Exposure During Devaluation

So you know what you are dealing with and you feel the need to share this information. Is it a good move to expose the narcissist whilst you are being devalued and how will he or she respond if you do?

[@damien706]

Hell is empty, the devils walk among us - Shakespeare

[@teddyscassera55]

I exposed, but not to help him he can't be helped. It was for me to heal. I did it publicly to get it out and move forward. With mutual friends, he was exposed. They supported me, not him. I told him I would do it and I did. People blasted him, because they know me and they also know him. I have no fear of a narcissist, after all you narcissists are so insecure. I win! I am a survivor!

[@sandracicek]

Well done @TeddyScassera - three years of gathering hard evidence from recordings to whereabouts to testimonies from others he cheated with. I'm doing this just like you. People have to finally understand why things changed for me the way they did. It's not about him, it's about me.

[@jassett132]

Great advice!!! Stay quiet, only patience can effectively and safely expose the narc. U have to posses what the narcissist doesn't have; patience and self control to effectively be vindicated!!

[@jimfarris1160]

Don't even bother attempting to expose. Just go live your life, they're not worth the effort.

[@DebraSuttondls]

Narcissist are not some evil demon possessed force. They are people who grew up in an abusive, neglectful household. My father was ASPD. I had one brother, and one sister who were very narcissistic. It is not that they did not have feelings, it is just they were so consumed with their own pain, there was no room for anyone else. Yes they would hurt family and anyone for their own gain. Growing up with them I can see what made them they way they were. You do have to love them from a distance.

[@donna1420]

Not all narcs had abusive childhoods. My ex didn't he is evil for the sake of it

[@pypermae9019]

Excuses. I grew up in a much more toxic and abusive environment then my narcs. I CHOSE TO BECOME A BETTER PERSON, I CHOOSE to treat people with decency love and not try to destroy them. THEY CHOOSE TO BE THE WAY THEY ARE AND THEY LIKE IT!! We will ALL stand before the Almighty judge one day, soon, the truth will all come out then. PEOPLE REAP WHAT THEY SOW! Every knee will bow, every tongue will confess that JESUS IS LORD!

[@everythingisgonnabealright310]

@@pypermae9019 totally agree. My childhood was more than toxic but I don't go around and hurt and destroy people. On the contrary! ITS A CHOICE. THEY KNOW EXACTLY WHAT, HOW AND WHEN THEY DO. Creepy cowards in an adult body.

[@everythingisgonnabealright310]

No need to expose. They expose themselves....just lean back and wait. Their stare doesn't affect me. I stare back and they can't stand it. They have one big weakness: underestimating people. Might be they play others easily but bc of their "It's all about me" and "I'm so grandious" thinking they won't even realise they got played already. We all find our master sooner or later.

[@toscadonna]

Actually, I pray for my two narcissist exes and wish them well. They are mentally ill/demonically possessed, and it's a waste of a life that could have been happy. It's like my murderous schizophrenic uncle; he's been mad since age 19 when he contracted meningitis, and the fever ruined his brain. He came back from college and started strangling and shooting at family members. My uncle doesn't know he's sick, and doesn't understand why he's in an asylum. His paranoid delusions are real to him; he actually believes the voices telling him that grandma was trying to poison him. So it's just best to have compassion for yourself, the narcissist, and stay out of their way. Some people can only be loved from a distance.

[@motowngirl5891]

tosca donna there is nothing wrong with them, they are not demonic, they are "SPOLIED BRATS" who think they are better than everyone and everything. They know what they are doing ,they want to harm people .

[@elainieg]

if they want to harm people, then yes indeed they are demons

[@YocastaAReyes]

MY NARC ALSO HAD MENINGITIS!!

[@heyoka3202]

tosca donna. You are right. They are poor creatures. I am a skilled empath and I hade the "prevelage" to feel the rising void. And I could feel here fear. You would project this kind of feelings to someone else as well if you could....

