Finding Lasting Connections After 50 | Expert Advice from a Dating Coach | Over 50 & Flourishing

[@kristenpichler8024]

I have always enjoyed the company of men, but for the last 10 years I have been mostly single and couldn’t be happier. My kids are grown and for the first time in years I can do what I want, when I want and with whom I want. I have time to explore my own interests, and delve into my work and hobbies in ways I couldn’t have ever done if I was still married. I am not anti-romance or anti-relationship/marriage. I’m just perfectly fine on my own. 🎉

[@mayam6678]

I just turned 71 and look max 55. I am fit and healthy and have no healthproblems. Most men, 60 and up are looking for a cook, cleaning lady, sometimes for a nurse and an occational rump. No thanks. I am full of life and need a younger and fit companion, otherwise I stay gladly single.

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

Good for you girl. 👍🤗Love from Rosie O from Devon England 😂🇬🇧

[@susan8471]

I'm 75 and have the same husband for 25 years. I was almost 50 when we met and married. If this didn't work out, I was D-O-N-E with that stuff. I will never marry again now...most men are looking for younger women and/or if she is the same age, he's looking for someone to cook, clean and take care of him. No thank you.

[@karenscookingkorner]

Could not agree more!!! 98% of men want a younger woman. I am going to live my life to the fullest and pursuing a man is not in that plan :)

[@pamfontenot1]

I agree! Most men are Looking for a maid, nurse, good provider. I have a more interesting life without an albatross weighing me down

[@judywodyn2320]

I am married now, but one little thing changed dating for me. I used to think "Oh do they like or want me." I changed it to do I like them, did not even think about do they like me. It changed everything.

[@LilyB-vz8lq]

Love this!!

[@selah7702]

This was a really fascinating interview!! While I am not in the modern dating scene and am happily married for 30 years I find this absolutely fascinating to understand how in the heck this all works in the current setting. I found your guest very likable and to the point and sincere about his desire to coach in this area! You were great too Dominique in your contributions and your sweet sweet vulnerability on the topic❤ you melted my heart as I could see it affecting you deeply. Favorite quote was “he might be a top chef, super model or wrote scholar, but if he hasn’t texted you in 4 days, he’s a s***** boyfriend” that was brilliant and to the point! Giving permission to TRUST your feelings as a woman instead of rationalizing that we’re just too sensitive or overreacting etc was also very freeing advice. I often diva myself in that quandary in friendships so I will be applying it there. Also I wholeheartedly agree with his point and your nana’s point about a good relationship should be easy and safe..😅 we’ve had our share of challenges in our 30 years of marriage but I will say it has always met that criteria from day one! That’s how he was so very different from those I dated before him!! Again wonderful interview and I hope you have him back for more elaboration 😊😊😊I shared this with my friend in her 60s who is in the modern dating scene and I really think it has some very valuable guidance she may find helpful.

[@RealinNYC]

What a great episode. It was fire. I had to keep re-winding while taking notes. I will be playing this over and over. I added it to my favorites. I hope that he does come back, and soon. I downloaded the resources. I can't wait to read them. He gave such great information and tips. I can't wait to listen to his podcasts. Now, I just have to find the men. I am trying to manifest a worthy companion for 2024.

[@barbj9785]

I like Evan's ideas. Sometimes there is no solution to the relationship problem and as he said, sometimes the solution is breaking up. I wish more people knew this as an alternative to staying in a bad relationship. I loved this video, very informative and he speaks the truth.

[@chericoffman6321]

I’ve followed Evan for years. Every time I have cursed thoughts of rejoining the dating pool, he reminds me why I quit. After enough years of listening to him, I finally had the good sense to embrace my singleness.

[@debbee18]

"How much do you want to dwell?" That's good stuff and it is applicable to anything that holds you back from receiving the best life has to offer in any area of your life. I really appreciate the wisdom coming from this man. Great interview!

[@cyndyontheline1640]

I felt the purpose of this conversation started 40 minutes in, it would be great to bring Evan back for a Part 2❤

[@chericoffman6321]

For those who want to date, I cheer you on. As for me, I’m done with it.

