8 Signs You Have Relationship Anxiety

So many of us spend our lives searching for love, and yet, some part of us can’t help but fear it as well. Are you weighed down by a lot of worries, uncertainty, and distress over all the ways your relationship could all go wrong? This irrational and persistent fear is known as “relationship anxiety”, and it’s something a lot of us struggle with. Do you think you might have relationship anxiety? We've made this video for you to help you identify the signs!
If you relate to this video and want to understand more about why you fear relationships, we've previously made a video on abandonment issues: • 7 Signs You Have Aband...
#relationshipanxiety #love #psych2go
Writer: Chloe Avanasa
Script editor: Morgan Franz
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Naphia
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KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Riggio, H. R. (2013). Peer relationships, social support, and relationship anxiety in young adulthood. Personal Relationships, 11(1), 99-114.
Connor, B., Fauber, R., Gordon, E., Montesi, L., & Heimber, R. (2010). On the relationship between anxiety, fear of intimacy, and relationship satisfaction in young couples. Journal of Social Psychology, 42(11); 117-123.
Chen, H., Yang, T., & Liu, X. (2019). Pleasing or withdrawing: Differences between dependent and self-critical depression in adolescent relationships. Journal of Social Psychology, 23(10), 14-29.
Hanton, S., & Connaughton, D. (2007). Overthinking and the perception of control: a study on anxiety and relationship satisfaction. Clinical Psychology Review, 73(1), 87-97.
Martin, J. L., & Ashby, J. S. (2015). Perfectionism and fear of intimacy: Implications for romantic relationships. Journal of Personality, 12(4), 368-374.
Rodman, S. A. (2008). Mechanisms Underlying Difficulties in Intimate Relationships: The Roles of Fear of Positive Evaluation and Fear of Abandonment (Doctoral dissertation). University of Michigan Press.

[@Psych2go]

Have you ever experienced any of these signs mentioned in the video? Comment below!

[@cyantile5490]

Gotta say, I think I got almost everything down...ouch

[@valianttruth3745]

Does this pertain to friendships too?

[@michaelpatterson6508]

I have like 6 of these except number 7 and 8, it is kind of wrecking me atm, I can't find much time for myself, I constantly fear she'll leave me, I get extremely paranoid and everything, I basically put all my time into her and do everything for her, and then stupid stuff like her just saying she is going to sleep instead of goodnight, love you, has me triggered. I don't even dare to say I might want a day to myself because I'm scared she'll leave me or meet someone else, I never had this before, it's just so nerve wrecking.

[@Psych2go]

@@valianttruth3745 Yes, why not?

[@much__wow__]

I had all of the above with my ex, and once we broke up and tried to be friends I still had all of thease and I tried to keep her out of my head and not torture me with guilt that I hadn't been enough or I didn't deserve it and I had failed at everything I did for her. Though, she wasn't very caring and didn't help me in the slightest when I needed it but alwayes gave her my support and gave up on trying to talk about my problems. Our ending didn't end so kindly either. We both said horrible things in the heat of anger and honestly she probably hates me as much as I hate her. Now I'm a little better with my current partner, though I'm still scared, I'm trying my best and trying to put BOTH of our feelings first and I want to make sure I do it right this time and not go ahead over heels and not think.

[@dogski2822]

This channel is where introverts go for relationship advice.

[@Psych2go]

We hope this helps! What other relationship advices would you like to learn from us? :)

[@alistair_7]

Me, a depressed extrovert

[@kimberlyosburn6784]

Dogski28 true

[@uimayhxm348]

Yes

[@11037_kuwata]

true

[@user-js8nr6er3t]

Y’all know you pressed this because you know you have trust issues and are scared of being hurt,,, and same :”((

[@HoV326]

Same

[@-karl2188]

How did you know

[@user-js8nr6er3t]

Sweetxsalty because hurt people know the pain man 🥺

[@flutenanyidk1806]

Not necessarily, I’m just curious. I hope you heal in your own time.

[@Keznen]

Nope, this channel is just interesting.

[@gracekatharine]

"Do you relate to any of these signs?" Yeah I was crying the entire video

[@sethwoest3597]

Me to

[@HikiOmo]

Yeah

[@alexandermagne5644]

I am so glad I wasn't the only one

[@silwef6357]

Me too :(((

[@tiffinicook2802]

This video got me more stressed because i really have a problem i relate to 90% of these

[@ZealousAnubis]

My texting anxiety plays a part in my relationship anxiety. Those feelings of “I shouldn’t have said that” and “I should have said that differently” are constant.

[@giraffedoesabackflip3564]

Me too. :(

[@jrwheeler81]

Same!!!!

[@bengaliotaku5122]

I ghosted them I am so scared of myself

[@FrankiWithNoE]

1. You’re insecure about your relationships 2: You doubt your partners feelings about you 3. You’re overly dependent of your partner 4. You try to overly please your partner 5. You over analyze your relationship 6. You beat yourself up over everything 7. You’re afraid things will get too serious 8. You’re waiting for something to go wrong

[@roythomas3667]

5 through 8 ripped me a new one, as they say

[@ladennayoung2939]

Thanks

[@leilam.6794]

I'm 5,7,8

[@ruchamansukh1203]

Thanks !!💕 I relate to 1, 2, 5 & 6😓

[@cringeaholic4082]

I just want her to leave me so I can get rid of these thoughts. I think I'm better off alone.

[@honestly1431]

Love how I have social anxiety and finally managed to get a partner and then... get welcomed to ‘relationship anxiety’. 😭

[@aelingalathynius9963]

😭😭😭

[@TamaseiTobari]

I know your comment is 11 months old, but same, I feel your pain. I hope your relationship is still kicking and you overcame this.

