Wassup cousins! Happy Friday! Before anyone comments... towards the end of the video I reference my Cash App jokingly, if people want to pay for tickets to my “Womb Show” lol But then I didn’t put it on the screen because I didn’t want people to think they honestly could pay any amount of money to get all in my reproductive business like that 🙄 A few months ago when I was talking about slowing down on sponsorships because of my distrust for many brands a few of you suggested I start putting my CashApp in my bio for those who want to support (like a Patreon) and I always forget to do it. So I put it in the DB... but that is NOT for knowing my “belly business”, okay? lol I love y’all and I just want people to be more mindful of the things we say to each other as women! Have a great weekend!! 🌻🌻
@halim15823 жыл бұрын
*hugs*
@linrook64593 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. You are a wonderful person.
@LovelyBryana3 жыл бұрын
I wish I could broadcast this all over the world!!!! I was just talking about how some people on social media feel real entitled to STRANGERS!!! it’s insane smh! Loving your hair btw!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
Literally MIND BLOWING the things people would say! KNOWING they wouldn’t want it said to them! Gurrl! And thank you sis! 💕💕
@MsNaturallyMary3 жыл бұрын
This was so good! 🙌🏾I’ve gotten those comments as well, and it’s so disheartening! Thanks for speaking on it sis! 🤗
@hotmama2983 жыл бұрын
I've seen those comments and I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
@Tiffanetic3 жыл бұрын
As someone in my 30s with no kids, I really appreciate this video. Wish everyone could see this.
@Listen2me4003 жыл бұрын
People really don’t think before they speak. I lost a baby at 5 1/2 months, gave birth, buried her. Little Haley Alexandra. 💗 Someone said to me, and I quote, “She didn’t have a face anyway.” 🤦🏾♀️ People are just ignorant to the fact and insensitive. So yes, people do need to here it because some people just don’t get it. 🤎
@mimij50153 жыл бұрын
Oh my God! I'm so sorry someone said that. I don't understand. I don't want to understand that level of inhumanity.
@Listen2me4003 жыл бұрын
Mimi J501 Thank you love. Because in some situations we don’t know what to say or how to comfort people sometimes silence is best.
@kaylinak.20593 жыл бұрын
@@Listen2me400 sorry for your loss💙
@Listen2me4003 жыл бұрын
Jackie Murray Thank you.
@carlenew.66003 жыл бұрын
Wow...so sorry for your loss and sorry for that person's ignorance. That's beyond insensitive. People don't know when to just keep their mouths shut and say nothing at all. Praying for your mental, emotional and physical healing 🙏🏾
@princesspink59443 жыл бұрын
I'm a very private person. My personal life is my own. I got family out here mad because I don't share everything. If there is something I want you to know then I will share it with you...till then stay in your lane! Keep ya head up cousin & peace be with you.
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
Same! I’m super private by nature. Even when I moved to Los Angeles, I didn’t tell *anyone* but immediate family (and by immediate I mean only my parents and siblings lol) until 2 weeks out. And even then I still didn’t tell a lot of people. I think it’s so strange how people can feel ENTITLED to the details of your life.. when honestly that’s the one true thing you have to yourself! Thanks for watching cuz! 🤎
@MT-us2ln3 жыл бұрын
Me too. I have some aunties that cannot mind their own business. They want to know every last detail about my life. It is very annoying.
@ascribecalledtess74393 жыл бұрын
I’m pushing 40, and I’ve yet to become a mother due in part to me choosing to wait until I’m ready. Folks cooooonstantly bombard me with questions as to why I don’t have children. I resent the fact that I have to explain my choice to wait, because honestly it’s nobody’s business...People are rude and too damn nosy for their own good.
@alee73223 жыл бұрын
Open Your Big Black Mouf! I appreciate you actually planning and considering you becoming a mother or not. To many people have children for the wrong reasons and the children suffer for it. It’s not my business either but I just want to counter the nay sayers.
@ascribecalledtess74393 жыл бұрын
Angela Lee Thank you. ❤️
@the_emmasculator3 жыл бұрын
Good for you waiting for the right moment! Too many people out here bringing blessings into cursed situations.
