Answering YOUR Questions About Our Relationship! 😅 | Feli from Germany

[@lesliesheppard6112]

Every woman should find a partner who looks at them the way Ben looks at you. Seriously, you two are so sweet together. I hope you get to travel to all the places you want to go. Just be sure to make some content while your there for those of us who can’t currently travel.

[@limericklad2000]

Agreed you should totally be travel vloggers.

[@nameless130]

@@JohnDoe-zo8wjwhat

[@nameless130]

@@JohnDoe-zo8wj Clearly not only boys if he's attracted to Feli

[@gdp3rd]

I once met a couple who were Belgian (her) and Russian (him) -- they spoke French with each other, English at work, and their kid's daycare person spoke Spanish. The kiddo seemed totally comfortable "code switching" -- I was really impressed.

[@lelandunruh7896]

I'm American and my wife is Swiss. We just had our second child. My wife speaks to the kids in Swiss German and Spanish and I speak to the kids in English and Spanish. We plan to teach them French and Standard German when they enter school, and Standard Arabic a bit later. We'll see how it goes!

[@gdp3rd]

@@JohnDoe-zo8wj ?? code-switching: the practice of alternating between two or more languages or varieties of language in conversation.

[@gdp3rd]

@@JohnDoe-zo8wj, the OED, the source of the definition I quoted, would disagree. The term may have accrued further meanings, but that is the one I have known for decades. Language does evolve, but there is no need to be pissy about it.

[@michaelhemsley1470]

​@@lelandunruh7896All the absolute best to you, your wife and children! I thank you!!

[@lelandunruh7896]

@@michaelhemsley1470 Thanks very much! We just had our third child, so life is crazy and fun around here!

[@jamesvandemark2086]

You two are happy! Take joy in each other's company. Nothing else matters.........

[@jamesvandemark2086]

Bitte schon!

[@alexs3447]

@@jamesvandemark2086 Just bored following this young romance and all their ups and downs . Sorry must just be too old for this mumbo jumbo

[@Maicowerk]

So close, no matter how far

[@kape2469]

@@alexs3447 This couple is so amazing! A woman that is so well aware of her culture of origin while looking at the World with an open minded and intelligent attitude and a man who knows how to value that. That's very rare in this superficial World. Rather take a good look at this couple! Greetings from Western Europe! 🤗

[@vb9950]

​@@kape2469 nice point! but how do you know if their love is deep especially in Western countries where divorces happen like 50% of the time ? This is normal white attractive people who got little thing going on between them, who they call as love. seriously in Germany where I am now (an Indian), divorces are extremely common here. people look extremely good, beautiful eyes, physique etc still get divorced. I sometimes laugh, India poeple don't really care about looks but still be lifelong , even if it depressing for us. what a world we live in..

[@sobelou]

You two make an incredibly cute and heartwarming couple, all the best!

[@TheJuggernaut88]

I like Ben's enthusiasm for living in Germany, but itll be a huge commitment on his part and i feel for him in that respect. All the issues of moving to a foreign country Feli has already overcome, so that will be growing pains that Feli will need to assist Ben with in the future.

[@RileyWell]

As an American who is learning a foreign language and moving aboard soon, I feel like I relate a lot to Ben, and I'm excited to see more of his experiences learning German and moving to Germany in the future!!

[@jalabi99]

@Riley Weller congrats on your move! Can you share what language you are trying to learn?

[@warrior100girl]

Hey, you should check out the channel easy German. It teaches you German, German customs, German grammar. Everything has subtitles and the videos have transcript.

[@PhillipGlentzer-yc8xm]

please leave me alone

[@ole7236]

Ben is a really nice guy. I'm glad that you've found each other, you seem to match very well and I wish you all the best for your relationship.

[@jennyhammond9261]

We most definitely need 24 hours in German! Ben seems like a great catch. So happy for you!

[@irenejagielski5959]

You two seem so good together and for each other....I hope the best for you both.

[@carlspeicher5394]

When I started watching Feli, she had a heavy German accent when she spoke English. It is interesting she now has an American accent when speaking English. Very lovely couple!

[@Resident_Legal]

She still sounds like a foreigner.

[@Anton-j8b]

@@Resident_Legal Really, what gives it away? She sounds very American to me.

[@Resident_Legal]

@@Anton-j8b The way she pronounces certain words. She also tries too hard to sound American. The key is not to try too hard.

[@DavidOatney]

I think it is incredibly kind of both of you to share what I would consider to be rather intimate details of your relationship, but I also would second what Ben says that Feli really does come across as very much herself when she is in front of the camera. If she leaves me the impression that she would be an interesting person to meet one day. I think it says quite a lot that Ben discovered that the Feli that he found on KZbin was very much the person he went out on a date with. That says a lot about Feli. I think it's wonderful that Ben is not only willing to live in Germany but that he wants to do so, and when you have that kind of multilingual multicultural relationship I believe that you just have to consider that. Wherever you go, don't lose the Kentucky. That's you brother. It would be like Feli losing the München. Carry it with you and your children will always have the best of both.

