How I Set New Year Goals - My Intentions and Aims for 2024

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

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[@user-mr2rr9vx7r]

Hi Finn, I wanted to comment as I regularly watch your videos but have never said anything! I really appreciate all the content you put out and it has a big impact on me. I think it's important to see an older trans person appreciating their life and where they're at, even though it wasn't what you expected (y'know instead of 'I transitioned and don't have any problems anymore!'). I felt sooo frustrated for you over the PIP decision and all the hassle the DWP put you through, but hopefully they should leave you alone for a bit now. And I'm glad to hear your prioritising your health more this year; I personally would way rather see less videos and you're able to get out more and be around others in similar situations, than see videos where you're more isolated and prioritising your mental health/ health less. All power to you and thanks for your videos, take care x 🏳‍⚧

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello my friend, I'm so touched that you broke your silence to leave me such a lovely message, thank you so much 💕. It means so much to know my content has made a difference to you, that makes me a very happy man! Much love to you!

[@natashamason3328]

Sending lots of hugs. So very proud of you and how you’re doing with your new adventures 💜xxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you sweetheart

[@flowersstorms8863]

Sending massive hugs and lots of love your way, m'love! You're being extremely wise saving up your energy to spend it on fulfilling activities that help your MH! I'm so glad you're giving yourself permission to make this channel a hobby again - I know how incredibly frustrating it is to want to do stuff but body limitations getting in the way of it. Having such sensible and gentle goals for your year is really good. xxx

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Thank you, I appreciate this so.much. having someone who gets it is priceless it really is. I'm so grateful always for your friendship. It's so blooming tough managing all these changes , but this course of action feels right. The first test will.be saying no when I get asked to do a talk !

[@stefaniedecoster2772]

As shit as it is to have to set priorities like you have to, you are really good at setting them sweetie. It's a big part of your muchness! The floating sounds really good too, hope it does you lots of good. Also, where's Lamby? Lots of love xxx Edit: commented before I got to the end of the video, I'm sure Lamby would much prefer not to get eaten by Pip.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah thank you! Yes, I have to, its really really really tough! Letting go, accepting, urg its tough work! but its or the best and in the long run it actually might even allow me to return to more stuff, but right now I cant even think like that, which is also hard! But I am excited, to find out who this new slower me is, and what this new life can look like when I do loosen my grip on the old one. I miss Lamby cuddles sometimes, but Pip ones are far better!

[@CoMorbiditty]

I didnt comment on Lambi lol.... less stress is the goal. Less moving about. Deep rest. And doggy likes him too much.

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

@@CoMorbiditty Yes indeed! And yes, Pip is a little bit too keen on Lamby! He now must live up high!

[@jess53nz]

Omg love the set up so we can see pip! It really is the little things in life ❤

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Ah I'm so glad you love the set up , thank you for letting me know!

[@superdrwholock]

Much love Finn, I’m glad to hear that you’re putting yourself first. I’ve been going to a youth group (it’s for neurodivergent young adults who are 18-30 so not like a kid thing, and there’s quite a few LGBT+ people like me who go, 4 trans women, 3 trans guys including myself and there’s loads of different sexualities going on haha, everyone’s very accepting it’s lovely). Been going for about a year now and it’s really helped me. I wish I’d have had something like it when I was younger but I’m only 21 now and I know some people don’t get to find something like that ever so I know I’m lucky. I think there should be more things for people who are older though, it’s great that there’s stuff for young people but we grow up and sometimes still need support, there’s people who are about to turn 31 at the group and I’ll miss them if they’re not able to come anymore

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Im so glad this has helped you, Im really hoping that the groups I have found will help me too. Ive just uploaded a vlog about started my first grouos and how Ive found them so far. Like you I feel lucky to have found ones that seem to be perfect for me. Thank you for your lovely words!

[@superdrwholock]

I relate a lot to what you are saying about feeling like a burden I feel that way a lot with having autism and ADHD, I know it’s not the same cos it’s likely a lot harder having a chronic illness but with executive dysfunction I get so frustrated that I can’t do what I want to do, and it’s taken me a long time to accept that being so hard on myself won’t fix it, I just have to accept myself for who I am and try to work with the brain I have lol

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you, thank you for sharing that with me. I think its all relative, its never about one being harder than the other, feeling like a burden is an awful feeling however it shows up for us. You are trying to accept your brain, I am trying to accept my body! Who we are is absolutely perfect and Ok isnt it? Those that love us belive that, our job is to believe that too, Im determine to get there!

