First Time Hearing Girl That Never Was by James Blunt | Su!cide Survivor Reacts

[@MentalAmanda]

To receive 10% off your first month of customized online therapy with a licensed therapist, visit www.betterhelp.com/amandawebster 💖Thank you for holding space for me through this. It was heartwrenching and I debated on whether to post it because I felt like a blubbering raccoon. This is a reminder that no matter where you are in your journey, you have a safe place here to share without judgment. This is how we shatter the mental health stigma.💖

[@onechopbuddy3849]

Thank you for being so honest and open, that was a difficult watch because of the clear distress, music is an incredible outlet….. take care x

[@getinTHEBIN318]

Why does no one watch his songs about the military showing light on them. Like no bravery, the greatest

[@josephbishop3590]

You don't need to share if it brings you pain. But you have so many that are here for you, too. This is such a personal experience that no one will ever know your pain. But we have a "soft place" for you to share. Much love and support❤

[@getinTHEBIN318]

@@josephbishop3590 yeah….. I think you need to look up what “reaction” means

[@StephenGoddard-MiisterSpiice]

You reaction was so raw and emotional. Sorry for your loss. God bless you. X

[@DebbieHirons]

THIS was the single most painful and beautiful reaction I have ever seen. Music triggers every emotion and is so personal. You are so brave. God Bless. 💕🥺

[@Jacob-cz4mg]

As a guy that only wanted to be a dad this song hits home because I have a box in my closet dedicated to the girl that never was

[@MentalAmanda]

I have that box too.

[@bronzestarvue]

I've never watched a more heart-felt reaction...

[@davidround8679]

It's hard to watch I'm so sorry for your loss. There are no right words.

[@johnathanwhite4148]

Amanda .... You are/were so BRAVE to go completely through this reaction video. Thank you for sharing a difficult part of your life.

[@danielquiroz3487]

This song just rips you apart. I love that it is a husband's perspective on the experience of the miscarriage. My wife miscarried our 3rd child. She was supposed to be our last baby. My wife has never been the same. I and others spent a lot of our time supporting her and I have no problem with that, but as a husband our grief is basically ignored. For James to put a light on how helpless we feel watching our wives go through one of the most horrific things a woman can go through and the helplessness if not being able to fix it is just awful, but the message was needed.

[@bradness33]

Well said brother, I'm sorry to hear your pain and everyone elses. This doesn't hit home for me like it does so many on here but my heart goes out to all you. Sending positive vibes to you all!

[@JC-pq4ul]

I am so sorry for your loss! Losing a child is devastating. Stay strong and thank you for just being you and helping others that share your pain!

[@michaelmemmelaar4937]

Thirteen words. "We never should have picked a name, 'cause now she has a face." Thirteen words that pierce through any armor a heart can have, bypass the defenses erected around a damaged spirit--and can yet somehow still be wholly about the love and not the pain. James understands loss like no other, and knows how to unravel the pain to expose the love from which it is originally born and remind us that loss is only love's shadow.

[@Jacob-cz4mg]

I know the loss this songs feels it’s an amazing song for all of us that has delt with this pain

[@sharronbrennon899]

11 words, 1 letter like a does not constitute a word

[@DavidJones-ym7zr]

​@@sharronbrennon899I can't believe you're trying to correct someone's message composition, while they're leaving a heartfelt message to the creator, do you frequently belittle people who are struggling with their emotions? I think that say's more about you than anybody's language skills. And before you feel bold enough to comment on any mistakes in my message, English isn't my first language and i also happen to be dyslexic too, if you don't want to help people with their emotions, that's fine, but don't be part of the problem just to get a one up on someone you don't know, try reading the situation and behave accordingly.

[@sharronbrennon899]

@ the fact that you thought i was belittling someone says more about what goes through your mind than it does mine. It never crossed my mind, but it did YOURS.

[@Fairburne69]

I always loved the line from Wanda Vision when Vision says to a grieving Wanda, ""What is grief if not love persevering?" This song hits hard.

[@stephenh-zn5bf]

OMG Amanda, been watching for a while, I saw instantly that this was personal. I'm so sorry for your loss. I was crying right with you.

[@robingiannona195]

I've never seen a "nicer" reaction! So honest, so pure. In the first few seconds I realized that you were also affected. My wife and I also had a miscarriage and I always come back to this song to give space to the feelings. We have now given birth to a healthy daughter, but the feeling of “what if” still remains. Best regards and lots of strength from Germany!