@allofdestiny3 жыл бұрын
*Quotes entire video here* It's so inconsiderate to assume someone can have a child just because they're a woman 💯. Normal bodies are so foreign to social media nowadays 🤦🏾♀️..pudges exist. I pray ppl learn to have more respect. 💕
@curlyhairmommie3 жыл бұрын
Someone inappropriately asked me yesterday if I was pregnant. Mind you, I was sitting and slumped over sideways. No CHICK, I'm not, haven't seen this person in years, why is this the first question you ask when you see me? Also, I have infertility issues...insensitive!!! No bodies business...Love your video cousin!!!
@breanahanna3 жыл бұрын
As someone who has been asked from 18 to now (29) and married for the last five years it’s exhausting how many times I’ve been asked when I’m starting a family. AND as someone who suffered a miscarriage just TWO DAYS AGO I completely understand. I’ve gained weight in the last few years and it’s always are you pregnant or you look like it. 😢
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss 🕊 And this is exactly why people need to be more mindful with their words! I’m so sorry you’ve had to deal with this! Praying for your mental & physical health 🙏🏾 Thanks for watching and being open, cousin! 🤎
@KevPen323 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you've had to suffer through people's ignorance whether well-meaning or not. Prayers to you and your spouse over your loss.
@nikanaturally3 жыл бұрын
My sister is very fit and had 2 tumors removed from her uterus a few months ago. One was the size of a baby's heads. Her 1st time going around others after recovery someone who never met her asked if she was pregnant. That really upset her. She was already self conscious because of the swelling and had been very emotional during the proces because of the fear of possibly losing her uterus. One comment can be so damaging, So disrespectful!
@TJ606513 жыл бұрын
I have to have tumors removed to..did the swelling go down after your sis surgery, I thought removing them actually make your stomach go down, had no idea that after it would be swollen
@nikanaturally3 жыл бұрын
@@TJ60651 her surgery was pretty much a c section, so there was the post op swelling. It is gradually going down. So yes, eventually you will have a reduced belly
@TJ606513 жыл бұрын
@@nikanaturally thanks for responding.. prayers for a full recovery ❤️
@nikanaturally3 жыл бұрын
@@TJ60651 God bless you on you journey to healing.
@overthebridge65313 жыл бұрын
I hope she's okay now❤️
@allofdestiny3 жыл бұрын
Yesss this video is everything I knew it would be. The entitlement is soo out of hand. I get similar comments too often. Like dang lemme pig out and not suck my stomach in ohkay! 🤦🏾♀️ every single thing you said is valid. you speaking out on this is everythingggg 🙌🏽
@ShadesofSage3 жыл бұрын
I don’t see why people don’t know that it’s offensive to ask a woman if she is pregnant if she hasn’t already told them that she was 🙄. I literally just made a video about this topic because it needs to be addressed! Thank you Amber❤️
@aprils61903 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 you just said a whole word. i don’t understand how people feel comfortable asking or implying regarding pregnancy - it’s so wrong😞. as someone who has been trying to conceive with my hubby for a few years now & have been label with pcos (weight gain is very common), it really is triggering when someone asks this question.
@kamikoils93363 жыл бұрын
I know I always be saying this, but THIS is why I’m a cousin!!! I’ve never personally experienced this, but I sooooo appreciate this!!! EVERYTHING you said was absolutely on point! Ppl be having all the audacity in the world!!! In the often used words of my daughter...”Who raised these people?!”
@kristinjohnson89843 жыл бұрын
even if ppl thought you were pregnant, the nerve it takes to take that thought and actually comment it... the internet has ppl thinking they need to say EVERY SINGLE THING that comes to mind smh
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
It take BIIIIGGG “BOLETAS” do you hear me?! 🏀⚽️🎾 But the internet will make people feel strong AF smh
@BklynBabe3 жыл бұрын
Oh they do that mess in real life too 😂😂 this is why people stay getting cussed out.
@fkhaagenson3 жыл бұрын
This video is on point! I’ve struggled with infertility caused by endometriosis, cysts and fibroids which caused a lot of bloating. And it was so painful when people asked me if I was pregnant and began asking intense personal questions. Even after I had surgery for my health issues I still had people ask questions about when I would have kids and get pregnant. And I was like dang can I live? Can I recover? Can I figure my life out? People have zero manners and common sense it’s all about being nosey and implanting themself in private situations they have no need to be apart of. They just like smacking they gums and gnashing teeth.
