Why Are You Upset? - Communication Problem

[@tristanbarnes7318]

I'm a fulltime caregiver to a nonverbal little girl who does not have autism, and I totally get the constantly trying to interpret the situation. Lately her tummy has been hurting her a lot, but it took her throwing up before we realized that she needed a break from her feed (she is fed 24/7 into a feeding tube). It's so frustrating for her parents and I, but it's just as frustrating if not more frustrating for her. I so wish communication came easier for these kids.

[@heatherjunker967]

All you can do is the best you can do to figure out the situation. It is a mystery to solve each time something is wrong. I am glad she has you to help figure things out.

[@carolv8450]

Can she learn sign language?

[@SaraMuise]

@@heatherjunker967❤😊 0:48

[@rnedens]

As a kid I had a hard time both leaving the house and going home. Leaving the house was because that transition of going somewhere else was just asking a lot of effort and energy from me, without me being able to make an estimate of the 'pay off' I would get in return, and so staying in a situation that made me decently content was preferable over changing it up. And going home was always meltdown time for me. Because it was usually after something that was really high in sensory imput and I would be too tired and too overwhelmed to make that transition. I'd been ignoring / surpressing the sensory meltdown because I didn't want the fun to end, and then going from something fun and where I got a lot of attention, back to a place where there would be demands put on me and where the attention was shifted to cooking and chores instead of my parents having fun with me was always just too much for me and cause a meltdown. And there was no longer a reward in surpressing it. For my parents the trick was to leave earlier before I got secretly overwhelmed, to change the routine of the transition where they would give me some positive attention by default while I was settling in at home, before shifting their attention to house hold chores. I still have a hard time making those transitions, although as an adult I've learned to regulate and communicate, although on the inside it still feels the same Off course I can't look into Abbies head, and I have no idea whether this is the case for Abbie or if there's something else going on completely, Still I hope my experiences gives you some new angles or perspectives when your interpreting the situation.

[@mariebarrett8774]

Abbie’s so blissfully happy on her swing....her happy place....😃

[@brittanyclement7331]

Your family is so cute and so wholesome! I love how you guys teach Abby how to interact with others and how happy she is all the time. I have close family members that have autism and seeing how you handle things helps me handle stuff that comes up in my family. Thank you for sharing your life!

[@Genna.K]

I'm glad you didn't say anything to the kids on the swing about it being special needs only. Just like you say, people don't understand why Abbie gets to use it. You just never know if the other children had special needs also. Plus Abbie had a lovely swing after waiting. 😊

[@momzillainnova]

Just a heads up that when I worked for a parks and recreation center the special needs swings were required to have a plaque on the back that said "special needs children only" in order for a child to be asked to not use it. :-)

[@eclaire1748]

What state?

[@emilysmith9821]

Oh your household is just naturally hilarious. Between Cilla’s onion goggles and Sandy’s gooberness and Abbie and Issiah’s Greta… love it

[@heatherjunker967]

Don't forget Asa showing us his incredible running skills. 😉

[@alyrhy57]

Didn’t even know y’all had a podcast! You should definitely mention it more often! Love you guys!

[@timmyangeltlc4888]

Another awesome video Asa and Priscilla. I loved it. Abbie is making leaps and bounds constantly. So happy for her. When Isaiah had the towl on his head all I could think of was the song Matchmaker from the movie Fiddler on the roof. LOL. Sandy is such a goof.

[@ChristenLongero]

Your videography in this video was amazing. Beautiful blog!

[@barbaradunn5915]

I’m the mom to a child affected by autism he is verbal. It’s helpful but I still find he has trouble communicating certain things. I think you guys are doing amazing

[@jennifermontgomery4261]

Love watching your videos. My 27 month old son was just diagnosed with moderate to severe autism he's non verbal. Your channel is helping me so much, thank you

[@dorothyaarons588]

I want you to know how much I love your family! I feel a part of you when I watch your vlogs. I was a bit reluctant to listen to a podcast as I have never done it before. I gave in and listened and WOW... it was great! Enjoyed every word and subject. I seemed like it just flowed so well . I am 75 and I can tell you that you really do get to the point of not caring what anyone else thinks of you. Also, you find it so easy to blatantly come right out and say NO after 50 years of saying yes when you really meant NO! I could go on but, I’m sure I have rambled on enough so now I am looking forward to more of the same. You are all such a joy in my life and I look forward to watching your vlogs till I can’t. You are so loved by so many so don’t let a few bad apples upset your cart! ❤️⭐️