[@mikezimmermann89]

My wife and I have good German friends whom we met while vacationing Hawaii. They really enjoy traveling (and especially visiting the US) and both speak English pretty well. What I find fascinating about their language usage is how immersed in English they become when they visit here. She is more comfortable with English than he is; but, when in the US, it’s only English for both of them… even to the point that they “discuss” (read: argue in private) grocery purchases in the supermarket in English while they’re here!

[@--julian_]

they look so good together! like they were meant for each other!

[@madinha1]

I am Brazilian married to an American. It is some work to mesh both cultures, but so much fun too. I agree we are always missing family and friends, but we make up for it and make sure the time spent together is worth it. Great video Feli!

[@JasonTaylor-po5xc]

That's one lucky dude. She has amazing eyes, lovely smile and a radiant personality. Any guy able to win her affection must be special. I hope you two are still going strong, I assume you make sure things were stable before introducing him to your followers. I was 27 when I married someone outside my culture (she was 30) - from the Philippines. Life has been a grand adventure with her, now going on 20 years with 3 kids. It amazes me every time I think about that she moved to the other side of the world to be with me, leaving behind a very large family and network of friends. Thankfully, digital technology (Internet) has made it easier for her to stay connected back home.

[@JasonTaylor-po5xc]

@@JohnDoe-zo8wj I have watched several of her videos. She seems nice enough although I don’t know her personally, she doesn’t come across as high maintenance to me.

[@Winona493]

What does it all have to do with "high maintenance" or do I understand sth wrong???

[@mdkram]

From my own experiences of parents who have different mother tongues is that they each speak with their kids in their own mother tongue from when the kids were born and the kids will grow up fluent in both languages. Good luck, guys!

[@SIMPERISMO]

I like listening to you both very much. It helps me learn English and understand English better. Love from Germany 🖤❤️💛

[@MartinCT84]

Same here, love from France 💙🤍❤

[@JuttaandWolly]

True, probably because Felix's English is really good.

[@susannabonke8552]

For the kids it happens naturally. Lucky ones!

[@MeLostInArt]

Ihr seid zwei super sympathisch junge Menschen. Es macht Freude euch zu sehen und zu hören! Ich wünsche euch ein erfülltes Leben, Kraft für das Meistern von Schwierigkeiten und immer genügend Optimismus für Neues.

[@yugefish]

Feli is uniquely sure of herself. Makes her a fun person to listen to.

[@alb91878]

Absolutely loved this video! I love the fact that both of you are so open to each other's cultures but I especially love the fact that Ben is so open and even excited about moving to your country to learn the language and the culture! I just don't see that very often for many people in my personal life so to be able to see that from other people that are American it's really refreshing and it gets me excited! I lived in Germany for a few years in my childhood I think from ages 2 or 3 until 5 or 6 and then again from Age 9 through almost 13 and Germany has my heart! Most of my happiest childhood memories took place in Germany and one day before I kicked the bucket I'm going back! I just feel like a huge part of me has been missing for the last 34 years and I know it's in Germany! I can tell you this Ben you will not regret it! There is nothing better than living abroad and getting to see life through other people's eyes and other people's cultures! It also gives you a completely different perspective on your own culture and on your own country!It will give you an appreciation for your own country but it also gives you a huge appreciation for other countries! I really cannot wait until you guys travel so I can hear what each of you think! Particularly Ben since hes not lived abroad before. Lol.

[@daveschmarder-1950]

I started learning German about 45 years ago by listening to the Deutsche Welle on shortwave radio. I went over and visited some people and did fairly well. I now watch Tagesschau and ZDF Heute Show via YT.

[@eat.food.not.friends]

Tagesschau is the propaganda instrument in Germany. Don't believe everything they say!

[@vidarv.9010]

Es gibt auch die 3Sat app! Emphele ich 👍

[@Podderich]

my wife and I use 3 languages. I'm German, She's Peruvian, so we use English as we both know it well, spanish when i miss an english word but know it in her language and german which she is learning at the moment. in the beginning we only wrote and talked in english. but since she is learning german, it is SO WEIRD to speak german to her. it doesn't sound like my normal german and not like my english to her. it really is hard to suddenly change languages with someone you communicate daily with in another language x.x but that VLOG would be awesome :D

[@AlexM-WI]

Yeah, same here. English established itself over many years as the "relationship language" with my gf/wife. Speaking anything else is weird/awkward

[@stevecagle2317]

Such a fun video to watch! You two look so happy together and you're so synched in to each other 🥰 I love that travel is so important to Ben and both of you want to experience different cultures. I've always loved Mark Twain's quote, "Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry and narrow-mindedness."☺️

[@rebeccasimantov5476]

I also love that quote...

[@ilovepotatoesforever9818]

You both are the story of my parents in the 1970s. He needs total German immersion and quick. Your children will be fluent in both languages and he will be an outsider if he is not fluent before them.

