Signs they lack empathy.

[@callumread7359]

Why is no one talking about her intro chair spin

[@Shari1565]

Kathy Read Ok, it reminded me of a movie scene when the villain or the “unknown” is revealed

[@fakinggenius5291]

lol same

[@TheUltimateHacker007]

Plot twist: she's the psycho

[@Brian.001]

She seems to regard animals and people as equivalent. That's enough for me! Where do I sign up?

[@Fstop313]

iconic

[@peacebeyond123]

People can "Fake" empathy, I believe. They can say the comforting words, because it is expected..to be normal. (to fit in) But they really could care less.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Agreed -More like faking sympathy to get you to believe they are empathetic- however if you are close to them or spend time with them and are paying attention- because it's true that they 'could care less' that they trip up and can be found out.

[@carlosmarkus8491]

agreed to that. i fall in the empathy faker category. i don't want the other person to feel stunned if i don't show any reactions to him, so i pretend..i speak with a sad voice and all this shit to get them to believe that i feel sorry for them. but deep down. i don't even care if the world goes on fire. and yes. my best friend is aware of it. iam so happy that he doesn't see it as a deal breaker, knowing that essentialy, i mean no one harm, and there are worse people out there than just a nonempathic person, least iam not a criminal or something

[@holymacarenafin2319]

🤚its Super hard when you dont know how it feels. It has made few of my "friends" really mad

[@moxchi_]

If someone fakes empathy they actually do care because they are trying to make someone feel better, if someone didn't care they wouldn't fake feeling sorry for someone because they don't care. I think someone can lack empathy but still care about other people

[@nataliemoberleigh1648]

@@moxchi_ they may not care that much, but they care enough to say niceties

[@AlexanderMcConnell]

I was hoping she'd swivel back round at the end again.

[@viviane_casella]

What is revealed can't be unrevealed.

[@borndefectorsavedbygracewa5035]

Lolololololol. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@xxfox]

Lol

[@TheJustbristol27]

@0:01 “I’ve been expecting you mr bond”

[@kys165]

😂

[@laur131306]

STOP IT RIGHT NOW 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Jillian1stJohn3-9-10]

My father just passed away 5 weeks ago and it seems like 95% of people just say: "Sorry for your loss". Only 3 people were willing to sit down and let me really talk about it.

[@FinelyRevealed]

We can't tell how close you were to the others but it sounds like you have 3 gems in your life who are supportive and truly care. Kudos to them and big hugs to you on the loss of your dad. We're never really prepared to lose the ones we love and it hurts so much.

[@crazisnaps3745]

Jillian Mac Knight Some people genuinely feel your pain but do not know what to say sometimes. They probably still would have let you talk about it and actually listen. 😊

[@TheUltimateHacker007]

Thats real life. You cant just expect everyone to talk about it to you. Don't want to sound harsh but the truth already is. Don't be sad about please, that's just plain silly

[@conorclimo8534]

Same w/ me.

[@Shaggg504]

Villainous Vigilante that's not true. Most humans do have empathy. If u right now got stabbed standing on the corner waiting for a ride and people saw, are u saying people wouldn't give a shit? That's a fucking lie. That's not how humans operate. I think it may be u who lacks the empathy sir. We don't know what to say about a death unless we personally knew those involved, if we don't know, we can't say anything more than "I'm sorry for your lose" and yes majority of the people do feel sorry. It may not fuck up their day, but it'll be a memory. It's u with the problem, not humans

[@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih]

When they say:"I don't care"! It's a massive red flag.

[@windermere2330]

Long ago when I was about 11 years old I was riding my bike with a friend. We were in an unfamiliar area with condos. I turned the corner and I slipped on gravel and wiped out on my bike! A woman came out of her condo and invited me inside to help me with my wounds. I had really bad boo-boos on my hands and knees. She sat me on her kitchen counter and went to work. She meticulously cleaned the gravel out of my wounds, cleaned my wounds, disinfected them, and bandaged them up. She was so kind and gentle. I never felt so cared for in my life! Thank you mystery woman angel from 43 years ago!

[@AJ-wy6zm]

Omg what kind of monster doesn’t react when someone falls in the road, spills their stuff and cuts themselves! Put your things back in your purse girl, and run! Sociopath? That’s someone you don’t want in your life.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Bingo!

[@windermere2330]

@@FinelyRevealed I hope it wasn’t your husband Michelle!

[@karinamatos4253]

Signs: 1) No reaction \ cold feeling (makes you feel alone) 2) Doesn't show you that they understand your pain 3) Doesn't connect with you

[@renaissance5300]

you are so right I was praying so hard to rgain my health and he laughed and told me that God would never help me this is my husband he is verry cold yes feel all alone am finished with this situation

[@hellfire92837]

@@renaissance5300 Help yourself, and God will help you

[@renaissance5300]

I totally agree with you but I was so debilitated I coulnt see or even swallow or stand up from a tick bite it was horrific and I was dying and he left me alone there in the room I wouldnt do that to an animal or a stranger or anyone but I met someone at a fair and he held my hands tight and told me to pray and I felt something so strong in his beautiful energy that I decided to pray and now I am on my way to recovery never felt good enough to pray felt god was too busy just asked for strength it is so nice to hear from someone who takes an interest in what others have to say and I feel you care @@hellfire92837

[@luislol3995]

I pretend like I care lol is that good enough?

[@sherenifernando97]

I just cried throughout this whole video. I guess I’ll die alone

[@clearday9525]

I knew someone who would share his thoughts and how he felt about virtually everything with me, and I always sympathized and tried to help where I could. But when it came to my father dying, I was trying to tell him how I felt I'd needed a few minutes with my father before he was zipped up in that horrible body bag. And I got this reaction: "What did you want them to do? Put him in cold storage for a month so you could look at him?" I was shocked. I'd trusted the wrong person with my deepest feelings.

[@cloudydays6277]

Weve all being there.

[@clearday9525]

@@cloudydays6277 Thank you. Yes, too many have been there :(

[@cinder1989]

you cut that person of straight away he is not a true friend never let those people in your life.

[@clearday9525]

@@cinder1989 Thank you for that. Yes, I did cut him out of my life, but you know, it still took me a while after that to do it. I wish I'd talked to someone at the time about it, even come on here and got the advice of people like you. Just having others agree with your inner suspicions is so important. Otherwise, you thrash around inside yourself wondering if it's you. God bless.

[@EmunahFL]

That's horrible of them to say that to you.

[@laraoneal7284]

Lack of empathy is when someone makes fun of you when u are in deep hurt and pain from deep abuse you have experienced. They tell u to shut up and get over it. I dumped that person immediately. They did not know it because I just went ghost. U go no contact period. This behavior is reprehensible.

[@carlosmarkus8491]

not necessary. i lack empathy, but i don't make fun of other people's feelings, because i care so much about not looking like rude or asshole. so i pretend that i care. i pretend that i feel bad for what they are going through. but deep down i don't.

[@LaAngie.]

@@carlosmarkus8491 do u wanna change though?

[@sinnerseekingsalvation779]

Angie it doesn’t work like that.

[@moonchildva]

I lack empathy, but it's less of a "I'm gonna make fun of you for this" and more like a "Jeez that's too bad😐.......... Welp, I'll see you later." When my grandmother died I only cried once and years later I now feel a fraction of what my mom was feeling at the funeral. I looked at her dead body in the coffin, I saw her the day she died, I saw her the day before she died, I saw my family's reactions and they were devistated. But guess what. I felt NOTHING. And I regret not expressing my love for her like a normal person would, but I still love her. I cried once then, and few times recently. Mainly because I was sorry that I didn't have the personality to show her how much I loved her while she was still alive. I couldn't help it, it's just the way I am.

[@Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrw]

Or maybe he's tired of your bullshit. No one has time for your mood swings and shit. If you've received abuse then why are you even in a relationship

[@VeganoGuy]

Sometimes, someone MAY feel empathy but doesn't 'know' how to express it. Some people have been taught not to show emotion. However, I find that I can pick up on a lack of empathy from someone 'in my gut'. Even in everyday circumstances. And some people know what society 'expects' them to react in certain ways and so they fake it. They do this to be liked.

