Father and daughter open up about dealing with depression

[@Lisaintanc]

Thank you for having my dad and I ❤ It was not an easy topic to share but relieved that everyone has been kind & encouraging. To anyone struggling behind closed doors, you’re not alone 💜

[@jeal79m]

Your dad and you are very brave, every daughter is very precious to every daddy. Stay strong and safe! Thank you Uncle Tan for his advices.

[@decembrre]

Thanks you for fighting for yourself. You’re a very amazing person

[@fhzimani]

❤

[@south5tarr]

You're stronger than you think you are. Go on and change the world girl.

[@crazyandstupitme]

Thank you so much for sharing and for your courage to share. Thank you Uncle Tan too.

[@o0ohwyo0o]

So sad to see the uncle like that. Some heartache is so deep even tears don’t drop.

[@Asongfromme]

Lisa is SO brave to speak in detail & in front of her parent too. I'm in awe.

[@austen98]

I am a 51yo man and I have just been through what has been the toughest time in my entire life, and to a certain extent, it's still not over. I remember the feeling of hopelessness and the people around you having no clue what is happening to you. I am glad that I sought professional help after one of my colleagues spotted the signs (he's a doctor) and referred me by force to see a psychiatrist. It was the best decision I ever made even though I closed myself off to him during my therapy. It helped me see that I wasn't alone and that I wasn't completely without solutions to break the cycle I had myself in. Please seek help no matter what because the actions you may take while under the influence of depression could be worse for you and even more for your family should you take a certain path.

[@spenceryeo3344]

im going through it right now and the only reason why I’m not doing it is the thought of my parents so thank you both for speaking out

[@olivialau5229]

Keep strong , Spencer

[@calvinhou2954]

Stay strong, Spencer. No matter how tough it is, there is always faith,hope and love. As there is a saying where every cloud has a silver lining :).Don’t give up yea.

[@anginribut477]

Don't give up

[@thatladydriver]

I too, saw myself climbing the railing and leaping off from the 4th floor. But thank god He moved my heart to think about my parents........ It still allowed me to think how I felt like this would break them the way I died. The emotions part is very true... for most of us, we always have to hide the 'negative' feelings like sadness, anger, frustration... so we end up keeping to ourselves, or try to escape through things that leads us to addiction.... we need to learn to validate feelings, and it's hard because it's unusual to us... but imagine fake smiles, fake happiness... so sad. And yesss to people saying go exercise, etc etc. Look, we sometimes don't need to be fixed. We just need to be heard and understood Therapy has helped me a lot... I am thankful to God that I overcame embarrassment or people calling me 'crazy' and just sought out for help.... just go for it... therapy is nothing like what you see in the movies or what people say...

[@lowkeyconvert8971]

she showed a lot of learnings, insights and self-awareness of herself after these events and as time has gone on. it's always great to see someone's evolution in this way. she seems to be in a much better place now. there is no doubt that her parents love her. her father's sorrow looked so heavy.

[@Lisaintanc]

❤

[@robertenglish3921]

o man, things aren't okay if this little family is go on and say this I hope this mental, spiritual, economic crisis gets sorted out soon

[@sleepy_dobe]

This could just be me but hearing the father, I'm not so sure that he totally understands what his daughter is going thru. But certainly there is no doubt about the love he has for her and the pain he feels inside. I just feel the words he used.....doesn't convey to me a clear understanding of mental health and the struggles Lisa was and is going through. Maybe it's just the choice of words. Just a feeling in my gut after hearing him. But what's important is that they both now understand each other a bit better, can express their affections for each other a bit more, and are working together to manage Lisa's mental health struggles. I myself was diagnosed with a couple of mental disorders a couple of years before even Covid struck, major depressive disorder and generalised anxiety disorder. And I'm a few years away from getting my CPF monies, so as they say, mental illness can hit anyone at anytime. Covid made the depression worse, but ironically, the circuit breaker gave my anxiety a break....lol. Also not my first encounter with depression. But at least now, I'm being taught how to recognise the environment and circumstances that might trigger me, how to deal with my disorders, how to manage my anxiety because with my perfectionist personality, it's not a disorder that I will likely eradicate completely from my life.

[@abcdLeeXY]

We really have to do better as parents for our children. Spend more time, have more patience, and learn to communicate effectively. God bless all the children and parents in the world 🙏

[@AdBENture]

You are not alone. Nobody goes through a perfect life. Continue to live positively and I’m sure you will be alright~

[@keyunloh3303]

You are very strong Lisa! Thank you for sharing your story to raise awareness on the importance of mental health. Wishing you the best 😊

[@mosestctan]

Thanks for sharing . Depression is real but as your dad said, every problem will also pass away. Stay strong, never say die. So long as there is life, there is HOPE !!

