Feuding Sisters Mend Their Bond After Years Of Foster Care Abuse | KARAMO

[@steveharvey1634]

“You were supposed to protect me, not become one of them” Bro, shes breaking my ENTIRE heart

[@lilruthy420]

Me too she reminds me of myself when I was like this before healing and getting where I am

[@jasmineciera4138]

It was the fact that her sister didn’t even address that comment! That experience broke her sister, and she completely gives zero fks!

[@ALPHAROYCE]

the oldest sister isn’t healing,.. she’s blocked off all her emotions. the younger sister is the one who’s healing and allows herself to feel her emotions, no matter how painful it is. i truly wish this young woman well 😢😢❤❤

[@bs1512]

Exactly

[@camilleorr7029]

Agreed

[@KissAthenaa]

But sometimes that’s the best for someone who is drained and tired, you can heal with being “blocked off” bc you just learn to expect it and change it and move forward.

[@Natasha_36]

Exactly what I was thinking

[@LADYDIVAful]

M m mm

[@india4332]

Their body language says it all. Sitting so far apart, no connection. One crying, the other is cold. One is trying to tear a wall down, the other keeps building. One checked out, the other is tryna check in.

[@iiamashlynn89]

very true.

[@MsLady-gb3gy]

So true and sad💚🎀💚

[@thiablessing]

The oldest is dissociatibg

[@spattzliyah2.0]

@@thiablessing ?

[@spattzliyah2.0]

@@thiablessing if u were in her shoes u would be too

[@mariiahhhsimone]

“I dont have to try to look good , look at me” SHE ATE THAT 😭

[@lifewluhangie9325]

She didddd 😭😭

[@nini.lee.7353]

what time😭😭.

[@mariiahhhsimone]

@@nini.lee.7353 it’s 9:30

[@9omars]

RIGHT

[@dsymonespot]

SHE ATE DOWNN

[@charmainperry7553]

The oldest was so cold hearted, treating her little sister like a stranger that didn’t matter. It’s disgusting Sometimes you have to move on and create your own family

[@ayisyenher]

you have to understand she has trauma too. She’s disassociated, not cold hearted. To understand her sister trauma, she has to understand her own trauma.

[@averyj9454]

@@ayisyenher we get that but she can’t use her trauma as an excuse to be an asshole.

[@faethecreature]

The older sister was dissociating. It's not that she didn't care. Maybe she does. Her body just physically cannot show it.

[@adoraaura]

Then asks her if she wants a hug like wtf

[@9F.O.H]

This is a fake story line please dont buy into this.

[@Ethereal-Flower]

Little sister , you are NOT crazy or wrong . The little sister reminds the big sister too much of the life and trauma she was trying to run from in the first place ! Everytime she looks at you she’s reminded of that life and what happened to both of you . That guest was wrong in saying the big sister is ahead in her healing . She just shuts out what she doesn’t want to feel or remember .

[@Marshay]

Agreed

[@tdcleveland09]

Exactly!!!!

[@skypoohlondon4061]

Right

[@zitlalycmartinez5362]

Was thinking the same thing

[@kimberlyaguilar4199]

I was so confused when she said she was ahead in her healing. To me it was the opposite. You’re closer to healing when you’re able to be vulnerable and speak on the things that hurts you … the unspeakable. That’s a different level of emotional intelligence and vulnerability which is not easy. 😞

[@Lexxatnite]

There’s a difference between healing and just not caring

[@katiepayne797]

True, Huge differences, it's not normal not to care😥

[@mzbeba10]

Yup, she's dismissive that's not healthy at all. You can't suppress emotions and say you're healed. A healed person isn't afraid to show vulnerability.

[@thiablessing]

@@mzbeba10 there's a difference between disassociating and holding on to pain / running from it vs not caring. Plssaaa go study phycology

[@ew0711]

Bingo 🎉 she has detached herself from her sister

[@dasiathomas1722]

The fact that she can voice her hurt but also recognize her sister's her just shows her growth and her maturity.

[@jeanettejames5528]

The older sister touched her inappropriately and has guilt and embarrassed by what she did to her little sister. I think she had a hard time looking at her because of what she’s did to her. Guilt

[@galaxygalore1111]

Right I agree! The older sister seems to have shame and guilt bc when the little sister is angry she pointed, and stated what was done to her by the older sister and said she was suppose to be “protecting” her from those ppl when in reality they both were abused, neglected, mistreated, and not in a position to defend against the predators. The older sister rather be looked at as cold, distant, emotionally unavailable than to be blamed by the younger sister or admit to her the shame of knowing she was forced to participate in inappropriate acts to her little sister. They’re reminded of it everytime they see one another smh. It’s hard growing up baring those deep wounds and scars of the past trauma they endured at such a young age. I hope they both find peace and healing maybe one day forgive themselves and each other❤️

[@alvingant]

She didn't touch her sister

[@jeanettejames5528]

@@alvingant loud and Wrong

[@trxcxii5156]

is day day the older one?

