For years I drank to numb the pain. And all it did was...

[@c.robinson7264]

We can’t suppress pain! Period! Addiction is not the answer! Timothy Ward you are doing a great job, keep the videos up!

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I need to tell my dad that

[@joannaazar7396]

Congratulations on 5 years!! 🎉

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you!

[@TCS_Aquatics82]

I’ve realized with alcohol it felt like I could get to a part of me that was previously unreachable, I could get to the “real me”, but in time I learned that it was diminishing me. And I agree that we are born with everything we need already in us, even when I seems like we don’t.

[@kh-uw6um]

Well said Tim! As a Teenager I saw one of my friends sloppy drunk and I knew I never wanted to be that. It scared me. I saw what a dangerous position. That was the main reason that kept me from ever getting drunk. But we can use almost anything as an addictive crutch

[@djjayem100]

Somebody said it! This is EXACTLY why i was drinking. I was just deluding myself. Thank you for this comment, helps a lot.

[@Plumeria1]

My brother just died of alcoholism at age 53. Listen to Tim, and stay sober y'all.

[@JennyverseLive]

I'm so sorry.

[@5thdimension625]

Yes, me too, I’m sorry for your loss.

[@Plumeria1]

@@VicDamoneJr82 cirrhosis of the liver.

[@lesliehasenkampf7088]

In many communities, social constructs erroneously teach us that alcohol is an essential part of adult life. People drink because they’ve been taught alcohol is necessary to celebrate, medicate, or do pretty much anything. This costs so many so much. Alcohol over promises and never delivers. Your honest and well reasoned talks really help unravel years of toxic conditioning. God bless you, Tim, and keep up the good work! ❤️🙏🏽

[@lesliehasenkampf7088]

@@VicDamoneJr82 absolutely nothing. However, many groups encourage excessive drinking, which leads to problems. Not everyone is taught about responsible alcohol use during their formative years.

[@darkangelkate3950]

That is so true. Alcohol is woven into life. We drink to celebrate, we drink to mourn, we drink to relax and we drink to rev up .

[@Assassinriflez]

Hey Timothy. As a 20 year old who doesn't drink and has no addiction, hearing your experience and perspective really expanded my knowledge. Thank you for sharing your story. Stay safe

[@bonfireballads]

I'm 8 months and 6 days sober! It hasnt been easy, but it is achievable. I went through some very tough stuff during this time. Lucky for me, i was able to turn to a creative outlet to get through it all. I think making money playing gigs again has helped me feel...like i matter? Like i have value? It gave me validation. Try to stay busy with things that you enjoy. Or try something new you might enjoy. Seek out other people that are seeking sobriety. Use boundries to stay away from people and situations that will influence you to drink. This is the third time ive quit, and the first 2 times, i didnt use boundries. I thought it would be okay to still hang out with my friends who drink. Let me tell ya, if you want to quit, you have to make changes like that. I still love my friends, but everything they do involves alcohol, and i just cant be there anymore. And it makes me cry, but thats what i have to do to move forward with my sobriety journey. I'm feeling great, and things are getting better in my life. I have a better relationship with my kids, and i'm able to deal with problems better as they arise. Anyway...i'm rambling.

[@MrMitchellw16]

Aye congratulations and keep it up Dave! Sending positive energy your way. Fantastic job strengthening your relationships with your kids, that's what matters most! As for your friends... your personal success is more important than their collective meandering! Not easy to make that sacrifice but sometimes it just has to be done. Keep up the good work and best wishes!

[@bonfireballads]

@@MrMitchellw16 thank you!

[@5thdimension625]

Awesome! Keep it up. One day at a time, it works, it really does!

[@Investinyourselfdarling]

Thanks

[@MichaelSmith-fu3bm]

Beautiful ramble Dave .. beautiful ramble...so proud of you and I don't even know you🙏🙏🙏🙂🙂

[@mickayy1]

I drink because I’m always anxious. When I was younger, i didn’t have to drink because I had so many friends and things to do. Now I’m in my early 30’s, all my friends are doing their own thing, and I’m between careers and hate where I live. I’m so bored with life and tired of being anxious, I want to stop drinking but I feel like there’s nothing else to do.

[@philcollin5891]

You got this bud, I'm on day one, I was driving and got in a crash yesterday, nobody got hurt, nobody got arrested, I was hammered, that was my wake up call man.

[@Jay-zx5hx]

Same, got in accident I hit a curb.

[@mhnjhbjnokl5904]

You are describing my live! How are you doing these days? 2 years since you wrote this. Has things become better?

[@blissstitchsewing]

Thank you! I was just going to go to the store to get champagne. My husband passed 5/23/21, the worst unimaginable pain I’ve ever experienced. I guess I can’t numb the pain forever….

