Finally Addressing Why My Hair Fell Out While Doing My Skincare Routine For The First Time In Months

[@thiftingmybestlife]

Thank you for trusting us enough to be vulnerable. You are a beautiful butterfly 🦋

[@zeetadean1978]

Sending hugs and healing prayers to you beautiful, I am going to invest in one of the irestore helmet as I have lost 50 percent of my hair from hormonal changes and stress. I cut all my hair off last week thinking that would help but instead it’s a disaster and so difficult to style as there is literally not much hair on my head 😔 I’m using Vegamour serum, not sure if that’s helping at all coz it’s $100 a bottle here in Australia and doesn’t even last 30 days. I’m using 1 and half bottle a month as my hair loss is massive. Have u tried Vegamour or have any thoughts on the product? Should I continue to use the serum? Would love to know your thoughts on this one. I’m keen on trying the irestore now 😊 thank you for sharing your journey, you are brave and beautiful 😍 ❤😍

[@Annelie_perhonen5]

​@@zeetadean1978Please look into formaldehyde releasers in your hair products, they can cause hair loss, I hope this helps some

[@dees3179]

My hair is falling out too. I’m fed up of having to ‘be strong’ and ‘take care of myself’. Just for five minutes I’d like for someone to take care of me for once. Sending hugs Cassandra.

[@Anindeterminateamountofbees]

I hope I find someone to do that for u

[@dees3179]

@@Anindeterminateamountofbees thank you. That's very sweet.

[@Angela-uc5nq]

Hope your doing well💜

[@erinlarge5649]

I was losing a ton of hair in 2018. I tried everything.. the only thing that literally stopped it in t's tracks. Iron infusion to bring my ferritin level up. I'm an empath like you so I understand you. You're beautiful.

[@ashleylamb1000]

Thank you for your honesty! For someone who has issues & battles with her mental, emotional, & physical health...it means a lot to me to hear you share your story as well. I absolutely hate hair wash days due to my hair loss. I always say that my hair ball is my little Chinchilla. Thank you for trusting us with your story. You are a hero to us!

[@LisaMarie-rh5yn]

omg yes! I HATE hair wash days. How about the TIME it takes standing in the shower and having to literally UNTHREAD the pulled/removed hair from the fingers (which I slap on the wall). With each step the hair comes off and intertwines around the hand/fingers. Over & over & over. And then Y, there's always the chinchilla in the hair catch over the drain. UGH! And wait we're not done yet, the combing afterwards and styling - hair hair hair - which leads us to the post-shower hair clean up. Yes, fun times for sure.

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

The pain and shame of hair loss is something that most people will hopefully never understand. I am taking oral minoxidil, but I need to restart using my helmet and my serums. Major depression has made me abandon any semblance of self care, including the activities that i love, such as skin care. This was such a brave video, Cassandra. Much love to you xxx

[@Isus24-s8e]

My hair started to fall out because of covid in March 2022. It kept on falling out till December and never came back to how it used to be. I've lost like 50% of my thickness and had to cut half of it off. Also been struggling with my weight and with some people harassing me and breaking mentally for their entertainment. If it won't stop i am gonna end up bald.

[@jaimebw3274]

I already commented this to Cassie, but I had to stop minoxidil due to pregnancy years ago. The only safe treatment option was ketokonazole shampoo (I use generic, but brand name nizoral), the ketokonazole shampoo did more for my hair loss than anything ever.

[@lucigzz]

I'm in the same boat-I use minoxidil both topically and orally, along with vitamin D and finasteride. Honestly, nothing works better than minoxidil.

[@caramelcheezit6978]

I've had really bad hairloss for a decade, and long story short what turned things around for me was making sure my diet contained adequate to surplus protein with very little to no carbs and sugars, veggies etc healthy fats to have a healthier gut etc Being vegetarian and vegan for a couple years contributed to my hairloss and hormone dysregulation.

[@laurenprince139]

Have you found the oral minoxidil lead to more facial or body hair growth?

[@jwalker6187]

You're not distracting, you are balancing the overwhelming pain in more manageable doses and that's a great coping tool. You experience life deeply, and your great capacity for beauty and happiness necessitates an equal ability to feel hurt and sorrow. And yes, you're right, you don't "get over it" but you are going to take those dark, ugly threads and weave them into your life in a way that makes your soul more beautiful because it has even greater dimension. Be human my little cyster, we love you all the more for it 🤗🥰.