[@neil7236]

No such things as Demons..

[@creator2149]

Obviously they know what they do. In knowing that they don't want to change whatso ever, that tells me that they really do not deserve help and that each time they abuse a person, we should use extra funds to build more prisons for narcissists/psychopaths. A separate facility for these insane people to live so that decent sane people can live peacefully. They should have all of their priveledges taken away and left to think about their bad behavior. Just rot in it. And, they should be ordered to do thoughtful things like serve people in the community but, closely guarded and chained.

[@vickiwatson4692]

corrolla and desex them, so they cannot procreate any more of their kind. That won't work they probably won't be found out till in their 40s or 50s.

[@solice8844]

The power of the narcissist is that he/she has the capacity of limitless lies, is experienced in their usage, is prepped completely in advance for the smear of the empath, and care about nothing of the casualties which may result. The empath is burdened with wanting to avoid collateral damage to the innocent. Reminds me of Hillary and Obama.

[@adricocos]

You forgot to list Trump

[@angell504]

Lol. The more I watch you, the more I laugh. His books are totally worth the investment.

[@CholeyC]

Thank you Tudor. i really enjoy your videos - so accurate, entertaining (love your voice) and informative.

[@starlite0784]

Emotional infection is a very good description!

[@jcat7553]

H G much gratitude . This video along with the others I have been following with finally made me drop the whole crazy making. I see I have been playing. The victim. HG I don't know how to thank you for doing what you do. You're making a difference

[@SK_TorON]

It's spooky how accurately this describes the actions of my narcissistic ex-friend, and exactly according to his type (Mid). Thanks, HG.

[@sharhughes1086]

God doesn't require anyone to go too hell, he gives us chance after chance. He said turn from your wicked ways and I will hear from Heaven. Repent of your sin. God will cause calamity he said they eat up my people like bread and don't even think about praying to god. His wrath is far worst, than us trying to seek revenge, he said I will revenge.

[@neil7236]

Bible bashing wont help you against a Cluster B personality disorder..

[@daks8888]

I just want them to wake up and realize that if they show themselves that it wouldn't be terrible for them. I wish they'd finally just tell me the truth.

[@009bajadex]

I have been and still am parented by narcissists. a whole family of punking... the oldest sibling of 7 I am a scapegoat the Martyr and the main source for my entire family. because of my will have to submit at an early age I was disassociated and have been smeared throughout my entire life. soul'd out if you will.

[@creator2149]

Sorry, but, all I can do is pray that when this animal is in need, that God please do not protect them. God please protect the decent humans, not the evil doers.

[@patrickpepin8577]

What I would like to know is why narcissists are the same all over the world and how it is possible that they use the same tactics. How is that possible?

[@-anaamna5616]

Patrick Pepin 😐😐😐😐

[@veldaly64]

Patrick Pepin from a Christian point of view they all have the same father -the devil-Satan himself who was once lucifer so Lucifer beguiles, seduces and deceives as he can transform himself into an angel of light-they follow after the same exact pattern they have no free will so when you have seen one narcissist essentially you have seen them all -and just like Baskin and Robbins they may come in 32 flavors lol -somatic, victim , altruistic, covert , etc... but they are like human robotoids -with very few exceptions they are Solis creatures yes there are exceptions to every rule if you catch them in the budding Norsis cystic phase when they're in their teens maybe early 20s and they're in massive psychotherapy and have God on their side then there is a chance otherwise they are all Cut from the same cloth so I guess rather monotonous when you wake up to this when you see it whether it's a friend acquaintance a business colleague or intimate partner you would want to run and flee as fast as you can -they are modern day vampires who as HG Tudor says lives only for narcissistic supply or what he calls fuel fuel fuel ⛽️

[@veldaly64]

Sorry for the typos I'm using voice text some of the words misspelled were " soulless " and narcissistic lol

[@patrickpepin8577]

Velda S. Lyons thankyou I believe very strongly that they are evil and demonic. I just find it facinating that they are duplicates or have the same genetic code.