[@diphenhydramine6072]

Thank you for this comment. I definitely have empathy, but I'm really bad at expressing it. I just bad at expression in general. Although I think you shouldn't judge people based on your gut instinct. It's not always right.

[@vhayashi7369]

Omg YES!!!!! I just learned how to pay attention to my gut with people because energy NEVER LIES!!!

[@chemistrytube6300]

@@diphenhydramine6072 then you are a stoic character, don’t be ashamed of yourself

[@ninailic3484]

I was with my ex for 2.5 years and i saw many times that he lacks empathy but i will NEVER forget that one time when I cried infront of him because i had a fight with my mother and he just sat there and he was accusing me and make fun of me and how i cry. In his eyes I saw evil and coldness and i was so scared.. I never felt somethig like this, like he is not human.

[@FinelyRevealed]

So sorry for your painful experience @Nina - hoping you moved on and found peace.

[@tinasnow2006]

He’s a narcissist

[@bplatonova]

Yep, my husband did the same last may. all the love i had was gone that day. I saw the devil in his eyes.

[@reneerenee2656]

My partner just sat there and watched me have a severe anxiety attack didn't even ask me if I was okay yup true story

[@1aneczka1]

@@bplatonova what did you do ? did you divorce? have you met someone more caring?

[@mariewilliams194]

Empathy stops people from becoming arrogant. It's important parents say to their kids you wouldn't like if that happened to you.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Good suggestion- thanks Marie!

[@lollipopproductionstm1256]

I’m not arrogant or selfish. I just don’t care if something bad happens to you. But my parents always taught me to be kind and help others so I do. However they say I’m being disrespectful when I try to tell them how I feel about something so I don’t tell people that their loss doesn’t matter to me.

[@derpyliciousmiku]

@@lollipopproductionstm1256 this so such a mood

[@derpyliciousmiku]

@Pr.incorporated your comment is so confusing??? Who's shoes are you talking about???

[@derpyliciousmiku]

@Pr.incorporated that's completely wrong though.

[@vkng_drag0n982]

Every person I know who lacks empathy doesn't laugh to the point of tears or outloud for a minute or two, is normally a smile, and go back to serious face. The only time you really noticed enjoyment is when something bad happens to someone else. It's a 😏 smirk face. Now, I avoid people with no sense of humor because that is a big sign of a miserable person.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thanks for sharing that observation Victory

[@zombiemolly9711]

I was telling "him" that someone was ordering items in my dead son's name...My son has been dead for 3 years... "He" knows my son died. ...He didn't want to be bothered by what I was saying.... He said he didn't care. He wanted to report about his new cats.... I am not interested in seeing this person again. It means I will quit a support group that I had invited him to....

[@hellfire92837]

If a person is not empathetic with you and some other people but not everyone, they just might not like you.

[@wolfieboy683]

Is that normal ? Does it make me a bad person if im not empathic with another person ? Am I being mean then and am no longer empathic ? Sorry for the ramble 😅

[@hellfire92837]

@@wolfieboy683 You cannot empathize with everybody, some people have different/opposite views than yours eg pro abortion vs anti abortion

[@vhayashi7369]

Either way they're toxic to be around.

[@JadeLilyPop]

I had a close friend years ago who lacked empathy. I didn't know it then but thanks to all the social media and videos I know now. When her grandpa died, I expressed my condolences and baked her cookies and was there showing I was sad for her. When my grandpa died, she did nothing, did not even express her condolences. She just wanted to drink and forget about it and not even hear me talk about him.

[@cloudydays6277]

Yep sounds one sided. I had one like that for 10yrs. Got rid of her now

[@a_polar_bear06]

Whilst being clue less is the natural response. I still ask “Can I do something for you ?”, because often times Idk what to do and am not sure of how to make the person feel better.

[@JoyOgbatue]

I can relate to that the friendship part when it comes to people who lack empathy.

[@damian-795]

Empathy is the hallmark of a decent human being

[@mikeythedistasteful]

Imagine doing the “right thing” because it feels good or appropriate. That doesn’t seem decent to me that sounds selfish. Imagine now not having empathy and choosing to do the right thing because you know it’s right. despite not caring what the outcome is. That’s the true test of character.

[@OrdinaryJoe12]

No empathy can imo be beneficial in terms of career progression, competition in sports and making money. But it is only beneficial to the individual. However the human race could not survive without empathy as a whole. Its essential for building communities and caring for elderly and children.

[@unapologeticella4540]

I do have empathy but only for ppl who have empathy for me because I don't see the point of having empathy for someone who doesn't care about me

[@Ahsharah10101]

This is what I’m struggling with honestly. I don’t feel empathy for people who don’t give a shit about me and want me to cater to them

[@user-ee5om8wy7u]

The problem is that narcs show fake empathy. For example, that guy ignored you when you fell down. But, let's say, if that same guy worked in a company, in which you would work as his boss/supervisor, he would run to help and show emotion! But as soon as he gets promoted above you, and then he sees you fall, he'll ignore... And, sometimes people show you kindness and empathy only because they want something from you or get your position and not because they just want to help. So, it's easy to see when someone has no empathy right away. But do we differentiate and know when someone is being fake or being authentic when showing empathy?

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi @g yes with the same person and multiple examples of the same type it would seem to be easy. It depends upon the nature of the interaction and number of contacts and of course awareness of these behaviors which is what these examples are trying to show.

[@BATCHARRO]

Chair swivel reveal.

[@drtonni4920]

Batzarro perfect right

[@DeborahLArmstrong]

I have had them not only not show empathy, but even LAUGH at me when I was hurt as well.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Sorry -

[@johnmalko1808]

When people treat you that way, treat them with compassion in return and you'll see that those people actually possess empathy and the ones that still behave the same way you'll know are true aspds or psychopaths.

[@dsmusicbird]

Deborah Armstrong - or tell you that, "you did this to yourself"? Infuriating, frustrating and very hurtful. You're not alone. /hugs

[@ryanrooney4822]

Maybe they thought you weren't hurt. Like when you fall over and people will laugh unless you're like "fuck I'm in pain" Unless it was emotional pain then my bad

[@annetteblackmon9578]

Deborah Armstrong my family

[@hisokasstickybungeegum4397]

As someone who lacks empathy, I want to share about my experiences empathizing with people. As a lot of people point out people can fake empathy, and I do that very frequently. I know what to say, I know what the person wants to hear, but in reality, I could care less about their problems and just want them to shut up about it and move on. I don't get why what's happened is such a big deal to them, or why they can't simply move on and accept it happened without needing a connection. (even when they talk about good things that happen in their lives I find their reasoning meaningless and it tires me) I recognize I'm not normal in this sense. I say comforting things and that I understand so I don't come across as strange or insensitive. However, I don't make fun of people who are sad or who need to talk to someone, I'm more than willing to talk to my friends about their problems, but whenever they do I always find myself wishing they'd stop talking since I always say things along the line of, 'It's okay' 'I get it' 'That really sucks, I'm sorry that happened' And whenever people notice that I'm slightly out of it when talking about someone's feelings or about their problems, (ex. I get kind of slowed down, tired and even physically exhausted) I always end up saying how because I'm really introverted I get 'people tired', or social. exhaustion if you will. If you happen to be reading this I'm interested in your opinions on my lack of empathy. Do you think there's something wrong with me? That I'm sick or psychopathic? That I am giving people 'red flags' and am an inevitable danger to society? Or that I'm just narcissistic? (I feel I should also mention it's become somewhat of a problem, I have an emotionally needy friend who frequently talks about her problems and needs advice, but as I've known her for around a year and have had to 'empathize' more than normal, and almost on a day to day basis I get more and more tired of hearing about her problems and find it increasingly difficult to even fake it. And it almost makes me angry and frustrated whenever she starts talking about her problems, knowing I'll have to say the same tired answers)

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi @Shy Regardless of whether you are being sympathetic or trying to creae an atmosphere of empathy for a friend- it is asking a lot of someone to listen to the same story repeatedly.

