FIRST TIME WATCHING The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012)

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[@davidpuerto1619]

I will say this. I knew I was gay in high school in the 90's and saw anybody that was out at that time being abused to that point that it traumatized me to the point where I didn't come out myself until I was much later in life. I was actually bullied because I was friends with the people that were actually open. You have to remember that bullying has changed over time. In the 80's and 90's adults looked the other way when a student was being bullied for the most part. Up until recently the bullying have become subtle and not so subtle remarks when it comes to social media.

[@jmillz713]

Bullying used to happen like this in the 80's and 90's when I was growing up.

[@jlerrickson]

Thank you for reacting to this film and your thoughtful reflection. Regarding bullying, I agree that its representation in media can feel very contrived, mainly because it's being acted and not very well many times. However, I completely disagree that it doesn't happen. I attended public school in a very large, diverse city and witnessed both verbal and physical bullying for most of my career there. When I moved to a smaller city in another state, it seemed like that kind of bullying was practically nonexistent, though the more traditional verbal kind was. I think it just depends on the community you find yourself a part of.

[@jlerrickson]

Also, the book tells us that Charlie learned to fight from his brother 😊

[@AlexFilmsYT]

Yea currently reading the book! Wish the movie told us his brother taught him to fight. And yea where I grew up could definitely play a part, I'm from Ontario, Canada. So for me, that bullying feels non-existent, but yea definitely possible elsewhere!

[@irageateverything6438]

@@AlexFilmsYT true one thing I wish they would of kept from the book is the sibling relationships between his brother and sister. As well as some of the other scenes they all have together.

[@apatternedhorizon]

​@@AlexFilmsYT and it was based in the early 90s so it was probably more prevalent then than it is now with things like instant expulsion for any physical violence etc.

[@joshuacoldwater]

@@AlexFilmsYT The bullying in this movie was extremely realistic when this book was released. The “stereotypical” bullying thing will stop being included as writers age out. I graduated in 2008, the first iPhone had just come out. Gay marriage was illegal, and gay relationships were frowned upon even in here in NY. The lunchrooms in my district were not only stereotypical there were no adults overseeing us, ever. People were bullied for thousands of different reasons, their sexuality, their ethnicity, their belief system, their parents income, even the classes they chose to take. Truly it was one group that was a main group of bullies. One group, on a campus of 15,000 students, this group has kids in every grade (around 30-45 kids) and they knew how to torture each and every wallflower, loner, and kind person like they were frying an ant with a magnifying glass. These people who were treated like they were complete trash in both verbal and physical ways are only in their 30’s now. I hope things have changed, but it is important to remember not to let our future kids return to that way of behavior. Life is too short to put any negativity into this world, why waste the time. I just never understood being or getting angry, putting bad energy out, or just not loving everyone. ❤ I just thought you should know, this stuff has happened, I saw it on a daily basis, it is always good to remember. 😊- I hope you are well mate.

[@Maxwellish]

10:15 sadly man, even nowadays some people would still care. i’m not in public school, but a friend of mine is gay and used to go to public school, he never mentioned it, until a random student asked him if he was gay, and he just said yes, within a month, a sticky note was put in his desk that just said “*friends name* is a *f-slur*”, he was bullied relentlessly, and switched to home-schooling the next year, he never told any administration because he knew they wouldn’t do anything. in certain places they’re safe, but others definitely not. LGBTQ+ folk still have to deal with that shit even in 2022, some kids are just raised to be dickheads like their parents, and that disease of hate is spread, it’s nothing but sad.

[@masonasher9689]

My high school experience was much like in this movie, I was the scared freshman adopted by the outcasted seniors and all the dynamics except the romantic ones were the most relatable. In regards to the bullying, I got more verbal bullying than physical in HS, though my senior friends kept me sane through it all.

[@jmillz713]

A truly amazing film. Highly underrated. I found this movie in 2023 and I'm almost 50 but this movie is relatable to everyone.