[@sohu86x]

the father is really struggling to understand depression

[@ew0211]

Very beautiful father and daughter. I hope her twin's brother after watching this will appreciate and love their sister more and how strong she is and she thought of her family and did not leap off the edge because of them.

[@MKiurinuRigold]

She has such strong familial bonds with her family -- she is really beautiful . I wish I could be able to get to know her in person

[@26PRO26]

dad is so encouraging and supportive

[@chindianbahu9794]

Its brave of you to come to this to share. I wish Singapore could give people dignified way to live.

[@chewleongchin7900]

Stay strong lisa..... u have an amazing smile....is what u did not notice then...but now .....love yourself....those negative people do not have such quality as u....Girl Power!!!!

[@xuannnz07]

so wished my mom was this forgiving back then :)

[@theLMAOguuy]

thank you for bringing awareness to this issue.

[@desmonix]

You are a bright spark. Wishing you the very best.

[@yapsweeleng]

Hugging your folks (especially Asians don’t), it’s the greatest thing and eventually love, kindness, taboo conversations, ….. almost everything under the sun will just align naturally & takes it’s place. It’s magical. 😊 Many thanks to Lisa & Mr. Chan. 🙏

[@ny2096]

Thank you sharing. Both of you are so brave ! Your sharing will make a lot of good difference to the viewers!

[@decembrre]

It’s very important to have supportive family and supportive environment. Even if you don’t have one, I hope that you can just ignore all that and focus on yourself. Remember who you are as a person. Try to pick yourself up. It’s hard but it’s all worth it at the end. The journey to happiness is hard but you will enjoy it the most. I just want to tell you that good days are ahead. Your life is not full of sadness and despair. But it’s full of excitement, happiness, peace that is waiting for you at the end line. So don’t give up, the world doesn’t end here. It’s cold and lonely sometimes but it’ll be warm ahead. So please don’t give up on yourself, please be strong for yourself. Please live your life to the fullest. From someone who’s also struggling with depression but still try her best to go on in life.

[@sohsaraaa]

Thank you for sharing your story. Everyone’s going through their own battles in life, so it doesn’t hurt to be nicer to another. And Lisa I hope you’ll continue to stay strong and be the Inspiration you are to so many others out there!! Rooting for you :)

[@1063-x6b]

This reminds me of my youngest sister, she placed so much pressure on herself because she didn't want to dissappoint everyone, and she didn't ask for help because she didn't want to cause trouble. She bottles things up and even physical pain as young as 5 years old she was able to withstand stomach pain for a whole week before telling us and only after we got to hospital did we find out it was kidney infection. What the father in this vid said to his daughter is what my parents and even myself and other siblings said to my lil sis. We also had a close call of sorts. On a school day when she was supposed to be at school, she called me up at midday and whilst sobbing asked me to come pick her up at the harbour which was 30min away from my workplace. My blood ran cold and I tried getting there as fast as I could because I was so scared she would do something. It scared our whole family and my parents had to really bite their tongue not to reprimand her for going off on her own like that. It was the worst moment I've ever experienced.

[@Lisaintanc]

God bless you and your family 🙏🏻💜

[@ignatorpro7633]

Is alright Lisa, my friend who is 1 year younger than you suffered depression since he was 21 Years Old last year, back in September 2022, when I was at the party, my other friend said a lot of mean things to him and he gotten even more depressed. Fortunately I told him to ignore and walk away if he is feeling uncomfortable and need to go home. Hope you can overcome all this depression and move away from all this negativity issues

[@ignatiusee3564]

When you start to believe you need help, you have lost it.

[@jackfavvv0280]

And I thought I had issues. Now I feel so much better about myself.