@DeniseAdore3 жыл бұрын
Whew girl! This reminds me of my Girl...STFU series 😂 This video was so necessary and delivered perfectly 💯👏🏽
@rachelm.31733 жыл бұрын
For real. Hey Denise!
@DeniseAdore3 жыл бұрын
Rachel M. Hey girl! 👋🏽
@ARS-67603 жыл бұрын
PREACH!!!! You are beautiful, and you articulated this so well!!! I have had two second term pregnancy losses, and the pain is real. The world would have so much more peace in it if everyone would just mind their own stinkin’ business!!!!! You told the truth. If the question one is about to ask has no benefit to ones life, don’t ask it!! Many blessings to you!!! 🥰
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
BINGO
@rudee60743 жыл бұрын
You tell em ! And social media has allowed people to say things that they would never ever say to your face!
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
right! I have never in my life had a person ask me if I was pregnant to my face. But I’ve literally lost count the number of times people have been bold enough to say it online! Smh
@ariallefty3 жыл бұрын
I flatlined at "win a raffle at work" 🤣 But for real social media just makes people thinking being the "first" to know or predict something gives them some super power. Its beyond me. I am with you cuzzin, I'm 39, got married in 2014 and diagnosed infertile in 2017. Many people know this and still fix their mouths to ask when I'm having a baby. It used to be hurtful, now it angers me at times. I will never understand why people feel entitled to know things so intimate about others. Sending you big ole, tight hugs from Michigan 🥰🥰
@schaney103 жыл бұрын
Chiiile...I thought everybody knew that 😂😂😂. You don’t just be asking folks if they’re pregnant. People need home training 💯✌🏾
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
The problem is they got “home” training... they ain’t got “comment” training 🙄😩
@growinginfaith16703 жыл бұрын
I made the mistake of asking someone this in person once...just ig'nant I guess🤷🏾♀️🤦🏽♀️...but I know better now, won't ask no mo...but you right just because you think something...is not grounds for asking an "inconsiderate" question...we must make the effort to think before we just blurt out speaking cuz we really truly don't know what someone is going through or has gone through and words stick and they hurt and they can't be un-worded. God bless🙏🏽❤
@MsLiiaaa3 жыл бұрын
I personally waited until I was 8 months along to tell ANYONE, including my parents.. so I wholeheartedly agree with the message. But girl these ppl know what they’re doing. People (especially women) who seem ignorant enough to say these dumb things likely already KNOW it’s inconsiderate and they just don’t care. If a person knows not to ask a stranger on the street then they know not to ask a stranger online. They just simply don’t care. Basically the “keyboard warrior” mentality.
@lewid0193 жыл бұрын
Fibroids. I look like I’m about 7 months. And constantly have to let people know that I am not pregnant and that I have fibroids.
@selenat.49823 жыл бұрын
Hey cuzzin...most people nowadays really don't have common sense due to social media. 🤔 Most go way too far with their unwanted opinions and remarks. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I am 😢😢too. This is so hurtful.
@mypossesonbroadway43693 жыл бұрын
Dang.. I saw the title and knew my Cousin was irritated AF.. lets get into this!!
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
Irritated as hell... and gotta give some tough love lol Leggo!!
@Brwnsuga903 жыл бұрын
When I tell you I almost cried b/c of the anger and disappointed from having to explain ALL of this to men AND women. It is infuriating to say the least. Thank you for this video. ❤
@TBrown11033 жыл бұрын
I learned this lesson over 25 years ago. I was with a friend and she’s healthy and we ran across a friend she hadn’t seen in years and the woman asked her if she was pregnant my friend replied naw jus a big stomach. The look on that woman’s face was so embarrassing. I learned then NEVER ASK THAT QUESTION? Thank you for the video
@Babyluv_3 жыл бұрын
You are IRKED!!! But I don’t blame you at all. People can be rude and insensitive. I’m also a “bloater” and ppl have asked in the past if I was pregnant and I wanted to punch them in the face.
@tinamckoy84593 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking on this. It's sad that it even has to be a subject I had a late term miscarriage and someone came up to me and was like omg your belly getting so big I'm like how much more time you got I said I lost her but thanks for throwing that up in my face. This was literally the day after I had her.