[@B3LLAN80R]

Pricilla, the way you said "our kids" in reference to all your friends' kids with special needs just warms my heart ❤ Sometimes I feel like your vlogs are you guys working through your thoughts and stresses and it's wonderful to be able to see that. Btw, Sandy was cuteness overload at the end ☺

[@mariakaye7971]

Hi from Australia.. I have three boys with Autism and verbal. You guys made me laugh and cry and really found a channel that is real. But the best bit I caught today with your amazing relationship.

[@allysonrobello8524]

Love you guys and your family moments. Thanks for sharing yourselves with the world.

[@tyreesetjjoyner1995]

Much love and support to you and Abbie. Continue on your road on getting the giant gold play button

[@alt_girl88]

Priscilla always looks pretty but she looked super extra pretty in this video

[@savgal1211]

She has style...I wish I did.

[@Flower.Phantom]

I can Imagine it's pretty frustrating having a park with swings that are made specifically for kids/adults with special needs and they are always being used by the people who don't specifically need that to use that type of swing. I know here where I live it's a pretty small town about 3,000 people at our park we have swings that are specifically made for handicapped people who are in wheelchairs and have mobility issues and when I was growing up I used to see kids completely disrespected and eventually they just had to take the swing down completely. It's really really sad actually. I think someone mentioned this already in one of the comments how they should require a plaque or something stating that it's specifically for people with mobility/disability needs.

[@jeffbishop4799]

Not everyone knows there for special needs tho for the longest time I never knew either and my daughter loved using it so I get why people use them

[@stephanielimongelli1156]

Sandy looked so sweet and pretty lying there on her back. 🐶

[@naedatanner8832]

I'm a semi-retired RN that has a client that is 25 yrs old, but really 9mos old. Her mother is absolutely excellent is finding her clothes! Things people really don't think about.💖✌🇨🇦

[@patriciabruce4284]

I couldn’t imagine not being able to help someone because of a lack of communication. I am in awe of how you manage day to day.💕

[@kristineh8309]

Abbie did such a great job waiting for her turn. I also have to give Sandy a shoutout for her adorable goofiness; she looked like she was smiling

[@ashleighwright1523]

You guys are seriously amazing!! I can definitely relate to how Abbie responds to life. I work with a severely autistic beautiful Down syndrome girl and she is huge with transitioning and figuring things out etc. Its so nice to know that we are not alone and in this together ☺️

[@kimmystewart6959]

You guys I know that you guys have huge heart and you want everybody to understand you don't get it you know sometimes AB just the way she is. There is no explanation. My opinion you don't owe anyone an explanation they want to see for themselves The Watch bless you all and your sweet little hearts

[@alinagilbert9991]

Nice work on resetting the table Abbey. 👍 Oh Sandy, you make me smile 😀

[@diamondsanddenim4180]

I hate the heat too! That’s why we moved out of Fl. Abbies not alone ❤️ love you guys!

[@torimarievic]

I love watching you guys! Sending love ❤️ and hugs 🤗 from Cleveland OH

[@ElizabethHernandez-hw6zu]

For who ever reads this, those glasses Priscilla is wearing for cutting onions work!! I have 2 pair and LOVE them

[@whitneywhite09]

Thanks ! Because I really want to buy them ! Lol

[@bobbie7355]

I want her shirt. 💖🌸🌹🌺

[@marissah3125]

I can’t imagine how frustrating it would be to not be able to communicate your needs. That must be hard for her and you as her parents

[@eclaire1748]

There are other ways to communicate besides speaking

[@marissah3125]

@@eclaire1748 exactly like using a tablet/speaking device, using sign language, using gestures. In this case i was referring to her tablet/speaking device being broken and the possibility of having to go without it until it could be replaced. 😊

[@lyndsaypatterson7657]

I totally agree that when our verbal autistic daughter wants something we on the whole know what she wants. However, when she has meltdowns she often can't tell us why and we still have to work it out. Coming home from the park is a hard transition for our daughter too, especially at mealtimes.