[@Ladyj104]

Velda S. Lyons So true. I always say narcs are demonic and such explains the nature of their behaviors and how similar there are as demons operate with cluster behaviors that do not really change

[@natashasimon6537]

JAIL WITH NO BAIL FOR THEM

[@lasenoradelacruz]

Amazing video! I needed advice on how to proceed…

[@sig6751]

The most important thing that I could have done was wait and grow. Then I struck (without warning) at the (greater) narcissists supply lines with exposure and overwhelming evidence. The response of the narcissist that targeted me shows that she's getting legal advice.

[@starlite0784]

I really can't see how many women on this site are so fawning to this H.G.person! The man is a psycho for sure. The way he describes how he watches porn and expects women to actually carry this out for him!! More fool them.

[@009bajadex]

Thank y0u for your honesty. nearly impossible from a high level or < = level Narcissist! what becomes of the (-) & (+) in a friend ship? I have been and still am being parented by Narcissists, a whole family of punking... Being the oldest sibling of 7, I am the scapegoat, the martyr, and the MAIN source for my entire family...because of my WILL not to submit at an early age I was disassociated and have been smeered throughout my entire life. Soul- Ed out so to speak. now I am surrounded by narcissist's and targeted ...Its something short of a miracle I haven't successfully been put down by (*real) assassins or committed suicide yet. You can not understand the absolute torment and with held empathy I have endured. thank you again for your honesty.

[@009bajadex]

my advice to you people out there narcissist or people pleaser or just on the fence. it doesn't have to be a greater or lesser. if you want to move forward you must equal.

[@annas.5676]

Thank you H G. This is so on Target.

[@strawberrytea8984]

Abused neglected people are not monsters. Narcs are monsters. Excusing their inappropriate behavior is why they spiritually handed us our asses. Stop supporting domestic abuse by making excuses for your abusers. Love yourself enough to give a damn about YOUR worth and let them go.

[@trivai]

Imagine the fear i felt After much research I figured I married a level 9 narc. 1 more point and she's a narcopath. I believe now she is a lvl 10 because she's with her ex con for 3 yrs after i left. And that ex con was an assasin.

[@cabronazo007]

HG, you again state that the Mid-Ranger doesn't know what they are, despite, to take one key example, the industrial-scale cheating of which they must be conscious, given their very conscious steps to hide it? For them to not know what they are, it seems they must (a) Project their cheating onto others and therefore fully dissociate from it, (b) not remember their cheating, which is stored away in another DID-style 'Part' in the background, or (c) convince themselves that everyone cheats like they do and therefore they are normal (despite the huge jealousy they feel if they catch their partner looking at someone else, which suggests they would not be comfortable with the idea of their partner cheating on them)?

[@loveandlight4509]

CJ Hunt : They know fully well what they are doing. It is my one point of departure from HG and his otherwise precise information.

[@sarahjohnson8514]

love and light I agree.

[@SeeWitch]

CJ Hunt: I completely agree. I *used to* attract greater mid-range elite narcs almost exclusively. I've been everything from IPPS to (unknowing) dirty little secret and though some may not have had a label for themselves, they KNEW something was wrong with them, that they were different from most, that they broke rules & laws and LIKED it. One even admitted to me his deep need for attention/fuel. They may not be able to identify every why and how like the Greaters, but they know what they want and what works. Most also do NOT want help or change.

[@alexandriasky]

C.

[@huypizdavorobey]

BTW, thanks a lot for your videos! For your sharing.

[@jennifereasley2003]

So true. I tried to get him on a TV show they wanted my story and he refused to go.

[@valshelby7307]

Nope had no idea until now and it all makes sense!