[@dantaylatham7963]

@@alvingant yes she did she said you did to me what they to me but I can’t be mad at you

[@Nina-Bananaaa]

When she said “ you became one too” that hit me like a ton of bricks. To think or assume what these young people have been through. I pray for healing ❤️‍🩹

[@lasheikatucker4598]

Right it's some deep issues that's not being said that's bothering her

[@pamelabostick1293]

THANK GOD YOU SAID SOMETHING, I HAD TO REWIND IT CAUSE I THOUGHT WAS I THE ONLY ONE WHO HEARD THAT! SHE SAID YOU WERE SUPPOSED TO PROTECT ME FROM THEM PREDATORS BUT THEN YOU BECAME ONE TOO AND DID TOO ME WHAT THEY DID TOO YOU! BUT I DON'T BLAME YOU, BECAUSE YOU HAD IT MUCH, MUCH WORST THAN WHAT YOU DID TO ME!!! MY GOD I CAUGHT IT, I CAUGHT! I DON'T THINK SHE REALIZED WHAT SHE SAID OR KARAMO

[@KASIAWASIA]

@@pamelabostick1293right I had to rewind! i believe she did to her little sister what they were doing to her

[@lindaweatherspoon8814]

@@pamelabostick1293 I had a class where learned about a cases where the daughter had to help the father get another child to stop him from abusing her and the brother was forced to have sex with his sister and his mother while the father watched and the mother also made him have sex with her. Children in foster care are sometimes abused at home and foster home. It makes me cry when I hear stories like this and when I have to care for an abused child. We need more good foster parents.

[@cassandradennard6323]

Me too pray 🙏 for there healing

[@Gorgeouss_Court]

Honestly, the older sister might need therapy even more than the younger one because what I see is someone who is trying to block out and avoid past traumas that are very clearly still eating her alive inside. The younger sister, however is at least able to acknowledge their past and what they both went through, she seems to just need help unpacking and working through it all. They definitely both need the help but I feel like it’s gonna take some deeper digging for the older sister. I truly hope they can move past it all and form a strong sister bond eventually. That hug at the end says to me that they both clearly want and need each other in their lives. They just need help healing ❤

[@BrionnaMakayla]

You can definitely tell that the hug at the end meant something to the little sister more then it meant to the big sister.

[@tileahmesidor2179]

This is what I felt too. To me that hug was like in kindergarten when you have to hug somebody to work out your differences, that wasn’t a I love you hug.

[@jayeb4494]

Big sister did it for the cameras.

[@thiablessing]

Big sister is dissociating. It's not that it didn't mean anything all of you I recommend taking a phycology class NOT KZbin

[@iMsOiNsO]

Yes I’m so happy the big sister did that…she’s cold and very distant…but she did that for her sister and the way the little one pulled her in and just let it all out was a tell all

[@cduffin4659]

I thought it was just me. The tone she used when she asked her did she want to hug it out... she's so callous and guarded.

[@nyahoskins4141]

He didn’t go deep enough honestly because there’s obviously more to this. Listen to the way the older sister speaks to her, she’s angry with her. Shes upset because of all the things she’s been through she feels like the sister was treated better, given more support. “I make her feel like that because she feels like she’s better than everybody” it’s pure jealousy and no conversation will fix that until she comes face to face with the deeper reason. The hug was nice but at the end up the day nothing will get fixed until she starts feeling and understanding her emotions.

[@novaaluvvv9575]

Oooouuu yyyaaasss straight facts ❤

[@iiamashlynn89]

perfectly said

[@saritabartley4482]

Thought the same thing

[@beautyishername4392]

So sad but true😢

[@jhjii6515]

Yes

[@Prettypreeeee]

This one definitely hurt💔, she’s so nonchalant when she doesn’t realize her sister is hurting.

[@KRoseB]

Believe me, she knows she's hurting. She also doesn't owe her to be a reactive raging mess like her sister to show caring. She is working hard to remain calm in the storm to help her sister become grounded.

[@niazadevon87]

@@KRoseB We can’t judge how either one of them are reacting to or handling their abuse. To call the little sister a “reactive raging mess” is uncalled for & judgmental. Everyone deals with that kind of trauma differently.

[@naillii5251]

@@KRoseB her sister isnt a mess first off she such been through S.A and u need to be killed if u think females who go through S.A are messes

[@naillii5251]

@@KRoseB 2nd she went through what her little sister went through and then started doing it to her also , if anything I think she's the problem but neither one of them are mess , your the only mess

[@genesisrodriguez621]

Seriously then her saying she act like she don’t get hurt while she was sitting there in tears

[@zayumzazzy3148]

Man, that hug and her crying had me in tears too. Poor baby in so much pain. 😢

[@Khandiswagga]

The older sister thinks that not feeling her feelings makes her healed or stronger, but that will come back to bite you in the asz.

[@mna3tm623]

Asz🫦

[@rihannahaiti5570]

Not really, sometimes it stays buried.

[@Khandiswagga]

@@rihannahaiti5570 you may think that but it’ll subconsciously effect how you act throughout all your relationships. Especially the one with yourself.

[@chaya7103]

I’ve gone through this with two female cousins at the age of 3. It was a family secret until a few years ago. Y’all saying that this type of talk needs to be private but that’s how these abusers are able to thrive! “What happens in the house, stays in this house” is a phrase for a reason. I’m proud of her for confronting her sister and speaking her truth.

[@JamyrahRae]

That baby needed that hug. That part tore me upppp

[@msdaisyduketv]

But her sister seemed fake about the big “you can give me a hug sweetie” she does not like her sister she has a heavy resentment towards her and it’s painful to watch.