[@tomh3652]

There is nothing as sad as watching a lady crying you just want to give her a hug and a shoulder to cry on.

[@steveh4863]

We lost our daughter Grace aged 5 on 27th Dec 2008. I was there when she took her first breath and didn't think 5 years later that I would be watching her take her last. Don't think that time takes away the pain, because it doesn't. Love you my beautiful funny little girl. Sweet dreams.

[@MentalAmanda]

Time does nothing except allow us to gain the skills to learn to live with the hole in our heart. I hope that your beautiful Grace found peace and that you continue to find strength.

[@davidperkins6752]

i'm so sorry you sweet lady. nothing i say will stop your pain. just know that you're not alone. we lost our little boy almost 30 years ago. he lived for 3 minutes but for 3 minutes he was loved for a life time. the pain doesn't ever go away. you just learn to live with it. much love to you and yours.🙂🙂🙂❤❤❤

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you and I am sorry for you. I love your sentiment. They always live in our memories.

[@leonbond9275]

The way your face changed and you wept practically as the video started made it really clear that this was going to resonate with the volume turned up to 100. Thank you for having the bravery to continue and share your experience and pain, because I think your actions and words will have been incredibly helpful to many many people. I already knew this song well - what I didn't realise was that it was possible to "Double Cry" - once for the song (which it does to me every time) and once for your open and honest reaction. "If the professionals can't help, maybe James Blunt can....." I think you may have something there! I love your reactions, but this one was beautiful and so true. xxx

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you.

[@danmills7084]

One of the best and emotional reactions. My wife and I went through a miscarriage and it was devastating. We went on to have 2 children and sadly our youngest passed away at 2 months from cancer. A miscarriage is the loss of a child and the pain of that loss can last a lifetime. The song is painful but very special. I appreciate James Blunt and his love and talent for creating amazing touching music. Much love to you parents and family who have experienced loss in this way ❤

[@Jnesimus]

James Blunt knows how to capture emotions like no other artist. He is amazing.

[@R3ED3R]

I've never had kids or lost a child... yet I still cry watching this. This is such a honest reaction, it shows how much of a beautiful person you are. Well done for getting to the end...

[@shanelambert6985]

This is a untold anthem for everyone that ever lost a child and im so sorry Amanda this reaction hit too close to home but this is the beauty of life and music sometimes they hit to close to home you and millions or women feel your pain your not alone i will pray for every single one of yall

[@shanelambert6985]

@Lloyd-Franklin im so sorry 😞 the world lost an angel but heaven gained an angel i hope she eventually gets some sort of inner peace i can't imagine the pain just let her know that she's not alone and there are people that are praying for her

[@MentalAmanda]

Yes, this did hit me hard. Thank you.

[@shanelambert6985]

@MentalAmanda your 100% welcome and i hope and pray that one day you will find inner solace and peace from this moment in your past and move on from it 🥰 your an awesome person and I love you for what you stand for

[@lonesurvivingcourier1670]

My wife and I had four miscarriages. Each one barely lasted a month, but we mourned them all. I told my wife we could stop because i could stand to see her broken again, but she insisted we try once more. Finally we were blessed with our beautiful little boy whom we named Nathan (shortened from Nathaniel, meaning gift from God.) He's our little miracle and we love him so much.

[@martinpeat8374]

My wife and I suffered a miscarriage at 8 weeks, then we had our little boy, who is an amazing little man. We then tried for another child, which our son was convinced was a girl (we opted not to find out, but he seemed to know), after returning from the hospital it was like he knew what happened because he gave us a cuddle and simply said "my sisters gone"😢

[@lonesurvivingcourier1670]

@@martinpeat8374 it's a horrible thing to go through, I'm so sorry for you and your family 💙

[@MentalAmanda]

I am so happy for you!

[@Swesent]

No rights. No wrongs. Only what is, and what feels! All the Love I could ever collect and ship over to you from Sweden!

[@dmacalis]

Amanda, I can appreciate your loss. I am very sorry for what you have gone through. My wife and I lost an unborn child. We went through IVF and ended up with my wife being pregnant with twins, but one was lost in the pregnancy. The other lived despite us nearly losing her in a premature birth. She survived and is on the autism spectrum but I am forever grateful that we have her in our lives. I could not imagine what the experience of having no child would be like. I think of our lost child every day.