[@TCubillas]

Of all of the reactions I've watched of this movie (7 or 8 of them), this is the best and most heartfelt. Well done! 💯 Oh, and btw, I saw bullying during my middle school and high school years and, in hindsight, I wish I would have had the courage to step in and stop it any time I saw it.

[@kennethmckee7143]

You are so sheltered: went to middle class mass pub schools in 70’s . My older brother , a sophomore weighing 160 was tripped by a couple of senior football players while exiting the boys room. A teacher saw it and sent to two football players to principal. Sat night, while walking home from party with him ( I was in 8th grade) a cat screeched to a stop and the two 235lb- 6’3” football seniors got out of the car and beat him within an inch of his life. When I tried to help “ the busy” threw me to the ground, stepped on my neck with his boot and told me if I moved he’d break my neck. My Parents then sent us to a CaTholic high school. I excelled/ starting on offense and defense freshman football. Sophomore year, after the first time we practiced with the varsity; I thought it went great! Anyway, after practice, being the pleb of the squad I was told to carry the practice dummies to the weight room on the fourth floor. Alone with only the 6’4” / 240 lineman-senior I was sexually attacked and when he finally was spooked by my screams ( I could not physically fight him off) he stopped but not until he ripped a handful of my pubic hair out and stabbing me in the ass with a sharp object. I’m glad you had a wonderful high school experience, but these were the 70’s. To say such a naive observation in the “ shooting gallery 2000’s) is obtuse! Read the paper. K.m

[@PeggyBball42]

a Trapper Keeper was essentially a trendy binder for your folders & notebooks that had a velcro flap that held everything in. :)

[@AlexFilmsYT]

Ahh I see! Thank you

[@deadsetondreams1988]

I legitimately had to google it after the movie since I had never heard it called that before XD It's fascinating how terminology changes through time. Both fascinating and sometimes confusing hehe

[@kishan7218]

It's a really emotional film.... People like me who are emotionally sensitive would find this heartbreaking.... But it's worth it for me atleast.

[@touchstoneaf]

I also love that you had insights in this movie that a lot of people miss, spot-on, new subscriber here

[@benhauge3441]

I was the only known Out Gay boy at my jr High 1990 7th grade i came out i was bullied verbally and physically i had a small group of friends. Mostly girls which i was fine with. I also had my boyfriend who i met at church camp. I was bullied at church too. I really relate to Patrick in this movie

[@bigpancho22]

The Charlie fight science reaction was 🔥🔥😂

[@Richardrod29]

You shouldn't disregarded just because you never witnessed, bullying exists and it's one of the causes of teenager suicide, it happened to me and to plenty people I know. I know people who were sexually assaulted in the school premises.

[@dntcallmejessie]

Friendly reminder that just because you haven't experienced it, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Do a little research on bullying and then come back to this.

[@gg454lune]

Not only was the movie made in 2012 but in the book, the story happens between September 1991 and August 1992. Brad being gay was a big deal.

[@DoranGale]

That couldn’t have gone worse! I can’t believe you’re my boyfriend❣️ It got worse…

[@dayjay9714]

I love how you analyzed this film. This film definitely holds a precious place in a lot of our coming of ages hearts.

[@greenpeasuit]

A trapper keeper was a trend back in '86. They were basically just some colorfully decorated organizers geared toward youth. They were a fashion statement to keep your homework in. That being said, my guess is this must take place AFTER they went out of style, judging by the girl's backhanded compliment.

[@xPersonguyyx]

This movie means the absolute world to me. thank you for reacting to it. 💚

[@flawed1]

I think the bullying thing is very much a product of it’s time. It is a bit exaggerated in movies. However, I was in high school when one of the first major acts of school violence occurred, and things changed overnight. One of those changes was a big decrease in overt bullying.