[@_.dawnnii]

@@msdaisyduketv fr bro that hug was not frm da heart at alllll

[@qbella3]

@@msdaisyduketv i saw this as well. Her words seems very sarcastic and for show.

[@aryhannaa]

That hug didn’t seem genuine at all. But the beginning when the younger sister said that even people she has beef with in the streets wouldn’t stoop that low to say something like that, was relatable on so many levels 💯

[@onelove337]

The older sibling doesn’t want to keep hashing what happened to them. So she disassociates from the situation. It probably hurts her to see her because she’s part of what she went through.

[@katiepayne797]

Yes but the only way you completely get over is by facing your issues then move pass them. So sad people abuse innocent children😥

[@xuemem]

You hit the nail on the head. She was a part of the abuse the young sister went through :(

[@growingwithjahniah]

I agree, she deflects allot! she also seems jealous of her sister in a way the sentence "she thinks she's better than other ppl" sounds crazy to me. There's so much between them they have to unpack.

[@brittanynelson3808]

The older sister is uncanny, and this is what happens when an individual views the world as being heartless/cold! Hurt ppl hurt ppl.

[@TSBOFRLM]

Actually, abused people hurt people. People who are truly hurt don’t intentionally want to dish more hurt.

[@houseofmatrix6174]

You on target this why she so cold

[@clairemagenta5720]

The animals who made those babies do that I hope they were caught back then! As far as the older sister I feel like they probably abused her the most that’s why she became one. I’m sad for them and hope for healing. ❤

[@petulaboltman1090]

The eldest sister is in denial. She wants to block out what happened to them and the younger sitting there and being real irritates her because she doesnt want to open up.The youngest sister is feeling frustrated because the eldest one doesn't want to acknowledge anything. The eldest one needs the most healing. Her body language speaks for itself.

[@myathemango2936]

Mmm I kinda disagree. She acts cold as a coping mechanism & is likely hyper-independent. Because she is this way (even though to a huge fault) she has a more objective way of seeing things & that’s what a lot of people in this comment section don’t seem to see.

[@makinglife7307]

And she definitely doesn't hate her it's tough love she just wants her to understand they both got hurt and she keep reminding her is bothering mentally for her so she says smart remarks to make herself feel in control of the conversation and to keep he emotions in check so she seems tough but has ocean eyes

[@soraaravyn5836]

It’s a difference between tough love and hatred and I’m sorry, but the older sister hates her younger sister because she reminds her of what she went through. And as an older sister, I could never. I could never blame my little sibling for something I went through because I feel guilty that I couldn’t save her. The older sibling feels guilty. She could not save her sister from the horrors she went through and because of that guilt she has put up a wall and blocked the younger sister out. And until she deals with that guilt until the older sibling deals and processes, that grief and guilt from getting hurt and not being able to save her sister they won’t make any progress

[@mimi.w667]

Alot of people do this and it's the quickest path to being miserable because if you can't open up, and talk about the things that have happened and hurt, feel and heal them it will never be solved because you never took the time and it will cause you to not be in touch with your emotions just like she is displaying

[@solowilliams931]

The older sister is hurting but she is very good at hiding it publicly. When she is alone she shows her true self: she will cry a lot out of the blue etc she needs help but she won’t seek it bc she want to believe she is strong. I know her because I am like her

[@keishaclark4159]

Was I the only one crying at the end to hear her breakdown because she finally got that hug that she yearned for 😭😭😭

[@areslovesuuuu25]

i was crying so baddd

[@evonl8662]

No I cried too 😭

[@directorPicaso]

No , someone is definitely cutting onions around here

[@Itsavibewithsyd]

No I cried that was a most definitely a hurt cry

[@nevadatroxler7635]

And why she was acting like she ain’t want it lol

[@OceanBabiedollBias]

Its so sad to see her sister act so cold as if neither one of them have went through so much together🤦🏽‍♀️💔 i definitely feel like shes jealous of how she had a slightly better upbringing then her but neither one of them are healed.

[@cindys2995]

Agreed! The younger one needs to let her GO. Maybe they'll mend later, but I wouldn't try or cry any more.

[@milfywaygalaxy5096]

Trauma really REALLY fucked her up.

[@cashmincreem8035]

The younger sister grew up thinking she was better & loved the attention. She was pinned against her older sister & she fed into it. Her attitude is disgusting. Older sister made a comment about her doing things to make herself look good, and her response was “I don’t have to do anything to make myself look good; look at me!” Nobody was talking about her physical appearance. Her retorting to that petty bs & gaslighting her sister the entire interview lets me know everything I need to. Because she has crocodile tears, everyone’s taking her side. There is a reason she does not want to be bothered with that girl. She chose to stay and be raised by the people who destroyed her. She in fact became them.

[@nunubhad8548]

@@cashmincreem8035 ? How the big sister did what was done to the both of them to the little sister as well she’s bitter the big sister is very much jealous of the little sister . You can’t just skip over the fact she did that to her little sister like nothing else matters she hurt her sister then and now she’s hurting her even more

[@gemmaritere4078]

@Nunu Bhad Yeah, but unfortunately, that's what some victims do. The younger sister literally said that the older sister was abused 10 times worse than she was, some of the of course, she's going to be angry. She doesn't know how to deal with her emotions because she's probably never received help before. The older sister needs to heal in order to get better, so you should not be judging her for how she's coping with the abuse.

