"Feminine Energy" is the new girl science and it's...something.

[@TaraMooknee]

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[@scouts92]

thank youuuuu omg

[@emptycinema]

And what if I don't win anything

[@llynnmarks3382]

I have ADHD and got confused at the end when you asked if anyone knew Chinese philosophy. When was Chinese philosophy mentioned before? I know I should just watch it again. Also thanks! Great video!

[@angusmcnay5449]

Starts at 3:00 ish

[@angusmcnay5449]

Tara start putting time codes please

[@elena_1776]

Ok hear me out...what if we just like, treated each other like complex multi-faceted human beings and stopped being weird about it lol

[@wolliw_nosnah]

The straights aren’t okay they’re so weird about everything

[@SCHEILLA11]

Mind blown🤯

[@Nohandleentered]

lol, you’re ahead of your time

[@atlantictiger]

What a concept 😂😂😂

[@azraelkarp1607]

Nuh uh, the world is just black and white 🙄

[@melissabrown19902]

“So whenever he’s telling you a story listen and ask questions” Babes… that’s called having a conversation.

[@luna-p]

How was that not satire? Absolutely bonkers these people 😂😂😂

[@ih2439]

@@luna-pthey are mentally stunted. I fear for the state of the world when Gen Z takes over…

[@07Flash11MRC]

A conversation would be a dialogue, where both people get plenty of time to talk. What they mean is for men to talk endlessly and for women to only ask questions, never make statements.

[@Didintle.Moleko]

🤯 wait what-

[@BoringTroublemaker]

@@07Flash11MRC sometimes during a conversation you have to practice your active listening skills- that’s when you just listen and don’t talk or think about the next thing you get to say, because the other person is telling a story. I know, it’s difficult to not get to open your mouth, but it’s just part of being a person that other people want to be around.

[@iamjustkiwi]

These people act like dating is similar to building a character sheet in an rpg.

[@materla4102]

You better put all your skill points into feminine energy with the next lvl up 😌

[@bingonight1504]

the looksmaxxers and r/vindicta girlies literally call it leveling up or glowing up 🤕 it's so dorky

[@iamjustkiwi]

@@bingonight1504 ugh, I spend hours on KZbin every day and yet these people are somehow infinitely more online brained.

[@jarrellfamily1422]

This game sucks

[@404maxnotfound]

The only similarity is the the sometimes awkward back and forth in which slowly develop a understanding of a persons/characters history and process of revealing interesting details about themselves.

[@aitanacruz9882]

"Golden retriever is dependant and clingy, black cat is independent and unbothered" My black cat when I go to the bathroom : NOOOOOOO WHERE ARE YOU GOINGGGGGGG MOTHEEEEER

[@beatricepazzucconi2866]

IKR my cat is clingier than a toddler

[@StarrySkies9888]

Once again proving that women must embody opposite things. Clingy yet Mysterious. Independent yet Taken Care Of. Which one is it?

[@augustmedbrod]

black cat and mysterious are mutually exclusive. My void sings like an opera singer on the daily and follows me around like she would die if she couldn't watch me on the shitter.

[@anaionescu8913]

My black and white cat forces the bathroom door open to just come in and sleep on my lap while I do my business. Other times, he and his sister jump onto the sink while I'm washing my face, occasionally climbing on my back too.

[@gothclown9013]

the way these people view relationships as inherently transactional and toxic is very depressing

[@dirckdelint6391]

“What do you bring to the table?” When you can’t distinguish between a date and a job interview. I honestly felt a worm of nausea creeping through me listening to that.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

And it doesn’t even work and they don’t have proof. At least male pick up artists, if that’s what we’re comparing this to based off the title of this video, show video proof of their pick ups working with public interactions with women 😂 These girls basically just say “yeah bully him, it made him give more to me.” At least give proof 😂

[@sebastiangorka200]

@@Ryan-cb1ei most of those "successful pickups" are staged. its basically the testimonials section from infomercials.

[@RoonMian]

Fucking brainrot... Watching these clips turned my IQ into a countdown? How can anybody be watching this shit?

[@RoonMian]

@@Ryan-cb1ei Male "pick-up artistry" doesn't work either. It has a failure rate of *almost* 100%, it only "works" if you don't view women as persons but as completely interchangeable objects and don't care about being with one particular woman. Just like inversely these unhinged women from the video will probably also manage to convince some poor schmuck to be with them once every blue moon.

[@barabajagaI]

watching these videos as a lesbian makes me wonder if im genuinely living on the same planet as these people

[@prozierozie5692]

As a queer enby......same

[@soupalex]

the whole "love hormones" thing had me thinking: so if you're a woman and you're not interested in men at all, if you want to get your partner to fall in love with you you just need to make her cum"

[@arklestudios]

Honestly, I'm a cishet male and I agree with you.

[@neurdogic8909]

as a bi trans guy...same

[@jessfrisk3585]

same

[@jimhaverlock9784]

This is the same shit manosphere dudes say, but for women? Wild.

[@tdelioncourt1268]

yes they are rebranding being active/passive as masculine/feminine

[@luna-p]

It's weird

[@jimhaverlock9784]

@@luna-p(yoko drop intensifies)

[@keptthekisses]

Yeah it's led by the same circle of people. A lot of it recycles Russian/Right wing gender ideological propaganda using warped notions of masculinity and femininity that just point back to Tradlife/"conservative" standards with abdash of pseudoscience that poorly understood the fact that alpha pair designations among wolves goes to the most experienced care givers, aka the parents of the pack since most wolf packs are just one family anyhow.

[@komal146]

,yupp. wild how they don't find compatibility in each other and leave us multi faceted human beings alone.

[@mothyca]

"Mental illness? Babes,no, you're just in your masculine energy 💅🏻✨" STOP I CHOKED ON MY FRIES

[@suoutubez19]

And then everyone on the train stood up and clapped

[@twitchy_bird]

​@@suoutubez19 Oh yes, because choking on food during a startle response is so ridiculously rare, of course there's just no way that happened.

[@stephe1506]

​@@twitchy_birdi think theyre just mad that no one has shizzled their wizzle lately

[@twitchy_bird]

@@stephe1506 I believe you're absolutely correct lol

[@journey7701]

God I want fries now just because you mentioned them 😂

[@FallenChocoCookie]

It’s so funny to me how both sides are saying „men love bitches“, „women love assholes“ when no, anyone who is remotely mentally healthy does not love people who are behaving badly. It seems to me that people who say this either are the negative force in their relationships or they have seen many unhealthy relationships that didn’t get broken up for one reason or another and then just went ahead to think „ah, that must be the way to do it“. It’s not. Treat people kindly

[@franciszekdo]

I think some people feel aggrieved that they have xyz issues finding a compatible partner while these other people "get away" with being an asshole/bitch/mean person. But one doesn't actually want to be in those unhealthy relationships. Relationships without mutual respect don't feel good.

[@Red-in-Green]

Part of me hopes the assholes will find the bitches and date each other, just to spare the rest of the world from them. If the thing you both desire more than anything is a mutually abusive situation, then hey! I found you a match! (Sarcastic (mostly))

[@PropheticShadeZ]

Yea this is 100% true, watching your friends going through the roughest time ever, being jealous i think is the worst idea ever​

[@your_mom_is_my_dad]

The rule of the stable relationships from my surroundings disproves this bullsh*t immediately. Toxic relationships aren't meant to last nor are they meant to make people happy

[@glupik1234]

this is just a covert way to say "women, it's okay to be abusive in a relationship actually. that's how you make people stay"

[@Karmakarmelion]

Oh god, that one girl with "6 signs you're in your masculine energy" is saying she's a therapist. Fricken YIKES

[@JustSaralius]

Terrifying!!!!