[@satanworshiper5832]

Hey😅 I feel sorta similar, but more in a sense that I just don’t know how to resonate with other peoples problems. So I find it hard when people get emotional around me and I don’t know how to act or what to say. I am also increasingly beginning to lose my sense of empathy, and it’s not that I don’t understand how bad the problem might be, I simply just can’t feel anything. And usually find the subjects boring and want it o move past it.🤷‍♀️

[@dio_hoestar_4204]

I'm the same as you . I have aspergers and it comes with a lack of empathy sometimes. I act like I feel something, but the truth is , I don't and depending on the situation I might not care in the slightest. However I react in the expected way, because I know that it is the right thing to do. I rationalize others feelings a lot in order to be able to give the expected response. I cannot feel what others are feeling, but if it is a really bad situation and I know the person, I can logically understand why they feel the way they do. This does not mean that I do not care for others at all. I can feel afection towards others or value their role in my life. I'm someone who values the things others do for me. If someone helps me a lot and seems to value me and my friendship, I'll be loyal and do my best to help them back. I have a very strong moral code that I stick to no matter what. Sometimes its quite hard to navigate this because I can slip up and have the wrong response if I'm in a mood and later, when I'm feeling normal again it can clash a lot with my moral code. So I feel guilty. But it is a guilt more related to me, as if I have failed myself. The only way I'll have a bad response is if you've hurt me in any way.

[@ssmith5127]

I enjoyed reading your response. And I appreciated your deep level of honesty on your inability to care about another person's feelings at times. Even highly empathetic people can definitely experience that after repeatedly being exposed to the same trauma again and again. I think alot of medical workers are experiencing this right now with the pandemic and the high number of deaths and suffering. Sometimes there is a need to pull away and recharge ourselves with something enjoyable and affirming before we can begin to feel and express our empathy again. It's like recharging a battery or power source. So, almost every person on the planet does know what it feels like to not be able to feel or be empathetic at times. And we can then sometimes even feel guilt when that happens to us. Empathy for me is easy to compare to a physical touch. We all (I think) benefit from a pleasant soothing physical touch. It creates a connection and a bond between people. It tells you that you are not alone. But instead of being a physical touch, empathy, for me, is an emotional touch. We feel the other person's feelings for a moment and we care about those feelings with them. And frequently each person then leaves that moment feeling less alone. Feeling connected to another in a way that is beneficial and soothing. It lessens and weakens pain and shares joy and strength. I wish you could feel it. I think you might enjoy it if you could experience it. Those of us who do feel it consider it a very helpful and important part of human interactions. However, we all have areas in life where we lack one thing or another that someone else has. If you are able to feel joy or accomplishment and satisfaction... If you can experience curiosity and wonder or fascination, then you can still have a great and rewarding life. And as long as you are able to live your life without causing enormous suffering for others, you deserve that freedom to experience all the good life can offer. You may not be able to feel another person's pain or joy and they may not understand why you don't/can't. And things might get awkward and uncomfortable sometimes because of those differences. But I do hope we can all try to understand that we don't always get to choose everything about ourselves. And we should try to show kindness to one another frequently. It has the power to make all of our lives better in so many ways.

[@mbrbrm9651]

The fact you are asking if you are a sociopath/narcissist is a good indicator you are not. We all can have narcissistic tendencies though. Bring overwhelmed by others could mean you are a sensitive empathetic person. One who may require meditation, to find inner peace after other interactions. and find your own internal stronger boundaries. Narcissistic sociopaths don't give a lic at all about anything, or anyone else, but themselves.

[@LinYouToo]

When my father passed away after a long battle with dementia, my neighbor hijacked the conversation by telling me that her father-in-law died from dementia as well. Then, she basically told me at least my dad didn’t die suddenly and then I got the easy grief. 🥴 months earlier when Mom signed the hospice papers, another friend of mine and I met for dinner. It had been a really tough day. When I told her what was happening her response stunned me. She told me that her bartender friend’s wife had been laid off and that she was going to bake bread to make homemade pickles to comfort her.

[@200991602]

:( People like that will drain you. They are bad energy.

[@LinYouToo]

Orixá Rose it’s amazing how the patterns emerge so similarly. I’m sorry for your losses and the many times those close to you were not there to see, hear, or understand you.

[@mwilk9189]

Yes, you put it perfectly when you said the lack of empathy does make you feel alone. It’s very cold and gives you the feeling that you’re not worth their trouble. Thank you for your videos:)

[@FinelyRevealed]

You're so welcome @mwilk!

[@lauriejean9306]

omg that awkward chair turn at the beginning, though! 😂

[@sabersubrati2898]

Laurie Jean cringe

[@dodosandwich218]

What the hell do you mean awkward? That shit was intimidating af

[@heatherrhodes1703]

I dated a guy for almost a year who lacked empathy. He told me on more than one occasion that he didn't feel like it was his responsibility to act in such a way as to prevent hurting others. He said if he said or did something that hurt someone else, their reaction was their responsibility, not his. Another example is that early in our relationship, I bought tickets to see an 80's band which he said he would like to see with me. I was very excited to see the band play. Many months later, the concert drew near. We were no longer romantic, but had stayed close friends. He was in a long distance relationship with a woman who regularly came to our city for work. The day before the concert, I texted him reminding him of the show and he texted back that he was going to take her to the airport, so he wasn't going to be able to make it. I told him that I didn't appreciate the last minute ditch. I told him it was too late to find someone else to use the ticket and that being ditched like that was hurtful. He responded, "Well, I don't know what you want me to say." It never occurred to him to apologize because he could not put himself in my shoes to understand how it felt to be basically stood up. I didn't go to the show because I didn't want to go alone and the club was in a very sketchy part of Seattle and I didn't feel safe going on my own. A few days later I made the decision to release him from my life and honestly, I don't miss him one bit.

[@miketesla8550]

You made the right choice, and dodged a bullet.

[@TS-yd2us]

I feel so sorry for people who can't know how true empathy feels. What a dull existence that must be.

[@tomdavies241]

you have no idea just how much it is

[@damonplay8185]

You really demonize people like this here. It's not like they are monsters really. I for example most of the time feel nothing when I see a tragedy or when a family member of a friend dies. I know what they feel but I don't empazhize with them. But if someone tripped in front of me I would help them up. I have neve eand will never comit a crime. I have my moral code. But it's not based on feelings or empathy it's based on right or wrong. I would help others right in front of me becaude they need help and not because I experience the same as they do. It makes life in these times far easier. I'm glad I don't have to experience terror and panic when a terrorist attack happens for example. People like me are not wprse people we often just had experiences that changed us forever.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for the comment Damonplay and sorry for the suffering you endured. Demonization is not intended- just awareness. There are degrees of these things and it seems you are on the positive end of the spectrum.

[@damonplay8185]

+FinelyRevealed Ok thank you. As I said it depends. We can still have morals through our upbringing. It gets problematic when children that are like I was have no one to teach them about it. Then only the punishment of the law can prevent them from comitting crimes. Unfortuantely there is no reversing this process without a very long therapy and with time you actually like this state. It's hard to explain but you are getting used to it and then you think hiw can people always be so emotional and let those emptions guide them. It seems really negative telling it like that but when you experience it first-hand it's totally different

[@vodkacannon]

Dämonplay It depends. You can not feel empathy either because you haven't experienced those feelings or because you literally cannot experience those feelings. If its the latter it means you are a bad person, a narcicist or a psychopath

[@dave199010]

I can relate, i often find myself understanding how people think/feel but not really feeling for them. However, a lot of morality rests on how people feel and perceive life, and if you can't feel that, how can you tell what's right and wrong?

[@lunatisaidthat]

David B man that shit was right on bro 💯

[@ashoka.3498]

Tf was that opening scene **spins chair** "We have been expecting u Mr. Anderson"

[@LOLmusics]

I am the matrix!