[@q.oliviarivers1493]

The coldness of the older sister is heartbreaking. I hope baby sister finds an ecosystem that appreciates her warmth and goodness.

[@nyja3914]

The older sister knows how to hold on her emotions after this she might have cried the hardest

[@tishsharay7509]

Yasss them be the ones that cry behind close doors or maybe even self medicates their trauma hell I would have to be high just to be on this show 😭

[@mrs.cappa_flow6652]

I may be wrong but I am a psych major and I don’t think they are healing at different rates I think they are projecting their pain in different ways. The older one is very resentful and has a hatred in her heart. They were treated differently and she hates her sister for that. The younger one seems a little codependent, and seem to have abandonment issues which I understand because so do I. She was obviously hurt by her sister leaving and wants her to know that. But is also bringing up the past because she wants to be close and feels like that’s the only thing they can bond over, the trauma. They both need help and it’s a sad story I hope they both can heal and forgive one another

[@Marshay]

Agreed

[@lilpaulettenthegang7869]

And her big sis molested her as well or abused her in some way.

[@tuwanamallory8559]

Exactly my take as well!

[@stephanielove2662]

She said you were supposed to protect me from those people not become them. So I’m assuming they made the older sister join in on it 😢

[@cierra4059]

Either that or the sister did it because it was learned behavior or it could be because the big sister was jealous of her.

[@missy8209]

When I heard that I started to cry

[@coreywilson5167]

It seemed that the audience didn't catch it when she said it cuz I almost missed cuz she was crying while talking which made it a lil hard to hear her.

[@faethecreature]

Y'all are throwing too much bs on the older sister. The older sister is a brick wall from being abused. She's dissociating. Fight, flight, freeze, and faun are the four different ways someone can react to trauma. The younger sister is a fighter. The older sister freezes. Freezing can mean having very strict boundaries, dissociating, shutting down, having an emotional and mental wall built up, etc. This is a case of the classic saying "Hurt people hurt people." They both need in depth therapy badly. I wish them the best.

[@sekhmet5736]

The best comment thus far!!!!

[@firechyld]

This hit home for me. I was in an abusive family as a child. My brother was the only one who knew exactly what I went through and was always there. He went no contact for 15 years. I saw him for the first time last week. And I can so understand what that younger sister is feeling. I know exactly what its like to love your siblings so much and have them leave. Its like grieving a death. Its hard. I cried those same tears she was crying last week when I got to hug my brother for the first time. I hope they can work it out.

[@mzbeba10]

I'm so sorry 😢 sending you love.

[@itznot._taimaa1991]

the girl with the black hair is so nonchalant and she knows what she’s doing,that’s so cruel and evil to me. I don’t feel like anything that she’s said or done was genuine and my heart goes out to the other sister!!

[@adoraaura]

Fr especially that hug at the end. That felt so disingenuous

[@zitlalycmartinez5362]

And when she hugs her in the end when she didn’t care about a dam thing her sister said the whole time omg

[@mzbeba10]

Creepy asf and the fact ppl are feeling sorry for her in these comments makes me sick. This is the problem in the world. We have to stop enabling these ppl. The little sister would be better off without her.

[@DBrown-vg1fi]

She was a victim too you gotta understand they are and we’re just kids she’s not evil they just are not in the space like us normal people who have gotten they our trauma

[@gemmaritere4078]

Bro, don't judge her. She went through so much abuse and hasn't received help, so this is how she deals with her trauma. How are you going to say that she's evil and cruel when she is literally a victim. She needs to heal so don't judge her and try to understand why she behaves that way. A lot of the time it's a coping mechanism.

[@destinijarvis9524]

so half the comments just ignore when the older sister showed OBVIOUS hatred towards her modeling, said she wasn’t her sister, said they were never close and she pretended to care when desire was being abused, and that she didn’t care??

[@AlexusMusic]

This !!! She envy her little seriously BADLY ! SMH this is sad, I truly feel for Desire 😓💔

[@_.dawnnii]

FR

[@rondasmith4037]

Trauma causes all kinds of Negative feelings!!! You don't know if you haven't walked in those SHOES!!! We all have been guilty of out of place judgement!!

[@destinijarvis9524]

@@rondasmith4037 as victim who has been IN THOSE SHOES i know that trauma caused me to do some horrible things but i took accountability for them and take initiative to not do them again or rub it in the other person’s face. You can choose to be a better person

[@sherriabrooks]

Yeah, i really think she(the younger one)needs to separate from her sister..and heal alone..her older sister does things to be spiteful and if the you ger one begins to heal and becone confident in herself the older one will try to tear her down. She doesn't want to see her do well. She has hate for her sister and you can see it...ghe yoinger sister needs to focus on herself and be very careful with her sister...just because thats ypur blood you are not obligated...you can be family with friends trust me you can choose your family...family is love and if you don't feel love with ypur family than its not your family..and you cant force it.

[@SpiffyPenguin]

The older sister doesn't want to acknowledge that she molested her younger sister. It's probably much easier to ignore what she did than address it. She also has very low self esteem, you can see it how she tries to look non chalant about everything.. but also won't stop talking about any of it. Like she has spoken over her younger sister- even the host! I also feel like it's very strange that the host is telling the younger sister to try and connect with her sister before she's had therapy to heal from her sister's abuse.