[@bella123eh7]

I suddenly lost my boyfriend to suicide almost a year ago now and after that, I lost hope. He was only 21. I felt nothing but agonizing pain and heartache and there were many nights of myself wishing I could join him. The pain of that loss was a kind of pain I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. I was a wreck. Inside and out. I was not sleeping well, wasn’t eating much at all for weeks, my nose was red and peeling from tissues and crying all day everyday for 2 months straight. It was a living hell. All that to say, I deeply understand pain and not caring about life but I am in a place now where, yes, I’m still grieving and I still cry some days, but there’s joy to be found. I am able to smile and laugh and see the blessings around me again. I can move forward from that horrible experience and one day you will too. You will smile genuinely and find yourself healing from it. Even you taking the time to slap products on your face and be in front of a camera talking to us is a huge step. You’re never alone in this Cassandra. Hope is never lost. Joy and pain can coexist. Sending hugs and prayers and encouragement❤

[@mizbarehana5498]

I'm sorry you went through that. Losing someone is hard, but I know that the suddenness of suicide leaves people in its aftermath dealing with shock, guilt and confusion most of the time. It takes a long time to come to terms with an unexpected, unnatural death. Glad to read that you're doing better now. Sending you lots of positive vibes ✨️✨️✨️

[@elizabethwilk9615]

I am sorry for your lost. Losing a loved one is traumatic but things get better with time. God bless you.

[@thelmssss6274]

It’s a bad time, not a bad life 💜 you make a difference in so many lives, not just your employees and colleagues. It breaks me to see you hurting and breaking inside my beautiful cyster 🤍 feel what you need to feel but don’t stay there too long my beautiful butterfly 🦋

[@MoonLightt57]

I've suffered from alopecia areata since I was 17 it's the worst feeling ever, thank you for being brave, you're a Beauty. Here's what helped me Upping the protein Making sure I'm not deficient in any vitamins Scalp stimulation Scalp laxity exercises Stimulating serums Fighting inflammation in my body as it's the root cause. A whole diet change, quitting everything that causes inflammation. Microneedling. I really hope this helps you and everyone who's going through hairloss 💗

[@Aaarandom]

What are scalp laxity exercises if you don’t mind explaining? And do you go to a professional for micro needleing?

[@nataliemarshall7158]

@@Aaarandomthe exact same questions I was going to ask

[@MoonLightt57]

@@Aaarandom sure, there are specific massage techniques that are meant to make your tense scalp muscles more relaxed , also called as tight scalp. A tense scalp will cause hair loss as it doesn't allow the blood flow to the scalp that leads to new hair growth. A tight scalp might be caused by stress or inflammation in the body. There are tutorials on KZbin about this massage technique. I recommend doing it atleast 10-15 a day it really makes a difference.

[@MoonLightt57]

@@Aaarandom No,I did not go to a professional for microneedling and I hate to say it but going to the doc didn't help my hairloss at all.

[@Aaarandom]

@@MoonLightt57 oh wow! Ok thank you for taking the time to explain

[@jodieagle4178]

I’m so proud of you for being so open about your journey.. I watch every episode of your content.. I knew something was going on with you during your past video..I’m old enough to be your Mother and I just wanted to give you a big Mom hug..speaking from experience..you definitely should focus on yourself hun..you’re an empath and it’s in our DNA to want to take care of everyone else..I also grew up in a family that I needed to be the nurturer.. I still catch myself putting others before myself..thankfully you’re figuring it out young that you need to focus on yourself..Good vibes to you and if you were my daughter.. I would be SO F’ing proud of you! You’re a beautiful person Cassandra..inside and out! ❤

[@lindacastro6625]

So well said @jodieagle7148 ! Big mom hug from me as well. Feeling all the feels is hard and for some of us it’s how to get through. Stuffing them down doesn’t make them go away. In my experience it just makes them stronger. Spending time with others feeds your soul and I would call that self care. “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” Thank you for sharing, beautiful butterfly 🦋.❤

[@therapeuticeating]

IM FEELING ALLL THE COMPASSION RN. Life happens, hair loss happens, pimples happen, shit happens!! And OUCH! Thank god for resilience & community. You’re in great company sister. Holding your hand, cheering you on ❤️💕🌈

[@brittanywilcox7377]

I'm so glad you're on the mend! I was severely depressed for about a year when I lost my service dog. Honestly, trauma informed therapy helped me heal from my childhood wounds and the abuse I have suffered. I was able to process my dog's death and get better while still functioning with the tools I learned in therapy. I've been out of therapy for almost a year now, and this is the best I've ever been. I am diagnosed with cptsd and DID, for the record

[@marykranberry]

“I am not responsible for someone else’s happiness,” is the affirmation I needed to hear today. Thank you.

[@katertotthot9169]

I found your channel shortly after I was diagnosis with a handful really difficult mental health disorders this year. I spend hours crying, but you gave me back a small piece of agency back through self care. Take care of yourself Cass you are such a lovely human, I see you, I see your pain. ❤

[@meowcenary21]

40 y/o mama of 2 teens here to say you are beautiful and special. I'm so very sorry for the hardships and appreciate sharing your story. I have multie types of autoimmune disease, and those (combined with meds) cause hair loss and thinning. Been rocking a double side shave undercut past 5 years to alleviate the disheartening hair clumps during hairwashing. ❤ reminder you all matter and are beautiful

[@OOtwiga]

You do make so many people happy Cassandra! Like I literally rewatched all your celebrity skincare reaction videos in the last two days while painting. You are my favourite butterfly. Keep being that light that you are and be as kind to yourself as you are to others xxx

[@ManicShorty]

Every time you make a more candid and vulnerable video about yourself and your issues, I get this massive "are we the same person" feeling. I'm pretty early into my mental recovery journey, but seeing you handle it so bravely does serve as a reminder to keep doing it because it's good for me. We're always going forward. Keep being-YOUtiful, Cass 💖🦋

[@emanresu3683]

This is why I've kept watching your content for years. You're so real with us. And it's not like you owe it to us or anything, and I'm so greatful that you feel so comfortable being so vulnerable and honest with us internet strangers. I can really relate to a lot of what you're going throughout, from hair loss to acne to emotional struggles. Your advice, experience and perspective on these things I'm also going through is so very helpful.

