Finally Went Nuclear on My Entitled Slob BIL & His Lazy Wife After They Crashed at my home...

Finally Went Nuclear on My Entitled Slob BIL & His Lazy Wife After They Crashed at my home Uninvited, Left Our Place a Wreck, Ignored My Wishes & Tried Turning My Own Wife Against Me.
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[@ThePawerStation]

David is a narcissist and Rita is an enabler. I would've left as soon as they started mocking about cleaning the house and doing the dishes with that level of disrespect. Rita knew also that if she continues with this charade, she will lose everything.

[@KoushikKoushik-hr7vj]

Yes Rita is an enabler

[@chrisyentastic379]

Exactly, if Rita is so attached to her brother, she can have him. Idk if I’d take her back even after she apologized

[@kossettereaditte7552]

Am I the only persm who thinks its weird to talk to any family member 3 hours a day everyday? I talk to my family but not literally hours everyday

[@axinhedgelion8417]

It’s not weird if it’s a family member you haven’t seen in a very long time

[@TheDevourer28]

Not really. My grandmother and her sister would talk on the phone for hours. Almost everyday.

[@commanderelite]

It depends on the family, some just talk like that for hours, some will talk or text like once a week, while some even go without talking for a year.

[@gachagoddesskim7630]

It's not weird

[@chershannahjackson1992]

I talk to my nan for 3 hours once a week on the phone as we have boring lives and don't need to talk to each other every day

[@gotenblack2542]

sorry but I would leave Rita as soon as she got angry at me for what i did she cared more about her brother and did not care for ops side i fell she only changed at the end so op would not leave her before people say she was working off emotion's it doesn't stop the fact she was being a b

[@therailfanman2078]

Agreed.

[@FrutoseDeMorango]

If any small disagreement is enough to make you divorce instead of just manning up and communicating well, then you should really think more about the whole situation. OP knew about the whole thing and chose not to communicate with his wife, while her, on the other hand, was being stupid and also chose not to communicate. She messed up really badly and the fault of the situation is all onto her, but OP not communicating also doesn't make sense. What he should've done was saying this and that and that if she didn't value him as family and continues to disrespect him like that than he will file for divorce, then if she still bitches about it then just divorce without looking back.

[@SYLVESTER-6782]

Ugh Rita is the problem not, OP. I wouldn't be surprised if she still talks to David behind OP's back

[@Mcc_obsessedfreak]

​@@FrutoseDeMorango good points but this is definitely not a small argument! Like she keeps fighting with OP for treating the house like it was his because it was HIS. Honestly I bet if she had to choose between OP and her slob Brother, she'd choose the latter . Which is quite disrespectful.

[@ascensionlunar1]

Another day of great advice from lord goten black himself ✌️🙏

[@TailzP]

sounds like Rita found his post and realized leaving him would just make him happier. and and she'll be stuck watching kids in a dirrty house that she has to clean herself because no one else will

[@lilyawoodburn]

Yeah I def think Rita found the post

[@DragonOfTheMortalKombat]

​@@lilyawoodburn And as soon as she did, something snapped in her

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

not to mention that I think David was gearing up to quit altogether leaving Rita to work to support this bunch of wannabe parasites

[@artemislove2941]

should’ve left her the moment she decided to make the decision for them to let the brother and his family move in to their house

[@ladyweasellou3367]

He never had a brother-in-law problem, he's always had a wife problem. He should be taking photos and videos of his in-laws and wife. It might save the marriage or it might just make it easier psychologically and legally to divorce.

[@FishcalledPhil]

David is a narcissist

[@nicholashowell918]

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[@nicholashowell918]

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[@user-zj3ij3rc6p]

You had a multitude of red flags before you married Rita . You are a distant second to her brother, she made a unilateral decision to bring 4 people into your home to live for an extended period of time, you are not a couple. Get a spine throw them out , get a divorce this is not going to work.