[@craignewell8080]

Not a problem, my German wife spoke in German to our daughter from birth. My daughter is now fluent in German and my German is still bad (I work too much to spend time on it). But I get by fine when we are in Germany and I am very happy that my daughter knows the language so that she can speak with her relatives when we visit (and translate for dad).

[@edithputhy4948]

only if they raise their children in Germany, if they raise them in America it will be difficult to bring them up with fluent German skills while they're immersed in an English speaking country and only one German speaking parent. I grew up in Germany in an immigrant household and quickly lost command of my mother tongue once I started speaking German all the time despite having two foreign parents.

[@NoctLightCloud]

​@@edithputhy4948that's on you then. I don't know a single immigrant kid here in Austria who doesn't know their mother tongue. Especially if BOTH parents don't speak German, how do you communicate at home?😂

[@edithputhy4948]

@@NoctLightCloud I used to be much better as a little child who didn't speak German but I lost it once I joined kindergarten and switched to German only. We do have a language barrier bc my parents don't fully speak German and I don't fully speak our mother tongue so we don't understand each other 100%. Most of the time I speak German or a mix of both languages and my parents speak their native language.

[@stan1027]

There was a guy I worked with at Walmart who knew just about as much German as I do, which is not very much. But we still had fun speaking German to each other, what little we knew, like numbers and common stuff (and some insults too!)

[@irishpatti3152]

My Dad's from Ireland and we grew up corresponding with our many, many cousins via letters. This was all pre-internet. But, I consider ourselves very lucky in the sense that we have been able to visit and live in their homes and vice-versa. The world is changing quickly and my Dad is 81 year old, youngest of 11. There were always great stories to be told and we grew up listening to the music, etc. I am grateful for so much ☘️

[@suzkstein]

Soooo cool! I've known many people who have moved from Europe and speak with almost no accent in English, like Feli. I don't know ANY hillbillies who are as articulate and motivated as Ben. He seems so smart and eager for new experiences and change. I love that! Best to you both!

[@richdietrich5167]

I agree and it is good to see this eagerness. I was very much like this some time ago. It is very refreshing to see the desire to acclimate to other ways of life 😊

[@rgw4393]

Omg the way you two look at each other is heart melting, super sweet and cute to see ❤️ 😊

[@em4steam896]

I have friends who speak Swiss German and it doesn't bother me when I'm at their house and hear them talking especially to their children. I took German for 2 years in high school and know a little German. Sometimes I would say to their kids "Was ist das?" Just to see the kids reaction. The first time I said it the kids just laughed. A 24 hour all German would be a great video!

[@arroe8386]

Try "Wa isch da?" next time 😉

[@muhest]

The very best way of learning a foreign language, is to just jump into it and speak it. Without worrying about grammatical errors, wrong pronounciations and also encourage people to correct you when you make mistakes. A truly great way is to geta job in a daycare. Because children are learning their language themselves, your own learning curve will experience a serious boost. Children also has the capacity of correcting you without belittleing you. No hidden agendas or ridiculing you, which often seems to be the goal among adults. (Just think about the first words people usually try to teach you, are vulgar, dirty or to make fun of you.) That is basically non existant among children.

[@wynnsimpson]

As a Kentucky boy I now understand why she is so into you! You make a cute couple! May the winds of coupledom bless you with good fortune.

[@pfalzgraf7527]

It is interesting to hear about your switching between languages, Feli. I had this weird thing when I switched between countries (in my case England and Germany) that at times my impression was I could feel the new synapses building up in my brain. When I started studying English at a German university, that became even weirder: 90 minutes of a seminar or lecture in English, then getting out of class and talking German with others, going to the library, doing work in English, asking the librarian for help in German, going to the next class which was in English and then going home, perhaps partying in German again, but there was this friend who had some foreigner staying with them, so we spoke partly in English again ... Having had this for a few years, i think it is the basis for my effortless settling into working as a translator: Working on easier texts, it is almost as if I copy them, just into the other language.

[@michellem9444]

The discussion about what language you think in reminded me of a foreign exchange student who came to my high school years ago. He was from Spain, but was VERY fluent in English. Well, one day he had a total meltdown/panic attack because he had started thinking in English. He was SO worried that he had somehow forgotten Spanish! It took a few of us to talk to him in Spanish before he calmed down and realized that he hadn't forgotten anything!

[@CloD44]

So true , specially if you talk more English , watch tv in English and have more speaking English friends .. it happened to me 😅.

[@jhi3337]

My ex wife who's German, will talk to me in English, and I'll talk to her in German. It really throws people off sometimes. 🙂

[@FelifromGermany]

Hahaha I love that!

[@richs6205]

You both are so good together. Is it just me or does Ben just light-up the room when he talks and smiles?

