Filipina wanting to leave foreign husband of 5 years

[@rochelle5659]

Grass is not greener on the other side....it's just a different shade of green! Communication is the key....sounds like her communication with her husband is close to zero. Filipinas that move to the West are often poisoned by Filipinas that already live there and get to know in their first couple of years.

[@Mirajill0909]

I love that..the grass is just a diffrent shade of green.

[@kpham8789]

My points of view on the grass is greener on the other side is that some time it is true. Most of the time the it is greener is because it had been fertilized with a bunch of bullshits.

[@adolfushitler7870]

Rochelle are you a filipino ?

[@VistaLatin]

Excellent point.. I live in San Diego CA, near a naval base, there are many Filipinas there who simply bounce from one income to the next... However, I also have friends whom are happily married to Filipinas and they are wonderful wives... so in my opinion, you have two extremes.. those who are gold diggers "birds of a feather", and the excellent wives.. no in between...

[@jongoron4613]

2 rules - Never, ever bring a filipina to the US if there is a large age gap. Rule 2, when in doubt re-read Rule 1.

[@jamesrobert1440]

+ipmala do not talk to filipinas online..!! 99% have bad intentions. talk to filipinas in person never online.

[@insane360simracingwithwayn4]

Agree 100 %

[@insane360simracingwithwayn4]

Although there are few successful marriages but there's also lots that aren't successful especially to those older men with a very young wives.

[@DLeske]

Segi, I see that is true in the US where we are at near Seattle, when I see an old man with a much much younger magunda Filipina wife... many of these women simply do not look happy or will look at other men. But, when we are in the PI we see that they seem to be more attached to these old men. Maybe because these old guys could cut them loose and not support them if they are not faithful. Bakit hindi. Opo, once they are in the USA as a resident, the women can do okay on their own if needed much easier than in the Philippines. Segi na?

[@dougblythe5358]

Julie, actually there are far more successful marriages than unsuccessful. It depends on the people involved and their upbringing. Since I am a part of this rather large group, I can speak from experience, we know literally thousands of successful marriages, but it takes both parties to make it work.

[@deltaworf]

yep. lolok looks like she made the 5-year period for becoming an American citizen.. when you go to Disney World you never bring Minnie Mouse home.. Same accord when you go to the Philippines you never bring them back home , they'll leave you. .

[@Larrysfo]

And take half of your shit, if you have anything.

[@John-hh5ol]

After taking half of your income in the first place.

[@kolynslife6580]

Larrysfo ha ha...

[@ThePhilippineExperienceForLife]

Some good advice Mira, it sounds like she is gonna leave him anyway for a younger guy. I am an older foreigner and would never bring a younger girl here to the US. When she becomes Americanized she will leave. Thanks for sharing ...

[@DLeske]

+The Philippine Experience ....it happens. If the man is a lot older and ..if she is very pretty she will get ALL he owns when he dies typically, even if only US citizenship, or help from the guy for her family, it is a lot when you consider that so many Filipino men leave their wife and kids. If a man can develop a good bond like being in the same church, it helps. Younger guys often do not often have money in the US, they just act like they do. If there was no love to begin with, it will not last anyway. Older guys should look for a lady in her 40's and she will appreciate you more. Mira you have a good heart...nice advice. Guys over 55 or 60 should not bring their wife to the US unless you want to take the risk, or if you really know she is stuck on you. Be careful ....Mira is right.

[@bizzman4u]

the only problem is most woman over 40 just don't look good LOL

[@DLeske]

I think my Filipina wife at 65 years old looks great. I prefer long hair, but too much sun will damage the skin and everyone ages differently. In general I think Filipinos age slowly, IMHO. I have seen plenty of Hot Filipinas over 40. :-)

[@ThePhilippineExperienceForLife]

Don Leske Sr. Very true, I to have seen many beautiful Filipinas that are older ....

[@bizzman4u]

if I am going to spend all that money to bring a Filipina over to my country then there is no way I would even consider a woman over 40 :) Woman over 40 cannot have anymore kids and most likely already have another man's kids not to mention she is over the hill with nothing to offer so she can do is take and give nothing in return.

[@gavino2250]

Great video Mira! I met my wife who is a native Filipina here in California USA, very hard working woman. We've been together now going 12 years, she's 20 years younger than me, she was 24 when we met do the math. Beautiful person, the greatest thing about us is that we both grew as a person. She had a average minimal paying job when we first met, I had a great paying job but somehow those differences were the catalyst that allowed her to grow her maturity that today scares me how she has caught and surpassed me in her wisdom. She worked hard to move up the ladder where she works, she is now a high ranking Patient Services Manager at a hospital. She also hac a great desire to travel and see the USA and see historical venues, me I was much of a travel type guy but I grew to enjoy it very much, to this day we spend a lot quality time talking to each other about a variety of topics. We share everything we do, in our lives there is never "I" it's always "we", we have a beautiful boy now 10

[@gavino2250]

+ipmala thank you💯

[@flowerpower4926]

good .you hit d gold

[@hifzhabib4766]

Gavino Diaz I wish you both a very happy and prosperous life

[@jesuscristo5161]

Thank you for telling it like it is! I've been interested in native Filipinas, but this gives me great pause.....

[@markmelanson6785]

she obviously used him now she ready to move on to next one to use

[@robertlee-nq6mg]

Mark Melanson Marriage with any nationality will have similar success or failure rate. Women are women...

[@dyu2088]

Mark Melanson for marriage is sacred men and women are the same ..we are lucky if we find real one not users ...i heard as well foreigners are users too ...soem filipina wife they treat them as a maid ..so if my man will do the smae better go back here

[@stephaniefrancisco3017]

I wish I could find a real person who r not scammer I been on dating side but I don't have the luck I'm a real but mostly I chat is freaking scam people I wish for them to get triple karma coz I know God is always there.

[@melodyr.5111]

Mark Melanson , we don't know the real situation . It can go both ways too ! If the husband is an a$$hole to his wife . I won't blame her for leaving him . But in a situation that the wife is having an affair with another man then that's a total disgrace! I won't have respect for that woman !

[@manoliskalergis1367]

Mark Melanson You are right. I am only wondering how somebody could get married to her. She is not pretty and as I understand her character is not good as she only wants to use men. Like most of philipino women.

