Anyone ever obsess so much about a real event in your past that you did, that it seems everywhere you go or anything you watch will send you a reminder of that event and makes you anxious and fearful
@dannijackson25103 жыл бұрын
honestly i feel like this is what my ocd just can't detach from ... it feels so real, it feels like I'm exception from the rule and unlike everything else i truly did something wrong, its like my world centres around the event and my life will never be same!
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Everyone feels like they are the exception to the rule, if we didn’t it wouldn’t have much of a grip.
@danaaltouri95623 жыл бұрын
Hey it’s okay! I’m going through the same thing myself and it feels like I feel relief for a second and then the next second there’s the weight of rocks in my chest. I don’t know what to do and I’m struggling so hard but we can fight through it together
@edmjsf3 жыл бұрын
15 people liked this comment. Trust, you aren't the exception. Best wishes to you, God bless
@silencio12343 жыл бұрын
Honestly, I feel exactly the same way. My ocd constant scans my memories to find anything that could be harmful. No one else thinks the things were bad at all, but to the ocd it is a huge deal and my life revolves against it
@IndieBassJA262 жыл бұрын
we’re all going to get through it! hugs to everyone
@matthewhicks1574 Жыл бұрын
False memories are insane. I felt a memory was so traumatizing and insane that it ate away at me. Finally I broke down and talked to my little brother and he verified it never happened. That's when I realized my ocd was taking me to a very dark place
@selenawarren91422 жыл бұрын
False memory scares the hell out of me. I can't believe how much ocd has morphed my innocent memories into something much more sinister. I even remember false thoughts/feelings about certain events
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
We can help you. We have a webinar coming up specifically on recovering from false memory OCD if you are interested 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com
@batuliejalloh7085 Жыл бұрын
@ selenawarren9142 When you say False thoughts and feeling , can you elaborate. I swear I think I am suffering from that. 😢
@bigarmsbill3229 Жыл бұрын
What bothers me is, how can I tell what's real from what's false? My memories used to be much more innocent, didn't bother me, or were non-existent, and then it started with one thing that became traumatic, and then it snowballed into 10 or even 20 things. Sometimes, some things bother me, and then it moves on to the next thing, and so on.
@Baloongis28 ай бұрын
@@batuliejalloh7085 I think they mean they had false memories about bad things they thought or felt. I think I suffer from this aswell
@laurened65052 жыл бұрын
Hey I love you. You can't imagine how many people you saved from suicide with this video. You deserve the best in life. Same for all the OCD sufferers. Take care.
@j1r3hpv3 жыл бұрын
Thank You for making this video. You broke down exactly what I have been going through. I've had OCD for a majority of my life and this past time it felt like "no this is different" "you did something horrible" "how can i live with myself"
@nicholasyork2396 Жыл бұрын
I've been going through therapy and getting help but I have dealt with guilt from a religious aspect of OCD and man it is absolutely terrible. I would not wish this upon literally anyone. It's frustrating when you feel like you on the outside life is great but you're in mental turmoil
@postalfude79363 жыл бұрын
Who ever is suffering from real event ocd the cure is stop the fight to get rid of that thought, and learn to live with it! Stop looking for videos to stop it, pre much doing that is a compulsion in itself, I’ve been dealing with real event ever since last year March and the past few weeks I’ve let my hands down and stop the fight. No that doesn’t mean you’ve lost the fight, just means to stop fighting it, it slowly locks off and it fades away and when ever it comes up your just at peace with it and it doesn’t lock on as much, everyone can get through this! Good luck to everyone.
@postalfude79363 жыл бұрын
@@sns595 hey bro been alright I guess life’s doing it’s thing, still get the thought, any more tips to not have it so locked on?
@postalfude79363 жыл бұрын
@@sns595 Cheers man unlucky you relapse bro, always got room for improvement! Until then peace
@postalfude79363 жыл бұрын
@@sns595 Broooo 😍😍 can imagine ay can’t wait til I can get a month of heaven would be awesome and fulfilling, maybe one day 🤞🤞🤞
@leonardrichards37783 жыл бұрын
@@postalfude7936 hey I think I could use your help. Is there any way I could contact you?
@postalfude79363 жыл бұрын
@@leonardrichards3778 I don’t know how but can you message on KZbin or email maybe
@trashhooperstevenperalta17103 жыл бұрын
The guilt is really bad It makes me feel like I'm the worst person ever and that I don't even deserve to die. Does anyone else get this thought or feeling
@ashadyfellow74473 жыл бұрын
Yeah i feel you :/
@leosanmiguel28242 жыл бұрын
Yup I feel you man
@elarkdjd83772 жыл бұрын
Yes, me too
@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns Жыл бұрын
How are you doing now with real event ocd? Did it get better? I’m struggling with this now.
