Facing The Truth Of Narcissists Will Set You Free

I’m really eager to share today’s video with you, because it will provide you with so much clarity on how our beliefs regarding relationships keep us trapped in abuse.
We want to believe that people are loyal, dedicated, and honest.
We convince ourselves that others are supportive and caring and that humanity is about having other people’s interest at heart.
So, we’re shocked and in deep denial when we find ourselves in a relationship with someone who purposefully exploits and destroys other people for their own gain. And our head spins when we realize that these toxic people suffer zero moral consequences for doing what they do.
Today’s Thriver TV episode is all about explaining to you how you need to face the truth to be able to protect yourself from narcissists. How refusing to accept the facts, when they are clear as day, will only further destroy you.
The truth truly sets you free - watch the video to learn how to get on the path of graduation, liberation and empowerment.
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[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Darling Thrivers, I hope this video helps you on your path to graduation, liberation and empowerment. 🌟 Resource mentioned in this video - The Empowered Self Course: courses.melanietoniaevans.com/p/empoweredself

[@faye9973]

❤️❤️❤️

[@FaithFashionFinances]

It so shocking when you go into a situation with the best intentions and find out the person is a narc. It's like another layer of trauma when you are already trying to heal enough.

[@shipratrika2586]

That’s why you have boundaries right from the get go..The more you heal, it takes less and less time to figure out that you are interacting with a narc..more self love self care, more doing things that make you feel good. Most important thing I have learned is more listening and observing helps in outing them quickly, and even in first or two meetings.

[@OneWhoKnowz]

However it’s the best thing that can set u free

[@FaithFashionFinances]

boundaries doesn't change the narcs behavior unfortunately

[@shipratrika2586]

@@FaithFashionFinances I use to think that too.. But it takes time to develop your internal boundaries..narcs are going to do what they do..boundaries don’t stop them..your boundaries stop you from tolerating crap…what you allow, what you accept, what you walk away from..ask questions, remain factual…I’m talking about your internal boundaries. Boundaries are based on your values..

[@littleiodine9480]

Many adult Children are narcissists. We so badly do NOT want to face it. By the time we do, we can be VERY physically ill and totally drained of everything. Once we face the truth, the shock, sadness, and grief, far surpasses that of the other narcissists we have let go of. When one's own grown child marries one, the illness hurts you while watching the pain of your Child and Granchildren. Thank you so much Melanie for more healing truths which guide us out of the dark! 💗

[@cyndigooch1162]

Little Iodine I really feel for you and imagine that it would be heartbreaking to witness what is happening to your precious child and grandchild! I've been in contact with my daughter, who was raised by adoptive parents, for many years now and I've had to face that she's highly narcissistic, which is beyond painful. She was sending extremely abusive messages, including explicit death threats, then stopped all contact with me on Mother's Day last year, due to another unforgiveable (in her eyes) mistake I made. Mind you, it's probably for the best though, because the abuse has already taken a huge toll on me. I also believe that I've been punished enough for relinquishing her when I was a troubled teenager. I kept hoping that things would change eventually, yet I've accepted that it might never be the case, as she's nearly 45 years old and doesn't seem interested at all in doing healing work, which is her choice. ❤

[@garycordle5295]

The only time you win is walking away and going no contact and block them on everything and don't ever let them stay rent free in your mind 🙏👍 up Mel and survivors and thrivers, move forward with your life.

[@catzee4720]

So much in this video, so well said! "Bask in other peoples suffering" "twisted realities" Unfortunately, experience people like this right in my own family of origin, which feels the most hurtful and painful. I can't share good or bad news with them, they are a narcissistic unit. It's too tormenting. Gave up trying awhile ago. It still stings sometimes and is bittersweet that I don't speak or connect with them anymore, but at least I have some more peace and the spiritual awakening is there, you are right it is a gift. Only thing is even still have eextreme boughts of sadness come over me to where it feels like its going to break me, still comes in waves

[@lorrainenicoletti6232]

Thank you as always. This never gets old. In a good way , Your words always resonate deeply. Even when i think there’s nothing mire i need to hear. Amen HEALING

[@jeneisele]

Ditto

[@sandygallagher6609]

Very insightful and helpful. Resonates with me. I’m out & see the situation much more clearly now. Thank you for the validation.

[@laurelmarshall6903]

Excellent video Mel, from beginning to the end. I'm interested in checking out The Empowered Self Course. Like you say,Mel, the BELIEF, or the "expectation" that the narcissist was meant to love me IS exactly what ended up keeping me hobbled throughout much of my adult life. The truth will set me free. "Unrealistic expectations" of narcissistic people really had tripped me up for so much of my life, it's quite unbelievable how "easily led" by narcissists who seemed to be installed (like blood family) or just 'waking through my life' I was. I thought that being 'open to others & believing them' was the correct path for me. I mostly took everything at face value, tried 'working on myself & did my best to 'clean up my own act'; while assuming that "everybody" around me ("especially in my own family of origin") was playing by the same 'rules' that I was (i.e. Honesty, Open-Mindedness, Willingness). I was so absolutely shocked, disappointed, dismayed & truly heartbroken to find out later that others "who 'should' have had by back", didn't. I loved what you just said about "cognitive dissonance" in today's video. It really speaks so vibrantly & authentically to me. "This" is what I've personally had to walk & trudge through in the last 10 years. Thank you so much for supporting me & others through NARP as I begin walking along a newfound path in my quest for new growth "outside" of the old outdated & tattered paradigms I thought, I actually "believed' I must follow to the end.

