STORYTIME: DAYCARE DISASTER | humbling lessons learned as a working mom

Hello friends and fellow working mom warriors! Today's video was a tough one for me. I open up about switching our kids' daycare and the humbling lessons learned from the decisions I made as a working mom.
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[@leeshc5952]

I was once a preschool teacher years ago. There’s nothing wrong with changing what makes less stress on you. Children acclimate, but if you’re having that inner feeling that it’s not right for you and your family, it’s always best to trust that feeling. Lean on the Lord and He will direct your path. I’m glad to hear you were able to maintain your spots at their school!❤

[@katiemayall9427]

Maybe not putting your young children in daycare in the first place would be the answer. They need their mother not daycare workers looking after them

[@joreedo0830]

Thanks for being so open with us about the daycare situation. I’m a mom of a 2.5 year old son and leaving your crying child with a stranger is the hardest thing in the world.

[@jjjks5]

Amanda, I went through the same thing with alcohol. I eventually gave it up, as did my husband. Even if I only drank a small amount, I still struggled with anxiety and depression throughout the week. It just wasn’t worth it anymore. I haven’t drank in so long and I don’t ever miss it. I’ve learned to enjoy a mocktail or iced coffee/smoothie when others are drinking. Life is so much better. ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

I love this and that’s awesome!!! I’m exactly the same way! One or two drinks was not worth the aftermath. I’ve stopped drinking and still kept going out with friends having mocktails and such and I’m so happy waking up feeling great the next day ♥️♥️

[@Thisblendedhomestead]

Daycare while juggling a full time job is one of the most stressful aspects of early childhood parenting, in my opinion. I had some great ones and not so great experience with my children, so I can empathize with you. You're such a great mom and you're doing your best. Hugs!

[@victoriagrace4009]

It feels wild, I was just thinking about you (as if we’re old friends) while making lunch, and how I haven’t noticed a video from you last week. Minutes later the notification for this one pops up, and I FEEL you. One of the reasons I love your channel is due to the crazy amounts of things I relate to you on, including thriving on routine. Even the best routines are sometimes not enough to keep the heavy things at bay. I admire your openness and ability to process and learn from experiences. You are an amazing mother, especially in this situation. A lot of parents would not have listened to their intuition and allowed a negative circumstance to play out even further. But also, YOU as an individual are amazing and deserve just as much grace as you give to others. ❤

[@stephaniemarquez988]

I completely understand where you’re coming from. You’re not selfish, nor a bad mom. You clearly had a need (more time in the morning, less stress during commute time) and were looking into options to fulfill it. As the working mom, add in work from home, we subconsciously pick up more than the partner who’s not at home as often. It’s the self sacrificing that we do automatically. I’m glad your husband got to see first hand how important it is also for him that they remain in that daycare and pray he is now more willing to make more sacrifices on his end to help support you. Choosing the new daycare still required effort on your part as you were going to continue to be the one taking them. Just an observation based on what you vulnerably shared. It’s not the matter of daycare but the support you need mama. Sending you lots of love and peace.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

All of this!! 🫶🏻🙌🏻 thank you 🩷🩷

[@Kathy-os7lb]

Hello Amanda! This is my first comment on KZbin. And i really, really watched a lot of KZbin the last years. 😀 I‘m from bavaria in germany and my english is absolutly horrible. 😅 But after all this maybe thousands of different videos i watched on this platform, it‘s the first time i really have something to say. Your a good mum!!! You don‘t have to be a better mum. Everyone (your kids, your husband and you and the rest of the people on earth) have the right to learn every day. And that is what happened. You learned and thats absolutly okay. We mummies often thing we have to do everything super good. I‘m a mum of two doughters (2,5 years and 9 months) since february this year i am back at my work for 2,5 days a week for the moment. And i can understand your situation so so good. Your inspiring me for a long time. And wen it’s hart, you give me often power to keep on going with all (work, home, kids, being also a women). So thank you! And please be good to you! Everything is okay!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much for your supportive comment ♥️♥️♥️ you sound like a wonderful mother 🙌🏻

[@erinmata5861]

AMANDA❤ I feel you 1000 percent . I have been going through a similar situation and every time something changes or my routine is off , i get very overwhelmed and sad. We always think grass is greener on the other side and most of the time It's not. You are a warrior mom, a loving and caring mom who want the best for your children. Believe me when I say , we as moms all go through it. It means the world that you share your feelings with us bc it lets us know we aren't alone !!! You've got this !

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! This is so comforting and I truly appreciate your kind words! We are warrior moms! 🩷🩷

[@shirshareadswithmusic7458]

Hey Amanda ❤.....you're so strong❤ whenever I feel like giving up, I look up your videos......yes, I promise I do.....please do NOT forget you're human eventhough you are nothing less than a GODDESS ❤....I believe in you lady❤❤❤ More power to you. May you overcome all challenges 🙏 sending lots of blessings 🙌

[@rebeccahu595]

I am so happy that you acknowledge your kids’ feelings. That alone says that you are a good mother! I remember I was crying hysterically on my first day of daycare and wouldn’t go in no matter how my dad was dragging me in lol. Thankfully my mom also acknowledged my feelings and didn’t send me into daycare but waited for a year. Sending you hugs! You are doing such an amazing job and you have always been an inspiration for me.