@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns Жыл бұрын
@Alex O'Toole … I would suggest you to try therapy without meds, first. And see how that goes.
@g-era89982 жыл бұрын
Very detailed information. Word for word describes how I’ve been feeling for years now. Surprised to see how many of you guys out there also have been experiencing it. I’m ready to do whatever it takes to get my life back. Hope all of us are able to overcome this terrible annoying condition.
@leahgreen43844 жыл бұрын
The part where you talked about not wanting your kids to do the same thing as you...that’s me! I am terrified of my future children doing the same. I feel like I am corrupt because of my past awful behaviour and that I have bad genes that will pass the behaviour to the children.
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Please watch Oliver’s video on chronic guilt and read the comments on the posts above where I break down what’s needed for recovery in the terms of reading and videos to watch related to this subject. Hope you find helpful 😊
@g-era89982 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery Hi. I know this video is about a year old but where is Oliver’s video on chronic guilt ? I would really like to view it
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
@@g-era8998 we are currently redoing those and uploading new ones soon.
@g-era89982 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery Great. Can’t wait. Thanks for the reply
@arminseddigh39893 жыл бұрын
This past month I’ve been struggling with this. I always watched videos on pure O ocd but there was always a deep feeling that I wish there was a diagnosis that applied to something that I actually did. It has been so relieving to find out about Real Event OCD. I know that simply finding this video isn’t the cure, and I most likely have months to go before I recover, and I may even relapse in the future. But it feels good to have some sense of security for even a moment.
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Glad you found it helpful 😊
@xagerussia96873 жыл бұрын
I have been having this weird memories of a tiny bad thing that I did butt my thoughts keep making it seem as if it was big deal now whenever I try to relax or do something positive it keeps haunting me. But thank God I found this video and that i am alive to see this day
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Unconditonal self acceptance gets under it
@upscduniya32992 жыл бұрын
mee tooo
@Hinarushi Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this talk. We need more of these explanations. I feel like I learned some things that I wasn't fully aware of till now. You really do understand the struggle and pointed out some very important things, the turmoil and hell that an OCD sufferer goes through every day and all of the trial questions they ask themselves. I ask myself these things every single day. Oh and I have subscribed to your Instagram.
@Generouslife153 Жыл бұрын
You are not alone. It will tell you that your different and you absolutely positively did something and you’re gonna pay for it. What I’ve learned is that there are two different ways of knowing. You can have emotional knowledge or intellectual knowledge. You know intellectuals nothing happened but emotionally you feel certain it did. We like to think of ourselves as one person but we are not one person. We are a system of many different parts that has to live with one another. The front part of your brain is intellectual but it literally gives you a different story than the emotional midbrain. Seriously the fact that we refer to ourselves as “one person” is just a concept so we can speak about it easily. Think of it this way, you look at a car and say that’s a car. But a car is hundreds of different machines that each function individually. You can take the seat out of a car just the same as you can take a lobe from your brain and live. That’s a lobotomy. What you refer to as you is scientifically multiple yous. And they all have their own opinion
@SKRithvik4 жыл бұрын
Hi man ! I have also decided to accept everything. Today I am going to do my toughest exposure. I neither have an OCD specialist nor a community. KZbin is the only OCD community I've got.
@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns3 жыл бұрын
How are you doing friend?
@SKRithvik3 жыл бұрын
@@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns I am usually overwhelmed by life these days. So I don’t know how I am doing. Just living moment to moment. Not trying to figure out what’s gonna happen or what has happened. How are you doing ? And by the way, since I wrote this comment, I have joined the “OCD Recovery” Facebook group. It’s free
@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns3 жыл бұрын
@@SKRithvik ... I’m so sorry to hear that. Trust me when I say, that I know exactly what you’re going through. It’s very very tough and I am also taking it one day at a time. Praying, and hoping... wishing all these bad thoughts away. I am struggling with “real event” ocd. What about you?
@SKRithvik3 жыл бұрын
@@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns I am sorry to hear that Elizabeth. I know that it’s very tough. Eventually, we need to live with the uncertainty and other feelings we don’t like. I have a combination of False Memory OCD + Harm OCD + ROCD(although I am in a better place right now after accepting a heartbreak). There are periodic episodes of Paranoia as well. I have been reading Mark Freeman’s “The Mind Workout” and have been trying to manually put my awareness on things that I value. It’s very tough. Physical sensations are very uncomfortable but I do recovery work because doing compulsions is no longer an option.
@ElizabethGonzalez-jt7ns3 жыл бұрын
@@SKRithvik ... is that book helping you? Is it a good read?
