"Feminine Trans Men Are VALID!"

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[@mysticwolfsatomi]

BPD = Borderline personality disorder, not bipolar. Your point still stands though ✌️

[@aliceeight4279]

I think bipolar disorder can be combined with transsexualism but bpd seems to be very exclusive bc people with bpd want attention a lot and transition only for attention

[@lukefarrell6769]

@@aliceeight4279 genuine bpd is not an attention grab. It’s closely linked with the same mental issues as ptsd, if you feel threatened or attacked you respond.

[@aliceeight4279]

@@lukefarrell6769 i can be wrong because i don't have a medical licence and not a native speaker, sorry But speaking from my experience a lot of people with bpd hardly seeking for attention But they defence reactions very close with some ptsd people, can agree at some point

[@lukefarrell6769]

@@aliceeight4279 that’s fine, a polite discussion and conversation makes the world better. I was diagnosed (by psychiatrist) with BPD 5 years ago. I’ve had to learn coping mechanisms to stay calm. I hope you’re well and have a wonderful week

[@aliceeight4279]

@@lukefarrell6769 same to you! I really happy that therapy helps you

[@orcashadow8989]

When EVERYTHING is valid, nothing is valid.

[@emilyectoplasm]

Love it.

[@onerian8178]

"and when everybodys super, no one will be" Syndrome, [2004]

[@Teekitt]

@@onerian8178I swear I was JUST about to comment this lol

[@Peacefulpreface6323]

Philosopher Karl Popper came up with something called “The Paradox of Tolerance.” If everyone is tolerant of every idea, then intolerant ideas will emerge. Tolerant people will tolerate this intolerance, and the intolerant people will not tolerate the tolerant people.

[@animgreppi]

Yeah if everything is canon, nothing is, FU game workshop !! wait wrong channel.

[@blackkakari]

"I'm a woman who identifies as a man but prefers to present as a woman." Talk about taking three lefts to make a right.

[@TheAvprobeauty]

seriously that shit drives me bonkers. years ago before all this crap got totally out of control I was corrected to call a woman with breasts wearing a skirt them. that thats what she preferred. I was like “???” at the time and am still like that.

[@monk3yboy69]

50 year old gay man here and I can say all this confuses the hell out of me. I just avoid all the crazies now. Thank god they wear nose rings and sport coloured hair…… Sure signs to stay the fuck away from them. Like those wonderful coloured poisonius toads you find in nature .

[@tonguepetals]

I knew a girl who pretended to be a man pretending to be a woman. You read that right. That was her whole thing. This was 97 btw. So I’m like…so you’re a girl then? "Yeah, but I get more attention when I tell people I’m that."

[@Enki1013]

Well, she is late to the show by about forty years. Julie Andrews already did this in "Victor/Victoria" and was so much better at it too. Andrews was beautiful as a woman, handsome as a petite guy, and entertaining all the way in that movie.

[@raven4090]

Yeah, and we're supposed to guess what gender they think they are depending on the hour.

[@punklover99]

Can we go back to calling them trans trenders

[@sylvianovartis5538]

yes!! thats exactly what the term that i used in my article

[@Morbid_Freyja27]

Yes! 😂

[@IZaubermausI]

Absolutely!!!

[@lanigirl01]

Transvestite is the better term.

[@tonguepetals]

Never stopped calling them Transtrenders.

[@maryp3212]

I have 2 transgendered friends each transitioned 40 and 35 yrs ago. I have known both since childhood. Neither has ever claimed to be women, even though both quietly fit in. Neither has drawn attention to themselves and hate what is happening now and want no part of this crap. Neither has ever called me a cis-woman because I am not a cis anything, I am a woman.

[@user-ld4xq9nh3s]

Spot on l have trans and gay friends they also do not carryon like this infact they are above these so called ldeologists they are not in my friends league these people just follow each other like sheep

[@kellyastleford1169]

In a world where everyone gets a trophy and society makes it so easy to live without drive to do something real, we are seeing people crying out to feel unique and special in a 30 second trendy world. We have to stop giving them attention

[@user-tz8qi]

how is cisgender a bad word but transgender isnt. its just a label if u dont wanna say u are that label dont

[@ItsJustMe-nq1dg]

@@user-tz8qiIt isn’t needed. Don’t label us. Period! There is male and female. All this “cis” stuff started with this hijacked community. They can be trans men and trans women and leave the rest of us alone.

[@RKingis]

Personally, I would call them transsexuals.

[@mariecherrytree]

Again it seems that personality traits, fashion taste, and kinks have been confused with gender.

[@dustinmartin2369]

Sadly they are how gender is defined or at least observed. They take all the stereotypes and correlations we have with sex (aka gender) of external concepts and things and then reverse apply them to themselves. Quick example: Women tend to have longer hair, therefore if you have longer hair you are a woman. It's bassackwards because it's based on sociology which is a study of emergent phenomenon which is then being incorrectly asserted as hard facts.

[@mariecherrytree]

Gender just is not a personality. If you took my gender away I'd have so much left, hobbies, styles, interests, experiences and connections. With them, their whole personality is their gender, and if you took that away they'd be empty. That's a very sad lonely way to live.

[@ciganyweaverandherperiwink6293]

💯💯👍

[@worsethanhitlerpt.2539]

Isnt a feminine man just a weirdo anyway

[@user-jy9mh8ku3n]

"Valid": the next word being overused, after "inclusive", "diverse", "safe" and "ally". The dictionary is more and more abused.

[@Joe-Przybranowski]

'safe and effective'

[@emyl_g]

I used to not like Marcus being a straight woman who transitioned into a man, I thought thats just meaningless and no point!!! like straight men who become trans women, or AGP but lately I noticed that he have made me learn so much!!!! he's proving that gay fem men are nothing but a straight woman inside as well. !!!!!

[@DeviousFink]

Was gonna say, what does "valid" even mean at this point?

[@CathyKitson]

And the other one is "affirm". Drives me nuts.

[@helenetrstrup4817]

"Transphobic" has lost its meaning, too.

[@Camilingue3]

I have big boobs, especially now after having breastfed 3 babies. Would I feel better about my body if I had smaller boobs? Absolutely. I wish I could take them off and feel so much more comfortable wearing clothes. That does not make me trans tho lol this is so idiotic

[@Giulia-hy8jm]

Exactly! I completely agree with you, it’s the same for me (well, I have breastfed, I don’t have kids yet) but just because I’d love to take them off and feel better, I’m not trans, I, like basically every other woman on this planet have issues with tatas😂

[@Cardinal_claw]

Exactly this, there's pretty clearly some trends within these transtrenders' appearances/mental development stage they're in, and I genuinely think this is just the new labeling of body issues and mental divergence. People who have issues with their body or who struggle to fit in during puberty look for an escape, then can't find one so decided to make one and slap the trans label on it so they couldn't be criticized. Like being emo and doing ouch, or desiring to be """popular""" and developing an ed to lose weight. Anything to fit into your desired community even if it destroys your body.

[@bertille701]

I thought boobs actually lose mass after breastfeeding?

[@karenswank7263]

Yes it is call a breast reduction in medical term i have had one from a 44 /ee to a 36/c feels great on my back and neck now

[@finneth]

gender affirming care can be for cisgender individuals too! a breast reduction actually comes under gender affirmative surgeries because obviously it's to do with your genitalia, and that would of course not make you any less of a woman!

[@NativeGnosis]

The slight feminity you have just comes off to me as being a cute, twinky, gay boy. You keep being you - you're fabulous the way you are.

[@hithisismyusername]

I feel the same way. I sometimes forget Marcus is even trans!

[@SouICoffin]

I completely agree with this. I thought he was a twink for the longest time.

[@latsnojokelee6434]

I think it’s the new haircut. It looks very Roman young boy.-ish.

[@eileencalder2804]

Marcus is a woman who is confused.

[@monk3yboy69]

You forgot to add bitchy little twink 🙂🙂. You’d not want the sharp end of his tongue on a night out 😀😀

[@lukefarrell6769]

Your opening statements rang so true. I'm a man, I'm straight.... I'm also tactile with friends, I'm creative, I enjoy the arts and opera. I cry at certain films and songs. I also like sports, beer and rock music. I am not "fluid" I'm a boring straight man

[@NiaLaLa_V]

Humans are awesome, we can be and do so many things. My big strong military husband also does all my beauty stuff for me, he watches YT videos and then pulls off the perfect female haircut and dye job every time. He also built half the furniture in our house, and he will let his nieces do his hair and nails.