[@CloD44]

After 7-10 years living in in the USA you start thinking and dreaming in English . Now 29 years later I mix my thoughts in English and Spanish , sometimes I have to think twice if I’m speaking Spanish to someone because it comes natural in English first then Spanish . Great videos and you made me a subscriber ! keep up the great work 👏👏✌️🔥🔥

[@paulharrison8379]

Feli should speak 100% German so that Ben has 100% German immersion. Ben should also watch German news programs on the internet. I have a friend who is fluent in 13 languages here in the UK. He spends no time consuming English media. Instead he for example learned German by becoming a Bayern Munich supporter, watching German Satellite TV programs and sometimes attending a German Lutheran Church. He learned Polish by joining a Polish club and playing in a Polish folk band. He is married to a Brazilian girl student who liked him because he spoke Portuguese.

[@WildWillieWiccan]

I agree. Ben should watch movies in German (maybe with English subtitles, but only if absolutely necessary. Subtitles distract people's attention away from the German spoken dialog & actually block learning since they become a crutch.) or with German subtitles if German audio is not available. Hearing the German dubbed English movies that Ben has already seen with English audio will help also. Knowing the English dialog already will allow the German dialog to slide into his brain easier. With practice he can figure out what the actors are saying when watching German dialog movies (without using subtitles) that are new to him. His brain will start inserting the German meanings connected to each word automatically, and his German passive vocabulary will increase faster and faster until he has no need for translations. Use movies that you can pause so that you can answer his questions without missing the subsequent dialog. With one movie per day his German comprehension will improve rapidly and (relatively) painlessly. He may need to take a formal German course to learn genders, plus accusative, dative, & genitive grammar rules, word order, etc. (Start here: en.easy-deutsch.de/tenses/#:~:text=There%20are%206%20tenses%20in,or%20%22He%20was%20talking.%22 plus the German government website for learning German ). You can help him a lot with the grammar rules, just don't make " Feli " a nasty 4 letter word. There are some things easier taught by someone who is not close to you. German & How to Drive a Car are two of them. I wish both of you the best of everything in your futures.

[@tomriley5790]

@@WildWillieWiccan yep dubbed movies are a great way to learn.

[@JuttaandWolly]

I so agree - take the time to watch the movie (dubbing of US series in Germany is not so good) in English and then in German. (subtitles : first in English and later in German because reading and hearing are two subjects). In a few years you can watch Tatort (if you desire) or whatever without subtitles. The internet is a great teacher.

[@serpentines6356]

Yep. Some people have a great gift with language. My brother was a scholar in ancient history, so knew how to write Cuneiform, knew Arabic, Hebrew, Ugarit, Urdu, Spanish, some French, German, etc.

[@Archioptimik]

Kann Ben überhaupt schlechte Laune haben. Er wirkt immer so sunny open minded. 😊 Thank you for this video.

[@scoooter78]

Don't feel too guilty Ben. My wife is Chinese and it took me sooooo long to be able to pronounce her name properly (it's full of sounds not used in English). Then when we got married she went and changed her whole name (not just her Surname) into her adopted English name.

[@pendragon2012]

You two are so cute together! Love it! And he's such a good sport--it would be awesome to see Ben trying to understand Feli in German for 24 hours! :-)

[@kellywhite6328]

What a beautiful couple. I just found your channel and it's interesting watching and learning about Germany. I want to vacation there someday. Love your channel.

[@CreatorInTrng]

It can be a struggle - US or Germany, Germany or the US. I know. I live it. I am from the US, my wife is from Germany (kind of like you guys). We met in California. I was working; she was there on an extended visa. She was offering German tutoring and I wanted to brush up on my school German before taking a trip to Germany. So, I fell in love with the teacher and we married in California. After a couple of years of back and forth (mostly her) and Green Card drama we discussed my moving to Germany - also, for 'a while', ' a couple of years', 'we could go back and forth,', etc. I was able work/career-wise to make the move and 27 years later we're still in Germany. I'm not one of those who gets languages easily. I work at it even today. BTW, I'm in München and love it.

[@Sigaricus]

Great video. I’m originally from England and live over here (in the USA) now. It was interesting to watch your cultural differences video! Ben seems like a decent chap - lovely couple!

[@thatguy8869]

For me the most difficult thing about mastering a new language is listening and understanding. The other three are very close but I'd say reading is the easiest, then writing, then speaking.

[@sigmaputin6888]

Germany is a beautiful country 🇬🇧❤️ 🇩🇪

[@louiesfrauchen874]

Great Britain too ❤️

[@Nico_83]

@@louiesfrauchen874 Lampukistan too.

[@meganluck4352]

So happy you two found each other and like t see both of you on these videos. It would be wonderful to watch you two make memories together and so many blessings to you for a wonderful future.