[@nikkibordeaux5980]

I can’t make you feel better or see your value in the world and I definitely can’t take away the pain you’re going through right now; as much as I wish I could. I’ve been through similar things lately but the sounds of it and just wanted to let you know I take so much comfort in your videos and you’ve helped me through so much over the past few years (yay parasocial relationships!). But you’ve also helped me better my life in such a literal way. You inspired me to get into skincare and it’s now my career. Because of your videos not only do I get the comfort and lifting up that I need right now, but I actually got a job in a field I love in the most amazing and supportive atmosphere I’ve ever experienced. You’ve literally changed the course of my life and I cannot thank you enough for that. So I’m hoping you can take just a little comfort in knowing that

[@luxbunny8678]

I have a lot of these same issues with people pleasing & feeling responsible for other peoples happiness & it has eaten up huge chunks of my life that could have been spent on people who also care about MY happiness & not only how I make them feel. I’m also very emotional & have to actively work to not let those things control me. I know how hard it is to get out of bed at all & I’m proud of you for trying every day to get better. I’m also grateful to you for sharing these things so people like me who look up to you don’t feel alone.

[@MissNicoleX]

It’s okay not to be okay. Good that you open up! As someone who struggles with mental health for over 7 years now I understand. Always pleasing people and pushing yourself is hard, now I’m not working because of the burnout, depression, adhd and anxiety. Watching your video is almost feeling like I’m listening to myself. My hair is falling out big time as well, went to see multiple doctors but they don’t know where it comes from. I absolutely hate brushing my hair because of all the hair that comes out. Too bad that the effective things are always unaffordable 😢 keep this energy, every step you make is a good one. You are worth it, loved and have an amazing energy, you are a powerwoman! Hope you feel happy soon, you got this ❤

[@kimwilliams3868]

Ask ur Dr about acupuncture for stress and hair. See a dermatologist for steroid shots. Good luck.

[@MissNicoleX]

@@kimwilliams3868already done all that.

[@isabellatremper2787]

Dear Cassandra, please remember that there is someone out there going through a similar experience and you are not alone. We live in a society that frowns upon emotion and that is why we are sick. I just retired from hairdressing for 40 plus years and stress is probably contributing to your hair loss because of your genetic makeup. I dealt with acne due to stress for many many years. I believe that when we get stressed out our bodies attack our weakest link. Hair loss, acne,IBS, Ulcers, Cancer etc I have gone through dark periods as well and there is something that will help. Spiritual growth. I am not WooWoo but getting in the practice of meditating will ABSOLUTELY help. Just like your helmet it takes time and once you’ve taught yourself you will not forget. Also Gaia has wonderful info on this subject matter, or find a place that has meetups that will surround you with likeminded people to support you. The best of luck and happiness

[@elacampusano7341]

Cassandra, I was thinking what I could tell you to give you some peace. And I thought about telling you my experience about the multiple depressions that I have had in my life and I will tell you that all those times I thought there was no way out, I didn't have the will to shower, wash my hair, brush my teeth, much less think about doing a skincare routine, but it happens, I have bipolar depression and I am always dealing with this, I know it is frustrating, but your body is wise, it needs to take a break, give itself a deep rest of everything to be able to analyze what is really important for you and what are you wasting your time on or basically prioritizing what you want and need in life and the anxiety you feel is basically due to fear of facing things in life that you have been leaving aside, this is a time for you to let yourself take care instead of taking care of someone. Nobody, absolutely nobody is going to come and help you and it's not that I want to torture you with these words, what I want you to know is that only you know what you need and you have to search for that very deep in your soul, for example asking yourself the question of what You are afraid of it and you may not have the answer now, but identifying it is progress and do not torture yourself, it does not matter if you do not put on the LED lights or take a shower, it does not matter, this is your moment and it is very important and think about what or who do I want to show this or that, basically I have been so busy that I have not listened to my soul just live this moment that the universe is telling me that I have to listen to my inner self and not to others. I wish you the best in this life and don't get distracted by things that aren't worth it, like escaping with trips or meeting exciting people. Look how beautiful you are inside. A very big and strong hug ❤️

[@wendybee8854]

I agree with what you are saying 100%! Great advice.