[@ehrenmulleanglewoodpecker]

This is so heartwarming 🥹​@@NiaLaLa_V

[@GOTHICMAMBA35]

My dad is a man and loves to garden ...Yaya gardening

[@valbonney2575]

What they are doing is the absolute opposite of what they say they are doing! They are not opening up 'genders' to be more inclusive and 'fluid', they are closing them down! Apart from the societal constraints of history, men have always been able to express creativity, care-giving, gentleness and intuition; women have always been able to excel (if only privately) in science, mathematics, logical thinking and reason. As you say, just a "boring (NOT!) straight man", just as female astronauts and truck drivers are often just boring straight women!

[@jenniferscott375]

There is no wrong way to be a man.

[@isabelgomez8216]

I think some of these people confused gender dysphoria with regular body dysphoria, such as anorexia (it's an eating disorder but it works with dysphoria). MANY women feel dysphoric about their breasts. Many women with large breasts want a breast reduction, many women with small breasts feel like men or a child and want a breast augmentation. As a female teenager, you tend to have dysphoria because its a CRAZY change, to have these two things pop out even if they're small. You get sexualized so quickly as a girl, it's normal, almost impossible, not to feel uncomfortable in your body, to the point of having dysphoria, cause it's a huge, PHYSICAL+HORMONAL+MENTAL+SOCIATAL change. It's too much! But that does NOT mean you have GENDER dysphoria! You're just going through a human experience.

[@ArachnerdGC]

@@Muf315 I get what you're saying, yes, young men have a lot of bodily changes to contend with too. HOWEVER. Young men don't suddenly have women of ALL AGES staring at your changing body, making lewd suggestions, grabbing your body and generally being sexually threatening towards you. As soon as a girl's breasts start to show a bit of growth, it starts. It can be more frightening than you'll ever be able to comprehend, and it's not your fault that you can't, it's just something boys and young men don't have to deal with on the scale that we females do.

[@ArachnerdGC]

We women have to deal with big changes to our bodies our whole lives. First it's the changes of puberty that you have outlined. Then the massive changes of pregnancy, if you decide to have children. Then when life should be calming down, you start into the menopause and that's a whole new roller-coaster ride. It gets to feel like it's never ending.

[@elizabethfarrowberry7270]

Plus periods every month.

[@ArachnerdGC]

@@elizabethfarrowberry7270 I can't believe I forgot to mention monthly periods. In my defence, it's been a few years now since I had to deal with them. (Hello, menopause!) I suffered for nearly 40 years. Endometriosis, more than half the month "on", less than two weeks "off", so heavy I was anaemic, crippling cramps, you get the idea. Men are blissfully ignorant, they don't get it (and trans identifying men who claim to have periods are unbelievably insulting).

[@tell-me-a-story-]

It must be so horrible to be ogled when your only twelve just because you have breasts. People need to realize that boobs don’t make an adult.

[@aussiefox2000]

Being trans should not mean wearing it like a piece of clothing.

[@PS-qn4oz]

But clothing is central to the whole movement.

[@jamisonfawkes8537]

i was one of those young women with other mental health issues who wound up transitioning. i’m now 29 and looking into breast reconstruction. my medical transition was the biggest mistake of my life, but i still stand with actual transsexuals who benefit from it

[@xiaonline]

I'm sorry for what you went through, I wish you the best :)

[@jenniferscott375]

Damn. You were railroaded.

[@andresanguianozuniga6798]

Since they crafted the term "Cis-Passing" i took the activist lobby ABSOLUTELY NOT SERIOUSLY... The start was not needing "Dysphoria" to transition. What they say, NOT WHAT THEY DO. What they do is just damage.

[@Ana-xk6qe]

The whole auto-identification narrative is ludacris - I feel like a woman, I'm a woman - What's a woman? - There is no definition

[@writerdirect]

the definitions of left and right have gotten skewed; the conservative trans and lgbt are really old fashioned liberals; you cant be leading this life and really be a conservative ; youre just not alligned with the fringe; thank G-d

[@cyano741]

@@Ana-xk6qe Adult human female. Denying reality, is Ludacris.

[@RKingis]

Cis passing was definitely a AgP term!

[@robertmarshall2502]

​@@Ana-xk6qe I find some of the extremists have gone even further What's a trans woman? There is no definition So now it's "A (meaningless) is (meaningless)" Then they demand into single-sex female spaces.

[@lb2180]

"Okay so maybe this was a bad choice, I'm going to be a biological woman, who identifies as a man and am on horomones for that but I still want my woman privilege also!" - Some parts of the Trans community And if you have to inform others that you're valid, you're really not.

[@creatrixZBD]

Also, if you have to claim you have been “invalidated, “ you haven’t. You exist, you can’t be “invalidated” by others lol

[@tula1433]

100% I’m always hearing how the trans movement is “deeply misogynistic” etc, but actually it’s very misandrist also! The bio female “trans masc non binarys” are changing language like “chest feeding” “mestruator” etc and trying to redefine manhood into a spectrum. Trans women keep getting the blame for the new words like chestfeeder, but it’s almost always trans masc or non binary bio females doing it! They refuse to just take part in normal manhood anymore and want to redefine the entire way the world works. Now they want “trans men tampon boxes” etc. An actual dysphoria suffering transsexual man would never want attention called to that! They are also always entirely discriminatory against bio “cis” men, or as they call them “straight cis men”. They literally want to hold on to their female privilege and feel like they have the right to use womens rooms even when they present masculine because they are bio females and “know what women go through”. They claim they don’t want to be women but then they refuse to use the mens room, or assimilate into the mens social group at all. They keep calling themselves “non men”, which is very transphobic to imply a transsexual man can’t socially be a man after he transitioned. The whole have your cake and eat it too mentality alot of these born female “queer” types have is the epitome of female entitlement. They don’t care who they offend or make uncomfortable, it’s all about them.

[@GaelleFrance]

what "woman privilege"...?

[@michellej1372]

You can get obsessed with something and think it means everything at a young age and then suddenly it doesn’t and you’ve had irreversible surgery. If they were born at a different time or in a different culture they wouldn’t have ended up like this. It’s a sad time for for young people.

[@valbonney2575]

This is exactly what I kept thinking while watching the video ... what happens when they grow up? It's a fad, and will probably die down after a while, but such a harmful fad with long-lasting and often irreversible effects. I'm very concerned for their future health and happiness 😥

[@Werewolfwrath]

The big problem with this for me is that when these activists are actually able to provide an answer to the infamous "What is a woman?" question that isn't just "whoever identifies as one", they usually say something along the lines of "someone who presents or expresses themselves in a feminine way", thereby erasing the identities of masculine women, aka tomboys, in the process. Yet, for some reason, they also repeatedly say that drag queens aren't the same as trans women, despite the former meeting the same "presenting/expressing themsevles as feminine" requirements as the latter. And now they're saying that trans men can be feminine too, even though being feminine is what many of them claim being a woman really means. All the while, they continue to say that a cis-gendered woman that acts traditionally feminine perpetuates harmful standards/stereotypes towards women. These contradicting and ever-changing arugments they keep making are why I can't agree with them at all, even though I'm usually a pretty open-minded person.

[@tula1433]

Perfect comment! I could of wrote that myself! These people say they don’t believe in gender roles, and then they say “I felt masculine today so I wore a suit and tie!” 😂 and the next day they say “I felt feminine today so I wore a dress!” It’s so regressive, and a complete colonization and erasure of actual transsexuals. Non binary is a political identity which is why you’ll never find a deeply religious or conservative non binary.

[@NiaLaLa_V]

Exactly. I'm already not good at sports, so if the goal posts keep moving I definitely can't play this game.

[@jessicaguarin3897]

but Drag Queen is not an identity.... Dragqueen is more of a flamboyant performance art, an acting job, a character.... As far as I understand, you can work as a drag queen even if you are straight, gay or trans. The only requirement is to be flamboyant.

[@jenniferscott375]

There is no wrong way to be a woman, or a man.

[@MikeM-uy6qp]

they have no problem with stereotypical masculinity and femininity, so long as it doesn't line up with your gonads.

[@AMKB01]

I had "top surgery" about 20 years ago. It was a medically necessary reduction mammoplasty. Before the surgery, I seriously considered getting down to an A cup, but settled on a B. My surgeon actually tried to persuade me to go to a C cup, because it would be "more proportionate to [my] size". The reduction was substantial enough that I basically had my chest reconstructed, including reducing the size of my areola and relocating them. I've never quite regained the feeling in my nips because of this, and I still have visible scars. It was the best decision I ever made. When I was given information about the surgery in advance, one of the things I read was that a reduction had the highest post surgical positivity than any other type of plastic surgery, and I can understand why. Which is what it was. Plastic surgery. It may have been medically necessary for me, but what these girls suddenly happy with their "top surgery" did was get a cosmetic reduction mammoplasty. They got boob jobs. Just to be smaller, instead of bigger. Which has absolutely nothing to do being trans or "masc". It's like getting a nose job. You can get plastic surgery without pretending to be trans, for crying out loud!!