[@rosemaryrodeghiero9721]

I'm a lifelong Southern California resident from German parents and have always been proud of my mixed culture/background. When I had my twins in 2005, I decided to homeschool (and option that unfortunately is NOT available in Germany), and it allowed us to travel extensively (33 states and Europe to visit family in Bayern, but elsewhere as well, and Canada). They are now 17 and will be spending their senior year studying abroad, one in Japan and the other in Berlin. I feel that having been able to travel so much when they were younger definitely played a huge role in their study abroad decision. Good luck to both of you🐞❤🐞❤.🐞. Wishing you much success in your future!

[@avoicetocount]

You're a beautiful couple, both very likeable people, and respectful towards one another. Wishing you all the best for your relationship.

[@joelupinacci9900]

You both make what I would call a good and mature couple. Mature probably beyond your years and with great support. I'm a white man in my 60's with a wife many years younger, African American and three monumentally wonderful children. Each of us have great specialties and flavors to bring. I'm personally happy for you! Be well, and keep the smiles and humor always. I love your story.

[@garysenn1115]

It blows my mind that You 2 met on a dating app! 🤯 I met my (now ex-wife) at a Laundromat where she was working! And I was head over heels for her. We are each other's Greatest Friend now, She's the Greatest woman I've ever known. You guys are SO AMAZING together!

[@FlyngSnoopy]

You two look so happy together! Yes to the VLOG please!

[@davesaunders7080]

Speak only German to Ben for a day. Deana and Phil have done that and it's fun to watch. Thanks for the snapshot about your start, was interesting to see how you met.

[@tessaloazer5889]

I'm an American living in Germany, I met the German guy I'm dating on Hinge so I guess it is available in Berlin at least! Looking forward to more videos with y'all :)

[@gix9461]

I really loved how articulate you are with your answers! I'm so glad it wasn't a speed round. You are an interesting couple and your chemistry makes the watching really entertaining (I like that you speak with each other and not only with the public, I mean this was a whole conversation, it gives a cozy and comfortable feeling). And please do the 24h german challenge, it's been done plenty of times but the reason it's that it works! Can't wait to see how you do! Good luck for everything!

[@royfloyd7431]

Love your channel, Feki. My story, Im an American growing up in California, but unfamiliar with Spanish or the Mexican culture til my college years when I learned Spanish and married a lovely Mexican lady who spoke no English at that time. Were now 30 years into an intense linguistic-cultural immersion and going strong. My definition of fluency in when you can argue in your 2nd language and occasionally win. The long road indeed. John, near Manzanillo

[@JohnnyCBCS]

English and German are much more closely related than many realize, which is why Feli has already been speaking perfect English for a while now and Ben has no problem picking up words and expressions even as a total beginner in German.

[@michaelrmurphy2734]

Both are based on Latin, of course.

[@JohnnyCBCS]

@@michaelrmurphy2734 actually, both are Germanic at the core and English has been massively influenced by Latin to the point where it's become hybrid while German has been influenced only to the point where it's still mostly Germanic.

[@Fugazinome]

Completely different grammar.There are some German words akin to English words,but that’s about it.

[@JohnnyCBCS]

@@Fugazinome riiiiight (richtig), "Completely different grammar" 😂😂. That's why older English grammar (Shakespearean to start with and then going further into the past) is pretty much identical to that of Modern Standard German. "There are some German words akin to English words" - virtually 90% of the words in English that are not taken from Latin are akin to their German counterparts. At least read the Wikipedia article on Germanic languages, dude.

[@Fugazinome]

@@JohnnyCBCS Sehr lustig,ich habe gut gelacht.Vielen Dank für die Erleuchtung.

[@Djsolaur]

I am also in an international relationship. USA====>Japan 🇺🇸🇯🇵 I find it fascinating to hear the experience of others in a similar situation.

[@lootcrafter]

For everyone being as curious as me which celeb it might be : I’ve googled celebs from Kentucky and the only celeb around their age, that is huge and from a small town in northern Kentucky is josh hutcherson. I didn’t find the others to match on that list :)

[@lancemannly]

Yeah that was my guess too. I wouldn't call Union Kentucky *directly* between Cincinnati and Lexington but it is south of the former and north of the latter.

[@WiredNow]

Colton Ryan

[@middohio3875]

Maybe Jennifer Lawrence? Indian Hills, KY...

[@michaelzoellner1143]

I have been married 33 years to the best woman I could have ever found. I hope you 2 can have a long relationship. Not saying you have to get married. The 2 of you seem very happy and that is wonderful. Congratulations on each of you finding a soul mate. It is rare indeed.

[@chucklemberg4968]

I don't remember exactly how I got directed to this channel, but I'm glad that I did. The fact that you two were able to find each other gives me renewed hope that there is someone out there for me. I would give anything to find a woman who would look at me the way you look at Ben. Due to another of your videos (the one about what it's like to date a German), I now know that I should be searching for a German woman for myself. I just wonder if I will be able to find one, who is age appropriate, on Hinge.