[@ceomafdet]

I was waiting for him to hold the older sister accountable for molesting her also...

[@MsMeeka-lr6uf]

That women in the crowd and Karamo pissed me off. Idk what degree they got but they should go back. They’re analysis on things aren’t thought threw. So because you don’t cry and your nonchalant that means you’ve healed ? That’s is so foolish to think.

[@ay-shaamasih9270]

​@@MsMeeka-lr6uf literally I was watching like whaaaaat??? are we seeing the same thing!??

[@tilajohnson3279]

The big sister is harvesting too much animosity towards her little sister! She feels like she was treated "better" than she was bc of pageant and crap! But nobody "chose" to hear that child say "her big sister MOLESTED her too! That shit hurts! And she STILL LOVES her BIG SISTER! Even at the end she was being malicious!

[@Agmarie123z]

Yeah! That “gimme a hug sweetie” pure BS!

[@mzbeba10]

Yup, the older sister became just like her abuser. I've seen it in my own family. Legit gave me weird vibes. 😭

[@dantaylatham7963]

I don’t think the big sister Molested her like on purpose I think she did to her what was done to her and they was both kids neither parents was around to even catch that behavior they both need help

[@charls5834]

I don’t think she is jealous at all, she has misplaced feelings

[@peacfulnoises]

the little sister was literally touched by her older sister and still willing to forgive her… sad

[@Myztic71]

They both have a lot of hurt and sounds like they were abused when they were younger. Hurt people, hurt people. I hope they can get the counseling they need and rebuild their trust in each other and develop a strong bond.

[@kiya232006]

That hug and her crying breaks my heart all she want it and want it for his older sister to love her because they suffered the same trauma

[@Divalicous]

Even now when the oldest looks at these comments she’s still gonna feel like people put her sister above her it’s just going to fuel her negative feelings towards her sister. Growing up with someone in the same place going through the same situations but them having more opportunities and what feels like better treatment hurts deep.I would love to get more into depth about how I think the oldest sister feels, though it won’t excuse her actions towards her little sister It may explain it and more people would sympathize with her and give her the same support her little sister is getting but this comment is already too long 😭She is not healed yet and I wish her AND her sister the best and the healing they deserve. ❤

[@novaaluvvv9575]

❤

[@iiamashlynn89]

EXTREMELY well said.

[@nunubhad8548]

She’s going to have negative feeling regardless since she did what she did to her little sister she’ll always feel some type of way towards her cus she hurried her in the worst way

[@n.a.t.a.l.i.e.x.o.x.o]

These two woman have been through so much and honestly I'm in awe of them coming on a show to be so vulnerable. Even though the older sister seems cold, no one was born that way. Both ladies are victims of tough circumstances and we all deal with pain in different ways. Some of us reach out to others, some of us shut down and become closed off. I loved seeing the show in person because it was a NO JUDGMENT zone. We are all products of our environment and both ladies made themselves vulnerable by going on the show to talk to Karamo. As much as people want to paint the older sister to be a bad person, in the end she showed up to the show and that means she wants a relationship with her younger sister. I really hope that the therapy that Karamo/the show offers really helps them both. I'm cheering for these ladies and wish you both the best on your journeys

[@moniquemay5393]

Love this!

[@CarynMalissa]

I totally agree, the older sister had something really bad happen to her that she has never talked about...it's in her eyes. The younger sister said it herself, that there was some things about her sister she does not know. The older sister's confession that she felt loneliness tells it all.

[@raindrops4284]

I can feel their pain. She just wants her sister back. She needs her sister.

[@nakiahopea_rae_of_hope3148]

I felt her pain so deeply when she cried when her sister gave her a hug.🤗 I'm so happy that they've began the process of getting to know each other better and I hope they're getting closer by the day.. 🥰💪🙏💙

[@adoraaura]

That hug rubbed me off the wrong way felt really disingenuous

[@tashallabranch8349]

The older sister is definitely jealous of the little sister and I heard when she say we never bonded you was in pageants etc…. She hate her sister for what the sister had no control over

[@akeemperez8509]

It's deeper than that. They went through hell. Absolute hell.

[@ogk3987]

Why jealous when she had it worse

[@jesush4287]

@@ogk3987 because you have it worse will most definitely mean you will have more jealousy

[@Royal.glowww]

Well like she said she’s older & went thru WORST things, nobody is thinking maybe she felt/feels alone & is misunderstood because she clearly has walls up to protect herself..

[@dijaworldworld3895]

The older sister is actually worse off and can be easily manipulated because she’s using arrogance to hide her vulnerability. These are the women that abuse and narcissists target because they have isolated themselves. Love 🙏🏽

[@nniikunz]

Everyone is forgetting the fact that they were going through hell as children, and she said the older sister had it worse…we can only pray for their healing, because she has to deal with the fact that she hurt her little sister on top on being traumatized herself

[@layagaddy]

The oldest is hurt too, remember that, she’s healing and seems like she’s trying her hardest to find empathy for her sister without bringing up old scars that her little sister is still processing and healing in herself. I think they both just need to really listen and understand each other and maybe they can grow and heal together.