[@angelawilliams649]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[@blissstitchsewing]

@@angelawilliams649 thank you!!! ♥️

[@lynnharris7119]

@@blissstitchsewingbless your heart, I know that pain as well, I can tell you as time goes by you eventually will come to a place you will be able to think of the good memories, I never thought that would happen & did. May God carry you thru this🙏💕

[@blissstitchsewing]

@@lynnharris7119 thank you, I appreciate that 🙏🏻♥️

[@darkangelkate3950]

I am so sorry for your loss. But it does get easier with time. Alcohol doesn't help. Don't let others tell you how or how long to grieve. It's your grief ❤

[@shadyvista]

As the Stoics say, "The obstacle is the way".

[@c.robinson7264]

I just wanna say that this video has given me life, I’ve been dealing with alcohol abuse for years and the pain that life throws at you makes sobriety even harder… it’s comfort to know that someone understands me and my sobriety is on the way! Thanks Tim.

[@MoosemanR]

I drank like a fish for 15 years, gave it up 3 years ago.

[@c.robinson7264]

@@MoosemanR that’s awesome, I pray I stay sober this time around

[@sarahrivura504]

Please write a book Tim. Your words are so beautiful and you're helping so many people including myself

[@noidea5400]

Never experienced emotional pain or suffering until I was an adult. Even when I was picked on, never phased me. Never feared the future or understood the world. Ignorance was bliss.

[@RetirementContentment]

I am grateful to have ten years of sobriety this month. Your words about numbing pain and deadening feelings are so true. I put the bottle between me and everyone I loved. I loved the alcohol more than people and pushed them away. Now in sobriety I find I can draw closer to others, not so much drama, but a quieter closeness and greater trust with people. I often crave a drink when I am facing strong feelings, but I sit with the feelings and try to take a positive action or reach out to a loved one instead of isolating. Thanks for your honesty. Let’s stay sober together.

[@richardhowe3951]

Congrats, man! it has been a few years for me , too. One day at a time.

[@2hrsToChooseThis]

I had a wake up call a couple months ago. I had quit drinking for almost a month, and found out my brother was assaulted and put in the hospital. I decided I needed to get drunk that night, and it was a shitty drunk, and I woke up super hungover. I spent the whole next day feeling like shit mentally because of my brothers situation and giving in to alcohol again, on top of feeling like shit because of the hangover.

[@jessedevlin4169]

I’m trying to get rid of this nasty cigarette addiction.

[@JennyverseLive]

I don't even drink, and for various reasons I needed these message today. Thank you so much.

[@naturepositive7707]

It is true for any addiction.

[@RockyP77]

You tell us what we NEED to hear... not just what you think we WANT to hear... you keep it real. I can't say it enough, thank you! You are providing a very valuable service

[@jorgeloya6420]

Been there ,done that man.. I relate to this, one year sober and won't lie everyday is a temptation but the longer I go sober the better my days get man... I appreciate your info. More brothers need to watch this.

[@howardosu1]

Really like the message, definitely had a time when I felt like I was drinking to suppress my stress. It went from drinking just to have fun, to drinking alone to zone out/avoid boredom. I still drink, but have been working towards less quantity, and asking myself why am I drinking. Trying to create new habits. Love the point that you must work through the pain, and draw from it. I’m big into working out, and it is the same for your physical body!“Don’t be scared prepare”, -Timothy Ward

[@wookiewoo5474]

“You have 80,000 units of suppressed pain in your body” 😂😂 Brilliant. Great video. I too usually dodge pain with booze instead of just walking ‘the process’. You make a lot of sense.

[@77Tadams]

I use to feel I needed to drink to be accepted by my “friends”. Now I just realize that if they were my friends, they would like being around me without drinking. I would rather be alone than with people who don’t like me for me. Also I don’t need their validation, I just need my own. Another thing is, I feel a whole hell of a lot better when I don’t have the weekly hang over. I am resilient, more patient with myself and others, more motivated, my skin looks amazing, I am not gaining weight, and the list goes on!

[@sincerelysandi]

You are the effect of living life for you ☮️💜

[@gwillis01]

A person who only wants to talk to you when you are drunk is not a true friend. Someone who wants the best of health for you is a true friend.

[@rajunaidu7751]

Anti depressants/alcohol/drugs numb both negative and positive emotions. So it's a double edge sword

[@stevetwilling1499]

It never acceptable to numb pain with alcohol , I started realizing by 26 I was making excuses to drink . So Timothy ward I’m done drinking by myself after this weekend . I really don’t enjoy drinking by myself anymore and I don’t feel relaxed anymore it doesn’t matter if I’m not drinking 6 or just one malt liqour by myself

[@MrMitchellw16]

You can do it Steve! Being numb isn't a way to live, it's a non-existence. Getting sober is getting back to life. Feeling again, for better and for worse. Best of luck

[@vulpixelful]

I didn't turn to alcohol, but I've turned to binge-eating at hard times. I didn't even know it was a problem because I didn't gain a _lot_ of weight. But I was still turning to eating a lot of junk, almost every day, to numb pain.