[@Rick101755]

A lot of these younger girls that marry an older foreigner are looking for a way out of their country. Most of the relationships do not work out when the guy takes them back to their home country. If you are going to have a young girl for a wife it best to stay in the Philippines and sometimes that doesn't work out either.

[@ABritinthPhilippines]

+Rick White in the Philippines I agree with what you said, this story should be a wake up call for us old guys who yearn for a younger lady,I will be getting married soon and there is a 25 year age gap,I would not dream of taking her back to the UK. If the age gap is big,then the best chance for that relationship to work,is stay in the Philippines.

[@Rick101755]

+A Brit in the Philippines Chris Wren. Very true. I have heard of so many relationships not working once they take them back to their home country. Especially if there is a big age gap. There is only 19 years difference between me and my girl but I have no plans on moving back to my home country. I like it here better anyway. :-)

[@dennisdeberry2582]

The down side of being an older foriegner married to a pinay and living in the Philippines is that you have the family right there. You can not get away from then. Its not like they are are ocean away and they are bugging your wife for money by email or or phone or letter and then she is bugging you. if you live there then they can come right to your house and bug both you and her. If they are living in another province then you will be surprised that they do not have enough money to eat but somehow they found enough money to MOVE to the city that you and her are living in.

[@Rick101755]

Not all situations are like that. I have been with my girl for two years now and not once has any of her family ask me for anything. All of her siblings have jobs. Her parents are deceased. The only money I spend is on my own family.

[@karmacanquints4222]

Sadly it's true...I am not generalizing but some Filipinas think that older foreigners means stability or greener pasture. A source of financial support to the family. While some older foreigners think that Pinays are great caregivers, someone that will take care of them when they retire or get much older or until th wry die. It's like that they are taking advantage on each other's condition. Again I do not generalized.

[@josiegarcia994]

everything that girl said about her husband are just an excuse to leave him because she found someone new. that's what happened when you are married and you entertain boys around you, there's a possibility that could develop into something. plus her friends are not a good friends at all, giving her a no moral advice.

[@llooyyd1]

Maybe many of her friends are giving her a moral advice but she only hears those who tell her to do what she wants to do. That is the smartness of MiraK. To be honest: I am undecided on this matter. It's in the game if you bring a younger Filipina to your country. She does become Americanised: a woman who would rarely be happy with an older man. We can not judge someones desires.

[@bluesbrother2678]

The way a woman thinks is how her friends and companions think. The greatest indicator of how a woman will do, is how her friends are doing. Women regardless of country, do whatever other women are doing, third wave feminism, go MGTOW!

[@Cloud-ib8zl]

Blues Brother I thought Filipinos never get divorced

[@Cloud-ib8zl]

I guess that change when they come to America

[@bluesbrother2678]

@Gregory In the Philippines they can't get a divorce, but bring them to America and they can and they do. I married a Filipino in the Philippine's, and all she did was use me as an ATM machine and she ran with other men behind my back. I left her ass in the Philippines and stopped the monthly payments when she mentioned another man who was paying her bills. I replied you can have him, and by. That was my last contact with her. Also, I am not and old man, I was 39 when I married her. They all are just like Western women, use a man and when they find a better sugar daddy or when they get their green card it is by by baby.

[@MikeFuryTech]

Beautiful, thoughtful advice. I'm impressed and thankful that people like you are in this world.

[@teclife4]

girl,don't listen to your friends ,especially when they tell you to leave your husband. they are not really your friend.your main concern should be trying to work things out with your husband and building the relationship and if he is a sweet guy,keep him cause the states is full of dogs. you will end up regretting it.

[@Mirajill0909]

True.

[@delroseford221]

Agree!

[@christopherstimpson6540]

I married a girl from Mexico. She is 22 years younger than I am. She left me for a younger man, got her USA citizenship and I bought her a house, new car and all that. We are still friends. Life is too short to waste time with those who are not happy.

[@retired5249]

You can take a girl out of a bar....but you can't take the bar out of the girl. I am never taking my GF to the US ever! also.....never marrying her. Stay as long as you want and if you get bored...don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out. This story I am hearing now is the same story I am hearing about all 3 of my friends.

[@Mirajill0909]

i always hear that. I always hear that.

[@retired5249]

It is 90% true. There might be 10% that are good and actually love you and want to have a family. But what I have seen with so many guys is the girls are way much younger 20 years to 40 years younger. They only started working in the bar to make money to help their family, or in some cases there husbands and children. They won't tell you they are married, they will just string you along. I got lucky and met a retail cashier but her sister is a bar girl and she is totally a user and can not be trusted. So, my recommendation living here now 5 years as an American. Find a girl that doesn't work in a bar and that is no younger than 15 to 20 years than you and you be in in your 40's when you meet. If you are already in your late 50's or 60's...look for a good 40+ girl, she will love you. Just my opinion.

[@darlien3105]

@@retired5249 40+ and working....but wonder why can't find one hahaha

[@Gclique]

I know you're not religious, but I'm going to say this anyway: "God Bless You Mira K". Your advice to this young lady is so wonderful. I pray she will Listen! & Understand!. You truly are an Angel my dear.

[@nhorlymm]

I'm a filipina & married to a white guy. Meet him when i was in college. We combined our earnings, bills, etc...Communication is really important in relationship & I pick my friends wisely. Before we have kids I partied a lot with or without my husband, going to bar with my friends, but I know my limits. My husband is pretty laid back & somewhat boring but I love him. So, if i have something in mind I laid the plan & we discuss. Sometimes you need to step up, don't wait for your husband to do all the planning! Intimacy lacking? Do the first move, your younger and perhaps more active than he is, with a nice lingerie, it might motivate your husband.

[@chiuapug10]

Shailene Shaisha or she could use some feminine wash to make it fresh and edible for her husband. Lol jk

[@garyslo-pokeguillory8543]

MAD RESPECT FOR YOU! GREAT advice. I was not expecting what you said. You are very wise for your years.