@CurlsofaCPA3 жыл бұрын
Sigh...someone close to me just went through a late term miscarriage and whew....I'm not sure of that's something you ever get over. People consistently ask her about the baby and how the pregnancy is going and she has to re-live that experience each time 😩 I'm still numb and it didn't happen to me
@UnresolvedConflicts3 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you touched upon fertility issues. This can be a serious emotional issue for many women. A lot of women, including myself, have PCOS which makes it difficult to conceive. I agree with everything else you touched upon in the video as well. One of the reasons why I like your videos is because you talk about social issues. You remind me of an activist lmao. Also, I’m loving your hair. Your shrinkage is amazing lol. Wishing you a safe recovery!
@theblackempath88353 жыл бұрын
I've always had a bigger stomach and I'm also petite and smaller at other parts in my body. I totally get the whole "mind ya business" because my family would always assume I'm pregnant because my stomach is bigger than the other parts of my body. I can't stand people who feel they have a right to know everything about a person's personal life. Like, focus on healing your trauma instead of getting involved in other people's lives to feel better about your own life.
@destainy083 жыл бұрын
Girl... I feel you one day somebody walked up to me and said aww how many months are you.. Smh girl that really made me feel some type of way i was so irritated.. Thats why you never assume that a woman is pregnant, people need to understand that every month around a certain time we all get bloated and we all have our bodies change due to Mother Nature and like you said other serious issue.. it's nobody's business so don't assume if you don't know for sure.. Btw girl not one time since I've been watching you in the last couple years have I ever thought you was pregnant SMH I'm sure you would have told us if you were..
@dominiqueparana91463 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you making this video. I’ve had several occasions of people getting all up in my uterus when it’s not their business. There’s a particular older woman who would always ask when I planned on starting a family anytime I’d see her. I would always be “polite” and give some surface level response. She then had the AUDACITY to ask me again after my grandmas funeral! I told that lady off right there in that church. She’d finally caught me on the right day. It’s sad that women have to explain this to OTHER WOMEN, but it’s never okay to ask such intrusive questions of someone!
@sunshine409083 жыл бұрын
I've experienced people asking questions in a few of these scenarios in person! Honestly, they didn't know me well enough to be asking those questions! What's bad, is so many people need to hear this which shows us how insensitive people are! You look beautiful and Thank you for sharing!
@apeekinredspocket3 жыл бұрын
Loved this video Ms. Amber, people needed to hear this topic again because you hit everything on the head with the different reasons why the human body has many different appearances. Stay well and looking forward to next video.
@caribenared98273 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this today. Tell them cousin. My husband and I have been married for 5 years and struggling with conceiving. The questions and comments from family and friends are very hurtful. I am usually somebody who is always ready with a clapback but with that topic I usually don’t know how to respond. 😔😔
@vikkild22433 жыл бұрын
Yessss! People don't know that if a woman miscarry late, she still has to deliver the baby. I experienced a woman having to go through this when I was in labor in the next room. It was heart wrenching for me to hear her cries. 🥺
@noreehix57143 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this conversation, women love to police other bodies. We should strive to be the best and optimal of our health but also love each other and respect the others privacy.