[@WorriorXD]

So sad😔

[@daenerizz]

Same

[@sunnyflower1979]

I hope he loves u even more

[@ryanperry1561]

This hits pretty hard when your in a long distance relationship and you always have the thought of them being with someone better on your mind. All these points hit true for me and Ik I have problems. I just don’t want her to have to deal with them all.

[@gene3169]

Dude i feel exactly the same way

[@cass94er]

same man its really rough and i'm at a point were i might lose them.

[@ryanperry1561]

@@cass94er communication is key. If y’all aren’t on the same page, ya gotta work to fix it is all. Keep it up dude

[@Robertybob_]

Brotha I feel you

[@WestR0gue]

@@ryanperry1561 only issue is I feel like communicating it every single day for that piece of assurance, which obviously isn't the move 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@nicholaslatta2927]

My wife was murdered Feb 8 2021. My life has been destroyed completely. Watching your channel has brought me so far. As I move forward in my life, with pain and suffering, I can go to sleep feeling a little bit better after your videos. For my mental health I say God bless you and everything you do.

[@jrwheeler81]

I am so, so sorry. I lost my husband of 22 years a year ago very suddenly and unexpectedly to sepsis. I have been dating a guy for the past 3 months, who I've fallen REALLY hard for, and my insecurities and anxieties are really overpowering me, which is ridiculous because this new relationship has been going incredibly well and I should have no reason to feel this way. It's awful. :(

[@widechiesa]

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[@WhyIsTheClosetDoorOpening]

There was a guy I was dating a while ago and he accidentally killed himself a couple months ago. I’m so sorry, I’m glad you’re doing better now.

[@ireneanz5735]

Praying for your healing

[@ivaylopetrov1012]

I am sorry for your loss, man.

[@jenny_447]

I'm my own worst enemy. I have the man of my dreams but I'm so damn anxious and insecure that I end up causing small fights. It's like I'm so scared of giving in 100% because I think I'll get hurt. I have these fears of not being pretty enough, I'm not successful enough or I'm too shy. He's literally the sweetest, most patient guy.

[@LEObearbear]

Same !!!!

[@lookthereshope7820]

Same

[@tonileolion9702]

Ur not alone ... I hope we all have a healthy healing .. I’m so confident when I’m not in a relationship then boom 💥 get in one and loses all my shit smh 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@lookthereshope7820]

@@tonileolion9702 girl yes ! I learned I have to find that healthy balance for my self and still be selfish and also present . So I won’t lose my shit lol

[@tonileolion9702]

@@lookthereshope7820 it’s a daily struggle I hate it but I’m trying . I honestly feel bad for the guy I’m dating lol but he’s so patient and kind . I wish I was normal . Covid just made my anxiety 1000 times worse

[@alessiac.2776]

These videos are great but can there be a follow up on what to do about any of this because all I've learned is that there's something wrong with me, but not how to fix the problem

[@allthelanguages7945]

Exactly

[@goodnessinlife8686]

Thats something thought provoking and great idea to focus my content on.

[@BYEBI_]

I get the feeling that they don't want to because they're maybe not a licensed professional? Because there *are* issues to giving someone advice when you're not qualified to. I do agree though, and wish they would at least give SOME vague tips... But until then, I'll ask google

[@rainadatkween7959]

They never tell us how to fix the problem...for any topic really

[@dunya9785]

I mean if u learn that there is a problem u should fix, they often say in their Videos that you should seek professional help.

[@marcuswest7270]

these all hit me so hard now that I'm in a long distance relationship. I feel like there's nothing I can do about it on top of all the issues with anxiety I'm having. Who knows what's going on hundreds of miles away. I freak out for a few hours, I cant focus on anything, then i calm down and realize my relationship is fine. I overthink my problems and I know I'm overthinking and I still end up being the one to hurt myself. It's hard knowing the your S/O loves you but you keep thinking things that mess up your relationship.

[@allgm8985]

Right there with you mate, basically the exact same situation. Worried rn that I may have hurt my partner really badly. I've got OCD and it's a nightmare sometimes but if you're with the right person/someone you love than they're worth fighting for and use it as an opportunity to improve yourself for them and most importantly for yourself. Stay strong 💪

[@pancakemotors23]

This comment has very accurately reflected my situation. What I want to avoid the most, is being toxic or needy, so I just keep it to myself... But now I see that talking about it may be the best way to deal with this

[@sad-boinguae2852]

@@pancakemotors23 same scenario im needy person and sometimes being needy to your partner can cause variety of problem became a toxic part of it

[@pancakemotors23]

@@sad-boinguae2852 yeah, we actually broke up a month ago. Reality is, that we tried to have a relationship trough VR, and although it was way closer than most long distance relationships, it still is a long distance relationship at the end. Communication is way more difficult and getting trough you intentions and emotions is way more difficult when your avatar (character) doesn't reflect all of your emotions. Although sad that it ended, I still think it was nice that I got to try such a thing.

[@youhavenvrfeltawomanstouch9599]

im in the same situation like im terrified cuz i definitely have hurt my partner a lot and we broke up at one point and got back together but now idk if shes still with me out of pity or idk I am so lost i feel like I'm needy or if not that toxic and like I'm holding her back in some way been almost a year since iv seen her@@pancakemotors23

[@JorJorBinks69420]

I’ve never been called out so many times in only 6 minutes

[@memephobiagaming6690]

8 signs you have relationship anxiety Me: I think everything is clearly wrong with me....

[@The_Inventor]

Me too

[@sweatingfrommyeyes767]

That's not it, not everyone is perfect for everyone. It's not that you're terrible, it's that it just didn't work out. Don't overthink it 💙

[@yammytan_.9958]

Me too.. 😔

[@kikii8431]

Who’s watching this cause they’re worried about being in a relationship Cause I am

[@cary1056]

Kiki I Hi! Me too!