[@jack75146]

Spot on with this advice Mira. On traveling, " Invite him, if he doesn't want to go then go with your friends. " Invite him, that is such a beautiful thought. All of what is listed in response to the young woman's concerns is something she should take into consideration. " Maybe I'm babbling for you. " Sure if the person who asked doesn't want to hear the wisdom in every word spoken here. I truly appreciate what was said here and I'm sure if this young woman who is so very uncertain about keeping her relationship with the mature man she married five years ago, wants to find a way to keep it alive, the way she seems to, then she will take this advice to heart and look at her husband from a new perspective. Good luck young woman in whatever you decide.

[@trainrecked]

Very nice "babble," Mira....you are wise beyond your years...and seem to be a sweetheart...are there many like you? :)

[@rasputinswalloper475]

No, but there are people like you ... one born every minute.

[@stephenbond6127]

That is some wise and compassionate advice you gave. I love what you said about not only cheating on your spouse...but you damage yourself as a result. finally to paraphrase what you most accurately stated: "If your going to leave him, let him know so he can find someone better than you. unfortunately, I've seen some men here treat their girlfriends and wives as though they should be submissive and only attentive to their own needs. they bring a Filipina to their own country with no effort to even try to learn the language or celebrate her culture. I tend to sense that more where the age gap is wider...not all, of course but I think more often than not. thank you for your candidness.

[@adrakor5449]

your wisdom exceeds your years. wish i could thumbs up 5 times.

[@mvn3949]

99% of the filipina girls will leave their husbands if they bring her to the US/UK/AU/CA,etc. if you do a simple search on google, you will see hundreds of such cases and questions from both girl and guy.

[@rhisaalcala2730]

And I am one of the 1% which I don't want to have a foreign husband, though I was separated from my husband in my younger age,but instead I choose to be a single parents to my children..and now that he's gone,and I am his widowed I choose to become single.

[@gavino2250]

+ipmala why can't you move there? Much easier cost of living... 7 years is an awful long time lol... If she wanted to leave you she would of done it by now just saying... Get over your hang ups and go with your instincts... You are not doing yourself and especially her ant favors by being indecisive!

[@rhisaalcala2730]

ipmala you can't read those words under the line in the middle of your paragraphs, is that you mean?

[@dougblythe5358]

Don't listen to these morons! Too much misinformation out there!

[@dougblythe5358]

There is absolutely nothing scary about Mindanao, I go every few years! I hear all this all he time especially from Filipinos living in Luzon! They have never even been to Mindanao! Gossip travels like wildfire in the Philippines! Hundreds of expats live in Mindanao

[@joshuacollins7398]

My Filipina girlfriend and she is my best friend. We respect each other. We don't think about money but I am not broke.

[@jeffuk3940]

HI Mira i score you 10/10 for honest impartial advice good on you

[@shaka2010100]

Wow....what a genuine, mature, free advice. Best marriage counselor, understanding the multi-national marriage, the huge age difference, intentions of marrying, etc.... I really thought you might side on pinay wife before starting to listen your vlog. But I was dead wrong. If she had good intentions at the beginning of her marriage, she should listen to you now, to work it out. Anyway, congrats to your 3000+ subscribers. Well-deserved and more to come. BTW, I just arrived in ac 2 weeks ago to retire if visa gets approved. If I need relationship advice, I'll come looking for you...lol. Yoroshiku onegai shimasu.

[@Mirajill0909]

I envy youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu......I will let you know when i get a holiday!!!

[@Mirajill0909]

You don't have to look for me.

[@shaka2010100]

hahaha...maybe u can show me several places to eat quality but inexpensive Japanese food here. I think it's difficult unless at classy hotel. Hurry and get a holiday...lol. Jya ne.

[@goygoogi3215]

Not all pinays are the same hint for you guys study carefully the family backgrounds educated families are better and some pinays are ignorant about foreigner the way they look at foreigners are rich they have car in their country which only good paying job in the Philippines can have it but they don't have any ideas the lifestyle in another country it's all credit card you have to work hard a lot of bills to pay not like in my country if you have no car there is another option for transportation! I admit a lot of pinays they look foreigners as a source of money! But mind you try courting pinays whose not ignorant lifestyle abroad it's another story! Aware of reality of lifestyle in another country you'll see the difference! A guy once offered me sending money I dumped his offer I told him you don't have to send me money you need it most I'm single and I work hard for my own living!He's a retired army ! Best thing if all the siblings of the girl sides is working that's a big bonus to a foreigner the family won't depend only to the girl married to a foreigner! And you're not obligated to give money (girl) it's up to you whether you give or not!

[@michaeldev5962]

this exactly thebreason why im afraid to get married once she gets what she wants your gone

[@dyu2088]

you just need to find the good soul then you dont have to worry ,there is always a red flag when you a relationship before you get married and if you see the sign of red flag then much better to leave because there is so much fishes in the ocean

[@NetSkillNavigator]

Just be wise & don't allow her to dominate ya.. U'r supposed 2b the head of the family, so you have control.

[@dougblythe5358]

You have to work to find the good ones, but they do exist, the gals that contact you right away and profess their undying love for you, shut them down and move on, do your homework, it's not just a pretty face and a nice figure, who is she, get to know her, and above all else never, ever, send her any money, until you meet her in person, and even then, don't! Find a gal that has a job, a career, not a cutie spending her days in an internet cafe!

[@michaeldev5962]

+Mary Rose Pelaez easier said than done

[@itloyandbo9159]

know her well and the family.Not all Filipinas are doing it.

[@california5750]

your the real good friend for all of us. Mira.

[@sheilarobertson3580]

Sometimes things just don't work out. Doesn't matter how old you are or where you come from, relationships change. Expectations can be high from both men and women. I know you're saying stay and work it out, but sometimes you've got to know when to say goodbye, cherish the memories you had with person and move on.

[@sejotosant8300]

filipina marrying a foreign man ..for a visa in his home country..like uk germany USA canada etc..another reason was to escape poverties and hunger in the philippines..

[@conbautista6823]

sejo tosant not all filipino's like that!i myself i work so hard for my family to give them good life and things they needed! not like what u said!

[@stevehansen6552]

If he is 52 and there is a lack of physical attention it is either a health matter or he is aware of what you are planning. Most younger men are not looking for a dependent so you will probably find yourself out on your own. Good luck.