[@Karen-ve6ds]

It won’t happen to me. I’m a few minutes in, just wondering if I should jump off now! 😆

[@janmarchand7294]

After this husband, no more need apply!! 🤣🤣

[@julias8763]

Same here😊

[@marthaherrera2533]

Por dos 😢

[@jdoe981]

I lost the love of my life to damn covid. We were married 9 years. I'll wait til I reunite with him in Heaven

[@deirdreseltzer2263]

You are a consummate interviewer Dominque. It took me a while to sufficiently warm to Evan to be open enough to really hear what he was saying. I got the impression that it took you a little time too. You persisted and with your deft handling and respectful guidance, he came through. I think you disarmed him with your authenticity, charm and vulnerability. Well done you! You were SUPERB! ❤💪

[@katarinamorvai7558]

It was not easy though :)

[@annemeridien3384]

Too many advertisements!

[@melodireyes9687]

Many of your interviews are wonderful, but I think this one was the best. I am 76 and in a 6 year relationship with a man 30 years my junior. It feels easy, but yes, it takes an effort. I am in a good place and I am far more confident, secure and happy than my partner, who struggles with issues that I long ago put to rest. I feel a lot of compasion for him as he deals with work, aging parents and twenty-something children. If our relationship ends, I think I will continue to search for love and I will get better at this. I was impressed with everything that Mr. Katz said and I think a woman would be wise to seek this sort of support.. I loved the enchange of energy between you,, Dominique and your guest. This was fun! Thank you!

[@pamfontenot1]

You go, Girl!❤

[@Mrs_Thomas_tells_all-nj4tp]

Melodi, great to hear your positivity! And yes, no matter what, don't live without love, and feeling the sexy femininity that comes with that. It breaks my heart when women especially the 50-60-70 plus ladies who say "they don't need it, like their life as it is" - I know for the majority of them it's total BS - I know this because I once thought and said the same thing as them. Most of them probably need their hormones 'enhanced' - once you get the hormones aligned and reinvigorated, you know that your hot mama days are still very much n play! :)

[@paulan5989]

This was a great interview. The guest was refreshing but I particularly appreciated how Dominique showed her own vulnerability and made us stop and reflect. Kudos

[@selah7702]

I thought the same thing!! Miss Dominique I could tell you were feeling this deeply. Great interview and super interesting!

[@Trieste59]

When he talked about your Nana. I saw the most genuine smile from you. Worth watching just to see that dear. Love this episode, I needed to hear this.

[@bernardetterobinson]

As the interview progressed, I feel he warmed up and began to discuss more and divulge better advice. Pleased I stay tuned in. Always love listening to you Dominique

[@pamfontenot1]

Nah, this guy provided some different insights than I’ve heard before from other “coaches.”I think he is one of the best interviews Dominique has had yet!

[@shirleyannegoguen842]

Ladies, please stay positive and have fun on this journey of dating. There is a lid for every pot. I have found a gem 💎 after many dates, and I appreciate him more so than ever being my experiences of dating.

[@empea4403]

That’s awesome ❤. Where/ how did you meet him? I will take any advice and tips. Thank you 🙏🏻. Wishing you love for many many years to come 🥰.

[@alfinemuller2399]

Wonderful to see your conversation with Evan! I followed him a few years ago after a particularly painful breakup and he really made me rethink some of my harmful patterns with his refreshing and down to earth advice. I can really recommend looking closer into his content and books! 😊👍

[@trishhawkins4966]

I think this is about Evan and past rejections. All very much about how we can be more empathic toward each other. Thank you both.

[@PrettierAfter50]

Happiness can only be found in ourselves. We need to do things that bring us happiness, surround ourselves with positive people, help others, enjoy the little things, feel gratitude.. these are some of the things that bring happiness. Never depend on anyone else to bring us happiness. I didn't understand his approach.. a little too complicated!

[@angelaandreoli5390]

Loved and appreciated how eloquently you put that!!

[@mona2242]

Absolutely!

[@cleanqueen75]

I’m 66 and have been married for 42 years tomorrow. This is my third though. I wouldn’t ever get married again! I would compare every guy to my husband. I don’t think anyone could be as great as him! No one would measure up.