[@berniej.rucker4252]

Here's an interesting topic to cover, Felicia.: Music. For years there's been German songs and/or German words used in songs without some never being totally explained by either side. How about if YOU break down some of these for us? It will take some exhausting research but I believe we will all enjoy hearing the TRUE translation of the word; words and /or meaning of the song given by a German who leaves NOTHING out of her essays about German culture; dialect; or differences. Here are a few to start you with: "Grusse." ( Used in "Don't Bring Me Down."); "99 Lift Balloons"; and "Ich Hasse Dich."

[@Yamizan]

Watching you two makes me so happy.

[@calvinray5615]

Super adorable couple! Ben seems to have an aptitude for language. Since you brought it up about the possibility of kids in the future I'll just share my observations of international couples I've known where the mother-to-be is west European and the dad American that they usually choose to have their babies here in Europe. The European maternity benefits are generally much more generous ; and maybe not so surprisingly most young mothers prefer to have their own mothers nearby for support. What the family chooses to do after the children have passed the infancy stage is more of a blank page. But don't wait too long to make a decision, because the children will soon be at that impressionable age where they mainly begin to identify as being German or American.

[@richdietrich5167]

I agree that many of us think there is time to travel and whatnot before kids. I understand this desire but now that so many years have passed realize that you should not wait. I have missed opportunities and wish I approached life a little bit differently.

[@MikeJohnson-ld9rn]

I thought that this would not be very interesting, but I was really wrong. Very cool and informative, and as a new sub I was able to find out a lot about you guys and your story. Just remember, making rigid and unyielding plans is usually not a great idea.Your current approach seems to be reasonable and flexible,thus making any unforeseen changes much more likely to be amenable to both of you. Mazel Tov!

[@angelikafischer6508]

Having kids in mixed families sometimes produces funny turns in life. My kids switched between Germany and Australia a few times before they became adults. And now the one born in AUS lives in Germany and the one born in Germany lives in AUS. These young people learn to become very flexible regarding the terms "Heimat" and Heimatland, mothertongue and fathertongue and it is a good thing, that they have the chance, to choose from the better of both countries. I myself am also from (just outside) Munich and met my hubby in Central Africa.

[@kaylalindstedt6887]

Great content! My husband and I move to Germany from the USA last year and we want to stay here forever!

[@slartibartfas0428]

Congrats to having a boyfriend like Ben - you both do most probably match to each other like nobody else - I hope you both still feel the same to each other after all that time of learning to know each other. All my best wishes to you both.

[@DaGeezman]

Wow, you guys seem so good together. I'm happy for both of you and jealous of what you have together.

[@marythompson558]

This is awesome! Many, many immigrants don't have the option of going back, much less with their American partner. I love this. I love the universal aspect of it.

[@saintlybeginnings]

My cousin met her husband on Match (15yrs ago). They’ve been happily married ever since. There really wasn’t any other dating sites at the time (that did some background check), and people tended to be very weirded out since it was so new and other (probably not so professional) services had sketchy history-> especially worried for my cousin on the first date that she would be safe and he wouldn’t be a psycho.. lol. Well, he wasn’t, and he has made my cousin so very happy after a broken marriage.

[@timothygormley1305]

Nice to see that you’re so happy. The cool thing about the US is “boom” you’re now American, but can continue being German too. Welcome, new fellow Yankee.

[@oliversherman2414]

You two are a great couple. Best of luck with your future plans

[@bam111965]

You two seem very happy and just ooze adorableness together.

[@sophiapacione]

This was really heartwarming to watch, best of luck moving forward! :D It's lovely to hear your thoughts on living in different countries. While I'm Canadian, I've never felt particularly close to Canada as a whole, and even from a young age felt much closer to where my nonno is from; Italy. I don't know if I'd ever move to Italy specifically, but I have little doubt that I'll eventually move elsewhere (most likely a European country, I'm done with North America).

[@gillovny1013]

I would like to see a video of you speaking German to Ben for 24 hours. I’m sure that would be hard for both of you, but it sounds like he’s already picking up on the language quite a bit. 😊 Ich liebe Deutsch und spreche beide Sprachen, also würde ich es wirklich genießen. Ich komme aus den USA.

[@JuttaandWolly]

Dito - und ich bin Deutscher (der fließend Englisch spricht)....

[@Indigo_Dragon]

you guys are awesome and amazing! soooo süß! danke sehr für viele interessante Videos! currently I'm learning German as my 4th language and I really like your channel. nice to see your "sunshine-like" personality. subscribed!

[@greg_216]

Learning a language is easier when you're in the country and have a need/desire to speak it. It's hard to overstate how motivating that is. And it's why I think it's silly when Americans express concern about "immigrants coming here and not speaking the language". That might be a thing for very old immigrants, but it's not something that persists past one generation. Because people want to be able to fully interact with each other.

[@johnhanson9283]

You two make a beautiful couple! I like Ben. Feli, I normally wouldn’t say this, but knowing your language perfectionism….it’s proper to say “he & I” instead of “him & I”. The rule that helps me remember it is to drop the “& I”. You wouldn’t say “Him reacted to a reaction video”.

