuse is abuse and men definitely get taken way less serious

[@loriloeffler5793]

I hate that she's using her pregnancy as a shield. Like she's pregnant so she can't be held accountable due to stress. Well what the heck was she doing when Hila was pregnant she was saying that Ethan SA"d her it was sick. And Hila had a stressful pregnancy. But that doesn't matter because it's always been about Trisha.

[@jennilee4127]

She was so horrible to Hila :(

[@zombiedoll986]

She HATED Hila from the veerryyy beginning, never liked her, never ever. IMO she lowkey had a crush on Ethan and tried to make him feel "jealous" or some kind of way by hooking up with Moses.

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

Hila had a high-risk pregnancy and had a miscarriage before. That didn't stop Trisha from harassing her.

[@Chloe-dn9fg]

It’s horrible, and I just want to know what goes through their head when they put it on the internet for the world to see.

[@chikai.3866]

I remember watching that vlog on David's channel and laughing and then I watched it again when she was on frenemies and would talk about her time with the vlog squad. As I was watching it again I thought yoooo actually this is problematic behavior, right? You can't imprison someone in a room, right? But all the comments were still laughing about the video so I thought maybe I'm being dramatic. And then I watched it again after the Mysterious docuseries came out about Trisha and I recognized it for the abuse that it was. I'm much older than David. I'm surprised at myself for not recognizing it as abusive initially but I guess when the victim and abuser are laughing and minimizing the situation it's easier to find it funny. Bizzare.

[@allandunn6121]

I’ve had shitty mental health for years, never have I ever abused someone. Using mental health as an excuse is fucked

[@deusexmachina2.082]

Trisha only requests empathy for Amber because she sympathizes with what it means to be an abuser. You can't abuse and be sound. As a speculator who indulges in the medical research regarding Psychology, it seems abusive behavior has been normalized in Trisha's life whether that be on her own accord or through learned behaviors. She essentially does not talk about family and so it is easy for one to ponder their contributions to her process because the only others who have been pointed to for this development would be regarding all those involved in the Dobrik times. Her position is that AH is untreated and therefore lacks the need to be accountable for her actions because others did not take responsibility in treating her regardless of the fact that obviously AH rejects professional diagnosis if it does not comfort her even if she scores severe scores for things such as Histrionics or Borderline. This line of thought is not black and white but at the end of the day AH is unwell and simultaneously IS responsible for her own actions albeit the justification and/or excuse and same goes for Trisha. In summary, yes, if either Trisha or Amber had sought diagnosis and had been treated appropriately there is a possibility that neither of them would have committed physical assaults, but that does NOT mean anyone else is to take the blame other than themselves. Psychology is dense and complex but the lay man should not be expected to psychically know these things off the bat to communicate with either of them. In conclusion, you cannot help those that do not want to be helped. Denial is powerful.

[@deusexmachina2.082]

Lastly, Nabber the last half of your video was hard to sit through. It is like listening to the same commentary three times in a row.

[@aftersunrise4410]

Can we all just acknowledge the fact that she ALSO dated someone with DID, and when they broke up, she not only posted multiple videos faking her disorder, but spread tons of misinformation about it too. It was so gross, and made people with DID look really bad. Pls talk about this.

[@nyctologist]

(Were a system but will use "I" to make it easier to read) Im a manic bipolar with DID, ADHD, have depression AMONG so many other things. I have NEVER laid my hand on my partner nor have I EVER abused my partner emotionally or mentally. My partner is ALSO a system with many mental health issues and is the least toxic person and most understanding person I know. I've also been through abusive situations. I completely understand that health can cause abuse, but it cannot, is not, and will not EVER been an EXCUSE for harming another being. Everyone is responsible for their actions and there's always ways to counter the want to hurt someone.

[@jodywelds5379]

I met her in a comic con one time and it was one of the strangest human interactions I’ve even been involved in…

[@jamisonswain149]

Anyone else really proud of how far Inabber has come? Like as a creator, and a person.

[@arrianacorr]

Yes 🙌

[@MateriaHunter]

I wish Sean would come out and tell his truth. He hinted on twitter that he was going to, but never did. Maybe she paid him off. She was so proud of nearly destroying his career, she even bragged on it on "Celebrity" Big Brother.

[@marinap.t.l.1949]

I'm loving these cold opens you've done lately they r always so funny lol

[@oldeskoolnana7543]

I literally fear for her child's well being. 😪

[@SarahAbramova]

That's the drowsy emoji

[@nxcrorat]

Someone needs to call CPS

[@lordfreerealestate8302]

We have to feel sorry for the abused, not for abusers. I've been warning people for years that she was dangerous but people pitied her because she plays the victim. She says "I have mental health struggles" as if that justifies abuse. Also, she's an antisemite - watch Mr. Beard's video.