[@Linda-ic1il]

Wow!!! I'm so happy being single!!! I feel like I'm glowing 🥳I do whatever I want and answer to the one and only me, wonderful and fun, me🙌

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

Good for you girl 👏🙌. Love from Rosie O from Devon England 👌🇬🇧

[@Dkb522]

The key is confidence, really low expectations and knowing exactly what you want and not straying from that. Eharmony is good because you have to put the work in as do the men. And you can be very specific about yourself and what you’re looking for. But it’s not free, not even close.

[@katherinerempel1363]

Such a surprise to see my friend Evan here on one of my favorite podcasts! Can't wait for the sequel ❤

[@cherlgolja5402]

I wish I was 50 ❤anyway love your KZbin channel, Im sure u miss your Mom , you are lucky you had a great relationship with her ! You’ll see her again in heaven 🙏🏻

[@danielleschilk9845]

I never plan to meet someone, I let life happen.

[@juliadavid3637]

Right Dominique, this is so good! But, wow, after 28 years of marriage and at 66 years old, it looks like I need to move on. Trouble is, we have a lot together, yet in this America, neither one of us could financially make it on our own, soooo? Yes, bring Evan back, he's fantastic! Another great podcast, Dominique ❤

[@paulacabrera9864]

He is so good at this. True, I dated 35 guys at texted soo many before meeting my guy... Dating apps are great because the easy access to a lot of people. We just have to choose wisely 😊

[@annhull2952]

Happily married for 28 years, but i truly enjoyed this interview. And yes it is easy but not effortless!

[@kellybonanno]

Fantastic interview Dominique! Love seeing the two of you together. I have been watching your videos for years and I've been a faithful listener of Evan's podcast ever since my boyfriend told me how great he is about a year ago. I hope you do have him back for part 2!

[@marygrant9817]

Dominique, please have him, Evan Marc Katz back! Great show! Thank you. ☮️💕✅

[@patriciacrozier3835]

Not going to get a meaningful helpful answer from this guy unless you pay for his online course , you worked this interview best you could Dominique , love your Chanel xx

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

Oops😂

[@betspath]

I’m very fortunate. My husband & I met in high school. 55 years later. Ups, downs, all arounds. I’m glad we made it. I would never date anyone after him.

[@leeanngrush3278]

This was so interesting, Dominique! I haven’t tuned in to your videos lately, but I watched you on TV when we lived in Houston… and wondered what you were up to. Quite a bit, as it turns out! Evan was wonderful! You look great! Thank you!

[@Nangoob1]

In general, most men want to be with a younger woman. I would never want to date an older man (I'm 68!). You may just end up as their caregiver since most men die younger than women do. I am still married and would not want to do a romantic relationship again.

[@maryalbert6138]

I agree most of us over 60 don’t want to start a new relationship.

[@julias1965]

Dominique, watch every program. Please tell me how you get your hair straight! Love

[@43xoxo2]

Men this age are looking for a caregiver!😂

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

Yep I agree. I'm happy being alone. Doing what I want, when I want. Yippee❤ Love from Rosie O from Devon England 🇬🇧

[@reneeg.8853]

Too many ads Dominique

[@Sunshinyrunner-nr5jh]

Agree! Oh my gosh, I cannot stand them! Waaaay too many!

[@dibbyable]

I totally agree!!! Too many interruptions and too long!

[@Annie-lv8sn]

I am about to turn 50. I've been on dating cites my whole adult life, almost treating it like a job. I've had relationships but looking back I was either too selective or was left broken hearted. I never married or had kids, which is my life's regret. I'm tired of trying. Sometimes I feel lonely but I've gotten used to it. I wish good luck to all.