@nuggets13567 ай бұрын
Wow I didn't know other people suffer this way. I'm starting to think after watching some of your videos that I also suffer from different kinds of OCD. Guilt and shame is a big thing with me for a long time now. But I've been dealing with various intrusive thoughts since I was 17. Some intrusive thoughts I didn't get until I was 25. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia in 2016 after I went to the psyche ward. I didn't learn my thoughts were intrusive thoughts or even knew that was a thing. And I really believe they diagnosed me with schizophrenia simply to start me on meds. But I'm missing so many key things with that I never felt that diagnosis was correct. Since stumbling on this channel so much people have said here sound just like me. And for the first time in my life I feel like I may have found what's actually wrong with me. And also for the first time, hearing other people talk on these subjects I have a small ray of hope in what's been a deep dark hell since I was 17. The next time I see a psychologist I'm going to ask them to do a re evaluation on me for OCD. Because all this stuff is like hearing stories that perfectly describe my issues. I never felt that way watching videos on people with scizophrenia. But damn the chronic guilt and shame, compulsions, harm OCD and pocd, real event and false event like man all these things I full heartedly relate to. In the end I just wanted to say thanks. Because of these videos I now can properly address this with my mental health professionals and hopefully get treated finally for the right thing. And I have the deepest amount of gratitude for you guys posting these videos as it literally has pulled me out of some suicidal depression I've had for months now. I finally feel I can start moving in the right direction now due to information that's completely new to me that I've gained from this channel.
@account13073 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much 💖 I really appreciate that you would take time in your life to help people out by making this video, it's truly a mark of a good person to do something like that, and everyone with OCD who you are helping really appreciates it!
@Jem4music3 жыл бұрын
This honestly has saved my life. Thank you so much.
@jonathongoldie4 жыл бұрын
It’s amazing you put this up today. This is exactly what I’ve recently been struggling with. At the core of the issue is Guilt.. and I had not realized that!
@Mike-ol2dd Жыл бұрын
This was done brilliantly. Working with those struggling with OCD….this will be used to help them for sure. Well done sir.
@michaelkarpel28674 жыл бұрын
Happy belated Birthday Rob! I have been struggling with Harm OCD - False Memory - primarily from the past for 30 years. Very similar to how you describe in the video, with slight variations. I am just starting to read your reading list. Thank you for the work you are doing, it is beyond helpful for so many suffers.
@jonathongoldie4 жыл бұрын
Does he have a list somewhere or do you mean what he mentioned in the video?
@feelalive71233 жыл бұрын
@@jonathongoldie1. how to stop making yourself miserable about anything- Albert Ellis 2. Myth of self esteem- Albert Ellis
@julin8597Ай бұрын
I have watched some videos on persecutory guilt and persecutory anxiety which also helped me challenge the critical voices that keep me trapped.
@parkourguy4567 Жыл бұрын
I honestly fear there’s no help and that I’m doomed to suffer, and agonize from this condition, I am terrified
@OCDRecovery Жыл бұрын
There is tons of #hope
@sidboi193 жыл бұрын
Ive got this overwhelming feeling that i have done something such taboo. Its been with my for 14 months now. It actually started from seeing a horrible word and now ita made me believe i have done something more sinister that i have no memory of. The thing is ive cone to believe it as the rational side of my brain never wins. So now its just spiralled out of control to what the worst possible outcomes will be. Its gone from this intial feeling to being arrested and my life being over. Its terrifying!
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Watch Oliver’s video on this channel on taboo ocd
@sidboi193 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery thank you i will give that a watch. I know this is asking for reassurance but do you think this is ocd? I cant seem to find anyone who has experienced what i have. Thanks
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Reassurance and you spotted it when you said “I know this is reassurance” you need to keep an eye on these compulsions.
@postalfude79363 жыл бұрын
I have real event ocd and wanna know how to change your perspective to living with it instead of trying to get rid of it and make more compulsions Anyone going through same thing?
@danic25143 жыл бұрын
Check out Michael J Greenberg
@oedipascourage62623 жыл бұрын
Greatly distilled insights. I think this is exactly what I need - thank you!
@mrl15933 жыл бұрын
Been dealing with this from time to time during months. It's horrible!!
@Shelbynuts2 жыл бұрын
I used to be a drunk and didn’t treat my family the best. I’m Sober now I feel Chronic guilt and makes me so extremely sad glad I found this
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
Well done on sobriety!
@unknownuser48792 жыл бұрын
I'm a teenager and this shot took 3 years of my life. I've been told several times not to worry since I didn't do anything wrong but I'm so scared that I might have done something horrible even tho I know that I didn't. I'm doing better but the anxiety is still there. I wanted to take my life bc if this
@sp00kypumpk1n2 жыл бұрын
Remain positive, things will improve! I have also been suffering from chronic guilt and anxiety and sometimes I feel like I can't recover. However, you always have to remain positive because things will improve eventually! You just need to work hard to achieve it. You should speak to your family and people you trust and they can help you, and work from there.