[@artisttjan]

It had me tickled

[@TheEternalPie]

Sorry, but I'm very frustrated with this, because this is how the vast majority of people view empathy. In reality, nobody is empathetic from the start, NOBODY. We ALL learn it. I'm autistic personally, so because of that, I can have an understanding for others who are autistic, while I don't agree with everyone, I can still understand them. In the same way as "normal" people can understand each other. What's happening is that the majority which is functioning "normally" put that as the baseline. So when you come across someone who functions differently, someone who responds differently, or doesn't know how to respond, you call that a red flag, and "wrong". Now, BECAUSE people think it's just wrong, they'll dismiss those people, further alienate them, push them away from society more and more, instead of actually wanting to understand them, help them in any way, etc. I, as someone who is autistic, and hell, most of the autistic people out there, WANT to understand "normal" people, be incorporated into society, etc. But for the most part, it's difficult, or other times, not even possible to live a decent life when you don't function like the average human out there. So the "lack" of empathy you are talking about, is actually what you yourselves are mostly at fault for, because you just think everything that deviates from what you expect is "wrong". This is also why autistic people many times are considered to have TOO much empathy. Many of us have meltdowns and shutdowns for a reason. We're not allowed to be different. Stimming and doing other things to ease our sensory processing issues is "weird" or disrespectful, and people will move away from us because of it. How are, not just we on the autism spectrum, but also other people who have had fucked up childhoods, other mental disorders, etc, how are we supposed to function in society, if society doesn't want to understand us at all, but rather put a "wrong" stamp on us and hope that someone turns us into "normal". Autism for one, brings many good things, the most common being that we usually do much better within fields that we like, why can't this be used instead of pushed away? How many people that are pushed out of society could actually benefit society greatly if they were just allowed to?

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for sharing this valuable information.

[@tonyturtle221]

You're stupid. Empathy is a natural occurrence.

[@TheEternalPie]

That's very empathetic of you.

[@vodkacannon]

TheEternalPie YES. It's learned. compassion, sympathy, and understanding is not

[@lunatisaidthat]

TheEternalPie you said the truth.

[@danielle22226]

Wow, during Covid my young nephew with type 1 diabetes was set to prison. I was a complete emotional wreck. I was both mentally physically and greatly suffering emotionally. My g/f of 7 years was literally stoic and very cold to me during this time. I eventually fell into severe depression and I ended up staying in the spare bedroom for months in the dark, hardly ever coming out. During this time she apparently was having an online affair. When I confronted her about it she said she wasn’t and it was my imagination. I forced myself into recovery, and the minute I was able to take care of myself I threw her out. It has only been 30 days and I’m still in the recovery process. I am now dealing with the reality of what a frightening woman I was living with. I could never see someone suffering as bad as I was for a minute, none the less over 8 full months. She was so calm and cold at times it was as if she wasn’t even human. I must never forget this horrific experience. I could have died.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for sharing Danielle- you just helped someone. You will make it through this!

[@bluejay2687]

I hope people understand that compassionate people are like drugs to people lacking empathy. We both have to learn to live respectfully apart. It is unhealthy to fill in the gaps for people who suck you dry. These posts clearly show people bragging about a lack of empathy. There ARE amazing people who work on this and succeed..this is the purpose of life..to connect, share and love. People who don't want to learn empathy skills deserve each other.

[@vice2versa]

Blue Jay people that don't care to learn or feel empathy deserve to die.

[@rittov320]

@@vice2versa maybe a little extreme

[@serengeti4027]

super empathetic statement there...

[@rittov320]

And what makes you think you are the supreme authority on what is the purpose of all life? And why do you think you have this divine knowledge to be able to say who is or isn't worthy of others? Maybe you had a terrible experience with someone who lacked empathy, maybe you had many experiences like that, but it doesn't make sense to put ALL people that have less empathy than you would like in the category of horrible and mean people.

[@berserker3414]

@@rittov320 they can be pretty dangerous tho, since they don't care so they would abuse others for own gain. They can live but I prefer them out of my life. You need to respect that.

[@ichheieelsenorandorayashi4824]

Autism. Lack of emotion. Lack of communication. Lack of socialization. Lack of sensation. Lack of progression. Lack of interaction. Lack of vocation. Lack of relation. Lack of navigation. Generated by anatomical differences of the brain thus immediately blocking these processes from happening between them and neurotypicals. Thus making the autistic mental patient entirely incapable of eating and driving and looking and breathing and empathizing/sympathizing and growing and developing and fashioning and learning and other things that are strictly for neurotypicals only. Kids suffering from autism spectrum disorder have epileptic seizures. They are degenerates. They lack a perspective. They are hollow inside with no feelings and no morals. Autism is the number of symptoms in youth suffering from antisocial personality disorder. Individuals with antisocial personality disorder or in better words autism spectrum disorder classify as psychopaths and sociopaths. They were made autistic by genetic defects or brain damage

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thanks for contributing @Colonel yes, there are a variety of conditions that can contribute to lack of empathy among other types of traits or lack thereof.

[@heavyjoechipman3594]

Ouch! I know its 3 years later when I found this. But wow! I'm so sorry you went through this. It IS ❤ breaking to hear. I don't think i'll ever understand or even be okay with some people's no-reaction-at-all response to tragedy or negative circumstances in someone else's life. I can't help but feel bad or sad for them. I feel a natural desire to lift them up again. Turn things around for them. My mother and 47 year old brother are without empathy. Its just outright crazy how they are so self-absorbed, yet completely not self-aware. Unaware of others rights or feelings too. I hope life has been good for you since your accident dear. Thanks for making this awesome video. Merry Christmas and God Bless you and yours. 🎅💗☺🙏👍

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi @Heavy Thanks for the kind words - just sharing some lessons to try to help others.

[@krystal1261]

I'm an empath I spot a jezebel/narcissist right away

[@MeadeSkeltonMusic]

Jezebel's often fake empathy . They are good at being the do gooders.

[@carlosmarkus8491]

yeah. i can't feel empathy. when someone is hurt, i don't feel a thing. but i only pretend that i feel bad for them. just to look normal. deep down i don't.... i really really hope i was a normal person

[@jeffdom123]

@@carlosmarkus8491 why would you want to be normal?

[@jondough679]

No you don't your full of shit

[@jondough679]

@@carlosmarkus8491 sounds like you might be a bit of a psychopath

[@vadim.watchme]

I definitely can not feel empathy on the same level as other people from early childhood. Doesn’t matter what situation is. Doesn’t matter who is it. You don't understand me, but I don't understand you at all either. People like us are also needed in the world, we have our advantages. Without narcissists and sociopaths human civilization would not be so successful in all respects. We are not “broken” or “ill” as people try to present, but rather another version of the norm. We have always been. We will always be.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for sharing.

[@minoozolala]

No, sorry, you are deeply emotionally damaged. The last thing human civilization needs is narcissists and sociopaths. They cause the horror in the world.

[@flashlitestriker4028]

Wow! This was VERY enlightening! I've always "felt" empathy so strongly, that when I've run into people that obviously DIDN'T, I just found it too hard to BELIEVE, thus I went into DENIAL (in my belief system) that they could/would really BE that uncaring about others, unempathetic! I am just NOW starting to "WAKE UP" to it all!

[@kathijohnston3881]

I totally agree,I am so caring about people + so much for animals , hard to understand how they dont

[@audrey7151]

Absolutely. You feel cold and you are on your own, especially if you are dating someone who lacks empathy. This could be a very toxic kind of relationship.

[@unocarb]

I'm a diagnosed antisocial/psychopath (cluster B dark quatrad) and truly have a Vulcan's emotional response to basically .. I was born this way and am coming out to say that we exist, a lot of us aren't criminals and are just quiet recluses, I work nights just to get away from any public.. But many of us, me included can be Shakespearean in our acting, especially in the empathy and feeling dept..all for our gain tho..

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for your candor. Every person has a place and a gift to share.