[@CoMorbiditty]

Its ridiculous isnt it? You think... okay Im eligible for this and that..... I will apply. Got to give them every personal intimate detail of my life in many forms and documents. Then they say no. If it were me I would have walked away because they said no. It wouldnt for the life of me .... dawn on me to try again and again mulitiple times. I think to myself... people will do right by me... they will do their job. And if they dont then, it sux and I move on. LOL. My kids have issues with mental health. I try harder and harder for them. Its exhausting as I have also mental health issues so I wont beat myself up over them. Health sounds good Finn. You might even start to have a little fun eh?? You can just relax and concentrating on those spoons. Maybe get pacing down pat if you havent already. I'll be happy to hear about your health plans, gains, losses, victories, strategies and ideas. Make sure you are ready to go out tho...so you dont have a crash. I would feel the same as you mate. It is hard to think of ways in which you feel useful? But really, it isnt about being useful or not a burden because Im pretty sure Chris would adore you no matter what. He's just happy you are okay, alive and able to love him. He knows how hard you are working on yourself... but no more stressing. Time to relax and do what you can with Fred. 💗

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Bless you buddy, I feel the exact same way, I think because of my own morals, Im taken aback when Im treated so badly. Its so humiliating to lay ourselves bare with this forms, be so vulnerable in these assessments, and then be completely denied the support and worse, lied to and about! I really coulnt give up, I was at a point when my mental health tanked whether I gave up or fought, and I was so angry, for me and for all the other people I was learning about, that I just refused to not fight. But, I am one of the lucky ones, that I have a partner at home supporting me, so many ther people dont and so simply cannot fight the system and the charities that usually hep just do not have the funding. Is awful. This plan is one I feel excited about. There is still sadness there, I wish I could do all the things I want, especially in relation to work, but I feel like Im in a much more accepting place now. My pacing is good, my undersstanding of my energy limits is good, Im just spending it in the wrong places! So yes, this plan should mean more fun, which then should help with the sadness. And yes, I know that Chris loves me, but the trouble is, I dont think that I love me right now. I need to get this new me up and wheeling, get a bit of independence back, some self esteem grown, and I think then Ill be more inclined to believe Im worth staying with, if that makes sense?! Im going to be sharing all of this with you all, especially you members in Discord. Expect a post a bit later as I have swimming tommorow and Im sooooo nervous!!

[@kavitadeva]

