FAILING: Pushing Ourselves to Exhaustion

[@Danika_Nadzan]

You are not alone or abnormal, Annie! Feeling overwhelm and exhaustion is so common in this society based on constant striving for more and more and more...we end up thinking that we're never good enough, and that's just not true! You are so brave and honest to share these feelings, and at the same time, so hard on yourself. Goals are nice to have, but sometimes not attaining them is much more valuable and enlightening...I think this might be the case this time. Much love and support to you, dear Annie!❤😊

[@anniepaquette]

Thanks Danika. What adds to the stress is not knowing what comes next. I dedicated myself to my book because it came from a deep calling, but now face the reality of having only a few weeks left in this housesit. So, lots of of pressure to surrender and trust (quite an oxymoron). 💗🙏 💗

[@leslieclairejohns5327]

Hi Annie. This message does means tons to us. I crashed and burned out yesterday. Spent the day on the couch. It is so helpful to listen to your truth - it is also mine. Thank you.

[@anniepaquette]

Thank you LeslieClaire. 💗 You're right, there is always value in sharing our truth. 💗🙏 💗

[@nancyjohnson4200]

Oh, dear Annie, please know that it would be fine to skip the rest of the five days of videos! Maybe just come back on the 15th to say hi and celebrate your book launch with us. Please give yourself the gift of quiet and solitude to fully embrace the huge accomplishment of finishing your book. We all love and support you on this wonderful channel. As HSPs we embrace you totally!!! 💕

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Nancy. I took your words to heart and skipped yesterday's video 💗 I want to say that with all the love-filled comments I read in this video, I have felt this community's support, and it moved me deeply. Just writing this to you brings tears to my eyes. So, thank you. 💗🙏 💗

[@dianahochhausen1005]

Awww, yes. I have those days. You are not alone. * Hugs❤. There is value. Our humanness is very valuable!

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Diana. Thanks for reminding me I am not alone. I keep saying to others, and forget it for myself. But the comments I see here to remind me, and it feels wonderful and healing. 💗🙏 💗 Our humanness IS valuable. Thanks for that too.

[@catherinekittykat]

Aaaww...I understand! 💓💞 I'm on the bed laying down again. Feeling bad I couldn't get stuff off my list. I got on my laptop and tried so hard to do something and I just couldn't I just felt so exhausted it was painful and I just couldn't I said that's it I got to go lay down again. Big loving hugs! I'm so sorry you did all that work after pushing yourself and didn't work out but maybe the rest of us needed to understand that we're okay for not being able to get our stuff done either. Thank you for sharing! 😻👏👏👏💖😘😘😘😘😇 That dang pressure from anxiety 💥💥💥💥😆

[@anniepaquette]

I know, exhaustion can actually be painful. Thanks for your love Catherine. And yes, as uncomfortable as it was, there must be a gift in my raw honesty and failure (😉) Dang pressure!!! 💗🙏 💗

[@Blb477]

Here’s a hug..a big deep one! Radical acceptance. It’s a hard letting go..constantly. I slept and cried all afternoon and didn’t feel guilty. I understood I was purging a lifetime of suppressed grief. You’re doing that. A lifetime of not being understood! Love you deeply! ❤❤ It’s a comfort to see myself in this group of lovely misfits!!

[@anniepaquette]

I receive 🤗🤗🤗. Thanks for the reminder that I am releasing much more than this moment. Reading you words reached me deeply. I love you beautiful misfit. You are a comfort to me too.💗🙏 💗

[@larryboysen5911]

Best of success of your book, I know I will purchase a copy. I know the feeling of being drained...when that happens, I go down to my workshop, restoring and enjoying my vintage radios, Victrolas and soul-recharging vintage music of the 1920-1960era, oh, don't forget the uplifting my group of cute frog figurines give me!