[@karlaricker2562]

I can understand how hard this was for you! However, one day isn't enough time to see if Quinn would adjust. It could take a few weeks. Its normal for kids to not adapt well the first few to several days. To make a fair judgement, I would have given it more time and not base a big decision like this based on emotions alone! Think about this: if everyone who had a first rough day left after one day, they would never know if things would get better. First days at a new location, generally are very emotional. Like you said in the blog; Kids are resiliant and will most likely adjust to most situations over time! Just know, you are not a bad mom!

[@charlyn02]

Fair points, but have to go with your mommy intuition. If it doesn’t feel right, listen to your heart. God forbid, should something tragically happen, imagine the (undue) guilt she would feel 💔

[@asweetbite3935]

@@charlyn02 totally agree! I think part of the bad feeling was based on drinking the night before, though….all good points! ❤

[@elianacangas3836]

I LOVE this video! You’re your children’s voice & I’m very happy you listened to what your body and soul was telling you.

[@Bekah_And_Will]

I can’t handle alcohol either Amanda I’m the exact same way and a lot of people don’t understand and think I’m weird for not drinking but they don’t know how I feel when I do. And to me it’s not worth it. Your well being in your mind body and soul is priority and if drinking is not benefiting you at all and making you feel worse it’s not worth it!!! Even my husband will pick on me sometimes for not having a drink with anyone else but I don’t care. I have a better time sober as strange as that may sound to some. You do what’s right for you Amanda!❤☀️

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Totally with you about the alcohol! Thanks for the support! I’m feeling so much better without it 🩷🩷

[@lisaowens1684]

Omg I cried this whole video I am a busy mom and grandma and what you did is normal you are a wonderful mother we all make mistakes even with our kids love your channel so glad it all worked out keep doing what you do

[@hannahmcmannis3021]

Mamas intuition is always right! The fact that you and your husband both felt it was wrong says something. I’m so happy you were able to re enroll your kiddos in their old daycare. ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Yes! Thank you! ♥️

[@mazz9043]

We all make decisions with the best intentions as mothers, that sometimes can unfortunately end up being the wrong ones. But how else can we learn and grow unless we have good and bad experiences!? In this case, I don’t think you were being selfish at all. Taking some pressure and stress off you is completely valid as a working mum. Please don’t forget that you are also important and your feelings matter❤ The number one takeaway for me from ALL your videos - is your kids are happy and loved, it shows through the screen😘 you are doing amazing & I’m sending you big a virtual hug from Australia 🥰 Ps removing alcohol from your life will improve every aspect of it. I can send you a great audiobook that helped me through it when I binned the bottle🥰 x

[@Amanda_Fadul]

You’re spot on! There’s so much growth and lessons learned from mistakes. Thanks for being so sweet and I’d love to know the audiobook!! ♥️♥️

[@mazz9043]

@@Amanda_Fadul Sorry should have added the name ! It’s called The Alcohol Experiment😘

[@Amanda_Fadul]

@@mazz9043 thank you!!

[@reneebrattain9712]

Amanda thank you for sharing this video. Everything happens for a reason. There’s a reason why you had to go through that as a family and personally to help benefit your future. There’s a reason you weren’t “hearing it”. You are a wonderful mom! Always! Thank you for sharing your journey ❤we love you so much

[@k.scott3923]

Hi Amanda, i usually NEVER comment on KZbin...but hearing your story, I'm not a mom yet, but i sincerely appreciate you opening up and sharing your experience, please do not feel bad! You made a decision and you guys are moving past it stronger. Thank you for sharing!!! I enjoy watching you, it shows you can balance work, life, kiddos, etc.... its really inspiring.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! Appreciate you reaching out and for the kind words ♥️

[@MomEra89]

You’re an amazing mom. You’re so strong. I went through that same feeling when I switched my child and the feeling didn’t go away until I went back like you did. I tried it for a week and cried and felt off for the entire first week. I think after second week is when I made the change back. We know what’s best for our kids and you’re doing an amazing job. ❤❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much!! 🩷🩷

[@durango15c]

Thank you for sharing Amanda and you aren’t alone. There are a lot of moms who go thru the same situation and I’m happy u shared not a lot of ppl would. I also work from home and I have a 2 years old baby at home. Hope you are having a better week I will pray for you and your family to get over this tough season you’re going thru. ❤

[@alannahplank308]

Thank you for sharing this story. I'm a full time working mom of one and she's 20 months. We've had a nanny since she was 4 months old & since I work from home, I get to see her a bunch. I know she's going to benefit from social interactions soon and have been looking into the different types of care options we'll have as she turns 2 or 3. I live in the middle of nowhere with very little options. The closest area with nice schools is 40 minutes away. I've been trying to decide if a commute is worth it. When you mentioned switching schools for convenience, I was questioning if I should consider a 40 minute commute every day. I don't know what I'm going to do but I just LOVE hearing your raw truth with the situation because it's reminding me that what matters is that SHE'S comfortable and also, it's okay if I mess it up. We can always try again. Your kids will learn from you advocating for them when you realize you've made a mistake. Great job mama.

