How's Your Marriage? | Jackie and Preston Perry

Could the unhealthy patterns in your marriage reveal more than just your relational health?
Preston and Jackie Hill Perry-authors, speakers, and podcast hosts-discuss trauma responses, the importance of community, and the fears we all struggle with in marriage:
Fear of failing.
Fear of submitting.
Fear of being found unworthy.
They remind us that while marriage might be one of the hardest things we’ll ever do, it can also be what brings the most growth and fulfillment.
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[@ayrikafletcher2066]

"Say Less, Pray More". Amen

[@laurabonton1607]

Powerful talk. Marriage is undoubtedly the hardest job I have been given in this life, however thru its sufferings has brought me and my husband closest to the Lord. Prayer and seeking God daily is a must for survival. We will celebrate 25 years soon and no way would have made it without Him. All glory to God 🙌

[@sherismith1070]

Praying for you, Jackie! The world so desperately needs women, black women, former members of the 1gbt+ community in ministry, but that definitely opens you up to so many more attacks. May God shield you from those arrows.

[@Nnuola_]

God has called us to do life with Broken people so we constantly need his help! - Thank You Preston!

[@Dr.Cherokie]

Jackie talking about how marriage is the hardest thing we gotta do so it’s the most sanctifying and it reveals the true state of our true walk was like a 🤯

[@MoeLife]

I loved hearing about the need for discipleship and being open to the unconventional ways that God will bring that about. I really loved the idea that having a partner that challenges your faith (in a good way) can and should continuously keep you on your face before the Lord. Great conversation

[@familylife]

@MoeLife, thanks for the warm words. Jackie and Preston have so much wisdom packed in here.

[@MoeLife]

@@familylife and so do you both! I really appreciate the stories and vulnerability shared here from everyone

[@danielacheampong4968]

Such a fruitful and wholesome conversation about marriage. I’m encouraged by the vulnerability. Praying for you guys.

[@lashaundrathompson7]

I truly love the Perry's ❤ I have been watching them since they were doing poetry. I love seeing how God has kept and sustained them.😊

[@JudiHines-w6t]

The most amazing commentary on marriage I have ever heard. I am one of the broken who was married to a pastor for 47 years and it blew up for the exact reasons you said. Not unfaithful ness. But exactly as you said. Jesus was not first. The church was. I was crucified because he had not been unfaithful. God showed me that Israel was not all sleeping around. The word He uses means “other gods” not just sleeping around. Thank you. Thank you for the broadcast and for your faithfulness.

[@Sew-Ronica]

I love to hear people who love the Word .😊

[@goodnessadegbola8301]

Oh, this refreshed and blessed me. I love you all. I love the air of mutual, unforced respect. It's truly a beautiful thing for brethren to dwell together in unity. See how Christ unites. Look at his uniting power! People across generational gaps, people from different cultural backgrounds wholistically united under the banner of our Savior's love. Heaven will be beautiful.

[@chinnjm]

For those facing divorce watching this...we've done counseling, tried therapists, pastors and jesus for myself although he professed Christianity. Our church even sent us to a Family Life conference which by the way was life changing for myself, but felt like i was there alone. Jackie spoke about marriage being the hardest thing you will ever do, leaning into your marriage..i say evaluate what exactly you're leaning into, as ladies how are you being led...because you're always being led as married women despite what you may think...if you arent being able to lean into safety and protection, and sin is more rampant than your spouse seeking the Father...your marriage may not be purposeful or designed for you to even be in...dont feel guilty. Surrender to God, he will disciple yourself and your family in His time, he will give you direction and discernment to make hard decisions to glorify your life and his name. Praying for all of us struggling and trapped in marriages that are painful.

[@yolandamorton2807]

I love this couple so much and I share your sentiment for them as well. Thank you for having this conversation with the Perry’s❤

[@familylife]

@yolandamorton2807, so glad you loved it as much as we did--!

[@lyndiabelcher6791]

You have no idea how graceful I am to hear the very thoughts that are in my head concerning my own marriage of 50 years. I have subscribed and I will follow as we have no one to disciple us.