[@rosevohwinkel3341]

Cassandra, the mom in me just wants to give you a huge hug and remind you of how amazing you are. I too have had one major life change after the another for a number of years and sometimes my brain doesn’t know where to go next. And a lot of those are related to both my daughters health. Praying for you ❤. Stay strong and give yourself grace on the bad days

[@BrittanyHope-y5j]

I think i needed this video, sharing you’re pain is such a brave thing to do. Going through such intense and brutal pain myself atm, and having that pain make you lose the ability to do something that means so much to you and is a daily self care ritual and probably the only self care you’ve ever stuck to such as skincare and/or Haircare is so so hard and devastating, the guilt and shame you put yourself through for not doing the bare basics to look after yourself is almost deafening and I’m so proud of you, even tho you’re in pain you’re trying to get back into the things you love and that gives me hope that maybe one day soon I also can 🖤

[@LittleSeaUrchinVenom]

As a cosmetologist it hurts me when people come at their wits end from hair loss. I’m not a doctor I can’t diagnose them but I want to help. Thank your for being super open with your hairloss. I may be recommending the laser helmet to clients

[@MichaelaMarie2012]

Thank you for talking to us about this. I'm also an Esthi, and I like to be honest and realistic with my clients - no one is perfect with their skincare, it's okay to just use a micellar water on occasion. I would be lying if I said I do my skincare every night - and I have a 3-step routine. Life gets in the way. Emotions and feelings are real. We learn to give ourselves compassion.

[@karenlbyrnes4476]

You are so loved. I’m so happy that you’re feeling inspired to take care of yourself. You deserve grace and peace. I am so sorry for the struggle you are currently going through. Please don’t worry about being there for others because just being around and taking care of yourself is being there for others.

[@rosemarybelore6622]

You are special and don’t let anyone take that away from you ❤ Thank you for sharing your pain with us. I have been through depression and hopelessness. Not wanting to leave my bed, talk to anyone or do anything. You are such a strong lady and I know you will get through this and come out on the other side even stronger than before! Lean on those closest to you and never feel like you are alone ❤

[@eliseelise9711]

Thank you for being honest as someone else who is struggling to do my skincare from depression and illness. Sending you well wishes and i hope things get better for you are skin care queen 💕👑 been following you since i was a kid! You are such a big inspiration to me and my acne journey.

[@michellelineweber1703]

My heart goes out to you. I have faith you will find peace and happiness. You’ve got this! Just keep working on yourself and accept help from others when you need it.

[@brendawei]

Hi Cassy, I have been a silent follower for a while. It’s the first time I am leaving a comment here. I have been feeling like that and suffering from hair loss for 3 months. I have been sleeping and just didn’t want to deal with shit for this time. Thank you for trusting us about your vulnerability. But this video you made is like watching myself. Putting a smiley face recording my TikTok. But then I just feel like shit, because….life has shit throwing at us nonstop. But I am slowly pulling myself together. Like are now. And please remember, you have a follower from Taiwan. That should be something interesting, right? Love you, too❤

[@beautyforumbyangela]

I wish I could give you a massive hug 🤗. I appreciate your transparency. I too got behind in my self care rituals. Both of my parents passed away within 7 weeks of each other at the beginning of this year. 2023 has been a rough year. I’m sending you love, prayers, kindness & good vibes. Please know you are important, amazing & butterfly beautiful. Cheers 😉🌷

[@michellebutcher4672]

Love you, Cassandra. You are a beautiful soul and I’m so grateful that you are in the world! Love & light to you always!

[@kirstynmcleary4963]

I’m finally starting to sleep properly most nights after a long time and as a result I’m finding the energy to pick up my skin and hair care again. I’ve felt so alone in this until I opened your video today. Your honesty not just about your skin and hair care journey but also about your mental health is always so amazing to hear. I’m sorry that this is what you’re going through but thank you for being frank about it. Thank you for talking about how even you when you can’t sleep can’t look after your skin and hair as well as you want. Thank you for letting the world know that it’s ok to not be ok sometimes, because that knowledge helps and is powerful.

[@frankied.roosevelt6232]

Btw, I've commented this before and you've liked it, but i feel like you need as much reminders as you can get of how loved you are: you remind me so much of my best friend and watching you and all your content since 2020 helped me survive long enough (no exaggeration... was in a really dark place) to see her irl in late 2022 and celebrate my birthday and introduce her to the love of my life (that i met earlier this year) this past August. So please know that your impact is far reaching for many! Especially me. 💕

[@miss-bx]

hope you feel better soon, cassandra! sending you much love🤗

[@alirae3663]

I have so been there and continue to be there with “this might just be my new normal” and having to change your goals to fit actual actions etc. even with getting professional help it can take years for them to figure out the best method. I saw a new resident and he brought up new things that had never been mentioned and how it disagreed with what I’ve been told for over 6 years in the same office. Life can just really suck sometimes. But know you are making a difference. A truly great difference

[@Corbeauxx]

Hey cass, a few things that helped me: 1) the iRestore, 2) minoxidil, 3) rosemary water rinse (lots of videos/blogs about this) 4) scalp massages using silicone massagers, 5) ashwaghanda (6000mg a day) it's a adaptogen which helps your body combat stress, has been clinically shown to reduce cortisol. The rosemary water and the scalp massages have been my latest addition, and I noticed a significant improvement in my hair density, I started both of them at the same time so I am not sure which one is doing most of the work. Hope it helps!