[@dennisdeberry2582]

Mira K First welcome back. About this video.I have seen this happen so many time that I have lost count. The woman says they have been married 5 years so more then likely she has a green card so she can stay in the U.S. as long as she wants as long as she is not convicted of a felony. So now she starts listening to those other Filipinas here in the states that have married some guy and left him. And if they are in a Community Property state. and unless he was wise enough to get her to sign a prenup she gets half of whatever he has!!!!! I have seen and heard of this story happening so man times. In fact there use to be this nightclub in here that was a unofficial meeting place for Filipina that married U.S. servicemen to exchange stories and advise on how to dump or cheat on their husbands. Anybody here that has been stationed in San Diego will know where I am talking about. If you went in there any Thursday night( Ladies Night. Ladies got in free) you would swear you were in the middle of downtown Manila.

[@Mirajill0909]

I love learning these stories,atleast people would be aware of what is happening.

[@dennisdeberry2582]

She is also probably listening to other Filipinas that she has met since she came to the states. That have a older husband(and in some cases a husband of the same age) that let them just keep all the money that they earn at their job and not contribute to the bills. This happens all the time. In fact I recall another Filipina here on youtube that had married a second generation Philippino-American and moved her to the states after they got married. Lets call her Joy (not her real name). joy was shocked and so ashamed . one day she was over another married filipina's house here in the states.This woman( Call her Leti ) was married to an american she did not work., her husband would give her all of his paycheck when he came home. . One day Joy was at Leti's house visiting and Leti's husband came in the living room and wanted to get HIS credit card to order a pay per view boxing match on cable. Leti (Right there in front of Joy) started yelling at the guy and saying that it cost too much and was a waste of money. Joy said she felt so ashamed and embarresed to be there. That this guy could not use his own money which he worked for to do something that he wanted.!!!!

[@pappadappacarhauler757]

This young lady is very special and wise beyond her years. What great advice. Who ever marries this girl will be blessed.

[@shineamen3107]

Would haven't Athena, Minerva and Sarasvati already been chosen by Gods, we would have been so happy to chose you as a brilliant Goddess of Wisdom. Thanks a lot Mira K. Ingat palagi.

[@coiledsteel8344]

These scammers are like the Sirens of Greek Mythology, luring unsuspecting sailors to the rocks and doom.

[@MichaelSoothingASMR]

You have an excellent moral compass Mira, so sad that so few people think this way today, your advice was gold, platinum, diamond.

[@marcusallen99]

she need to stay with her man ofcourse if she works she needs to pay some of the bills

[@cazglen361]

Thank you, Mira. I think the woman who asked this question was asking for your approval, and I appreciate you giving her honest, morale advice.

[@hanal510]

I agree with you, if you get married you must share everything, having married is like a team, so being a team you must talk and share opinion to each other to make your marriage work, if you are greedy better to not marry because the day you decide and accept him to be your partner and marry him it means you wanted him to be on your side forever and it's about love and friendship why you marry him. I felt so sorry for the guy who is the husband of the girl of your topic... I am also a Filipina but i think this girl is so greedy when it comes of money, she better fix her mind. This is only my opinion... If you love your partner don't count the things or every cents you spent for the family, and don't marry a guy if you think you don't really love him, don't pretend that you like him/her even if you don't otherwise your marriage will be doomed.

[@Mirajill0909]

Yup,Hopefully she will wake up and realize how fortunate she is.

[@marilouspagnolo5050]

Tama cy ingat sa foreignerkhit mging asw mo alila kp rin mhirap lng ang tingin nila sa atinwag magpaapi sa mga foreigner .ingat mga guys ako rin mayroon pero nmtay n

[@sadsallenski]

you are totally right! i am married to american guy. we have a difficult time sometimes in our marriage but i love him so much thats why i never had a thought leaving him. if i feel that he has no time to me, i tell him frankly what i want so that way he has a chance to make up. hope she realize that her husband save her. hope everything work out with her and husband. thumbs up to you girl keep it up!

[@Mirajill0909]

Thank you so much, it is very relaxing to hear that from a filipina. i get bashed alot for this

[@bgdomingo]

she got her green card

[@oasisneko1]

Mira, the reason I like your videos is I lived in Japan for over 20 years and I know about a lot of the problems you raise. I think it is really important for people to know more about culture and social psychology. I would like to know more. You are really sharp and, in Japan, there is a very big need for people with your skills. Many people are unhappy. Their only recourse is to "suck it up". That's not very effective. I want to pose a challenge to you: please think about narcissism in Japan. I'm thinking about the tremendous pressure to conform and how that pressure stifles sincerity and human warmth. I believe there is a cycle of envy, apathy, shallowness, narcissism, shame, guilt, depression, etc. If you find the answer to this problem, you can help a lot of people! Please let me know.

[@katphiliphz2511]

me and my man have bern argueing through hell for years but my god i would never leave him for anything u sit and work it out no matter what it takes

[@smarteepants6431]

My aussie partner is also way older than me. He supported me in my education in Aus so i could get my nursing registration and could eventually work and be able to contribute. It means a lot to me. I am grateful. Whats depressing is that nearly two months now after having granted full work rights (awaiting partner visa), I still have not got a nursing job despite the efforts of job applications (hopefully the good news will come so soon). I badly want to be employed so i could cintribute financially to the relarionship. I am feeling depressed that i dont want him to feel that i Am comfortable being dependent on him for which i am not comfortable at all. He is a healthcare provider and we are aboth aware that he is financially capable. And i never took advatage of it in the sense of satisfying my own gratifications. Hes happy providing me the basic stuff I need for myself. I understand bec he himself is frugal and wise and a bit tight on himself. And im fine with it. There are just a few minor things that I dislke about him. And i try and understand partly bec of his age. Or maybe also bec i myself am annoying at times. Its not easy. We have a number of differences. Huge number. So, here I am trying to better myself for myself and to be a better partner to him. I will stay faithful to him til each others last breath. Despite the differences, annoyances, and the challenges, I love him.

[@PaultheSheik]

You seem to have a good heart. Things will work out, don’t stress yourself. Marriage is hard, it’s not always easy peasy.

[@yorubianx]

Filipinas women need to understand that older men are not Angels. Most of the times, older men simply looking for sexual fantasies with a younger woman. He doesn't have time to raise you. That's why they travel to places like the Philippines. I've dated a Filipina before. She's cool. I just wasn't ready for marriage back then. Still regretting my actions though.