[@barbaraokraku6916]

Jackie and Preston 🥰🥰🥰. Love you two!! May the almighty continue to use you mightily 🙏🏾

[@kristinarobinson3241]

This was a fantastic podcast and so on time because God is calling the father of my daughter and I to get married and I was just saying to myself this morning that I was going to depend upon Jesus entirely for this relationship. My yes to this marriage is a complete reflection of my faith in God because I know I can’t do it and wouldn’t have done it had He not said to do it and with the knowledge that He is faithful and will always be there for us. This podcast encouraged me to keep moving forward and have hope in the goodness, power, and faithfulness of God!!

[@latoyabarton5053]

It's encouraging to see couples like these who are examples of what marriage should be like. I admire the Perry's and I am praying that I would be able to have relationship like this with my future husband.

[@familylife]

@latoyabarton5053, praying for this with you right now!

[@TheMichelleRena]

Love Love Love the Perry's, like the host I too have been praying for them throughout the years. For their union, ministry, their minds and commitment to Christ. I pray God continues to provide and cover them.

[@aprilsmith5966]

Love this.. I feel like my husband and I battle so many of these things. God has really been using this couple to speak into my heart on such a deep level, as well as a former Pastor named Mark DeJesus. He does a lot of podcasts/videos on mental emotional and relationship health. I think a big problem we all face is portraying that image of our own traumas and broken families and parents onto God and expecting Him to be the same towards us..

[@DDJones-yi1pm]

Beautiful guest couple. Filled with insight and wisdom. Enjoyed this podcast!🙏🏽

[@wizthesceptic2190]

I love the Perry's, I been following them since P4CM . I love watching their growth

[@l.g.harris8505]

That was so good! So honest so transparent… This is fighting with the world says when they call Christians hypocrites… This was a podcast that showed the foundation of Christ and how it works on a believer heart

[@quietstorm6710]

He wanted me to submit without asking me why i was scared. 😮❤

[@Chende22]

Yeeeesss! Praise God for the faithfulness of the Perry’s and their commitment to spreading the truth of the Gospel. I have SO much respect for them! 🤍🤍🤍

[@jadimplesmax665]

I truly love how open and honest you all are. May God continue to keep you.

[@bettywright4338]

A culture of discipleship, I love that Preston, truly God knew what you needed, also for Jackie ❤💜

[@dennismora33]

Thank you Holy Spirit for leading me to this podcast. I needed to hear these reminders. Things I already know, but find myself struggling as the spiritual leader of my family to implement them fully in my marriage of 3 years. So encouraging to hear everyone share how prayer and mentors have helped them fight off the in their marriage. Hallelujah praise the Lord for his patience and continued pursuit of my heart for him and my family!!🙏🏼💪

[@oghenerukomeojoh3572]

Love this episode so much. I’m not married but I find it interesting to learn about these things before that time. And what Preston said about the only thing that prepares you for marriage is marriage really resonates with me. Pray for all those in the episode and the watchers that we all stay strong in the faith. Amen 🙏🏾

[@She.is.Shaina]

Love the Perry’s 🤎 Praying for their marriage as well as all my brothers & sisters in Christ.

[@maliaparker7849]

This was such an amazing podcast! I truly believe that this podcast will last through generations for everyone who listens and applies it to their marriage and family! I bless all of you and pray that y’all will continue to flourish in ministry because the world needs to see Jesus shine through y’all!

[@Coachchioma]

The voice of God is pure love. I pray for you Jackie and Preston.. I pray God shields you from the arrows that fly by day and night..

[@KahlilOwens]

Church is mine and my families safe place. I love it!

[@reboundingfromnarcissistic5386]

“You are telling me to submit to you, instead of asking me why you are afraid “

[@jeanettawatkins3356]

I loved it. I love you guys pointing out how people can do ministry in our face but how is their home life. I appreciate honestly. Great job

[@bthechurch7877]

First time I've seen / landed on your page. This talk was amazing. It shed light on so many areas in my life, walk, and marraige. Thank you Lord for creating this space and for this conversation. I must listen again and share with others I know who are also suffering in their walk and relationships. Thank you!! ❤❤❤

[@JaimieNicole75]