[@charlottebassett7971]

I adopted 3 children with special needs. My doctor would make comments about how well he was dressed . It would hurt my feelings. I talked to a friend about this one day. I said do people think I waited all these years for a baby and not take care of him. She said think about what he sees every day, some parents not taking care of their children. I started watching more people after that and was surprised how many children was dressed in PJs out in public. My second son has autism . Love from south Mississippi

[@oxenrat]

I lost it at Cilla's "20 years, with THIS" You are both so fun

[@em.ily.710]

I absolutely LOVE podcasts because I love to read, and it's almost like getting to read while working! 😂 Super excited to learn y'all have one!

[@k8lynL]

20 years .. with THIS! lol you’re the best “this” ever tho.. hehe love y’all

[@shayt543]

Sorry I haven't watched for a little, Thanks for the upload, I'll keep watching too!!!🥰🥰🥰🥰 Wishing you all the best! Sending positive vibes and prayers!!!

[@Jennifer02-u3g]

I’m with Abbie I hate the heat too

[@karmen181]

The B roll omg .. Sandy upside down.. my girls do that too, but the best part was her looking at you and just wagging her tail like yeah what lol .. the best

[@kridder1018]

I have to agree that Abbie is the best dressed teenager out there. She's always wearing super modest clothing, which I love. So much of the teen clothes these days is all belly tops, and short skirts. Makes me (as the mum of a girl) cringe. Abbie sure loves her swing tho, Its so sweet to see how happy she gets. Sandy with the pool toy was funny. She's like "I surrender dad" and rolls around all cute. lol. My dog steals stuffed animals and eats the eyes off. Makes me wonder about her, but she is truly the sweetest, most affectionate dog I have ever met/owned. Great vlog!

[@TheGunmay]

You are amayzing!!! ...Amaizing people! Abbie is so lovely ... Hi from Finland

[@JamiHefley]

I have a question. When Abbie tried to kick Cilla in the face on purpose. Why wasn’t she punished or corrected immediately and give a consequence ie made to stop swinging for a short period,park fun time cut short etc...? I’m not talking about physical discipline.

[@noellesnow186]

Hi. Are you Abbie's therapist or doctor? Just curious how people know that Abbie was disciplined for almost kicking Mom in the face? I'm only asking because I had a question in the past, and the answer/comment seemed to have some knowledge about the family that other viewers may be unaware of. Are you a family friend or work with them?

[@JamiHefley]

@@noellesnow186 I am neither. I am just a fan. I don’t know if she was or not that’s why I asked my question. I feel if she purposefully tried to kick her Mom in the face she should have been removed from the swing and her park trip should have ended early because letting her keep swinging is basically letting her know that behavior is ok.

[@noellesnow186]

I agree with you. Trying to kick Mom in the face should not be acceptable. My question was actually for the one who knew that Abbey "was disciplined". How do they know for sure? I am sorry for the misunderstanding. Thank you for taking the time to respond. 😀

[@donnawatkins3316]

I didn’t think she was trying to go for Mom’s face. She was trying to make any contact to her mom. Playing a game. They have played the same game a lot.

[@JamiHefley]

@@donnawatkins3316 well I have watched skit of their video’s and Abbie is always aggressive with Cilla. You can clearly see Abbie trying really hard to kick Cilla in the face.

[@jadyn_sage]

I wasn't able to find the podcast on Anchor, I had to use Apple Podcasts. I will admit, I miss the video podcast. With my ADHD, I often have a difficult time concentrating on something that is audio only. I need the video to keep me engaged

[@debbieconrad6156]

Thank you for teaching Abby to wait her turn and share the swing

[@sparkly3tchr]

I have daughters who are six now they are twins. I have seen those swings several times at playgrounds and have had my kids on them I never knew they were special-needs swings, however, there has never been anyone else waiting to use them it’s been times when we were the only ones there. It really makes sense now I see why they would be for a larger child or teen who can fit in them.

[@debsav63]

I love Sandy! She's the spitting image of my late JC - dorkiness and all! Abbie has come so far from where she was when I first started following your channel. All the things you do with her/for her - they all make a huge difference for her. Incredible!