[@deadsetondreams1988]

I've seen this movie quite a few times and watched never-ending reactions to this movie as well, but your reaction made me feel like I was watching this again for the first time! I will say that I have seen some bullying and quite a few physical fights when I was in High School. I've been bullied as well, it was mostly verbal stuff but I have been spit on and had books dropped on me, been scratched, etc. I've seen others shoved into lockers and had a few friends who were bullied as well for how they looked, how they talked etc. We moved around and I've gone to a bunch of schools in NY as a disclaimer, also my family members have seen a lot of bullying when they went to school that he told me about. And some have been bullied as well which I won't clarify for their own personal privacy of course. It was a combination of verbal and physical as well. And now with kids taping everything unfortunately I've seen a lot of bullying that way as well. I highly recommend watching the music video "The Boy in the Bubble" by Alec Benjamin which deals with bullying in a beautiful way. As Charlie said in this movie, Alec is my favorite person, he is able to tell stories that make you actually think, learn, and grow from with his songs. In regards to this movie, it is based on a book that is worth a read and the Author directed the movie

[@HannahG-nk2mf]

Loved your reaction and hearing your thoughts on how trauma was handled. It’s a damn good coming-of-age film for how honestly it reflects a lot of the lows & highs of being a teenager (specifically for kids that were more social outcasts) I agree about the “high school stereotypes” outside the main characters. I don’t mind it as much in this movie as I usually would because it’s set in the 90’s, I think the film is intentionally trying to portray a toxic suburban high school environment. Nowadays, it would seem odd/archaic for a teen to be heavily bullied in a movie for simply being nerdy & shy & not very tough

[@sallylovests]

0:23, its actually based on a book

[@TaiNguyen-um2ji]

I search for this movie reactions every other month and I never clicked on so quick seeing you reacting to this… thank you

[@andieb3632]

Bullying in the 90s was different

[@touchstoneaf]

It's interesting how many different experiences people have in high school, not sure if it's just generational or if it's also based on other factors. I was bullied like this, not specifically related to sexuality as I didn't know I was an alternative sort in that capacity at the time, I was just a book nerd like Charlie, and I was shoved into lockers and beat up and had guys holding my arms so I couldn't fight back properly while other girls attacked me, so I think it either depends on your school or where you're located or whether it's rural or urban, and also possibly the era, because possibly its cracked down on more now? Maybe now you don't have things like fights in the lunchroom, and all the bullying has moved to virtual arenas a lot of the time. I know that happens because I work with foster youth nowadays, but I will say that while a lot of it is more undercover now from what I hear, back in the day it was definitely a lot more overt and violent in a physical sense, and there was a lot less oversight in places like the lunchroom. Edit:. It also might be generational that you have this faith in humanity, that they would have the common decency to step in, I think people do so more now when it comes to things like sexuality or race, because it seems like in these last couple generations there's just been more willingness to let people be who they are and not make a big deal about it, but in the nineties when I was in high school and when this thing was set, no one stepped in to stop bullying, not even the teachers half the time. They just kind of let it go on and figured that was just part of life. So maybe it is definitely a generational thing. The awareness just wasn't there of what happens because of bullying. I think it really took the "it gets better" movement and the uptick in gun violence and su1c1d3 recently for people to really pick up that it's causing things like self harm and school sh00t1ngs, because back then people really honestly just didn't give a s***, and they didn't intervene, and people got bullied constantly, both physically and emotionally... and there are definitely the majority of days where I was terrified to go to school because of it, and a lot of people I knew were as well... and the people definitely were in those stereotypical cliques. So maybe it feels contrived for people who don't see that happening anymore because it's a cliche from a past experience that no longer applies? Which I'm glad to hear, but it's definitely true for older people.

[@junkiecarstairs1622]

this is my favourite movie to watch people react to, and yours is by far the best i have seen! Not sure if you would be interested, but I highly recommend the book. It is incredible, and the movie is directed and written by the writer of the book so it is very accurate. They even filmed a lot of the scenes from the book that they cut out, but you cant still find them online. great commentary!

[@AlexFilmsYT]

I actually finished the book a few days ago! Absolutely loved it, one of my favorites I've read.

[@mintjulius275]

Damn bro. Acid is 100% not a drug to drown one's sorrows in

[@Aaron-fr9gi]

it's actually a book!! a very good one tbh

[@AlexFilmsYT]

Yea I just finished reading the book! Has quickly become one of my favourites ever!