“God is answering your prayer in a package you didn’t expect.” Yea! That spoke to me right there! I had been praying for God to lead me to a good church home and had also been praying for discipleship. I told God I don’t need to be entertained, I want to hear the gospel. I desired a bible believing and teaching church. In my search I came across a church on google and started to attend services. I absolutely loved it! But then I began to feel uncomfortable, because it’s not what I’m used to. The church is predominantly white and praise&worship is different…it’s calm, I’m used to high energy(superficial I know). Soon I realized the enemy was at work. This church is what I prayed for. They love the Lord, they love God’s children, and the Pastor preaches/teaches the gospel. This message definitely came on time❤️

[@lyndiabelcher6791]

I am so thankful I found this podcast tonight. Thank you for your I honesty

[@perfectpeacechristianchurc9300]

I too pray for this powerful couple all the time! It was refreshing to hear you say that!

[@familylife]

Grateful for your prayers for them, @perfectpeacechristianchurc9300!

[@SOupMYSELF]

LOVED THIS! Open and honest conversations like this are needed.

[@perfectpeacechristianchurc9300]

This conversation was so powerful and so necessary! My marriage reflects my walk in my ministry❤ thanks to all 4 of you!

[@familylife]

Praising God with you for that, @perfectpeacechristianchurc9300!

[@chefb2you]

This was an incredible perspective! Thank you, Jackie& Preston, for coming on, and sharing your life &speaking the Truth.

[@kimlamullings2645]

Love the convo, the power of prayer so so so powerful and important. Do it 1st

[@masoro19]

I am so happy to listen to this. May God keep you Preston and Jackie. ❤

[@lifewiththeodums]

Great conversation! Always love hearing the Perry’s talk about their marriage. Such a great reminder of God’s keeping power

[@awinston24]

Wow! This is my first time checking out this podcast. God bless you Preston and Jackie! I'm looking forward to applying some new teachings to my marriage. Thanks to everyone for being obedient to your calling and allowing God to use you as a vessel to teach.

[@constancesoutter]

Thoroughly enjoyed that. Thank you. Praying for someone to disciple us in Zimbabwe

[@jessicaharper7784]

This is random, but Sage has Preston's whole face. 😂

[@kingdomgirlhart3947]

This was a eye opener for me and i took away so many God things. It is causing me to look at myself and see where i am lost, what i need to do and how i need to start. Thank You. It also let me find Family Life Radio again.

[@natesethomas3255]

amazing podcast! I loved every point! types of conflict styles, marriage shows our personal walk with Christ, "We have nothing else and where would we go". AMAZING!

[@bongegumede]

Powerful conversation🙏

[@nursed.porchae990]

Such a great conversation. The power of prayer 🙏🏽🙌🏾

[@nicolehutchinson5453]

Beautiful and truly I am loving everytime you guys come together and speak truth, and rightly divide the truth. ❤❤❤

[@lorainedecoteau7092]

This conversation was so fruitful! Love these two!❤

[@royalqueen8679]

You have just saved my marriage, took a lot of notes❤

[@jessicaevans2564]

Loved the color conversation.

[@monicachristopher4673]

Say less and pray more🙏🏾

[@KriddleR]

Man they almost completely ignored Preston. Shame! Don’t sleep on him. Brother is on point!!

[@JaimieNicole75]

Yea Preston be cookin🙌🏾🙌🏾💯

[@nadinetchaho2618]

How beautiful to see the words in flesh through the Perrys. When they share their experimental journey you can see the words of God being Alive and Active in their lives. 💥 the light has come and the glory of God shines ✨ 💥 Listening unravels my life in a nutshell. They were brought for us for time like this. The kingdom of the world has become the kingdom of our Lord and his Messiah and he will reign for ever and ever 🙌🏾 Praise the Lord The devil is out Revelation 12:11 They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony; they did not love their lives so much as to shrink from death Rejoice ❤

[@glorious9446]

Thanks for the teaching of the word of God, be blessed

[@ninacarson1368]

Great Podcast! I pray that we all humble our hearts to be more like JESUS in our marriages and LIFE.

[@jawannajones9284]

I love this, I want discipleship so bad for myself amen my husband. We have a church home but just haven’t connected in a way that seem fitting. Idk just pray more concerning it I guess

[@christinas.7002]

I like the illustration of the brick . I have 19 yr old and 13 yr old and man can it get tough sometimes , but God!! Thank you guys for your words of wisdom 💜

[@familylife]

So glad it's encouraging, @christinas.7002!