[@ianimations1656]

Dawg, when someone feels so vehemently about something that they tunnel vision on your location as soon as they walk into the house so they can start screaming at you as soon as possible, then they aren't gonna realize everything they did wrong in the span of a week and on top of that actually admit it and apologize. It's a rarity for ANYBODY to ever feel like they did anything wrong, and with the way the bil and sil had their claws in her, their is no way she would have just immediately swapped sides like that. The end of this felt like such a stereotypical disney happy ending, how does anyone believe this?

[@gotenblack2542]

yup the story makes op sound like a doormat in the end letting Rita crawl back in like that that is why these story's are just plan stupid i just like commenting on them to be funny

[@lilyawoodburn]

I mean, I've seen marriages come back from the brink in my own family, one still (rightly) ended in divorce but working things out isn't impossible

[@ianimations1656]

@@lilyawoodburn yea same, it was just the unreasonably short time frame that makes me find it unbelievable. Especially when in that time frame she was still living with the same manipulators who pushed her to feel that way in the first place. Believable would be somewhere between 6-12 months and no shorter in that kind of scenario.

[@ethanim]

I had the thought that she saw his reddit post and realized because of the comments that she was in the wrong and about to lose her husband. That could cause an immediate turn around. She maybe saw it but didn't tell him because it would look better for her if she figured it out on her own.

[@RiqueDaSxnsxi]

I don’t understand how people can live sloppily . It would literally drive me insane .

[@matthew9326]

Depression. I am usually a clean person but when I get depressed my place gets sloppy

[@nikkihorn3852]

Same. You can tell I'm depressed when things get messy and my plants start dying.

[@BrightElk]

Their dad was not exactly parenting them or taking care of the home after the mother died so I imagine it had a lot to do with that.

[@brandondiaz9755]

Divorce DIVORCE DIVORCE I can never be a person who doesn’t stand with their significant other

[@G1sandG1rlsGaming]

So you're going to divorce your wife if she ever disagrees with you? Lol why bother getting married then?

[@brandondiaz9755]

@@G1sandG1rlsGaming she didn’t give him an option she moved them in Without asking She stop talking to him in his house because he told them to pick up. Yea she came around I guess better late than never but I would have never let it get that far we either fix it now or to go talk to lawyers.

[@kingkongaintgotshitoneme]

@@G1sandG1rlsGaming 'disagree' lmao

[@RepellentJeff]

@@G1sandG1rlsGamingGTF Outta here with that. She didn’t “disagree,” she “continuously trampled over his boundaries for her manipulative, narcissistic brother.” Learn the difference.

[@kush7138]

​@@RepellentJeff I'm so glad y'all not letting these bums change y'all mindsets. These people are doormats

[@user-lj8fx8ic6n]

Out of total 6 people out there only 2 have an excuse to behave like a children - the twins.

[@erickaennis2738]

Naw Rita knew Op had 1 foot outside that door and that hard reality smacked her upside the head. She knew she was wrong and was gonna lose her husband. A lot of folks would've noped outta there. She was lucky, this time.

[@f687sNFM]

The biggest villain here is rita

[@Badruborg]

Yup

[@mindylafler3456]

You had better watch out for David and his family. I can see them using manipulation to talk your wife into believing you are bad for her. They will start talking to her again, then want to do stuff with her, then, start bending her ear towards their way of thinking. It will be slow and subtle and she won't realise they are doing it.

[@clessalvein876]

A decently believable AI story.

[@funtimegenshin6973]

Nah Rita and her family would be out on the streets at the very beginning of this stunt

[@uwetheiss970]

Rite failed to understand that latest with marriage the OP, her husband, is her family too. Not talking about someone moving into your shared home is a major red flag. Then stomping all over your reasonable boundaries is just cruel.

[@GrimmsDeath]

Sounds like the BIL wanted his little sister to be like a second wife who lives only for him. Obviously BIL is still suffering from issues from their childhood because he couldn't see how him clinging to his sister was ruining her personal life.