[@roythomas3667]

I certainly am, but I think the bigger question is why I we're worried

[@owlmanz8171]

Relatable

[@jeffignacio5348]

WHY ARE WE SO WORRIIIIEEEEDDD???

[@dacanation12]

Me

[@emely3385]

thank you so much for this, i literally cry everyday at least once because i feel like this. i can't tell you how thankful i am that this video exists, i finally feel heard and understood because i'm not the problem, it's the anxiety omg i love this

[@suchisubhrabagchi5925]

Wtf samee🥲 hardly a day goes by that i don't cry

[@johnkevinsilagan9139]

I also cried watching this video because I can relate to most of them but what I wanted to know is how to get rid of this because I don't want my partner to get hurt 😭 and end up losing him 😭

[@varshakashyap6415]

I can relate to each of these point. I am always overthinking about my relationship. I am scared to lose him. I always have this thought going on in my mind that he might get someone better and leave me(even when he says that he loves me a lot). I am trying to not focus on these thoughts but then certain things flares my thoughts up like he has a KZbin channel and he has the videos with his ex girlfriend. She is very pretty and he sometimes says that he is not into beauty anymore and that makes me feel degraded that he is not attracted to me. My head is gonna blast.

[@kaxa9285]

umm im not sure abt it ..but i feel like he might just be trying to tell u that he loves you..he just may not know how to express his feelings correctly(ive been there before).. if he wasnt attracted to you he wouldnt be dating you dw ...either way good luck .. i hope you feel better soon

[@kenrickbautista6141]

I have anxiety deep inside, but I believe relationship is one of them.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing! What do you plan to do next to overcome this?

[@ethangreger4484]

@@Psych2go you must take deep breaths and reframe your mindset, find out what you gain and love from and about your relationship. That was what I did. Worked great. She left me the next week.

[@flyingfish7073]

@@ethangreger4484 well thats sad, but dont let it get you down. After all you cant controll everithing, you can only controll yourself and your actions, so dont be sad about something you couldnt control.

[@firstladyqueen5985]

@@ethangreger4484 I guess you're being sarcastic?

[@cemeterydoll1]

@@firstladyqueen5985 😭😭

[@cyantile5490]

It should also be noted that sometimes, especially in the last part of the vid, you may tend to be the one who destroys the relationship because you were so worried about it being destroyed, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy *sigh* I wish this video existed when my relationship was still...there

[@mitchellmotorsportsLLC]

Can confirm about the self-destruction button...

[@Lisey_Ann]

This. omg I'm in a long distance relationship right now I get anxiety when a conflict arises even if it's something small. This has happened to me so many times. Being scared of the destruction is worse than the destruction itself 💀

[@MikuHatsune159]

haha I'm here as well because I already ruined that relationship as well but I'm doing better for myself and have found better people.

[@ramo4474]

Yep, that's exactly what I did

[@SimonL0209]

Same! I get too protective, too intense in a relationship and that makes them go away... but it's my insecurities that are getting the best of me and I end up destroying the one thing I didn't want to destroy. It sucks to be like that. :(

[@Joel-jg2ug]

Literally had all these signs in my first serious relationship.

[@dochudson7284]

@@prashanttemalay7918my first serious relationship was the same way eventually I guess you just learn how to communicate your feelings better and build trust slowly over time I am in a much happier relationship now but sometimes I still have those moments where I’m asking them questions that I should already know the answer to

[@robbyhill9850]

but how do i stop these thoughts

[@dochudson7284]

@@robbyhill9850 my best advice is that you sit with them instead of trying to push them away, do not act on them. When I do that eventually things start to feel better and I’ll realize I was overthinking or the problem will become much clearer.

[@SharissaWilliams]

This

[@adairali95]

I'm experiencing everything you mentioned in this video, I've been in a new loving relationship for about 2 months now and he's been amazing so far and its the first time someone has treated me well. However, I can't help but worry about things like waiting for something to go wrong or over analyse their texts. I don't want to push him away from constantly asking for reassurance from him :(

[@JohnDaniels]

You're doing the best thing, read read as much as you can, may not realize it but it does help. Be careful too because a lot of anxious personality types get with avoidant personality types. The avoidant will come in hot and heavy and then once intimacy starts picking up the appointment will back away quickly which will leave you confused and then make you more anxious so terrible combination. But it's also a time to grow so we did as much as you can and try to detach some from the relationship so you can be more yourself. It's one of the hardest things some of us can do I wish you the very best of luck my fellow traveler 👍🏻

[@cass94er]

yep i feel ya. all most at my 2 month mark too and its long distance and im freaking out because i got clingy and i might lose him.

[@nicoleonfeels]

Sounds like anxious attachment style. I feel like it’s fairly common and can be worked through with lots of self love + with the right partner 👌🏽

[@emmaz3505]

If you're partner has this what would you say is the best say to help them feel okay with not spending all their time with you and not overthink about it

[@Is30old]

Thank you. I needed to read that

[@nicoleonfeels]

Emma Z I think being able to recognize it, talk through it, and come up with a plan on how to best move forward together would be a good starting point.

[@nicoleonfeels]

Runner3000 happy to help! ❤️

[@Psych2go]

That's true! Did you relate to this video?

[@luvrgirlzoe]

I just have all anxiety. like??? I want a break! but *nope.* just always there.

[@gattot6297]

i had them for a long time relax and you are going to be totally fine stay strong ❤️

[@agr0nianTV]

*Hugs*

[@frog5890]

same tho

[@kejsida4921]

Rxse _ pxtals me too. you’re not alone❤️

[@mitchellmotorsportsLLC]

Try watching stand up comedy, I do it whenever I get anxious. Works like a charm. After all laughter is the best medicine.

[@chengliang8610]

OMG, THIS IS SO TRUE! only the number 7 doesn't apply to me but the rest of all, just perfectly describes all my feelings. super helpful for people like me who are experiencing this relationship anxiety to better understand all those deep feelings and root causes and then try to step away from all these negative thoughts.