[@danielcox9858]

I’ve been using NARP and thrive from Mel’s team and they saved my life! From a broken men ending up on a mental health ward to loving life every day! If you find yourself in a mental hell, please trust Mel and her team and use these systems! They literally saved my life! Thank you MTE team for being the empowering angels that you are! ❤️

[@angelamarie8417]

I have watched your videos through and through for months at least 6. I was at the bottom with no way out but up. I decided every time he triggered me over his philandering ways or all the little traps he would set I threw myself onto my bicycle one summer morning plopped in some ear buds that I never cared to use before and went out on my bike every single day and rode for an hour. This was back in July during the America’s July summer and it nearly killed me. 99 degree weather and me worst place of my life both physically and spiritually. I not only survived my mental breakdown Between you and Dr. Romany and Dr. Carter the three of you have been there with me the last 6 months to help me survive. Not only have your voices been a healing balm for my soul but your words are so perfectly validating when nobody and I mean nobody not even my own mother would help me against the cult family I married into. I have made it out of the hole and still look forward to your videos every single day as they help to keep me afloat while I’m still building my wings to fly on outta this mess. The difference now is I can endure it now without reacting where as before I would go batshit crazy. This video is good advice and I’m thankful for you. Funny thing is you look so much like my mom. She was never ever able to be really there for me. God has a funny way of bringing certain people into your life exactly when you need them. You have helped me. Thank you.

[@rubberbiscuit99]

Thank you for your perspective. Always valuable and consistent. Bless you, Mel.

[@janiebutterfly5251]

That is how I'm feeling right now thank you hurting soooo much 😧😕😟😪😪😪😪😪

[@trainkeenpilates5227]

Excellent video. I completed your NARP program about 6 years ago and it was the start of true self-reflection and healing. Soon after I found God and I’m happy to report that my life is amazing and I no longer fall into my toxic families traps or toxic traps from others. I have surrounded myself with people who love, encourage, support me and accept me as I am. I have learned how to create healthy boundaries and how to communicate honestly and truthfully. If there is one thing narcissists hate, it’s truth. Your program works! It’s a lot of work and it’s so worth it especially if you don’t know what to do and you are hurting so bad. Great video!

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

Thank you for the feedback @April Keene. It is so inspiring to read about your progress. Keep Thriving! 😀

[@NehaSharma-777]

"A 'Rotten' soul is a 'Rotten' soul . Your responsibility is not to fix it. Your responsibility is to distance from the infection." Thank you for saying it so clear and straight to the point Dear Mel

[@kconnolly6763]

Thank you, Melanie. I really needed this today. For me, it’s like having something toxic bite you over and over again, being poisoned a little more (or a lot more) each time. I now see why it is so important to create a safe distance emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and physically, if possible, in order to take care of ourselves and heal. I would not knowingly let something in my physical world poison me, I need to keep the same mindset for my emotional, psychological and spiritual well-being. Thank you for sharing your insight and clarity.

[@Sleeping_Wolf]

Your videos are a ray of light ! Thank you Melanie!

[@faye9973]

This has been impeccable today Mel … truly amazing and soul Freeing .. Thank you ❤️

[@HomeFrendsten]

My mother is one such person. She hated me since infancy, experienced many traumas ,she never supported or appreciated me in what I did, she was very envious and misguided me, and till today I have no much confidence in myself, but she has lot of confidence after isolating and turning people against me, she hated the elder Children often and disrespected them

[@susanmcmahon4733]

I knew from very early in the relationship that there was something off but didn't know about NPD, never never TRUSTED my ex narcissist husband I knew in the back of my mind what he was up to, I wish I knew about this disorder years and years ago, now see him as a extremely damaged, he compulsive liar and chest and firm believer that when you realise what you are dealing with you HAVE TO GET OUT, don't ever believe a WORD THAT COMES OUT OF HIS MOUTH, lucky don't have to deal with it ANYMORE. He is SICK AND NOTHING EVER MADE SENSE

[@la_rooh]

So delighted with your videos thanks

[@vannessawallin9418]

This gave me a profound awakening today. Thank you. Have you left instagram?

[@pagandreamer1145]

I noticed that melanie isn't on Instagram anymore too, I loved seeing her posts.

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

I am so pleased to hear you found this video helpful @Vannessa Wallin. I have a new Instagram account- @quantafreedomhealing I'd love to see you there. 💜

[@vannessawallin9418]

@@MelanieToniaEvans thank you I’ll go find you at once! I want to join NARP so badly but just literally can’t afford it right now.