[@amberlin8668]

You’re a great mom. The fact that you shared this with us too is so helpful. I’ve had to advocate for my child so much this year with her public school, it’s uncomfortable, but we do it cause we love our kids. So glad it all worked out for you and your family in the end.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Yes! It’s so important for us to advocate for our kids! Sending hugs 🩷

[@analyaguilar2278]

Do not feel bad!!! Thank you for sharing. My kids are a little bigger but I went through something similar so I’m sure this helps anyone else that’s going through it now. Helps remind them that we’re not over emotional, we’re just amazing moms that live for our kids. We’re all different emotionally too, we are who we are. 😊 Love your channel ❣️❣️ Your an amazing mom ❤

[@jamierice3207]

There’s just something about getting the warm, fuzzy, feeling from a daycare! You are an amazing mom! Thank God they are back with the friends and teachers they love and that love them!

[@jenniferbrodersen5505]

Thank you for sharing! We had the same experience with our son, except on the sick side. We pulled him out and feel 100% better. Sometimes we all have to go through a big trial and error lesson in life to realize what really means the most to our families. I’m happy to hear that the kids are back in their old school ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

You’re so right! ♥️♥️

[@LGlow2Chic]

You are doing an amazing job Amanda! ❤Truly you are a great mother. Mom guilt can be debilitating. It causes me such anxiety. I work from home with my 2 year old. It’s 4-10 hr shirts per week. And the days I have to juggle work and my daughter when my husband is working, it’s all I can do not to pull my hair out. I feel guilty for being short with her and not being able to spend the 1:1 time she deserves on this days. I know it’s not the exact same situation but I just want you know that I understand the anxiety and worry and guilt that encompasses different decisions in parenthood. You are not alone and I love your channel. Being a working mom and wife in 2024 is so hard. The pressure can be insurmountable to be perfect. But there is no such thing…we all are worthy of grace! 😇

[@theHannahBLISS]

Thanks for sharing this video. My dtr has been going to day care since 12 weeks and she is now turning 4 in less than two months. She absolutely loves her day care and having that piece of mind that she is in a place where she is loved and care for while I work a full time job is everything

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Love to hear that!! 🩷

[@sfiyya]

Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing. This really resonates with me- I had a traumatic episode with schools and not listening to my intuition for my 3 yo and really went through it. It’s refreshing to hear you share your story. Thank you for being real because us working moms really go through it!

[@Andrea-yv7pk]

Thank you for sharing. As a fellow working mom, I completely understand the peace of mind that a loving daycare provides. We all stumble as moms but you dusted yourself off and got back up. You are doing great mama! ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you ♥️♥️

[@pagehermanson5712]

AMANDA....I wish I could hug you right now. I am just crying with you as I type this. What a sweet, sweet mother you are... goodness. Please do not stop making videos where you share your feelings. This is my favorite one yet. Being a mother is hard, isn't it? The fact that you felt such guilt and pain from a decision you made that impacted your children (especially Quinn) shows how wonderful of a mother you are. Some mothers do not care, or do not care to the depths you do and that shows your loving heart for your children. I am in a similar situation where I work from home, but drive all over the place in the evenings to take my 4 year old daughter to all of her activities. Some are completely out of my way and I spend alot of time in the car, but as moms, we sacrifce "our time" for our children because we love them and want to do what is best for them. It is easy to complain and dread the drive (I do it too sometimes) but I think when Chase and Quinn look back on their childhood, they will remember how you made them FEEL and that is LOVED. They will remember when you put them first and when you sacrificed your time for them, and that is a blessing. You are a wonderful mother, Amanda and I hope you always know that! Loving tears and big hugs to you!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

This made me tear up! Thank you so much for the kind words, it truly means the world to me! I can tell you’re such a phenomenal and loving mom ♥️♥️♥️

[@pagehermanson5712]

Thank you for saying that!

[@veronicazampronio795]

I understand what you are saying in the sense of a mother’s instinct. I will say my son went to daycare over the age of 3 and he screamed and cried until he got use to it. My daughter started same daycare at 8 months and to this day at the age of 3 she hesitates to leave me. However she loves the school.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

It’s so tough sometimes! Glad they love the school, that’s super important!

[@ceison1341]

🥺🥺🥺🥺 Amanda your feelings are valid and we stand with you as moms. Being a mom in general is SO HARD. Being a working mom is twice as hard. Some days we are a wreck and people are empathetic but they don’t understand unless they’re a mom. You’ve only been doing this for 5 years, you’re growing and learning and it’s ok. Hugz ❤❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

🤗🤗🤗

[@audralouise]

I’m so sorry you went through that! What a hard week for you. I am 50 and going through perimenopause I realized if I have a drink I am choosing not to sleep and feel sad and like crap, so I just don’t drink anymore. And you shouldn’t apologize for how you are feeling! I was so emotional watching you cry because you were crying for the absolute pure love you have for your kiddos ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Tysm 🩷

[@kbryant8277]

You are such a great mom!! Thank you for sharing and I stand in solidarity with you. You are certainly not selfish, and you made the best decision given the circumstances. Give yourself grace, and be kind to yourself especially on this motherhood journey. You’re doing amazing!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! 🩷🩷

[@brgibbs11]

Thanks for sharing, Amanda. The struggle of daycare changes is something that can’t be understood until you go through it. Especially for moms. You were not selfish by attempting a switch and you’re completely justified in switching back. Sending you love as you get back to feeling like yourself.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

So true! Thanks for the 🩷

[@jodysanchez5163]

You’re so real ❤❤❤ I watch a ton of famous ppl on KZbin and you seriously are one of my favorite!! Thanks for sharing, the connection with you is amazing!! You are an inspiration and you make some of us feel we aren’t alone in this life we live!