[@TheCalmAndCool91]

Their trauma is just showing in different ways. We can say “the older sister is cold hearted etc” however we have to understand she had to build herself to be this person as a defense mechanism. She ran away at 12 and was going all that time. Who knows what life threw at her. Every party needs grace.

[@karamelleyez]

Exactly... People really seem to underestimate who a child has to become to survive in those circumstances. She was a baby, already been taken advantage of, out in the world unprotected and vulnerable... Sometimes you have to disconnect for your own sanity and I feel like that's what she had to do. Unfortunately, it's not something you can just turn off because someone you may care about cries. People forget it's not a light switch.

[@emanueldavis1627]

One is stuck in her trauma and one wants to forget her trauma. Neither is wrong, they are coping with their issues differently.

[@breafaith4515]

the younger sister is so hurt. it broke my heart i hope they can rekindle their relationship and she can heal. ❤️

[@noemihernandez3918]

They both developed their responses to their trauma in such different ways. I hope they can build a new relationship and move forward together. If not that, then I hope they can at least learn to understand each other through therapy.

[@deetheefoodie]

I lost my youngest sister when she was 18, I was 21. I lost my oldest sister in 2020 when she was 36, I was 33. I didn’t meet my oldest sister until I was 13. I wish I had my sisters, I miss that bond. Please cherish your family while they are here b/c the void, the hurt, the loneliness when they are gone is so deep.

[@raquelmccreary8473]

Sorry for your loss 🙏🏾I loss my sister too at a young age 😢

[@deetheefoodie]

@@raquelmccreary8473 thank you 🙏🏾

[@katiepayne797]

So very true😥

[@Rabz12]

Sorry to hear that boo

[@eatzbycheri]

Y'all are coming down hard on the older sister cuz y'all aren't seeing the fact that they're BOTH unhealed. One being further along in her healing journey doesn't negate the fact that the other is still on her own healing journey. Healing journeys are PERSONAL, & each individual has their OWN PACE. We do not get to decide how far along someone ELSE should be in their journey. Everybody handles things differently BECAUSE WE'RE ALL DIFFERENT MINDS & SOULS. It's called "compassion." We could all benefit from learning it & putting it into practice. I'm sending them both love, light, & healing energy🖤

[@nastajaaa8926]

Sooo heartbreaking 💔 to imagine the bond & love you thought you had for your “sister” wasn’t even reciprocated. Bless the desire heart🥺

[@nicolewagner3541]

They both needed tht hug. The oldest is still hurting as well and refuses to think of the past but she needs to heal from it as well. The youngest still holding on to the past and needs to learn how to let go and move forward to also heal from their past. She needs to talk about what's hurting her and holding her back. The hurt and pain is deep. I wish them well and pray they can get counseling to help them alone in their lives.

[@MotivationwithMargaret]

This was painful to watch, with the older sister being so cold to her younger sister. Hearing that the older sister, was part of the pain that her younger sister is trying to still heal from...was so heart-breaking to hear. I'm so sorry for what they both went through, but the younger sister was in so much pain and getting that hug at the end...meant a lot to her. She felt alone and the only person that she was close to, abandoned her. I pray for them both, especially fo the younger sister, that God will hold her tight and comfort her as she comes to grip with her pain and finds peace and healing.. That baby was in so much pain aand that hug at the end had me crying...because I was molested by a family member and the pain never really goes away. May they become close sisters again and strive in this life and support each other, holding each other close - through thick and thin. I wish I could get in tocuh with these girls and keep them in praryer....and become their adopted big sister. I've had some of the same tramatic experiences that they had and only prayer and a relationship with God has kept me going and striving in life....because only God can heal such pain. God bless them both!🙏❤🙏❤

[@teyonnalittle2661]

The older sister is misunderstood. Y’all constantly saying she’s cold hearted and she has hatred for her. She hasn’t healed, her coldness is her coping mechanism. But the younger sister cannot expect her to be there when she could barely show up for herself. Like they said, she’s been through some things way before Desire started doing through them. Who’s there for her when she’s hurting? Who’s holding her when shes crying and getting abused ? No one showed her the love that Desire is expecting. So why expect her to know how to give it when she’s never received it.

[@nunubhad8548]

That doesn’t give her the right to one abuse her sister , treat her wrong , throw in her face that she’s suicidal like huh ? No that’s not right but she do need help she’s going through alot but still it gives her no right

[@jessicaaaa202]

Rt at the first comment. The way your cope does NOT excuse foul behavior towards other people. Not every coping method is healthy. She’s being a b!tch to her BLOOD SIBLING and it’s sick. I would never do my little sister like that.

[@Shellmeka588]

Exactly!!! I’m not saying she’s right but I’m saying I agree with what you said and understand her position. She needs real help herself

[@JazzTv06]

@@nunubhad8548 exactly

[@aut4993]

that’s the whole point. they are both well aware of what each other experienced individually and together. little sister is just wondering why big sister decided to turn a cold shoulder knowing what they both have been through, because they could be there for each other

[@joselynobregon1705]

“i went through it first” why is it a competition on who endured the most trauma and who had to endure it first? and not just that she became the abuser too and that hurts. she’s so cold towards her and that sucks. that older sister does not seem like she’s healed at all if she’s so resentful towards her sister like that.