@Muhammad-pz1bp Жыл бұрын
It's ocd that make events look worse , it's not real .
@unknownuser4879 Жыл бұрын
@Muhammad-pz1bp time has passed and my mental health has improved a lot but I still have little obsessions over other things but I've forced myself to stop seeking reassurance. You can do this!
@Muhammad-pz1bp Жыл бұрын
@@unknownuser4879 i also have a scary theme that maybe i caused suffering and death to a dog , false memory OCD is the worst i think , it make images look real , and the anxiety make us feel it real .
@PlanetWomble2 жыл бұрын
I have been haunted by bad memories for 30 years. Also guilt shame and self hatred . Sometimes I want to pull the plug.
@PlanetWomble2 жыл бұрын
I have also seen lots of therapists.
@Generouslife153 Жыл бұрын
I just found this community and than you so much for making these videos
@OCDRecovery Жыл бұрын
You are very welcome!
@natz82742 жыл бұрын
thank you so much - can you do a ocd intrusive urges or false feelings on wanting to do something that you don't want to
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
Will do!
@natz82742 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery thank you so much
@okays2972 жыл бұрын
Thank you from the deepest corners of my heart
@frankmc324 Жыл бұрын
Guilt latches on by making me feel im a coward and in the past not standing up for myself in certain situations in my past that i regret
@astroocean35202 жыл бұрын
Very well said in your video. Horrible ever changing OCD now for 33 years here.
@DogMommy. Жыл бұрын
It feels like I have to convince myself that I didn't do something that I really didn't do which is insane smh 🥺
@marinablackyarn38763 жыл бұрын
Can real event OCD also be something that happened to you in the past, or something in the past that you didn't do right and you keep obsessing about it and want to make it right, or else you'll be punished eventually?
@luvforever-kp1hm3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@Eezkiel3 жыл бұрын
I think this is happening to me
@luvforever-kp1hm3 жыл бұрын
@@Eezkiel I have this currently as well and it’s a roller coaster sometimes I feel like I use this as an excuse and just want to be punished. But I want to say you’re not alone!
@Eezkiel3 жыл бұрын
@@luvforever-kp1hm thank you bro stay strong don't give up because of this ocd life is amazing it has ups and downs enjoy it because we only have one
@upscduniya32992 жыл бұрын
same here bro
@account13073 жыл бұрын
This is spot on advice
@annecampbell29502 жыл бұрын
After depression because of mental abuse for years then fear of lockdowns along came anxiety and it brought up och about blinking to much saliva fears from my childhood. Was making good progress then I had a bad fall and hurt my back. Now its as if my recovery has went back.
@boating1224 жыл бұрын
thank you sir.. i struggle with terrible ocd for most of my life.
@kylehill91213 жыл бұрын
You literally described me. Thank you so much. I have real events and false memories but the false memories are way worse. Can false memories come from nowhere and be quite specific?
@kylehill91213 жыл бұрын
@@ΒαγιαΙακωβακη-γ5τ They're hard to determine whether they're real or not because you can't go back to check the past, but logically they wouldn't have happened. OCD keeps you confused and wondering however.
@ΒαγιαΙακωβακη-γ5τ3 жыл бұрын
@@kylehill9121 so, how you deal with this type of ocd?
@kylehill91213 жыл бұрын
@@ΒαγιαΙακωβακη-γ5τ You tell me. It's a struggle. Are you suffering with this or just trying to gain an understanding?
@kylehill91213 жыл бұрын
@@ΒαγιαΙακωβακη-γ5τ Do you experience the same feelings?
@feelalive71233 жыл бұрын
@@kylehill9121 u got any closure on this?
@Drheat007 Жыл бұрын
Holy fuck this was me, I used to blame myself for my first kiss at 15, and convinced myself it was wrong because I wasn’t 16, yes crazy I know, 😢to the point I was going to go to the police… love the video And yes I still fight ocd daily❤❤ Love and peace
@anthonette-o1g2 ай бұрын
im struggling depression and anxiety guilt and shame im deeply i ruined my life and my children education 😢😢😢😢😢i hate myself 😢thankyou for this info
@Krusher_K2 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling with this ocd for the past 4 years. It switches alot though, between this specific type, Religious ocd, contamination and self harm or harming others. It comes and goes and with different intensities, especially when I'm finally starting to move forward in my life, the thoughts come back intensely and just constantly torments me.
@elarkdjd83772 жыл бұрын
I have the same. I got happy I got relief 2 days ago because I "figured it out" and was ready to forgive myself and move on and suddenly it threw at me some heavier weight.
@Krusher_K2 жыл бұрын
@@elarkdjd8377 it's a constant struggle man, but you only lose when you give up. Nothing lasts forever
@cortananefertiti66853 жыл бұрын
Are there any cases of this type of thing happening post-natal? I feel like this is what I'm going through. But my partner thinks I'm suffering from postnatal depression.