[@shitmandood]

wtf..listen to you man! First you condemn older men who are taking action. They're going out there & finding young beautiful women to make each other happy. And what do you do? You sit back at home & regret your past, not doing a damn thing. Not taking any action at all! You should admire these older men who are actually getting off their ass & doing something. UNLIKE YOU! Fix it.

[@bossem5461]

so good and very balanced wise thoughts...you are already a wise woman Mira and with a good insight in the filipina (and human) character...thanks girl !

[@Patriot93933]

You are an amazing, beautiful woman. I wish more ladies had your wisdom....

[@suckmyballssuckmyballs2174]

Its easy to get along with the same traditional values. White to white, chinese to chinese, japanese to japanese, filipina to filipinos and so on. There is not a lot of a couple adjustments like family, clothing, speaking and so on. More on communicating I believe it is easier to communicate with the same language even in physical affection. Also, dont forget the eye stare that a couple would have to endure with their family, walking at mall, at the park, anywhere as long the couples are together. If a couple managed to survived this life couple life trial then god job. More power to both of you.

[@d197555]

Very good advice,well said from Filipino to Filipino 👍🏾

[@MrSychophant]

I've been a subscriber for sometime but it's good to be reminded you are ONLY available for information and advice. Thank you once again.

[@duterteizanasshole186]

LOL feeling forced to share the bills? Isnt that what most married couples do nowadays? Wants to travel yet probably wants him to pay for everything. Filipina friends suggesting to her what she should do, fellas if you bring your Filipina to your home country for the love of god do not let her have Filipina friends. They will make her jealous and Filipinos have this weird thing where they will listen to whatever any Filipino says and just totally disregard you.

[@jimfurman3145]

You are wise beyond your years young lady ... that is awesome advice.

[@georgecampbell5275]

The Philippine experience below is right with the age differance it is very difficult to live in the United States. I love the Philippines so I would rather help make it better than go to America and work every day to pay the bills and find out you had no time for your family. And you advise is very good also. You are one of the most intelligent women I have ever know. I have watched a lot of you videos and subscribed. A lot of times you have put your self down. That is a huge mistake you are smart, funny, beautiful, where you are from is what made you what you are and you are a treasure to the world. No I am not hitting on you but I think you are as close to the perfect woman as there is.

[@Mirajill0909]

Thank you, but i have my flaws

[@georgelindsey7370]

You have wisdom beyond your years and a very good Heart!!!

[@bizzman4u]

lets face it.....all she was seeing is a greener pasture in a better country. She did not care how old he was at the time so long as she could get the heck out of the Philippines. Now she is earning her own money and no longer needs him so in her mind he is no longer needed. And about splitting the bills? How about all the money he spend to bring her to America? What a masakarili Filipina she is. If he was smart he should of kept her in the Philippines so that if she stepped out of line he could of threatened to dump her for another......sorry........but I have noticed most Filipina don't appreciate the costs involved with bringing these ungreatful Filipina here. All they care about is themselves......I hope other men watch this video.

[@Food-is_Life]

This are some great comments made. I can tell you were raised right and not a gold digger. Good job. You have just earned my like and a subscriber. 😉

[@chrisiden1]

a young woman naturally wants to be with a guy in her own age group... im a mature man but im not stupid, what does a young woman want to do with her Uncle? he he he... unless its mutual for money only, possibly???

[@itloyandbo9159]

go for the same age bracket.

[@VistaLatin]

though you may be correct in many cases, there are some who are not there for the money... I recently met a young lady, several decades younger than I... If I was in the US, I never would have considered this relationship due to culture... however, circumstances brought us together.. initially we met on a date website... our conversations were mostly about religion, friendship, and life in general.. as time passed, we began to understand that we actually had a lot in common in spite our age difference.... We both love to exercise, listen to the same music, travel adventures and great faith in the Lord... As time passed, we began to bond and before we knew it, we accepted each other... We're due to marry next year when I retire in the Philippines... She is from the province.. this may have something to do with it...they are more humble? P.S. she has never asked me for money, in spite of her salary being $120.00 / month.. I actually offered to send her parents a few dollars, she said "no, save it for our wedding". that's about as noble as one can get...

[@enrieangeles]

GREAT ADVICE! Thank you very much for the insights!

[@TokTokCali]

Hi Sis... Na miss kita ah. Musta na? Hoping all is well. Congrats on your 3000+ subs. Each one well deserved :).

[@Mirajill0909]

+TokTok Cali Thank you. hehe busy kasi. Dami inasikaso this month.

[@TokTokCali]

Mira K. Ahh ganun ba? Ganyan talaga :) Alagaan mo sarili mo dyan.

[@TokTokCali]

+Mira K. Sis im trying to look for your fb. Di kita ma hanap. :( Add sana kita..

[@icantlie2599]

Wow! the light pours from within... after following this advice she can surely respect the decision she will make

[@xray114]

Good advice. Maybe she rushed into marriage before thinking the who thing through. Maybe she was blinded to the realities of being married to someone outside the Philippines. I think what most likely happened is there may have been a lack of communication between the two of them before marriage, Here in America a lot of Filipinos that come here and have never been here, they assume that most Americans are rich and that they don't have to work. I know many Filipinos that are retired military and they are working two to three jobs or many hours of overtime to maintain that ideal lifestyle. Your advice was very good but as I said i think it was a lack of communication on both sides before and after they got married. Great video.

[@Mirajill0909]

I guess so as well..hopefully they would make it.

[@corahandayan4348]

as ive read some of the comments below mostly are true im currently live in US 6 yrs now making decent money i have a BF we talk about everything is sharing and no problem not at all life is great .. but in general life is what we make it .. i don't truly believe in LOVE .. i believe in responsibility to each other.. in all aspects of the relationship and everything fall into places. sharing of responsibilities is fun and learning and that's why HEAD or BRAINS is on the top of our body to stay on top of our wise decision in life but always seek guidance wt the LORD .. thanx

[@robertdesoto8382]

Your an extremely lucky man if your 15 or 20 years older than your filipina and still together. You are fortunate to find a real filipina. But there are not many out there, and you need to really be careful. I have spoke to so many 65 year old guys who said their 25 year old filipina left them...Really? If any 65 year old man actually thinks a marriage is going to last with a 25 year old woman (especially a filipina wanting to be petitioned to the US) is just an idiot! So Mira, for every one honest filipna out there, there are 10 that aren't, and men need to be very cautious when they meet that filipina online, that has knocked them off their feet.