[@oliviadiberardino1571]

Literally bawling my eyes watching this. I can’t recall major factors of my childhood that led me to be this way but i nodded my head in tears for all 8 signs. My head is going nuts. I’ve been in the most amazing relationship for 1 1/2 years, to the point that i feel BLESSED. I can see a future so clearly. I’ve been in a previous relationship where i knew the guy wasn’t the one, and i didn’t have this anxiety, i just felt my gut telling me to GET OUTTA THERE after a month. But with my man now, my heart knows what it wants, but every now and then my head starts to play against it saying “what if this happens..” or “what if that happens..” and even ridiculous thoughts like “leave him now before you get married, have 2 kids and he decides he wants a divorce” when im feeling confident in myself and in control of my life, im able to easily shut those thoughts down and know that its just silly. But when i’m feeling a little down, or distant, a simple swipe through instagram and seeing a steong celebrity couple spontaneously breaking up is enough to set me off. Omg, if they didn’t last how are we going to!!?? Or seeing a tiktok where girls are saying “if your bf doesnt do these 10 things girls, dump his ass” like omg my bf doesn’t do this! Is he not the one !??? But i don’t wanna dump him 😭😭 social media definitely plays a big culprit, so do movies, books, tv shows, celebrities, the freakin whole world. And it crushes sensitive souls like me who are trying to find their place in the world, with people pleasing habits who’s biggest trigger is criticism. I just don’t know how to get over this feeling because my poor love is suffering, when he has done nothing but love me undoubtedly, meanwhile i feel that im selfishly letting my head push him away 💔

[@indigoearthhealing4927]

I’m on the other side of this where the love of my life pushed me very far away. The one who loves you is there and stays there because they want you. They wouldn’t be choosing to fight through it all if they didn’t want to. Just keep that in mind. ❤ I think the more you openly communicate about your fears with them, the more they have the opportunity to reassure you and have an idea of what’s going on rather than being confused. Even if you can’t say you’re feelings to them, when you’re doing the distancing thing just shoot them a text saying “hey it’s hard for me to talk about right now but I’m doing the distancing thing because I got scared. I’ll talk when I feel better.”

[@indigoearthhealing4927]

She pushed and pushed and pushed me away and it hurt me really deeply, but no matter what there is always this part of me still hear waiting for her. If we love you, we really really love you ❤️

[@vivekasarkar5379]

Please Can U Make A Video About "How To Overcome Relationship Anxiety"...???!!! 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@i_Gotcha_]

This is what I hoped it was 🤕

[@teabonk6243]

I saw this video pop up and automatically asked myself, “How do they know?!?!”

[@levidudley]

I’m a 31 year old man, I’ve always been strong and well put together. At least on the outside lol I have avoided relationships for several years and I’ve finally found someone I feel deeply for and I’m flooded with anxiety and over analyzing. I keep my composure well but sometimes when I’m alone I tremble and shake. Your video was simple and calming, you’re very talented. I guess I don’t have everything figured out lol I was forced to grow up young. I was abused and abandoned by people I desperately needed when I was 11. I even lived in a children’s home for several years. I became skilled at masking my pain and deep fear of others I love leaving or hurting me. All these years latter I’m harshly reminded of this old open wound. This time I don’t think I can run away, hide or go cold and distant from her like the others. Shout out to all the broken people out here. I pray y’all find healing and the strength to do so.

[@courtneyyoungmusic]

Whilst watching this and realising how anxiously attached and insecure I am in all relationships, I was beating myself up for it. I can see how people can pick up on this anxious energy and internal conflict and why I don’t have many meaningful relationships in my life.

[@Arctic_and_The_F0X]

Can’t get relationship anxiety if nobody loves you!

[@geryz7549]

Extroverts hate this one, simple trick!

[@burner0821]

If noone loves you just learn to love yourself

[@roythomas3667]

@@burner0821 unless, you love to hate yourself, put a little twist on things

[@HoV326]

@@roythomas3667 like self-loathing?

[@roythomas3667]

@@HoV326 yes, but I pretend it's fun. Like a game of constant character building, and who doesn't love games

[@ArnieOcfemia]

Damn. That guy with a clover leaf or something has been a LOT THROUGH. He deserves a break from all this.

[@Feziboy]

Omg, you are amazing 🤣

[@xzinnarisalan1891]

Thank you, I've been feeling the first 6 things about my relationship for a while and this video has helped.

[@isabellanichols3951]

Omg... I've been thinking I was crazy for feeling all these things for so long. It feels good knowing I'm not alone❤

[@rxlphy3532]

*Literally 99% won’t see this but, god bless you and stay safe during these hard times read my name btw🦋*

[@sussybaka9270]

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[@fakez1313]

Germany what

[@fakez1313]

Germany hallo

[@TheAutoman217]

"6 feet apart." "Why-?" "We're still in quarantine. Gotta stay safe!"

[@planetaiden133]

Hehe

[@tooba1819]

This anxiety hit me this morning! The big one for me was waiting for something to go wrong. Thank you for this video! 😭

[@sundayaduma6170]

inbox me if you are interested in getting back your ex or any relationship problems

[@sundayaduma6170]

+2::3::4::70::40::06::96::50...

[@somebodyoncetoldme4428]

I love him so much. He makes me so happy. Currently trying to not let my severe anxiety and mental health get in the way of this.

[@francinedaguyin1432]

Psych2go: "Will they miss me when I'm gone?" Much better question: "Will they cry when I die?"

[@triciadoescomedy]

Are you okay?

[@revolesto4151]

What really hurts is that I had to stop and think about the answer.