[@tiffanyturner7558]

Sending love and light your way 💜

[@MrHws5mp]

I knew that sooner or later this song would hit a reactor who'd been through it themselves. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss, and I hope that in some small way, this song has helped you.❤

[@DonaldMarshall-k8u]

I am a 62 year old man. I was never blessed with children. Watching your video truly broke my heart. There is nothing that I can say that will heal your heart. I cried right along with you. I am so sorry.

[@marksmith-pz5yx]

I can't imagine your pain, a big hug from the UK. James just writes what people feel.

[@FredtheFrisian]

I can't imagine it, we didn't have to experience this, but it seems something that really can take a very big and remaining toll. All the best and warm regards from the Netherlands!

[@victordehaas9419]

Thank you sharing your gutwrenching story, I can't even phathom the pain, the doubt and the grief you have had and still have. I can't take away the pain with all the words in the world. I can only thank you for being here, being you and doing what you do. A big warm gentle comforting hug.

[@WolvenHeart1]

This is healing. You needed to release the pain. I believe your daughter's spirit or energy or maybe an angel is within you or around you. You have loving hearts here, supporting you in your grief. Just know you are special and you are needed.

[@yedman1958]

Thank-you for your bravery, in seeing this thru. This is one of the most painful, yet beautiful videos I have ever seen. You have given us a glimpse into the grace of the feminine heart and I am in awe. Again, Thank-you for being true to yourself, and having the courage to post this difficult reaction.

[@Robert-nu7tf]

I'm so sorry,..that pain is always there, as long as you breathe,..her memory will remain..God bless

[@garyzigler452]

This is a really touching song and I know that this was extremely hard for you. You kept yourself together and opened your feelings to what this song was about. It was really emotional and I totally understand what you are going through and feeling. There are things in life that are out of our control. I love 😍 you Amanda and I'm not going to say anything on this subject because it's really hard to rap our minds around. All we can do and just be there for those who just need someone to be there for comfort. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@garyzigler452]

There will ALWAYS be a space for you.

[@LUANSU]

I cried and suffered so much with you.... Thanks for sharing your story with us.

[@DarrellFanning-bx7xz]

Sending you a virtual hug from this old grizzled viet nam vet.

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you for the hug, and as a daughter of a Vietnam vet, thank you for your service.

[@frankoconnor806]

You’re doing great work Amanda ❤ we see you and appreciate your kind sharing nature. You’re helping so many more people everywhere deal with their own loss. Peace and love from Australia

[@tommigun102470]

We're here for you Amanda. Try to be strong, there are bad days and good days. You bring sunlight into all our lives❤

[@cnatview]

Amanda.... I wish I could give you a hug. My dear, my son would be turning 49 in a few days but he passed away when he was 3 days old. To this day, I find I still wonder who he would have been had he lived. You will never get over the memory of losing your little girl or your sadness. As the days, months, years pass your memories will still be with you but the sharp, cutting edge of them will go away; they will no longer cut you. I don't know how long it has been since you lost your little one but from your reaction, I'd say your loss is still quite fresh, relatively speaking. I will say as I watched you sobbing, trying to catch your breath, it brought back how I mourned the loss of my son. Every thought you shared about your pain and every word you said, I agree with. I felt like my emotions were looking into a mirror as I watched you. I am so very, very proud of you for making it through the song. That in itself is a testament to your personal strength and the love you have for your little girl. It'll just take time and I know that is a hard thing to hear because you just want to be in control of your emotions and you want the hurt to stop, but only time will do that for you. You have to give yourself that time....and have these moments when you cry like this because you need that too. Please take care of yourself.... Peace.

[@roadhog6603]

Thank you for having the courage to share your personal experience. Our hearts go out to you and your family. Your little girl is happily dancing and waiting for you in heaven.