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
Right. Basically... “worry about ourselves”
@taneshacderico3 жыл бұрын
All facts!!! You look good girl! I still have my fupa too! And after 3 kids I’m honestly in no rush to get a 6 pack. Also, why did I tear up with you 😩*virtual hug. SN: so off subject, but at the end of this video the last ad was for birth control 😩🤣🤣KZbin is crazy haha
@NikkiWright893 жыл бұрын
Omg girl. I went thru this for sooo long. It was the most hurtful thing to deal with. I went thru IVF ant it took 4 embryo transfers for me to have my daughter. It was really hard. I would cry so much when people asked that. Its so insensitive. I would live to have a conversation with you because we agree on a lot of things you speak about!! ❤️❤️
@ChristsChemist3 жыл бұрын
When I hear things like this, it makes me leery of starting to make youtube videos even though I know it will be helpful for my career to establish myself as an expert in the scientific field and on the topic of hair care. There's so many plastic women out here that people have forgotten what real women are supposed to look like. Instagram is the worst when it comes to this. I refuse to play into that mess by wearing waist trainers and killing myself with crazy exercise routines or getting surgery to get a certain unrealistic body shape. That's why it's so unhealthy for people to be using those filters or photoshopping. It just further plays into their insecurities and unrealistic body images. There's a KZbinr by the name of Dephne Madyara who just released a book this year called The Art of Being Private. I haven't read it yet, it just arrived about a week ago. But it touches on the topic of living a private life as a follower of Christ in a social media age. I can't even stand it when my extended family members get nosy especially the ones who have a copycat spirit on them. I know their attempts to look concerned are really just opportunities to get into other people's business so I usually just ignore them, in typical introverted fashion lol
@chiararhodes34353 жыл бұрын
It still shocks me when the questions and comments about a woman’s personal business and body comes from another woman!!! I am the one to invite them to mind their own business and excuse themselves from mine (in a sweet tone of voice😊). Thanks for sharing this cousin!! 🌻
@emmamccoy83813 жыл бұрын
This is a GREAT video! I follow an influencer who's baby is 6-7 months and she's been EXTREMELY transparent about how a REAL WOMEN'S BODY changes through pregnancy & AFTER pregnancy. She was extremely petite prior to getting pregnant and it's a breath of fresh air & I'm sure it wasn't easy to show, just like you said, she looked pregnant even after birth. Social media brings out the most cruel and harsh comments I've ever seen and 1) It's sad 2) It's sickening 3) It's unbelievable TY for your transparency ❤
@t.k.bougard97123 жыл бұрын
Internet “cousin” or real cousin the audacity to feel comfortable enough to ask someone if they are pregnant is rude. It’s my body and business. I know we aren’t real cousins lol but the Alabama girl in me always feels you on so many levels!
@NaturallyFearless3 жыл бұрын
Im here for this video cousin! I hate when ppl comment about me being pregnant or having a gut. I had 2 kids within a year of eachother so yea my stomach didnt hop right back into formation. And before I had my girls I had 2 miscarriages and ppl kept askin when I was going to have kids...It aint none of your damn business 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@simplyshar22293 жыл бұрын
Social media has contributed GREATLY to insensitivity! You hit it on the nose when you said ppl you actually know will try to "interact" or check on you so quick online but slow to do it in reality. Another thing is some ppl are ignorant and insensitive commentators to simply "attempt" to "entertain" other ignorant individuals. 🙄
@SoAnxious7183 жыл бұрын
I was distracted by your hair the whole damn video, it’s gorgeous!!!! lol so re-record this with a scarf on so I can focus lol
@khiabridges25473 жыл бұрын
I feel this in my core. I have been asked if I was pregnant several times after I've had my sons. It's so frustrating. I started responding "did I say I was?" And then it was followed by the boo boo face. Also making comments about the size of a pregnant woman's belly. Wooo...don't get me started.
@ADORIASINGS4YOU3 жыл бұрын
This is very harsh BUT it is that deep !!!! This topic needs to be normalized , even when family members keep asking when your having babies is also problematic !
@mimij50153 жыл бұрын
Oooh Child.❤❤ I had a whole conversation about this last week. HUGE pet peeve. I love when people do this type of video. Another influencer did one, and she said "I didn't ask" for body advice. I asked a man to consider deleting his IG comment to a journalist because he complimented her hair by COMPLETELY insulting her previous look. 🤦🏿♀️ A couple of weeks ago someone expressed how much she loved someone then ended the positive FB post with how she didn't like someone else because she thought the other person had "self-esteem issues". 🤯 OMG! We can do better. Not every negative thought has to be posted. 🛑EVERYONE has feelings and more going on than we see. 🙏🏿
@MeTheseCurls3 жыл бұрын
Hello 🤗. Also telling a woman or asking them if they are pregnant could trigger something else that they are going through. Such as a eating disorder, depression, etc. Everything that you said was on point. Nothing is wrong with our normal bodies. I hope that your foot is healing like it’s supposed too. Getting around can be annoying
@tonisimon9293 жыл бұрын
That's crazy. When I saw your video, I was focused on your makeup and what you was saying. A lot of women are so insecure that they are quick to judge the next person. I completely understand where you are coming from. Ignore the haters and keep being you!!!! "Are you gonna win the raffle at work" LMFAO
@tiffanywashington57253 жыл бұрын
THIS VIDEO WAS EVERYTHING!!!! First, I NEVER comment and felt the need to do so, so that’s saying something. So many people made me feel guilty for not making my pregnancy and my child a public broadcast. Even today. I dealt with SO many emotions. I was even called into my general manager’s office at work because people complained that I was rude for not sharing pictures of MY baby. Smh. People I would’ve otherwise NEVER SPOKEN TO....(I worked there for 3 years already and never spoke to these ppl). Anyway, ppl need to hear all this truth and if you don’t get it, check yourself. YOU ARE NOT ENTITLED TO ANYBODY’S BUSINESS!!!!! Even beyond the subject of pregnancy and children...privacy and boundaries are HEALTHY...not shade. WHEEEW...Lemme stop preaching chile....thanks for posting!