@bagsandshoes15 Жыл бұрын
Real event related to cheating, anybody else? Guilt is all consuming
@farmermaggotscrop90683 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting
@nielsmaas85253 жыл бұрын
Hi! This is litterly me. I've done such horrible things and I can't move on. I feel like a monster. I feel so guilty for all these diffrent things some worse then other. I'm litterly crying inside right now seeing this video. I just want to be a happy person again, I've had so much therapies already and all work for short amount of times before falling back into ocd again. My wife is pregnant of our 2nd child and I want to be there for them, I'm just so disconnected because of my ocd and I hate myself for it. Is there anyway we can get in touch l? I'm from the Netherlands btw I hope that's not an issue?
@feelalive71233 жыл бұрын
U can send them a mail @ocdrecovery.com I think you need to get therapy as soon as possible.
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
Oliver covers guilt and shame in great detail in his video on the topic on this channel. I also suggest watching the three part video by Albert Ellis on KZbin on guilt and shame it was a game changer for me along with the books on our reading list!
@christineguerrero56783 жыл бұрын
Typical CBT just fuels OCD. Have you tried ERP therapy?
@jaedenmk55443 жыл бұрын
Hi, thanks for the video. I’m getting worried at the minute because I’m scared I might have done something inappropriate to my cat. I don’t want to have done something, but I just don’t know if it’s real or if my mind has fabricated it. Is there any hints of distinguishing a real memory from a false one ?
@elarkdjd83772 жыл бұрын
I think no one will write you that because it can be reassurance seeking and thats bad
@rinafilms15632 жыл бұрын
But what if you actually did something criminal and was never convicted for it? In that case I have a reason to live in guilt and fear because I deserve nothing more than that.
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
Chronic guilt is never needed whatever you think you did.
@jilln10062 жыл бұрын
I feel this
@jonathongoldie4 жыл бұрын
Do you still plan to do a video on OCD and schizophrenia? I think I remember you mentioning it. I could be wrong.
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
Jonathon Goldie yes I will covering this topic.
@jonathongoldie4 жыл бұрын
OCD Recovery great! Can’t wait to hear!
@mahachalawi22484 жыл бұрын
Yess utter utter acceptance i love this video 😍
@griper00 Жыл бұрын
i think there should be way more awarenes about false memory ocd
@messpilo Жыл бұрын
I have these thoughts as well together with strong anxiety it brings events from the past to cause me guilt and other feelings.
@yyyxx2842 Жыл бұрын
Is it OCD if you think someone else did something to you I'm the past? Not other way around.
@kris_tin83 жыл бұрын
I have the same problem but not about something I did. It's about something I thought. A fleeting thought. What is this then?
@OCDRecovery3 жыл бұрын
This is a common part of OCD and what I suffered from, we can feel guilt just for thinking something or feel disturbed just for a thought.
@HM-fb7sq4 жыл бұрын
Will real event scenarios bring new thoughts dealing with the incident, bringing new thoughts to make you feel guilt?
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
HM yes or one locked on thought
@Spicypapi3334 жыл бұрын
Is it possible to fear that something happened to you and not that you did something? I don't see that as common
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
Cynthia Garza it can latch to anything!
@Therealnickwalker3 жыл бұрын
Amen extremely helpful 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@LoveLove-mi9ne3 жыл бұрын
I've been obsessing a memory for this week I feel so guilty so I'm punishing myself by starving myself, even if I tried to eat I wouldn't be able to stomach it But I feel like I've forgotten somethings pertaining to that particular memory, because if I really did do that then why do I feel such disgust at the thought? And why didn't I feel guilty all the days after? Did I just do it and forget it? The uncertainty is killing me If I accept it too, I won't be able to take it because that's not the type of person I am, I will never be able to look people in the eye again But I cant help the guilt and anxiety either way What I do in these situations is confess and get reassurance but this time I'm not going to do it Do you suggest that I accept it anyway?
@hailseitan38763 жыл бұрын
Was it an actual memory? Or are you unsure if it's actually real or not?
@LoveLove-mi9ne3 жыл бұрын
@@hailseitan3876 I don't really know how to explain it The first part of it really did happen and that part isn't bad, its everything after that, that I'm unsure of I feel like I'm just trying to find an excuse and it really did happen but I'm denying it
@jaedenmk55443 жыл бұрын
@@LoveLove-mi9ne I’m going through this exact experience. I just don’t know if I’ve done something wrong or not. I wouldn’t want to have done the thing I’m scared about but it’s like I just don’t know
@LoveLove-mi9ne3 жыл бұрын
@@jaedenmk5544 hiii I don't know much about all of this so I have no idea of what to say But I am doing better. I'm still anxious but the guilt is better,still there but manageable So there's hope😊 I will be seeing someone about all this though How about you?