[@wweltz]

This was my experience with therapy. I'm sure it's beneficial if you can find a good one, but I had too many experiences with "therapists" like that and just gave up lol

[@stayglitteryqueen]

@wweltz same, 15 min meditation in the morning and journaling to focus on the good did more than the sessions I paid for with incompetent licensed therapists. I think it's time to stop idealising therapy...

[@wweltz]

@@stayglitteryqueen I don't disagree but I do owe a lot to a friend of mine from high school who went on to become a psychiatrist and provided me what was better therapy than any therapist I've paid for lol. I'm still friends with her in my 30s and she completely empathized with my bad therapy experiences and recommended certain certifications I should look for and I literally could not find any that fit the requirements and were accepting new patients. So idk, I imagine the people who swear by therapy have found those "good ones" but the industry is overrun with quacks because a lot of the licenses/certifications are way too easy to obtain. Meditation rules though!!

[@mynamejeff3545]

This is why you should try to get an actual licenced psychologist/psychiatrist if you can, because therapists aren't considered medical professionals and you don't need a degree to operate as one so any random bozo can call themselves a "therapist". Therapists are like chiropractors in that regard, I'm not saying they're all malicious quacks but there is a worrying amount of social media influencers pretending to be (what many people think are) medical professionals in order to push their harmful woo-woo beliefs on people who are in need of genuine help. On top of not always knowing wtf they're talking about, therapists without medical degrees are not allowed to formally diagnose you or give you medicine, they can only talk to you. If that's all you need, great, but I would still recommend discussing your problems an actual doctor lest you get stuck with people like the one from the video.

[@Nodiee1]

As a guy, if exuding feminine energy means people will pay for my shit then count me in. Rent's due today lemme just exude my way to the building management office.

[@futuristicgirl14]

Like can’t they just start an OF if they just want simps? Genuinely asking

[@786valerie]

😂😂😂

[@luna-p]

​@@futuristicgirl14No, no, no. That's work. They just want to sit on their behinds and grift a female audience like the podcast bros grift their male audience.

[@audreydoyle5268]

​​@@luna-p Margarita Nazarenko has a wealthy husband, and started a business using the methods she talks about in her videos, by "receiving" her husband's money (which he was more than happy to give, it's how their relationship just works). She practices what she preaches. And it works for her and her own.

[@missinterpretation4984]

I pay my rent in femenine energy. No joke, it’s a setting in Venmo 😂😂😂

[@FatBratz-yh3zu]

notice how none of the people talking about "Chinese philosophy" are Chinese, nor philosophers

[@CymruPhoenix]

it's very much giving orientalism

[@sirrivet9557]

Nor seem to actually have read in depth into Chinese philosophy. Like it's cool to read Chinese philosophy there's some valid insights there but you can't take all of it as gospel.

[@alst4817]

@@sirrivet9557yeah cos the bible isn’t Chinese 😂

[@lovrboi]

it’s just a saying lol gospel = literal/ no nuance

[@ANTSEMUT1]

​@@sirrivet9557 which one we have so many?

[@HeySlothKid]

In my experience of black cats, black cat energy is: * Anxious / neurotic * Emotionally needy * clumsy, may put entire paw in a coffee cup * hates the rug, must kill the rug

[@emisformaker]

spot on. also loves getting on the countertop

[@Geospasmic]

*gets stepped on because invisible in hallway

[@emisformaker]

@@Geospasmic or on stairs

[@luna-p]

In my experience, it was violence and indifference, while being cute af of course.

[@outofcake]

black cat energy is a nine pound ball of fur screaming at me because she wants me to come watch her eat her kibble, scrabbling at the door whenever it’s shut with her on the other side from me, claiming my entire lap the second I sit down, and racing to the door when she sees me pull into the driveway after work. so aloof, that cat is

[@howdykate2776]

Notice how a lot of these people say they are a "trained therapist" and not a "licensed therapist"

[@MonieThu]

Ooooh!!!!

[@themanwithoutaplan9389]

Good point actually, because that’s the difference between me as a behavior technician with a bachelors and my supervisors as Board Certified Behavioral Analysts with masters degrees.

[@ohnoitsemily1767]

It’s really too bad that “therapist” isn’t a protected title

[@dewilew2137]

As a licensed therapist, I don’t see anything wrong with that. They aren’t seeing clients or giving mental health/medical advice. If they actually have a degree in psychology, social work, human services, counseling, or some other related field, but never chose to work in the field for whatever reason, I don’t see anything wrong with them giving “dating advice” on social media. None of what they are talking about is related to counseling clients. They aren’t doing the job of a mental health professional, so whether or not they’re licensed is irrelevant. A person with no education or degree could do the same thing, and there’d be no ethical or professional issues with it.

[@themanwithoutaplan9389]

@@dewilew2137 the problem is one: they are held to no ethical standards unlike a licensed professional two: their standards of training might not the same as someone pursuing a license, three: they are calling themselves therapists and acting from a place of authority that cannot be verified, and four: they are incapable of being punished for breaches in ethics nor subject to peer review, and they can efficiently lie and spread misinformation without being subject to disciplinary action,

[@j.g.3293]

Okay so heteronormative stereotypes but make it vaguely spiritual. Got it

[@handlebar4520]

How do we fix the current rigid streotypes for women? why, with different rigid gender stereotypes for women! Trust me, it'll work out for sure this time.

[@callen8908]

Well put!

[@thecatlurking]

Nothing i love more as a biologist than Tiktokers trying to explain hormones and brain chemistry to me. Tell me again which is the meow meow girly brain juice and the grr! boy woof woof signal??

[@missinterpretation4984]

😂 I actually love you

[@pluviophile._.j]

😂😂😂 me too

[@keptthekisses]

It depends, is he an Alpha male, or is he on his Sigma Male grindset? *checks evolutionary biology notes* Oh wait, alpha males are the male wolves who were the parents of the whole pack that are usually alpha pairs because they're taking care of their pups... Hmmm where did this sigma grind set stuff come from again?

[@CircusoftheMoon]

As a scientist that works with vasopressin constantly I’m having a blast.

[@romane9666]

literally when they said vasopressin makes you fall in love i lost it

[@sophee1022]

masculine energy is when stressed, understood. I shall quit my job, frolic in the flowers, and max out my credit card with no care to the consequences to fully experience feminine energy

[@veggiesnake4430]

No, um, actually, stress is simply the catalyst for the male love hormone, vasopressin, which _MAKES_ a man fall in love with you. So what you want to do is start dating, marry, or otherwise attach yourself to a man and then start sabotaging his life while remaining absent for the most part. This is key to maximising his stress/love hormone which will _MAKE_ him love you even more. Unfortunately, to hatch a plan on this scale, you would need to embrace a little bit of masculine energy in order to properly manipulate your partner and the situation, but that's okay if he's forcing you to do that to _MAKE_ you love him.

[@adamssmasher]

@@veggiesnake4430 the catalyst for deez nuts

[@bradsalz4084]

That works for my wife ... which leads me to be more in my masculine energy, i.e. stressed.

[@404maxnotfound]

Meanwhile oxytocin hiding in a corner pretending it does not also get produced when stressed.

[@alexwyatt2911]

@@404maxnotfound Idk why they’re under the impression that men are immune to the effects of oxytocin lol

[@tinyturtle1928]

This is really reminding me of all those Classically Abby videos in that. If you constantly have to fight against the way you naturally behave in order to be in your "feminine energy", if you get to the point of policing how you walk, how you hold your shoulders, every move you make in a relationship, then gender isn't as built-in from birth as these people think it is. Like, if most women are doing femininity "wrong" according to these tiktokers, why doesn't that prove the opposite, that the Divine Feminine doesn't exist?