[@dyu2088]

Robert Desoto yes i agree with your comment i like huge gap but not age 65 eventhough im 26 ...i prefer man 45 to 57 ..because 65 is too much for me but i dont judge other couples and i know some live happily esp if the man retire here in phil

[@meplayz6097]

Robert Desoto ii

[@zeeck9396]

65 yr old looking for a 25 yr old? sorry, but you brought it on yourself. the biggest age gap I would be willing to allow between me and a potential spouse is 15 years.

[@BCG6963]

Very well done Mira. Also congratulations on the 3,000.

[@Mirajill0909]

Thank you so much..

[@dresheraton9276]

Why did I come here...He is forcing her to share the bills...wtf....She is another female giving Pinays a bad name....MiraK thanks for keeping it 100...following you now.

[@dougblythe5358]

Part of the problem, and I see this all the time, an older guy wants a younger attractive woman, something impossible in the US, unless the guy is loaded! In the Philippines it is possible, and happens every day, but the older guy thinks he has to lavish gifts on the young Filipina, he thinks he needs to "buy" her, (it's all subconscious) but in reality he doesn't, in fact I think it's a huge mistake. If he does this, he is setting himself up for failure, she will get used to the gifts he gives her, most of which she never had before. Also younger Filipinas, as they acclimate themselves to American life, will want to naturally explore the world around them, they will naturally seek out other Filipinas. If the hubby sits at home and lets his wife go out without him, he is making yet another mistake, he needs to show he is part of the relationship too.

[@KanoDailyThePhilippinesandMore]

Great video and advice. I would only disagree with one thing, just my personal opinion. If a guy has a wife from the Philippines who is 25 years younger--30 years difference, in my case--he shouldn't be expecting his wife to share the bills. If she wants to work and contribute to the budget as your wife, that's fine. But what kind of man would take a young woman like that to another country and then try to pressure here financially?

[@josephsfields]

I don't understand what you wrote. Your description sounds more father/daughter where the "young woman" works but contributes --only if she feels like it? If the wife does not work then I hope she does something, like raise the kids or run a household and/or maybe help out her husband so he can concentrate more on work and less on running errands, shopping for groceries maybe food preparation duties. By your description that would be like taking the young woman away from her country and turning her into a slave.

[@KanoDailyThePhilippinesandMore]

Then you definitely misunderstand. I kind of threw that in just because I know guys who bring women over here that they are not really capable of taking care of and then they expect them to go to work and get a job right away and pressure them to help with everything. If you are going to bring someone over to a new country and pull them away from everything they know, you need to understand that they will need some time to adjust. And I just think that you should be capable of taking care of them, at least during that initial phase. I realize that for most couple's they depend on two incomes. I am kind of fortunate in that regard. It will be nice when my wife gets a job, but it isn't required. She has a degree as an English teacher, but who knows what she will decide to get into once she is settled over here. In the meantime, while she gets settled, she doesn't have that pressure on her. My point is, if you are an older guy getting involved with some young woman, you shouldn't be expecting her to support you. And, based on some of the stuff I read from women, a lot of them have to deal with losers like that.

[@josephsfields]

I agree that most guys have no idea of the expense involved with the foreign spouse immigration and details thereof. It would hijack Mira's channel for us to get into it here. The fees for everything imaginable then lengthy wait for employment eligibility. It's all a sad introduction to the new country. My point was how she arrived to a marriage as a working partnership in some capacity. She's not here on marriage vacation. Life needs some pressure to give us reasons to answer the alarm clock in the morning. Husbands should not pressure wives to do anything. But . . . .that does not include trying to convince them. Weather it's get some more education, training, volunteer full time or part time employment. People need something to do. So, if she, the wife, wants to do nothing all day, or only does as she pleases the case being little to nothing, she loses the status of being in a partnership. Mas tulad ng reyna ang babae may buhay ganun.

[@williamdean9326]

First, it takes time (1-2 years)for an person to come to the US and be granted work status when on a fiance visa, which would be more than enough time to adjust. Second, if she is working then she is not supporting the man, they are supporting each other. Third, the older man will not be able to work forever, therefore she needs to learn responsibility and handle the finances in a mature manner in case something serious happens to her husband.

[@sylviah367]

Joseph Fields

[@Kayfabe-226]

Well,I think that the girl was ok with marrying this older guy and getting opportunity to live in a more developed country like the U.S..it's true that younger guys would more energetic for you but he is more likely to maybe cheat on you or even find someone else..an older man is more stable and would rarely leave you..everything is a trade-off including relationships with older or younger guy..now I'll say that other ppl giving you advice doesn't matter..in the end it's about how you feel in your heart..if you don't love the guy your married too and are seriously unhappy then you owe it to him to be honest..that's how I see it...

[@katphiliphz2511]

u owe him everything call ur self a phillipina u mskd me sick if it wasnt for him u wouldnt be where u r now u owe him everything

[@LUCKYBROOKS]

Congratulations on your reaching 3,000 Subs !!! Your advice is very wise - and though y6ou say you are not 'religious ' ; you have a strong moral sense and you truly care for others ... it shows !

[@Mirajill0909]

Thank you very much...it's still unbelieveBle that I got 3000

[@donaldcollins7866]

You are wise way beyond your years Mira.

[@bigdjers]

I know this is one of your old videos however, I just seen it. I am going threw somewhat the same concerning sharing bills. You gave very sound advice. Sometimes when you hear the same thing all the time you begin to believe it and doubt yourself even tho you know its not right. You gave very good advice...take care

[@rhettwild]

casue guy is like 67 years old an grumpy

[@desgoulding7154]

lawson chamblee not all 67 s are grummys some think young and are fit not over the HILL LOL

[@rhettwild]

i know best he stay alive long time so that check doesn't stop coming

[@bhebkho2160]

hahahha

[@chiuapug10]

Viagra is the 🔑

[@andycooper5360]

another good vlog Mira, whoever you marry is going to be a lucky guy. Well done on 3k subscribers.