[@selah7702]

I hope you don’t give up and that you find what you’re looking for ❤

[@derondaaiken]

Dominique, a girlfriend and I were just talking about this part night. The one I had been dating looked perfect for husband #2, after being single for the last 20 years, and then it blew up in my face. This talk and information is just what I need because I had a blast being single in my late 30's and 40's, but it really does suck once I hit the 50's mark. ❤

[@Mrs_Thomas_tells_all-nj4tp]

You're exactly right - I too loved my independence and enjoyed the 'single'ish' life I was leading throughout my 30s, 40's, and by my mid 50s, I was so over it. Plus, over all those years my confidence in loving who I was developed and I knew I deserved to have a Forever Love in my Life. Well, guess what? The Forever Man arrived - via an online dating site - in Oct 2021 and we've just celebrated our first wedding anniversary. I've never been so happy in my life. I've had a very successful career, lots of friends, little grandchildren, travel, beautiful home, nice boyfriends and such, honestly, I had the dream as they say, the trappings, but I didn't have what my heart 'needed' - as Evan said, I am living proof that you can have the guy who loves you more than anything on this planet. We both have adult children, and I have the grandchildren, but there's a greater happiness I enjoy with having this darling man in my life. I had to do the 'work' though. If you're not online dating - please get back on the horse. Keep the faith! xx

[@linneasimchah1621]

Great podcast, Thank you! One of the best pieces of advice I've heard from a psychologist is to MATCH WEAKNESSES. Everyone thinks of matching the caliber (strengths) of two people. But it's the weaknesses that have the potential to ruin a relationship's potential. When one person is expressing a weakness, if their partner responds in such a way that it soothes things, instead of heaping more stress on top of stress, it will really help the relationship go the distance.

[@LilyB-vz8lq]

Great point! Thanks for sharing this.

[@NancyStinger-ll6wt]

There is a movie line that goes you should be the leading lady in your own life and to me it’s whether you are single or not and what that role looks like to you. I am happily single and the star in my life . PS rejection is Gods protection.

[@vera214T]

Well said.

[@SondraMarshall]

That line is from the movie The Holiday a great film,

[@NancyStinger-ll6wt]

@@SondraMarshall yes I just watched it again last night except how many Jude Laws knock on our doors lol

[@Jannirae]

If you can’t have a loving relationship with yourself FIRST - then the other person in a relationship will be the projections of the things you judge in yourself and haven’t accepted. The “roles” either get played out to teach us who the “ mirror” represents or we let all relationships be the best love relationship because we start with ourselves and free that starting point before we set a goal for the role-playing of two people eager to “barter” and call it love. Peace is within and only do we understand that when we forgive ourselves and everyone else for trying to give us what we can give ourselves - pure peace from pure forgiveness❤️ that’s pure God in each of us….

[@helenherlitz9012]

The human behaviour analysis on a dating app was very interesting but the experience of finding that special person is fraught with pit falls - and that doesnt even include the scammers online!

[@Mrs_Thomas_tells_all-nj4tp]

I've been online dating for over 20 years and honestly never encountered a 'scammer'.... I hear this a lot but it doesn't resonate with me. I can't imagine how one 'falls' for a scammer. Like, that must be something a woman projects & so called scammers pick up on. I always knew my boundaries in every aspect of online dating. Maybe I should do what Evan is doing - since apparently women see so many scammers around every corner so to speak.

[@empea4403]

Women are wise. We can spot the limited good catches and we all zone in on those same ones. Which makes the pool even narrower. It’s tough all around but I’m going to keep trying 🎉. Wishing all the women here believe and receive the gift of the man God has planned for them ❤.

[@carmspinelli1503]

Great pod cast Dominique good information love Evan great talk learned alot 😊

[@cstepan4879]

Excellent interview & advice. I look forward to hearing more, so bring him back.

[@juliebecker5238]

A companion would be nice at this point in my life. Widowed, but no interest in being a wife again. That ship has sailed...

[@alicekariuki2776]

Such practical advice. so good to listen to. Such healthy perspective

[@rplata4242]

Ugh Dominque. He was so not the one for this topic. He was strange and did not come across believable. Woman’s instinct….. 1. Im 54 most men don’t want women this age and want to go back to a young woman. No matter how good you look. It’s just men 2. Learn who you are all over again at this age and with the free time. Let the Lord show you who you are. 3. Walk on faith and let your beauty and confidence be from Him. I learn to live for an audience of ONE. The Lord first. 4. Live one day at a time, with a smile. That’s just me😊

[@Sunshinyrunner-nr5jh]

Agree with you 100% with everything you said. I would not take his advice. No thanks!