[@simonamicunkova60]

Honey I am going through the same thing.. my hair is falling out in clumps. I lost 60% of my hair already... It's scary and stressful and people don't understand the stress that comes with losing ones hair... The fear of going bold..not being able to stop it... It happened to me after I had a literal mental breakdown and stopped eating for a long period of time 😢

[@honestopinion2437]

i am so sorry you must go through such a hard time and it pains me to see your sadness in your eyes. it really breaks my ❤! don’t give up! we ❤️ you!

[@AmberS-V]

I sincerely appreciate you SO incredibly much, Cassandra

[@rebeccaa3541]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I loss my hair completely 10 years ago this year, when I was 23 years old. It was very depressing period for me. It gets easier over time to focus on other things. Is it what you wanted for yourself, no. However, finding joy in small things does matter.

[@meredithmiller508]

You have created this beautiful community and we are all here to lift you up when you are down and you need support. You are loved even if you’ve never met those that love you. Take care of yourself and just know we are all sending love, and support your way!!

[@Vvarsha27]

Hey Cassandra, just wanted to send you lots of love. You have been an inspiration for me, an elder sister who I could look up to in some of the darkest times in my life be it my journey struggling with cystic acne or personal issues. "If Cassandra can do it, I can do it too", has been my motivation for years. It's ok to feel low sometimes and it's ok to take some time away to heal and focus on yourself. I'm sure you'll overcome the challenges you are facing at the moment. You will be in my prayers ♥

[@elenavoronova5068]

I haven't even yet finished the video however I already want to jump in and send my support! I really hope the stress will be gone soon and you will be able to enjoy life ! You are fantastic and we all absolutely appreciate your work and you being you! 🎉🎉🎉

[@sandrabollard5390]

So Gladys, you're speaking out. I know that it's helping me. I'm feeling like i'm not alone i'm not the only one thank you

[@rachelnetti]

I went through a major hair loss episode in early 2023. It was so distressing. I also had a severe depressive episode and finally got myself on anti-depressants. The cycle of knowing you’re not taking care of yourself, and the guilt and shame that build up every day you put those things off is so so hard. Asking for help is hard. Sharing your experience is hard. Thanks for being vulnerable with us. ❤

[@manetti4501]

The hardest thing is to ADMIT that something is wrong. You made the first step and even if it’s gonna be a difficult time, you’re on the right path to heal. I love your videos ❤❤

[@begummm11]

I remember learning the guy I am dating for 1.5 years was married, breaking up and feeling a void in me, missing him, still loving him but trying to not contacting him because I dont wanna be the other woman.... This was 6 years ago, I was praying to not cry for only one day. I remember not being able to leave my bed even for eating cooking or having bath for days... Now I am happy, and happily engaged to another man ❤ things get better in time just hang in there Cassandra🦋🦋🦋

[@ShannonMalcolm96]

I have struggled with major depression and anxiety! It is important to share and not keep locked inside. Just know you are stronger than you know! And it always gets better. Sending you all the love, you are not alone

[@SuzyVez]

Cassandra, just want you to know that you literally saved my life. I had bad thoughts because of my acne and I cleared my skin thanks to you. I watched your channel in confinement and you inspired me. Since then I have a great skincare routine ♥️

[@AutumnElaine]

Bedridden skincare: 1. BioDerma Micellar and Cotton Round 2. Use your water bottle on biodegradable face towels. I use HomerHyme Facial Towels, easiest storage. 3. PM-Rice Serum or whatever moisturizes. Sprits in glass cosmetic sprayer. AM- Skin1004 Hyala-CICA Keep it all next to bed. Im bedridden for long periods of time. Im all or nothing, so I struggle.. a lot. This helps. Essence is optional. Best wishes. I hope we both feel better soon. ❤

[@ariellebacon6206]

You are a bright and shining star! ⭐️ Just keep being your gorgeous self. Time really does heal all wounds. You are doing an amazing thing by sharing your struggles. Through this sharing you will grow even stronger and become an even more authentic version of yourself. I appreciate your positive spirit and the way you support and nurture your entire community. Keep smiling that beautiful smile, laughing that infectious laugh, and spreading the love you have for life! You are seen. You are heard. You are understood. And you are NOT alone. Sending you positive vibes, healing energy, and lots of hugs and love!!! From someone who has been through hell but found the light to emerge from the darkness. I know that you will too, you beautiful butterfly! 🦋💜🦋💜🦋

[@BlankParty]

I like how you didn’t say what you were going through specifically but you still really helped me! Privacy is important. ❤️❤️

[@just_plain_shannon]

Thank you for pushing through (I am no stranger to doing that) & continuing to give us the info we need & we love spending time with you through your videos! Sending a huge hug! 💜🦋

[@ershipmoth6017]

That's a huge thing you did there. I'm proud of you and I want you to know that you are not crying yourself to sleep alone - I, for one example, know exactly what you are going through, as I am going through the same thing. It's definitely not forever. The Body Keeps The Score - you might find that book really helpful. Big hugs from Poland.