[@heathergregory3463]

This broke my heart to watch because I have been in this exact same scenario with my son. Just know that your feelings are valid and totally normal. You are not selfish for trying to find a solution that would work for you and your kids. Seeing how upset you are shows how much you care about your kiddos. You’re a wonderful mom, don’t let your thoughts tell you otherwise ❤️

[@Kelly_Forrest]

I really appreciate you sharing. I have been following you for about a year. Your videos helped me a lot as I transitioned my daughter to daycare which has been almost one year ago now. It’s so hard as a mom to navigate life with little kids and a job. Your videos are always comforting to me. Right now I’m going through a rough time with daycare too. I work at a hospital and my 2 year old daughter goes to the on-site hospital daycare. We absolutely love her daycare. But… In February we were notified by the hospital that they are closing our daycare later this year to make room for a new parking garage. I have spent so many hours in tears over this. I have toured so many other daycares. In looking at the other options, I have finally decided to take her to the other daycare center that’s affiliated with the one being closed. But this is far away so I’ll have to commute literally across town to a different hospital and back every day. Her teacher and lots of classmates are transitioning there together so it will be as close to no change for her as possible. Everyone is telling me not to do the commute but I don’t feel comfortable with changing her to something totally new when she has been doing so well. I appreciate your advice and it’s helpful to hear words of wisdom from another mom ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much for sharing! You have to go with your gut but from this experience, I’ve learned it’s also okay to make mistakes. Sending you hugs and hope everything turns out well 🩷🩷🩷

[@symmonep9591]

You’re a GREAT mom from what I see! Your transparency is so appreciated Amanda🫶🏽 *virtual hugs* 🥺. I’m so happy you were able to re-enroll the kids. My daughter starts school this year and I’m a nervous wreck. She has autism and it’s hard finding ppl who truly care and are willing to support & teach. Everyone at her current daycare adores her and just know I’m gonna fall apart when it’s time to leave😞.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

♥️♥️♥️ thank you! Sending hugs and prayers for when your daughter starts her new school 🙏🏻

[@evetteperales7578]

Thank you so much for being so transparent.

Thank you for sharing your feelings and emotions in this video. I cried along with you while watching. All you can do as a mom is your best - sometimes though we don't know what is "best" until we try it. I think many of us would have done the same in regards to looking for a daycare closer to home - makes totally sense. You tried it - realized it didn't work and fortunate to be able to go back to your kids old school. Try not to be so hard on yourself - you are a great mom! Have a great day and thank you again for sharing ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

🩷🩷🩷

[@jaderomaine7841]

Ugh this made me emotional, I would have been a total wreck in this situation too 😭 It may have been a “selfish” choice to want to switch schools, but it is also true that the commute has been a big impact on your workday, and as the mama, your bandwidth and state of mind is so critical to your family. I think many of us working mamas would have wanted a daycare closer to home. That said, I’m so happy you all were able to get them back at their original daycare and make a choice that is right for your family ♥️ Maybe some of your drive time can be batched to feel more productive and less like a chunk of unusable time in your day, eg taking any work calls, listening to audiobooks or podcasts, catching up with friends or family over the phone, or even fun podcasts or books with the kids once they are in the car. Sending warm thoughts, you are a super mama 🙏🏾💪🏽

[@dianaRShew]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Do not have mom guilt, you were making a decision that you thought would be the best for your family. It’s hard. We’ll be transitioning our child to a new school in the fall and this made me realize I need to bring our child to the school to see it before making the change. Thank you for sharing, sending you a virtual hug!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🩷🩷

[@jenniferdelrio9804]

Thank you for this video. Literally was crying with you the entire time. Glad you went with your mothers intuition and followed that gut feeling. I have ignored that feeling in the past for other situations and always regret not listening to that voice in my head. That feeling is real and you did the right thing for your children. Thank you for your honesty and sharing your feelings because we as mothers feel that way too and is good to know we are not alone. Much love ❤🙏

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! ♥️♥️

[@marleneleca98]

Oh my goodness Amanda, wish I could give you a hug. You made me emotional. Please don’t ever apologize for your mother instincts , that’s a real feeling and you can’t feel bad for something you were trying to make your life easier, this is part of living. I think the reason you mostly felt bad it was because Chase was about to graduate and you kind of took that away, we moms always try to do what’s best for our kids and sometimes things don’t work out. You realize that and he will graduate with his friends until the next journey(please send us pictures when he graduates). You are a great mom and it’s ok to feel unsure sometimes. My oldest is 14 and sometimes I feel the same way. Thank you for opening up to us, but remember you are only human and it’s ok. Sending love your way ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much ♥️🤗

