Understanding the Root of Your Child's Misbehavior (Part 1) - Dr. Kevin Leman & Jean Daly

Often, children act out because they are used to getting attention through bad behavior. Dr. Kevin Leman offers advice to help parents transform their child’s behavior. He discusses the benefits of allowing your kids to learn from real-life consequences and describes the importance of understanding your child’s temperament based on his birth order.
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[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Yes. Tell kids the “why” to the rules. There is always a reason why, or we wouldn’t have them.

[@MarleneHen]

I tell my kids to obey first and ask why afterwards. They usually aren't interested. If they think I might be making the wrong call, they are allowed to seek an exception, asking, "Did you consider....?" and then I promise I'll consider it and then decide. But sometimes I will not give a why because it concerns private information about another person. So it's not as straightforward as always sharing the why.

[@paulinarubey3354]

Heard this on the radio and had to find it to continue listening. As a young parent I am thankful for this.

[@focusonthefamily]

So great to hear, Paulina! We have some amazing resources on our website for parenting if you ever wanted to check it out: FocusontheFamily.com. May God richly bless you and yours!

[@paulinarubey3354]

@@focusonthefamily thank you, my husband and I will take a look.

[@nj8215]

Dr. Leman is a very wise man.

[@philr9407]

Focus on the family Is Legendary Just Like Dr.Kevin Lehmann

[@Serve24]

As someone who has a strong-willed toddler I can say this is MUCH easier said than done! It is so stressful and embarrassing to have your child screaming in the middle of a restaurant and see the disapproving and judgmental stares of the people around you. It’s just really hard and I feel like instead of this man sitting back and judging the parents, maybe he could’ve tried to help, or the very least had some compassion for them. I agree that we should set firm boundaries for our children, but it really is very hard to do surrounded by a group of judgements eyes.

[@divinebeginnings3741]

Starting his priceless advice isn’t something that is a magic wand. Starting while your child is having a tantrum out in public for the first time would only frustrate you. Listen to his podcasts ~ he is brilliant! He isn’t a best seller bcs he sits back and judges~ he has put in the work and years and time ~ his advice works. But it is way more than a 30 min KZbin video. His books are on sale ALL the time on Amazon for only $1.99 ~ I would dig in and read some of his work before passing judgement Blessings and peace to you ♥️

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

@serv24 I feel you! I have a strong-willed child as well.

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Yes! I am learning to be so thankful my husband helps me chill out sometimes.

[@crujones1640]

dr leman is the man... get brave and strong parents

[@KathrynBriley]

Get Godly parents that live by example

[@laurarivero3328]

Thanks for this!!

[@hopecreed5502]

I GREATLY APPRECIATE YOUR ADVICE

[@hopecreed5502]

Thanks so much for this post and lots and lots

[@elizabethjimenez9340]

Training in a young age... yes, I agree

[@theswampstead559]

Love this! The wisdom about entertainment is perfect!

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

Yes, I think we have swung the opposite direction in our generation, trying to make up for the authoritarian parenting style.

[@Shamailamekaal]

Thank you very much

[@abrareads]

Would anyone else love to hear them interview someone about raising an only child? I think we have some unique challenges that are not really discussed in the christian realm.

[@focusonthefamily]

We can understand why you’d like us to produce a program that discusses raising only children. We’ll certainly pass along your suggestion to our Broadcasting Department. They’re always on the lookout for new ideas on how we can meet the needs of our listeners. Thank you so much for reaching out and may God bless you!

[@chiyenyumba7135]

Only children need siblings..... A child needs other children to thrive in every way

[@romanapintek3596]

Excellent videos as always, thank you so much - I pressed like but by accident I pressed dislike. No dislike here. Thank you for your work 🙏🏻

[@HoosierHmstrdr94]

Select like again to unlike, select dislike again to deselect.

[@Nati.p]

Would it be possible to discuss how a Christian parent that have a non-believer partner can find balance both in raising a child and in the marriage itself? My husband is an atheist and we've been struggling a lot lately.