[@robertcampbell8084]

I have struggled on many watches of this video as it hits home for me as a man who has experienced this. @mental amanda, your reaction is so raw and emotional and is completely validated and I grieve for you and all women who deal with this. I am no way trying to lessen this IMMENSE pain for women, but as a man and a father, these things also have a very immense and strong effect on a husband or partner. I think this video shows the immense suffering that women go through, but it also shows the immense suffering that men go through as well. In a generalization, men most often will withdraw (or even leave) or most often try to "fix things" as that is our instinct to do so to support the ones we love, yet it is showing that we as men cannot just "fix things" as our natural instincts try to make us do. You see how the video portrays the woman putting baby things aways and even smelling the baby shoes, while the man is on the floor in complete desperation of what to do to help the woman through this process and in almost complete defeat shown by him sitting on the floor of a bathroom devastated. He wants to make things better for her and himself but cannot "fix this" for her or himself either. Even when he tries to make things right, it only makes things worse. Remember, that he is also grieving as well as you can hear about he and she will not be able to hold or show their love to the girl that never was. This is not to take away from the woman's grieving process either, but understand that this video points out that both man and woman have had a loss and both of them are trying to cope and sometimes, the meeting of twixt do not meet sometimes. Yet, both mourn not holding, not showing their love to the future child and feeling blame (for women it might be about something they did during the pregnancy or something within themselves, and for men it might be that they did not do what they should have done to protect or prevent this from happening). Either way, both are suffering but in different ways. It is immensely raw and sobering and a call for mutual understanding.

[@tomkin69]

Amanda, I came across this video today, so sorry I'm a bit late. I usually don't comment, but you are such a blessing to this world... I couldn't help but send you a big hug from across the pond. A dad, sitting in his little room in southern germany, watching this video and crying with you. I have tons of digital photos of all my 6 children, each of them in a separate folder on the harddisk with their name, but for 2 of them there's just a bunch of ultrasound pictures ...

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you. Even ultra sounds carry value and love.

[@phihz513]

My wife and lost two to miscarriages. We’re in our seventies now, but this song brought it back. My prayers to you.

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you. My sympathies for you as well.

[@GrimlarLex]

My understanding is this was about James and his wifes first pregnancy. As the song says, you can't replace them, you can't magically make it better, you can only struggle to get through it. James and his wife tried again, successfully, and I believe now have two boys. James has said that he uses these painful songs as a form of therapy, helping him to cope with the tragedy, that may be so, but you can still see the pain in his face and hear it in his voice. I will add my condolences, respect and best wishes to the others expressed here in the comments. Its a very sad song that has reduced other reacters to tears, even without the additional personal tragedy that you suffered.

[@rickylanham9673]

I so much just want to hold you and give you big hug.. So sorry for your loss. I lost a grand baby girl that was a twin. Thankfully we didn't lose both of them...

[@MentalAmanda]

I can feel your hug through the screen. Thank you for that. While I'm happy for you that you will still have one of the twin grandchildren, I'm still so sorry for your loss. It's okay to be happy for what you have and sad for what you lost.

[@Jacob-cz4mg]

It’s a wound you can’t heal because you never got the chance I feel you in the feels because I had the girl that never was love all you guys hope you all have an amazing day

[@MentalAmanda]

We love you too.

[@lunardruidcyprianrose333]

@MentalAmanda I have been watching reactions to this song for like an hour now, and I wanted to say firstly, THANK YOU. For posting such a vulnerable and sincere reaction. I admire your strength for getting through this song, and more so for sharing. Stay Safe. Stay Golden. Remember your Divinity. -JBM-

[@valeriecolino697]

James and his wife suffered a miscarriage with a baby girl and then were blessed with 2 sons. He has a gift for making beautiful songs out of tragedy.

[@tricia1234gm]

Yes! He has said that his music is his way of dealing with trauma!

[@f.d.robben159]

Music is the voice for emotions, born from the pain of life and poetically shaped into a wonderfully warm blanket of sounds. Sometimes it hurts, but at the same time there is hope in it.

[@Tonyboy3623]

God I feel for you Amanda walking in to this song 😢

[@rubenalvarez48]

So sorry you had to go through this. Bless you!

[@SAM-dg3vd]

much love and healing energy from Georgia

[@glacieractivity]

"What is grief, if not love persevering?" ❤ (This is the bravest reaction I ever saw, and it would have been so easy (and understandable) for you to think "too raw/too close").

[@katsu395]

I follow you since a long time through your videos and i can assure you that your reaction isn't bad at all. You're so touching and make me cry each time i watch this video. The heart never lies. We can see it in your eyes, we can see all of your pain, nobody can say that it's a played reaction. Love you so much Amanda 🥺😢😗 . Laurent, frenchie guy.

[@citizenx7564]

Thank You for your reaction. I lost my son 13 years ago and your reaction echoes how I still feel even day. I helps me a lot to understand that I am not the only one that has this daily struggle.. thank you

[@MentalAmanda]

I hope that you find ways to honor your son as you think of him in those quiet moments. It certainly is a daily struggle, but how we channel our pain matters, not only to our own mental health journey, but to the memories of those we have lost. I'm glad to be part of your journey.