[@marleneleca98]

@@Amanda_Fadul ❤️

[@mollyjones-kerchner2295]

I really admire your commitment to doing what feels right for your children. I strive to always listen to that intuition as a mother myself. This was just a reminder to me that it’s okay to try things and then decide it’s ultimately not what’s best.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Tysm! 🩷

[@JanetKB]

Girl, you had me crying! I totally understand how you feel. Also, I am so glad you have the courage to share this. I have also made decisions that I regretted. It does not make us bad moms. It makes us human! I am so glad the old school took them back! I was hoping for a happy ending!

[@agilitypoodle99]

Amanda, don’t beat yourself up too much or think you were being “selfish”. You do SO much for everyone else, put yourself last, and you just moved. Mom burn out is real and sometimes we just HAVE to change things in order to keep our sanity and to give our own bodies what they need so that we can continue to function in life and be there for all the people we have to be there for. You can’t pour from an empty cup! Love your videos and they have definitely helped me become a more calm and productive wife/mom. You have an amazing soul and you did NOTHING wrong 😢 we are about the same age, and I can’t imagine juggling my kids, working full time and putting all the hours weekly into making these videos. That is a massive load to handle. I couldn’t do it, so you’ve got my respect for sure!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

You’re so right, thank you so much!! 🩷🩷

[@LifeintentionswithKamellen]

I feel like hearing you speak about this is what the internet needs! I have felt that guilt especially since I changed my daughter 2 times! I moved out of town, then had to change that school because she got an infection and cried every morning that she did not like school. Then the second change was because I got a job elsewhere and the only options for us was to change her to where I would be working - I am a teacher. She had about 2 weeks of acclimating and it terrified me every step of the way. I felt the guilt too! So much! I could barely function in my class! Sigh, thank you for sharing!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thanks for sharing your story! Makes me feel so much better knowing I’m not alone and you get it!! Such a range of emotions! We’re very strong and have so much love for our kids ♥️♥️

[@letsdoyoga5137]

From someone who is not a mom, I am so sorry you feel like you made the wrong decision to enrol them in a new school and that all of you had to suffer so much. What I remember from your other vlogs was the strain it put on you in the mornings to drive them to their daycare. And making a change for yourself to be less stressed would also mean you can be that much more present for your kids. It is so hard to ask for help for some of us and to accept it if it's offered so we look for solutions ourselves because that is what we know how to do. Be kind to yourself - you are so incredible at creating an amazing life for your kids!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you ♥️♥️

[@mjsliberiangrl]

It’s hard to find a good daycare. Thank you for being so vulnerable and I totally understand as a mom. ❤ good on you to consider your kids feelings and get them back in their old school.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

🩷🩷🩷 tysm

[@AlejandraPerez-bu3xz]

I just want to say that your videos has been so helpful for me in my mothehood journey like how to be able to do things and also have more control, being a mom its not easy and for me you are a role model , thank you for being vulnerable some times that is all we need in order to kept going, I am glad everything worked out. Many blessings to you and your family

[@Amanda_Fadul]

This makes me so happy! I’m so glad you find them helpful and I appreciate you taking the time to watch and comment! 🩷🩷

[@erinporter1095]

Aww what a raw video! Motherhood is such highs and lows. Give yourself grace for all of it. I’m sure the school you chose closer was a good one too. But glad you were able to pivot and then pivot again and make decisions together. That’s what matters. Being on the same team as your spouse and working toward goals together! Hope you guys have a great summer at the school before he starts his big boy public school!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much!! ♥️♥️

[@melissatencate604]

Don’t be so hard on yourself. I love that you share this content, this is a struggle everyday for working moms. I relate to you a lot as I work from home as a Nurse for a busy insurance company. I 100% understood your rationale for moving the kids in your past videos. Us moms simply can’t do it all, work, home, school something is always slipping. So please don’t blame yourself!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you for understanding! 🩷

[@anicholeRL9861]

Changing schools and saying goodbyes to teachers and classmates is SO hard. It made me cry watching my third grader say goodbye to her friends. My 5th grader had an easier time, luckily. I needed at least one of them to have an easygoing time! It rips your heart out! The love and shared affection and feelings hurts ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

It truly does rip your heart out! 🩷🥹

[@canadafragrancereviewerdia9119]

Awe Amanda all your feelings are so real its extremely difficult for parents dropping kids off at childcare for the first time. We would tell parents that they can call whenever they want to ask how their child is doing. I worked for over 20 years in one and you get all kinds of kids reacting in different ways, crying and screaming is so normal but sometimes they will literally lay on the floor kicking and one time we had a child that took his clothes off, no kidding, its heart breaking but eventually they do settle and actually love where they are. My heart goes out to you, your so sad and emotional. You made a connection with your other teachers and grew to love them thats understandable. Your very lucky that your daycare had not filled your childrens spot. Happy that this has a good outcome. You will feel so much better now.

