Fear of Intimacy Part 1: Spot the Causes & Signs

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Dr. Ish Major is a board-certified psychiatrist and relationship, sex and dating expert. In this MedCircle Live Class, Dr. Ish talks to MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson and the MedCircle audience about the causes & signs of fear of intimacy.
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This education will help you cope with..
Fear of rejection
Fear of vulnerability
Abandonment issues / Fear of abandonment
Anxiety around an intimate relationship
Marriage issues
Trust issues
The healthy (and unhealthy) emotions surrounding love, dating, intimacy, and more
Other relationship issues and intimacy issues
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[@MedCircle]

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[@canadianmum2040]

Seeing this right after live I think but very important topic and I thank you for your time Dr. Ish (sorry if I spelled your name wrong) 💜☀️

[@willowtree9082]

@@paraguayaenalaska730 agreed my life has been on stand still for decades because of these issues with intimacy/attachment issues/I've spent decades avoiding and running away in fear from everyone, it's really tough work learning/allowing your self to be valnerable again, so much time and memories have been lost to this.

[@JeremyK-L]

Hi! I am very interested in part two but cant seem to access it... is it still available ?

[@kentcernechez2392]

Excellent Video! Apologies for chiming in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a google search)? It is a great one of a kind guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my old buddy Taylor got amazing results with it.

[@ManuelSanchez-vs1rm]

Very interesting 🤔

[@amandapieciak7864]

For many women safety is behind this... I can not be intimate with you when there is not trust that I am safe to be vulnerable with you.

[@kmdn1]

I agree, I think men and women may have differing reasons for fearing intimacy. For men it may be more of a fear of rejection because they tend to be the ones generally persuing the woman. Women seem to want to protect themselves from being hurt by getting too close with the wrong person, so they can be fearful to go forward with intimacy until trust is developed.

[@D.i.m.i.t.r.a.]

@@kmdn1 persuing? could you help me to understand it ?

[@abi7183]

@@D.i.m.i.t.r.a. pursue /pəˈsjuː/ : follow or chase (someone or something).

[@Quasihamster]

Not just women, trust me.

[@janedoh123]

@@D.i.m.i.t.r.a. it’s feminism ting

[@ally8420]

"The opposite of the fear of intimacy is a sense of worth" MY Head EXPLODES

[@breemills9214]

WHOA 🤯

[@redredkroovy]

Aneurism!! Like waking up for the first time.

[@premeditatio]

Wow. 💯💖

[@masodadominique4346]

"We all got something we pretending not to know about ourselves" 👈🏿👈🏿👈🏿 Wow!

[@bcbro142]

I know right💯

[@ps5ps594]

Phycology is just a closer look a simpler look we just need to get to the root the basis to understand are selves better

[@Xplreli]

Omg yes 🙌 Hearing that blew my mind!

[@hustler212]

Omg, that's like saying the otherwise unsaid, and hence hits like reality

[@valkyreve]

It's the fear of abuse, (n adulthood also)being hurt again for me. It's not always fear of rejection.

[@karunapbhatia]

Fear of abuse can have an element of rejection. There are many layers to it. It's all so interconnected.

[@tasharch]

What about the fear of being subsumed by someone else and losing yourself?

[@karunapbhatia]

@@tasharch Checking one's attachment style can help understand fears. There could be codependency issues involved. When there is low self worth and self esteem it gets easier to merge with partner's identity.

[@tasharch]

@@karunapbhatia interesting. Would someone fear codependency if they were codependent?

[@obatalaosun2222]

@@tasharch Yes, once they have some level of consciousness about their codependency. Ask me how I know. Lol. They don't want to be codependent again.

[@AnnieinKC]

I thnk people are quick to accuse one as having a fear of intimacy, but many times, that person is seeing red flags, and therefore, doesn't want to see the intimacy through. Also, many seem to suggest that the other person is "normal," when they're NOT. Listening to your intuition is your best protection.

[@tonyasanders5203]

What's Normal

[@silentvoicespodcast]

@@tonyasanders5203 What's normal? Not being an abusive, manipulative asshole.