[@lisamckee3756]

As someone who will never be a mom, I totally get how you feel. My thoughts are with you girl. 💜😘

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you. I feel for you as well.

[@RickHikakin-jj7vu]

I'm crying my eyes out right now. JB always pulls on my heartstrings .🖤

[@ambremanifold6549]

Sometimes the best thing you can do to support ppl going through this lose. Is to sit with them and Just be there. Create a safe space. Sending love

[@MentalAmanda]

Very true. Often we may not even know what we need. Just being there may be everything we need.

[@petes.7967]

Your reaction made me cry! Thank you for sharing ❤

[@TheMightOfTheEnglish]

Heartbreaking, you deserve the best ,happy life Amanda,all the very best from England

[@Kosmohs]

God bless you. I cried with you. I have a 3-year-old daughter and she has saved me than once. Grief is such a strong and overwhelming emotion… those of who can relate truly understands

[@Jacques_van_Wyk]

I commend you for your courage. You did not have to post this video, but you did and you've shared your pain with the world. I can only hope that in some small way, this is a first, small step out of the valley of despair.

[@richardnunn3205]

James Blunt has the ability to write lyrics from his own suffering's and in such a way that carry the emotion like no other songwriter. Examples:- No Bravery, Monsters, Dark Thoughts and many more.

[@Barry-k4b]

It really P's me off when bad things happen to good people for no reason. (Love lots from London England Ms Webster)

[@wtimmins]

Thank you for sharing, and my love to all who have lost.

[@warrennerraw7237]

OOH, A woman with a real heart! love your brave attitude! I thaught the world had run out of them...XX

[@michaelc628]

There is a time in our life when we lose a love one, but one of the most powerful thing that can help us to heal our despair is to belief that one day you’ll see them again. Just keep believing…… because then they’re always with you.

[@Qadara]

I am so sorry you had to endure such a loss. I lost a baby brother who was stillborn and was gutted, but for it to be your own child has to be immeasurable pain. I hate seeing how heartbroken you are, but I am also glad you got to hear this beautiful song and hope it help you navigate through your grief even a little. Keep up the wonderful work you're doing here. You make a difference!

[@MentalAmanda]

I am truly sorry for your lose. Sibling or child, its all painful.

[@Qadara]

@@MentalAmanda Thank you.

[@IanManning-e7i]

bless you,you did so well to get through that video i hope you find peace.

[@DavidJones-ym7zr]

I can only offer my deepest condolences, it is a pain that nobody should ever have to endure, at 2:57 your heart clearly skipped, my ancestors believed that when your heart does that, it's the spirit of a loved one thst's passed pushing you forward, i hope it's true, and bless you from wales,

[@burgaweddie1]

It breaks my heart watching you cry

[@heikobar7626]

I am so sorry for what you have go through. I can't imagine the pain to lose a child and I hope I'll never have too.

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you.

[@tomski120]

Blimey, 20 seconds in, I didn't think you were going to make it. Kudos to you for making it to the end. Shows that maybe you're stronger than you think? (I hope you got a hug afterwards)

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you. I don't always feel that way. Yes, I got a big hug.

[@troynorton7627]

I feel with you and cried with you. My wife and i lost our first child and yes, we named her. We were devastated and heartbroken to the core. I understand your pain. We have two beautiful daughters and very grateful. But we never forget.

[@MentalAmanda]

Feel free to share their names here so we can help you keep their memories alive 💖

[@papapasta50]

She's with you everyday , She's in Heaven with your Mom and Dad their taking care of her waiting for the day you will all be united .God Bless

[@iansimmons735]

Oh my God, this has hit me very hard. I have never been where you are, but your pain is hard to see, along with this beautiful but heartbreaking song. I am so, so sorry, for all the hardships you have experienced, but especially this. I have always wanted to have a daughter, but I never had the chance, and now it is too late for me to have children, so I never put a name to this person who was never even a twinkle. I am not religious, but Bless You. 🖤

[@davidgiles9605]

Stay strong, you are a beautiful person.

[@richardc9212]

Like a wave returning to the ocean, its energy is not lost. Sending you understanding, solace and peace. 🤍

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you.