[@BrightElk]

This! There have been two toxic men in my life who were determined to undermine all my efforts to have any meaningful relationship with men. And both of these men gave me vibes like they saw me in a more than family kind of light. They knew it was taboo to go there so it felt like to them the only other option was to keep me single and a virgin for the rest of my life. It’s kind of gross to say it out loud but it’s true. I eventually had to cut them off. And I feel like that’s what David was trying to do. I think he loved his sister a bit more than a sister and that’s why he couldn’t be happy for her being married.

[@slightlysilver1403]

What part of this is nuclear?

[@zombiecat7799]

My thoughts exactly, after finishing the story. Such a clickbait title, smh.

[@Hinatsuru-San]

Rita's really playing with fire. If the house belongs to OP ,she would had been kicked out and divorce. Not to mention her lack of communicating when OP tried to explain his side of story ,she refused to listen. OP is also sort of at fault. He allowed his BIL to disrespect him ,allowed them to live at his or Rita and His shared house and didnt do anything other than ask BIL and Erica to clean. And he allowed Rita to just crawl back into his house and go to therapy like therapy is going to solve everything. In my point of view ,Both OP and Rita are at fault and responsible for their own mistakes.

[@genkrow5014]

Freud would love this.

[@develyntwocentshenderson5739]

"sperm donor David had cut back on his hours.." anyone else think where this is going? I think they were going to try and turn into total parasites

[@rachelmap100]

Maybe he should have asked his relatives to move in for a month without telling his wife, an then waited to see who broke first.

[@Fiercetits]

Bro I don’t even talk to my family members a combined 3 hours a week, sure during holidays and birthdays but not just no reason.

[@Demyxu]

Question. Maybe it's just me, but. If your options are unpaid maternity, or work, and you quit... Why...wouldn't you just take unpaid maternity? That's essentially what you get when you quit except you can't come back to a job.

[@BrightElk]

If you haven't worked long enough and you're too sick to work you lose maternity leave in the United states.

[@DonWan47]

OP should never have married Rita, he’s a doormat.

[@Badruborg]

Rita should stop acting like OP is not her family. The fact she made these decisions without OP makes me realise she is quite selfish and self-centred. OP is way too good for a clowns like Rita and her family =/

[@alexverg4787]

Damn! I ready to bet, that everyone who talking about leaving over something like this never had a family or stable relationships before. Every normal family should be based on compromises, and if you think that EVERY mistake should let to breaking up then you probably shouldn't have any marriage in future (because obviously it will ends pretty quickly). She messed up and messed up BIG by not talking about inviting her brother, ignoring op's opinion and starting a fight over something that op rightfully did. She messed up but she realized it and SHE made steps to mend things, because of realization that she is in wrong here. She pretty much sacrificed her relationship with her brother for her family's future (and yeah you probably cannot understand her attachment to her brother because you never been in her shoes). Op sacrifice part of his dignity to makes thing work. And this is what called a healthy family. Family is about both sides' sacrifices. Of course there are some unforgivable things such as infidelity, one-sided decision of abortion, attempt to babytraping etc. This are solid reasons to breaking up. If you or YOUR PARTNER are not ready to sacrifice something for relationship than you shouldn't continue this relationship and of course marry each other. And that's why you shouldn't ever asking any advice on reddit. Their only advice would be "leave relationship immediately" even if you made a minor fight about in which restaurant you should dine. Also remember that in this post you get only one perspective on things. Op doesn't usually right just because he/she is op. He/she may avoid some details that may paint them as not that good people (op which wife cheated on him never will mention that he beated her regularly throughout the whole relationship. That will make this story about two evil pity human beings). Also if this is a post about fight (like in the video) op couldn't mention all good things they made to each other just because it is might seen irrelevant to the story. So NEVER jump to conclusion so quickly and make an advice. Maybe I am wrong from your culture's perspective, but in my culture family is about compromises that we made in the name of love. Good day to everybody.