[@vickyytoriaaaa]

Wow I love Dr. Ish!! We need him in more videos. It’s so evident how passionate he is in his work

[@steffiekensley8743]

Totally avoidant! Can completely relate. Too many emotionally unavailable people (many of the narcissistic ilk) in my life made me dependent almost completely on myself to the point that if I'm asking for help, I may literally be drowning. Once you identify one narc in your life, you realize you've had many around you with a Cluster-B personality disorder over your lifetime. So, then, the question becomes how do you prove to yourself not everyone is an emotional manipulator and allow vulnerability with safe people only? Where are these precious, amazing people and how do you find them and connect with them when it seems you have a narc target on your forehead?

[@PriyankaGupta-ew1li]

You must be a pathetic people pleaser.. Universe reflects back to you what you hv active in your vortex! You are eager to serve.. Then a taker will come!! Become securely attached who loves life🤗❤🙏🏻

[@steffiekensley8743]

I was a people pleaser until I realized it wasn't being reciprocated but I was never pathetic. Contrary to what many who subscribe to the Law of Attraction believe, life presents you with a little bit of everything. It presents you with what you are, the opposite of what you are and anything in between. It's up to us to decide what we'll tolerate. I have decided I will not tolerate abuse or disrespect. Those who offer disrespect when they have the option to offer compassion are the pathetic ones. Those who return criticism with compassion are the powerful ones.

[@sueanne3139]

@@steffiekensley8743 You are certainly NOT pathetic Steffie..that was a rude comment. I've never met a man yet...that isnt a narc!!! family/friends/husband, all of them narcs - so I can relate. Its a lonely life for us. 🙋‍💖

[@unfortunato]

​@sueanne3139 I came down to this comment section to learn a bit about the pain that others went through in their life, hear their side of the story. People of all ages, women and men, from anywhere around the world. And you're great for standing up against that rude and cruel first commenter. But that second part of your comment was just as hurtful and unfair. This sort of rhetoric you use only leads to hate. It's a broad generalization and saying or believing it will neither bring you peace, nor will it give you a lasting feeling of redemption.

[@karacole2304]

Totally relate. When your husband wonders if you just don't like him that much but really it's your deep fear of rejection that keeps you distant from him. 😔

[@somebodyelse7499]

Yeah I would if it’s not so much a fear of rejection? What if somebody just wants to feel safe and they don’t care if you reject them or not. Is that a thing it seems like with women it’s a thing. I haven’t watch the whole video yet maybe he’ll get around to saying something about that. Very long video

[@jacquelynallen488]

Fear of intimacy is the fear of rejection. Mic just dropped!

[@chrisazure1624]

It is also the fear of being absorbed. I grew up with a needy mother who I was afraid of due to her schizophrenia. I had problems with letting people get close due to the fear of not being able to defend my boundaries.

[@kirstinstrand6292]

@@brianpatrick3351 I am an example of the neglect that your friend experienced as a child. I believe that intimacy is more of a vulnerability issue never experienced from parents or siblings. For me, I think vulnerability can easily be learned. The practice space could be in therapy, for starters.

[@jodil7]

No. It’s the fear of someone trapping you,

[@alicenglish3979]

A fear of meeting another personality disorder narcissistic smooth talking person.

[@truthexposed839]

Not always lol

[@chaiandmatcha]

2:01 intimacy is me being vulnerable and allowing you to see me, know me and accept me. That leads to love and belongings 18:07 overcoming fear of vulnerability 20:00 mindset of just to be seen

[@saratonnan]

A trained psychiatrist who is totally relatable! He doesn't talk like a "distant" professional. He shares his own struggles and vulnerabilities & thus helps us understand we're "normal" & going to be OK. ❤❤❤ More Dr. Ish, please!

[@tarameehan1]

Dr. Ish is literally blowing my mind. I’m currently watching this and it’s hitting all the notes with me in a way that easy to understand. He’s my new fave on MedCircle. Thank you!