[@nitemoth]

I'm on my journey trying to heal from childhood trauma & recently got a diagnosis of CPTSD & quit working because I burnt out entirely... I relate so hard to what you're going thru & am sending huge hugs your way! The biggest challenge for me is always being seen as "unreliable" or a "burden" on others if I'm focusing on my wellbeing. I'm working with my therapist to find some balance between honouring the fact I have a disabling chronic illness while still being the reliable, supportive & positive person I wanna be. It's far too easy to prioritize anything & everything over facing those agonizing thoughts.

[@Aniri_Jane]

Thank you for sharing this experience of actually being a human and feeling all the feelings, even not the good ones.🤍 Sending you hugs and lots of love 💗 .

[@tabbyh8136]

Hugs for the hair loss, mine has been coming out in bucket loads thanks to menopause treatments. It sucks, I am down to a third of what I have. I hope yours can bounce back xx

[@Leesa111_0]

Mine too 😢

[@sunshine9993]

Are you using anything to address the hair loss?

[@tabbyh8136]

@@sunshine9993 I haven't tried any much apart from certain shampoo, not sure I could face things not working xx

[@TiffanyM-co6dm]

What do you mean by menopause treatments? HRT?

[@tabbyh8136]

@@TiffanyM-co6dm well I started on fluoxetine - generic Prozac - had the dose increased, put myself on HRT as they stopped working and now I have HRT from the Drs. Sadly it has taken me a couple of years to realise that was part or the main reason for the hair loss.

[@hopeduncan7725]

You are loved, Cassandra. Hold your head up and know many of us have experienced stress-related symptoms, from IBS to hair loss to vertigo…you know. You are strong, and brave, and beautiful - inside and out. Give yourself grace - you will get through this 💙

[@patant3]

You’re vulnerability gave me courage to tell truth to myself that I am not ok and ask for help. It won’t help You grieve but I just wanted to let You know that even in Your low You still make a great positive impact on others. Thakn You.

[@Supercocono6]

I’m so sorry you’re having a difficult time. I don’t know if it will help you but I know when I feel awful that nature really helps me. Cold water swimming, lying in a field, feeding birds. All that stuff I find really helps buy me some happy hours and if I build it into my day it helps me through a rough patch. I hope life eases for you soon. You are clearly a lovely person and deserve to be happy xx

[@lilyraiyne9225]

Cassandra, I can see how hard it was for you to make this video, but thank you for allowing yourself to trust in sharing with us. You are one of the most beautiful unicorns on this earth!!! Please know you are sooo loved!!! 🦄❤🤗

[@epic_andra]

I hate that you hurt so much, you bring so much light with your smile that it pisses me off that something makes you NOT smile. I relate so much with your pain and I wish I could take it away, the same I wish someone could take mine away. Always remember how wonderful you are and how many people know that! You are my favourite creator, not only because you talk skincare, but because you have a golden personality that brightens my day (and not only mine!). Please always remember that and that every bad thing that happpens helps character development and will make you stronger and stronger! With lots of love, a fellow butterfly that shares your pain (and part of your name! Mine is simply Andra) and cries whenever I see you cry ❤ i love you so much

[@barbmatias9801]

Cass, I wish I could make this all go away. Your sadness is heartbreaking. Sending sunshine your way ☀️ ❤

[@marydohrenwend7612]

You are a warrior. But warriors don't feel strong when they are in the midst of a battle. It's exhausting. Take care of you as well as you take care of all of us. I struggle with cptsd and depression/anxiety. I know that pain. The tide will turn. It always does.

[@virginiamorales1591]

I feel you Kassandra and it makes me sad to see you suffer. Because we suffer a lot. In my case, ever since I can remember, I’ve been trying to be the best that I can be and treat others better than I treated myself 😢. I started to go to a new sicologist and I wanted this time to be a woman. I’m 60 y/o and I can say that I am learning to set free that little girl that is still hiding in that little dark space in me. You’re a young, talented and beautiful woman. You’re your own best advocate. Love that little girl and it’s alright if some day you’ll feel free and happy. Love you 😘 ❤️💚💚💚🦋🦋🦋

[@natashak3387]

Awww! I am so sorry my friend. You are in my thoughts. I also was losing clumps for multiple years, but come to find out it's because of my severe iron deficiency. A few years ago I ended up donating fourteen inches and what was left to Wigs for Kids and have kept a buzz cut since. I LOVE it!!!