[@janiebutterfly5251]

Thank you Melanie for all you do for all of us especially me I really need this sooo much 😟😕😧😪😪😪😪😪😪

[@MelanieToniaEvans]

It is my pleasure @janie butterfly. Keep going, you've got this! 🤗

[@suzanozturk6005]

Ohh my god Mel! You speaking 🔊 about this topic really opens my soul up. ❣️ I've been living in denial for many years. {Centuries} 💫💙💫💙 Thankyou. You truly have touched on very important points. 💫💫

[@hanlibadenhorst7837]

Lovely Melanie, you are one of the biggest Blessings sent to cross my life. I love your work. Thank you for being so honest and empathetic. You are highly Blessed with your talent to work with the hurted. Elly - South Africa

[@faye9973]

Yes - Truth sets you free

[@stacyramirez5459]

I missed the 9am today 😢 I buckled today, I lost it. I talked to him. I got a lawyer and he's out of the country on business or Monkey business. I am so sad.

[@marijkevandermeer2772]

The Truth Will Set You Free

[@Andrew02ism]

Dear Melanie, I just find it so difficult to let my Narc go... I have forgiven him time and time again because I hoped that he was going to change, but whenever I wanted the truth he tild me that my pathological mistrust was destroying everything, although he has admitted in the pss6 that he had lied to me on a big scale. Si recently he invented again a business trip, VIP treatment included, and when I wanted proof, he got agsain very angry, trying to put the blame on me, that I was abnormally midtrusting and he would not br controlled, end of discussion. Now, 3 weeks later, he pretendef again as if nothing had ever happened and he wanted to hook up again, and when I made it clear that this time I was not going to go on ss if nothing had happened and I wanted proof, he told me that this was the last time he contsctrd me, that he had enough, and then he blocked me. He knows I suffer when someone blocks me..... Did I do the right thing? Why do I still feel I made a mistake? I know he is a pathological liar and definitely never wanted a real relationship with me, but how can I overcome the hurt when he blocks me?????

[@briansmith1907]

Very powerful

[@paulzedx636ninja7]

A female sociopath could somehow always find out where I was at. Whether it be hanging out with friends maybe at a girlfriend's house or whatever. Sadly she would attack people including me friends or even a girlfriend. She would show no emotion or remorse for her actions. Yet when she sustained an injury while stalking me she fully blamed me to the highest degree.. Yet she was fully totally to blame entirely. 😳

[@isabelleparise5607]

Amazing video thank you.

[@shipratrika2586]

One thing I will disagree is there are more narcisstic people than genuine people..

[@cyndigooch1162]

Shipra Trika Unfortunately, I disagreed with that when I heard it as well, due to the many people I've known over the years from all professions and walks of life and thousands of comments I've read on Facebook etc, including other reasons, such as listening to talkback radio. I might be wrong though, because millions are doing the healing work necessary in order to gain self-love, along with empathy and compassion! It seems to me that most children aren't raised in a healthy way and empathy definitely isn't being modelled or taught, let alone that grieving losses of all kinds is part of life. I grew up in New Zealand in the 60s and 70s when physical and sexual abuse were rife, especially with family members. I also remember a lot of violence and huge issues with gangs, which shocks older people, like me, who talk about how wonderful life was back then and how respectful young people were since parents were allowed to hit them regularly. I can't believe the amount of parents and other caregivers who are upset about laws being introduced to protect children from abuse! They tend to blame that on any issues in regard to young one's behaviour nowadays, so I've been mentioning that many parents are still hitting them though. I've even told some of these people that it certainly wasn't a case of the good old days for me, or many thousands of others, for that matter. And it was the f**king adults who caused the issues in the first place, due to their own unhealed wounds. I experienced extreme trauma at the hands of both parents, one set of grandparents and quite a few other adults and don't believe what happened myself sometimes, hence why I tend to feel angry when the old days are mentioned in an extremely positive light. ❤

[@cyndigooch1162]

Shipra Trika I'm back to mention that I just read your comment again and might've misunderstood, after all that! I'm sure that Melanie said that there's more genuine people in the world than narcissistic ones, but it might be the way you've written it. 😊

[@shipratrika2586]

@@cyndigooch1162 thx for your comment. I’m sorry for what you went through. It’s most of us who went through very unbelievable stuff are here on these videos. I have realised that there are way more narcs than genuine people..that’s my truth and experience. Listen to Doc Ross..he says the same thing. It’s just hard for me to get my head around the stuff these people do..even animals are better than that..denial is a hard thing to break through. When you have been raise up in these families..your world is up side down..

[@janegreen191]

The DSM is considering on deleting personality disorders in the DSM. What will this mean? Can you give an indepth talk about this.

[@RMC978]

It’s financial for me.

[@mariatee76]

I go along to get along ! How can i change it ?

[@shipratrika2586]

What do you think about Neville Godard’s teachings?

[@twinstar9]

Start at minute 17:00

[@SoniaProteau-cj6tk]

At a certain age your unbothered and neutral 😐

[@leep6279]

Your words are extremely POWERFUL. Thankyou thankyou thankyou. 🙏✌🏻💜