[@ifitsfreeitsforme1852]

I see a small resemblance between you two, which to me signals a long lasting relationship . Best wishes

[@FelifromGermany]

Oh gosh haha are you saying we've already started to look alike like dogs and their owners? 😂

[@theroadnottaken7]

I have loved your channel for awhile and Ben is the best addition! I love watching y'all together!!

[@ulie1960]

While talking with my wife about youre video, I just remembered something else about different ways in different countries: Some years ago my wife and I were in a Square Dance Club here in Germany. Our club also did gigs at events. On a company event, which had an American theme to it, we did some entertaining, and after us dancing we were invited to the bar for drinks. I asked for a beer and got a bottle of Millers. The barmaid gave me the bottle and went of to the next customer. I looked at my bottle and at her back and finally asked about a bottle opener.... she took the bottle and just opend the cap with her hands.... Well again I learned something new. A German bottle of beer can't be opend that way....

[@terrylawler2083]

A bit late but I don't speak anything but Californian English but I worked for Siemens and had a couple of meetings in Germany where all of the European but the meeting was held in English. I was always amazed listening to German Engineers explain things English.

[@bornagainsheep337]

Y’all are a match for real and Geaux Bengals!! 😊 can’t wait for this season to start

[@Mydanceisnow]

The gratitude you both Ave in general is so heartwarming!

[@aaronwhite1786]

Being 35 and in a relationship, I missed out on a lot of the dating-app scene, but I will say, living vicariously through friends doing it was...wild. Some of the people that my friends met and were contacted by were just...insane. I definitely appreciated experiencing it through others, since I just got to enjoy seeing others do it without the frustration. Also, Ben, I hope I broke down in your town! I was driving to Chicago to see visit my German teacher and my car died about 30 minutes south of Florence, KY and spent 3 hours watching trains pass at a Shell gas station while waiting for a tow...

[@SammyG6714]

You two look super happy! Ngl Ben has impeccable drip lol

[@fearnes.5272]

That app really did a great job 😂 my friend went the us shortly before pandemic for her masters and she tried that app, now she’s married for over a year.

[@davidwillis4839]

You guys are cute. Appreciate the thoughtfulness you give each other. My cousin and her Columbian husband have been back and forth with their young daughters, but plan to stay in the USA to school the girls. German schools do provide a great option for you….when that time comes. Currently, I’m researching the Marburg area as a travel home base upon retirement.

[@WildWillieWiccan]

I being an American son of 2 German immigrants: if you live in America it is really important that your children spend time in Germany frequently, like every summer perhaps. Getting to know their cousins well is the only way they will keep up the family ties as adults, assuming that they live primarily in America. And the reverse if you guys live in Germany. If any of your family (in the country that you are not living in) run a business consider having your children work for them during summer as they get older. Working for family bypasses work permits (unless they are dual nationals, which I heartily encourage, no Visa required) but it accustoms/exposes them to a part of life not found when just visiting, and it pays for their airplane flights, plus you can leave them alone for the summer if the rest of the family has other plans. But these are considerations way ahead of where you are now. 😀

[@tomriley5790]

Living in another country that's not your own for a period is something everyone should do, it's such a valuable experience!

[@jerrihadding2534]

When I came to Germany 30 plus years ago, I lived in the country and NO ONE spoke English. I lived in Germany for ten years and spoke only German. In later years, when I had telephone conversations with family or friends in the US, I found myself describing things that I no longer remembered the English word for. “You know that round thing that you throw into a hoop? Oh yeah, basketball.” Honest. That’s how it was for me. Now I have been living in Sweden for over 23 years. Almost always, when I “forget” a Swedish word, my brain takes me directly to the German word. Almost NEVER to the English word. Explain that.

[@WildWillieWiccan]

Happens to most people who learn a 2nd language then a 3rd language. Foreign languages are stored separately in the brain. When a word is unknown the brain defaults to the most recently learned languages before going to the original language. Think of it as one language layered on top of another language. When there is a hole in the top layer you fall through the hole to the next layer. 😃

[@WhoYaGonnaCall]

It's great that you both know what you want. You support each other and want to go on this adventure together. Sounds amazing! 🥰 Hope you'll always take us with you. 😄

[@candicecrystal986]

I’m an American living in Germany 🇺🇸❤️🇩🇪 I moved here one year ago for my now husband and I knew almost no German. The town we live in is in East Germany and not many people can or like to speak English. I would be lying if I said it was easy, but it’s so rewarding. Every day is an adventure (even if it sometimes a stressful one) 😅

[@myvillagelifeintheupperhar607]

I am married to a German, and we lived in the US for most of our relationship. We did not plan to move to Germany, so I never bothered to learn German. Mike speaks fluent English. We made the permanent move to Germany four years ago, and we live in a tiny village in the Upper Harz. I wish I had attempted to learn German while in the US. It has been quite a challenge to learn the language in my fifties, especially since I do not work or interact often with Germans other than my husband. I highly recommend to anyone thinking of moving to Germany, learn German at B1 level minimum. It will be easier to acclimate.