[@mrsb3650]

You are a breath of fresh air and sanity in this increasingly mad world.

[@chefnyc]

This dude is pretty normal human being. I would totally hang out with him. But the leftist ideologues, I am afraid to say hello. A single mistake with their pronouns, I would be fired from my job. Obviously when their apperances don’t match the pronoun, I have cognitive dissonance and make mistakes.

[@aniimako]

really appreciated the little OCD mention, for many years it ruined my life as well as my dad's who also has it. we have it under control now but it'll always be part of us. Just appreciate you being well educated on it, means a lot to see

[@Yuukichan1888]

A lot of trans men have more feminine mannerisms and energy but that makes sense given they were raised female but they don't act or present feminine

[@jean-louispech4921]

trans keep features from before transition. This is why trans women are the most annoying , because in fact they are sill under the bad spectrum of men attitudes, that make them more prone to aggressiveness, dominance, etc... changing their appearance can't change this.

[@1tommyday]

Most of them are gay men. And that's all

[@jaygoodwin8833]

Even after transition, original socialization doesnt really change. MTF still act like aggresive and entitled males. FTM are more submissive and fall to the wayside in transactivism because nobody cares about real women. Trans rights is just Mens rights in drag.

[@britpoppansy]

Oh hell, Marcus. You describe the gender dysphoria so well. I won't even get pink anything. Not a pink shirt. Not a pink washcloth. There's no way in hell I'm wearing any makeup. I'm NOT GOING TO wear girl clothes. The misery if I had to for some bizarre reason!!

[@AshDenArt]

Same here, man. It feels like a punch in the gut to even imagine wearing anything feminine. Let alone long hair and makeup. Gender dysphoria sucks ass.

[@LiteraryStoner]

Growing up I wasn't accepted in so many ways (physically disabled, neurodivergent, lgbt) and it hurt so much that I have a strong desire to never cause someone else that pain. I don't want to be "that asshole" that I had to deal with. But omg WTF is going on?! I can't even watch tiktok anymore. So many "trans men" make my trans man ass dysphoric just LOOKING at them. And my brain struggles between "don't be that asshole by telling them they are crazy and not trans like they say they are. You know how awful that feels. Keep an open mind." and wanting to scream "They are nuts!!" It's gotten to the point nothing, not even words, make any sense anymore.

[@Ilivedbih]

My friend feels the same, it upsets him that ppl without gender dysphoria appropriate with what he suffers with, he calls it a mockery. I'm sorry you have to go through this and these people don't make it any easier with their bs.

[@emmapeel8163]

that's the point. removing our ability to communicate effectively by confusing definitions. how can we come to a consensus or compromise if we're using different definitions?!

[@gbird007]

Yeah but it's obvious most of these people are delusional about what gender dysphoria is or they're flat out lying for attention

[@jyyyb]

Your good , we don’t judge

[@El_Ophelia]

👍

[@jenniferscott375]

I am a sixty year old artist. I have lived on the fringe my whole life and have met a variety of very cool and interesting people including transsexuals. I have always been extremely tolerant of diverse interesting expressive people. However, I have become incredibly intolerant of transposers and activists who impose they're narcissistic identity on me. I am no longer interested in these kinds of people. I have swung so far right, that my head is spinning. I am shocked and yet I am comforted in the land of common sense. I happily dwell here now.

[@CorvinusAnimus]

Im a therapist and I just want to clarify something, BPD actually stands for Borderline Personality Disorder not bipolar disorder.

[@luckybasiltea]

I was thinking the same thing, common misconception but thanks for pointing it out :)

[@jacks4705]

Yes, thank you for saying🙏🏻

[@danon.7777]

Honestly it’s kinda hard to not mix them up lol. I have BPD and I often mix the names up

[@ingloriousMachina]

Post op trans guy who paints his nails and wears eyeliner =/= woman who doesn't even try.

[@ingloriousMachina]

@@doid4354 I said post op... I'd say that's trying.

[@MizrahiChick]

We aren't supposed to be confused ?

[@Ilivedbih]

​@@doid4354 I think OP meant actual trans who are trying to pass but like makeup etc. for example my trans guy friend is a metalhead and does the Ozzy Osborne eyeshadow but you wouldn't think he's a female

[@hithisismyusername]

@@Ilivedbihthat’s different than wearing full “drag” makeup and looking feminine though.

[@TheAvprobeauty]

@@Ilivedbihyes when they said polish and liner I assumed black pigment and metal music 😂❤

[@nvanswol8444]

I was just thinking about this. If your existence is valid in and of itself, it shouldn’t matter if I consider it valid or not. I think the idea that we have to validate everyone even people we don’t know or agree with is wild.

[@burnoutworld804]

When they said that Non binary is also Trans, literally the entire human anatomy and sexuality lost its meaning. Im still searching for one argument from these people, that will make actual human sense. I literally taugt no on from this community is normal anymore. I am soooo greatfull that i found you Marcus.......

[@jecarlin]

What is there to trans to if you aren't binary? Non-binary trans is a literal contradiction.

[@taylorbowser571]

Eh, I feel like some non-binary people are trans. Like, if you're pursuing physical transition, and altering your presentation and secondary (or primary) sex characteristics, that seems transsexual to me. But the people who feel no desire to transition physically should probably stop IDing as trans, I agree.

[@lavender-rex]

what is your definition of trans?

[@burnoutworld804]

@@lavender-rex A person suffering from gender dysphoria that socially and medically transitions to appear as the opposite sex

[@rileyknight358]

As a trans man, I hate that I still have curves and my voice is still not as deep as I'd like. 20 years of transitioning and this is as good as it gets for me. But I definitely wouldn't make it worse by still wanting to look feminine. The few traits I still have still bother me. There's no way I'd do anything to give people the impression that I'm even *more* feminine.

[@AmberMcMillan-nw5jb]

The question is; What is the solution?? How do we save these people? How do we get them to understand that they are perfectly special JUST AS THEY ARE. That there is no need to act like that, think like that, alter your body etc. It's like their parents never taught them how to love themselves nor loved them either. So many of these people look like they need a hug. And it's actually truly crazy how they are so self UNaware that they can't tell that everyone else CAN tell, that they are only doing all of this for attention. They will lose their minds fighting that fact but I wish they would use that energy to rather fight for their sanity, fight for their self love, fight to see the truth and realise that just being themselves is enough. Funny how 99% of these people live in 1st world countries... i.e. they don't need to focus on surviving and have way too much time on their hands. Imagine if they used all of this energy to volunteer and help others... the world would truly be a better place. I can't wait for this phase to pass. I just pray the next generation see the truth. And so rreal trans people can just live their lives in future aswell = without all this nonsense.

[@taylorbowser571]

I honestly don't think most of these people are even aware that they're seeking attention/community/validation. I think some of it is loneliness, some of it is a weak sense of self, and some is a genuine confusion about what "gender" as a concept even is. Hell, watching too many gender abolitionist TikToks sent _me_ into a brief tailspin this year, and I've been dysphoric and out as trans for almost a decade. It's just hard to know what "man" and "woman" really mean at this point. And without some stable definition, it's very easy to get lost - especially if you're in an online echo chamber with a million other people who believe the same exact very confusing things. I'm sure it'll all blow over in the next 7-8 years. It's the same as when straight teens in the 90s and 2000s wanted to experiment with bisexuality, or went through an aggressive emo phase. Young adults just do this kind of thing. They join some super weird fringe-culture, declare very loudly "this is who I am!", but look back and cringe once they grow out of it. Mostly, it's a shame that people aren't stopping at social transition, and are actually committing to medical changes. But, in the grand scheme of things, I don't think it's really anything new. I mean, look at the Free Love movement in the 1970s. For a hot second there, all the young liberals were polyamorous hippies dropping ridiculous amounts of LSD. And then, suddenly, they all had office jobs and boring marriages and 2.5 kids. The solution is making mistakes and learning from them, and therapy, and more careful evaluations of who should actually be approved for medical treatment. And, good lord, reinstating clubs and free social activities so people have some other avenue for developing a social identity and community.

[@jenniferscott375]

Exactly. I tell the parents of these delusional kids to get them out of their safe Bubbles and go volunteer overseas or with veterans or seniors to get a real perspective on life.

[@sunkissG]

I’m a natural woman with 68 years life experience and rarely but once in a while be feminine. I’m not male I just don’t dresses ofter and detest pink

[@notyourordinarygran]

I am 66 years young and I detest make up, wear comfy clothes and shoes. I rode large motorbikes in my 30s and was with my beloved husband for almost 30 years.

[@zillaxmiejiunki]

Exactly, I don’t understand why these girls won’t just be tomboys instead of claiming an identity that isn’t theirs

[@schreckeninecken2583]

You go, girls! That does not make a woman trans, lmao! What kind of sick world are we living in?