[@009bajadex]

the reality of all of this for me is I love my mom I love my dad s I love my family and I miss my friend

[@kimmichaud4064]

I would never bother nobody would understand

[@009bajadex]

What Becomes of the positive in the negative in a friendship? my recent friend and admitted narcissist smeared me pretty hard and left me a mess to clean up on top of burning me out of money. there was no reason to do any of this however where i was never threatening him.

[@Chimonger1]

Doesn't matter if you did anything offensive; and it doesn't matter how much good you did for them. [A] they rarely remember that you did good to help them, and/or, they minimize it to almost nothing; [B] it is all about how a narcissist *_perceives_* anything someone else says or does; facts are ignored, or, when those cannot be ignored, the narc. will skillfully weave bits of truth into their stories,...doing that, gives the aroma of truth to the whole story, so listeners have a very hard time identifying those as fictions. Internet, media, industries...littered with that! They have huge capacity for creating/perceiving entire, complicated fictions about what others _supposedly_ say or do to them. Once a narc. starts believing the story they perceive/cook up, it's rare that anything, even hard evidence, will induce them to recant, or believe the actual truth. Further, since humans have tendency to more deeply believe passionately delivered stories, and narc.'s are great at that kind of delivery, once the fictions are passionately embedded into other people's minds, those start believing them, too... this is what makes "truth by consensus" more pervasive. This is a large part of what has gone increasingly haywire with media, jurisprudence, government, academia, and religions, as more and more narcissists/psychopaths/borderline personalities get into positions of power. ...Because, narcissists getting into positions of power and control is pretty common anyway; but more so, since for the past 20-30 years, there have been increasing numbers of those per population.

[@laurievaldez1843]

Wow! Spot on!

[@puresoul1368]

So true about the mid ranger and he is the religious kind he targeted me in church when ad just broken up. I was excited finding out about narcissism and wanted to let me know what has been taunting me all this years. Like you say he charmed everyone and people were thinking I must be crazy to even say that about him. They were telling me just to forgive if I had issues. Therefore not having been understood has led me to isolate and this is in the developing world where you cant realy get help. Narcissism is probably not known at all therefore am kind of stuck but learning to help myself while within.

[@melissahulbert8569]

YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS. ALL OF IT. YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!

[@oxycleanlaundrydetergent6316]

what if they expose themselves? is this a bad thing? i have a friend who is a narcissist. ..we do have a past. should i just accept it? or discontinue the friendship?

[@connieanderson2408]

Manda Panda

[@sarahjohnson8514]

Discontinue the friendship as you aren’t getting anything out of it.

[@TLNY.]

Extremely interesting..

[@adriennegallotta5542]

Thank u.

[@amandalouw2295]

I dont care u gave yourself away and people are not stupid or blind forever i cant see other supply being dumb enough to fall for all of this u dont have enough going for u anyway so good luck with that

[@annewbanks1555]

can one be both narcissist and empathic like an hermaphrodite? totaly twisted and addictive to pure pain?

[@ttttiiimmy10bit]

no

[@joanbaczek2575]

my most recent narc experience indicates yes, but its not normal empathy it appears in two ways: some how knowing you want something even if its a fleeting thought and they jump across the room to get it and hand it to you. this is hypervigilance, the narc is a narc starting with his relationship with a parent, as a child the narc had to be able to infer the mood of their care giver constantly to protect themselves from the sudden rages. the second is a cold empathy, they listen intently to you so they can store the info for use in attacks later on in the relationship. they act like they accept you for you and all your faults too, but they are using those faults as ammo for a later date.

[@pmligotti]

Yes. I have a sister like that. For example, she treats some in her life in a narcissistic manner when she feels threatened. But, generally in her life she's more empathic or as some say, co-dependent.

[@looslaura1]

Funny, I just cant care about the exposure. He built his own cell, I've broken free

[@killerqueen2934]

Nope- i didn’t fail... he did blow after blow after blow-

[@iWitnessTeachings]

#NarcdMeToo

[@verneicerodrigues5464]

L