@blossom2833 жыл бұрын
I literally get asked this randomly and it shocks me all the time. It could be my gestures, posture ...even down to the way I walk or why I’m wearing a sweater & cold all the time. It always catches me by surprise and I have to hold my tongue. It happens more often then people think 😒
@janishatravels3 жыл бұрын
Hey cousin!!!💙 I wanna play this at the next family gathering post COVID. Cause its some aunties and older cousins that need to hear this!!! WHEW!! Y'all please stop asking people about their womb, their weight and anything in between. It's hard enough going through everyday life as a woman (let alone a Black woman) don't make it harder by asking rude questions. Thank you for coming to Amber's Ted Talk with my little two cents added in. 😂
@learnwithlillian85093 жыл бұрын
I’m 64. Thankfully, no longer asked! I know you were ranting, but I was out loud laughing. You are so right! Some people are too dense to hear anything. BTW, found you today.
@kellyjones24273 жыл бұрын
Hey cuzzo!!! 👋🏾👋🏾👋🏾👋🏾 THANK YOU for saying ALL of this!!! I, too, have gotten crazy comments about my NOT PREGNANT but full of FIBROIDS belly from dumb people!! What's great is the look on people's faces when I respond...#thewaymysarcasmissetup 👀Like, people SERIOUSLY think EVERYTHING that comes out of their mouths is nice AND educated??!! 👀 #dummies
@AkemiAyur3 жыл бұрын
First off shout out to you rocking those butterfly 🦋 clips. Miss those. I felt your comment about those who wouldnt call or text but will check your social media twice. It's part of the reason I belive in keeping a small social media circle. Also your sentiment about normal bodies and normalizing seeing them got me thinking of anotherthing you can add to why someone may look pregnant. I went to PT school and found out I have a more pronounced lumbar spinal curvature than normal-linked to my posture, being a 32G on a 4'11" frame, and flat feet. It increases the look of my belly pounch. Sad to say when I was younger and less heavy I got questioned if I was pregnant. Now i am married and 20lbs heavier than my high school self and dreading to be asked more than ever. 🙃 Love your content stay you.
@makkahkhadija26043 жыл бұрын
Same here I bloat a lot and have diastasis recti on top of that. I get asked all the time if I'm pregnant. To me I think it's rude. Asf especially if they don't know you. Have some manners.
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
So rude!! And also we need to address the fact that as a whole the only “real” thing we think a woman can ever have going on is pregnancy... it’s actually pathetic. Smh . People can (and do) be going through a WHOLE LOT!
@makkahkhadija26043 жыл бұрын
@@FinallyAmber I'm so glad you made this video! Thought I was the only one who though this. Smh
@kiowells3 жыл бұрын
The internet be outta control fr fr.... so many people are so out of touch with reality. I have wanted to start a channel for so long but yall deal with so much and I just know I am not the one. Great video .... they need to hear this.
@w99063 жыл бұрын
Hey cousin! WOW, I cannot believe the NERVE of some people. Thanks for checking the ignorance. I agree with all you said in this video. You all deal with a lot when it comes to social media. Although, I definitely feel like a part of your family, I do feel that what you share, or not share, is completely your business. You have such a beautiful spirit!🤗🤗🤗🤗 As for those all up in ya womb, BLOCK, BLOCK, AND BLOCK
@everydaywithtai6183 жыл бұрын
Yes! It’s some things you just don’t ask. If it’s true and they want you to know, they’ll tell you in their own time.