[@anniepaquette]

Hey Larry! Thanks for being here. I appreciate you. 💗🙏 💗 French Canadians are referred to as frogs. Not sure why, but we are. 😉🐸

[@larryboysen5911]

@@anniepaquette Hi Annie, In the 18th Century, the French became enemies of Canada...French folks loved frog legs as part of their diet, thus they were nick-named "Frogs". Soon, all French Canadians, as well as the rest of the citizens, inherited the "Frog" moniker! As a lover of the frog species, I could never consume their legs!! it is said this delicacy tastes similar to chicken...I'll stick to "clucker's" legs!

[@anniepaquette]

Hey Larry! I found this article about French Frogs. Lot's of different possible sources for the moniker. So interesting: poitoucharentesinphotos.wordpress.com/2016/01/29/why-do-the-english-refer-to-the-french-as-frogs/

[@barbcarolegrafton6981]

Hi Annie. Quit beating yourself up! The saying goes… Work Rest Play Work Rest Play with the enfaces on REST. Give yourself a break. When you push yourself to exhaustion… that’s exactly what you get. Repeat after me…. “ everything in divine right order. “ You’ve done it! Celebrate ! 🥳 If you have anxiety caused by having to rush and hurry all the time …. “ there is time for everything. “ Sending you heaps of love. Fill yourself up first. You are important! You deserve it. Take a walk in nature. Much love 💗 a fan. 🫶🏻

[@anniepaquette]

"Everything in Divine order." Yes. And yes also to a walk in nature...very soon...I have yet to feel the celebration of the accomplishment. So quick to worry about what's next. I have some learning to do there. Thanks so much for writing to me. Your words meant and sentiment meant a lot yesterday, and still do today as I reply. 💗🙏 💗

[@lesleyM84]

beautiful friend, may I? Okay, so….. you just brought your incredible book into completion and now it is just days away from its launch on Amazon!!!!!!!!!! THAT IS HUGE!! that is waaay enough!! put your feet up, make up a frozen margarita and bask in your SUCCESS!! Ease Annie💕💕.. your value is so sacred to us!! Deep breaths and delight in your amazingness!! I have my plans to buy your book on Sunday!! You are very, very beloved💕🕊️💕❤️💕🕊️

[@anniepaquette]

Yes, yes, you may. Thank you. Your words meant SO MUCH to me when I read them the next morning. I cried, but it was a replenishing cry. 💗🙏 💗

[@MikefromCanada5426]

Good morning Annie: I want to point out that first and foremost, you're human. And it's clear to see that you've run up against a wall, and it's taking you down to a place that's hard to witness. I wish I could take away some of your pain. The long and short of it is that you are a good and incredibly kind-hearted person who has given so much to many people, and I'm sure , more than you can imagine. The world would be a much better place if we had more people like you in it. I already pre ordered your book, not knowing the importance of waiting until the official release date. I'm going to order another copy on the 15th and pass one of them to someone I know could really use your help. For all it's worth, thank you for everything you do for everyone. Better days are ahead, hang in there, all the best.

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Mike. You made me cry, in a good way. Thanks you so much.💗

[@anndavidson287]

Beautiful Annie rest and take care of YOU for once. We understand and feel your tears. Self compassion Annie. Love and hugs ❤❤❤😂😊😊 We understand. Ann from Canada 🍁 .

[@anniepaquette]

Thanks so much Ann. I'm feeling much better now. The love I received from this community really meant SO MUCH. I received, and still am receiving, the love. 💗🙏 💗

[@anndavidson287]

Wonderful 😊❤❤❤ !! Glad you received the love and prayers from us all!! Since we are on different time zones and countries..and not sure of my day.. and if we will connect on KZbin or whatever..HAPPY BOOK LAUNCH!!! DEAREST ANNIE!!You did it!! 😅😊❤❤. I look forward to my book delivery next Wednesday from Amazon in Ontario Canada 🍁 of your book!! Sorry it might not count to US sales Sunday!! Love hugs and prayers from Ann .

[@sigrunasa]

Hey Annie, I know you! I feel so strongly with you the thoughts of disappointment for not being able to do do what we plan, and things we want to accomplish can not be fulfilled. Apparently not today and maybe not tomorrow. I often forget to show myself mercy. As my sister tells me: guard yourself against yourself! Annie, maybe the day after tomorrow, it will pass and we will be fine

[@anniepaquette]

Yes, show ourselves some mercy. 💗🙏 💗 I am feeling better. Today is a new day.