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

Well said. Found him a bit cocky😂. Sending love from Rosie O from Devon England 😂🙄🇬🇧

[@collyf6010]

Why do women always complain that it's the men that suck and treat us horribly. Welll I see ALOT of women who suck and treat men horribly. I have women friends who are so picky and keep picking the wrong type of men. They look at dating as if they're in their 20s and they go for looks first. More mature women need to look at kindness, great sense of humor, generosity, and with time they become more handsome and that physical connection grows too.

[@liana2136]

Yes, putting too much emphasis on looks is very superficial. The kindest people I have known weren't necessarily the "best looking" but their other qualities are so much more important and not likely to fade.

[@a.s.r.3661]

Excellent and very important podcast! Thank you!

[@janderson8342]

A fresh approach! Thoroughly enjoyed this in-depth dialogue. Thoughtful and informative.

[@mayocampo5981]

Thank you for this guest, he was spot on with what I want and need in a relationship. Please know you are an amazing gifted women filled with wisdom and valuable knowledge. I am so grateful for your content here. I so appreciate all you bring to us on this platform. But if possible, please please try to cut back on so many interruptions with promotions and your advertising, it’s so distracting and undesirable. Thank you and blessings always

[@kristinwatkins2406]

He’s GREAT !!! I did purchase Love U years ago!!! I met my husband online and it was Zoosk of all places!!! Lol Seriously , Evan Mark Katz and I do NOT agree on politics but we do agree on Old School dating & love 💕 is possible w the 10 % that are the RIGHT people

[@lisabeatty7778]

This gives me anxiety😢. So much work to just meet a man!

[@dibbyable]

With all due respect, I can’t get over all your “commercials”. Intro especially.

[@payattention31]

Had to listen to to this twice! So good

[@enzab200]

I thoroughly enjoyed this guest!!

[@butterfly2548]

Dominique you were perfection with this interview!

[@patriciaboer4648]

Why does he looking over to the side? Lol

[@sarahkennedy1481]

It is hard over 55 when an attractive face and body ages

[@bonniewhite2229]

This was so informative!!

[@HerCalifornia]

Great interview! This man is outstanding.

[@sharonmiller2940]

Truly great interview . I want more!!

[@paulacabrera9864]

GREAT EPISODE!!! LOVE IT!! ❤️

[@sstrudels4524]

Wow- incredibly helpful. Thank you.

[@leereyneke5374]

Thank you for your great topics & videos Dominique 👌

[@debbiesutherland7212]

Wonderful interview Dominique....perhaps one of the best thus far...thank you❤

[@tobelemoine9074]

The best advice is yours1 We have given our lives to these men! It is time to care for us! I have more fun with my girlfriends!

[@katiakay]

I agree with him for self-work. It's not necessary.

[@merry6117]

I lost my husband and for the first time in many years I am alone. One thing that I learned while looking at dating sites is that I don't want to meet a man over the internet. I might never find another man to love or who would love me but it won't be that way.

[@selah7702]

I’m so very sorry for your loss!! I’m in a long term marriage of 30 years and as we age together I can imagine if we parted in death that I would likely feel the same as you say toward online dating-so very very different than how we met our life partners! but I will say I felt like Evan made it seem “possible” and not as repulsive as the whole thing usually sounds to me. Thankful for people out there like him that are helping to make it a more positive experience. Again sorry for your loss❤

[@Annie-qu9ik]

Hi from Annie it is such a complex thing we all need different things to be happy but the basic are important like how he treats you not how much hd earns etc It is a bonus if he looks nice to you but remember tht will not sustain a real true relationships and your looks change with age etc.

[@kimberlygreenwell9117]

That what was incredible! So interesting! Thank you Dominique

[@ggjj999]

This is priceless!!! Would have saved me years of misery.

[@kd2533]

I'd be quite content with my rescue Greyhound, friends and family for the rest of my life.

[@adrianamoronta2307]

He really is the best. Dating coach

[@danaprahl9748]

Love your look Dominique. You glasses are perfect one color.

[@doloresmoore6634]

Great video for anyone who is ready to date!!!