[@LisainNewJersey]

As a woman, I would freak out if I had to wear a dress, wig, and makeup. The last time I wore a dress was in the late 1990s.

[@baileycaywood8719]

Literally me too.

[@sarahc.839]

Marcus, I saw someone on Instagram the other day, a very hairy, very clearly masculine man with a full beard with painted nails making a response to someone saying that he was really coming into his masculinity and looked happy. His response was that he was a woman, and every single comment was “trans women don’t owe you passing” and “You’re so pretty!” Cmon people. Come ON. I don’t rag on peoples appearances, but come on, this guy is not a pretty woman with a beard, he is a guy who needs professional help. What are we even doing? Thank you for always emphasizing that what you are isn’t what’s changing, and for being so honest and straightforward about your dysphoria.

[@waynemclaughlin96]

It's you, Marcus, that deserves 40,000 likes and not those wannabe trans.

[@gatoradefan22]

the glazing is insane

[@walker_ntr]

Broke my ankles running to this when I saw the yt notification. Love your videos Marcus!

[@weswolever7477]

I hope you sought immediate medical attention as soon you got done watching the video

[@divvy5310]

Fell flat on my face when I saw you posted this

[@SumeetaRam555]

As someone with ocd , thank you for that ♥️

[@salomeprudhoe5471]

The woman who is so happy wearing the cute top had a breast reduction to feel more comfortable - I totally understand that. Breast reduction is completely different from a double mastectomy.

[@_Lord_of_Misrule_]

I'm a transsexual man and I love pink. Colours obviously have no gender but I do the absolute utmost to pass because I still experience absolutely no beard growth and my voice is still too feminine so I sure as hell won't wear anything pink. The gender dysphoria that not passing gives me every single day is draining enough, why would I give people yet another clue that I'm a biological female? Those "neo trans" people, as I like to call them, have no idea what being an actual transsexual is like.

[@XVampirladyShizukaX]

All these women who describe themselves as trans men seem to me as if they are trying to emulate the very feminine look of Korean boy bands, some of which can actually look very feminine. Or maybe even the style of femboys from anime.

[@user-uc9pe2bg7g]

Yeah O-O

[@taylorbowser571]

This is pretty accurate. There's a lot of fetishization/objectification of asian men and queer men in fandom spaces (doubly so of queer asian men). And, unsurprisingly, there are also a ton of people IDing as transmasc non-binary in those very same spaces. A lot of it is fujoshi bullshit. I will say, though, that some of these people will turn out to indeed be trans men. Going from a very feminine presentation to totally masculine all at once can be _very_ jarring and a bit uncomfortable, even if you do suffer from gender dysphoria. It's such a huge and unfamiliar change. Especially because others around you will start to treat you with a lot more distance/coldness once they stop seeing you as a girl. Men aren't treated with the same friendliness and warmth. When you're not expecting that, it's surprising and honestly kind of painful. I went through an overtly feminine phase early in my transition just because it made things feel less abrupt, which honestly helped a lot. I've settled now and present the same as any other guy in my area, but transitioning gradually was ultimately a healthy choice for me. Of course, a lot of these people are actually making a mistake. It's important to recognize where discomfort with your body/identity might be coming from, and address that carefully, rather than jumping to the conclusion of "I should transition" or "I definitely shouldn't transition".

[@XVampirladyShizukaX]

@@taylorbowser571 Very well spoken indeed. I'm glad you are happy with how your life turned out to be and yes, its harder to be a man than a woman, even with transitioning. My Ex-Boyfriend is trans and he suffered a lot while going through all this, from woman to man. And yet, some asian guys are just blessed with a very beautiful, alsmost Feminine face and/or features. I grew up with J-rock and Visual Kei and if you google these japanese bands from the early 2000s you see how cute and also feminine these boys were and some still are to this day, even though they are all in their mid 40s and early 50s now. Same with the young korean bands either male or female, these people look so elegant and young and beautiful, I see why many want to be like that. Also, maybe its just my female brain thinking like that but femboys are pretty damn cute and I guess thats the goal for some, not all of these Girls. But Transitioning should be very well thought out. I had times in my life I thought I would never be a "Real" woman and it would be better to be a man. Today I see that I'm fine with being who I am. Stuff like that needs to be thought over and over again and after that, more thoughts. And all people with real gender dysphoria, I hope they get the help they need to finally be happy with themself.

[@XVampirladyShizukaX]

@@user-uc9pe2bg7g Yeah because Femboys are cute. I have to say that, I think these asian Femboys are really cute.

[@iosafnc]

Marcus breaking character is the funniest thing. I burst out laughing at "Cwee- Cweechures? What the fuck" (2:18) 😭😭😭 Protect this fella at all costs lmfao

[@ItsMeggieChan]

Think he meant to say "qualities" and then went to say "features 😂

[@Bongwater6920]

I have BPD and am a transexual biological woman and I avoid relationships like the plague or any romance or happiness outside of my family because when I was unmedicated for my bpd with my ex bf I hurt him alot and he hurt me, he left after near four years. He was getting fed up of my addictions, unrealistic expectations, my need for routine and not being able to have much physical intimacy sexually because I would cry and have panic attacks due to my bad past. I was a terrible and toxic person to be with and I worry that I still am so I unintentionally push people away when my mental health gets bad as I find it's easier for me to come with internalising my bpd so I don't risk hurting anyone or the ones I love. I also have possible autism but I'm still waiting for my last appointment to get a yes or a no. My mental health isn't great but my family and pets keep me going. When I look at my past self, I see an insecure girl, whos brainwashed lib AF, who is gebder confused and thinks their "gender fluid" lmao. I'm a good bit different now, I put my mental health first, take care of my family, struggling to cope with being a transexual but I'm keeping myself safe. I have incredibly thick skin now because I had to mature and stand on my own two feet quickly growing up. Now that I've woke up and gave myself a good mental slap, I laugh in histericrics at all the lib shit my family and old past self would probably said. I'm near 22, no genius, nothing special, just trying take every day as they come but I've still got a bit of growing up to do emotionally at times and I tend to take life too seriously.

[@Kizzalovespugs]

You sound incredibly self aware . Well done it's a rare thing to come across. Keep going ❤😊🎉

[@bikeboatboard]

Wait, Borderline or Bipolar illness? Big difference and you can't really medicate Borderline.😮

[@violetvixxxprovixen6682]

Sir, this is a Wendy’s.

[@joen4642]

You don't have to push people away. Tell them uou sometimes need breaks to deal and it's never about them. Good people understand that. Good people might need to talk about it to be sure when it happens but they will try and get to know you. I'm autistic. You still need people. Good people.

[@bikeboatboard]

Meds do very little for Borderline personality disorder. It will help to refocus on DBT or behavioral management. Again, meds do very little...

[@ceerd2094]

Ezra wore that top before she got top surgery. She is very dishonest

[@memi_0w0]

I think he meant he could never wear it without feeling somewhat dysphoric💀

[@ceerd2094]

@memi_0w0 that's not what she said and that's not the narrative she tries to push now. Everything she says contradicts what her older videos show

[@barryledgister4496]

@@ceerd2094 Exactly. Suddenly she`s all trans and queer and gay, but she`s only done two video shorts about Pride events this Month, and shows no knowledge of or interest in trans issues at all.

[@melissamurray8307]

What happened to just being a tomboy?

[@CountesssBathory]

Lets bring back asylums

[@jaygoodwin8833]

And shame

[@CountesssBathory]

@@jaygoodwin8833 absolutely

[@swxxtee]

5:30 i used to follow this person on tiktok a couple years ago, back in like 2019. at the time, she was only a bisexual woman. it’s sad to see where she’s at now 💔

[@joce_vlogs16]

R u talking about Ezra butler, if so her whole thing is so sad. I just know in a few years she’s going to have regrets about testosterone and top surgery.

[@bobsuruncle2088]

As a 51 year old transman who mostly lives being stealth , I thank you for speaking out about this. It gives me hope that the world hasn't gone completly bonkers.

[@Spacemutiny]

Thank you for saying what you did about other disorders like OCD. As someone who developed severe OCD at a young age, it took years of therapy and medication (which I still take daily) to overcome it. Wanting to check the stove again before you leave or being neat is NOT OCD. You don’t want to know what the real thing is.

[@jaygoodwin8833]

May I ask which medication? Im a severe case and failing ERP...

[@Spacemutiny]

@@jaygoodwin8833 I am taking the generic Lexapro. It has worked out well for me. I believe Lexapro helps with the OCD but also has a second purpose as a mood enhancer. I am NOT a doctor however so definitely talk about it with whoever you are seeing.

[@Loki-and-Thor]

Marcus: “You acting like you know what it’s like to deal with the disorder, reminds me of this video.” KZbin: Ad for Harry Potter Wizarding World soap. I was so confused at first until I realised that it was an ad and not some weird TikTok video. 🤦‍♀️

[@nicolenewsome4863]

He does know what it's like living with the disorder!