[@-chenlanying5818]

@@AlexFilmsYT 7:00 1. Society normalizes unhealthy behaviour so people may not understand that their relationship is abusive. When you think that unhealthy or abusive behaviors are normal, it’s hard to identify your relationship as abusive and therefore there’s no reason to seek help. 2. Emotional abuse destroys your self-esteem, making it feel impossible to start fresh. Oftentimes, people in emotionally abusive relationships may not understand that they are being abused because there’s no violence involved. Also, many will dismiss or downplay emotional abuse because they don’t think it’s as bad as physical abuse. It’s hard for those in abusive relationships to leave their partners after they’ve continuously been made to feel worthless and like there’s no better option for themselves. 3. The Cycle of Abuse: after every abusive incident comes a make-up honeymoon phase. Often when an abusive situation happens, it is followed by the abuser doing something nice or apologizing and promising that they will never do it again. This makes their partner minimize the original abusive behavior. 4. It’s dangerous to leave. Like, VERY dangerous. Many times, leaving an abusive relationship is not only emotionally difficult, but can also be life-threatening. In fact, the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is post break-up. Women are 70 times more likely to be killed in the weeks after leaving their abusive partner than at any other time during the relationship. 5. It’s not just hard to breakup safely, it’s also hard to escape the cycle of control. People in abusive relationships often attempt to break up with their partner several times before the break up sticks. On average, a person in an abusive relationship will attempt to leave 7 times before finally leaving for good. People in abusive relationships often attempt to break up with their partner several times before the break up sticks. On average, a person in an abusive relationship will attempt to leave 7 times before finally leaving for good. 6. Society perpetuates a ride-or-die mindset. Those in unhealthy or abusive relationships might stay with their partner or get back together after a break up because they feel pressure to not give up, forgive and forget or “ride it out.” Pop culture glamorizes being a “ride-or-die” for your friends and partner, making people out to be in the wrong for leaving their partner. And while being loyal is a great thing, a good friend or partner would never endanger or hurt you. 7. They feel personally responsible for their partner or their behavior. After a conflict, an abuser will turn the situation around and make their partner feel guilty or as though they are somehow at fault. This type of behavior is known as gaslighting. 8. They believe that if they stick it out, things might change. A lot of people in abusive relationships stay in them because they love their partner and think that things will change. They might also believe their partner’s behavior is due to tough times or feel as though they can change their partner if they are a better partner themselves. Never stay in a relationship in which you count on someone to change their behavior for the better. 9. There is social pressure to be in a perfect relationship. There is incredible pressure to be in a perfect relationship, and some cultures and social media only accentuate this pressure. 10. Fear of how others will react. People in abusive relationships often feel embarrassed to admit that their partner is abusive for fear of being judged, blamed, marginalized, pitied or looked down on. For example, in some LGBTQIA* relationships, someone may stay with their partner for fear of being outed. 11. They share a life together. Marriage, children, and shared finances are often huge reasons that people in abusive relationships stay in them. This dependency is heightened in relationships where one partner is differently abled. But there are also similar factors that affect young people’s decisions to stay in relationships, including shared friend groups and living situations. There are lots of elements that influence a person’s decision to stay in an abusive relationship. And while seeking help to get out of these relationships is the most important thing, blaming someone in an abusive relationship is never okay. There is a big difference between judgment and responsibility. While someone might have used bad judgment by staying in an unhealthy or dangerous situation, it does not mean that they are responsible, or asking, for the abuse perpetrated against them. So don't blame Candace for staying in the relationship

[@dzc2805]

The ending it's in soo hype that I basically still smiling all day after that:'3

[@DarkAngel1985Mike]

Yeah I dealt with it a lot in the mid 90’s and early 2000’s with bullying because I was a goth queer outcast and a lot of my teachers hated me because I pointed out that bs wrong propaganda in the textbooks that they were teaching especially in history and American government class

[@nomadman5288]

I was bullied in 1st grade, which was back in 1990-91 and then again at the bus stop at the school when I was like 14, but in that case, my friend stuck up for me and pushed the kid back. However, when I was in 1st grade, I told the teacher, then my dad, then my dad talked with my teacher, but the kid would still do it. So, my dad told me exactly what to do if he bothered me again. When he did, I did what my dad told me to do and the kid never bothered me again after that. There was some bullying in the high school years, but I skipped school so much that I wasn't really there to witness it. My school wasn't even a big school, like 700 students from 7th to 12 grade. It was also like a small town/farm school. It happened then and it still happens now because it's part of human nature. It's just that the methods change a bit over time.