[@Noah_thegamer097]

Rita was this close from being a widow from suicide

[@legiontepes3474]

Op is an idiot for caving to Rita in his own house and not setting boundaries. The bother is an ah but Rita is much worse. Imo she 180 cuz she found the post.

[@idoonotkno894]

those fucking lannister am i right 😏

[@MolyDogday]

Is it weird that David was acting like ops wife was his girlfriend and op was that male friend that got in between them and it was very strange and valid to hate David for his behavior towards OP and I am not even surprised if David tried to do a little incest because that relationship between David and ops wife could have been seen as something from Alabama

[@cris4ever70]

Can everyone just chill? Damn lol ‘They are doormat! Narcissist! Enabler!’ Or maybe just people? Like, don’t we y’all have fights with family/friends/lovers? I just hope the story is real and they can get help. Talking, apologizing and building a relationship is a thing you neanderthals 🗿

[@BrightElk]

This comment is like a breath of fresh air. I’ve been thinking these things but not saying them out loud because I know people will just fight with me. Honestly I would not want to be friends or in relationships with any of the people in the comments because they think if you want to fight for the people you love you are a doormat. The only right choice in their minds at the first sign of trouble is to light a match! My husband and I laugh at a lot of the “helpful” suggestions on reddit because those are more insane than the posts asking for help. lol

[@R.DeMora]

Not even being consulted about inviting people to live at the house you live, pay, and maintain for, is one of the highest forms of disrespect and it speaks volume of how littler partnership is in that relation. The fact OP even allowed it makes him a doormat.

[@BrightElk]

@@R.DeMoraNo one said it was okay to do those things. But if you love someone enough to marry them you should have some willingness to work through your problems. A lot of people on KZbin or reddit are immature teenagers and raging arrogant early 20's somethings. Once people start having kids they tend to drop off because they don't have as much time to be online. That youthful age range generally likes to just burn things to the ground as soon as it gets rough. But people are flawed and you aren't going to get very far by following reddit relationship advice. I know it sounds great when you're reading these dramatic KZbin videos because the revenge just sounds and feels so nice but that's just not a healthy life perspective. But you want to let SCORCHED EARTH tell you how to live your life you go for it!

[@zanogede302]

"He said it in a very joking way so I had to laugh" - maybe it's culture difference, but wtf?! He insults OP, no matter in what way it is still an insult, why not standing up for yourself? OP's behaviour is enabling as well I would say.

[@Shy-_-Guy123]

Rita made the Same mistake twice if it Happens again OP should just leave her

[@kennycai8695]

OP, while I am glad you were able to patch things up with your wife, you still deserved a smack to the noggin when I heard you got hitched to her after 3 years. Too soon, mate, which is how you fell into this trap set by your in-laws. I think I know where the BIL's entitlement comes from: age (he's 35, OP's 31), and cause he's been the caretaker for so long, it does have that effect of expecting respect to be given to you on a silver platter, proverbially speaking. Hence, why he thinks he can flex around on OP as well as taking these pot shots. OP pushing back more or less exposed his true self as a controlling manipulator, given the lengths he went to break up OP's marriage, and when that failed, the silent treatment to his own sister, thinking he can sway her back to his side. My advice for these situations is always the same: low or no contact, and put some distance between yourselves if possible.

[@BrightElk]

3 years of dating is too soon? I swear the internet wants to wait until people are old and grey to get married. Wait just long enough that your wife is gonna need IVF to conceive because she's going through menopause! It's the perfect strategy!

[@Mia-dt3gl]

Soooooo she was trying to get her brother and SIL to apologize to OP, while STILL giving the silent treatment to OP? That’s bs. I think what happened is that Rita found OP’s post, saw he was leaning towards divorce, and _that’s_ why she suddenly changed her mind about her brother and SIL.

[@ZookaZeroGaming]

5:10 the brother should grow TF up, I get it but your an adult if you were a kid it'd be different