[@Shortkonner]

He really is knowledgeable

[@thaicomh]

Dr. Ish and Dr. Ramani have this approachable, wise, charismatic, and absolutely powerful speech that just grab all my attention and respect. Dr. Ramani literally saved my life and I am all gratitude. Thanks to Kyle amd MedCircle for this amazing and necessary channel.

[@Lilylou59]

Great wisdom! Thank you!

[@1stPersonStateConsciousness]

31:40 Know exactly what you are doing, why you are doing it, how you feel about it 52:00 Simplicity 👍🏼 53:00 The hardest things are usually the most simple

[@ambivalent5842]

Self parenting! When I was in my later 20's through my 30's and into my 40's. I realized I was very very wounded, emothionally/psychologically as well as physically. If someone made a sudden movement near my face, I flinched, and guarded my face. It could be anyone or anywhere. It was reflexive . I knew I needed to protect myself from any more pain, from my parents. I made some powerful decisions, most didn't understand, about distancing from my parents. I knew nothing of this phrase " parenting yourself " , yet I consciously decided to mother myself. I took an elementary school photo of myself, where I saw beauty and innocence , and put in my wallet. It represented my vulnerability, my frailty. If certain feelings came forward, I'd pull the photo out , and use words that affirmed my worthiness of love and comfort. At 61 I still struggle periodically with exposing my feelings and sharing/asking for my needs, only with a partner or for whom I have deeper feelings. It can be so painful, that I tear up. Recently I have found by forcing myself to confront it, which still causes fear, it allows me to feel relief. No matter the outcome.

[@juditajankovic2094]

sending love

[@frv6610]

How do you force a confrontation with "it", what exactly are you doing to whom?

[@RIKISTEVENS]

The things that we are fearing are shaping us more than the things that we love and the things that we aspire to. Great message.

[@nicoleshaffer1816]

Loved it! Kyle, Medcircle wouldn’t be the same without you; you do such a great job bringing out what the listeners need

[@deedeehouston4154]

Dr. Ish is PHENOMENAL!! He gave us SO MANY valuable tools!! I look forward to seeing/hearing him again!!!

[@erinseward]

I love Dr. Ish''s take on all the different ways the 'fear of intimacy' can show up and take from. This interview is full of valuable information and provides great context. Wonderful job, MedCircle. I got a lot out of this episode. It has been truly eye opening and gives new awareness and I believe in doing this, we all slowly change ourselves and the world.

[@sallyburnside2185]

I love your vibe and how well you engage in these meaningful convos. Your guests are always rich in humanity. I love Dr. Ish!!!

[@mila3432]

“if you’re gonna get on the islands, make sure you burn the boats” I love this so much-their dynamic is great and kyle is very relatable. Thank y’all for introducing me to Dr Ish !!

[@virginiacash-renbjor8455]

Thank you, the simplicity of WHY is enough to bring so much clarity and it's been there in front of me. Thanks😘

[@GS-st9ns]

That is going to be my new go-to Saving Grace. I am on your side. Wow. I will say that to my kids and family , but also my students and other people I feel are worthy

[@W0lfm0ther]

I don’t know what my expectations were for this video but it has succeeded and surpassed it. SO MUCH GROUNDBREAKING information here. All of which has resonated with me and how I view others in my life. I really appreciate you all for giving us this precious information for free!!! Self awareness and self development really makes the world a better place. May this good karma given be received back to you all 10 fold. So much love & gratitude. Blessings 🙏🏾

[@deannatownsend3280]

Dr. Ish taught me so much about myself in such a short time. Kyle med circle has literally saved me. For that I say thank you. I'm not so scared and feeling alone anymore I'm not the only one and that alone is such a large feeling of acceptance and and a beginning, at the age of 58, to finally have peace. Omg thank you so much.

[@Andrewjc222]

I’m terrified of intimacy and I’m a guy

[@IsabelSantos-rw9qe]

so glad I watched this because I've recently realized i have issues with this and i found this recorded stream really helpful. I'm currently talking to my psych about this issue and hopefully, i'll gain more confidence. :)

[@kourasall7253]

Listening to this is like a therapy session! thank you Kyle and Dr. Ish!