[@DrHappy-hk4hl]

Uno Carb I'm diagnosed with ASPD as well,but my diagnosis isn't because of a different brain structure like with you I suffered horrible abuse when I was young so I'm a sociopath. I can have more emotional depth but we're pretty similar emotionally. You should visit Quora it's a answer site ,there are a couple of psychopaths as well I also write on it. You should check it out if you're intrigued.

[@DrHappy-hk4hl]

Hady Swag You are extremely ignorant and you have no knowledge of psychology. He's not a criminal because he didn't break any crime,do you even know what a criminal is? Antisocial personality disorder is a variant brain structure that some people are born with,it cuts of some emoticons and blunts the other's. Go open a book on psychology or stop talking about things you don't know.

[@magnetisemplayz3839]

@@DrHappy-hk4hl stop lying

[@pearlsbeforeswine60]

Good examples but most people know very well if they are with someone who lacks empathy, for the simple reason that they feel like shit when they are with that person.

[@createone100]

Yes. What feeling person doesn’t already understand this? We do not need to be told these everyday truths. Waste of my time.

[@ozzyoz5210]

I may have too much empathy. If there's such a thing? Dear God I fell and broke my tailbone and ankle and my husband never helped me. It was over a year before I realized that he hadn't helped me.! Whoaaa! This is odd that you're describing my life. Whoa!!

[@bplatonova]

yes, just last year i realized my husband had no empathy. 10 years it took me to see this

[@jimmyj4044]

Bahahahaha

[@presentfuture69]

I have been where you are now so I absolutely can relate . But please try not to blame yourself for taking so long before being able to perceive, process and finally realize the very difficult truth - that for some reason what you thought was a loving relationship actually was an abusive one.😔 Instead please be grateful and proud of yourself for having the inner courage and enough self-love to write your feelings down and communicating them to others.Well done! You have now managed to take the very difficult but absolutely necessary first step towards healing and a life with truly loving relationships💖💖💖

[@staceyfinley6378]

I had a person tell me we don’t know or can’t tell if a person has empathy because it’s personal as to what you feel, but this pretty much debunks that. I agree you CAN tell if someone lacks empathy. (Even if that person is a public figure.)

[@tremainw1413]

An example from wider society of just how undervalued empathy is: Meet any person in a social situation, and as soon as that person becomes interested in you, the question which is sure to follow any other is, in 99 in 100 times, "so, may I ask, what do you do?" That question is an implicit attempt to measure your value as a human. We don't ask "what was the last charitable act you did to help others?", or "so, may I ask, can you think of an altruistic behaviour which you exhibited recently?" No, it's - what's your value as a human to others, and the answer which will mostly impress, or otherwise, has little to do with empathy. If you should respond something along the lines of - that you clean the local toilets for a living, but in your spare time you love saving lives - the reaction you will get will be one of pollite bemusement, and then they will be sure to move on from you, to speak with another, at the earliest opportunity - even if you've just been entirely truthful. I must say right now that I highly respect people who devote their lives to helping others, but I don't feel most do. For most, it is likely true to say one's status in earning power matters to others, in a way that one's dedication to saving lives (or just about anything else!) doesn't quite match. But don't blame me, I didn't make the rules, however I sure did notice them...

[@creator2149]

devote their lives to helping others. Some people will get their photo's taken when giving generously. The rest of the time, they wouldn't donate a dime to a bum.

[@jimmyj4044]

boring

[@jaysyko197]

Let's be honest, only a few people has real empathy. Everyone's faking it.

[@FinelyRevealed]

HI @JJ maybe - there are many who lack it these days- childhood trauma etc. Also hyper reactionary things like sensational media etc can wreak havoc on the central nervous system and make some shut down. Maybe we build that back by starting with kindness.

[@latteemiele2018]

I'm in a relationship with someone I think is a narcissist (after studying this for a year on KZbin), but I also wonder if I am the narc? And I got worried...because from all my past trauma sometimes I don't feel empathy properly...but then sometimes I do. Its kind of like my empathy has been mixed up quite a bit from being yelled at. I'd really like to delve deeper and figure out if its me or him who lacks the empathy. This is so confusing and does feel like black ink spills over your life and you can't see the clear pages to know. I am also addicted to watching these videos on youtube...scrambling to find answers.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Sounds like you could use some counseling or at a minimum some space from this person. Until you separate you will continue to have these types of questions because you are being influenced. There is a test you can complete - google it and it will help you. Good luck to you @latte !

[@YourIQDoesntMeanShitToMe]

Hey, maybe you should look up BPD. I have it, it's a possibility.

[@cloudydays6277]

Pls dont listen to people who think you have some personality disorder. Its known people with mental health issues will project unto you. You said yourself you feel empathy sonetimes. Truth is to feel bad everytime something bad happens to others can be draining. Youve been through some things so you filter what you empatise with i do it too otherwise id be a daily emotional wreck. Nothing wrong with you dont overthink it, if your bf is pointing fingers it may be good to separate from him to see things clearly. Goodluck

[@jeanbutler6585]

I was talking about my brother and my verbal and emotional abuse from my narcissistic mother. My mother-in-law didn't say a word. Not an ounce of compassion. I hate that about narcissists.

[@FinelyRevealed]

HI Jean- well we need to just 'skip' them for these types of discussions if we want any feedback etc. You'll only hurt yourself. sorry.

[@kalfaxplays7899]

for people who lack empathy, they can learn it with time, but it's not always taught to you when you grow up, depending on where in the world you grow up. countries lacking empathy a lot: france, north korea, pakistan and norway, to mention some.

[@xox4bidmenever108]

Actually to me, there are 3 traits can to consider. "Understanding" anyone can do even psychopaths, sociopaths, & narcs as it is necessary for any human in order to be successful at either positive or negative manipulation (if you can't understand them, then you can't manipulate among other basic human traits). "Sympathy" is imagining or knowing how someone could be feeling & feel for them to a certain extent & "empathy" is actually the ability to feel with the person even if not the exact same experience, but they can relate to the same level of the emotion whether it is being so happy you cry, so embarrassed you feel you may die or tragically heartbroken.

[@michaeldavis9422]

This is fascinating, I have asperger's, I can be taught how others will feel in a given situation, based on what I know I can to an extent try to predict how someone will feel, but I cannot feel it. I cannot feel as they. It is interesting because you are more proof of the fact that I differ from the masses. I can feel emotion based on very serious things, but for more trivial stuff it doesn't kick in, not to a large extent anyway.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for contributing to a greater understanding.

[@mysteriousiamjewishmysteri2373]

FinelyRevealed your never gonna shock us out of it.

[@mysteriousiamjewishmysteri2373]

FinelyRevealed if you just say all apathactic then all gonna is thraumatize aspies

[@ImGoingToMakeShowsWithOprah]

That's how I am on the whole. The exceptions I can count on one hand.

[@gundark456]

lol, i know people that have these problems, they dont reveal themselves to strangers, and they hate having a medical history reveiling them, ur just confused, people who lack empathy are scared people

[@cloudydays6277]

Unfortunately almost 90% of people lack empathy unfortunately. You could be bawling your eyes out crying and it wont affect them one bit.

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3163]

Great video. They don't feel. Harshly so. Run and don't look back. Being with someone like this is like being in a roller coaster ride without the seat belt! 🤣

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thanks for the feedback John- and yup re the rollercoaster- very well put!

[@dodosandwich218]

**Chair spin** "I've been expecting you, mister Anti-social Personality Disorder..."

[@doofusdog2663]

every time i’m going through pain, physical or emotional etc... i just think “ hey, it’s just a feeling deal with it!” that’s just how my mind works.

[@whatshisname3304]

i feel like i ve lost my ability to empathise . its like i am refusing to do it , blocking it.

[@stinkeyweeb1603]

Same

[@louiseandresinawithresina2402]

Because u have experienced lack of empathy maybe

[@heposlis2409]

True me too I try to be more empathethic I try to hug people and its hard its just weird to me

[@alyssalewis8421]

It can be an important defense mechanism in response to extreme circumstances. You can work through your circumstances with a therapist.