Hi Lovely Man. I don't really know how to put my words together. But I'm just gonna start rambling. I am not texting because now. My polyneuropathy is so severe in my hands that I wake up in the middle of the night screaming crying and it just doesn't go away. And if you know about neuropathy, it is a nerve condition coming from the spinal cord, so there's no medication for this. All they want to give you is gabapentin or lyrica. And what I have to say to that is fu*k you. Anyways, you know Finn. I am getting sicker. I'm declining rapidly and I don't understand it at all. Now I am 65 and about 3 months ago I started getting the worst and I mean worst stomach aches ever. I didn't know what it was. I tried eliminating what I think it might be, etc. Etc. Well, I went and did a cat scan in the hospital because the ambulance came to where I live to take me to the emergency room. Due to the severity of the pain I was in at that time. I also had COVID and sciatica. Imagine. So they did of my stomach Cat scans MRI's etc. They said they found nothing. Then I did this massive procedure. Or it's like a barium swallow. It starts at your throat and it goes all the way down through the stomach to lower and upper bowels. Till it's at the end. Well, they said there was nothing profoundly wrong. There were some things not perfect. But I don't know what that means so now. I have to find a gastroenterologist. I also applied for palliative care which I overqualify for and my primary care. Doctor lied actually lied so that I would not be accepted. Can you even believe this? I mean right now? No shit at all. This is the truth. I have 2 very serious malpractice. Lawsuits that I would win. But I don't have the energy to do that. I hear You my friend every time I get on the phone with medicare or medicaid and try to understand the system that I'm in now of insurance by the state and the federal government. I get so overwhelmed. I start screaming and crying when it's over. I think I'm dying and nobody has a straight answer. Who are these people? Where do they find these stupid people? where I get 5 people contradicting themselves and I spend 4 hours on the phone. Right now I am hoping that I finally finally after months. Know what to do. Everything. I need a gastro. And I need a pain Doctor but you know what's with that.They don't wanna give you any help with your pain. No, they want you to suffer because they're too scared to lose their license by giving you opiates or benzos. God bro, I could go on and on but what is the point? It's just, this disease is really serious because it branches out into very serious other diseases. And I love my scooter. That thing gives me freedom. I take my dog to the park let him run and play. He is my only joy to see him. Run as fast as he does and play ball. And all that it just brings so much happiness. And that's my purpose for living. It is you know. All I can say is I don't get it. This illness causes doctors. To do everything wrong treat you like crap. You have to wait months and months whatever, I'm over it. Really, I'm over it. I'm over the lies. And then they go into my records and they write down things that I don't even have. And they add 16 medications I have never even used. I don't get it. I just am too sick to go after these doctors. Okay, bro, talk about a rainbow and a rant and a waffle. How about that? Did I beat you at it?. I used to be so active. I did yoga for 30 years, and now My back is causing sciatica around my waist. Talk about pain. I used to swim. And I used to run and I was so into it. Bye, bye, that Life is over. I already know I'm not gonna get healed or totally recovered. That is not going to happen, but I do what I can I get out but it's all a mystery. I love you, I've been thinking about you so much. Sending you hugs, say hello to pip, and please give Fur Fur a big. Kiss❤

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

Hello lovely. Its always so good to read a message from you, although it breaks my heart to hear you in so much pain and struggling to get the support you need and deserve. I am always glad to hear the joys, the scooter and the walks with your dog, its these moments that we have to hang onto isnt it? I love your waffles so never worry! You have an even bigger waffle from me coming later today! a 50 minute catch up of my latest adventures, attending new groups, swimming! That will hopefully give you a big smile. Sending you so much love and a big hug from Chris and a lick from Pip

[@kavitadeva]

@FinnTheInfinncible my dearest friend. I am a whole different person since I wrote you the last comment. the reason is I found out that you cannot take one of my medications without food. they did not tell me. so what was happening is my stomach was like I told you killing me . they did all kinds of tests nothing was wrong anyways things are so much better and I'm sorry that everything was so negative but I think you understand with this condition it does get very bad and then something will change and then things are much better thank you so much for reading that long very negative painful comment I left I want to say to you yes I love the scooter and yes my dog is so much fun and he's a riot how is pip⁰ is he a good boy tell us more about your dog I want to know what is he like. so I'll keep it simple and just say things are getting better it is difficult with the system, but I think you know what that's about because you have shared it before. Ianyways it's a day in day out life you need a lot of trust in your higher power God and just knowing that you can get through every day because you've gotten through so many before. I love you, Finn so much. Even though I've never met you, I would love for you one day to make a video on what it is like for you on the day today to live with MECFS. Having COMPLEX PTSD and Severe Depression is also some thing we share. Mental illness. 🍑♥️🌄♥️

[@avawiththeflava]

Finn I’m desperate. I just commented on your Venlafaxine withdrawal. Please comment back im BEGGING. I went 5 days without it. 2.5 days back on. I had a clear auditory hallucination today. haven’t eaten in 3 days. When will this end. I already take klonopin bc I know it helps withdrawal for other drugs. I had a paranoid episode tonight after work because I couldn’t find my glasses. Fear came over me. I was paralyzed for 3 hours. Please help me

[@FinnTheInfinncible]

My friend this sounds awful, I would urge you to call your doctor, as it sounds like you need some help to ween off it much slower than you are. Id call and explain all you have told me and get an emergency appointment. Much love

[@avawiththeflava]

@@FinnTheInfinncible it took almost 3 weeks. They added cymbalta and upped my klonopin in the mean time. I’m back to normal for the most part but man was that a wild time. Thanks for answering 🫶🏻