[@MKiurinuRigold]

The friend just showed his true self

[@jessjlsy]

Thanks for sharing your story

[@happyhour22happy87]

thank you for sharing a very private matter of how you over came your fears, i just wanted to know why the person that said mean things to you, was that address. i think they had no right to say such words, no doubt they may have regretted those words to you. im happy for you an i wish you well in health and please take care of yourself

[@ignatiusparadenceremony9242]

Happy for u that at least ur dad is brave to come out until today my daddy is struggling to know me nor understand me that hurt my feelings the most. Stay strong as always . Till today my daddy is struggling what I m looking for money is not everything but love,care and concern is everything. He still don't understand me till today. But ur daddy has Growth at least he knows he at wrong. Do remember stay bonding together 😊 jia you and yes arts bring us happiness

[@cheowweikoay2601]

Lisa mentioned the need for validation - usual this rooted from childhood. He mentioned he scold a lot and painted a perfect picture of daugther, this type of parenting usually lead to needing validation from others or everyone. And this is not necessary due to lack of love. =) Agree it sounded he doesn't really understand. She was stunned when he said: everything also can settle one. That is not how depression feel like. I hope Lisa get better...and get all the support she needs. She still look a bit depressed and trying to surpress it.

[@hawaiianpizza7]

It’s sad for a parent to receive this call up

[@korn7ryan]

Stay strong, both Lisa and uncle

[@whereisjustice5112]

I totally understood what you mean. I also have a same situation like you. Every days is like living in hell. So sensitive to everything. Always panic and scare. Wish won't wake up. Always think about how is the situation if i die today. Finally i went to see psychiatrist. Now better than before. But that feeling and thinking still there. Always looking for answers. Tried to understand what is the meaning and purpose of life. Buddhism help me for my mindset at this moment. If lucky, people like us can have a very good support system around, But if not, we must depend on ourself. Don't be upset if they don't understand you. Depression only can be eliminated if we can change how we see things.

[@MrCheongkl33]

Thank you for sharing this video. Help me to be a better dad. Sometimes we forgot angels were around us.

[@MKiurinuRigold]

Depression is not a easy condition to overcome - it can come back at any time - mental illness are like physical illness once you get it - the symptoms are always there

[@TheSoccerFanatic92]

Thank you papa Chan and Lisa for sharing such an uncomfortable topic. Keep going strong! Jiayou! ❤❤❤

[@cmcchan]

A brave father-daugher

[@grayballoons1837]

Wish my dad loves me as much as her dad loves her

[@yeewengchiang3295]

This is awesome!

[@steventay5834]

Very sad. I also kenna depression.

[@chuaskh]

you are enough and be happy.. ✌️

[@plastic040z]

strong body is a strong mind. train your body.

[@pearlyung168]

The father is not listening to her. Parents only show one way to live so kiddos think they failed and are pariah if they don't toe the line. Parents must show other options and possible ways to be acceptable to society.

[@chrisyeong]

You have great strength and you're an inspiration. Thank you for sharing.

[@Claudfoz]

Whenever I see people on videos claiming they are depressed, my immediate thought is an insecure attention seeker. I watch videos like this to see whether I am missing something because majority seem to feel bad for them.. These people seem to always have loving parents which kids like I was would only dream about. Their reasons seem to always be superficial and trivial. They constantly need validation from others. Learn to build confidence and remember that there are kids who are experiencing worse than you. Kids who are literally starving to death want to survive, and you want to die because someone said something offensive to you. For parents, ensure that you teach kids that validation from others isn’t necessary in life. All they have to do is love themselves. I feel bad for the parents who worked so hard to keep these kids alive because these kids are too obsessed over external validation. Delete your TikTok, Instagram, or whatever and live life for real.

[@porkgyozas]

pls learn to have basic empathy for people. by your logic no one can have valid problems since there’s always someone worse off than you.

[@stargazeronesixseven]

Yes , we have enough evidence to show that being Extreme in any undertakings are only to end in much sorrow & pain ... The path to Perfection is actually in the Middle Balance where the Appropriate Constituents working in harmony with Love , Understanding & Wisdom ... Like cooking a good dish , keeping a thriving planted aquarium or being a good gardener! ... We must wane away from being Exremist or Tiger Parents in educating others ... We all made mistakes ... Important we do not repeat our mistakes! May many innocently committed suicide be Forgiven & be Blessed to a Better World & Realm ... 🙏🕯🌷🌿🌍💜🕊

[@karannchew2534]

The Dad loves the daughter, but seem not able to express it.