[@rhackenb1]

My wife is German and I am from the US. We were married 55 years ago. We met in a university in the US (she was the girl next house). Her family (more than just her parents) moved to the US in 1956 but still were very German. I picked up German fairly quickly because I am linguistically gifted (speak French and Spanish) I had a lot of interest in learning German. For me it's just a cousin language to English. I had a lot to learn culturally. Still learning it.

[@ralfkunz9610]

Frohe Weihnachten aus dem Ruhrgebiet :-) Both of you you are cool socks ;-) Feli , your videos are really cool cause you appear really natural on screen . You would be a proper Diplomat for both sides . US as well as Germany . You bring the German Cultur closer to the Americains and they can see and understand the differences and similarities to their own country . Top Job , Feli . Keep on doing this cause it will be very helpfull for both Nations . One thing I absolutly can agree with you is the point " Learning another Language " . When I was with the German Forces I had to learn English properly cause I was about to change to the international Forces and at that place English was the only Language they would except . Before I had to learn English 11 years in different Grades of School . Those where the Basics . Without them I couldn´t go further on . After I´ve started my Job with the international Forces I found out that I learned more parts of the english Language in 3 Month than the 11 years before . And that have had a big reason . I wanted to learn this language !!! So I´ve been open to all words or sentences . I actually sucked everything I could learn in English in to me and have never been afraid of making a mistake while speaking in English . All the Persons around me helped me to learn the language properly . Now I´m a truckdriver going international wide mainly to Belgium and France . Now I have to learn the French language . It is not as easy as it was with the English language but still I don´t have any fears making a mistake while talking in French . And even if the French person in front of me I´m talking to does not understand what I say or can figure out what I mean I have the possibilty to explain it in other words . They do respect my willing to speak in their language and I seldomly have had any person who appeared angry or rude towards me . Just a little advise to Ben : Start talking in German even if you do make mistakes . Don´t fear any mistake you might and you will do . Even if anyone is laughing cause the sentence might be a joke for the Germans . You got that in the US as well ;-) Look onto your efforts you make while making the progress in learning the German language . You got a proper reason to learn the language , Feli and her family . It will take time to learn it but you know why you´re doing it ;-) So , again Merry X-Mas and keep on sending your videos . 🙂 Regards , Ralf 🙂

[@douglasfur3808]

Travel with kids. One family I know found travelling with 3 month old was a sweet spot. Everyone loves a baby which was the ultimate ice breaker. Another family did a one year around the world when their 2 girls were around 12 and 14. This age is when kids differentiate their values. Having a global experience at that age has gad a noticeable influence on how they gave both grown up, gone to college etc.

[@mickeydejong8950]

It's totally possible to live in many different countries, a lot of expats do and I have done it and are still doing it. I am Dutch and I have lived in the Aberdeen (Scotland - twice), London (UK), Maracaibo (Venezuela), Port Harcourt (Nigeria), Perth (Australia), Houston (USA - thrice), Kuala Lumpur (Malaysia), Jakarta (Indonesia) and Lagos (Nigeria). My three kids have moved along with me and have thrived and have a very wide view of the world and a very open disposition towards many different cultures. They are now adults and are very happy and successful in their lives. So please do yourself and your future kids a favor by traveling and exploring as much of the world as you can.

[@r.waterston5578]

This video touched me because you two look like I and my partner did ~40 years ago. That ages me, so allow me to give you some advice from an "old timer's" perspective. First, don't wait to have kids. You both still look young, but time passes quickly, and it's biologically more challenging for women to have children after 30, especially after 35. You both look young, healthy, and like a pair who would make great parents. Don't wait. There's always a reason to wait, but kids are flexible and can come along for the ride. Second, on the subject of raising kids, I highly suggest you raise them in Germany. The school system (pre-college) is far, far better there (I know: I've taught in both places), and of course they'll get an international upbringing that they won't in the U.S. Third, for college, they'll of course have the option of where to go, but in my experience U.S. universities are better. Finally, the big challenge for you as a couple will be finding work that fulfills both of you in the same place. It's going to be harder for your boyfriend, as he has so much to learn. If he can transition into IT (with a degree in journalism, think technical writing), then he'll have an easier time finding work in Germany. But don't underestimate the amount of time that it will take him to fully acclimate to life in Germany. Good luck. After watching your video, I found myself wishing I could relive that part of my life. I'd certainly make some different decisions, and I've attempted to give you the benefit of my experience in these comments.

[@richdietrich5167]

This is excellent advice and I wish it would get noticed.

[@tarajoyce3598]

You two look so right together ❤ Enjoy the journey.

[@DanCerveny]

The videos with Ben have been some of my favorites. He seems super cool and a great match for you. I really enjoy watching the two of you talk and laugh.