[@kimberleywright4188]

Big hug from the UK 🇬🇧 made me emotional 😢, but you should be proud you did the right thing by your children❤ So relieved for you all that they're back at their old daycare. You've shown great courage being vulnerable and honest. You can't go wrong when you follow your intuition ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🩷🩷

[@karaberrie8305]

I love how honest and real you are with life's challenges ❤

[@Mommyandkids5]

I have been through this whole situation before. Try to do what’s best for your children. Others will say do wants best for you. I took my kids away from there home town school to run away from my problems at a young age. I wish I could change it, but I can’t. Things get real challenging for our kids especially in today’s world. I’m so happy y’all were able to fix it quick. Alcohol is spirts that your home doesn’t need. Those children are y’all’s Angels sent. Listen to them closely. You guys are blessed 🙏🏻🙌🏻

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much 🩷🩷

[@stephaniemenchaca2644]

So glad to hear it all worked out! You have the trust your intuition and do what is best for your family. Thank you for sharing your experience!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! 🩷

[@jessietaylor7706]

Thank you for always being so real and open ❤ makes me feel like I’m not alone as a mom with everything that happens z

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🩷🩷

[@kristalemley5378]

You did the right thing!! Awesome job listening to your mama gut on this one!! Put it behind you and realize how great of a mom you are for doing what was right. ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much!!

[@cleanwithmimi]

Awe! Man I can relate as my husband and I went through this with our adult children when they were that age. 😢 I'm glad you shared and were able to get it out and talk about it. No judgment here at all.. never. I feel like you had great intentions with your initial plan of changing the children's school. But I totally get how you feel. That mom guilt is something strong. So glad to hear the old school took them back right away! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I even felt relief myself when I saw how relieved you were. 😆 So glad things worked out for you and the family, Amanda! ❤️🙏🏽

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much girl, as always ♥️♥️♥️

[@britneyc8872]

I am so happy for you that you were able to get them back in their old school. Don’t beat yourself up, you tried something new and it didn’t work out and that’s okay! I hope you feel better and relieved now ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you! Definitely such a relief and I know in my heart it was the right decision ♥️

[@thaniagarcia9436]

Hi Amanda, first and foremost I hate seeing you cry 😢 I relate to you so much!! I’ve learned so much from you. Im also a WFHM, before coming across your YT channel I was having a hard time prioritizing my day around my normal day to day mom/wife routines. Anyways, I applaud you and Pete for doing the right thing!! The mom intuition never lies. Sending you hugs!! -Thania from Cypress, TX :)

[@user-cg2bs7jr3y]

I’m glad that you opened up about this. It certainly will help someone else. You and your husband are wonderful parents. ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

I hope so too! Thank you! ♥️♥️

[@kaileyjacomet4660]

Amanda, I can't tell you how much we have in common! I'm also from New Jersey, 35 years old, mom of two little ones, living far away from all family (in the mid-west), and I work from home. My kids go to school twice a week but the school is 1.5 hours away and with traffic it takes 2 hours. I just work from a coffee shop on those days but that's still 4 hours on the road. I literally question myself every single week but I've been sticking with it because it seems best for them right now. Our other options are only 5 days a week and we want them home some days, since I have that flexibility. My husband and I also argue about this and he also invokes the rebuttal that he commutes everyday (though my other concern is that it's too far away for the kids to build community). Also, this video was just sooo relatable because my mother in law is also visiting right now! Mom life is tough! You love your kids so much and you are doing a great job, mama!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Wow we share so many similarities! Thanks so much for sharing and hope things get easier for you ♥️♥️

[@camillemarchese475]

We moved from Italy to France... And I felt exactly the same way... It is so hard to move your kids away from a place they are so happy in... I understand you so much

[@Nicole-el8hk]

Thank you for sharing! I respect you so much for your decision to put your kids’ needs before your own after you realized how hard it was on Quinn. We all are just trying to do our best and sometimes we have to make adjustments since we are learning as we go. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you tried something and it didn’t work so you adjusted back! Better days are ahead ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! 🩷🩷

[@butterflyhart56]

You all are amazing parents! The fact that you followed your intuition (and the signs from your kids) is huge and I hope they will remember you all doing what is best for them :) But forgive yourself for wanting to make it more convenient for you too. You do so much, it's understandable.

[@uncutd.9877]

Love that you are so authentic, Amanda. Love watching your videos and listening to you. You and Pete are a great parents.

[@gkortman4751]

You’re not a bad mom, Hugs. It’s a good thing you trusted your intuition. You made the right decision for your family. ❤️

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much! 🩷

[@monicac1411]

You are an amazing mom and I just wanted to give you a big hug!!! Do what feels right for you and your family with daycare. Maybe you and Pete can work out some days where he can take the kids or pick up the kids to give you a breather. My husband and I do that once a week and our daycare is only 10ish away. It’s also fun for the kids to have a different parent surprise them at daycare. I hope you have a better week and everyone is thriving!! ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much!! 🩷🩷

[@jj91905]

I’m so glad you said you took them out that day! My husband has to commute an hour one way each day so your commute time isn’t uncommon if that helps you feel better! As I was listening to you, I was curious. What does the commute time look like when your kids go to school?