[@salemsmith7085]

imo, i think it does, but it exsists in everyone. i think the essense of all genders exist in everyone and like what fits u fits u. for example, when i came out as trans masc and finally accepting myself as a man, i immedietly felt more comfortable in feminine things. i feel like i am a healthy balance now, and i can appreciate both my inner feminine tendencies and masculine tendencies. im married to a wonderful cis man and hes both feminine and masculine. my toxic father who craves male validation is also extremely feminine, but he rejects it because of trauma and fear and becomes toxic. my mother is extremely masculine, as in, shes a tomboy. theres also vibes of non bimary/agender/gender fluid in everyone. ive never met someone who doesnt emboy feelings of both (even when they fight it and are most extreme coded genders). idk, i just see it as like, it belongs to everyone and by just allowing urself to be nuanced u find more inner peace. however, im not an expert and these are my observations

[@TheNotshauna]

The best way I have ever seen it put is that if gender norms were natural then you wouldn't need to enforce them.

[@bluefox8011]

Sirens are screaming, you have broken the "energy" laws using logic, how dare you! Uuuoo0000oooo

[@eternallustformedusa4844]

these cis women will police the way they exist and then say trans women are “acting” when they put on makeup.

[@Waspinmymind]

@@salemsmith7085And they’re wrong. Please describe to me what ‘vibes’ are in an academic sense.

[@TheMightyMcClaw]

glad to see women are catching up to men in the Bad Dating Advice industry

[@alize7689]

lol my thought. i support women's rights and wrongs. 💀

[@mynamejeff3545]

Society has progressed to the point where there are equal opportunities for bad faith grifters of ALL genders

[@DaJackCracker]

There are centuries old textbooks intended for women to treat their husbands like violent beasts that they must tame and appease. Which may have been vaguely true for horrifically abused PTSD riddled rich kids who have to marry some broad they've never met for the sake of political bullshit, but, like... Still not good info.

[@sebastiangorka200]

real shit its such a relief to see as a man. were not so different after all.

[@grey_f98]

women were always leading this field, cosmo existed before fresh n fit

[@williamrutherford9997]

The gendering of yin and yang is a common ‘western world’ misconception

[@TwelvetreeZ]

Being tired and stressed all the time might have more to do with late stage capitalism than "having masculine energy" but what do I know 🤷‍♀️

[@earthaforester3141]

Capitalism is the ultimate masculine energy lol

[@ErinHonor]

Restore the divine feminine by dismantling capitalism ✨

[@shikhasophia2784]

​@@earthaforester3141 no it's not it's just patriachy nothing much

[@Tentegen]

....yep.

[@yonidellarocha9714]

Capitalism? Capitalism hasn't been a thing since the first world war. Do western people not read their own history or economic policies? You did away with capitalism when the private banks refused to finance the second year of the first world war, this is basic knowledge... Read your own economic policies, it's all state coordinated today.

[@aprilmacg169]

Lol "and you can just feel like a little girl" Ah, yes, when I'm in my feminine energy hunting for lizards in the yard and trying to show off by rescuing live bees from the pool with my bare hands

[@bossyboots5000]

That whole "little girl" part TOTALLY squicked me out. Like sexualization of children isn't already a problem. And as if infantalized adults are "sexy." P.s. - my girlhood was similar, only we hunted for frogs not lizards, and there was some Barbie thrown in there.

[@futuristicgirl14]

This is the actual feminine energy, people just aren’t ready to talk about women picking up bugs and trying to pet baby opossums

[@Geospasmic]

I relate so much to this comment

[@april5801]

I fell asleep under the kitchen table wearing a bathing suit and then I made a batch of "poison" from plants in the garden. Welcome home, babe. 💋

[@k4nd1incyb3rsp4c3]

In my case that would be pretending to be a werewolf and climbing trees. And of course the classic barbies murdering each other games. Wow, so feminine...

[@Davey_Da_Vinci]

You’ve been teasing us for years about the cow, I’m starting to believe she might not be real…

[@samarchist74]

How very dare you!

[@amethystdream8251]

No way she's just camera shy

[@Raebo911]

Nah, she'll show up in the next one! Promise!

[@utz2867]

I was thinking that too but that's crazy right!?

[@BlackDogMizukage]

I saw her at the grocery just the other day! Very real, I must rightly say

[@SometimestheY]

OK as a science educator I had to look up this vasopressin vs oxytocin thing, because they are definitely both produced by, and have an effect on, all humans of all genders. Best guess is I think there's probably some kind of misreading of this study from 2010, "The Challenge of Translation in Social Neuroscience: A Review of Oxytocin, Vasopressin, and Affiliative Behavior" (not going to link bc I don't know if that will get my comment nixed, but people can look it up). The author is a Dr Insel, which is funny. In this paper they talk about how there IS a gender difference in the effect of synthetic vasopressin on pair bonding... in males of a certain kind of vole. And not another kind of vole. And they specifically say have not found any similar gender differences among humans, and that the influence and interaction of these different neuropeptides is more complex when it comes to us. Science!

[@sparrowroth]

I’m a bit witchy, and i never got the gendered energy stuff. It just always seemed really sexist and a little transphobic. I’ve heard it described as the state of “doing” vs. “being” but this seems like more of the rhetoric that men are more active and women are more passive. It’s real big in witchy communities, but i’ve never put any faith in this. It just reminds me of the “men are stronger” mentality which is just. Mad sexist. I don’t even need to explain how sexist this is. As a nonbinary person i think it’s kinda reinforcing the gender binary and stereotypes. Anyways this has been my little soapbox rant, if you read all this, then thanks for giving me the time of day

[@C.H.-wo1ih]

❤

[@sabrina1380m]

They are just recycling some philosophical concepts and belief systems of certain cultures and time periods.

[@beboodaily]

If this is the "dating market" I'd rather stay single, live with my cat in the mountains and fulfill my solo amish fantasy

[@a.5326]

They always use it as an insult when in actuality, many of us are realizing being single can be pretty fantastic. Hanging solo with my cats? Don't threaten me with a good time.

[@mikeymullins5305]

The Amish are not a fantasy they are an abusive regressive cult

[@audreydoyle5268]

Honestly, a small, mountain side commune of cottages, made only to house either a single woman, or sapphic couples and their adopted children sounds like the ultimate post patriarchy dream.

[@PeachyKins]

​@@audreydoyle5268I'm down and I don't even know what Sapphic means 😂

[@LisaKelly-k8s]

Me either. I want to know what that whole thought means? Mountain cottages,, post patriarchal. I’d like to understand any of that.

[@seansteele6532]

Guys I saw the cow at yoga today, she says hi, she is real anyone who doubts the cow is a liar.

[@disgoop]

the cow is infallible through absurdity

[@ww3196]

I met her last week at a small-owned coffee shop. She's kinda a local legend, ngl. Very iconic.

[@ih2439]

I saw her at the moooovies. She says hi.

[@scoopitywoop]

She goes to another school

[@d.b2370]

Cow supremacy 😔✊️✊️

[@havenm6181]

"Guys like when you're mean to them" If you're mean to me I may just cry and run away

[@milikoshki]

see the mistake you're making there is being in your feminine. Just be in your masculine and it will all work out happily ever after! /s

[@polk-e-dot8177]

This also feels like it completely breaks down in gay relationships. Like it's more clear how little it makes sense when you compare it to queer relationships.

[@peonylarkspur645]

Bold of you to assume these people care about or acknowledge queer people lmao

[@polk-e-dot8177]

@@peonylarkspur645 I'm not assuming anything? My point is their philosophy is incompatible with reality bc it completely stops working when you add a gay relationship to the mix.