[@josayers258]

Dear lovely Cassandra. I'm so sorry that you have been going through such a tough time and thank you for sharing this with us. I can so relate and understand so many of the things you talk about here and am also the same in neglecting my own self care in times of stress. I know I am a stranger on the internet but I just wanted to send you a huge hug and much love. I hope you can remember that you are fabulous and doing the best you can right now. And that's amazing ❤️ ❤

[@cvonsutphen]

*Hair Loss and Regrowth Journey* . My Sh*t the Fan crisis happened when I turned 50 and along came Menopause. I experienced weight gain, hair thinning, hot flashes, night sweats, developed dyshidrotic eczema... it was brutal for almost two years. And yes, stress compounded everything else I was experiencing. I went on a very strict anti-inflammation diet, upped my supplements, spents $100's on hair care products and eventually things started take a turn for the better. Rosemary worked very well for my hair loss as well as scalp stimulation and a water filter for my shower. I eventually dropped the Menopause 25lbs, and then some. Feeling confident in my appearance was a huge mood boost. Six years later, I have accepted that my hair will never be as dense, but its not falling out in clumps and I see new growth. My weight is where it should be and I don't stress over things that I have zero control over.

[@erica.nic0le]

Cass, thank you so much for sharing with us despite feeling at one of your lowest. I've been there before in the past, where you know what you should be doing and want to but are so unhappy and emotional that you can't do it, which makes you feel even worse when you know what to do and still don't do it! I hate that. However, no one is EVER perfect, and when you're depressed it takes all of your energy and more just to survive, forget about doing anything good! It takes everything just to survive. I'm so happy you're with us, not just that but sharing your experience! I watch a lot of your videos, for maybe almost 2 years now, and I was drawn to this one because I've been losing my hair for the past year and I believe it's due to distress from my new career as a nurse that I began a year ago. I trust you and what you share, and I love your kindness and personality so I knew I'd find something here that I needed. If you ever feel like you have no one and you need someone, I'm always here for you like I know you are for me! Thank you! 💖

[@martinaformichetti2833]

It’s okay not be strong all the time and not keeping up with self care in the process. Hug yourself and be kind to you like you are with others

[@rad2397]

Seeing You giving up could really devastate us , please don’t take away the little judgmental and sceptical moods that we can always see in you and in your beautiful eyes , be strong 🫶🏻

[@just-a-generic-username]

This really came at the right time for me. For the first time in my life I started seriously considering buying makeup wipes for the days when even just standing under the water in the shower is too hard. It's hard not to feel guilty or embarrassed even though I'm sure we would all extend a lot of understanding and kindness to someone else in the same position. Thank you for this.

[@KimberlyJordan-em6vc]

So often you say what I feel❤. I hide to restore myself but the guilt from hiding eats me alive. Stay strong! I feel you, I hear you and I am sending you love (from just up the hill in Roseville, CA)

[@ophelialeverett1]

Hang in there Cassandra. I’m praying and cheering for you to push through this season of pain and struggle. I can relate with the distractions and with skincare becoming a form of therapy. We must do what we must do to keep going, to keep showing up for ourselves, and to keep looking for and finding the good in ourselves. It is there. YOU are definitely worth the effort. Keep putting one foot in front of the other. God Bless.

[@chriscaffey5685]

Good grief you are so vulnerable. Always so impressed. Someone out there needs to hear what you are saying, and you clearly know that.

[@GhostOfMrPickles]

keep taking care of you, self care is important in more ways than one (i'm learning this). look in the mirror and remind yourself that you're a beautiful human being who has issues, and that your members are here for you. you've got this, we've got this.

[@lj340]

I love that you made this video!!!!! God bless you! It takes so much strength to be this vulnerable. I admire you. I understand this type of deep pain. I also live with it. There are no words to describe it. People who have never felt this intense emotional pain, especially for years cannot understand it. I use humor a lot like you. 😜I just recently discovered you. I have spent a ton of time crying, exhausted, overwhelmed, hopeless, and confused. I've also been losing my hair. It started about 5 years ago after my stepfather passed away, but it never stopped. I'm throwing everything at it like you. You are my soul sister girl. 😁Keep hanging on. Keep on being honest and open. Your pain and struggle are absolutely being used for the good of others. You are not alone. 🤗

[@samanthamorales-carroll4037]

My depression is at an all-time high! I haven't been consistent in my skincare in 3 months, and my hair is falling out. I did see my psychiatrist Friday, so I'm waiting for my medication to kick in. I'm so glad that I have somewhere to come and not feel alone. I'm a people pleaser, and I push my happiness away to make other people, but it's so tiring. I try to talk to my friend and my husband but they don't know what to do or say because they don't go through the same problems! I hope you feel better soon Cassandra!❤

[@valeriesantos8178]

Ppl today, don’t make u so don’t let them break you… Concentrate daily on helping 1 person at a time… sincerely. This takes the spotlight off of urself, even if for a time.

[@KarensTinyCarCamper]

Hang in there! You are amazing. DON'T SHAME YOURSELF! Be kind to yourself! Let yourself feel what you need to. ❤❤❤❤

[@kymberleychristiansenrauber]

Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability, Cassandra. I wish I could give you a hug! So happy that you are taking care of yourself as you move through this, please know that you have an army of people who support you and wish you well. You are awesome.