[@yissetumana6034]

omg I almost cried 😢seeing you cry and telling what you went through, as a mother I understand you perfectly because next month I start working and I'm looking for daycare for my 4 year old son and he doesn't like the one he went to before and I don't know what to do, you did the right thing by putting her back❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you! I hope everything goes well with your son 🩷🩷

[@sallymcdonald1073]

You are not alone ❤ thank you so much for sharing I went through exactly the same as you your intuition as a mum is never wrong x

[@alyonadavies7480]

❤❤❤❤❤ I love you. Thank you for being real and raw. I know how hard this is for you. You are such an amazing mama. Your kids are so blessed to have such amazing parents 💗

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🥹🩷

[@tdrice73]

I totally get the stress of a commute. For years I worked across the street from where I lived. Then when I finally changed jobs it was 35 min one way and it took me a while to get used to it and I never really liked it. It’s hard to not miss that hour out of your day when your day is so hectic to begin with. I ended up having to put my son in day care in the morning and they would take him to school and then have him picked up from school by the day care because I couldn’t get there on time. Mom guilt is real! Especially since he had never been to day care. They do adjust but it’s so hard on our momma hearts 💕

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🩷

[@adafonseca2517]

I love your videos. You are so motivating and real. Don’t feel bad, all of us Moms go through the same thing. Hope you feel better and the kids are doing fine. God bless ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much!! ♥️♥️

[@reginastevenson2983]

I rarely make comments on KZbin, but felt compelled on this one. I'm in a similar situation in which we built our new home and moved further out. I had to make the hard decision to change my 4 year old son's daycare as well. Although I loved the teachers and staff, the commute just to get him to school one way was 40 minutes (during rush hour). The stress and long commute is wearing on me. Today, I actually put in the notice that he would be leaving. I felt sad, but also realized that the daycare he would be going to, those kids will likely move into kindergarten with my son and possibly through elementary school. But if I start to feel that "mothers intuition" I may rethink it as well. Blessings to you and your family!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Omgosh we have such similar situations! Hope everything is going well with the new daycare 🩷🩷🩷 it’s such a hard situation!

[@isabelvanwart2917]

I never post but this really hit home. You think saving some time is worth it sometimes but at the end of the day you have to do what’s best for you and the family.. I took my son out of his preschool he went to for months because I just didn’t felt right about it. My son did not like it and had issues there. He cried everyday I dropped him off and my husband was like “he doesn’t make the rules” and I said “yes you are right I make the rules” and. I looked at other school And had a discovery day at new school that I liked and my son cried cause I picked him up to early :) and that school has been amazing ever since and took care of little brother too who came a year later. Thank you for sharing!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Yes!! We have mom intuition that we have to trust! So happy you took him out of the school and he’s doing great at the new one! Keep up the great job mama 🩷🩷

[@acebace8561]

When everything is screaming at you that somethings wrong, it probably is. You should listen to Erica Komisar talk about daycare. The one where she's talking to Lila Rose her on youtube called "the truth about daycare, nannies and working moms" is so helpful. It helped me change alot in my own life with my own kids and I feel so much better now.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you for the rec! Will definitely check out Erica Komisar! 🩷

[@user-kx5xl4sg1e]

Long story short: I went from being a full time working single mommy to a sahm w my second born BC it turns out my child has Autism. After MANY tries of school FAILURES and not getting proper support or diagnosis/help and trying to fit a square peg into a round hole (so to speak) it just wasn’t working for us. I also had so much guilt and frustration. It was an emotional rollercoaster and total sh$& show (as you said)! BUT we all learn on these journeys. I never would have seen myself not working. Talk about an ultimate sacrifice. lol and I knew/know A LOT of moms would LOVE the chance to be a sahm!!! I had to learn the hard way tho too! I’m sorry you all had to go thru this experience but that you ultimately decided on the best choice for your kids! 😊I am happy to report that things (at 15 y/o) are finally starting to settle and be supportive for us too. I know it will always be challenging but that is ALL parenting! ❤ty for sharing this.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you so much for sharing!! Being a parent is such a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs but we learn as we make decisions and I’m grateful there are others out there like you who have gone through similar situations and appreciate your support! Keep up the great job mama! ♥️

[@moon.c]

I’m late to respond to this video, but I want to hug you ❤ Kids do need time to adjust to new situations, but I would’ve done what you did and followed my mom instinct! Thank God, their old school accepted them back! ❤ stay strong!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🩷

[@savannahbacher720]

Hey Girlie, never think you're a bad mom for trying to do what you think would be beneficial for you and your family. Parenthood doesn't come with a guide book, it is most definitely done by trial and error. If you bring a change into your lives, it is okay to change your mind. Sometimes the change ends up making things a little more difficult. Never doubt that you are doing an amazing job!! 💜💜

[@angelamorehouse5315]

OMG, some of my best memories were playing games with our kids! That's how we spent our weekends when they were young and I wouldn't have changed a thing! I would have a glass (or few) of wine and we would just hang out. We would play candy land, then Sorry or Yahtzee when they were older. Mario, Wii bowling, guitair hero... While our friends were getting sitters so they could go out, we were making memories with our kids! Loved every minute of it!