[@Loki-and-Thor]

@@nicolenewsome4863I know Marcus does. I was quoting what he said at around 3:04 and thought it was the video that Marcus was reacting to when the Harry Potter soap ad came on and got confused for a second as no trans activist would want to be associated with Harry Potter.

[@foreverengland6590]

This movement has gone beyond ridiculous and they need to be stopped they have been given to much power and influence.

[@honeyshor3016]

The ocd comparison is spot on. I deal with ocd and I don't even recognize my own ocdness taking over me and then when someone calls something trivial ocd so casually I don't mind I'm not triggered but I think to myself no b1tch were not the same. Ocd is not being able to get out of your room, touch things, drive a car just function like a human being for days on. I have trouble calling out my ocd. It's a mental disorder it worked ur mind. So I get what ur saying a little bit about cos playing a mental disorder. Wellness to all. God bless u Marcus. Am Israel Chai❤

[@DanteKingOfSin]

I feel very heard by this video. It bothers me so much when women who are clearly completely fine with being women claim to be trans. And what's with the borderline autogynaphilic behaviour in women who consume a shit ton of gay pr0n and yaoi? A lot of my past female friends who obsessed over gay men and yaoi are suddenly "he/hims" and "they/thems". Wtf?

[@tkps]

There's always been women fascinated by I guess the unknown in gay men to the point they romanticise and even fantacise about it. Never realised they were going as far as he himming themselves. Hopefully they mature out of that. It's okay if you recognise it for what it is and more or less keep it to yourself - read your books, have your fantasies etc. Just don't expect the world to be interested and certainly don't demand it be involved.

[@Livingwithtbp]

A trans man being a dragqueen seems like an oxymoron

[@jenniferscott375]

Right? I have an actress friend who lived in NYC in the 80's. The only job She could find, was as a drag queen. She was a dancer with a very muscular body. She was fired after 3 weeks when they found out that she was a woman!😅

[@Myomyo-rx9ph]

Lol

[@lavender-rex]

are men who do drag women then lol

[@aga7548]

androgyny has been around for ages and is nothing to do with gender dysphoria, these people should understand you can be a female with masculine qualities or the other way round without being trans 😭

[@giraffezebra2698]

Why do most of them have neon hair, nose rings and clown makeup?

[@jenniferscott375]

Attention seekers.

[@hwangmiyeon1001]

It's their uniform

[@_Eisley]

So basically me, a woman who looks, dresses, acts and feels like a woman who doesn't have gender dysphoria can say could simply say I'm a trans man and people would say "cool" and I'm automatically in the lgbt community and part of a minority who must be protected. That means I can do and say anything I want, and I would be defended Awesome And if someone does ask me if I'm dysphoric I can just say I hate my fat ass therefore because of this one thing I hate about myself, i suffer from dysphoria. I got it all figured out, thanks Tik Tok

[@Dwarficus]

Slight correction; the idiot kicking in her door states BPD not bipolar disorder. If she had been bipolar we would have seen guilt and embarassment on her face, instead of the "what am I going to do next" face we get.

[@corajeanmcnulty2238]

I'm assuming BPD means something different then. What does it actually stand for?

[@Dwarficus]

@@corajeanmcnulty2238 Borderline personality disorder. On paper BPD and bipolar sound alike but in practice these are very different. I'm bipolar and have friends with BPD, we are very different. I'm emotional as hell (I used to joke about being jealous of pregnant women and their level of control), on meds I have about 125% of normal emotional range (off meds it's about 200%), which explains why it appears that we have mood swings (when you feel a strong emotion, which our emotions usually are, you lean into it). BDP suffers don't have this emotional issue. A lot of their mood swings seem to be more a side effect of not being able to deal with their impulsive nature. Whilst bipolars have our moments, we tend to react emotionally to our mistakes and in most cases feel regret, might not mention it but our ruminations will force us to remember it. On a side note bipolar actually closer to schizophrenia, same brain chemistry, even the same medication. When a person has both it's renamed to Schizoaffective Disorder.

[@Dwarficus]

BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD sufferers tend to be more hardwired to be selfish, whilst bipolars being more emotional then a pregnant woman tend to make us worry about these around us. There as a lot of differences but these are two that most people can easily notice.

[@corajeanmcnulty2238]

Ta, thanks

[@Scelestious]

Wow way to call me and many many other people selfish when you clearly know very little about bpd. BPD and bipolar are similar with the issue of feeling things very extremely. When things are bad you are absolutely dying inside and when things are good well thats where we are different because we don’t get those high highs. We also switch from terrible to fine very very quickly. There is also the issue of attachment and feeling abandoned when your favorite person breaks up with you or leaves in some way. We feel extremely and we put a lot on our relationships that can make it had and suffocating for the other person. I can be emotional yes but I am far from selfish and very self aware. I feel extremely guilty and terrible after a big emotional outburst. There is so much stigma on bpd already stop adding to it. We are not monsters. All of you people are 🙄

[@lisarogers4715]

Your little giggle and wtf was so funny, it's nice to see you laugh since you're usually quite serious!

[@wiggleman12345]

To man people I’m probably an old fart but I’ve a teen daughter and this stuff concerns me because of all the social pressures to be what she’s not. Thank you for making great videos, being so honest about your feelings and mental health. You are freaking awesome, thank you. I’ve learned so much from your content!

[@njm1971nyc]

Thank God for Marcus. Seriously. Without people like this, being outspoken about present-day trans nonsense, I'd feel like I'm the only "LGBT person" who isn't going mentally insane. I got lectured the other day - by someone on Grindr - God, the irony - for having "they/them" pronouns in my "I'm not into" list. If someone is "offended" by me not being into "genderless" people, tough!! I want a MAN, not a "they". Even my straight brother-in-law is too woke for his own good. His response to me saying I wasn't into black men was "that's a bit racist!". Huh?? By that logic, if he said he wasn't into men, that would be "a bit sexist", right?! FFS... we're not even allowed to say what we're into/not into these days, for fear of "offending" someone. Life is too short to waste time on the "permanently offended". I daren't even say in my dating profiles that I'm only into (what we use to call) "straight-acting" white guys. That used to be a perfectly acceptable term, and it conveyed a very useful meaning. Ughh...modern life is so messed up. Anyway, Go Marcus!! Keep it coming. One of the few voices of reason in the LGBT KZbin space. And yes, I do purposely stop at T in the acronym. I'm surprised W hasn't yet been added, for "weirdos"...just give it a year or two...it'll appear. Sigh.

[@MizrahiChick]

I SO get what you mean. I am not supposed to even exist as a straight chick. I want a man also , if I bothered at all , but have been viewed as a bigot for not being interested in women. I don't think I am a bigot for not being attracted to women, I just am not ! I don't think you are racist because you are not attracted into black men, We are having to defend ourselves for what we ARE NOT ?!!

[@zillaxmiejiunki]

Yess!!! I’m a lesbian and sick of all these new labels that don’t make sense. I remember getting bullied off an online coding platform because I claimed that I didn’t support non binary or xenogenders. People literally threatened to doxx me over this. It’s so embarrassing what our world has come to.

[@ninjawizard3865]

Does anyone still wonder why some of us think it's gone too far long ago??

[@ninjawizard3865]

Nothing to see here folks everything is fine you are crazy.

[@nicolenewsome4863]

​@@MizrahiChick I so get what you mean people like us that are straight and white and biological women are now treated like second class citizens in this world now seriously like WTF I'm so tired of this crap!

[@raythunder8619]

Yeah, about that "trans" man that talked about their top not fitting them before, they were a non-binary person and hated their tits because they were big. I can relate to that since I also have heavy knockers that make it difficult to fit into things I find pretty or cute. But that's a typical female experience. Some many fmelaes hate their bodies because they don't fit the female body standard. That is an trans man issue, that is a female issue alone. I think the last time I checked that person's page, they were actually trying to look more masculine, but that was probably just a temporary thing.

[@denisadellinger4543]

Thank you so much, sweetie for educating us on gender dysphoria. It makes things so understandable and I can have real compassion. It starts with each state making laws about transition. Or there needs to be huge medical law suits.

[@rebeccaaustin8996]

I had hand washing OCD. It was ridiculous. I washed my hands at least three times each time. (Which was about every 10 mins regardless of if I'd touched anything). Different activities would require me to wash my hands a different amount of times. Like if I touch my dog it was 6 times. If I was about to eat food it was 5 times. If I touched dirty water it was 6 times. If touched someone else's hands it was 6 times, if I touched a door or hand rail it was 4 times. Ect. Eating food was hard because I couldn't touch the food I was eating. I used washing up liquid instead of soap because I thought it was stronger. my hands would dry up, crack and bleed. My sweet dad was the only one that found it worrying. He used to water down the washing up liquid 😂. I knew every time and would have to double how many times I needed to wash my hands because the soap was weaker. I don't know what made me stop. I think it was getting the dog Because I loved that dog so much but I was spending so much time at the sink it got too much even for me. Now I still wash my hands slightly more than normal. But I'm OCD clear. It was definitely a debilitating condition when I had it. Took up so much of my life.