[@gregorypeterson9]

Dr. Ish, the most uplifting Dr. I've come across Awesome!!

[@ChristensenPetra]

Wow. I really appreciate Dr. Ish. He had so much good advice and just such a good energy about him. Thank you guys! 🙏🏻💙

[@Nico-ni4jv]

Kyle’s skin looks amazing! Who else wants Kyle’s skin routine or if you do wear make up, what make up? What’s your secret to your great skin?! Fantastic hosting as per usual btw!

[@fabiennepdt4898]

You made me aware of my patern, Dr Ish. Now I have to work on that. The 5 "WHY" is just incredible! Thank you a thousand times.

[@melfegredo406]

You guys have no clue how much I needed this. I have had some traumatic things happen such as emotional and mental abuse from my ex. I have been finding it really hard to be intimate with anyone and trust is very difficult as well. Thank you so much for what you do and all your content it has helped me when I have needed the most help. ❤️

[@katie195]

My husband whipped the “I care” right out of me. Never again. “Intimacy” is over rated.

[@MedCircle]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. We are so glad you're finding value in this mental health education.

[@mirelladlima5278]

So well articulated. Such a helpful video. it's heartening to know that others are also struggling to overcome such issues. Tks🙏

[@mirelladlima5278]

@Mel Fegredo - You are not alone. it would be comforting to you to know that others are going through a similar struggle and just being aware about it and telling your story is the first step to healing and recovery. May you find the help and support you need to get over this. Be strong.🙏

[@KnotSoProGamer]

Dr Ish is super knowledgeable and charismatic. Really enjoyed listening. Deep thoughts without being super complicated. Thank you for helping people heal

[@mr.anindyabanerjee9905]

Very enthralled after listening to this conversation with Dr Ish. . Significant schema focussed discussion about fear of intimacy have been therapeutic indeed!! Thanks😊 🙏

[@shannonferguson4810]

What a wonderfully informative dialogue on relationships. Please invite Dr. Ish back to MedCircle; he is a gem.

[@Kafka04]

This was great. Love Dr Ish- very relatable 👍🏽

[@zeroday6403]

I really like what he has to say and agree with him on a lot of levels. I would say the opposite to love is indifference which is basically not caring at all. I appreciate all the content you guys create and thank you for all the help.

[@janedoh123]

romantic love safety is paramount to continue connection but love of family and friends it’s not a sexual shame of rejection or trust .just you are either using a different kind of excuse for fear of intimacy ergo community which is a self sabotaging learned coping mechanism so thanks for your feedback and i know that because you commented with such knowledge u are an amazing psychological shaman or a narcissist

[@karolinakwiecien8345]

Really great material, thx a lot MedCircle and Dr. Ish

[@kristannestone1748]

I can tell just by how Dr. I SH *iS* that he grew up in a loving household!! Love his humor and joy!!

[@southernsoul152]

BEAUTIFUL collaboration! You two flow well 😍

[@bethscott9162]

Loved this! Covered a number of important topics related to fear of intimacy!!

[@Lena-mj3kr]

Dr.Ish has a great way to express his kknowledge, very helpful and pleasant to listen to.

[@le_th_]

He is charming and charismatic (and I'm hearing Dr. Ramani's voice in my head saying, "Run when you encounter charisma". lol).

[@bcbro142]

Actually she says run when you are around a charming man charisma is just a vibe

[@katie195]

@@bcbro142 doesn’t matter - just run.

[@kirstinstrand6292]

If you are referring to a car salesperson that is charming, run! I think that a Doctor that has high level verbal skills and high awareness of feelings should be cut some slack on judging him as charming. What is he wanting from us? We know what the salesperson wants; there is a difference.