[@PropheticShadeZ]

Youve never heard about abusive gay people? Or problematic queer relationships? The narativisation of these relationships is the missing component

[@natasha5553]

@@PropheticShadeZ they exist but they do not function under rigid heteromanitive norms cause they automatically fall outside the dichotomy of cishet and the norms and expectations related to it and if repressed and closeted people try to conform to those norms to pass then they'll be miserable and burn themselves or their partner out but it still will be more of an attempt at conformity and will function differently from a cishet enforcing these norms in themselves and others....I don't see how you couldve come to that conclusion that op was denying the existence of toxic queer relationships other than merely critcizing the heteropatriarchal structure of it

[@gerunkwon2598]

The CDC also stated that 43.8% of lesbian women reported experiencing physical violence, stalking, or rape by their partners. The study notes that, out of those 43.8%, two thirds (67.4%) reported exclusively female perpetrators.

[@heinzchristian4517]

We spend 400 000 years evolving empathy and social skills just to end up like this

[@fellhalcyon]

as a guy i do like it when women are mean to me BUT only in specific, pre-planned, consensual environments, commonly known as "scenes"

[@Nat_778]

Amen brother

[@futuristicgirl14]

Like a consensual “step on me mommy” type situation 👌

[@apollo298]

👀 same bro

[@karimelupus]

Right? Consent is everything, AND fun.

[@hearteu5260]

Just curiosity nothing else but why would you want someone to be mean to you as turn on. I'm genuinely curious.

[@Dhorannis]

Oh boy... I am a biologist and this take on oxytocin and vasopressin is so astronomically stupid. First of all, oxytocin isn't just some sort of "love hormone". You secrete oxytocin in basically every human interaction. This includes hateful interactions. You could say that it strengthens any kind of emotional connection to someone. Not to mention that it works pretty much the same in men and women. Women just tend to produce more, especially during pregnancy and childcare. Vasopressin on the other hand is a hormone that increases blood pressure and retains urine. It is associated with sexual desire, but not only in men. In short: You don't want to pee during intercourse or in stressful situations. Also, the whole Yin and Yang thing is... pretty off as far as I can tell. Yin and Yang is not simply about opposite forces, but about cyclical change. Yes, Yin is associated with femininity (also with cold, winter, and stagnation), and Yang is associated with masculinity (also with heat, summer, and movement), but that doesn't mean that much. Also, the little dot symbolizes that every extreme also carries the core of its opposite within itself. But now about the so-called dating advice. I might not be the best example (autistic, demisexual, and demiromantic), but if a woman tries to stress me out or keep me at a distance, that basically does the opposite of what it's supposed to do. I don't feel attraction before I had the chance to get to know someone. Stressing me out will make me leave. Keeping a distance will keep me from developing any interest. Not to mention that I absolutely despise gender essentialist nonsense. Yes, I will take care of my girlfriend (or girlfriends in a poly context), but I expect the same in return. These are the same people who will push a man in need of support away because he is "feminine". Disgusting. And with all the entitlement and self-infantilization... I want a partner, not a child.

[@Albinojackrussel]

Thanks for explaining. I was really struggling to work out what they were mangling to come out with vasopressin=love

[@keptthekisses]

That's interesting to hear especially the duality or much rather versatility of oxytocin. It's also worth noting that love and hate share a lot of common neutral pathways too. PBS's Nova did a piece on recovering from hate which suggests to me that the main difference between a hate group and successful organizations is how information and social interactions are controlled/restricted by the hate group even though a lot of hate groups will exploit the notion of what people appreciate and love by framing it as something to protect and defend.

[@Iamhere829]

Thank you.. I'm tired of this femenine-masculine energy bs... I'm worried if I ever came across these 'energy' girlies because I'm an autistic tomboy and they'll get me beat up.. I used to get bullied when I was 5 years old by girls like these who will call me a boy and throw stones at me (they were 12 btw)...

[@Al_ate_my_soup]

Thank you! I’m studying psychology so I’m familiar with Oxytocin and what it does and immediately when people call it the “love hormone” my eyebrows go up. There was a book I read called “Arousal” which was about the endocrine system, something interesting I learned in it was that oxytocin does not cross the blood brain barrier meaning the amount of oxytocin in the brain and blood can change independently of one another. Afab individuals tend to be higher in oxytocin in their bloodstream (makes sense since oxytocin is involved in breast milk production and birth, it’s been shown that raising oxytocin in the blood does little to the brain though), but if i remember correctly it’s unclear if there are different levels in the brain (there’s probably more current research on that I haven’t read, there may be a consensus now about it)

[@bb-3653]

This is a golden comment!!

[@dontmindmeimjustchilling]

Yo these people just convinced themselves that their roleplay kinks are actually overarching universal truths

[@chelscara]

If we could just accept consensual kinks as existing and ok, life would be simpler honestly

[@heatweve]

LMAO this and the catholics

[@tristanband4003]

Nah its not a roleplay kink

[@dontmindmeimjustchilling]

@@tristanband4003 Yeah it is XD Its entirely role play and kinky gender performance

[@erylaria398]

Thank you. I came here to say literally this.

[@joyofcookies]

I was so excited to go tell my already very caring husband that, as a woman, I am only supposed to receive love and he needs more stress to feel love. I also told him to go get me treats, and then massage my neck, and look more like a golden retriever in our photos!! And to not expect me to return the favors. He stared at me blankly over his coffee mug and said, “I won’t retain any of this.” and walked away… such a black cat. 🐈‍⬛

[@texyp.856]

Luckily he didn't knock off the cup, now that would be a real black cat behavior

[@itsmushbloom]

I don't like that people see "feminine" and "masculine" things and immediately think dating. Being feminine doesn't have to do with your ability to attract the opposite sex.

[@emisformaker]

Whenever I hear about people wanting to be treated like a princess, I can't help but wonder if they actually want to be married off to someone they've never met in order to broker peace between houses.

[@alexwyatt2911]

Obviously, yes. Then they don’t have to be so stressed by living a full life and being an actual person.

[@missinterpretation4984]

😂😂😂😂😂 win!

[@tristanband4003]

I blame the fathers in this situation. To any dads reading this: exempting your daughters from the rigors and stressors of everyday life does her no favors. Make sure she leaves home knowing how to clean gutters, how to unclog a toilet, check the oil in a car, and how to do any activity traditionally considered masculine.

[@Joyride37]

@@tristanband4003 Amen

[@stayglitteryqueen]

Hahaha that was funny 😂

[@SoSoKayla]

All this is just giving off “the straights are not ok” energy to me.

[@smokegaskickass21]

Pot calling the silverware black.

[@prozierozie5692]

​@smokegaskickass21 not really yall are clearly......struggling, but it's all fine you have that right

[@JackH_123]

@@prozierozie5692I mean it’s not like gay dating is any better

[@prozierozie5692]

@@JackH_123 it's degrees better but with our own issues as well.

[@MerrillDragonAge]

More like white women are not ok

[@sigh_oh_bin]

A man on a dating app today asked me to come hunter/gather with him at a thrift store.... it was beautiful and reminded me that stupid gendered expectations are stupid gendered expectations. We can't take them, or ourselves, too seriously

[@tiamat9360]

oh man if someone wanted to go to a thrift store as a first date, thats awesome

[@tiamat9360]

i love thrift stores, thank you for the idea lol, next time i am on a date im gonna use it

[@lewlavabra6811]

ok that is aDORABLE wtf

[@rorolilred]

"She turned him into the golden retriever and he proposed within one month" yes coz that sounds super healthy and definitely the ideal outcome of dating someone who just came out of a long term relationship for less than one month

[@user-px1mf7uz5m]

cackling at tiktok hets taking gay ass fanfiction tropes like the golden retriever/black cat i read on ao3 & immediately forget about as dating advice

[@luffyyystrawhat]

exactly what i was thinking 😭

[@mateakalanj3988]

"working, planning ahead and taking control of my own life is draining and difficult, i don't like it" = "it is literally unnatural for me to be stressed at any point in my life". these women are blaming their problems on biology instead of realizing they are overworked and living in an inherently stressful world. "my friend forces me to be in my masculine and i hate it", no girl you're just frustrated that you have to pull her weight in the relationship. it's a normal human emotion. not to mention this is the direct continuation of 'girl math', '35 year old teenager' and similar trends. we need to stop infantilizing women on the internet before these bozos convince us that all we're capable of is nodding our heads and blinking prettily like a doll.