[@Amanda_Fadul]

That’s awesome! These are definitely beautiful core memories we’re making with our kids 🩷♥️

[@anicholeRL9861]

The sadness and depression associated with drinking is really interesting. I’ve noticed in my 30s that I just feel so sick the next morning. Sometimes I feel sick to my stomach while drinking, actually. It also gives me anxiety throughout the night and I sleep awful.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Yes!!! It is really not enjoyable to me at all anymore!

[@Edwardsmeagan]

You are not selfish! You are an excellent mother. If you weren’t so in tune with your kids, you would have kept forcing it. Do not doubt yourself! ❤

[@jenwheeler844]

I have literally have had the same experiences with my kids and also with drinking ,I hear and see you completely . another suggested read is The naked mind. I wish I had content to share back so I can show my appreciation and give back what you always bring to us ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you for so much for the support! 🩷🩷

[@kochiachea7563]

Help please. I’ve been sending my 2.5yo to daycare since she was 4mo. Same daycare, was rough the first week or so, then okay. But this past week she’s been crying everyday during drop off (usually a few mins then stops when she sees her friends), and then today even as we were leaving the house to get to the car, and wouldn’t stop. Why the sudden crying? What can I do? Already tried the heart string drawing on our hand 😢

[@Amanda_Fadul]

I feel for you mama and I’ve been there, you’re not alone! Not sure why the sudden crying but just try and comfort as much as you can and stick to a routine that your daughter knows. I’m sure she’s totally fine! 🩷

[@anniethept2221]

You poor thing. You must not feel guilty though. You have a lot on your plate. I totally get it as I have to do a similar drop off and it’s a killer. It’s very hard to start the day stressed which is what I often do. Would there be a work hub near the kids daycare where you could work for a bit? Could be good to get out of the house a day or 2 a week.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thanks for empathizing! That’s a great idea about getting out of the house…I’ll look into it! 🩷🩷

[@dianadicintio8166]

I relate with all the feelings you went through! It wasn't a selfish idea to want to make things easier. Don't feel bad. If the kids had loved the transition then you guys would have made life way easier. They didn't and you fixed it. Sometimes it takes a situation like that to happen to help get perspective on what the right thing to do is. Not that either was right or wrong but you wanted to do the right thing for your family and now you know you are! Now you know the grass isn't greener in this particular situation and can feel good about the commute each day😊

[@dianadicintio8166]

I also feel like that when I drink. I feel like society doesn't talk about it but I'm sure this is the same for a lot of people. Alcohol totally messes with your hormones which in turn messes with your mental state and motivation. I'm so foggy and feel like I have no direction for a few days after. My mood is super low and I'm easily overwhelmed and irritated.

[@shauniwarwick6091]

Thank you for sharing! This has been a very relatable experience for me as well, you are not alone ❤

[@asweetbite3935]

I tried to message you on IG but it wouldn’t go through 🤔 anyway, I applaud your decision to quit drinking! I did that myself a few years ago and began a medication for anxiety bc SO much of my drinking was based on anxiety! I felt the pain! Just don’t want you to minimize the need for you to cut down your commute and make your day better- a happy mama makes happy kiddos 😃 ❤

[@Amanda_Fadul]

That’s amazing! The drinking just isn’t worth it to me anymore and I feel so much better without it! Thanks so much for your kind words 🩷

[@tamirodriguez3205]

As a former day care worker I'd say it does take time to adjust and adapt- however as a mom I say mom gut trumps all! If you had that gut feeling it wasn't right don't ignore it. So sorry you had to have this experience but good for you for quickly responding and doing what you knew was best.

[@Amanda_Fadul]

♥️♥️♥️

[@aslatton101]

DONT EVER BE sorry for what you feel is best for YOU, but also your kids!!! It’s normal to feel mom guilt as I’m sure you know, but it’s okay. Keep doing you! ❤

[@BostonGirl710]

As a mom of young kids (3 and 7), your feelings are valid and only you know what’s best for your kiddos .. yes they would’ve most likely adjusted but as mommas we are often the ones to sacrifice the most for the comfort of our kids… and I’m OK with that ❤❤❤❤ As long as my kids are happy .. folks would say it teaches them resilience etc but there soo young.. they have a lifetime to learn that! Kuddos to you guys for trusting your guts..

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Tysm 🫶🏻

[@hemalatha-hk2fw]

Don’t worry dear. We have to prepare our kids to be tough and face the real world. In many countries, school staff will be very strict and also there is no option to live streaming etc.. you are doing your best for them ❤

[@lizgilmore7314]

Amanda, please don't be too hard on yourself as you did what you thought was the best for your family at the time. I rarely drink alcohol these days as it messes with my emotions too. Take care xx

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you ♥️♥️

[@AnahiKaren]

Alcohol has the same effect on me now that I’m older so Im staying away from it . And I gotta say good for you for doing whats best for your family its very hard when you see your child upset so absolutely their well being and happiness always comes first.❤️

[@Amanda_Fadul]

Thank you 🩷🩷