[@belindamasterman6172]

I love this movie and I love your reaction!! You gained a new subscriber. Thank you darling.🥰

[@Audball_33]

Okay… I will say. I was very much bullied like this in school. I resonate with this movie so so much and that’s a big part of it. And I’ve had very similar awful experiences like Charlie did as a kid

[@eddietucker7005]

Ok. That type of bullying does happen…. And one night, they tied me to a tree and set me on fire. Yeah. It’s real. You are lucky you don’t know that kind of pain. You seem to a normal size, well proportioned, super cool guy to hang out with. When you finally hit your tallest height at 5’1”, Oh! And you’re gay in the deep country, things happen. If it weren’t for my band and choir I would have died. That was my only reason to fight to stay alive. Each of the kids in this film had it easy and had each other. Actually, why am I still alive!?

[@DarkAngel1985Mike]

Love this movie as a queer loner outcast with a history of suicide attempts and mental illness and abuse , not sexually but physically from my father at an early age

[@DarkAngel1985Mike]

I never went to a school dance, It just wasn’t my scene , I was going to local punk concerts since middle school

[@anondisclosed9151]

Lol hi I was bullied like this, but I really feel it's really a time era thing or region thing bc there's still a lot of suicide & bullying now, but the clichés or tropes without people actually seeing based on when this was DID super happen, sadly 😥

[@theuniquename5288]

Damn ive never heard someone else say fk a duck before. Thought it was just me. I watched this movie a few days after my sister called me a wall flower at a family party. Lol, sadly, i never really had any of these experiences in my teen years. I just stayed home and played video games. 😅

[@themajesticevening]

I’m sure many have recommended you read the book but here’s another recommendation if you haven’t yet picked it up! It will answer a lot of things that the movie didn’t quite go into depth such as the sister’s relationship, why Charly was able to fight the bullies off of Patrick, and other little details. The movie is quite accurate but they did have to cut off some things for time sake. It’s a pretty quick read too so highly recommend!

[@Multifandomxz1]

At my school the bullying was mainly racism which resulted in fighting

[@keeeeeeeeeyla]

Im only 6 minutes on and I already love your reaction! Greetings from São Paulo!

[@DarkAngel1985Mike]

Yeah it was my art teacher and we connected for our love of the musician Ani DiFranco

[@TheblondeKrista]

21:40 Your response to the fight scene was the same as mine, first doubt then SO proud of him haha

[@DarkAngel1985Mike]

It’s based on a book like most great movies are

[@nikolaiquack8548]

I'm only 7 minutes into this reaction, but I kind of already wanna mention that the movie takes place in the early 90s. It's never explicitly told to you, but from the technology, taste in music, etc. you can gather it. I imagine bullying was a bit different back then. I mean, unless you went to school in the 90s, but you seem younger than that. Also makes more sense with the heightened homophobia. Not to say that it's not an issue anymore, but it obviously was a less accepted fact of life back then.

[@MadisonSpearslol]

It doesn’t take place in the early 90s it takes place in the 80s

[@nikolaiquack8548]

@@MadisonSpearslol Nope. I read up on it and the book takes place in 1991/1992.

[@6891x]

@@MadisonSpearslol Definitely not... Early 80s didn't look like that.

[@user-me3ge8de4o]

The entire movie summed up in one word: Damn 😔

[@apatternedhorizon]

another book/movie in the same vein as this is It's Kind of a Funny Story.