@RoseyBlu3 жыл бұрын
I got married 2/14/20 , and like many people I gained quarantine weight. Well my rude ass family assumed I had shotgun wedding. They had completed neglected the fact that my hubby and I have been engaged since 2017. It was hurtful because me and my husband have been TTC for 3 yrs now.
@makebaspeaks43433 жыл бұрын
I have gotten this question too before from ONLY women because I carry a lot of my weight in my stomach. I just politely tell them..no, I'm just fat and they become soooo embarrassed with their nosey selves..I am sure they will never ask that question again to another poor women..
@ShamekaCheek783 жыл бұрын
Facts!! Some people can be so inconsiderate of others without realizing the ignorance of their comments and or their actions. Thank you for sharing.
@mizz2ts863 жыл бұрын
Awwww cousin...when you cried I cried😢...I've been there...it is not a good feeling. We love you cousin❤😍
@techielady3 жыл бұрын
This was great! Some people are so insensitive and would immediately become upset if you addressed them with the same questions they want to ask you!
@makingittoindia3633 жыл бұрын
Can you please tell this to the shade room!!!! They be the first ones! Love this
@mjuchis15893 жыл бұрын
Cuzzo !!! I agree with you, the internet allows access to just about everything. & I find it kind of disrespectful & invasive to pry in others personal lives . We’re not entitled to know everything, like damn mind ya business.. Respectfully lol
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
🗣 RESPECTFULLY MIND YO DAMN BUSINESS!!!
@mjuchis15893 жыл бұрын
Finally Amber tell em sis !
@SadeChampagne3 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes AMEN! I get all the questions too from people wondering when I’m going to get married and have kids- NONYA! 😩😂 And not everyone wants to have kids. Like you said we have to mind our own business ♥️ Thank you for this video! I’m sharing it now!
@cuzimjennthatswhy3 жыл бұрын
This my second vid from you that im watching and can i just say thank you. Thank you for this video. I learned about 4 years ago that my husband and I would not have an easy road trying to have kids. Family members have used it against us as a weapon which is more hurtful than just the thought of knowing we cant conceive on our own. It is something i haven’t shared outside of immediate family and this video just reminded me that God’s timing is everything and what is for me and my husband will be for us. Hitting subscribe now! 😊
@mightystrong54843 жыл бұрын
PPL can be so deceiving and hurtful .lv experienced being ask this on several occasions but then I have to come to myself & realized these ppl don't me & that I HAD fibroid tumors that had me looking 10 months pregnant .... That alone saved them a face full of kung -fu!! 😂😂 So to ALL this I say " if u just don't know 4 sure "..ZIP IT🤐 Be well & safe 🙏🏽 LOVED THIS 💞😘
@DecemberBaby12283 жыл бұрын
Yes ma’am people need to hear this message. Let me say it to the people in the back. JUST BECAUSE IT’S A COMMENT SECTION DOESN’T MEAN YOUR ENTITLED TO COMMENT ANYTHING!! It’s just plain rude. I’ve done research on how being a content creator is very difficult and increases chances of being anxious and depression. Such comments is the reasoning. It’s sad because society is losing humanity. Cousin you are in my thoughts and prayers.
@FRHumphrey3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. It is so unfortunate that this still needs to be said in 2020. OG cousin here, what's up, still appreciating your content.
@angelreney36623 жыл бұрын
I've learned that people can be book📖 smart and have no common sense.
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
Common sense isn’t as common as we’d like to think..
@angelreney36623 жыл бұрын
@@FinallyAmber I agree
@alee73223 жыл бұрын
Angel Reney common sense isn’t common
@yeye555553 жыл бұрын
Thank you cousin. If this posts...I have been thoroughly dragged. Please forgive my extremely nosy self. I am embarrassed 🤭😊😶. Hopeful to be as forgiving as you. Stay well. Thank you for not blocking me.
@Shammer4Life3 жыл бұрын
Look. I literally had the thought but DID NOT have the audacity to even ask!!! I don't know what's wrong with people. SMH. Thanks for following-up that last video with a response. I hope that this video reaches many people and they now think twice about commenting on women's bodies. We should support and celebrate each other not sit back and pick each other apart.
@ayoung64243 жыл бұрын
People need to have more respect then what they have. Folks don't know what that mean anymore.
@FinallyAmber3 жыл бұрын
Oh yes! The concept of respect is totally warped!