[@Acinnn]

They always take something nice and twist into something bad. Like it's nice to be sometimes a bit childish in matters of hobbies and things we like to do. But they twist it into not being capable of providing for yourself, being defenceless, not being able to make important decisions...

[@FarkleBeans]

Seriously. Because then we're just rolling backwards to the days when women could be hospitalized for "hysteria", for daring to disagree with our male partners, or not wanting to have enough sex. These women playing helpless don't REALLY want the society that treats us that way, they seem to just want an easy, happy life with little stress, and a partner that takes care of them. Ok, then seek that. BUT don't tell the rest of us to act like brainless bobbleheads.

[@robertakeehl5250]

Yes yes yes

[@niarlatotepbasset]

In either case, you will blame it all on men, as usual 😏...

[@ashannaredwolf8485]

I used to teach a very basic unit in traditional Chinese medicine as a foundational study for massage students. I am by NO means an expert on the subject, but a fundamental principle is that the “yin” and “yang” energies exist in all people, it’s never been as simple as “men are yang/masculine energy and women are yin/feminine energy”. All this to say, these people presenting it as literal black and white are misunderstanding the entire concept, which doesn’t shock me in the least.

[@bujustic]

the yin and yang being masculine and feminine are (barring translation) direct quotes from the dao de ching - they're still wrong but not as wrong as you're making out, I hope you found this clarification helpful - the dao de ching is actually really insightful and short and I do recommend reading it

[@ashannaredwolf8485]

@@bujustic yes.

[@earthaforester3141]

​@@bujustic Right, but I think the point is that both "masculine" and "feminine" energies exist in all people to varying degrees and at different times in our lives (as well as in nature / natural cycles). The entire concept is metaphorical. Calling something "masculine" or "feminine" - "active" or "passive" - is purely symbolic language. I think a lot of philosophical concepts are just thought experiments - abstract tools for understanding personal motivations and social behavior, and how they emulate or (dis)harmonize with nature as a whole. In fact, I think anyone who takes philosophy so literally just isn't getting it.

[@bujustic]

@@earthaforester3141 I think you're being very dismissive of daoism as just a thought experiment - yes it's philosophical but that doesn't mean it wasn't meant to be taken as describing what's purported to be very real phenomena, like how it's been treated for thousands of years. Who's to say what the original daoist scribes thought, it was thousands of years ago but throughout all of Chinese history it's been treated as a religious doctrine as well as a philosophical one

[@IshtarNike]

I mean it's in the goddamn symbol lol. It's embarrassing that these people are missing what's right in front of their eyes.

[@probablynotapelican5808]

This is so typical of how TikTok creates jargon and rules of thumb over how to present yourself in the ‘objectively best way possible’ reminds me of looksmaxxing….

[@probablynotapelican5808]

Also how it assumes everyone else you meet is shockingly manipulative and not just another complicated person with like nuance and all that crap

[@jaydenlavaman]

This “masculine energy “ just sounds like being confident

[@Joyride37]

Welp that settles it girls, if you’re confident you’re too masculine. Ladies, assume the fainting position! Keep your eyes downcast and your body small. Never speak, or talk about what you want, don’t even know or think about what you want actually

[@peonylarkspur645]

Wait but if I have social anxiety then apparently mental illness also makes me masculine 🥴🥴

[@BratzGyall]

It is.

[@your_mom_is_my_dad]

Confidence is about self preservation. If women weren't allowed to be confident they'd be in a worse place most of the time. Don't get why confidence is demonized in this context. Also, confident (not egocentrical) people are usually the nicest and most fun to be around

[@lechuga9153]

@@peonylarkspur645I think we all just be men based on these insane TikTok takes. Tragic 👩‍🦲

[@WrenRowan]

Should ask them some questions that cut through the dating world bubble like "So, do you think a woman can be the president while in her feminine?"

[@beboodaily]

"the more you stress your man out the more he'll fall in love w you" As a guy HELL NAHHH

[@savagebeafy]

Yeah I would not want my partner to stress me out in any way, no thank you.

[@aldenpartridge4773]

How will she explain it when I leave her due to her stressing me out?

[@purrgundy]

I'm not a man but same. I mean, what's the point of being in a relationship if you have a panic attack at the thought of calling your partner or coming back home? Love is not fear.

[@naomi9449]

Right? I was like babe that’s a human. I don’t know anyone who deliberately wants to be stressed out.

[@futuristicgirl14]

I’ve read people who have relationship insecurity feel like they have “more chemistry” with their partners since the fear of abandonment fuels their sex drive. Maybe that explains it?

[@kerycktotebag8164]

i hate how autonomy is seen as masculine & interconnectedness is seen as feminine. i don't like the conflation of darkness with femininity & light with masculinity either. i don't see what purpose it serves other than to mystify a greater human condition, in ways that only benefit a select few.

[@alexwyatt2911]

That’s the purpose it serves. Subjugation. Oppression. Consolidation of power. Booooooooooo

[@PeachyKins]

❤ same. Spent years learning. It's rooted in nature. The elements. Fire & Air are masculine energy & Water & Earth are feminine energy. I'm pagan, witch & tarot reader. This tiktok crap is like tasting ingredients to a cake separately and wondering why it's gross

[@PeachyKins]

Women's bodies are portals to the spirit world. Actual humans are formed in a woman's body. Sperm is just sperm (without a woman.) So there's that, too. But if you really want to know how this affects humans BEYOND GENDER a good place to begin is researching "wounded feminine" & "wounded masculine"

[@hedgeyes6411]

@@PeachyKins Shut it, TERF.

[@mothmansuperfan7513]

They're missing the most important masculine energy traits: 1. seeing something at the store, thinking "I could probably make that" and spending twice as much money and five times as much time to make a terrible version of the original 2. Seeing a broken car or other similarly complicated machine and thinking "How hard can fixing that be" and making the problem worse

[@electronics-girl]

You clearly haven't watched enough Simone Giertz.

[@mothmansuperfan7513]

She comes out on the other side of the project with a beautiful video, a cool thing and a truly well-put-together story. I come out the other side of a project with half a thumb and an anxiety disorder

[@SometimestheY]

Well crap I already knew I was too much in my masculine energy after watching this video, but now you've just confirmed it.

[@DaughterOfHelios]

…I actually do look at thinks and wonder IF I could make that and wanting to try but am too broke and not motivated enough to actually do it… 😅

[@DaughterOfHelios]

…I actually do look at thinks and wonder IF I could make that and wanting to try but am too broke and not motivated enough to actually do it… 😅

[@meganbooth4459]

“Overthinking to the point of inauthenticity” Tara just casually dropping pearls of wisdom

[@cornflakes-does-stuff]

this reminds me of a very annyoing coworker I had years ago who had very confident, very bad takes and once told me that she would never learn to drive because that's masculine, and women in general shouldn't drive at all for that very reason, I was so flabbergasted, and she was around 20 and not catholic or anything

[@Naixatloz]

This sounds like the absolutely legendary "bottoms can't mine in Minecraft or play tank in MMOs" discourse in a friend group adjacent to mine.