[@cathykelly791]

Please rest, Annie. I do this all the time to myself - pushing myself to exhaustion. It is so hard for me to sit down, put my feet up, and do nothing. There is always one more thing to do, to perfect, to complete. I suppose it comes from a place of fear (perhaps of feeling abandoned by God at times), a lack of trust, and a need to control outcomes. But like you said..... the truth is we can let go and trust God. Such a big lesson for me. God bless you! Please listen to your body and take good care of yourself! 💖

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Cathy. Thanks so much. Your wise words are perfectly aligned with the video I thought I had recorded but did not (!) We are drawing from the same source. The letting go is hard because my life is in such instability, I know I have to trust more, but feel I need to do more (control) in order to establish some security. Quite a juggling act. Your comment touched my deeply. Hope to read you soon again. Planning on a video today. 💗🙏 💗

[@Foxlet66]

Sending you lots and lots of love Annie 💕💕💕 Thank you for sharing on your wonderful channel. It's really helping me. You're doing so much and need to rest. Big hugs too 🥰 xxx

[@anniepaquette]

Thanks Fox. I receive your love. 💗🙏 💗 I know I am about to enter a period of rest and self-care. It's part of the next step. 🤗

[@sentarose]

Dear one, thank you for validating our experience. Everyday I rate my level of fatigue in a health symptom tracker that is right next to a tracker I use to measure how much I do deep work or shallow work. I keep both of these side by side so that on days that I don't get good concentrated skill-based work done I can see that my symptoms have been worse that day. And compassion for myself is one of the major themes that I have in my guiding principles of how to live my life, but it is not always easy to be compassionate and I have found tracking my symptoms to help me be compassionate. Intellectual exhaustion is a real thing. So is intellectual fatigue which is not exhaustion but really tired. When we are tired fatigued or even exhausted our minds are muddled. And that is because the muddled symptom is asking us to rest. We need to fill the well. So my dear please find ways to work for you to have more self-compassion.

[@anniepaquette]

Hmmm, wrote a reply to you and it's gone. There seems to be a lot of that happening recently. Could it be the Universe is telling me to stop DOING so much? Yes, I need to fill the well. Mostly obviously. Yes, self-compassion. I know it, preach it, and still forget. 💗🙏 💗

[@angela_christine74]

Absolutely… there’s a big difference between pushing yourself physically with a clear mind vs pushing yourself mentally with an anxious mind that gives you no peace then trying to get rest or reset with that unrelenting anxiety or mental chatter. It just leads to further exhaustion. I’m right there with you and had a day like that yesterday as well. We unfortunately live in a society that values constant productivity at a furious pace. It’s not healthy and is one reason why we are in crisis with anxiety, depression and mental health in general. And you’re right, no other creature on earth does this to themselves. I had a simple yet profound insight a few years ago that it’s okay to go at your own pace. The animals are going at their own pace doing whatever they’re doing (ants being busy little ants, butterfly’s flittering about) and it all gets done. It will all get done… sometimes you need to allow yourself to unapologetically rest in advance of or amidst the final push. It’s ok.

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Angela_Christine 💚 Yes, you are right, we need to unapologetically rest, even in advance of a push. But man, that's a hard one for me! My added challenge is that my life situation is in a state of emergency. I'm living in a housesitting situation with just a few weeks left and no idea where to go-or how to afford to-in just a few weeks. So I feel like I have to do, do, do to make things happens, even though I KNOW it's not how things get done. So I'm straddling my wisdom and my conditioning/fears. Thank you so much for commenting on this video. Your words and understanding were a balm on my heart. 💗🙏 💗

[@angela_christine74]

@@anniepaquette I’ve been in that same living situation numerous times so I can relate to what you’re experiencing. It’s beyond stressful and pushes one to their limits. But it will all work out. It always does. Just stick to the basics and make the next best decision, one at a time. You’ll be ok. ❤️

[@anniepaquette]