@jaedenmk55443 жыл бұрын
@@LoveLove-mi9ne I’m getting help with it too. It’s hard to get through the guilt when you’re so confused
@sp00kypumpk1n2 жыл бұрын
I have been suffering from chronic guilt and anxiety from false and real event OCD. Sometimes the events are just events that I don't think ever happened at all and some are events that did happen that feel like they are being morphed into something else. I am ready to start recovering but I'm not sure how to start. I have already spoken to many people, but I am not really sure how to start the recovery process or how to start handling these thoughts. Any advice?
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
Exactly where I was. We can help you with this unconditional self acceptance gets under it. 📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com for info The event is irrelevant, you don’t need to work it out, whether it happened or not makes no difference.
@sp00kypumpk1n2 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery Thank you so much!!
@taylorhumes75672 жыл бұрын
But why does this condition exist? Like what is the cause of this sort of psychological neuroses?
@sondorp3 жыл бұрын
I think it also comes from an expectation of one self to always have to be ' good' . In my case , growing up in a left wing and christian family has made me want to reach the unattainable of being all good at all times. Which is of course inhumane , as you're always gonna fuck up one way or the other.I guess other people who didn't grow up with these strict values, will find it a lot easier to accept themselves for what they are.And are therefor not so vulnerable for ocd guilt attacks..
@ravenhillrestoration2133 жыл бұрын
I've been suffering with this for years
@farihafatima30683 жыл бұрын
Ok mine is attacking an incident that occurred probably at the age of 15-17 but it keeps pushing the age group older and older to made me feel like my fears are true. Is it possible for it to attack memories at this age group as well?
@luvforever-kp1hm3 жыл бұрын
I’m currently 17 now with OCD but I started having the symptoms when I was 16 years old.
@beestjepingu75913 жыл бұрын
Same!
@jonathongoldie4 жыл бұрын
Does writing down obsessions help? Sorry, I know it’s a very general question.
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
Jonathon Goldie usually becomes compulsive
@natz82742 жыл бұрын
yes it made mine so much worse
@sammullett17 Жыл бұрын
My thoughts are all related to being drunk and not remembering if I've done something bad, like the drunk me is a different person etc.
@freethyPlays2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Subscribed.
@emmaroulstonewrestlingfan3 жыл бұрын
I think it might be false memory OCD currently for me I'm not sure. When I go outside and I'm near someone I will get an intrusive thought about harming them out of nowhere (pushing the woman I just saw into the road) , then I will wonder if my movements that followed were me trying to hurt someone, even though they were harmless movements for example I may make a small movement backwards, and then my brain will say what if you were trying to push that lady into the road? , then I go home and replay the movements I made over and over to try and get an answer about whether I tried kill someone (that is what OCD is accusing me of) My intrusive thoughts are very frequent and it's connecting the thoughts to my movements. Is this false memory OCD? It's ruining my life.
@emmaroulstonewrestlingfan3 жыл бұрын
I will get the thought too while I am in the middle of making a movement which makes me feel like I was trying to hurt someone. It so scary and I hate it. What is going on?
@alexcaballero10573 жыл бұрын
@@emmaroulstonewrestlingfan I have the same thoughts it’s false memory.
@chiefbrodyrobertson29503 жыл бұрын
Very good video.subscribed👍
@JesusSanchez75s1Ай бұрын
Ver esta clase de videos se podría considerar una rumiacion o compulsión?
@aishwaryam62444 жыл бұрын
Is guilt always there in such OCD ? Is there a possibility that at one point where its like "alright, if the thought says this, then it must be true" but there is no guilt but just feeling numb ?
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
Aishwarya Muttagi are you trying to workout if the guilt is genuine?
@aishwaryam62444 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery Yes ! I am trying to see if i am guilty or not but i don't feel guilty.
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
Aishwarya Muttagi you won’t be able to workout feelings to obtain certainty, you need to get used to not answering them and not trying to work them out for one.
@aishwaryam62444 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery Thank you !! 😊
@Joejoe-fd4ic3 жыл бұрын
Your so brave thankyou
@maitreyentertainment35543 жыл бұрын
Hey you are doing a great job but I have one doubt on false memory my doubt is that these false memories which produces guilt shame regret or can cause any harm only happens when we are in depression stress or we already have OCD or we have eye witness any accident or crime or in generally also when we absolutely fine these false memories of guilt and shame can occur
@Hhhhhhhhh5006 ай бұрын
Can anyone help me, it’s been over a year since this ‘night’ where I think I may of done something awful to a female (r**e), it came after many ‘mistakes’ with females that affected me but after speaking to my housemate he said they were part of growing up, I walked home intoxicated and on my own and feel I grabbed someone and committed the act, nothings came of the night but I did start to find my own evidence, what do you all advise, Its affected my life so much I can’t hardly leave my bed, any suggestions please
@Kiyobear_154 ай бұрын
It's the ocd making it worse!! How are u doing now?