[@monnocatto]

@@revolesto4151 nah what really hurts is being pretty sure the answer is no

[@aiiiia9971]

You good? 0-o

[@HikiOmo]

Probably not

[@ahanahui4929]

After learning about relationship anxiety some weeks ago, I decided it was enough and I had to work on it, Relationship anxiety is primarily caused due to bad past and lack of self love, so I did just that, I took a break of 1 week from my partner and concentrated just on myself, forgave myself for everything wrong I did, tried new hobbies and every time I overanalysed, I kept on repeating to myself I am strong.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@HavenK4]

I love this! I was very anxious about my relationship for the past two weeks, something bad happened to him and he kind of shut me out. This is my first relationship, so I'm not sure why he's doing this, I thought when you are in love you'll talk about it with your SO, right? and I don't know how to handle the situation, so I ended up freaking out on him, assumed that he didn't want me anymore and told him I'm breaking up with him because I can't handle the emotions anymore and I thought by doing that I'll protect myself and my feelings, but I ended feeling very selfish with my decision afterwards. He didn't say/reply anything to me about that. So, I thought to myself, I guess I was right to assume that he didn't want me anymore. But after some days, I've calmed down and had time to think about the situation, I realised I let my insecurities get the best of me and I didn't even try to see the situation from his perspective. So I ended up messaging him, told him I'm sorry for freaking out and told him I'm not giving him up yet. I'm glad he reciprocated to that, he's not ready to say goodbye either and he told me he just needed some time to figure out his situation. So, right now while he's figuring out his situation, I'm focusing on myself and I'll do what you do because that's what I must do if I want this relationship to work. Thank you for this. We can do this, we are STRONG💚💚💚💚

[@tori8455]

I was crying through the whole video, Because I relate to all of the signs, I feel like he's just tolerating me so he doesn't wanna hurt my feelings, or he just said yes out of pity because he didn't wanna hurt my feelings, I always feel like I'm just bothering him, I feel like I'm just doing it because I'm bored but I really do love him, but I feel like he deserves someone better

[@katelynlqve]

fr girl :((

[@shanielouison1867]

This video is 2 years old now but I just discovered it today and it represents almost 3/4 of my relationships today it's amazing... It's really like that in most of my relationships, I'm always so afraid of losing the people I love, I tell myself that at any moment it could go wrong, and I'm just waiting for my friends to get tired of me because it has to happen one day... The worst thing is that until today the people I cared about the most have always ended up letting me down, which increases my anxiety in my relationships... It's so hard, you constantly feel like you're going to lose the people you care about...

[@sindriana]

after noticing these signs, i believe i have this because this is my first relationship. i really want this to last long, i love them and these signs relate to what i think in the back of my mind, now i can be more wary and hopefully have enough courage to speak with them about it and work together on it ^_^

[@outrosstar]

are you guys still together? 🥹

[@beesko6541]

I relate to all these signs actually, I almost cried..

[@burner0821]

Same bro :/

[@arandomphotographer]

It's totally normal to cry, crying is not a sign of weakness but a very good way to let emotions out! :)

[@Psych2go]

Sorry to hear :( What do you plan to do next?

[@reyadaisha]

I literally have it so bad and he’s really supportive about it too but it doesn’t make me feel any better about how I could potentially destroy our relationship. We literally have each other social media logins because that’s how much I worry, overthink and all. Like I need proof I’m loved.

[@dinosan8795]

This video is something I really needed right now and it helped me to really understand what I’m feeling

[@linmax300]

I’m sure everyone has had relationship insecurities at some point (I’ve even had them about my own friendships) I’m also adopted so I know how abandonment can feel (even if I don’t vividly remember it) but it’s ok! To anyone feeling a little anxious/insecure: Know that your relationships, friendships, connections with other people are important and these are the people who want to be around you because they care about you. They do things for you and you do things for them because you have a significant relationship. I often find myself pondering too far ahead in the future, but just know the present, these moments now are most important and the future will figure itself out-I like to believe things happen for a reason! ❤️

[@vanessagarcia8059]

I definitely was like this when I started going out with my bf but I’ll bring these things up to him and he reassures me every time. I honestly feel so lucky to have him.

[@jerescot]

I wish this could happen more easily with men. I'm feeling this right now, but I don't want to express it to my gf, because it looks weak, and no gf wants that in a man. she knows I'm prone to anxiety, but I fear that if I let her know that I need reassurance, I'll come across as needy, which will cause her to pull away, I'm certain of it. so for now, I just internalise it all, and be my usual funny confident self around her. I'm good at hiding my anxiety...years of practice.

[@MC7-420]

“… because of this deep seated fear of abandonment.” Hit it right on the head

[@pattysirius5472]

Than you so much !!!

[@niafal955]

i have relationship anxiety. i’m in a relationship *with* my anxiety, we’re vv happy😆🥳

[@elora6516]

XDDD GOOD ONE

[@braydoncall8342]

I most definently have relationship anxiety and showed most of these signs with my last relationship. The only problem? It was right. My anxiety proved to be right in the end. We loved each other and planned on getting married after college. However, due to getting to involved, we ended up falling out. And she dumped me right around christmas 2019. I used to always doubt the realtionship and validity of her affection. And now that the anxiety was right, it made my depression and anxiety so much worse.

[@Lisey_Ann]

That sounds rough. Honestly that sounds like it was a learning experience on your part. I think it's important to voice your concerns or doubts as soon as you can to avoid a huge falling out, or to discover things aren't going to work out and leave the relationship without a huge argument

[@marianphillips8170]

I obviously don't know your relationship or anything that happened. BUT it is possible your relationship anxiety was actually acting as self-sabotage, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sometimes, your perspective is everything. And what you ask for from the world is what it gives you. This is the law of attraction. Look it up!! It can be very helpful. Some people claim it's been life-changing for them. I struggle with implementing it. But I do believe there is truth to it. I hope you are able to heal yourself through your anxieties. I know it takes a lot of work and willpower. Don't let your anxiety take over. Only you have control over your mind. Take back the reigns. Good luck ♥️ Check out the School of Life KZbin channel as well. I believe they have a video on self-sabotage

[@AleMaia]

Marian Phillips This is exactly what I was about to write. Sometimes self-sabotage is extremely hard to be seen and accepted. We don’t know the dynamics but our theory might be right.