[@Touchgrassplz]

Marcus is the voice of reason we need this Pride Month!! Thank you for all you do !

[@jenniferscott375]

Pride month is a joke. We need Pride day.

[@thelilredhead7005]

I have a lot of discomfort about my breasts. They are very large and are mostly fatty tissue so they aren't very good for breastfeeding. So, like, what's the fuckin point? Nothing, just meatbags on my chest. I've gotten a bit heavier so most of my extra weight has gone to my boobs which made me go up a cup size. Almost an E cup 😭 I don't want them gone but even a single D cup would be so much more manageable. I didn't like my breasts when they first grew, and I don't like them now, but I'm still a woman and I love most everything else about being a woman.

[@Xaforn]

Mine aren’t that big but I get the point, I hated puberty so much. Didn’t like that my chest was changing, hips etc. I didn’t want curves, I wanted to stay the same as I was, it was not a fun time at all. I couldn’t see what the other girls were so excited about. As an adult now, yeah I’ve adjusted and life just goes on.

[@Tif_art_]

I feel you girl. Same here. It used to make me think I'm trans, because anytime i gain weight the only place it shows is my breasts- which makes me very uncomfortable and aware of that body part specifically, but still like any other part. So i used to think that because i like my whole body but not my breasts, it must mean I should be a guy. (I also have a haircut similar to Marcus's, long hair makes me very uncomfortable for some reason, so that adds to it) but after some time of using mixed pronouns (which, tbh, made me feel very good because i felt like I'm getting special attention and that people really cared about me) i realised how stupid it was. I can be a woman even if i don't like my breasts, and that's completely fine. And also there are much better ways to feel like people care about you than act like something you aren't.

[@azuropixie5703]

Today a trans man was talking about bottom surgery in the Neopets discord. I was disgusted, that's not what I wanted to read about on my nostalgic childhood game discord server. 🤮

[@nootnewt04]

I used to be a transmasculine nonbinary person. NEVER. AGAIN. never, ever in a million years. I was a dumb teenager, and i'll be real with you about what the whole nonbinary experience is, or atleast in my case: Trying to feel something, literally anything. Misery and praise are the substance i abused, and the substance many of these nonbinary women and men use. I had the opposite of what dysphoria was, however that wasn't to say it didn't feel dysphoric. I hated wearing dresses because it was something my mom controlled over me. she bought all of my clothes as a teen. The gender stuff was experimentation that evolved into expectation. At first i gave it a try because everyone's doing it, and it pulled me in like a drug, because you know what? people were validating me for it.. they were giving me positive attention that i otherwise at that point rarely recieved. PRAISE, love, acceptance. It was a lie. Even if it wasn't intended to be by my peers at the time that fell into that same lie. It killed me more than once... thank god i never got surgery. Its like you're moon-blinked, you fall asleep and when you wake up you're never the same. It has to take something world shattering to wake you up and again, thank god my world was shattered. You out there with genuine dysphoria, or those who woke up from thinking you were trans too late... you aren't alone, and don't make anyone feel like you are. You are strong and you can get through this.. do not let people tell you you are a horrible person for waking up, or knowing what is or isn't reality.

[@kellysouter4381]

Hold on. The female wearing little girls clothes is not mentally a woman. I don't know any women who wear little pink dresses and frilly little socks. Right now im in a jumper, trousers and women's shoes.

[@lydiasinclair1126]

Always hated my breasts. Even had a reduction when I was 18. Had a lot to do with what I went through as a child but also due to the size. The surgeon refused to do what I asked for. He would not go down to the size I wanted. So they grew back over time with weight gain.

[@lanigirl01]

My Dr requested the reduction I had in college cause my spine was turning. Harder surgery to recover from then my brain surgery. But the best surgery ever.

[@user-uc9pe2bg7g]

Omg i agreed with everything you said its literally what I've been saying for 2 years (btw love you Marcus you helped me accept being a biological woman living life as a guy and living with gender dysphoria so thank you your videos made me feel less alone surrounded by brainless woke people :3)

[@megsley]

so much misogyny from these young women, as if being a woman is the absolute worst thing a person could be.

[@MikeM-uy6qp]

the whole movement is completely reactionary, based on very rigid ideas of what male and female mean. The only differ from conservative views of gender in that they separate gender from bodies, thus positing gendered souls. It's the world's dumbest religion.

[@SiNCERELYTAYY1]

So basically she just wanted a breast reduction

[@katherynet1424]

So what do they think trans actually means? I thought it was supposed to be mean transition? They aren't transitioning they are using it for a political sledge hammer.

[@user-si6xt5rn5l]

Let's all live in Peru

[@taylorbowser571]

I agree with some of what you say, but a lot of your points feel a bit reductive. The only qualifications for being transsexual are gender dysphoria and the desire to physically transition. If we're all allowed to be different, why place other restrictions on it? Like, I have gender dysphoria, I have assimilated into mainstream society, _and_ I'd like mainstream society to make some changes. Those traits are not mutually exclusive. It's the same with being a trans man and wanting to occasionally express a feminine side. Look at Kurt Kobain, or Prince, or David Bowie. Those are all men who "dressed pretty". They were cool as fuck, and when I get to a point in my transition where I have the freedom to explore that level of gender-nonconformity without looking like a woman, you better believe that I'll do it. Being trans has already limited me in so many ways - relationships, friendships, my ability to have biological children with a female partner. I'm not going to let it stop me more than it has to. If I would've wanted something as a cis man, I'll still want it as a trans man. And, so long as it doesn't prevent me from passing in my day to day life, I'm going to go after it. If anything, being able to express femininity from a male place, the way cis men do, can be a deeply healing and affirming experience. If I could get onstage and perform drag, and _still_ have people see me as a man impersonating a woman, that'd be incredible for me! And, Marcus, let's be real for a moment. The trans male drag queen you call a woman looks pretty damn indistinguishable from cis male drag queens. He's got a full beard. The "curves" he's showing off are, at least partially, obvious padding. You don't know if he has dysphoria or not, and it's not really your call. He has transitioned, he seems to pass very well, and he happens to like an activity that queer men often engage in. Who the hell cares? I did theater growing up, and a ton of the roles that look the most fun to me as an adult were traditionally meant for women. I'd still perform them given the chance! Why? Because it's _fun_ . Just because your dysphoria prevents you from being comfortable with that sort of thing, does not automatically mean no "real" trans man can ever enjoy it. And it's fine for you to consider yourself a woman, if you like. But it feels odd to claim that that's factually true of all trans men, without any room for disagreement or nuance. Ideas about what "gender" is vary a lot, even among scholars. Some people see it as exclusively internal, some as exclusively dependent on social role, and others as exclusively biological. And a person's biology can change, too. Unless you're going only off of chromosomes or gamete production, you can pretty easily change elements of your sex. Primary and secondary sexual characteristics are mutable, hormone levels are mutable. We're at a point, medically, where sex itself can reasonably be considered mutable. We also don't understand gender dysphoria all that well yet. Maybe it's a mental disorder with no physical component. But it could also be a physical condition that causes mental anguish. We simply do not know. Again, I agree with your main point. There is a clear influx of women who are either confused about their identities, or coopting transsexuality for personal gain. It undermines us as a community, and will absolutely cause grief for those women in the future. But not every transsexual will experience such crippling dysphoria that they can never experiment with their presentation for kicks. Hell, not every transsexual is even binary. Reaching an "in-between" state is the goal for some people's physical transitions. It doesn't mean they're not dysphoric. It just means their dysphoria isn't the same as yours or mine. And that's okay. I appreciate what you're trying to do, but some intellectual humility and precision of language would go a long way. It's worth being careful and thorough - especially when speaking on such fraught and complicated topics. (Edited for grammar and clarity 5/29/24)

[@tkps]

I'd go along with some but not all of that. We do know biology can't be changed as it's not fluid. Expression? Definitely. Biology isn't just chromosomes, hormones, gametes, sex characteristics. It's every cell in our bodies that make us female or male. That can't be denied. David Bowie never once claimed to be anything other than a man who dressed differently and experimented re: sexuality in his younger years. It's all the labels people wear and claims they make that bother me. If they kept all that to themselves, fine. But they don't. Like you said, you want society to make changes for you. Why should it? We've had trans people since dot. They managed all this time without shouting for special treatment and to be trans one does need disphoria. That's the very definition. The rest is simply gender expression, not trans nor any other label. Like the saying goes facts don't care about feelings.