[@swissmiss897]

Shes so pretty....🥰

[@itzSoonz]

She's Def a woman of class

[@cchongchannel8943]

谢谢分享。是的，父母的支持和接纳的确非常重要。无论事情有多糟糕，也没有需要走到自杀的地步。生命是上帝所赐给我们非常宝贵的礼物，人生只能活一次，要好好珍惜之。就算是失败了，跌倒了。没关系。因失败乃成功之母。从哪里跌倒，就从哪里勇敢爬起来，重新出发。纵然很多事情的确无法回到原点。但没关系。只要肯承认自己的错并悔改，希望就在前面。继续勇敢向前迈进吧。虽然会经过暴风雨无情的打击，但风雨过后，就会看见美丽的彩虹出现。非常谢谢这对父女愿意和大家分享他们的人生故事。愿上帝赐福这对父女和他们一家，也赐福大家生活家庭皆幸福：）

[@norman6499]

Thats why u dont pamper the kid too much, it will lower their resilience. Can pamper but sometimes must be hard on them too. This is 1 of the skills older generations parents dont have. And house lighting must be bright enough, if not environment will look dull

[@TruthLover-h1e]

I was delivered from depression ( addiction and suicide) over night ! The demonic spirit of depression in the form of a black cloud that followed me everywhere I went lost its grip on me when I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior !!!! ONLY JESUS the one true living God can and will set you free from every possession and oppression. Turn to Him !!!!!!! Thank you Jesus !!!!!!!!

[@d3athsharker]

Im 27 working as part time barista at starbucks...

[@roy6155]

Is okay bro if No one else said it I’m proud of you may you find continued success

[@hgcbcb]

I swore that I will never let my parents send me off, because that is the most basic thing I should do for my parents. But at the same time, it also means that they remain the only reason I am alive today.

[@lostgamer6021]

Glad she got through the dark times of her life. Asking for a friend, is lisa single though?

[@itzSoonz]

U interested ah? Haha

[@爾文奧利施]

Younger chinese singaporean should try to speak their mother tongue more. The language is vaporising..in singapore. That's another sign of trying to get into a social trend and if you don't you be ostracised, a misconceptions I have noticed . More has to be done. Trying hard to be in "social norms" , trends is misleading and often causes mental stress. Forcing hard to excel in order for attention and acceptance will result in unable to face rejections. "Underperformed" mentality will ensues. Once rejection follows depression comes. It's an equation. Simply put, please exercise self-love and pior that, accept who you are and what you are. Singaporean chinese girls really needs.that because statistically, they are of the highest cases in depression in the country and diagnose with similar root causes and triggers. Stay safe and be well everyone.

[@Tendertroll1]

The stock market is making me depressed

[@felix4059]

Nothing has been said about what caused the depression. Not being mean and I comprehend that everyone is different, but wait til you've experienced matters such as losing life savings in a scam, bankruptcy, unfaithful spouse, divorce or homelessness then you'll know what is depression.

[@jgd777]

FELIX YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT THE ONES YOU MENTIONED ARE HARD CORE ISSUES YOUR WHOLE WORLD HAS CRUMBLED WHAT AM I GOING TO DO NOW???

[@themeaningoflifeexpert]

MSG consumption kills brain cells that also causes anxiety and depression.

[@TruthLover-h1e]

JESUS CHRIST THE LIVING GOD CAN SET YOU FREE !!! YOU DONT HAVE TO LIVE LIKE A PRISONER !!!!!!

[@kun1477]

someone she expects support tell her its her own fault???

[@anginribut477]

For my case i would not be able to tell my family because they think it is caused by demon😅 Even a demon will try to be my parents fans😂 In fact i think i am the cause so sometimes i think i want to disappear

[@Ateam143]

I command every evil spirit to leave you, go in the Name of the Lord Jesus

[@jesseeec]

Can I trade my pos father for him

[@neymarzd9706]

so pretty why think of suicide, some ppl fat fat also like that laugh and live their life.........

[@Koalarix]

The feeling of darkness she described , can be extremely hard to overcome. The last thing you will think of is your good points because the constant rumination really does a lot to amplify whatever insecurities was thrown to you

[@MsIndiscriminate]

It is not that simple or straightforward......

[@jkiuhvd]

depression doesn’t pick and choose, same goes to other illnesses. no one chooses to be ill

[@exploringapis4495]

Andrew Tate say depression is jus a mindset.

[@cathdan]

Sometimes to die is takes courage. And braver not to die when you have no other choice than to die.

[@justanotherjohn]

This lisa > >>>blackpink lisa

[@ijustwannabehappy4509]

All my siblings apart from me have mild depression, and they are still in recovery. It will get better! 🫂 ofc ur parents aren't perfect, but I'm glad u had ur parents support. Depression is NEVER ur fault. My dad invalidated my sister when she told him abt it, cos he wanted 面子. Anyway, hugs 🫂 It is a result of environment or genetics, never ur fault. Ur not a burden. I can tell that ur parents love u a lot, so how could u be a burden