[@ahoneekesong9004]

I think it was your gut feelings talking to you. Your intuition. I felt this too. I thought It was just anxeity as it was my first relationship. Mine turned out true as well

[@tonileolion9702]

@@ahoneekesong9004 right sometimes it’s ur gut but ur anxiety hightens all of that and it’s possible that ur gut feeling was exactly what was going on . Smh 🤦🏽‍♀️ Its hard

[@lucashills3488]

Listening to this video is making me cry because it describes my situation almost completely and I feel so bad. I love her so much 💔 I really hope I can figure this anxiety thing out…..

[@katsukibakugou4107]

This video is just what I wanted to see. I'm not in a relationship but thinking of having a partner makes me panic and anxious. It's not that I'm insecure about myself....I'm just scared of being in a desperate situation. Like insurance, health and being heartbroken

[@Yoonalovee]

A great exercise that I got from another video about having anxious preoccupied attachment Style was to take a notebook and on one side right the thought that my anxiety gave me and then on the other side of the sheet of paper write the reality or the potential reality of the situation

[@kritichaplot5025]

"What's up" "Nothing" was 90 percent of my conversation with my ex.. didn't realize I had really pushed him away

[@xavierferguson9607]

My gosh, I’m terrified at how accurate this is. Thank you so much. Ima talk to my therapist about this.

[@shaquillewilson1479]

Honestly, all of these things are relevant to me. I'm stubborn and kinda optimistic though, I'm gonna do all I can despite the fact that everything could fall in the end. It will be worthwhile no matter what. I doubt myself all the time, but I can't deny the evidence, I love that guy 💞

[@littlemary434]

I'm rather scared of being in a relationship and I'm questioning my own feelings all the time, because I don't wanna hurt someone Help please...

[@saskiache4774]

Me too! I’ve had this for years, it gets better. Psychology helped me heaps. Good luck to you ♥️

[@littlemary434]

@@saskiache4774 Is there something that helped you and could help me too?

[@Busyreadinggg]

Omgggg, i question my feelings all the time!!

[@09anushkavishnoi22]

Same is something helped uhh @littlemary434

[@09anushkavishnoi22]

Same is something helped uhh??

[@karirodriguez4017]

This came exactly when I needed, luckily my boyfriend is really supportive and understanding and I can be open about my anxiety, and work on it. Thank you for this video. 🥰

[@chammyaeminthu8848]

I'm literally crying. Can't say no more than that I'm weak with words but all the signs r related to me and it makes me sad even more. Thanks for sharing this video. I hope in the near future I could be happy with a healthy mind.

[@Meadorscaleb22]

I always feel like if I were to mess up, she would just leave me a find someone better, turns out I clearly have this, thanks so much, I needed this

[@redjmonster498]

I’m so glad my counselor told me I might have this, I have experienced every sign and it’s been tough to deal with it and hide the fact that I do have this. Thank you so much for this I video!!! Just want to say I’m not in a relationship but I fall for people easily and this’ll be what I’ll feel most of the time, I’m glad that I took precautions when it comes to love because if I went full throttle a lot it would’ve been bad lmao

[@chicoravelli]

Psych2Go, every time i'm dealing with something in my life, there is always a video about my issue on my feed when i wake up. These videos have helped me so much and i hope you all continue to make insightful videos like these

[@typup8888]

I literally just got off the phone with my boyfriend and he told me there is nothing to worry about and told me to stop apologizing for something I didn’t do. I can relate to everything in this video. After talking to him and watching this video made my day. Though it’s long distance because he’s in the navy im trying my best to not let my anxiety get to me.

[@HappyWeightAoife]

Her voice is the BEST! I feel less anxious just listening to it

[@danamesseguer8917]

What I'm trying to do since I decided that I won't allow this fear of hurts to ruin my relationship any further was to prioritize being present, so I'm more able to enjoy every possible moment and mostly to handle my triggers, by realizing where they come from, how hard and how often they hit me, which is still pretty often. Then what I try to do with the identified trigger is to overpower it by questioning it or by measuring my desire for things to work out as best as possible vs allowing the fear to keep me on submission.. somehow a bit tiring every now and then. Something else I've been trying too is to share with my boyfriend how I feel about some things with a bit of background about it, most times only after I evaluated it's logic by my own devices or with help of my bff so things can go as smooth as possible.

[@wonderllama3584]

I did the same, it made so much sense when I realized what the core of my trigger was. I realize that i might be struggling with gad. In two weeks I’m going to my first therapy session . I’m ready to work with myself.

[@jessicahymow1410]

This isn't just limited to romantic relationships. I'm constantly worried that my friends only like an idea of me at first and one day will realize who I am and hate me, or some of them have realized who I am and just stick around because they feel sorry for me because of things that happened in life. I never believe that anyone could like me for me like there's something fundamentally wrong with and I can't change it. I constantly feel like I have to put on this mask in order to have any friends.

[@mystic3080]

Thanks you so much this really made my night. I can relate to all these signs especially the “dependent on your partner” because I do look at my phone every 5 minutes to see if they text back and I do get jealous and get upset when they hang out with other people. She always constantly shows that she loves me but I question myself in my head if she really does love me I feel like I’m being selfish and not being a good enough boyfriend though I did nothing wrong. We haven’t had any serious conflicts or arguments yet which I love.