[@mzbeba10]

Very good observation 👏🏽✨

[@gemmaritere4078]

She's resentful towards her sister, that's why. She feels like her sister recieved the better end of the abuse and she recieved so much more abuse. Of course it's not a competition but in her mind, all she feels is anger and bitterness towards her younger sister because of the treatment that she received. She's cold and seems heartless because that is her coping mechanism. She has not healed from her trauma and that is why she is behaving this way. Hopefully she is able to recieve help but other than that, pls do not judge her. SA/abuse is a complicated topic and so you shouldn't judge them for the way they are now.

[@JazzTv06]

im sayyyyyyyyying. i peeped that too how it was always a compare and contrast typa deal .

[@houseofmatrix6174]

The comments are gold she went through more trauma she taking out o younger sister

[@cassandrastanton7955]

You missed the whole point of what the oldest sister was saying.

[@chicparlor7590]

I feel for them both. The older sister has been through so much. I pray they both heal and can mend their relationship

[@missricaá]

SHE BEEN WAITING FOR THAT DAMN HUG… I hope they become super close and heal from They’re past

[@deshantibarron7418]

As the older sister in my family this is so horrific to sit here and watch.. I could never treat any of my siblings that way no matter what the situation is.. as a older sibling I feel like we all eachother have.😢

[@babygroot81]

I really think they'll be able to work through their pain and hurt. They do love each other and you can see it.

[@calia.grinston]

So are y’all going to ignore the fact that the older sister touched her younger sister as well? Why didn’t they speak on that? And y’all wonder why the younger sister is soo emotional! She didn’t get ANY type of closure, an apology, or accountability from her sister 😢

[@MissBrownSugaDiva]

So many layers to this one! The amount of pain and trauma... My heart literally breaks for both of them. Because no matter what their attitude or demeanor was both are hurting and need real healing. Praying that they get just that... Separately and then together as sisters!

[@breanamonay]

This episode really broke my heart. You can tell they both need each other more than they put off. I hope they’re able to heal & grow together! ❤

[@xuemem]

Pain is not meant to be worn like a badge of honor, neither is it meant to be used as a yard stick of who's got it harder than who and who should be felt sorry for more than who. There's so much trauma in our community, I don't know where we could even start from.

[@shaynaholmes]

This broke my heart 🥺🥺 I really hope they can both continue to heal and grow a relationship together.

[@favo_jcr5008]

The older sister didn’t have emotional support, that’s why she doesn’t care for other ppls emotions because she feels like no one cares for hers, younger sister’s looked up too the older sister to have that emotional support and was depending on her to help her with her traumas

[@whoisdis8201]

"She has some type of anger and resentment and feels like i abandoned her" is hundred percent projection

[@MsBenitaButrell]

Praying that these sisters can heal individually and rebuild their relationship. I couldn't imagine life without my sister... that bond is so precious to me. I wish these 2 nothing but the best❤

[@djenkins39]

She uses coldness as a defense.

[@moopoo18]

I feel like the audience member was wrong. The older sister is not ahead in her healing journey. She just learned to hide from the truth and deflect. The younger sister has true insight of her feelings and what they went through. She will continue to heal. I wish them both the best.

[@PrettyColorsDoe]

I just want give lil sis the warmest , safest hug 😢 she deserves all the happiness in the world. Breaks my heart to hear what they’ve gone through. Big sis seemed manipulative and cold , & her hug at the end after her attitude and disposition throughout the show seems insincere imo but I hope I’m wrong.

[@babyfaceni]

Seemed Forced She See Her Sister Wanting Love From Only Her, Hoping That Because They Were In The Same Situation It Would Be Them Against The World And Her Older Sis Is So Disconnected Smh They’re Both Hurting Its Sad

[@Vivienne_1]

They’re just coping differently stop blaming the older sister for everything.

[@quintinmatos5316]

That hug at the END HIT SO HARD BRO THAT BABY GIRL IS HURT SO BAD IT JUST HURTS MY SOUL 🥺😢

[@vickisudler]

Prayers for all children that suffered the unthinkable, ❤️ MAY GOD HEAL US ALL❤️

[@marquillacoles6279]

I’m adopted, never met any of my biological sisters but I would hate to have a sister like that. I’m thankful for my adopted sisters that I grew up with. That’s one of my fears if I were to ever meet my family, having someone resentment for my upbringing. I’m thankful I never had to experience any abuse or mistreatment. I came from the foster care system as well.

[@a.r.i_daj]

I see a lot of people bashing the older sister, but clearly she’s dealing with her own trauma. People cope in many different ways. She seems cold, disconnected, and nonchalant but those are all coping mechanisms. It’s not an excuse to treat those who love you wrong, but the type of love they know never last.

[@nomzimasinyalela5080]

She abused the younger one

[@a.r.i_daj]

@@nomzimasinyalela5080 I’m aware. My point is, she’s dealt with her fair share of abuse as well. Everyone always has an answer to how they deal with it, but no one truly knows until they’re in that situation. A lot of times the abused become abusers.

[@itswesgirl3398]

We’re just gonna skip over the fact that the sister touched her? Like Desire is not wrong for that. And the older sister is shutdown cold as ice. I can’t rebuild with you if you don’t want to

[@jacalynjohnson4656]

I feel so sorry the sisters had such a painful upbringing but therapy should help them both a lot.