[@le_th_]

​@@kirstinstrand6292 lol Holy crap, it's like you have no understanding of why narcissists do what they do....or how it differs from why psychopaths do what they do. If that's the case, you're probably also someone who fails to understand the degree of pathological narcissism present in the medical profession....and academia....and any other high achieving profession that people admire. It's like you don't understand the number one thing narcissists NEED (not want...NEED) and what they are in near-constant pursuit of daily: ADMIRATION. When narcissists don't get their daily dose of narcissistic supply (read: public admiration), WATCH OUT. Now, not every narcissist is as emotionally immature as trump, but trump downward spiral that has been spining further and further out of control is what happens when a narcissist in a powerful position of trust LOSES public admiration. The most intelligent and self-aware narcissists are...in short spurts....utterly charming, so that you will gush on about how wonderful they are (because when you compliment, flatter, gush, or commend them it EQUALS narcissistic supply they can lap up). Some of the most toxic narcissists I've met are psychologists who know exactly what to do, and what public persona they should present, in order to garner the most narcissistic supply they can get. But sure, go ahead and make excuses for him based on his profession (lol as if education is a protection against psychopathology that developed...past tense....before someone reached the age of 6 years old?) The more letters someone has behind their name, the more of a yellow flag that should be to observe that individual closesly for charm. Serious academicians are rarely....and I do mean RARELY...charming. They are polite, logical, measured, and can be quite dull (because they're not worried about being liked or admired...they're busy providing information and sharing their knowldge and experience). **narcissistic supply is the clinical term for "admiration from others"

[@iamnotmyhandle]

Wow! You got all of that from this short interview?? You must be psychic! Lol

[@jacquelynemichael419]

You willing..no rejection..vulnerable. I believe you're nearly ready. You are worth everything.No shame.I accept you for what you are...doesn't matter...past people who have wronged you..cased fear

[@michellenichols9608]

Absolutely amazing!!! Dr. Ish is awesome. He breaks it down in a way that makes it so understandable Thank you!!!

[@kirstinstrand6292]

Dr Ish covers all important issues re Relationships. Bravo!

[@La_melodia_de_la_calle]

Great advice and tools provided, thoroughly enjoyed this!

[@Jayyjayy6565]

Can’t express how helpful this is. Thank you.

[@christinagaley6786]

This was wonderfully empowering and insightful!! Thank you!!

[@amaly9348]

Following u from Belgium 🇧🇪, great way to explain this topic 🙏🏼

[@lisaj5769]

i love this doc. Explained things very clearly. Thanks for the vid!

[@bcbro142]

This man is amazing everything he said and the way he said it completely made sense and resonated with me! He has such an amazing personality!🙏🏻👍🏼💯

[@kirstinstrand6292]

I would say, instead, high verbal skills, and high level of knowledge expertly explained. But, yes he is good!

[@WomboBraker]

great interview . interesting questions and satisfying answers. 6 minutes in and feeling it

[@44kayleemic]

This was so helpful! Describes me in many aspects. Thank you so much 🙏

[@willowtree9082]

😭 such a tough subject 😭, I've struggled with this subject for 40+years 😭 I have CPTSD, this is tough work 😭.

[@Ash120000]

Wow thank you! Such a great way to explain too!

[@eleonoramostert8917]

I have found people who say they are a “Private Person” have the same issues/problems/patterns. They have problems communicating and are stand offish, even with close family

[@TheLily97232]

That's me exactly lol pretty secretive and not great at communicating.

[@Alphacentauri819]

Depends on the person and situation. There can be overly intrusive people, who ask inappropriate questions & that can be a good boundary to set. However, there are some people who are like that no matter what. It helps to see the “why” behind. Dismissive avoidant attachment can explain a lot about this.

[@mcm9619]

Dr Ish is a great tonic .

[@AudreyLaneYoga]

wow this doc is great! thank you, med circle!

[@allthingslexi6046]

Some people are afraid of being touched because they don’t know if that person will be gentle and kind.

[@noworneversoulbeach]

Hi Yoruichi!!!