[@firephoto213]

My son is verbal and high functioning and there are many times where he can't tell me what is going on with his feelings or what he may need. It causes a lot of behavioral issues because he just can't communicate what is wrong.... It is so hard some times

[@lisaanderson590]

I love the goofiness and laughter! Smiles throughout the whole video 😁 I absolutely love you guys ❤️

[@aprilgriffin9218]

I saw a hack for cutting onions on another KZbin channel. Supposedly, the onion juice will go to the nearest wet surface. So if you put a wet paper towel next to your onion on the cutting board you won't get the onion juice in your eyes. I haven't tried it yet but seeing you chopping onions made me think of it.

[@melaniejones5180]

I have tried this question before do you think Abbie gets frustrated because she can't verbalize what she wants/needs what the problem is ?

[@eileensteele2497]

I hope you and your famly are bless with menny blessing

[@Sparker17]

Aw GREAT job being patient Ab!!!💗

[@danielleharty269]

I always love seeing yall interact and you guys talking to Abbie like any other person .... I see a lot of people talk down or oversimplify language when speaking to individuals with special needs. I have a question .... When Abbie is just being picky for no reason and doesn't have an actual issue with something ...how do you deal with that ? For example , our oldest is 10 and has high functioning autism and is a picky eater ... Its sometimes hard to know if hes actually bothered by a texture or just being picky for no reason .

[@destaneyjennings9557]

I can relate, when I was 16 I absolutely hated going home. Even going to the post office with my mom would be more favorable then going home. Id get a little bummed when I new we were going home every time, now I have my limitations. Coming home after a long day feels amazing. But a few years ago if the stores were still open or some daylight left id want to stay out. It may not be an Autism thing it could be a teen thing.

[@cathyulrich7868]

Sandy at the end! Made me laugh. You do so well with Abbie & Abbie is doing great. Thanks for sharing your family with us.

[@sammichmaker4021]

The podcast helped me through housework today! Absolutely love it!! Thank you for giving your time and doing it along with these vlogs!! 🥰♥️

[@debs9278]

Just curious - why doesn’t Abbie use the standard swings at all? Is it a balance/sensory thing that leads her to not enjoy those as much?

[@ladykray4eva]

She doesn't feel as secure on them. Shes tried, but is more comfortable on the yellow seat.

[@sarahcavanaugh572]

I love watching your family videos

[@bulettv2825]

Very patient father

[@bridgetnicole3564]

I love that she took her shoes off to swing! I am right with Ab when I say no shoes ever lol

[@little-s8778]

I have so much respect for you guys. I'm a big fan and your videos are awesome!!!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@Mamaof02andImawife13]

Great video! I couldn’t find the recipe for the dinner. Can you link it? Or post a video on it :) thank you!! ❤️

[@ashley_0412]

The after the beep is what I needed today! 🥰😂

[@Millie-rm2wj]

😂😂😂I like how Abby goes for the lights when she is upset..... A true teen right there

[@maryanngeraghty4792]

Sandy: I’m just living my best life Dad😂❤️

[@kategriffith4359]

Your family is amazing! I love little miss Sandra Dee, wish I could find a dog like her!

[@jennateesdale1286]

Sandy is hilarious! I know you weren’t really growling but I don’t know how you weren’t laughing at her face!

[@JessicaSmith-oe1up]

I think it’s so interesting that Abbie loves to swing but doesn’t like to be unsteady on her feet.

[@LoreEclectic]

I feel like it's because on a swing she has control of it

[@heatherjunker967]

The way Abbie likes to go all the time, like in the golf cart makes me think she likes the feeling of the air blowing across her. It would be similar to the feeling she gets when she swings. I'm sure there is more to it though.

[@cassandrawhittington3372]

Im not autistic but at 26 i still struggle with routine change i have struggled with it as a small child

[@hayleyb4861]

I love pracilla, i think your a wonderful human being and such a loving mum ❤

[@DeannaMarina]

Man... i loved podcast videos. It’s really the only way i will listen to them. I’m more of a visual person. I like seeing faces

[@tamhminaahmed2990]

Proud of you Abbey, great waiting. Well done mom and dad, always rocking.

[@lexiwolfe5614]

I don’t know if this helps but… I don’t have autism but I have had anxiety since I was little and something that always made me relax was my parents driving me around for hours on end. It’s calming and therapeutic for me. Coming home just made me anxious because there were less distractions and I knew the anxiety would settle within my restlessness. Idk if that is the same for Ab but I figured I’d mention it in case it could help you out.

[@Vashti_Online]

Does anyone happen to know what Cilla’s stroganoff is called? I’ve had a bit of a search on her KZbin page adding on stroganoff but haven’t found it yet. Thanks in advance.