[@savannahm9256]

That poor young girl. I wish she was my sister 😢 I’d show her love and compassion. I hope she finds that for real. I used to be that older sister, shut down and soooooooooo disconnected from her feelings. It’s a trauma response. I hope they find healing and the younger sister tries to create her own happy life and maybe one day the older sister could maybe heal too

[@PrincessBaby305]

The older sister seems like she's dead inside and in the end put on a performance to look like she cared. Like a switch was flipped. That's kind of scary

[@kikisfuture5775]

The big sister is healing and that’s the key word she is “still” healing. She’s not healed she is still on her journey and weather she got guards still up or not for her own security it still doesn’t take away that she’s in those shoes to be better. I definitely feel the little sister, but I feel the big sister too

[@trinacovington]

Please do a follow up on these Sisters. It would also be nice for them to reconnect with their other siblings.🙏💜

[@kyvonnasmith7091]

So did the sister touch her too????? “ you wasn’t suppose to come become one of them”

[@veedodagreat9404]

Nah she probably meant as a abuser. Not physically but mentally, emotionally.. maybe spiritually. Idk.

[@LifeWDaviasia]

Yes

[@TheBurnNoticePodcast]

The younger sister needed her but once adopted the older sister felt that this need was gone and she needed to be needed so she pulled away from the bond. They have years apart and the older sister seems to have learned to numb her emotions because the home did not cultivate them. Being an adopted parent of siblings is not easy. You are learning and building with each child while still trying to help them build with each other. Even the best adopted parents struggle with this but they are adults now and they can control and determine what that relationship looks like and I truly pray that they find their individual and collective healing.

[@tanyanalapo6744]

When are you going to apologize to AllureBeauty? Chef Pii put people’s lives at risk for shipping out spoiled sauces Update: Chef Pii apologized to Allure Beauty ♥️

[@pinkierere025]

The youngest sister has such a deep rooted hurt cry. It just broke my heart. I wish I could just give her a hug.😢

[@breyanawest5049]

She needed that hug! 😢

[@Allaboutanaaa]

This is exactly how I feel when I try and speak to my brother, it feels like he feels as if we were never close, and it’s so hard for him to put himself in my shoes, he judges me more on my actions then why those actions take place, in the first place . A siblings love should always be strong .

[@Reallifetalkss]

Clearly they both need therapy and healing. Just because she’s older doesn’t mean she not affected. Her output is just displayed different but, you can tell this was needed and hopefully it flourishes in to a better relationship 🥰

[@meganyoumad]

My heart literally aches for them. As a younger sister, you do get those expectations of how it’s supposed to be. The greatest lesson I’ve learned is to have no expectations

[@YoshiBeautxo]

a lot of you in these comments are overlooking the fact that trauma presents itself differently. Please do not forget that the older sister was in fact abused as well and had to comfort her sister when she didn’t even understand how to comfort herself. She had to be strong for the both of them which was not fair. Her abusing her sister probably is something she wishes to disassociate with because she isn’t proud of what their experience created . Please be compassionate towards BOTH sisters.

[@wellyaknow7698]

She didn't comfort her Desire said she became one.

[@YoshiBeautxo]

@@wellyaknow7698 she was comforting her at one point. When he asked them if they were close Desire said that her sister was the one wiping her tears and they would sleep in the same bed.

[@seven2012]

@@YoshiBeautxo then became the one who molested her

[@ktandcrew8129]

I agree. It’s not fair the older sister is seen to wrong. She was a kid too and needs help. It’s not her responsibility to heal someone when she needs healing. When she see these comments she will definitely become more insensitive to her little sister.

[@rhodiahicks4459]

Facts they are acting like she is supposed to be her protector and she’s not she was a child

[@briannam7641]

She needed that hug at the end more than anything. I know that feeling. She needs that sister love and I can understand where she coming from

[@tamerajames5590]

“Don’t say we coz I don’t hate you” she’s so sweet man! Beautiful girls 😭🥺

[@Jay85_38]

Oldest was so hard. She’s most likely hurting more, at least the youngest is able to admit her pain which is such a strong first step. Wish them both well and hope they can get back together and be sisters

[@sophimatth8487]

I hope that hug was the start of something healthy for these two beautiful girls ❤

[@vw1649]

The hug cause me to cry, because I know they "BOTH" needed that hug. It was a longggggggggg time coming.

[@seesaa7119]

Why didn’t he address the fact the older sister way touching the younger one? The younger one said “you were suppose to protect me from them not become one of them” and maybe the older sister is afraid to address that, that’s why she don’t want to talk bout the past with her ..very sad situation hope they both heal

[@mstvee8112]

The younger sister has an anxious attachment style due to trauma the older sister definitely is the avoidant one. Just because the older one seems “healed” she isn’t. She suppressing, the younger one got her feelings on her sleeve.

[@amearraallen8741]

She really needed that hug from her big sister.

[@marithornton5613]

“I don’t have to try to look good, look at me” 9:37 ☺️

[@journye6740]

ngl I laughed at that but I didn't say nothing 😂😂 she ate and she is so pretty

[@shenellseldersss]

That part ❤

[@alfredamckinnon8427]

Soon as Desire starting about her sisrer you can see the hurt the pain in her eyes her voice how she speak she is still hurting from her childhood trauma that still hurts her as a adult