[@Blissisme]

its like im telling myself "theres nothing i can do so why do i need to feel like that,i don't like that feeling" so i just keep a poker face everytime because im selfish...i put myself first than other people..i don't care about their problem its not like i can do anything about it..i have my own problem..thats why i realized that i only feel a bit of empathy with people that i know or just hang out with in general.

[@efilwv1635]

I found that people who refer to themselves as “empaths” are the biggest POS’s on the planet.

[@trollingmermaids]

Can you give an example of this?

[@efilwv1635]

Pretty much every “empath I’ve ever knew. People use that term to strengthen their superficial charm.

[@lynb_11]

ZHERO ZHERO those are usually book empaths. They love the idea of empaths. I’ve meet many. They intern turn around and ridicule you and treat you awful and then say they are the victims. They use the the empath language to gain victims. True empaths are true gifts in your life.

[@elsewherehouse]

I know that most Autistic folks, some TBI folks and those with (c-)PTSD struggle with a limited capacity to empathize and/or sympathize. Whats the cause? Whats the neurology behind this?

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi inverted. Haven't investigated that- they are all good questions. Some in the comments with those conditions have provided some information if you scroll and read that might help. Generally we know that the brain acts to protect itself and sometimes that is by shutting down certain sections or functions.

[@Indigo_newness]

That happened to me... I have that happen a lot... I think a lot of people don't empathy these days... I'm used to it know it's sad.

[@katyasaniwell]

Lacking empathy is one thing - I think I do in some situations - although I intellectually can sympathise. It's another thing to behave like a toddler in a tantrum because the world doesn't revolve around you and on top of it invent elaborate schemes to manipulate the people you deal with in the most heinous ways.

[@josephm8292]

Three types of empathy: Cognitive Emotional Compassion.

[@donnas.1576]

Your story reminded me of My husband of 35 years...we were walking and I fell flat on my face just like me. The ex said nothing but looked around to see who might have seen me (Like he was embarrassed that I fell) . Someone in a car stopped to ask if I was okay, the ex just stood there. He didn't help me to get up. When I was giving birth, it came to the final pushing and I reached for his hand and he backed away. For years, I thought his lack of emotions was a strength. I was wrong.

[@jengal1007]

The collective lives in a place of no empathy. The love is not deep enough, and the system has destroyed your future.

[@malcolmdouglas9324]

There's a lot of social engineering going around - that's a main reason why there's so much narcissism and borderline sociopathy, which diminishes someone's ability to feel empathy.

[@forestcreature888]

THIS POST, how many years till this recognition becomes mainstream?

[@JohnB-dr8sk]

People who lack any empathy have traditionally been called "cold hearted."

[@coreyanderson7424]

I have been studying NPD for a while now, so, I have gotten better at discovering them and ot has helped protect me from more abuse. However, what is sad, is that some people who arent narcissists also do not seem to have enough empathy for others. Not to the same degree as someone with NPD, no, but they arent the kindest people, either.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Read down in the comments- some people lack empathy based upon other circumstances or conditions that are out of their control.

[@MuMu-fu7qe]

I was going through finals in school, working on the weekends and had a daughter to spend time with. Him: you make time for everyone and everything but me.

[@Ryantravisaol]

The chair swivel was cute. Think about it. She had the idea, and she went for it, and some people got amusement out of it which is a good feeling. So her lightness made us smile. I think that’s a win. Also, she’s wonderfully insightful and seemingly very genuine. I don’t know, I found her helpful. I was questioning my own empathetic ability after dating a narcissist, and her questions and insight reminded me of how I do emotionally react to others, and how compassionate I really am, and that made me feel comfortable again. So thanks swivel chair lady. You have a cute soul, and a good brain with great insight.

[@FinelyRevealed]

HI @Ryan Thank you for your kindness.

[@thewisestguy1]

THE CLICK AND TURN AT THE BEGINNING. WHY AM I DEAD

[@tristan4175]

This is more about the cognitive empathy, the understanding of someone else's emotions. Although personally i lack emotional empathy which includes the emotions that someone may feel when having empathy.

[@parkgimmy4225]

I think I lack empathy, but not too extremely. I can feel the grief of others if its caused by the loss of someone they loved, because I've been through that myself. But before experiencing the loss myself, I don't think ever felt really bad when I heard someone lost someone. I knew what happened, I knew they must be feeling really bad, and I also knew that I should feel bad as well.. and so I tried to act as how anyone is supposed to act in that situation. But I don't think I felt any real sadness. On the other hand, I can easily cry if it's for animals. I can imagine their pain more than that of people around me. Yesterday, a friend of mine told us that she has TB.. and it was shocking. But, I didn't feel anything while my other friends were genuinely worried for her. I too, ofcourse, said words of care but I'm not sure if I felt any worry. It's not like I don't care for others, I really do, but I just can't feel bad for them most of the times. And this is something I really want to change about myself. I try to be as nice as possible, because that's the right thing to do, but it still lacks emotions, especially because I can't fake my facial expressions or the tone of my voice. I wish I could change. I read a comment where a person was saying that it pisses them off how someone lacks empathy. I just want to say, bro, it's not by choice.

[@FinelyRevealed]

HI @Park Thank you so much for this. When we share we can spread understanding and through understanding come together. We are preparing a video on helping cultivate empathy and how we have different types of empathy. Watch for them and hope they help.

[@Bahar-mo7xc]

I'm in the same boat, except worse. I feel horrible guilt that I don't feel the sadness people around me have and I feel very disrespectful. It happened when my grandmother died and it happened again today when my grandpa dies. I had respect for him and he was a nice grandfather but I just can't seem to express what other people do, I cant cry much like other women and even men in the family do. The sadness almost immediately passed away and I picked up my phone to play a game because what else? I'm of no use of comforting others because I can't sympathize with them. So here I am looking up what the heck is wrong with me. To be quite honest i doubt i can do anything about it. I was like that since childhood..

[@westonadams7135]

It really isn't by choice. Everyone wants to call it narcissism or you are just a horrible person.. It is a emotional trait we lack..

[@voyd0]

Seems that you have cognitive empathy. Have you read about it?

[@bloodbuddy7]

Have you ever actually tried to research and develop your empathy ? It’s reasonable when people are confused and upset by someone else’s lack of empathy, just because you struggle with an undeveloped part of yourself you can’t really put the fault on others for being surprised/upset/ confused at behavior that doesn’t seem right.

[@saralynn518]

I know this video is six years old, but the relevance never dies. After 20 years knowing this person, and a LOT of clashing and fights, we recently started chatting again and it hit me. Both of my parents have died (in 2020), and although we weren't together, he never told me he had a gf for 3 years and married her. They are divorced now. When I initially told him about my parents, he was dismissive. Upon chatting again, I tried to express my hurt feelings with this situation and he was casual then disappeared.. Turns out he was at work. Instead of telling me, I tried to have a serious conversation and he left. He then failed to bring it up again later. I (tongue in cheek) apologized that I thought we were having a serious conversation and he just responded saying it's all good. I thought his personality was the way it is because he comes from wealth and is extremely wealthy himself. I, on the other hand, am poor and on disability. I am very empathetic toward the struggles of the lower class. He never "got it". He donates to charities, but whether he actually feels for the charities he is donating to is another question. He never showed real concern for me when I was struggling and couldn't even afford food at times. I wish I could confront him and make him understand or even ask if his therapist has presented his lack of empathy, but I have a feeling it would not go well and there would be no resolve. I am just happy to know that it's not me anymore. I can't believe it took me so long to put the puzzle pieces together. Thank you for a great video.

[@FinelyRevealed]

You are so welcome Ez! You are exactly who the video was made for- it is a trick situation and when you 'see' what is going on it makes all the difference. ps sorry about losing your parents.

[@lorriekelly964]

If they don't feel for U get away from them . Good advice Now I need to take It ?