[@edgarsantos9579]

Bros thumbnail is wild 💀

[@SoupyGal]

Charlie was me all throughout school. I relate to his character almost perfectly. I’m also diagnosed with PTSD so I feel very connected to him. I was also heavily bullied and very awkward. My bullying still haunts me to this day.

[@joshuacoldwater]

The bullying in this movie was extremely realistic when this book was released. The “stereotypical” bullying thing will stop being included as writers age out. I graduated in 2008, the first iPhone had just come out. Gay marriage was illegal, and gay relationships were frowned upon even in here in NY. The lunchrooms in my district were not only stereotypical there were no adults overseeing us, ever. People were bullied for thousands of different reasons, their sexuality, their ethnicity, their belief system, their parents income, even the classes they chose to take. Truly it was one group that was a main group of bullies. One group, on a campus of 15,000 students, this group has kids in every grade (around 30-45 kids) and they knew how to torture each and every wallflower, loner, and kind person like they were frying an ant with a magnifying glass. These people who were treated like they were complete trash in both verbal and physical ways are only in their 30’s now. I hope things have changed, but it is important to remember not to let our future kids return to that way of behavior. Life is too short to put any negativity into this world, why waste the time. I just never understood being or getting angry, putting bad energy out, or just not loving everyone. ❤ I just thought you should know, this stuff has happened, I saw it on a daily basis, it is always good to remember. 😊- I hope you are well mate.

[@mintjulius275]

I guess this sort of bullying was much more of a thing in the past. I. The 90s-00s it was definitely something I've observed and experienced in school

[@dx315]

Nice video. It's definitely just Charlie that's a wallflower though, not the rest of that friend group.

[@greenpeasuit]

The editing for Charlie's breakdown is so next level. The fracturing portrayed so subtly. Some people don't even notice the many copies of Charlie walking down the road. However, far fewer people notice that, even as he is leaning down to say good bye to her through the window, there is another him hanging out across the street.

[@Loversoda09]

Movie is good the book is

[@michaelcain9324]

This and Dead Poets Society made me depressed for weeks. Loved them both, but will never rewatch them.

[@Usurper123]

I love this movie. When I first saw it I immediately watched it a second time and then downloaded and read the book. There are slight changes from book to movie but nothing is really lost in the story. The benefit no doubt of the author of the book being both the screenwriter and director of the movie.

[@79mib]

God I love this movie 🥰🥰

[@bigpancho22]

This movie is a good movie

[@torturedsinger]

The fight scene was my fave

[@CycleOfJudges]

The amount of reactions to this video that are like "hey it's kinda like Love Simon" or "hey this reminds me of Love Simon" just makes me want to scream. This movie was like a SIX YEARS BEFORE THAT FUCKING MOVIE. I wish any of these people would realize that, no.. Love Simon reminds you of THIS.

[@nortski78]

Such a good movie.

[@Tez.92]

❤️

[@luckyent1299]

So first and foremost I love this movie man. You did this movie justice with your reaction. I’m subscribing and if money wasn’t tight I’d be in the patreon lol. But you did your thing man. Keep up the great work.

[@deadsetondreams1988]

You said my exact sentiments I was thinking the same thing, I wish he was my movie buddy in real life but Patreon is the next best thing. Once the flies are done flying out of my wallet too XD

[@luckyent1299]

@@deadsetondreams1988 i feel you!!!

[@Maddie-tu6ls]

I think the most realistic bullying I’ve seen on screen was in Spider-Man: homecoming with flash and peter

[@joshuacoldwater]

The bullying in this movie was extremely realistic when this book was released. I graduated in 2008, the first iPhone had just come out. Gay marriage was illegal, and gay relationships were frowned upon even in here in NY. People were bullied for thousands of different reasons, their sexuality, their ethnicity, their belief system, their parents income, even the classes they chose to take. These people who were treated like they were complete trash in both verbal and physical ways are only in their 30’s, I saw it happening on a daily basis. I hope things have changed, but it is important to remember not to return to that way of behavior. Life is too short to put any negativity into this world, why waste time being negative when you can laugh and have an amazing time. I just never understood being or getting angry, ever.

[@khalidpatel7246]

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