[@Cups-]

I was literally crying while watching this because every thing they said is everything that I do

[@Booga04]

I get stressed out just thinking about being around people... 😅

[@swatisaini6447]

Same here

[@Psych2go]

I see! :( How come?

[@Booga04]

@@Psych2go sorry I never replied! I feel this way from some bad past experiences.

[@mvr5110]

@@Booga04 same here.i feel like pouring out them all to someone.

[@afatcat6743]

wait i’m sitting here in awe. you guys are some psychics 😭😭

[@mlgarry8036]

I resonate too much with this video, except afraid of things getting too serious. I want to go through all the stages. I just hope this break thing works out for us which I have faith in

[@lgjgamer1396]

I relate to most of these so much. I can't help but to tear up about my current relationship with someone I know. We did share ups and downs, but I still can't bear to loose her. Whenever I'm on social media and I see her account, I can't help but to think whether I should talk to her or leave her be. It honestly hurts so much because I really care for her, I don't know what to do

[@AnnikasASMR]

1. You’re insecure about your relationship 1:05 2. You doubt your partner’s feelings for you 1:35 3. You’re overly dependent on your partner 2:10 4. You want to please your partner too much 2:40 5. You over analyze your relationship 3:20 6. You beat yourself up over everything 3:48 7. You’re afraid that things will get too serious 4:18 8. You’re waiting for something to go wrong 5:00

[@Kssav]

Bruh they put work into this.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for putting this together! Did we miss any?

[@AnnikasASMR]

Psych2Go no problem! I love being able to see bullet points and time stamps to remember and go back and look. I don’t think you missed anything, I enjoyed the video and found it helpful 😊😊😊

[@larrywilliams3448]

Hey annika am larry

[@larrywilliams3448]

We could get to know each other 😂🤣

[@komaedakat1583]

i really needed this video. Relationship anxiety has been weighing me down for a few months now, but i didn't know what it was called. Finally, i find some sort of information that i can relate to. I relate to all of these signs. Can you give any tips on how to fix this form of anxiety?

[@bbproductions8975]

This helped me so much, I was waiting for my gf to message me back but I was anxious because I didn’t know if she doesn’t like me or just didn’t have her phone on her! Thank you for helping me

[@_blurryf4ce]

I've felling fear of how so accurate is this

[@alexjcroft]

I had my heart completely ripped in two last Christmas and am still nowhere near being over it eight months later. Watching this video has made me realise that I’ll probably now have relationship anxiety for the rest of my life.

[@MyDirtyDoll]

I struggled in my marriage recently, I became insecure, worried, overthinking... and after watching this video where almost every point is relatable... I know what is wrong with me :) I know there is nothing wrong with my husband and our relationship :) Thank you Psych2Go~~

[@FlamingCockatiel]

How are you doing now?

[@MyDirtyDoll]

@@FlamingCockatiel wow I totally forgot about this video and my comment 😵‍💫 it’s surreal that you asked that question right now because we are facing some problems. But this time I feel like it’s my husband’s job to work on himself. There is a lot of unheralded trauma and childhood issues that make him do and feel certain things. Keep your fingers crossed ;)

[@WorriorXD]

THIS IS/WAS ME! I PROBABLY STILL LIKE THIS BUT RN I'M ACHUALLY REALLY GOOD!!!

[@christopherbodwell5541]

Thank you I actually really appreciate this

[@possiblyvi]

AYYY, I can always recognize Naphia’s style! Glad to see their work more, super cute 🥺💕

[@just._.chara_]

I honesly have problems with anxiety for a long time.... but nobody believes me I guess

[@DariusFlynt_2012]

It's... not the fact that they don't believe you. They just don't know how to help you with that.

[@Ihaunter]

Wanna talk about it?

[@damianussy4366]

I'm now 16 and i know that i am anxious since i was 8 years old, and i got used to it , not having friends , hating to talk

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing! Which sign did you relate to the most?

[@just._.chara_]

@@Psych2go Honesly 1 and 5.... But this video isn't the only one I can relate in some way. I mean for example about this video, even though it's meant to be for relationship with parter, I can relate for the poins even just about my friends. (Since I never had and never will have parter) I also relate to most of your videos about anxiety, and even thought I wasn't diagnosed or anything, it's weird that I can relate to that much things but everyone around me are saying I'm ok.

[@kaibali7842]

I struggle with 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and 8. My relationship with my girlfriend is good right now and I love her. We have been dating for about a year and a half. We are currently long distant, but the distance has made my relationship anxiety worsen. I now fear that my relationship anxiety is sabatoging my relationship. She has dealt with my jealousy, over thinking, codependency, and my insecurities. My father abandoned me as an infant, so that explains my fear of abondonment. I want to stay with her and fix my anxiety, becuase if I don't fix it then I'll always have it no matter who I'm dating. If you're reading this I would seek a professional for help, becuase I don't know where to start when it comes to fixing it.

[@suchetas]

All of the points resonated with me. I am trying to find a solution to my abandonment issues as I want a happy relationship

[@ebygz4755]

Me: *opens this video* Me: *realizes this is meant for people who had at least 1 relationship* Me: *leaves*

[@leowang4454]

Sebastian Gonzalez can also be friendship anxiety i guess

[@RosheenQuynh]

@@leowang4454 Probably true

[@Yoonalovee]

Ive never been in one and everyone i date and we get kinda close i do these self sabotaging things. Im learning to heal from it

[@oreothestepswitcher]

tf is a relationship

[@ebygz4755]

@@Yoonalovee you date🙄

[@Cookiethekitty-xl7cz]

these signs kinda sound like how i am. is there any way to avoid or get rid of relationship anxiety??