[@rebeccassweetmusic4632]

Thank you for being honest and sharing what you have been going through. I had a similar experience, and that grief never goes away... As for hair, I appreciate you sharing your hair loss journey and talking about the positive changes as well as the negatives. I just got a haircut on Monday, and my stylist advised me to take care of my scalp. Apparently, for curly girlies like me, it's more common to have scalp issues like dandruff and itching. Tea tree oil is supposed to be really good because it helps fight bacteria. I tried it yesterday on dry hair, and today, I saw a slight difference! I was not scratching my scalp as much as I used to. Mixing it with coconut oil works even better than using it alone. I want to get a scalp massager and try that with the oils.

[@sheni.1]

Thank you for your vulnerability. It takes HUGE strength just to do that. So proud u. Small victories, thats how u overcome this! We love u!!

[@Amyjwashere]

I have autism and get stressed out easily. Sometimes my skin care routine is simply my cleanser, and a sunscreen. Those are my basic basic necessities. I also give myself the grace of skipping maybe once a week if I just want to roll in bed without a shower.

[@carriebannon9016]

Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I'm 23 and have been going through hair loss since I was 19 and it has severely dented my confidence. Watching your videos about this makes me feel less alone and I admire your bravery in sharing your story with us.

[@hanatalks]

Hey! I'm from IRAN and i know that you may not even know where is my country! And my English is not as good as it should be 😅 but im forced myself to write this for you! I started to learn and search about ingredients in skincare products just because of your videos! Im always watching your channel and i always learn from you! In Iran we don't have the same products because of the political problems but i still learn from you. I just wanna say that i feel you and I've been in this situation. I just feel you as my acne big sister and i love you. Thanks for all of this videos and everything❤

[@morganm6671]

Cassandra, I ca't express enough how much I appreciate you being open and honest about what you have been going through. I grew up with emotionally immature parents and I have struggled with a lot of what you discussed, especially feeling emotions very deeply and being very hard on myself. I started watching your videos for recommendations since my hair has been falling out from stress and it has helped tremendously. Your content has made me feel so much better about not having perfect skin/hair and has really taught me how to love myself better through self-care. Love watching your videos!

[@marydohrenwend7612]

I'm so sorry you've been going through a rough patch!

[@sincerelysarac]

I hope that whatever you are going through weighs less heavy on you soon !❤ you are a ray of light even when u feel in the dark. U got this

[@user-yt48876yt]

Everyone is giving you so much advice, so I'll just say you look beautiful and you are here for a reason!

[@Anne-yd9cm]

Oh girl! I would actually love the head lamp for hair loss, it is just too pricey. Love you Cass! Hope things continue getting better💕

[@lanathorarinson6061]

I just love your honesty. I have a very similar story and struggle to reconcile my past. Always the peace maker and trying to help family that choose misery. You got me when you said ‘I am not responsible for their happiness’. I am struggling with you Cassandra and we will get thru this. Love to you 😘♥️

[@thaliademontserrat3195]

I've been myself exactly in a similar situation, with so much anxiety and depression... And with so much emotional baggage, anxiety pictures and in 6 months I've gained weight because of emotional and hormonal imbalances that now I am the heaviest I've been in my life. The fattest I've ever been, my clothing stopped fitting me in a dramatic way and makes me feel so awful... 😢 I am so ashamed of myself... So sharing this makes me feel that it's ok to fail and to have hope and retake a healthy track ❤. I want to hug you and, thank you for everything. I've been following you since your first viral video, I've seen you and hear you, you are so inspiring. And I hope, you can feel better and I believe you can retake healthy habits for you 😊.

[@procnina]

It makes me so sad to hear you are going through this. I've been there too, I suffer from Major depression, anxiety and panic attacks, I deal with It with medication cos I'm tired After Years and Years of therapy. I know you feel broken insider and that nothing matters, and guilty, and everything, but you are doing stuff, trying to distract yourself, not Just laying in bed all day long as I used to do, and I feel you are doing right, even of inside yourself you wouldn't want to do all these things. You are on the right Path, I know it's hard, but you'll get through It and come back as the shiny beautiful, Great woman we all know. You are still Great, because you are fighting! I send you loads of love and positive Energy. Take your time, we don't move from here!❤

[@susanheckman7466]

You’re not alone. I’m feeling the same way. Along with hair loss. You gave me hope this morning. Love to you ❤

[@daniellemccoy153]

I had a really close grandparent 5:32 pass away too this year. To say I have been struggling is an understatement. My grandpa was truly a GRANDpa. Since that loss I have struggled with college and going to work everyday , let alone doing self care.

[@angieolsson8175]

I feel you!! I am processing a lot of trauma and it's very overwhelming and when depression hits it's difficult to breathe let alone take care of your skin and body. Hope you feel better soon!

[@Madkalibyr]

I never know the right things to say but I want to say you’re beautiful and amazing inside and out and I’m grateful for you ❤