[@focusonthefamily]

Hi Natiele. We are grateful for your question. We believe the following link might be helpful. bddy.me/3ytAOGT Please call us to speak with one of our counselors should you desire more help at 1-800-A-Family. God bless you!

[@elenamartin5600]

I called focus before for help and nobody ever call me back. I just wanted to know if they had programs helping Christian parents with an unbelieving spouse. But never got an answer

[@focusonthefamily]

Hi Elena. We are sorry to hear that no one ever called back. We have some Family Help Specialists standing by, so please give us a call so we can help: 1-800-A-Family. We look forward to hearing from you soon. God bless.

[@KathrynBriley]

1. AGE APPROPRIATE IS a Priorital key: "fathers DO NOT provoke your children to wrath" "the sins of the fathers' visit the children to the 3rd and 4th generation, but the Blessing to 1000generations" 2. Teaching Godly attributes, integrity, honesty, character IS NOT a form/process..... Children aren't toys or little adults.....they're children they don't know what they want it is a learned behavior/habit. 3. It IS the Parents' "Response Ability" to live it by example Not that we are perfect, but thinking produces choices. 4. Principles that promote a "reverential" Godly life even when noone is watching, bc what you do when noones' there, = you'll eventually DO in front of your children and others 5. You have to "look both ways" not by an unstable double-minded imagination. 6. The 7-deadlysins isn't equal to the 9+fruitful gifts of the HolySpirit

[@shirleywong9428]

Yup go clean house like we did young and children do love to help us and to do our housework

[@archangel807]

THAT TODDLER NEEDED HIS NAP!! NOT YOUR RESTAURANT PARTY !! If you skip a one year olds naptime... a tired toddlers behavior will show it....

[@myahpatrick5430]

Agreed! My 3 year old will behave this way when sleepy! Never skip a nap time!

[@kristinyaekelnegley3978]

@archangel807 how do you know it was the kid’s naptime???

[@Simbaress247]

My son pulled my wig in public when he was 3 and everyone laughed because my hair was a disaster

[@arkitekfran]

He can't comprehend nada, it's those peasants that laughed is the problem . He is 5 now has that stage passed ?

[@Beckenpower]

Is it just me or is the Audio on this video somehow broken? (I'm trying to watch it on my smartphone and it's painfully low on volume and somehow it not uses all my smartphone speakers)

[@reneemeade552]

I Can’t hear either.

[@nj8215]

Its true

[@mamiyovis]

It sounds perfect for me. I have an android 🤗

[@Beckenpower]

@@mamiyovis Did you use headphones? My wife could watch it, but she uses headphones and I don't. But even she confirmed, "now that you say it" that something seemed off withe the channels. And yes, we both use Android phones.

[@mamiyovis]

@@Beckenpower no headphones.

[@guriausa]

I didn't really come away from this interview with clear examples of what to do or what not to do in certain situations. I also didn't hear clear answers to the questions.

[@ladonnamcalister1310]

I’m guessing He wants you to buy his book to find out more

[@Msprosperousdee]

Audio doesn't work on this video

[@susanoutler1724]

❤😊✨

[@rhondacasciato7142]

Are you talking about parenting in 2024 with cell phones and the internet? You're crazy to trust your young children! Your children shouldn't have cell phones at age 12. When they have a job, they can pay for their cell phone.

[@MarleneHen]

The audio on this is weird.

[@Judy-ys2ge]

Dr Leyman you live in the ancient times

[@hopecreed5502]

Why do y say that I was just wondering

[@majoroldladyakamom6948]

@@hopecreed5502 They must be a young parent, lol. 🤣... or have had a rough childhood?

[@Judy-ys2ge]

@@hopecreed5502 I’m just reading his book on how to have a new teenager by Friday, and some of the strategies are not realistic for the generations these days.

[@Judy-ys2ge]

And he had his last child at 52 his wife and 48

[@elenamartin5600]

Sadly this advice is not every parent. Some children are very difficult and we need a little compassion for the parents dealing with these children