[@clawilewak]

My Daughter is non-verbal autistic, sadly, she really doesn't like your videos, but she does seem to like Abby. When you mentioned about trying to read the room, it hit hard, there is so many times I go into a room and try to read it. But it often ends up that I work it out too late. Like an extractor fan on whilst cooking, but thinking she doesn't like the food.

[@bethanyleonard5856]

Be careful with her eating rocks. My friends dog just had her SECOND surgery to remove rocks from her intestines.. it almost killed the dog TWICE and she still does this..

[@tiafenner8427]

I like Cilla's shirt. Abbie did so great waiting for her turn to swing & helping Kylie do chores after Supper.

[@cassiewhitaker4914]

I enjoy watching this video

[@rileysalt4871]

one time the kid I looked after had a long from school weekend and it wasn’t communicated clearly enough what was happening and why she was home 3 days in a row. what would have been something to celebrate for most kids was melt down material for her. I get yall

[@foodmonkeydairies4433]

Thank you for making me smile every day Abbie 💕

[@gabesimpson6952]

Can you guys do a vlog on abbies 50/50 seeking and avoiding? I'm a full avoider and I'm curious what things does she steer towards and what does she steer away from and what does it look like with her when she's seeking and avoiding at the same time?

[@jezebelover]

A little trick I learn when cutting onions is, if you put a little lemon or lime juice on the cutting board before you cut onions it will absorb the the chemicals that make you cry. It works

[@StephOrWhatever]

That swing is really cool, I've never seen one like it, what a great idea!

[@thelifeinside6729]

My daughter is the same. At 4 I can not begin to understand what it is that upsets her. Her life is food and nonstop wants my phone. She is nonverbal aswell.

[@ebonybanks2604]

You guys are such a great family ❤️

[@nope5462]

I LAUGHED SO HARD Stair awkwardly until they get off.. Throw yourself on the swing when someone gets off 🤣🤣🤣 you guys are hilarious!!!

[@nanou7314]

It's brilliant to see Abbie possibly beginning to learn conversational skills, I mean just chit chat more so than questions/answers. The other day you were talking about going outside and she said "bath", I was wondering, does Abbie have a word for the pool?

[@Emma-no6ne]

I think she's learned the sign language for "swim," but it's difficult for her in terms of the fine motor movement, if I remember correctly.

[@gb1914]

I’ve never heard of making beef stroganoff with ground beef. I use small beef strips, similar to what is used in stir fries.

[@Ren_Hep]

I love how happy Abby is when she is swinging! ❤️

[@maryblanscet3867]

I have several relatives who become grouchy AFTER having a great time. They just dont like the transition back to normal.

[@nikoreallytlovesme]

During the lock down I was forced to buy a swing set with a swing chair and now almost a year later the best investment I made out of all the things my autistic grandson has that’s his jam he loves it and when we go the the park he’s not so anxious about swinging in the park

[@bethcarte3551]

Love how sandy gives the i didnt do it look😂

[@samanthamoody3057]

Where do we get to listen to the podcasts? :)

[@susanzawacky2934]

I don't want to sound like a butthead.. But the newer gal needs to lighten up a bit.. Home is her safe spot, and mom, dad, and or brother should be fine tuning (as it were).. I do enjoy Summers positive attitude with Abbey..I guess what I am trying to say is lighten up.

[@navygirl54]

Will miss the podcast, I only watch them. I have tried to listen but nope for me.

[@christinolsen2326]

I'm a follower and have been since day one, Love Y'all 💗

[@MrLisa35]

I think sandy is broken lol Very cute trying to get out of trouble

[@aveRywired]

Just like there are undesirable tasks/activities, there are undesirable transitions too. I feel sad leaving/saying goodbye after visiting with family and going back to my normal household. Same goes for vacations, I’m a mess to travel back home with and literally always have been, but it’s gotten better with time 😅

[@ginnychewy5030]

I love watching y’all & I love the glasses Priscilla.

[@eileensteele2497]

Abbey you are really awsome riding your bike keep up the great work

[@aliciamanz2615]

may I suggest something how about to when Priscilla starts dinner how about setting a timer like tell Abbie you know hey im making dinner at this time and im gonna set a timer when it goes off its time to eat so that way she's less upset