[@spacefacecadet]

"Ladies you'll be miserable if you're not being provided for by a MAN" wow groundbreaking 🙄

[@futuristicgirl14]

They should replaced “provided for” to “respected by” and then it would actually be true

[@王艺璇-w3k]

Hey Tara, fellow Chinese here. Both Yin and Yang meant aspects of feminine in prehistoric texts, those symbols stemmed from celestrial worship in ancient matriarchal civilizations who created these text, so Yin means darkness and Yang means light, and it makes sense that they both mean women -- a self-described duality of women. Then partriacrchy came along and men stole Yang away from us, so in more recent historic text like Taoism, and in modern patri-losophy, you only get this sterotypical gendered bs like quoted in the video. Same with other symbolism in ancient Chinese, like Chinese dragon and Chinese phoenix both meant women (originated from coats of arms of different martiarchal tribes), but the dragon has gradually been twisted to symbolize male instead. When you look at any ancient civilization at length, you will relize that partiarchy is cultural theft and robbery against all women. They have had a few thousand years to bake the misogyny into the language and the symbolism created by women. Imported patriarchy is still patriarchy. Don't buy it, it is bogus.

[@ricardojanate]

This is genuinely fascinating, I had heard about the patriarchy part but not the original matriarchy. Do you have anywhere I could look into this (even some Wikipedia articles work )?

[@pinkxlulu]

Thank you so much for this information!!

[@AndyCroat-v6d]

This makes a lot of sense to me. Any advice how to find these prehistoric texts, in English? I'd love to read up on some prehistory.

[@julienne152]

Thank you for this informative reply! I never knew about the history and meaning behind yin and yang pre taoism, or that they even existed pre-taoism! If it's not too much trouble, do you have any reading you could suggest to learn more about this topic?

[@longshotomega4258]

Thank you for this reply! I learned something interesting today because of you! 💜

[@timeneses]

I had ONE SEMESTER of neuro bio and I still cringe at the casual mention of neurotransmitters followed by complete nonsense

[@sharkofjoy]

Youre right tho....it takes such a small dose of learning and context to realize how full of BS these kinds of people are.

[@hazellewinter7313]

I'm still in school and I cringed so hard when they mentioned that 😂

[@JustSaralius]

I literally face-palmed so many times.

[@Ryan-cb1ei]

@@hazellewinter7313 I mean you can just tell they’re capping so hard 😂 A child can deduce that

[@TheGhostofRandolphBourne]

Her: "Treat me like a princess." Me, an avid Crusader Kings player and militant anti-Monarchist: "That's horrible! Why would you ask me to do that to you?!"

[@BhabhorbantiybhaiBhabhor]

the fact that nobody talks about the book womens magic truths on borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a tranc

[@ciaociara]

8:20 As a neurodivergent girlie pop, I feel like she is explaining how to have a socially acceptable conversation lol

[@grapebubblegum7663]

True 😆

[@naomi9449]

lol and I barely adhere to that. I just be asking stuff keeps it interesting

[@alexwyatt2911]

My neurodivergence is almost perpetually in “question mode.” I want to continuously ask people questions about whatever they’re telling me; there are so many things in the world to know. I actually have to reign in “question mode” a lot in a professional setting because (I learned, lol) people can perceive my questioning as a challenge.

[@mariannacsinger788]

He?

[@v_bunny]

@@alexwyatt2911i’m the same way!!!

[@-ikarus-4846]

11:05 This lady really made an entire series of tiktoks prescribing people in celebrity couples to either a 'black cat' or 'golden retriever' category based on whether or not they're smiling in a hollywood photo...

[@emmao6578]

reminded me of those weird posts you'd see on twitter where someone kept drawing coloured lines on photos of celeb couples and calling the men simps or alphas depending on whether or not they or their partner were leaning towards them or not

[@lechuga9153]

@@emmao6578imagine having a back like a shrimp, you’d be DAMMED by these people

[@Noirevert]

“Here are some VERY specific ways people are supposed to act according to their gender. Also, why are so many people transitioning these days?”

[@idkhowbutimgay]

What do you even mean by this? This is so baseless

[@Noirevert]

@@idkhowbutimgay It deserves clarification sure: Anecdotally, people who uphold rigid standards of gendered behavior, who suggest that women can be too masculine or that men can be too feminine, express incredulity about the sincerity of modern transition practices. Specifically when it comes to transgendered women, they accept that womanhood can extend beyond anatomy when it comes to “energies” but then ascribe ulterior motives to people AMAB who present or express feminine identities.

[@eleanorsherry4620]

@@Noirevert hit the nail on the head

[@idkhowbutimgay]

@@Noirevert Ok, sorry for the misunderstanding and thank you for the clarification!

[@klisterklister2367]

Have we as a society gone full circle? We've gone from pick up artists negging women as a dating strategy, to tiktok women not talking with men as a dating strategy. All i can see in my mind is this pick up guy negging a TikTok woman who just. Doesnt respond. Awkward date

[@Blazinember007]

The fact that vasopressin/ ADH is just useful for not making us dehydrated by not peeing and has nearly nothing to do with love, atleast not as much as oxytocin is so hilarious! Increased vasopressin would just prevent them from peeing more and increases their blood pressure

[@normanclatcher]

Mood

[@chrisdierking5108]

"He will fall in love with you in your absence." Yeah, when all someone has is their looks and a terrible personality, the less time they spend with them figuring that out the better.

[@sapphosgirlfriend]

I hate this whole "act like you don't even like your partner" stuff. I have a girlfriend of 4 years and we are cringe and silly and sappy! I love being comfortable with someone- I'm very affectionate and I think it's wonderful to express that

[@Waspinmymind]

The assumption made by the feminine energy crowd that all women want to be feminine. Also it’s all very the three humors side of science.

[@ooowami]

I laughed throughout this whole video. That cow is one hell of a writer. Very witty and entertaining.

[@Lobos222]

I told you cows are funnier than women. :P

[@Kfroguar]

So I'm not an expert in Chinese cosmology or Traditional Chinese Medicine by any stretch, but I did study a little. These people are waaay oversimplifying Yin and Yang. Yin is associated with the female and Yang with male, but only in a very general way. Every body contains both Yin (referred to as "cold" in traditional medicine) and Yang (referred to as "hot"). An excess of either leads to illness, and part of a TCM practitioner's job is diagnosing whether your illness is caused by an excess of Yin or Yang so that they can provide you with an appropriate remedy. Often this means eating "cold" foods (foods with high Yin content, not always literally cold) if you have a Yang-based illness and vise versa if the illness is Yin -based. It's also important to note that Yin and Yang are both made of the same substance, qi (气) but are basically different "densities" of qi. I think yin is the heavier/higher density one but I'm not sure. Death is when that mic of energies separate, and your yin/heavy energies become your physical remains while yang/light energies disperse into spirits and air. Women are generally thought to lean naturally more to Yin, but that can be affected by your zodiac year, the element you were born under, your environment, if you're pregnant, etc. It is incredibly complicated and most of these people are filtering it through a Western lens that misses the context. Equating Yin and Yang to Masculine and Feminine is a bit like saying that Christians believe in three gods because they have a Trinity. It's actually far more complex.