@@angela_christine74 My plan is to trust until my 60th birthday on October 11th. Until then, I'm going to chill a little, do some things I want to continue to do (videos, blogging, reaching out, preparing my book for hard cover and eBook versions, traveling to Colorado to get my things left with my ex-husband, restoring my name to my maiden name in 50+ places...LOL, ,right, chilling and caring for myself. Right. Right. Right.) Anyway, then I'll see what life brings to my plate and take the next step. I'm actually quite confident. It feels like "that" moment in my life. But the fears and habits of worrying still exist, so, dealing with those too. 💚

[@beautifullifesageg.3951]

It must be something in the air. I just posted a video about me realizing I’m in autistic/HSP burnout after realizing my autism last summer. I’m feeling the weight of my whole life of fitting in, being an accomplished parent, partner, teacher, human. Right now I just want to sit in the park and watch the world go by. It’s all I have the energy for. Thank you for being here. I’m looking forward to your book. You are a bright light in the lives of us, HSP’s and autistics. ❤

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Beautiful! I get it, the weight of a whole life of making ourselves fit in. I'm quite certain I am autistic as well. Thank you so much for your love at a moment when I really needed it. What a gift. (I'll come see you on your channel - just did - congratulations! Wonderful! We can do this!) 💗🙏 💗

[@beautifullifesageg.3951]

@@anniepaquette I’m grateful for our connection. I feel safe in the space you’ve created. 🙏✨

[@anniepaquette]

@@beautifullifesageg.3951 That's a beautiful commentary. 💗

[@crystaldance5731]

It’s just a blip Annie I don’t know why these things happen to us when we work so hard to please but they do you need to take time for yourself today spoil yourself with cozy blankets nature and mugs of tea do nothing tomorrow will be better I promise ❤️❤️❤️❤️😊👍🏻

[@anniepaquette]

I didn't do nothing, but didn't do too much either. Slowly caring for myself. Thanks for the love Crystal. 💗🙏 💗 I do NEED to go to nature. She is always so generous and reaches deep inside me.

[@planb4212]

Dear Annie, this is a well-known phenomenon in the phase of finishing a book (or other big projects that are coming to an end) ❤So you fall emotionally into a hole with inner emptiness or heavy feelings. There are various explanations; one of them is the feeling of sadness of letting go of a process that has occupied you for a long time, giving you feelings, thoughts and structure. Perhaps sense, too. I just want to tell you that it does happen and that it is a very human process ❤️ thank you once again for sharing your experiencé, toughts and emotions 🍀

[@anniepaquette]

Thank you for that thoughtful reflection. There is indeed a sense of emptiness. And, I need to change the focus of my purpose. Still my book (and message) but not the doing of the book. The transition is not easy but I believe I'm on my way. 💗💗💗

[@marissapr]

Tons of love Annie!! ❤❤❤ Hugging you from the other side of the screen!! ❤❤❤

[@anniepaquette]

Receiving on this side!💗💗💗💗🙏 💗💗💗💗

[@surfadjacent]

I am glad you made this video Annie instead of what was on your notes. I feel like my well ran dry yesterday evening and you sharing made me feel not alone today. Thank you ❤

[@anniepaquette]

I'm really glad. I share these personal things because I know that others experience them too and if we only shared more, if it was okay to share these things, we would know we truly are not alone. So thank you for letting me know. It means a lot.💗

[@laurat1179]

This video was totally what I needed to hear right now - it had a lot of value! Thank you for being vulnerable as it normalized my own struggles in overwhelm as an HSP. Timely that I discovered you today. Blessed be 🙏

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Laura! Ohhh, I love hearing that. This is why I make my videos, to connect and help others be okay with who they are and what they feel. Welcome here my Dear 💗🤗💗

[@laurat1179]

@@anniepaquettethank you, dear Annie. I look forward to reading your book and grateful to be part of this community. 🙏

[@anniepaquette]

@@laurat1179 💚🌺💚

[@denisel780]