@CintWard3 жыл бұрын
The sad truth is people just don't think. Shoot I don't even like when family and friends constantly ask the question smh.
@TBELLA26_3 жыл бұрын
Emphasis on IT'S NONE OF YOUR DAMN BUSINESS!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 I thankfully didn't want anymore kids but I had fibroids and had a hysterectomy. Some women have fibroids that grow so large that they do look pregnant. Unfortunately in some instances they never had kids b4 the fibroids and people asking if they are pregnant can be terribly insensitive. Great video as always cuzzin!! 👌🏾💯💯💯❤
@kawannahardy29243 жыл бұрын
Ppl are just stupid as Hell. I've thought that may be a few of my favorite KZbinrs were pregnant, but I would Never ASK!!! When they announced it, Great. Congrats! I'm also baffled by ppl that email someone when they don't upload for a while. I'm always like REALLY?! I understand concern, especially when they're consistent with uploads, but not to the point of stalking the damb ppl!! Common sense AIN'T common anymore.
@trinathompson38163 жыл бұрын
I agree and have experienced a lot of what you’ve mentioned and yes you needed to go there cause some need to hear it
@1GoldenBreeze3 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree with everything you said in this video, and cousin, I felt that!!
@tiffany40913 жыл бұрын
These were some of my fears as a first time mom . So glad you used your platform to say this . 💕
@dinahewing27173 жыл бұрын
That is so rude!! I had my best friend sister tell me that I looked pregnant in a dress that my husband picked out. I just politely told her I wasn't and if I was, she would know lol
@Coco_Plears3 жыл бұрын
...a word 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Nothing else has to be said, you covered it all sis! I just wish people would listen smh
@ladieessence3 жыл бұрын
I completely agree with this. We honestly need to start telling folks to mind their damn business.
@jenhaze3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for speaking these truths darling, all of it needs to be clearly stated to the masses 🙏🏾🙌🏾
@crochetbabe8293 жыл бұрын
Yep, you are so right!! Some of these comments on this subject is quite invasive. I mean it's like almost bullying or persuading some one to have a baby. ImO, I believe that's what happened to one influencer on YT. ..... I was like my goodness what are ya'll saying .... leave her alone, but she eventually got pregnant. I'm with you stay the freak out of my womb and sex life, jeesh!!! .... unless I want you to know.
@ilovegodalways45263 жыл бұрын
Love your video. #FACTS. I go through this with my family and other people all the time. I have learned to ignore them and focus on God, myself and my husband only.
@SyreetaD4243 жыл бұрын
Exactly all of this!! I have a short torso and I carry weight/stress in my tummy area also so if I eat a French fry it’s gon poke out! Not to mention I have a diastasis recti from previous pregnancies so my stomach will protrude. I still get asked 🙄. You don’t know what someone is going through, and for me when a woman asks me I’m like really? You of all ppl should know better smfh
@Tiffanetic3 жыл бұрын
I'm here for this.whole.video Thank You!!!
@saritaf723 жыл бұрын
I agree wholeheartedly 100% with everything you said!!
@DPickron3 жыл бұрын
Amen!!! Completely agree with everything you said here!
@angeliaF26223 жыл бұрын
this video is a whole "PREACH". Let the church say Amen! Let Him use you. It seems like common sense stuff but unfortunately sense is not common to all. Thank you!
@kristidinkins3323 жыл бұрын
I put a comment on your last video about you “growing” in your career, life, e.t.c and someone was like how many months! I swear I had to re-watch the video I thought I had missed something, I’m like did I miss a pregnancy announcement? 🤷🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🌻🌻🌻
@joycewoodson30543 жыл бұрын
I soooo love you right now, Amber! Thank you! Keep doing what you are doing! Praying you have all you desire and that the most high God keep you and yours safe and healthy in all areas- physically, mentally and spiritually! Also praying that your cousins all have rich and fulfilling Iives of their own so they can say out of yours and indeed mind their own business.
@ginafumi30103 жыл бұрын
Great video! Surprised how insensitive women are 🙄. Don’t understand why people just can’t take 3-5 seconds to check their mouths. People have too many liberties 🙄🙄🙄. I have 3 children but miscarried 3 times. This made me sad thinking back on these memories. Women let’s treasure our queens 💕🥰❤️