[@theMoporter]

It's possible to feel empathy for abusers - to understand that they can be lashing out in pain - without acting like mental health excuses everything. There's not really an argument for being empathetic about their antisemitism, though. Really puts those Shane Dawson conspiracy videos in an especially bad light.

[@katarzynarymszo929]

To be honest some abuser turned out abusive because of the abuse that happend to them. I am not saying that is an excuse at the end of the day if you do something horrible that's on you, but that doesn't Mean you can't feel bad for somebody that Turned up that way. Yes of course you should feel for the victim as well because they were Innocent in this. But you know you can understand abusers but also hold them accountable and not excusing their behavior. If you commit a crime or do bad things deal with consequences. And that is problem with Trisha and Amber Heard. Both are in denial and refuse to get help.

[@MF-R]

20:10 Screw her for blaming mania on that. I'm manic/depressive, and the only thing I do when manic is stop eating, sleeping and write a novel in a couple weeks. That's drugs girl. Meth in particular is the devil.

[@autumnatamelias]

You’re so right. She gets away with the unimaginable because “that’s just Trisha” I feel for anyone that comes across her path

[@sadforever0129]

Saying we should empathize with an abuser… bold.

[@rukiasxragettv]

Omg that toxic relationship tiktok is sooooo heart breaking poor Moses

[@stefanieosborne28]

He's a schmuck. He freaking married her after all that! Gotta be for the paycheck. He's even lost close family over that woman. She will forever be vile.

[@scoutdoyle4804]

​@@stefanieosborne28 he's in active abuse. while in active abuse victims will stick by their abuser even at the expense of family

[@GrimmieThePotato]

8:08 I honesty felt his pain. I know from my own experience how horrible it is to be with someone as toxic and vile as that. To always question if you are just overreacting for feeling hurt by how you get treated by your partner. And to constantly feel nervous cuz if you don't answer them in time they'll accuse you of shit or get mad at you for not answering. To question if the things they call you is true. I honestly get that and I hope that at least he got away from her completely because I'd be worried for his mental health if he's still involved with her in any sense. It is horrible though that people like her get away with emotionally abusing someone like that and then the victim just has to sit there and try to move past all the damage the abuser caused. It breaks my heart to know that abusers like her get away with their shit. I hope something will be done about her. And that the way she treated him and other victims won't at least cause too much emotional damage to the victims. I hope they'll stay strong and get justice.

[@zetstra112]

This really needed to be talked about, thank you

[@iNabber]

anytime :)

[@Nicola_Blackwood]

Yeah, I’ve been with my husband almost 13 years and we both have mental health issues of various flavors. We’ve never been in a physical altercation. Or prevented the other person from leaving the house. Or kept each other’s phone or keys hostage.

[@COREcasual]

She just knows that by saying this stuff, she'll get a ton of attention... and it works.

[@r3bkah]

i need an apology, WITH TEARS for the intro

[@LuvHaebom]

while watching this I remembered I had reuploaded the toxic relationship tiktok on my alt channel & when you mentioned the reupload receiving 40k likes, I immediately ran to check out of shock, and my reupload apparently blew up?? I’m glad that I was able to cause more people to see that video because Trish admitting to SA is absolutely horrific. more people need to hold this woman accountable.

[@r3mikk]

Trisha is looking like a real clown🤡🤡🤡 The fact that Trisha has the audacity to make EVERYTHING about herself is disgusting really. She made the whole Texas shooting thing about herself by saying why she isn’t going to bring her kids to a public school, and now she’s making the whole Johnny and Amber situation about herself too😐😐 Also the fact that she’s going to be a mother soon just scares me, I’m praying for that child’s safety. Also thank you for pointing her abuse out🙌🏻🙌🏻

[@javabean4383]

I was gonna make a joke about you not sobbing on the kitchen floor in the intro, but you really did cover all your bases imitating Trisha lmao

[@laurelvirginiamusic]

“It’s just Trisha” has the same sentiment “Boys will be boys”. 🤢

[@JLM498]

She’s a classic narcissist abuser.

[@iambored5585]

Bro I swear I always forget about these people until I’m reminded by you. I love you but at the same time I hate that you remind me of these people.