[@FinelyRevealed]

HI @Lorrie - the answer would be yes either way- you take the advice to get away or you accept the situation and if the other person is not autistic or otherwise affected such that empathy is diminished or not there- then your odds are increased that you are or will be abused. The good news is that you know and so now you have a choice.

[@YourIQDoesntMeanShitToMe]

I thought you were writing a poem. The fuck dude?

[@katsputnik_28]

This very helpful for me, since I'm trying to define the concept of empathy and sympathy, because of what I've been observing, I have lost the ability to Sympathize, not entirely but at least partially. I've noticed that when my friends have a problem that they want me to help with, I usually give quick answers that seem correct to me but apparently are really insensitive, I feel like I don't treat their problems like what they are anymore, problems that make them feel bad and really bother them, I treat them more like it's just a puzzle that you have to do or say something in order to fix. Specially with this guy, who used to be my best friend for about 2 years, but now I don't really feel like doing activities or hanging out with him (not like I can anyways), but I feel like I don't feel problems anymore, I don't feel the need to help people or make them feel better, and when I cause a problem or say something that makes others feel bad, I don't have remorse anymore, I just say "sorry" because it's what I'm supposed to say, but I don't feel or think about it anymore, so I'm trying to define what having empathy and sympathy is again, so hopefully I can have those feelings again. From my point of view right now, it's kinda helpful not to have theese feelings, because you don't feel bad for a lot of things, but I can feel that isn't how it's supposed to be, plus I kinda don't feel that Happy anymore, I feel very neutral so I hope I can fix this. Thanks for making this video, and thanks if you read all of this. Ps: sorry if my English is bad, I'm Mexican

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi @Navi and thanks so much for sharing this. We are in unusual times and sometimes it may feel like your 'feelers' are broken from being stretched through media and some people who seem to want you to stay in a reactive mode all the time. Neutral is a very good place to be in order to observe and learn and reflect.

[@clearaswater4424]

There is one group of people who have no empathy

[@myjoi212]

Aleta Sykes white people?

[@johnmalko1808]

Nazi's?

[@gladiammgtow4092]

the BT-1000 ?

[@jellybutterpeanut1]

Bomberman lol proved her right

[@hiphopreal912]

white people lack empathy

[@hannahrosa5485]

Yes. I fell on the pavement, broke my thumb, pain and scrapes and my husband just stood there. Said and did nothing. A stranger helped me up. I was shocked at his non reaction.

[@myuhdidas]

That chair spin tho...wtf 😂

[@windermere2330]

I thought it was cool!

[@cowpig9157]

Whenever I see little kids playing and laughing with each other, my mind says they're puny because they run and walk

[@TaylorCassandra1]

There's really no need to villianize or structure this like a Survival Guide for people having a lack of empathy. Some people have it and some people don't and both are ok. It's not done on purpose. My roommate is a huge empath and I'm not but I try for her. Not trying to get a gain over her, not trying to be cold or empty or robotic. I can sympathize but have a hard time empathizing, I can on occasions.I may not exactly care depending on the situation but I can still recognize for myself what it is she's feeling I just don't feel it with her. I just have to think about it and actually try. I may only take the effort to do that for people I Love and am close with but I'm not going to let you know it. I'll help if I think I can and ask if you're ok and try to say what I think is right but because the feeling isn't there doesn't make me a bad person.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thanks @Taylor for this- it is so helpful! Unfortunately there are people who lack empathy and 'play' like they do sometimes and they have ulterior motives. If a person is being given one too many 'benefits of the doubt' - recognizing that the person lacks empathy can help uncover or recognize people who are harmful. You are correct- the empathy factor alone is not determinative of anything as others with certain other conditions - autism etc have shared. Thank you so much.

[@rarecockneyguvnor4945]

This Lady is right i saw a Psychiatrist once who was so callous cold and cruel ! He actually told me he wanted me to suffer how sadistic is that ! ?

[@scottbryan3362]

Good video. Only change I'd make is when u spin in the chair at the beginning is that next time have a cat in your lap stroking it with a grin on your face. Then it's be perfect. Lol goid video tho thank you. I hve a ex that I have a little girl with and her lack of empthay or sympothy is very very scary.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thanks for the suggestion Scott! Your little girl is very lucky to have you as her dad to teach and protect her.

[@candywilkins386]

Lol chair spin with cat in lap with pinky in her mouth. Now that would be funny! Just saying!

[@jimmyj4044]

Terrible video

[@Willa4420]

You mention falling in the street and the person you were walking with had absolutely no reaction. I had a similar experience with a person I now know is a psychopath. I was talking with him on my cell phone and a big dog ran up to me barking. I screamed in Fear and honest to God this person I was talking to had absolutely no reaction. He then tried to fake it by saying a dog ran up to you but by then I knew he was acting. As a matter of fact he tried to become an actor and he failed. A bum was angrily yelling at me he just quietly stopped walking and watched. I was alone. It took me years to realize this person is a psychopath. I got away from him. No joke, he was a born psychopath. When you fell I bet strangers looked more concerned than this person you walking with. That person has no feelings. Cold hearted person.

[@DreamBeatsBakery]

I guess I have reduced empathy. I've driven past accidents coldly or ran over an animal without flinching but in all of these situations there's nothing I could've offered besides showing sympathy. On other hand I'd be the first person to stand up for you If you'd gotten robbed because I guess I'm also a bit more coldblooded in these situations. What I'm trying to say there are different personality types, if society broke apart and we had to COMPETE for limited resources most of you women would leave your nice guy husband for somebody who is focused, determined and has that certain lack of empathy to step on the competition and be driven to acquire his goals and take risks. When everything is going smoothly people tend to write off these qualities as "bad".

[@FinelyRevealed]

Empathy is something that is most closely aligned with direct relationships- As with all emotions it's variable by person and degree. It connects us to each other. This video was to give people ideas on when something seems 'off' with a person that they are getting close to or think they are already close to- that if there's a lack of empathy and no explanation such as a kind of autism or condition that they know about in the person and they discover that there is no empathy then they should probably choose another person.

[@johnmalko1808]

What you say actually resonates a lot with me, I think most people are like that, possessing a conditional empathy so to speak. Think about it, if humans had unconditional empathy then we would have never survived because we would be too soft and caring all the time but then again if we had no empathy then we would have never survived either because we would have all killed each other a long time ago. Humans need empathy but not unconditional empathy, To understand human psychology we only have to turn our eyes to the chimpanzees, look at them sometimes they help each other sometimes they fight, sometimes chimpanzees show empathy and sometimes they are ruthless, just like us.

[@DreamBeatsBakery]

Bomberman "Give me a D"

[@DreamBeatsBakery]

Nature Girl Uh no. I'm not saying I go out of my way to run over an animal but sometimes you have to in order to avoid killing everyone in your car by pulling into a tree and then there's really no point in beating yourself up about it.

[@butmunch5097]

DreamBeatsBakery the fact u created a scenario that would not likely happen to justify and assert your fictitious dominance shows you could be a narcissist...to create a scenario out of the blue and say "this is why I act blah blah blah" shows I could never be cool with u...very mean

[@anirudhvattem9934]

I was forced into quitting one of my passions because it was costing too much money and my dad just said why are you so sad you are just giving up something that you love to do. Just man and be strong. That is when I realized that he has no empathy. He also says all the time why do you have depression just be strong. If you are depressed and have thoughts about harming yourself then you are weak.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi @Anirudh please change the narrative- if this is your passion it is not over- just postponed. You will find another way to continue. Sorry your dad was not supportive.

[@wowitzexpert303]

I wish I have empathy 😢

[@CesarGonzalez-id4ku]

Wowitz Expert You do; if you didn't, you would feel sorry for not having it, because you would personally believe that there was nothing wrong with not having it. (Which there isn't)

[@MegaTrivial]

You may have an emotional block which stops the empathy to reach the awareness.