[@ydela1961]

@QualityRock Productions It is a gesture of kindness if the person you touch is allowed to stop it anytime she/he wants. As a child, I remembered hating being taken in the arms of adults. Because I could not leave and go play until they put me back on the floor. "Wasn't it obvious that I was supposed to like it? Doesn't every child want to be taken in adults arms?". No, not for me. An aunt told me much later, when I was an adult: "When you were a child, only your mother was allowed to take you in her arms". This is consistent with my memories of the time. I knew with my mother that, unlike other adults, she would put me back on the floor whenever I wanted to. As a teenager, I discover how nice it was to hug others, but still didn't like to be hugged. So when I embraced the saying "Don't do to others...", I decided that I would never do that to anybody. So I never hugged anyone again since. It was much later that some female friend asked me with a voice of regret: "But didn't you ever wanted to hug me?". I was speechless I couldn't understand the meaning of it. What? Isn't a man hugging a woman some patriarcal domination game? Do really people, women, children like to be hugged? It took me years to reject the notion of "Don't do to others what you don't like to be done to you" and replace it with "Do to others what THEY want you to do to them". In fact I was always attracted to hugging people, but I forbad it myself for years thinking it was some egoistical, male chauvinistic desire to dominate. And "Don't do to others...". And it took me even more years to finally being able to hug a child for the first time without feeling being a bad, egoistical, domineering a-hole.

[@frv6610]

@@ydela1961 why did it take so many years to change it, why couldn't you do it faster?

[@chaitrakeshav]

How does this video not have like a billion views? GOLD! ❤

[@narayanmamtani2878]

Parenting isnt about punishment or rewards, it's about you feeling good about yourself because you deserve to feel good about yourself. 👏👏👏👏👏

[@pinkgummybearparty2366]

opting in on Dr. Ish yasss! Thank you guys!!

[@lesleyelalami2562]

Opposite of love which is attraction to/enmeshment with, has been described as 'disgust' which would bring about rejection which results in shame, not feeling good enough. I'm sure that's how Jordan Peterson described it for whatever that's worth. Enjoyed the chat Kyle and Dr Ish, thanks. xxx Have mentioned to my husband his physically abusive non-nurturing mother is at the root of HIS angst and distance. He hated that and shouted at me 'Don't ever bring my mother into this'... she died when he was 16 years old. I suppose he's locked into how he dealt with her behaviour, learned how to manage and box it for his own survival and will not explore and resolve that box he's created. It's not sorted because he wont face the truth of how it's affecting his behaviour towards me. C'est la vie.

[@FlorenceLeonardo]

2:02 COMPLETELY. I experience this every time. With vulnerability and great intimacy, sex is a physical manifestation of inward depth of connection. Very pleasurable. I love this TOPIC so much. so emotionally healing. I feel seen, heard, known. 20:57 well said Kyle. I am personally attracted to vulnerability and I do say that to my partner when I see it, I make sure my partner is aware.

[@iamnotmyhandle]

I believe the term you may be looking for is demisexual. I also see sex/intimacy as a form of communication and connection with my partner.

[@anhangamirim]

That's was really helpfull!! Dr.Ish, thank you!!!

[@koalaTtime]

wow the first question was literally my problem 10/10

[@lindairankunda1311]

Dr. Ish is the ishh!!! I’m telling yall!👏🏿

[@nadademais1234]

i wish i had always felt like i had the resources to deal with anything in my life. like nothing is a big deal. and anything can be dealt with, yeah. to feel like i could deal with anything that happens to me, thats bold

[@petrairene]

So many people get stuck in intimate relationships with people who are clearly not good for them that a bit more reservation towards letting people get that close quickly would be advisable.

[@kirstinstrand6292]

Exactly. Maybe most people are so insecure that they feel compelled to leap into a relationship because of neediness. It's challenging growing up and growing old.

[@leisawatson7100]

That was fantastic!!!! Thanks!!! Hahah think we all have something to work on

[@405OKCShiningOn]

Thank you Kyle and Doctor Ish! I love this message. Re-parenting and becoming our own parents by close self examination. The core fears of intimacy listed are helpful. I was thinking about this talk and the talk with Dr Ramani on avoidant partners or anxious avoidant attachment styles on medcircle. Listening here at medcircle is a daily joy. Keep up the great work.