[@SkyletStar]

Gud question

[@agr0nianTV]

Be confident in yourself and get to know the other person. Are they emotional and will break down if you give them the hard truth, maybe you should hold back some topics like I'm sure most people don't want to know your kinks ect. Just things like that. Tell them to be honest with you if something you say really bugs them they should let you know and vice versa this will close out doubts. If someone doesn't get back to you quickly maybe they were just busy that day *or* some people need space if you constantly hound someone they will get annoyed even your best friend a day break will suffice for most if you normally talk daily. Hopefully that helps 😄

[@Cookiethekitty-xl7cz]

@@agr0nianTV yea it helped thank you

[@leowang4454]

Think positive, don't overthink, always make the initiative, argue with your partner/friend when you disagree... that's what I'm telling myself when I'm with my friends

[@craftpaint1644]

Fights happen, people think differently. A proper fight is a bonding experience because things unsaid or assumed get cleared up. Never slide along in silent irritation, telling yourself that you're "dealing" with it, because you're not dealing with it best if they don't know you well enough to know what's irritating you.

[@animazonechannel]

This video made me cry because I can relate to most of these signs. I recently got broken up with my boyfriend due to my anxiety. Ive made a lot of mistakes in this reationship out of fear of losing him, when actualy I was only pushing him away. Im heartbroken now.

[@amymassey8082]

No- thank you for being there for me your the only reason I’m still alive today.🥺 you saved me, I had no one to help me understand what was happening

[@cookieplatez8212]

These are all the reasons why my last relationship ended..

[@violetaroggenbauch157]

Same :(

[@Psych2go]

Which reason did you relate to the most?

[@cookieplatez8212]

@@Psych2go I beat myself up over everything.. I know I'm too hard on myself, but I failed her too much..

[@Momoiro0]

same here... it was five years ago

[@Evanxbdlt]

Me who have a crush but scared to confess: depression noises

[@Linda-]

having a crush is the worst, i just try to distance myself as soon as i can and try not to think about them cause i know that it wont work (for many reasons) anyways

[@senroillust4114]

@@Linda- Me too, good thing i already separated school from my crush. I avoided him by being mad at him, cus he has a girlfriend.

[@user-ld1lg4dz2o]

@Linda IKR like literally couple weeks ago I thought I was developing a crush (luckily i didnt) and I was terrified cos having a crush is literally the worst for me

[@Linda-]

@@user-ld1lg4dz2o the only thing i ever did with a crush of mine was help her get together with another friend of me - both of them broke contact to me once they were together..

[@trevonpernell0814]

@@Linda- Sorry to hear that.

[@myahthomas9575]

Does anybody else fear losing feelings for their partner? But know deep down that you truly love them and would never lose feelings for them.

[@filippavinkel4752]

Yes! I’m struggling with this so badly at the moment. You’re the first person I’ve seen who’s mentioned this. Makes me feel less alone

[@antoinelyons5323]

I know the feeling

[@wildewildestrawberries]

Shared. Thank you.

[@Lisey_Ann]

This definitely happens and gets blown out of proportion especially if you're in a long distance relationship. I'm in one and often times me and my partner would resolve conflict over text. That usually was bad because sometimes I couldn't tell if I was just having relationship anxiety or something was actually wrong between us. I can't stress this enough: video call or voice call always, come to a resolution for each conflict that arises, even if it feels petty or takes a while to sort through, and REMEMBER your solutions to those conflicts. Seriously write them down, I've done that and finally things are sticking. Also don't wait to tell your partner if you feel something is wrong. Often times the reassurance helps anyways unless you're constantly asking them if something is wrong like 3 times a day (then that sounds like unresolved codependency). I find that so many relationships these days are fragile. Or people enter one and can't tell if their partner is abusive or want to leave it because they recognize that, then when they do, enter another relationship and then anxiety strangles them as they think it will turn out bad like the ones prior. I've found that using self help books is a must.

[@geologandocomgab1474]

I can relate to most of these characteristics... I'm really insecure about my relationships and I have the constant feeling they're about to leave me or it's just a matter of time until they replace me by someone else. I deeply believe it is connected to my father's abandonment during my childhood. Although I have a stepdad has been years, which I consider my real father, the scars from my childhood apparently remain in a strong feeling of abandonment. Now I'm dating someone really nice, that means a lot to me and I don't want my anxiety to be a problem. What I've been doing is: 1- when something upsets me I think if it is really important or if I can let go; if I can't, I tell my partner right away so we can solve it out. 2- try not to overthink things, it's ok they're out of my control; 3- try to think in my partners position and feelings; 4- try to remember that they do love me and there's no reason to think otherwise, we must give people a vote of trust; 5- try to chill and practice my solitude, giving also space to my partner to be on his own; 6- try to remember that everything will be ok. Be honest with your partner about your issues and that will help them to understand your feelings and concerns. Don't forget that they have feelings and fears as well. Don't be afraid to stand up for your beliefs and what you think is right, cause people with relationship anxiety constantly have abusive relations. If you find yourself in one, get out. You will find someone nicer - maybe right now thats you and you should have your own time. And remember: the sun will shine again, it will rain again and as the dire straits song says: why worry now? It will be ok

[@rojosurtv]

This was life saving. Described almost all I am thinking

[@sistabrowneyes1213]

This was extremely helpful to me. Thank you.

[@rheanasmith9011]

im sorry if you're seeing this again, i just really want this to be seen :) psych2go, can you make a video on mirror touch synesthesia? i just found the name for it and i've had it for years. it's when someone feels pain or a touch when they see someone else in pain/being touched. i just want awareness for this condition as it's a bit rare. love your videos :)

[@damianussy4366]

Omg , that's what i have , when i see , for example , someone that hits his finger toe to the edge of the table i feel the same pain like i hit it

[@hajerabbadi4293]

I’ve seen an episode about that on Chicago Med, you should check it out!

[@lesvinalcaraz7839]

this makes me feel human to know there is others out there like me. lol love you all!

[@jessicastuckey3271]

You've just said everything i feel