[@VarricsBianca]

“Deployed feminine energy” like it’s an army??? 🤣🤣🤣

[@texyp.856]

Also isn't feminine energy supposed to be receiving? So what are we deploying exactly? 😅

[@llynxfyre]

Or like a software solution for a business lol

[@matheussanthiago9685]

Not me storming Normandy with the girlies ✊😩💄💋

[@eat_pray_porg8450]

You nailed it on the head, Tara! As a cist-het man, all of these influencers trying to teach women and men how to act in "masculine/feminine" energy is so misleading. Pick-up artists and a lot of dating coaches already use a lot of patriarchy-enforced ideas to "catch and keep the attention of women". The idea of "masculine energy" taking initiative instead of "feminine energy" just sounds like rehashed patriarchal programming, but trying to give the impression that it is making it empowering for women. Women and female-presenting people, just like men and male-presenting people will have mixtures of both "energies". Really, it's all about the compatibility of each person's personality with their potential partners, and vice versa. It's also another thing if each person needs to be in therapy. If they have mental health issues, it's not because they're "using the wrong energy", it's because they have unresolved issues, insecurities, and trauma to sort through. If they each can't be honest with each other and both work hard for their relationship, then it won't work out. Not because of what kind of "energy" they're using.

[@sophiewang4205]

vasopressin is the antidiuretic hormone, making you pee less to retain water; it’s also released in response to stress as a painkiller. so instead of stressing your man out so he stays, you could also dehydrate him!

[@rx500android]

Great advice for the feminine girlies! Get yourself a stressed and dehydrated man😍

[@normanclatcher]

Oh man... I _would_ allow her to dehydrate me...

[@agrenaschuler451]

now that's some dating advise!

[@heyitsdevin4983]

The words "masculine" and "feminine" I believe appear only once in the Tao Te Ching in chapter 28, when referring to how to live in accordance with the Tao. One translation goes "Know the masculine, but keep to the feminine: and become a watershed to the world." The consensus on the meaning of "masculine" and "feminine" in reference to the Tao is a dualistic comparison of something being defined and giving (masculine) versus undefined and receiving (feminine). It's important to note that a pervasive rule of the Tao is that everything arises in dualistic comparison. For something to be "this," it needs to be "not that", and as such, masculine is the push (Yang), and feminine is the pull (Yin). So, according to Laozi, it seems like these words were only used to make the point of allowing yourself to be open to the world, receiving all the energy and information that you can. I would expect Laozi to laugh his ass off at these influencers completely spinning Taoism like this, because the entire message of the Tao is to allow yourself to act as you naturally do. I suspect he would be completely unconcerned with "managing his levels of masculine/feminine energy" or whatever 😅

[@DeadDancers]

‘Put away the boxing gloves, get out the binders and let’s get scrapbooking!!’ 😂🤣😂🤣

[@Oxxyjoe]

It was then that I knew, I was a real man! 😂

[@HiYeena]

Girlboss Manosphere 💅✨

[@ann18o96]

"I don't know them personally, but I understand psychology..." Girl you know them better than psychology xD

[@sashakost2371]

the same men that they say are dying to be the caretaker will use weaponized incompetence to not help with house chores and will overwork their partner

[@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult]

And then they'll feel like their husband's moms

[@skrunklycreationz]

THIS IS ALL I COULD THINK ABOUT LMFAO big strong man until its time to do the dishes

[@Souleater7777]

If they’re the one working , get your lazy butt up and clean the house without complaining. You’re adults

[@Iamhere829]

​@@Souleater7777 what if both of them are working but the husband still refuses to do household chores since that's a wOmAn'S jOb? That is the current problem women are dealing with in alot of households.. Are you going to tell women to quit their jobs to do dishes? Moreover, women are physically weaker than men... Most men sit in air conditioned offices and work on PC's while an average SAH woman's job requires constant physical labour, like standing and cooking, doing dishes, cleaning the whole house, laundry plus taking care of children and they require constant supervision.. These jobs are required to be done everyday too... If an average man is to go out to look for a nanny, home cook and housekeeper.. he won't be able to afford all that in this economic situation.. The woman is doing all this labour for other people.. For free.. this situation already isn't 50/50.. Least he could do is take care of the children for a while or do dishes once in a while.. God knows, Even men's rights activists are encouraging fathers to spend more time with the kids so that the kids don't experience dad deprivation while the father works day and night and father could bond with the kids... Your missing whole chunks of your brain...😂

[@Iamhere829]

​@@Souleater7777what if both of them are working but the husband still refuses to do household chores since that's a wOmAn'S jOb? That is the current problem women are dealing with in alot of households.. Are you going to tell women to quit their jobs to do dishes? Moreover, women are physically weaker than men... Most men sit in air conditioned offices and work on PC's while an average SAH woman's job requires constant physical labour, like standing and cooking, doing dishes, cleaning the whole house, laundry plus taking care of children and they require constant supervision.. These jobs are required to be done everyday too... If an average man is to go out to look for a nanny, home cook and housekeeper.. he won't be able to afford all that in this economic situation.. The woman is doing all this labour for other people.. For free.. this situation already isn't 50/50.. Least he could do is take care of the children for a while or do dishes once in a while.. God knows, Even men's rights activists are encouraging fathers to spend more time with the kids so that the kids don't experience dad deprivation while the father works day and night and father could bond with the kids... Your missing whole chunks of your brain...😂

[@phelanii4444]

y'know, it's days like this, when I get shown what is happening on the internet outside of my spheres, that i am so very glad to be ace 🤣

[@alize7689]

hell yeah 🖤🩶🤍💜

[@claudiaconway6370]

It's people looking for simple answers, like so much of this self-help advice. 'Masculine' and 'feminine' is a neat way to package it and some of the advice, like 'it's not healthy to be your partner's therapist' is, as you say, sensible in itself. But there's no need to wrap it in this 'energy' woo

[@kristinowens3568]

Ok, I’m starting to think the cow might be avoiding us.

[@mayaraabreu6517]

She's the black cat

[@mcbby7]

I went to visit my college friend and meet her new bf. She told me she was in her "black cat era", which for her meant being openly mean to both me and the guy lol

[@keptthekisses]

That made me feel kinda sad, for you, the bf, and for black cats because black cats are usually very nice and loving when they trust a person and no one really deserves to be treated meanly for no reason 🥺😥

[@mcbby7]

@@keptthekisses agree 100%. Black cats deserve better. I think the personality is better described as: “cat”

[@Joyride37]

@@keptthekisses right they’re little round balls of the void full of love

[@lechuga9153]

@@mcbby7bruh and even if you actually spend some time interacting with a cat that isn’t devoid of all will to live and completely full of hatred and fear of humans, you’ll realize that using “cat” to describe cold, distant, hyper independent people (and overall jerks) ALL THE TIME is just wrong 💀 These creatures be so needy of attention, it even gets tiring. The things that many cats would do to just feel involved in your daily routine… Just to put the cherry on top of the nonsense that these people talk about smh. Cats got more diverse and distinct personalities than them.

[@bell.e.flower]

Why do people always have to try to force things that shouldn't be forced into boxes into boxes... This is a legitimate problem with Tiktok, where people think they can just categorize extremely nuanced subjects into all of these neat little boxes and think that because of their "helpful" organizing, everything regarding those subjects will become simpler and easier. At this point they're making more problems than solving problems. How can they not see that???? A lot of these women are self-proclaimed feminists too but it's like, why tf are you as a "feminist" trying your absolute damndest to enforce gender roles and even going as far as to project those same gender roles onto things that have absolutely nothing to do with gender????? Christ, it's truly tiring just seeing these people going around and around in circles. Like, do these women not realize that men are from the same species as themselves and even have some of the same thoughts and worries that they do? The sooner we all realize that we all are human and that we are all trying to get through the experience that is life, the better that experience will be.