[@timvanderklok4345]

I'm a recovering opiate addict and I just want to tell you that I am so proud of both you and James for your vulnerability. I love you both for this. Vulnerability is something that I strive for when trying to encourage other addicts. I try and be completely transparent for them. So I just wanted to tell you I'm so proud of you! ❤❤

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you, I very much appreciate this.

[@kirkmccommas6412]

There is no easy side of loss. Be it the girl that never was or the girl that was and never will be again. I have experienced both sides of that coin and both are painful in their own way. I wish I could ease your pain but I can not. I can however bend a knee and ask for healing and happiness.

[@TitanSummers]

I have been there to. While it gets easier to cope with it never goes away. Sending you hugs.

[@TheGlimzor]

bless you, im sorry for your loss i cried with you

[@justarandomveryintelligent8934]

I remember when I was a little kid one of my friends was gonna be a big brother for the second time. his mom was pregnant with twins. She miscarried both of them. They were girls. I will never forget that funeral. His mom was a tall, stout, intimidating woman but that day burying her girls; she looked smaller than her toddler son. I can't imagine how strong someone has to be to come out the other side of that.

[@MentalAmanda]

It weighs a ton, and it is heartbreaking. I am sorry friend's mother.

[@ronaldwilkin5662]

Aaaawwwww bless you love I’ve been through this it was so long ago 1988 and it hurts still to this day time never heals

[@Bradleymc612]

We lost 2 boys very late on. 28 and 36 weeks. Feeling the babies movements as a father and then losing them. Never left me. And that was 20 years ago. I have 4 beautiful daughters now.

[@MentalAmanda]

I am so sorry for your loss. I hope your girls bring you joy and help soften the pain.

[@nikolajsrensen927]

I'm crying with you as I always do when this song comes on. I lost a daughter 14 years ago and the pain is just as raw as it was back then. Time may be a healer for a lot of things, but there is no way back from this. You just keep moving....

[@MentalAmanda]

The only difference between now and when I lost her is that there is more time between my tears. They aren't constant like they were then. But something like this hits and it can take me right back to the moment I learned I lost her. You're right, we can't go back. We just have to try to find another path we can tolerate.

[@anthonygarrison4208]

I can't say or anything to take away the pain but I can listen. You keep telling your story you helped me understand some thank you

[@gautierb9535]

God bless you, your reaction was more heartbreaking than James song 😥No need to be sorry about tears or words, you shared personal thoughts and emotion...I was a mess while watching, praying for you not to go further in the video, not to harm you more. A loss is a loss I agree, no one but you can be helpfull and time allows us to reach peace it's all I know 😮‍💨 you're a brave person for sure and surrounded too... Each of our paths are chaotic at sometime, I wish you the best to come and you deserve with your family

[@ShandyWarrior]

Sorry for your loss. What is grief, if not love persevering.

[@KestrelAerial]

Hi, been away from home for a while and came back to find this reaction of yours, i knew this was going to be a tough one to watch as I knew of your loss. You handled it so much better than i thought you would. You have grown so much stronger over the past couple of years. We lost our first pregnancy 24 yrs ago, it was hard for my wife but she has come through it. I find it harder now than then, and we have a 14yr old boy. Grief is a beast, some are able to tame and lock away never to see again, some tame and lock away in a cage but keep on getting glimpses of the beast, other never quite tame it and try to put up a fence, but it's always there pacing round the perimiter in full view. Watch the video again with your partner, it will hurt but it's part of taming the beast. Allow yourself to cry, it is allowed we are all human with various beasts that want to torment us. We don't have to conquer that beast, just be that little bit stronger than it, so it doesn't define who we are, but we can, if need be continue to fight it. X

[@MentalAmanda]

I love this analogy!

[@sportslife5129]

I lost both of my girls in a 3-year span (9/30/18 and 10/12/21). I relinquished some of my pain in 2023 when I gave my 1st daughter's shoes to my sister when I found out she was having a little girl. This video felt like I was watching my life, and it's very hard to do outside of any emotional state. It still shows me that I am not going to be fully okay even 6 years later.... and that's okay. It validates the depth of the love I can give, and maybe one day I will have that to share with the child that is. And hopefully one day, when I pass from this earth, I will see them again.

[@MentalAmanda]

Giving her shoes away was such a beautiful way to honor her. We're never "okay" after loss, but it's beautiful to me that you can see that struggle as an extension of your love while having hope that you can continue connecting with your daughters.