[@laurenrate7408]

I don’t think it’s ALL about the emotional connection to that persons situation (it is 70% of the time), but instead how you react to make that person feel afterwards. For example If someone looks at me and says “my grandma died when I was 4” or “my house went into flames when I was 1”, I would react as “omg that sucks so bad, I’m so sorry” or something along those lines, do I actually feel grieve for them or sadness, probably not. But I know it’s a sad situation, they probably feel sad/feel like the situation isn’t the best, and I will respond in a nice gentle way. I have gotten myself worked up/scared because I would try and force myself to feel sick/sad/grieve/anger with these people and couldn’t feel it. I would cry thinking I was a psychopath, but the truth is, I don’t want others thinking they are as well. If you’re scared of it YOU AREN’T ONE, sociopaths and psychopaths aren’t scared of what they are/get nervous/anxious/fearful/scared/stressed over them being who they are.

[@TheMmiguelito]

LOLOL the intro turn around 👏👏😁

[@Unknown-hu4gf]

I know of several lawyers that I wouldn't help up either...

[@lollipopproductionstm1256]

I don’t feel bad when someone is sad about losing someone they love. I’ve never had anyone die except my grandmother but I was about 8 and I didn’t really understand or care. I’m 14 so I don’t expect myself to understand because my brain is still developing. When people tell me about scary situations I get a thrill throughout my body and I get really excited. When people get sick or have a tragedy I just say “I’m sorry I hope you get better soon” or “I’m sorry for your loss, I wish there was something I could do” but the only way I can describe how I feel about it deep down is that I don’t really don’t care and that I hold no feelings towards what happened to you. Someone I knew had a dog that died and they were really sad about it but the dog died about a year ago so I think they should just get over it. My family has 3 dogs currently and one of them is 13. When she dies I’m not sure if I’ll care and if any of my other dogs were sold or died I don’t think I’d care. I had a fish when I was younger which my brother ended up killing. I wasn’t upset about his death I was just irritated that they didn’t let me see him get flushed down the toilet. My dogs killed a bird once which I had to shovel over the fence. I had to shovel half of a rabbit over our fence because a bird dropped it. I feel like empathy is sort of a weakness. I’m sure it’s important somehow but I don’t think feeling bad for someone isn’t going to really help them. In television the protagonist makes dumb decisions because they want to save someone they love, I believe that is ridiculous and they should focus on the task on hand regardless of who you lose along the way. Unless someone is useful I don’t believe I need them. The only word I can use is that I think people are disposable. When I’m 18 I’ll visit my doctor and see if I do have any mental disorders because I’ve heard they can only diagnose you with them when your 18 or older.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Thank you for sharing @lollipop

[@lollipopproductionstm1256]

@FinelyRevealed My pleasure, thank you for listening.

[@bambipardis1105]

Yes they sense it .My chuihuaha Maria sensed my abuse my husband with his scheming mind she glared at him sitting on my lap

[@MHobbs43]

The feeling of empathy is separate from someones reaction to someone who may be in pain. Our brains are all different and sometimes people need training on how to handle situations. A lack of appropriate reaction doesn't mean they didn't "feel". Some brains are designed to analyze a situation before reacting. And yes they may be the opposite of others because these types of brains are special and useful in ways that reactive people are not capable of.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Yes - thanks for sharing @MegH and there are actually ways to enhance empathy - putting a video guide for this soon

[@lorriekelly964]

People some time can't understand Cuz it ain't them ! Sometimes people Maybe glad it Ain them !

[@ieva8168]

I have lack of empathy and I just don’t understand people’s emotions. I recognize when people are sad but I don’t feel sorry and deep down I just couldn’t care less. In reality I have no strong bond with anyone including parents, my friendships are shallow but yet again - I don’t care. I express no empathy, sympathy or compassion unless people expect me to, then I fake it.

[@3m967]

I only give empathy to people because I want something out of it. I’m quite the same to you, I only do so when people expect me to. My grandmother died and I remember my mom crying I understood why she was sad but I felt nothing. When friends are talking bad about themselves or are sad, I only cheer them up because I have to, not because I feel empathetic to do so. I fake a lot of emotions, I can be really witty and funny, just so I fit in and isn’t this dull shell of a person. I tend to lie and manipulate people, I feel only a slight bit of remorse when I do so. I often overextend events in my life to make me more interesting. I’ve done this many times before, I really liked this twitch streamer so I decided to make a seperate account to bully them and use my main account to come off as the hero. I can almost lie my way out of everything situation I am in. Or make me seem slightly better if I did something. For example; I hit my sister as a act of anger, I managed to manipulate and lie my way out of getting in any trouble, my sister got into more trouble even though she hardly did anything. But something I don’t understand is that I show such compassion to animals, and cried when my dog died more so then both my grandparents that died in the same month. This girl who’s mother had died stole something from me and I couldn’t care less I got angry and felt so much hatred for her, and I still do even though she had just lost her mother. I never cared I felt no empathy towards her or anything. I often will give things to people in need only because I want to make myself look like a better person, it isn’t a act of empathy or anything.

[@emil.jansson]

well guess i have no empathy!

[@NathansHVAC]

I keep laughing every time Hillary Falls. No empathy for vampires here either.

[@CherylMuir]

“Empathy is the ability to understand and feel how another person is feeling in a given situation from that person’s point of view.”

[@jamesgeorge2230]

Never turn your chair around like that again in the begining. Reminds me of something very creepy lol

[@FinelyRevealed]

Boo! hahaha

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

The chair turn is some theatrical intent. Her dress is a little odd.

[@jamesgeorge2230]

HighSpeedNoDrag I actually like her dress, it futs her very well and compliments her skin tone aswell.

[@HighSpeedNoDrag]

She is attractive and Intelligent.

[@terrytarostead]

This is a great way to address the turn. Lighthearted, then you move on to what's important.

[@thomasjefferson336]

I for 18 years had no empathy or lack there of and it’s not like I’m a monster. I never noticed why I was constantly getting told off when ‘trying’ to comfort friends. It never came over me until I started having extreme mental issues that surfaced and it’s when I started to gain empathy and I hate it since I see something that has nothing to do with me and I would start to feel bad, I’m not used to it. Without empathy you don’t really feel anything so it’s not a conscious thing I should say. Faking empathy was a huge thing since I was always taught to ask people if they are okay if they look upset. Also another example when my grandparent died in front of me, I didn’t cry for a while and I thought I was psychotic but now I know I have lack of empathy. I would watch tv and someone who on tv was murdered or something like that I didn’t care. I made jokes because I didn’t care. I’m not a monster, I unfortunately was born like this, it’s both a curse and a blessing.

[@FinelyRevealed]

Hi @Thomas . Thank you so much for sharing that.

[@MalloryJay95]

I literally have no empathy, and I realize it. Even the people I am closest to and love so much I don't have much empathy for. I don't care about how others feel unless I see them actually cry, and I also don't care about things that do not affect me at all. However, I know how to be nice when people are sad or if they're hurt even if it does not seem natural to me to do.

[@FinelyRevealed]

It seems to be a matter of degree and also awareness. Your awareness probably aids your interactions a lot.

[@joanmer6713]

well it's like this,we all CV h3n through something,whether I ts been physically abuse sexually abused, incest,everyone been through something,and they are dealing with their issue,they might not know how to deal with certain situations,so you will have to be understanding and patience,everyone have they own issues ok,and it's called forgiven, because no one is perfect.

[@violetmaquiling8834]

Mallory Johnson I kind of feel like this today about my wife. It's a trend of her. It just makes me feel alone in the relationship.

[@hadyswag4952]

Mallory Johnson self centerd bitch

[@dgtwo3724]

While it's good to see you are aware of your lack of empathy, someone like you is the last person I would go to with a problem or for understanding. My default perspective on someone like you would be to view you as a cold person and having gone through many personal tragedies, I tend to call out cold people on who they really are and I don't hesitate to let others know who and how these people are. I basically go to "war" with cold-hearted types.

[@frankievalentine6112]

I like to think the swivel is just bc she got a swivel chair and is really excited about it. But I think it's also the "reveal" name of the channel- voila!