[@taylorbowser571]

@@tkps Hi! I really want to thoughtfully address everything you’ve brought up, so this might be a bit long. It was extremely late last night when I made my original comment, and it’s definitely not as well-written as it could be. So consider this a bit of an amendment/elaboration. Feel free to ignore, as it is pretty long winded :) That said, I might be wrong, but I feel like I was pretty clear that I also believe gender dysphoria is a requirement to be trans. And I never claimed Bowie was anything other than a man. My main point was that I, as a man, should have the same ability to experiment with _my_ clothing and sexuality, regardless of whether I am trans(sexual)(gender) or not, without being told that it makes me a woman. Now, there’s a clear difference between trans men being feminine, and women who present fully female claiming to be trans, but Marcus doesn’t really draw that distinction. Like, I have long hair and wear jewelry, and enjoy how that makes me look. I’d jokingly dress up as a female character for Halloween. If I was a better dancer and artist, I’d consider one day trying drag. Does that, in Marcus’s eyes, make me a cis woman? From this video alone, it sure seems that way. Which, my condolences to Marcus, but facts don’t care about his feelings, either. And the facts are this: I have gender dysphoria, I was assigned female at birth, and I desire to pass as a male. If those are the only criteria needed, and that’s the “only right way” to be trans, I’m a bonafide trans man, despite the fact that I’m more comfortable with femininity than Marcus is. It’s probably worth mentioning that it’s possible he’s being extra inflammatory because it’s part of his brand (I mean, look at his username), or because taking the time to be careful and nuanced would make his video longer than he’d like, but he’s not exactly remaining consistent with his own beliefs about what does or doesn’t count as transsexual. And when you’re presenting yourself as an expert, or a spokesperson for an already misrepresented community, I think accuracy and thoroughness should take priority. I’ll agree that I might have been clumsy in my use of the word biology. I probably should have clarified what, exactly, I was referring to, since it’s a vague term with a lot of different connotations. If we’re operating under the premise that “biology” refers only to the elements of a human that can’t change, I’ll agree. DNA, chromosomes, etc. - that stuff isn’t fluid at all. I was just using the word to mean something broader. For me, a person’s biology is sort of an amalgamation of factors. It’s your cells, yeah, but it is also your hormone levels, your anatomy, your physical health, your organs, etc. Under that definition, some elements of biology certainly seem to be changeable. 21 years ago, I was biologically a baby. Now, I’m not. I used to have hemoglobin levels and blood pressure consistent with women, and now they stick to male patterns. I’ve taken biological anthropology and psychology classes that covered sex and gender, and, at least according to those, DNA isn’t the only factor that determines a person’s sex, and a person’s sex can, under some circumstances, be changed. And sex, in general, does operate on more of a spectrum than we used to believe. Admittedly, I’m pure shit at science, so I could be totally off base. The whole thing is so complex and nuanced that I can’t confidently make any claim about it, other than that it feels instinctually silly for me to say that someone who has physically transitioned is biologically the same sex as a cis person. Maybe that doesn’t make trans men biologically male, but I don’t think they’re 100% biologically female, either, once they reach a certain point in their transitions. And gender and sex really aren’t the same anyway. Like I said above, definitions of “gender” shift and change over time, and depending on who you ask. For me, it’s a combo of what role you play in the world, how you present yourself, and how you identify. But, like biology, it’s so complicated that I’d never claim I fully understood it. As far as my desire to change society goes, I wasn’t actually thinking about trans people at all. There’s so much I wish would change. I’d love a full overhaul of the justice system. I think American schools are terribly ineffective at preparing students for adult life, and there are very strange priorities when it comes to high school curriculum. I believe we should do away with for-profit healthcare because it de-incentivizes permanent cures. I’d like to see some communities run trials on letting AI fully take over as many jobs as it can, and then redistribute the profit as a form of UBI. I hope that, sometime soon, we find a way to replicate the community-building and social support aspects of regular church attendance without religion being necessary, because the recent widespread decrease in religious belief does not necessarily correlate with a decrease in need for human connection and charity. Of course, that’s not to say that I don’t _also_ wish to change things for the sake of trans people. For one, I’m really sick of watching lawmakers try and ban hrt for trans adults. I also think we should have more thorough, caring evaluation and gender therapy before prescribing hrt, which means more professionals would need to work and be trained in trans healthcare. I don’t appreciate being used as a political scapegoat and fear tactic. I wish it was less socially acceptable to mock trans people’s lives and bodies. Trans people in the US face higher rates of unemployment, poverty, sexual violence, abuse, and homelessness. In Utah, I could be fined $10k for using the men’s bathroom, even though I grow visible facial hair. In Japan, trans parents aren’t allowed to transition until their children are 18 years old. In many countries, being trans is punishable with prison time. Honor killings and corrective rape are not unheard of in others. I’d love for all that to change. And, selfishly, on a smaller scale, I hate not knowing who truly respects me, and who is only pretending so they don’t get “canceled”. And it’s not like anti-trans sentiment is new. You could even say that it has existed “since dot”. Societally, we just didn’t pay attention. But it wasn’t all that long ago that crossdressing was illegal in the US. Workplace discrimination against trans people was legal until 2014! I promise that it is entirely inaccurate to say that trans people have historically “managed”. In many, many places, we still aren’t managing. I mean, reread my previous paragraph. Some of us might be doing just fine, but many of us absolutely are not. And, unfortunately, it is largely through being loud and fighting back that trans people have made meaningful progress. Look into the Stonewall riots if you have a chance. They were chock full of trans women shouting (and even getting violent) in the quest for better treatment. And better treatment doesn’t have to mean “special” treatment. Frankly, I’d just like to be myself without being stressed over whether people will suddenly stop respecting me if I don’t obfuscate huge swaths of my past. Like, to tell trans people to keep our “labels” totally hidden is effectively telling us to also hide many of our most formative memories. Trans women should be allowed to talk about their bar mitzvahs if they like. I want to be able to reminisce on the roles I played onstage, or my trip to Disneyland where I dressed up as Cinderella. And, at least with friends, I should be able to open up about the difficulties I’ve faced. And that requires me being open about my transsexuality. I’m not going to keep the first 17 years of my life “to myself”. Transition has given me a super unique perspective on so many things. Should I hide that as well? I don’t think so. I agree that some people are out there making outrageous, obnoxious claims. But there are no claims being made when I talk about my childhood, or what I’ve learned from my life. I’m just existing openly, the same as anyone else. So, at least in my opinion, saying all trans people should do their best to be stealthy is a bit cruel. Anyway! I appreciate your reply, and giving me the opportunity to sort of refine my thoughts, and I appreciate you explaining that you do agree with at least some of my original statement. Edit: Regarding "why" I think society should change to better support trans people, it's pretty simple. It's the same reason I'd like society to change for ex-convicts, or teachers, or impoverished children, or veterans, or the public at large. I want the world to be as kind and fair to as many people as possible. That includes trans people, which includes me. I won't pretend to have every answer, and I don't agree with every change other trans people might like to make, but it doesn't stop me from wanting to alter society in some ways. Also, I don't know. I'm trans. I live in a society. I'd like it to be nicer to me so I can have a happier life. That's a pretty human instinct, I think.

[@donnagoldsmith7078]

I'm a woman with large breasts, I suffer from back aches and sometimes can't wear the clothes I would like. I feel annoyance and sometimes total dislike for my boobs on a weekly basis, and I wonder would these idiot doctors give me top surgery if I asked for it? I might not like my breasts a lot of the time but I certainly don't want to have them removed! I love being a woman and know that my big boobs are a part of that. I have toyed with the idea of a reduction because of my back pain but that's completely different. I don't understand these women who mutilate themselves then still wear girly clothes and makeup. Their mental health issues are obviously complex and many. The doctor's who sign off on this seriously need to be struck off. Disgusting. Keep it up Markus, love your content.

[@ravent8951]

I love the way you describe everything in a way that we can all understand. Thank you 🖤

[@Kayleeorsmthn]

Thank you for mentioning the ocd thing it makes my blood boil. My life would be so much easier if my OCD made me clean and tidy. My ocd is excruciating. (I’m saying this while cleaning my not neat and tidy bedroom)

[@BadKarma108]

What's wrong with trans guy being a femboy or a cross-dresser? The first two videos were just that. I don't think these people walk around 24/7 dressed like that

[@oktnbok]

in a way they make me jealous. I'm a trans man and sometimes i wish I could wear nail polish, tight clothing, make up and stuff like that. but it gives me so much dysphoria that it's not worth it.

[@SeLFsTeR1977]

Respect my man, for all your work!

[@Never_Flowerzz]

Yes we are because gender expression and gender identity are different. Also why on Earth does it matter people are just trying to live.