[@Jenia672]

Just offering my 2 cents. I believe that their relationship wasn't based on love initially and she's now looking for a way out. She wants a man within her own generation to share her life, have children, and grow old together. She has her whole life ahead of her. Marrying or being with a much older man isn't the same as being with a man around her own age or even 10 years older. Personally, 25 years age difference is just pathetic. If it's 10 years age difference, it isn't as bad BUT 25 years age difference! The girl hasn't lived her life yet for Christ's sake. It has absolutely nothing to do with how he treats her. She is NOT happy and she knows he's not the right man for her. It has nothing to do with whether grasses are greener on the other side or not. As a woman, I can definitely feel her pain. The man is old enough to be her father! He needs to find someone his own age or 10 years younger than himself (that's still a big age difference too but not too bad). Young innocent women married much older foreigners not because of love. They experienced hardships in their country and desperately needed a way out. You can never feel someone's pain if you're not in their shoes. I don't blame the girl for wanting to leave. I strongly support her and I hope she will find happiness with a younger man to share her life with.

[@Mirajill0909]

well,I also agree with you, she should have thought about that before she entered the relationship. She knows what she entered, age difference,they have been together for some time, yet she did not leave.

[@Mirajill0909]

and,As i have said,if she wants to leave she should leave now,its being respectful at least for the Guy,so she won't waste his time and he can find a better women,and on her part she also won't be wasting her time whining about something she clearly has a choice about.

[@watchman6141]

Very good video spoken from the heart.

[@klintous]

Goes to show women from non-western countries are the best, but do not bring them back to the US. What happens is they start making American friends, and going to bachelorette parties, girls night out-girls only vacations, start watching the Kardashians, and surprise surprise this is the end result. This guy did everything for this girl, and you see how much she appreciates it. He could have just stayed with an American Girl and put up with the same bullcrap! I hope you are reading this, and your husband reports you for green card fraud! The moral of the story is it's ok to marry these women, but never ever bring them back to the US because this will always happen! F.Y.I. it only happens after she is established, and the guy paid for members of her family to move to the US and or send over a boat load of your Money. This is coming from a male that is a feminist.

[@Mirajill0909]

You would be surprised on how the younger generation now in ph are crazy about the kardashians. 😅😅

[@klintous]

+Mira K. hahaha I know! I just got back from the Philippines last month, and plan on going back in the next couple months. Your country is so beautiful, and the people there are super nice!

[@Mirajill0909]

+klintous it's wonderful to hear that you had fun,I envy you..haha I guess j just miss the food and my friends,unfortunately I know they are also busy so..I guess I should just make the best of what I have now.😂😂😂😂

[@1962diamond]

I have enjoyed the WISDOM you have said! I know of all the controversies with pinays , and you have presented such a wonderful well rounded point of view.

[@a1to177]

It's so refreshing to see her young lady with dignity and insight into some of life's most important principles. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your wisdom. It's so troubling in the United States that women feel as though marriage is a disposable thing but they can toss away and monkey branch from man-to-man sometimes just to better their financial situation sometimes for other motives that are equally as shallow. In life when you look inward and work on yourself and try and live on a higher set of principles whereby you treat other people the way that you want to be treated you will find that you are drawn toward other people with similar characteristics. I recently married a Filipino and we are working on getting her here to the United States now. We share of faith in God together and with the commonality we will grow together as a vine gross together because of this common purpose. I should say that you don't have to be religious to have this common purpose you just have to want to treat people well and to serve your fellow man to make the world a better place and to share with you chowder that effort through your lives. Again thank you for your thoughts and your insights you're doing good work.

[@geno55912]

Hello Mira, I have found that some people who marry a person with a wide gap in age difference there tends to lack a "certain chemistry." I once had a filipina wife who was 10 years younger than I and 3 months after being here she committed adultery. The next I got married took 3 years as I took the time to learn about her and her about me, that there was not a big age gap between us. My wife now is only 4 years between us and I feel we have a good marriage. I wish you and your friend well.

[@dyu2088]

Eugene Groby it depend sir .its just some couples dont have chemistry its same with there is young men and women because they dont have chemistry 😊

[@samstengler4638]

First of your videos that I’ve watched. Excellent advice, you are a wise person, indeed!

[@anthonytaylor5091]

Excellent wise advice!!!

[@kennethclayton5884]

Own your day, you owe it to yourself. Great advice and excellent look on her. wow very nice to see.

[@dlw99999]

Mira you are wise beyond your years!

[@Mirajill0909]

Thank you.

[@wteo340]

I really want to tell this to my mhal. My mahal used to believe that I was obsessed with money, worried day in and day out, how to pay all our bills and expenses. She used to think that money could appear out of thin air, but now she understands. Mahal, gina gawa mo.. mahal.. mhal kita ng toto o

[@jrgilbert]

This girl is breaking my heart. Ugh! I know you can't stereotype Filipinas across the board, they are all individuals and different, but I have read so many WONDERFUL things about their commitment and meaning forever in marriage so long as the guy is at least good to them...then I hear this. Ugh. But as I said, not every Filipina will be that treasure. This is a sad story. If he treats her very well and honestly love her....haisst!!

[@Mirajill0909]

It did break my heart as well..if I was really rude I could have searched for her husband's name and sent him a message.

[@1dir951]

You speak with the wisdom of someone twice your age. Very impressed. For the person that wrote with the question, perhaps she may want to see for herself instead of taking your advice. She needs to consider, before she tries anything, that in life sometimes we can want and try different things, and where no harm is done we can return to our prior comfortable surroundings. In this case, it doesn't sound like that will be likely. My experience on grass looking greener on the other side is, as with many situations in life, once you get there and see things more closely you'll see the same brown earth between the blades of grass. And because of the angle of looking down you don't see the bright greenness of the now vertical blades of grass. When you look back at where you came from you see that because you now see the blades from the side, they are bright green. It's just a matter of perspective. Now, as you said in different words, because you are standing in your field of grass, you could easily add the proper amount of fertilizer and water the grass with care. And then your grass will actually become greener than the the grass on the other side.