[@Idunnunimi_oke]

Wow! This was a good conversation!

[@Melsmom]

Didnt know I needed this. Thank you so much 🩷

[@makiebahatton2628]

This is really good! I hope you all know what a Blessing your transparency in relationship to one another and with Christ is to couples and singles. I'm single yet so many of the spiritual principles you reflect allow me to visibly see my relationship with Christ as a child of God and as His church.

[@qhamkajim5985]

It is really a powerful interview, may God continue to keep them together and may the Lord bless you and your husband (hosts) because you have good hearts❤

[@Iamkrystamarie]

Oooooohhhh I’m using the brick thing with my 10 year old son the next opportunity I get which might be in 10 minutes while he’s doing this homework 😅😂😂😂

[@annies9633]

Facts about the 10 mins 😫🤣🤣🤣

[@emerald535]

Very encouraging and convicting.

[@klambert4411]

I'm in year 7 and hanging on by a thread! We both talk about leaving. I've been praying and so does he. Counseling is so expensive and I don't trust someone who isn't a Christian. We've been in trouble since day one! S.O.S

[@ComeAlivePodcast]

Praying for you and your husband! So much to say but what if you both talk about staying more than you talk about leaving? I really pray you find the counsel you need. Perhaps talk to your pastor/church if you haven't already.

[@krissaca09]

This was sooo good and meaty !! 😭

[@victoriaolarinmoye9758]

This was a beautiful and insightful conversation

[@beauty-lcous2334]

Amazing!! Thank you for what y’all are doing.

[@sistersunitedbylove6477]

Preston and Jackie Perry are a powerful couple for the Lord. I pray for Jesus's covering over their family and ministry.

[@Myeka324]

This was such a rich and beautiful conversation that is so needed! God bless all of you for the work that you do and I pray that you all continue to grow and be fruitful as you walk with Christ!

[@familylife]

@Myeka324, "rich" is such a great way to describe their thoughts here. Praising God for His powerful truths.

[@AllysiaWilliams-s8x]

GOD HAS BLESSED THE WORLD WITH THE WISDOM IN MARITAL RELATIONSHIPS THROUGH THE FOUR OF YOU. I RECEIVED MANY ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS THAT I PONDERED. PRAISE JESUS ✝️💜🙏🏾

[@ziziphojanuary1868]

Really good questions, and conversation. Thanks

[@teamroberts0315]

Powerful on time message ❤

[@mildredwashington9478]

This was so GOOD!

[@curveurfashion5286]

Thank you for this so good with The Perry’s and also love Vertical Marriage as well ❤

[@crystalcole5908]

Loved this conversation

[@cindyrivera969]

Loved this convo

[@Mrs.SenekiaCliftonOgbeta]

This is soooo helpful. Thank you🙏🏾

[@familylife]

So glad to hear this!

[@darkenyawebber-tennell262]

Great insight and guidance

[@CarrieYoung-j4s]

Prayer needs to be the steering wheel not spare tire 🛞

[@familylife]

@CarrieYoung-j4s, YES--connecting with God is absolutely vital.

[@yvonnewilliams6609]

Wish I had learned some of these lessons in my marriage maybe I would still be married. Thank you

[@gbemiolaoye]

So good! Glory to God

[@angelac7837]

Loved this...sharing it

[@bosscharm100]

wonderful interview!

[@shaelovesJesus]

"Come back and fight me like a man, you chicken"...wow! 🤣

[@familylife]

She doesn't really mince words, does she?!

[@shaelovesJesus]

@@familylife right! 😂😂😂 now I want to read the book 😂😂😂

[@shannonmerritt6654]

Really Good insight!!! ❤

[@KingPinUps]

Well done and well said

[@dianewashington505]

Excellent interview ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@devoneaukeith5551]

Great conversation

[@AnnetteCriswell]

Great conversation

[@Marlonothompson]

Great conversation 😊

[@justindimanche6505]

Loved It !!

[@shaelovesJesus]

I love this!!

[@naturallynatural8604]

Powerful!

[@naturalbeaute10]

Thank you 💝

[@josephland8876]

What Preston and Jackie are describing is the response of an avoidant attachment style. If it sounds familiar, look into it. It is subconscious.