[@sportslife5129]

@ I have been planning a music box in her honor that plays “wind beneath my wings,” because she truly is my hero. She taught me that love is deeper than any words can validate. When I was in a spiral, I felt her visit me in a very vivid dream a couple years ago. The message was “I’m okay.” I know she wouldn’t want me suffering on this side, and I felt that the channel of love I had with her brought her through to me that evening. It was a fascinating, emotional experience that solidified my spiritual side. I’ve been contemplating a video on it as it’s so hard to talk about it in text boxes at times.

[@hmm3484]

Aw. You poor thing. My heart aches for you. That little life meant so much and to lose her…I can’t imagine how painful it must be. You make all these plans and are giddy with excitement and anticipation. Life is so cruel at times. James Blunt is writing (as he so eloquently does) from personal experience, so perhaps hearing some of your own thoughts expressed in his song, will help you a little. I think it was brave of him to write this song, because it’s a subject people don’t like to talk about or they wrongly assume another child will ‘replace’ the one lost. My mother lost three babies and she never really got over it. It affected her the rest of her life, actually. I think there are things we feel we should ‘get over’ or are encouraged to ‘get over’ but really, how could anyone expect that to make sense? Your grief is real and deep. I wish there was something I could say to take away your pain, but of course, there isn’t. Lastly, please try not to blame yourself. Things happen and we simply can’t anticipate or control much of what happens in our lives. As James says in his song, “you’re not to blame.”

[@tracymiller2620]

I’m sorry this pain is your pain. Feel your feelings Love. 😢

[@Kazeemi2810]

I’m so so sorry for your heartbreaking loss😥😥 Maybe this song can help you heal ❤❤ Hugs from a mum in Australia with one in heaven and 2 with me 🐨

[@andrewforbes146]

IM SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS YOUNG LADY

[@shawnmcinnes565]

I just want to give you a hug! You did nothing wrong! It’s more common than you might think. My wife and I lost 2 babies but it really makes our other 2 children that much more special.

[@ctpLynae]

December 16, 2010, I was 24 years old and 17 weeks pregnant... And, from 2010, it has been the one day of the year that I absolutely hate. While it was not a little girl, this song still brought blinding tears to my eyes the first several times I listened to it. Michael was the only child I almost had, and may well be the only child I ever (almost) have, but I miss him every day, even though I never got to know him. Had he not died, he would have been 13 now. I think the only thing that somewhat helps me through this is having seen what kind of life he would have had, had he survived... living with me and his grandmother as we bounced around the country with no lasting connections to any area, often spending months on end living in a vehicle... it was no way to raise a child, and my Goddess was kind enough to spare him from that existence, no matter how much it pained me. Difficult as I know it is, I do hope you are able to find some peace following your own tragedy... Never stop loving her.

[@MentalAmanda]

Thank you for sharing something so personal and vulnerable. The pain of losing Michael, compounded by the weight of what could have been, is a grief that speaks to the depth of your love for him. It’s a love that continues to endure, even in his absence, and that’s a powerful testament to the bond you share, no matter how brief his time was. It takes so much strength to recognize that, painful as it is, your Goddess may have spared him from a life of hardship. That perspective doesn’t lessen the loss, but it shows your deep compassion and selflessness, even in the midst of unimaginable pain. Michael’s memory, and the love you hold for him, will always be a part of you. I hope you continue to find moments of peace, even on the hardest days, and know that your love and your story honor him in ways that truly matter.

[@johnstrong4089]

James Blunt you will know her and hold her and you and your wife will show her your love when you see her again it’s never goodbye

[@Howie-du7ov]

This is a tough one. I've heard it a lot and it still gets to me. Hang in there, girl!

[@milissaleatherwood6837]

You can always tell reactors who have lost babies when they see this. Your reaction is the same that i have every time i hear this song. Thank you for making me feel less alone and for getting showing the strength to get through the song.

[@chuckperry3313]

I hope you find peace, not forgetfulness. Bringing feelings into the light gives them validation and is part of the healing process. I am sure your reaction will help others that have shared your experience put a voice to their emotions. That word seems to small, but I don;t have another. Peace.

[@kellyducheneaux9760]

torn me apart losing my child 25 yrs. ago in car accident before she was even born. this bring tears to me every time I watch this video

[@MentalAmanda]

RIP to your little girl. 💔

[@deborahshort579]

I'm so sorry for your loss, I lost 2 babies before my beautiful girl, she looks just like this girl and I can't help wondering what they would look like x