[@thedreamer-meditationrelax3267]

Great conversation. Loved it!

[@lydiaajohnson]

Thank you guys. You spoke right where I live.

[@moirabaker458]

I definitely have fear of intimacy and it absolutely comes from the fear of not being completely accepted

[@cydjansen8256]

Amazing! Love Dr. Ish

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

Thank You for all these great insights. 💫

[@marleyelmer4294]

Mostly enjoyed this Dr. with the exception of the self nurturing act of striving to keep yourself pure for your future companion. In my opinion....... So many negatives from sexual misuse of ones body. Male or female, from the trauma of an unintended pregnancy to Incurable diseases or just the mental stress of bonding with the wrong person. Just these reasons are enough to one need therapy. You don’t have to agree, I’ve seen it happen to ppl I love and care about.

[@nads2934]

Thing I pretend to not know about myself. Wow! Thankyou😊

[@karenblackwood5883]

It’s funny after tough relationships I spent 15yrs myself and actually discovered myself most of things in the video r in myself but new relationship and I have told partner I’ve been through things and how I will avoid if he allows me to and what to do in that moment but he’s very patient person and listens most the time 😂, I already feel the barriers lowered I feel positive about the future so thanks for letting me realise I’m on my way to where I want to be with your video guy’s,,this will help a lot of people.

[@wandashouse]

PERFECT DESCRIBE! thanks so much!

[@oriflamma2710]

wow this was great, thank you !

[@meghagoyal4516]

This video is life changing!

[@sp00g37]

Thank you for being named Kyle, let me feel this by proxy

[@dianahoward9738]

love Dr Ish - that was great.

[@Zagorka007]

Hip, Hip Hurray! Lovely d-r ISH!!! Greetings from South London, Brixton from the Bulgarians!!! This is so so real especial in the engineering area....lots of engineers in theirs 50 just realize...that they never had intimacy....I work for BBC and believe me.....they are hundreds of those engineers...wow.....have to explain that to them...this is a whole generation... I was trying to address it but I was not sure what to say about them... Thank you!!!

[@coryprovost2277]

I was an engineering student. The truth is, engineer types feel nerdy, ugly, misunderstood and isolated from a supermajority of society because we actually are some of the smartest people but the Hollywoodization of culture and television propagandists take advantage of our people's psychology by way of social programmification. With an engineering mind, there is not a single problem in the entire world whose parts cannot be disambiguated or simplified into something we can comprehend for ourselves. Many engineer types, like myself, are some of the most depressed people in society because our intellect is seen as a 'threat' to the masses because of their 'lack' of it. This is exactly why Elon Musk was bullied in South Africa

[@marianaisabelochoamoreno5355]

Wow! Thanks a lot for this video!

[@Mara_143]

Wow, this was good.🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💛💛💛

[@BrandiNaCole]

Man, Dr. Ish is good. I love this man. Marriage Boot Camp does not give him any good reputation or credit for his wisdom at all.

[@angelinelee1]

Hi Rewatching the conversation. Grwat. U guya r rock. Tq. 🙏🙏🙏

[@hollydancergirl5592]

Omgsh this is soooo good!! I love Dr. Ish he hit sooo many good things to think about!

[@roe3571]

Dr. Ish thank you!!! You awesome

[@SkoomaCat]

Hm, for me is that I don't believe if other person says I'm attractive without clothes. I think if someone says that to me they're crazy. I just don't believe.

[@TheLily97232]

I can relate !

[@Bianca-vr3ll]

I really think I need help, and I will admit I can't do this alone... I am to the point where if a stranger, my parents, my friends hug me I start crying and having an anxiety attack and many more issues in my relationship...

[@lisaariottiart]

Ish is the ISH!

[@elohtibbarehtnwod]

this is sooooo good

[@alejandrarincon452]

I love these videos!

[@deborahbyom929]

Taking notes!!

[@kafkaniendc]

He’s great! Please bring him back!

[@Imsulaf]

I enjoyed and I learned a a lot