[@kyrakyra_art]

can i just say i rly appreciate the sound effects when u drink, i cant handle slurping sounds and the effect covering it rly helps

[@industrialover]

Men are also one of the main reasons male victims aren't taken seriously. Not all men, of course, but it's very common for men to downplay other men as victims. The response to the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard case shows that women don't just blindly Trust based on gender. Women tend to sympathize with anyone who claims to be a victim, gender is irrelevant. I've never heard a woman disregard a man claiming to be a victim, not ever. I'm not saying it doesn't happen, I'm just saying it's not very common

[@Sweet_Dee]

You're right, it's hard to believe frenemies existed! It feels more like something my subconscious created in a dream after I fell asleep watching internet trash

[@unxcorn]

fraser pretending to be trisha made my day, the sped up talking just got me-

[@iNabber]

lmaooo

[@joeebiden_]

idk if im gonna be shocked considering she admitted to having physical fights with partners 😭

[@shinypinkachu]

This is so infuriating. I have BPD and I am constantly working against it, and trying to fight the toxic shiz in my brain and doing everything to be a good partner. I’ve done some things (verbal only, but that doesn’t detract from what I’ve done) I deeply, deeply regret and have worked my ass off to be better. It’s not fucking quirky or amusing like Trisha acts like it is. BPD isn’t a get out of jail free card and she, like I have had to, be accountable for her terrible actions. I honestly can say I have improved from my teens/early 20s but it’s still a work in progress. She needs to do the same. Thank you SO much for putting a spotlight on this and trying to get people to hold Trisha accountable. Honestly. I appreciate you, your humour and your way of bringing things to light. 💖

[@RPena98]

This intro alone was amazing, bless you 😂

[@nicoleanderson1462]

I worry for trisha's kids like I worry about Onision's kids.

[@rukiasxragettv]

Trisha paytas : makes video siding wif amber turd Also Trisha paytas: makes video mocking amber turd Inabber to Trisha paytas: why are you the way that you are?

[@sxphinx]

when you mentioned being more mentally stable without twitter tik tok youtube and instagram i FELT that, about 2 weeks ago i deleted twitter and instagram and i only check tik tok when my friends send me videos, granted i am on youtube but i’ve stopped checking the comments so much and i just play random commentary or educational videos while i do other stuff and HONESTLY i feel like i’m in a much better place mentally

[@toyamwarr]

Someone on r/trishyland made the comment that Trisha thinks she’s changed because she’s being confronted on a regular basis by people who challenge her and I think that’s true. Trisha couldn’t handle Frenemies because Ethan is in charge of H3 and Hila is a very successful, secure woman with a husband that loves her, and that made Trisha very insecure. She was constantly needling Ethan about his marriage and having kids because marriage and family are the two things she wanted. As a result, Trisha frequently made hurtful, petty things to Ethan on the podcast to make herself feel better. Now that Trisha’s married and pregnant, she’s happy because she’s always wanted to be a wife and mother. Being home all the time with no one to “compete” with (Trisha is always in competition with other women), Trisha believes her life is great. Unfortunately Trisha doesn’t realize that her real personality still shines through every time her fans ask her a question about her pregnancy she doesn’t want to answer. Trisha getting upset that fans were asking about her glucose test on her live chat is classic Trisha because whenever she’s asked to talk about something specific, her first response is to get upset and claim everyone is hating on her.

[@madelinegates6027]

Your videos are a delight of clever editing and well thought out content! Thank you for creating this!

[@AmoralGremlin]

Me ex used to keep me from leaving high stress situations too - if I tried to fight him to get through he'd choke me out. My current partner experienced his girlfriend doing similar things. People laughing it off are why it took years to get to each other. It's also why it's never been openly acknowledged that we were abused and our reputations got trashed within our own families. We're very happy together and away from that. I think Moses struggles to be able to ask for help when he needs it - or his father just was that strict with him in which he can brush it off. It's amazing what you ccan laugh off when you've been through consistent and persistent abuse. It's brainwashing. He genuinely may not even have the means to get away.

[@jessventures6172]

Giving me Gabby Hanna energy with you furiously typing away at the keyboard lollll

[@onigames7309]

I can't believe there's people still enabling Trisha. How the hell does she have any fans at all anymore? And the people enabling her gross behavior are gross too.

[@DragonHotCoffee]

goddammit I was so happy for like a split second cause I misheard you and thought you said "tiktok has been purged from the internet" IF ONLY

[@harri6399]

Trisha is actually a terrible person but she gets away with everything bc she just doesn’t let herself be cancelled she just plows on It’s like Jimmy Carr he tells some not ok jokes but he’s still about and popular bc he just carries on. She thrives on the controversy so it just goes round in circles

[@Jurnicurn]

same diagnosis if you ask me. Her and Amber both show traits of sever BPD and HPD.

[@sofia-jf8xm]

Trisha doesn’t have bpd. She said her therapist said she has TRAITS meaning she doesn’t meet the full criteria. What she has is NPD 🙃

[@elleash3040]

Not a single soul would be laughing if a male influencer trapped a woman in their house by blocking the door, taking theirs keys and threatening suicide.

[@beans9019]

You’ve been putting out a buffet of content lately yess I’m ready to watch it all 🔥

[@seafairyvods]

*beats pots and pans together* MENTAL HEALTH IS NOT A CRUTCH