[@ragcat3732]

Hearing that woman talk about black cats and golden retrievers is so funny because I have a black cat and he’s the stupidest clingiest baby ever

[@ComboSmooth]

A lot of these tips seem funny to me as a man, and almost responses to themselves being a bit basic. In my dating experience and that of my male friends, it often feels like we go out with a lot of women with seemingly no interests, hobbies or personality. And then it's completely on us to put in all the work on a first date to make conversations happen and to make sure we both have fun. So when the advice is "maybe add to the conversation," I feel like theyre telling on themselves. And I get where the question "what do you bring to the table" comes from. Its a fed up dude passive aggressively trying to figure out if any of it is worth his time. The truth I think is more along the lines of, dating is awkward and anxiety inducing for both guys and gals. Guys generally feel more pressure to be assertive. Partially because we do that to ourselves, but also the demand for a woman feels a lot higher than the demand for a man (again, something men do to themselves) so there is a competitive aspect to it. If we're not assertive and try to make things happen, than another guy will do so gladly. Which is the flip side of one of the trials women face when it comes to dating, they now have to deal with hordes of dudes throwing themselves at them. Whether the dudes are nice or crummy doesn't really change anything. So I guess as a bit of a side effect from that, women are just more on guard in these first, awkward meetings. PS. gendering energy is dumb. People are just people. In fact, these people talking about energy just make me think theyre deep into believing that crystal energy magic is real

[@spiffygroove]

Bro the whole women fall in love via oxytocin and men fall in love via vasopressin is so incredibly incorrect. I’m so sick of ppl taking scientific words to sound smart but completely misrepresenting what it means 4:53

[@Dasharya]

Great video. Both men and women are obsessing over the same thing. Is it any wonder that a generation of narcissists is obsessed with figuring out how to manipulate their partners into “giving” more. It’s a race to the bottom

[@futuristicgirl14]

This is such a great summary of the current dating pool, genuinely accurate take

[@786valerie]

“Race to the bottom” Well said!

[@jasmine1926]

These women are UNHINGED. My god.

[@thyagobrod]

"He will like you more if he spends less time of you" It's exactly how I feel about any bad person.

[@youtubename3838]

most normal take on this ive ever seen. when did opinions without the crust become so rare? subbed

[@MoonlitXMoth]

It’s really weird how TikTok and other such groups peddle the narrative that “men are trash” while at the same time saying that you should want a traditional masculine man. So these dating strategies are meant to get you the same men you call trash?

[@futuristicgirl14]

They’re trying to trap other women into the same horrible marriages they’re stuck in

[@scorpieeeee]

It's female version of "podcast guys" who are hell-bent of complain on women but see access to women as a matter of survival. Perhaps this whole “divine feminine” nonsense is a reaction to Tate’s impact on young men and the “conservative turn” from the news

[@franciszekdo]

They're basically advancing the same gender roles and stereotypes. Instead of having a real critique of these roles they just hate men and date them anyways hetero-pessimistically.

[@carag2567]

Many people misinterpret the First Law of Thermodynamics. It was initially put forth as "energy cannot be exuded or sucked, it can only exist and move freely in its changing states".

[@josie9193]

the reasons on why the cow cant be in the videos became a highlight for me, they are always so fun, she truly is living her best life

[@JEEBUSxHIMSELF]

the evergreen rule for dating is be interested in the person you are seeing. there is nothing more attractive than someone who is genuinely interested in me. no gimmicks or tricks, just be engaged and present

[@tingtingteacup]

What boggles my mind about this stuff is that not one of them (that I've seen anyway) has actually defined EXACTLY what they mean when they use these terms and how to 'apply it' to your daily life/dating. I've heard some people just flat out contradict themselves. Everything is so vaguely stated with so much conviction, it's wild! They say SO much and yet absolutely nothing at all-I can't tell if they know that this stuff was created by humans and varies across time and cultures, or not. It's fascinating and if someone wants to fund me, I would love to do an anthropological study on this.

[@ForeignManinaForeignLand]

Sorry, the siren eyes got me to click. I am but a simple man

[@Eri-ww9td]

This feminine/masculine energy thing reminds me of the phrase "wome are from Venus, and men are from Mars" like....... no?? There's no such an easy way out of the dating crisis, the last thing that we need right now is making women and men see one another as different species, those people are helping no one dumbing down the situation. Making this out of the blue and just expecting people to believe it is just nuts. The acrobatics that are being made to get us back to the 1950's are insane. Just say we're in a capitalism/patriarchy crisis already! Stop trying to give the elephant in the room a gender reveal party!!

[@sonofaspyder3000]

You phrased this absolutely beautifully

[@heidihap]

Hi! I have a masters degree in traditional Chinese medicine which is fundamentally based on yin yang theory. Like most armchair philosophers, the concepts spoken about in these clips are partial/incomplete comprehension of yin and yang. The 'Su Wen' and 'Huang di ni jing' written c.200 BCE, describe the 5 relationships of yin and yang. Yes yin is dark, cool, "feminine," and yang the opposite. However in the 5 principles of yin yang relationship 1. Yin and yang exist in all things, 2. Yin and yang are divisible meaning each particle has a yin aspect and a yang aspect, 3. Yin and yang are rooted in each other (you can't have yin without having yang), 4.yin and yang counterbalance each other, yadda yadda, and 5. Yin and yang convert into each other. So there is this weird binary concept of a yin phase and yang phase. They are a type of action taking place within every thing... Tldr: not one thing can exist without having both yin AND yang interaction. Women have both yin and yang, men have both. That's it.

[@BeneficialCuts]

As to the Chinese philosophy; in Taoism there is yin and Yang energy (or movements i guess, it's a dynamic thing). Yang is expansive, bright, producing, forceful. It is breathing out. Yin is receding, shadowy, receptive and still. It is breathing in. And yes, men are generally assumed to be more Yang, and women more yin. But the underlying philosophy Taoism would tell us that it's only when we have a healthy interplay and balance between yin and Yang that we can achieve harmony and fulfilment. Taoism is very against striving generally, so any attempt to force yourself into a particular set of behaviours is antithetical to a healthy spirituality.

[@PossumMedic]

"What do you bring to the table" sounds like something you'd hear on a first date with a tech bro 😂

[@Citcat1]

The irony of their use of Yin-Yang is that within the Yang, there is Yin. And within the Yin, there is Yang. Thus, the black and white dots in the symbol. As it represents under certain conditions, the Yang can transform into Yin or Yin transforms into Yang. A person can be masculine (Yang) and feminine (Yin), where neither are mutually exclusive. Another example is a wave: the crest is Yang, and the trough is Yin. But they become both in a wave switching between the two. This aspect of Yin and Yang is a massive point these TikTok gurus are missing. This transformation between Yin and Yan is neither good nor bad. If you're interested in learning more about this duality, a good TedTalk goes into it (The hidden meanings of yin and yan - John Bellaimey). Also, I'm not an expert, but this is what I know as I'm still learning 🙂

[@cashnelson2306]

Ahahahahah that oxytocin/vasopressin shit is literally just PUA nonsense for women! You cannot quantify love like this what in the world

[@Ticket2theMoon]

Why is the listening so performative? If you love this person, if you even just like this person enough to date them, aren't you interested in what they have to say? If not, why date them? If it's that much work to listen to a guy, I break up with him. Also, Tara, you keep confusing my Alexa. But I forgive you.

[@SalSal-f4z]

As someone with a spiritual practice, I can't tell you how much this concept (labeling masculine energy as active and feminine energy as passive) irks --and frightens-- me. The labeling of these energies took place within the context of organized Eastern religion and possibly written texts. So a few thousand years ago. These energies (if you believe in such things, like me 🌈) existed in the coming together of the cosmos--long before human or animal existence. Therefore, these energies cannot be emerging from gender. They existed before society, but society took them and forever assigned them to people with certain genitalia to improve upon and maintain power for men. Glueing feminine and masculine energy to people is false, sexist, and damaging...so glad you made a video on this. Just because it's "ancient wisdom" people are ready to believe it.