@Hhhhhhhhh5004 ай бұрын
@@Kiyobear_15 terrible I’ll never move on normally again
@HM-fb7sq4 жыл бұрын
Will you be doing another group for real event Rob?
@OCDRecovery4 жыл бұрын
HM yes!
@abetrasken2 жыл бұрын
"Humans are designed to fight and be violent." You are wrong about this Robert. Do you see claws on our hands? Are our teeth sharp? Is our skin thick enough to resist penetration even by blunt objects? Would a person who was raised by a compassionate and accepting family in a strong and tolerant community - who wasn't conditioned into reacting with hatred and aggression by means of their reliance on group respect or warped by fear, trauma or the fear and trauma of the generations before them - be at all likely to raise a fist against another human because they wanted something? The last question is not rhetorical, I am genuinely interested in your answer. What you said here is based on a fallacious appeal to nature that started a couple hundred years ago after the academic acceptance of evolution. It was propagated by those seeking increased power through the emerging capitalist system, who used biased biologists and anthropologists - selecting "evidence" to back up speculation, possibly with financial incentive - to convince people that humanity tends towards violence and aggressive competition by nature and evolved that way: therefore it is natural and acceptable that success be achieved by stepping over the bodies of failures. In reality our brains are designed for co-operation, not violence. Our ability to work together is and has always been immensely more important to our survival (as groups and individuals) than our ability to physically overpower each other or rival groups, and so it follows that this is the dominant factor in the evolution of our brains. The prevalence of inter-personal violence as we know it today - and eventually war - most likely came as the result of the wealth and social hierarchy that followed agriculture, construction and therefore concentrated population centers and the large-scale storing of foods less than 10,000 years ago. There wasn't much power to struggle for before that and violence in any community would be a great risk not only to the individuals involved but to the whole group, which - along with inherent empathy and powerful fear of social rejection - meant that individuals would have little incentive to carry out violent acts and peaceful resolution of interpersonal conflicts would have been a high social priority. Likewise it would have been quite unlikely for any community to see more reward than risk in the prospect of violent conflict with another community. Even the existence of psychopaths would not have resulted in much violence at all back then because they would be incentivized in a manner similar to others, and their own brains' risk/reward calculations would rarely lead them to fighting or murder because where is the reward without wealth or power? I like what you are doing and hope you keep it up, but the "red in tooth and claw" myth is pseudo-scientific and it is surprising and very disappointing that you don't know this, especially given the subject of your practice.
@Alritealritealrite Жыл бұрын
Yes we are. You don't have to have claws. We Have Eyes in front of our heads and we are the apex predator
@abetrasken Жыл бұрын
@@Alritealritealrite A lot of mostly vegetarian species have eyes in the front of their heads, for example almost all primates because sight is the most honed sense and focused vision is useful not only for predators, there is only one primate who is an obligate predator. We ate mostly fruit and vegetables before we developed complex communities and hunting tools, this is evidenced by our teeth. Imagine you had no tools at all, then imagine trying to eat the flesh of a dead animal. Not happening. That was a long, long time of us communicating and working together. That whole time we would have been absolutely terrified of so many of the animals living on the ground (huge hyenas and sabre-toothed cats etc etc), hence why we spent so much time in the trees and are natural climbers. We were certainly Not apex predators, not even for a long time after tools and even after cities, because other things still ate us. Arguably there is no such thing as an apex predator nowadays, because there's always some c*** that wants to find out what one tastes like and only needs money to do so. We certainly have the most immediate power nowadays, but my point was not about what we can do with our tools or intelligence now (or for the last 50,000 years), and neither was Robert's. Both of our points were about how evolution made us.
@sammullett17 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I'm going through!!!
@DedricSilva Жыл бұрын
I'm currently suffering from Real Event OCD and is related to my POCD. It's torturing me.
@OCDRecovery Жыл бұрын
We can help you with that! Check out the videos on this channel, there are lots breaking it down.
@Generouslife153 Жыл бұрын
You are not alone. It will tell you that your different and you absolutely positively did something and you’re gonna pay for it. What I’ve learned is that there are two different ways of knowing. You can have emotional knowledge or intellectual knowledge. You know intellectuals nothing happened but emotionally you feel certain it did. We like to think of ourselves as one person but we are not one person. We are a system of many different parts that has to live with one another. The front part of your brain is intellectual but it literally gives you a different story than the emotional midbrain. Seriously the fact that we refer to ourselves as “one person” is just a concept so we can speak about it easily. Think of it this way, you look at a car and say that’s a car. But a car is hundreds of different machines that each function individually. You can take the seat out of a car just the same as you can take a lobe from your brain and live. That’s a lobotomy. What you refer to as you is scientifically multiple yous. And they all have their own opinion
@sethty Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much, im 16 and I’m so lost it’s been like this for over a year I haven’t been able to enjoy myself, I feel like I don’t deserve it, how do I get help
@OCDRecovery Жыл бұрын
📧 phil@ocdrecovery.com
@Sean-xr1xj Жыл бұрын
Even watching this I'm thinking "But my event is ACTUALLY bad" lol.