[@Mirajill0909]

I know.. But i have to be honest, i can also see other people's grass greener...

[@rongrant7253]

Great advice. My wife is 28 years younger than me and she is working part time but she likes to contribute even though at this time she does not have to. For example we are going to New Zealand in November for a week and she asked me if she could pay the Air Fares. I said sure I will pick up the hire car accommodation and all other costs.

[@Mirajill0909]

That is wonderful, plus i think it feels good to share.

[@ahmedelnopy9353]

+MiraK. ASKAFILIPINA lucky man

[@pjones1186]

You have such wisdom. Thanks for sharing. I have been married for 10 years now to a Filipina. She is obsessed about moving to my country. As I am a retired person....Me , on the contrary, I wish to live in South -East Asia........A real dilemma!

[@TheBlackFilipino]

I have had my own channel for 11 months and it is growing fast.

[@Mirajill0909]

congratulations!!

[@koreanmarco]

american friends, if she leaves you, after you brought her to USA, you can always come back n take another girl to US .

[@There-Is-No-Virus]

6:30 minutes into it, lots of waffle.. lots of thankyous.. re reading the question.. the advice is "try to work it out"

[@Mirajill0909]

no. my advice was leave if you can't and work it our if you can.

[@lifeonamarble961]

Mira, I am a man from the USA and I respect you so much. My wife is a Filipina and I find most of her friends are very immature and materialistic. I have always encouraged her to spend time with her friends but to tell you the truth it is a big regret. I can only hope that some of the women watching this will value your opinions and learn to be stronger and not give in to so much peer pressure. Love someone for your own reasons and not what others think. Have some character and integrity please! Thanks!

[@josiegarcia994]

sometimes having fellow Filipino friends is not good, gossiping, jealousy and envious to each other. very few that are nice. I've been here in the US for a decade and I never had one Filipino friends. I'm very picky when it comes to Filipino friends.

[@duncanyourmate2433]

i'm sure we all enjoy your opinion , as your are straightforward , now you have 11k ,subscribers , that tells everyone that your advice is quality ,

[@DailyMyChildhood]

This was actually really helpful video .Appreciate your video😊

[@hardmtnbiker]

It's sad and your doing a great job giving that young girl some descent advice. We've lived in PHL and in USA and IMO it boils down to this. They both got married to soon and didn't think long term. The girls that stay in PHL with their old/tired out, and boring husband just work it out and hang out with their family and deal with staying married and unsatisfied until their old man dies. Some of girls that move to USA sometimes work it out, especially if kids are involve but ones without kids that get tired of their boring husband may find ways to leave the old guy at home while they play around with younger guys. The bottom line is, that marriage was doomed from the start because if he was not her handsome man that swept her off her feet and she never really felt that he satisfied her needs.So she just married for a better life and settled for a sweet guy with a regular paycheck.

[@hardmtnbiker]

The statistics prove that they do. Most of them will do everything for their man and tolerate them a lot longer than seems reasonable. Just ask Mira K. I'm sure she can convey the deep moral values of a Filipino. Of course everyone is an individual and you can't generalize. Some other facts to consider is, really knowing someone before you marry them is important for a couple before they commit.

[@tlindsey9769]

Great advice Mira. I especially like that your advise gives power to the female and the male also. If this would woman chooses to leave, she will carry the same issues on to her new relationship. I was blessed enough to find a wonderful lady (and I do mean "lady") who is @ 50. She always works extra hard and makes many sacrifices for her child. He is a good boy (I should say young man 15) and appreciates his mothers efforts. She has a good reputation and is established in her community. I was so very fortunate to have met her and I fell in love with her because we talked so much. I am older (66) but treat her like a beautiful delicate flower. I care for her and make sure she is able to pursue things that she is interested in. I have applied for a vise for her and I hope she will decide to become a nurse (She always wanted to study but no money was available). I am not rich but I have determined in my life that I will not fill my barns with excess, but instead, give opportunity to other people. In the romance department, I have committed to make sure she feels loves and appreciated ( like every woman wants to feel) and to never take her love, commitment, and life for granted. I choose her, but I am also aware that she choose me. I will strive to do my best to listen to her and make her glad and happy for her decision. Thank you

[@babymckenzie]

That's all true, I'm just 28 years old and my husband 52 , but I never think about leaving him, and look another young man, I'm happy and contented to him, will not doing contact much, but his very sweet, soft heart, and I don't need to be worried that he can look to replace to me:)) So if he loves me , I will loves him too;) That's it to keep the relationship stronger , age doesn't matter at all, :

[@peterhazelwood9325]

Wise advice ,I like your understanding of being a blended culture and seeing others points of view

[@southeastclass76]

also, a Philippian here in American started becoming intimate with me after her husband stopped being intimate to her (I didn't know). He paid all her bills, bought a house etc.,... and she had no conscious about cheating on him. But once I found out about her real situation, I felt heart broken for the poor guy she abused. He is still oblivious to her wrangling's, And that's when I become aware of the deceit, trickery and lies SOME beautiful islands girl (Pinay) can weave.

[@santoryja]

I read these and most are running that it is a bad idea to marry a younger Filipina, but even in America there is a 5 to 7 year itch to get out of the relationship even if you are in the same age bracket. This has worried me in that my Fillipina is over 30 years younger than me and we are headed toward marriage, it has been a long process and it is not money she is after. I almost ended the relationship because she was working and going to college and it was adversely affecting her health and out long distance relationship, but she would not let me help with money. So I paid off her tuition behind her back, and then she was so grateful. I would plan on some years here in US, then maybe back to Phil. We will see.

[@thetruthhurts4209]

I'm sorry man but 30 years is too much of a difference. I'd say 20 years difference is the max and that's pushing it. I'm not trying to judge, but for me a 30 year difference is just too wierd

[@howienaong6020]

Galing mo Mira... For someone with not much personal experience in life with being so young you have great compassion and sense. You can be a relationship counselor. Keep it up. I just started watching you and i am very intrigued by you Mira. Ingat ka lagi and god bless.

[@Mirajill0909]

Thank you for watching.

[@howienaong6020]

You just added another follower. 🐯

[@Mirajill0909]

+Howard Simon N. Thank You so much.

[@howienaong6020]

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