[@barryledgister4496]

Because men with beards in dresses want to use womens` private segregated spaces.

[@Revert2017]

I watched Ezra (the one in the white shirt with the hat) from the beginning of her channel. She always suffered from anxiety. She eventually met a woman transitioning and then Ezra “finally realized” she is trans. Now she cut off her breasts and dresses like a woman and calls herself “him”. I think she found a group of people with whom she felt comfortable so she did what they did.

[@rileyknight358]

This person keeps popping up in my KZbin feed, so their videos pop up all the time for me. I don't get this person. Constantly gives off feminine energy and even does makeup tutorials! Yet thinks they are a trans man. And to make matters worse, the comments from Ezra's "supporters" shows just how deluded these people are! I've got SO much hate from these people in Ezra's comments. It really IS like a cult. They all look, think, and act the same. Once you say *one* thing that's not 100% trans ass kissing, the whoooooole bandwagon comes after you.

[@tomemberton1546]

Marcus, you are awesome sauce squared!!! Don't let anyone tell you differently. As a 72-year young gay male, I am just over the moon for you. You lay out the pros-cons of our community. You deserve our respect on many levels. You state feelings I have always had yet didn't know how to express it. Thank you for doing so!!! Hugs & love!!!!!

[@svetlanaandrasova6086]

Valid aka support our delusions

[@renferal5290]

I just can’t with these people

[@jmarie4875]

I absolutely hate my chest. I want them gone....but I also know I'm 💯 female and just because I hate my boobs doesn't make me trans. So yes Marcus 🙌 Thank you for pointing that out

[@Ursulas_Odds_and_Sods]

There's a bizarre Q&A on Scarleteen from an obviously very confused young person, "I'm a 17 year old transmale and I've identified as male for about 2 years now. I am 100% confident that I am a boy, but I am also fine having breasts and a vagina. I don't think of them as female. They're just my parts! I like wearing things like dresses and skirts as well and I enjoy makeup, none of these things make me less of a boy in my eyes. However, I fear that people will not take my identity seriously because of this. Even in the LGBTQ community, I feel like people will say I'm not 'really trans.' Dressing the way I want to really boosts my self-esteem (and I have struggled with horrible self esteem my whole life, so I really need it) but being called 'girl' and 'she' really hurts." If you present in such a feminine way and have no problem with your body, then what exactly makes you trans?!

[@snows12152]

I mean it’s okay to not be completely masculine as a man(obvi) but there’s a line and I can already feel that this vid is going to blow past all of those lines

[@katieelizabeth9774]

Not all trans people are the same. Just because you become dysphoric from dressing femininely doesn’t mean that all trans guys have to. Gay men dress femininely all the time and that doesn’t make them less of a man. Same goes for trans men. And you commenting on Ez being “overweight” is absolutely insane. Do better.

[@ceerd2094]

Gay men are men though? Your comment makes no sense😂

[@protagiswatching]

​@@ceerd2094 so r trans men genius 😭

[@barryledgister4496]

Ezra`s done videos about going to the gym...to lose weight. She was massively overweight due to the top surgery and 1 years t. She just didn`t say those events may have been the cause. She also said nothing about her hair loss and terrible acne maybe being due to t.

[@ceerd2094]

@@barryledgister4496 she wasn't massively overweight 😅a bit chubby only

[@katieelizabeth9774]

He goes to the gym to build muscle and a masculine physique. He has spoken about testosterone causing acne. And where the fuck did you see him having hair loss lmao??? Everything you just said was completely pulled out of your ass.

[@macgyversmacbook1861]

I watch Drag Race and the current season has Gottmik on again, Mik is a trans man that identifies as a gay man, dresses as a woman in drag and never ceases to make my head hurt because isn’t a trans gay man a woman with extra steps?

[@wilma400]

Just wait until you encounter the people who claim to be BOTH trans and cis. There was someone who did that in a server I ran, a few weeks ago. When I told him it wasn't possible, he had a breakdown and wrote a long post to call me out for being mean, hateful, and invalidating. The worst thing is people sided with him and left the server. I lost people I considered friends that day, all because I told someone he couldn't both be a cis man and a trans woman at the same time.

[@jenniferscott375]

Oh God. It's like the trans women claiming to be lesbians. 🙄

[@JosfredusAhmer]

Although I agree with a lot of your points, I disagree with the notion that overt feminine expression i.e. makeup, wigs, dresses, etc, invalidates a trans guy's transness *if* he still passes as a male when expressing that femininity. The guy at 8:10, for example. If he were to walk down the street looking like that, he would still pass as male. Most people would read him as a man in drag. Maybe, as long as he still passes as a man - even in women's clothing - he doesn't feel dysphoric, if that makes sense? On the other hand, I don't believe for one second that the girl at 1:47 is actually trans. Another example - I'm a trans guy myself and have been living as a male for the last 15 years. I look like a guy, and I pass as a male when I'm out in public running errands, when I'm at work, when I'm in airport security, etc. I try to live my life, as you say, as a normal person who exists in society the way everybody else does. But I sometimes like to go to goth bars and dress in a more gender-bending way consistent with old-fashioned tradgoths. However, I only feel comfortable putting on makeup and androgynous clothing precisely because I know it won't make me look like a woman - I'll just look like a man wearing makeup and women's clothing, you know? That makes a world of difference to me. I'm okay growing my hair longer because I'll look like *a man* with long hair. If I look like a woman with long hair, or if I look like a woman wearing a skirt and blouse, it's game over. No way would I do that. It would trigger my dysphoria so badly, which, similar to yours, is actually fairly low these days because of the steps I've taken to relieve it. edited to add TL;DR - it all comes down to the dysphoria, as you say. I just think that overt feminine expression doesn't trigger every trans guy's dysphoria, as long as he's taken necessary major steps to address dysphoria elsewhere, and as long as those steps have successfully rendered him male-passing, and as long as the feminine expression doesn't make him look like he's a woman again.

[@caoimhedoesstuff9293]

Maybe don’t comment on the body of somebody who overcame an eating disorder thanks!

[@barryledgister4496]

He meant `overweight as in `swelling` of the chest after the surgery. English is not his first language. He`s showing concern for Ezra and her possible need for renewal surgery that she mentioned.

[@jastro.]

@@barryledgister4496maybe he did, but you can’t assume and out words in his mouth. Edit: I also doubt that’s the case since he said “In Denmark we have restrictions against giving overweight women this surgery” meaning “overweight beforehand” not swelling

[@carabingham3207]

I think the first step to Transition should be at least 2 years seeing a psychiatrist, talking things through before taking the drastic steps like hormones and surgery. It’s a good way to discover if you really are trans or a tomboy, or cross dresser, or even just following a dangerous fad that will blow over in a few years. The medical people tend to skip this step and head straight into meds these days. As you pointed out some people who state they are Trans are not really trans, and they regret what they have done afterwards. What is really shocking is that people think transitioning is reversible when it’s not. Sure you can stop taking medication but a woman can’t have fully functioning breasts once they are removed.

[@hoi-polloi1863]

Hey Offensive, thanks for sharing all these difficult details about what you've been through, in order to contrast with "notice me" trans people. You've given us a very thoughtful and insightful essay here, and I salute you for it.

[@aritaylor6351]

this is so sad. let people live bro. caring so much about how people dress and identify is so weird.

[@user-ws3ce5bn6f]

This is so sad. Let people live bro. Caring so much about what people say and share is so weird.

[@LG-Musique]

Ezra Butler has done a short saying you called him fat, despite him having an eating disorder and now all his followers are going crazy saying they’re reporting you lol. No one is talking about you saying Ezra is a girl…you’d think that would be more triggering to someone with gender dysphoria

[@barryledgister4496]

It proves Marcus` point that Ezra doesn`t have gender dysphoria. She`s more concerned with an ED that goes back years and hasn`t been mentioned on her YT channel (no specific videos) until now when she can play the victim. Marcus has been taken off YT before and knows how to play...Ezra could complain directly, but doesn`t, because she knows Marcus is telling the truth. And he didn`t call Ezra fat...just `overweight` which I think was a reference to her post-op chest swelling, and Marcus being not a first language English speaker. Plus she put on masses of weight after top surgery and testosterone...she`s made many videos about her attempt to lose weight going to the gym.

[@jastro.]

@@barryledgister4496wrong but okay.

[@Bethoflife]

Thank you for explaining this so well. I do know Gender Dysphoria is rare. You seem very well-adjusted & matter-of-fact, which is why I'm here. You make sense to me !

[@peaches4371]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MENTIONING OCD When ppl do that they do not understand how awful it is I have borderline personality disorder & intrusive thoughts form of ocd it almost took my life its not a joke or a weird like attention label ive had to call ppl out on them saying they have ocd for wanting things clean because it just triggers me :( Thank you marcus for calling out all this bs