@Generouslife153 Жыл бұрын
You are not alone. It will tell you that your different and you absolutely positively did something and you’re gonna pay for it. What I’ve learned is that there are two different ways of knowing. You can have emotional knowledge or intellectual knowledge. You know intellectuals nothing happened but emotionally you feel certain it did. We like to think of ourselves as one person but we are not one person. We are a system of many different parts that has to live with one another. The front part of your brain is intellectual but it literally gives you a different story than the emotional midbrain. Seriously the fact that we refer to ourselves as “one person” is just a concept so we can speak about it easily. Think of it this way, you look at a car and say that’s a car. But a car is hundreds of different machines that each function individually. You can take the seat out of a car just the same as you can take a lobe from your brain and live. That’s a lobotomy. What you refer to as you is scientifically multiple yous. And they all have their own opinion
@DogMommy. Жыл бұрын
I been struggling with false memories/cheat OCD it's the worse 🥺
@agnesbwise95343 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!!!
@Tangentbordsblues Жыл бұрын
So I need to get used to it feeling like I did something horrible, and compare myself to people on death row and say they can have calm days?
@Generouslife153 Жыл бұрын
You are not alone. It will tell you that your different and you absolutely positively did something and you’re gonna pay for it. What I’ve learned is that there are two different ways of knowing. You can have emotional knowledge or intellectual knowledge. You know intellectuals nothing happened but emotionally you feel certain it did. We like to think of ourselves as one person but we are not one person. We are a system of many different parts that has to live with one another. The front part of your brain is intellectual but it literally gives you a different story than the emotional midbrain. Seriously the fact that we refer to ourselves as “one person” is just a concept so we can speak about it easily. Think of it this way, you look at a car and say that’s a car. But a car is hundreds of different machines that each function individually. You can take the seat out of a car just the same as you can take a lobe from your brain and live. That’s a lobotomy. What you refer to as you is scientifically multiple yous. And they all have their own opinion
@stevies-w6122 Жыл бұрын
OCD has ruined me
@sophiavirdi69092 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@user-yh9yl4ss2t2 жыл бұрын
Please help. Could this apply to having a memory or thought and you start to obsess that something horrible happened to you vs you doing something horrible?
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
To all!
@user-yh9yl4ss2t2 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery what do you mean by that? I’m terrified of this thought that someone hurt me and im going to wrongfully accuse them because I know it didn’t happen. It’s so scary and I feel like I’ve never heard anyone talk about this kind of OCD
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
@@user-yh9yl4ss2t we have a webinar coming up on this topic if you are interested please email phil@ocdrecovery.com
@elarkdjd83772 жыл бұрын
Where do you come from? I like your dialect.
@OCDRecovery2 жыл бұрын
London, thank you.
@elarkdjd83772 жыл бұрын
@@OCDRecovery I acted on some harmless intrusive thought in the past because of sudden urge by doing choirs like washing dishes and got an image of cutting myself but I touched the knife thats all, dont know why, I deeply didnt have intentions to cut myself. And now Im scared because I acted on urge somewhow and its maybe "proof" that Im more able to fully act on them some day. And maybe its proof I dont have ocd. This disease is horrible. 2 days ago I thought I got relief, forgave myself and can move on but its suddenly found some another thing where I can feel now there is really no way out of that. And Im stuck. The wrost is I work as a nurse. I thought I will have ocd under control but it has destroyed my professional life as here is lot of triggering things. At the end thank you for the video and Im sorry just it doesnt have any polish subtitles to show it to my family becausw they dont get it. Would like to meet you in person and other people like us because I feel alone with that.
@sonal_T_Explorer2 жыл бұрын
One night in my childhood my father unconsiously started rubbing my leg as he thought dt it was my mother's leg and nw I am suffering from the guilt dt y I didn't take back my leg immediately?
@upscduniya32992 жыл бұрын
forget about it...you are good person..period
@sonal_T_Explorer2 жыл бұрын
@@upscduniya3299 Thanks
@Alritealritealrite2 жыл бұрын
@@sonal_T_Explorer thats OCD trying to turn it into something. I hope you were able to move past the guilt you felt.
@upscduniya32992 жыл бұрын
@@sonal_T_Explorer i also obsess about something that i cannot correct now, as it happened in past