[@lochamb1234]

When i was 17 i met my 1 true love. We dated until i was 23 & he was 25. He wanted marriage, id just left university & i wanted a career not marriage. I married at 31 had to kids, got my amazing career but hated my loveless marriage. I got divorced 10 years ago, 9 years ago i bumped into my 1st love and we slowly started dating. 9 years later, we love each other more than ever. He adores me, treats me like a Queen, he loves my 20 and 12 year old and they him. We both want marriage, but i wont until zachri turns 16. I live with him every weekend but i enjoy having my own home too. Ive never had an issue with dating , and i thank God for enabling my 1st love and i to hook up again.

[@Vivian88749]

WOW! SPOT ON! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@breewithlove]

Awesome episode, thank you!! I’ve left with many great nuggets. ❤️😁

[@annas163]

That was so eye-opening...wow, thank you so very much 🙏❣️

[@audreyso1201]

Thank you Dominique for this vidéo

[@bernardetterobinson]

Hi Dominique. This was a strange interview, forgive me for saying. I feel like he’s being a little condescending. I fell that each time you’ve asked him a direct question, he has been evasive, even though he said he wasn’t. Mmmm…

[@penelope5500]

I found him to be very straightforward & informative.

[@barbj9785]

Me too. Very straightforward and shot straight from the hip. @@penelope5500

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

Seems a bit too hectic. Not my cup of tea🍵 at all. 😂❤🇬🇧

[@Karen-ve6ds]

@@tadeuszoltarzewskiThought he would take off if he flapped his arms any more 😅

[@td9551]

Thank you

[@patwilkinson2182]

Wow! Cannot to hear Evan again.

[@twylabryant7197]

What if you’re not where you hoped you would be financially in your life in your late 50s, and that is holding you back from feeling worthy and that you can bring something to the table to someone who you will probably meet that is more financially in a better situation? Because if you want to bring something more to the table financially and you can’t or aren’t there yet and it’s still gonna be a while before you can how do you approach that into you even bother dating?

[@paulawiggins4876]

I don't think that you should let that hold you back at all. I am probably old school, but why do you need to necessarily make as much money as the man does or even close? If you do, great but if not, so what? If a man loves you, that shouldn't matter.🤷🏻‍♀️

[@cc_bloom]

Be upfront and honest with how you feel. That'll weed out a lot.

[@patriciaboer4648]

lol that is what I said. Why does he keep turning his head to his left. Distracting!

[@tadeuszoltarzewski]

😂❤🇬🇧

[@juliadavid3637]

I'm 66, married for 28 years, and still I found this very interesting.

[@ginaalesha2]

Oh my goodness! I can’t even begin to tell you how much this podcast means to me! So many words of wisdom from both of you! Thank you Dominique, you really do love us, to have given us this incredible interview!❤❤❤

[@dianaaguilar7632]

I am 33 but I want to flourishing and being as beautiful as You are Dominic

[@danielleschilk9845]

What is looking at ? Or he is waiting for someone ? 😂😂

[@banjoddwilt]

This was really good.

[@christinat.7264]

Strongly suggest whoever is genuinely interested in finding a mate, turn to God in sincere prayer and ask.

[@rplata4242]

Wow this was the best answer! ❤

[@mj.crafty]

Fantastic ❤

[@martigallagher7250]

Love the Cornell example (my alma mater). Haha

[@Karen-ve6ds]

I had my doubts about internet dating but this has put me right off! I’m not playing that game. And what does he mean he’s a dating coach for high achieving women??? Do they have to live up to his expectations or just be able to afford his course? Some women are not high achievers. They might not have had the right opportunities or put their partner’s opportunities first. Rebuilding a life isn’t just about finding another partner, that might not even figure. He makes it sound like finding one is the ultimate be all and end all answer to everything. If he told me that the seven years it’s taken so far to get over what happened before, is seven years that I could have met someone who lit up my life, I would deem him totally insensitive. That past life which he doesn’t focus on because everyone is hurt and broken is more significant than he seems to think. People are individuals with individual circumstances, we can’t be batched together as having the same sort of problems. I don’t care how much research he’s done! All that blah blah blah, circumventing your questions, gesticulating and waving arms in the air as well…. 😵‍💫He gave me a headache!

[@marciavaldez7767]

Good podcast, and yes, you need to have backl8ve with some Q and A from your audience.

[@polkprincess2714]

Excellent!

[@sandraitschner7118]

great interview