So many valuable lessons here. I so appreciate how REAL you are. You are so right about us being the only creatures that feel the need to push ourselves so hard. I hope the rest of your day was everything you needed it to be. 💗

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Denise💗 There wasn't time left in the day after I posted the video... but I have given myself some grace. The comments I received for this video truly were a balm to my weary soul. Thank you so much.💗🙏 💗

[@denisel780]

@@anniepaquette You deserve that 🥰 LOVING the book!! 😊

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Denise! How's the reading going? Are you finding something for you heart and/soul in the book's pages? I hope so. And, if you are, I would like to ask you if you could write a short review/rating on Amazon. It is SO important. This is what Amazon uses to decide if it shows my books to people searching for what I write about. Thanks so much for your love, (and maybe for your review 😉)💚

[@charlottewagstaff3107]

Sending you love. Be kind to yourself - I get what you are feeling but in no way have you failed at anything. Just think of all the people you are helping. Please take some time to rest x

[@anniepaquette]

Hi Charlotte. Finding words like yours when I got up the next day meant SO MUCH. Thank you for taking the time and being there for me. 💗🙏 💗

[@crazypinkchick5557]

Hello my lovely one😊. I wish I could give u a huge hug💗. I thank u for being so real and honest. I and I would say many others got alot out of this video. U reminded us it is ok to have a bad day, it's ok not to b able to cope everyday, it's ok to say I have reached my limit and I need a break and a rest !!!!! 😊 U r a beautiful human and u r loved, appreciated and respected for being u. U have made a big difference to my life. Thank u for your time and energy that u share. I am so looking forward to your book. Love and prayers 💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏

[@anniepaquette]

I am receiving your hug. 💗🤗💗 You're right. None of us cope every day. Telling me I made a difference in your life brings tears to my eyes. Thank you.

[@crazypinkchick5557]

@@anniepaquette it's all true and I think u r amazing !!! 💗💗💗🙏🙏🙏

[@anniepaquette]

@@crazypinkchick5557 I hope you find something you are looking for in my book. If you do... I would love if you would write a quick review and rating on Amazon (?) Amazon grades books on that, it's super important for it to show the book to more people. Thanks Dear!

[@janiebell03]

Love the raw honesty ❤

[@anniepaquette]

Thanks Janiebell. 💗🙏 💗 Thanks for taking the time to comment. All this love has moved me.

[@JosepineB]

It’s okay! It’s okay…❤

[@anniepaquette]

Thank you for being here Josepine 💗🙏 💗

[@ravenraven966]

Oh Annie,, i know exactly how you feel....🫂💙

[@anniepaquette]

I feel such beautiful understanding and support. Thank you. 💗🙏 💗

[@colinjohnrudd]

I totally love you Annie, that is all I have to offer you now, the time is closing in for all of us and I don't know what happens next (of course). If I could then I would be with you in these dark days I swear.......maybe next time around? Your current mood is an exact replica of my own today and I sense your sentences almost before you speak! Try to rest and find some peace my angel and know that you have given some comfort and communication to others in these sad times....... tomorrow will soon be here whatever it may bring.........we shall see, my HSP! xx kzbin.info/www/bejne/qH_Jqp-BaK90g7c

[@anniepaquette]

I receive your offering. It is a great gift. I don't know what happens next (of course), sometimes I look at it with curiosity, excitement, others with fear. 💗🙏 💗 Thank you.

[@KAH61]

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[@anniepaquette]

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[@briechilli4496]

Annie, i love you ! Thank you for making me feel “normal”. Sending you courage and a pinch of bravery from my heart ❤ I will buy your book on the 15th but i am in Australia so when you say the 15th according to which zone of the world 🤷🏼‍♀️ ???

[@anniepaquette]

Receiving your pinch of bravery all the way across the world. I believe (not sure) it would be my USA time zone, so our 15th. 💗🙏 💗

[@briechilli4496]

🙏🏽💕🩷💓💕🦋💞💕💝💞

[@anniepaquette]

Yes.... the butterfly....thank you Brie.💗🙏 💗

[@amn8827]

🙋🏻‍♀️🫶🏼

[@anniepaquette]

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