[@onbekendkanaaaaal]

You are 100% correct in every way, still I keep on drinking every time I'm going through a rough period, or had a bad day. The thing with me personally is that I struggle with anxiety, I get tense and end up drinking because I feel like I'm literally losing my mind from time to time. Taking meds isn't the solution either, I really don't know what to do.

[@JOHNPJORDAN50]

I can relate to the pain caused by anxiety and also depression but alcohol and anxiety medication are a quick fix that eventually start making things worse from my experience. Don’t lose hope.

[@onbekendkanaaaaal]

@@JOHNPJORDAN50 I wish my doctor would've told me this before prescribing me antidepressants. While I was on them I just kept on drinking the same amounts, without knowing it causes more harm in the long run. Fortunately I managed to get off the antidepressants, so I guess that's a big step towards living a healthy sober life. Thank you for your reply. All the best to you as well.

[@muccia7328]

"Then "a" is in control" wow holy smokes that is so true and an "aha" kind of thing. Yes!

[@gwillis01]

I have heard one sobriety speaker on KZbin call alcohol the PAUSE BUTTON of life. Things do not move toward a solution when you are pausing. You are merely hiding out from reality. Eventually a person needs to come off pause and work on facing their problems.

[@LFLvideos]

Desperately want to stop drinking, but find I can't say no. I work in a sales environment and my friends are also big drinkers. Even when casually admitting I have a drink problem (binge,) I get the opposite of support, just that everyone drinks too much now and again etc. I'd end up isolating myself or having to find new friends. I've stopped a couple of times, then I'm casually having a pint on a gorgeous day or with friends at an event, and it turns into a nightmare for me as soon as I've had 1

[@naturepositive7707]

Is Unconscious. Search for the Below KZbin video. Give this great Ted-talk a shot :) Is a life-changing. "How To Eliminate Self Doubt Forever & The Power of Your Unconscious Mind | Peter Sage | TEDxPatras"

[@naturepositive7707]

Wish you all the best.

[@mellowray561]

Get support from a group like AA or something. Support will help

[@5thdimension625]

You can’t recover on your own. Seek out AA in your area. Aa is full of people just like you that are trying to recover from a progressive three fold disease of mind, body and spirit.

[@drakeclifton5625]

Dude AMEN. You said something I totally agree with. The only way to work through the pain is to sit with the pain clear headed.

[@jannorris4140]

There is no "IT" i need to get through. Its just life in general that i need to numb through. The loneliness ... etc

[@insight9354]

I do not like being human. I have never felt like I belonged on this earth realm.

[@brtha3beats]

been failing like a mug in these life tests....needed this especially this morning. thank you.

[@samiraj.192]

Great share, thank you so much for uploading this 🙏🏾🙂. You're helping people more than you know!

[@tarasgarden1]

You're so right Tim. I've made great strides to changing this pattern of drinking to numb pain briefly. In atleast 1 video, you said just keep writing until you quit. That was the best advice. That alone allowed me to keep going until I did.

[@gamecop2191]

love you bro. real shit as always. its crazy how progressive abusing alcohol is too, in my opinion. it started out to escape as u said, but eventually even when finding the bottom of the bottle I was still wallowing in the thoughts and emotions that made me start drinking to forget. Your angle on this stuff is a breath of fresh air. Never preachy, you're just "putting it out there". Bright future ahead for you, no doubt!

[@lexingtonlad5745]

Just found your channel, have to say it’s eye opening.

[@richardhowe3951]

Hey Thanks for the video. I been sober for a long time . I got that this way through AA. Staying sober is more than mind over matter if you are a REAL alcoholic or addict. Everything AA is an app you might share with folks....

[@erikdekker1]

I don't smoke, drink alcohol, caffeine, do drugs or eat a lot of junkfood. I look really young for someone who is 26, I look 21 without a beard.

[@humanaste-nv6it]

Big up with the key choice words . Years of therapy didn't help this much.

[@133official3]

Another great and inspiring message, thank you for this brother!

[@edgbfksc3349]

Man I love these videos I’m addicted to 3 things right now as a 16 year old and I’ve been trying to get off that stuff for 1 and half years this opens my mind

[@elijahdunmore7526]

Hi Tim I just wanted to thank you for sharing your encouraging words about drinking alcohol I am so proud of you staying alcohol free My brother you are right we run to alcohol to solve our problem but after we get SOBER the problems are still there I love that you don't SUGARCOATE IT YOU just GET RIGHT TO THE POINT TIM I AM CELEBRATING 1 YEAR AND 4 MONTHS 7-6-2021 ONE DAY I WILL STOP COUNTING THE DAYS BUT EVERYTIME YOU MAKE A SOBRIETY KZbin I CAN'T HELP BEING PROUD OF MYSELF AFTER 22 YEARS OF DRINKING THAT POSIN I JUST WANT TO THANK YOU AGAIN TIM FOR SHARING YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS NOT ONLY TO ME BUT TO ALL YOUR FOLLOWERS ON THIS KZbin CHANNEL I HOPE WITH YOUR ENCOURAGING WORDS TIM AND MY JOURNEY ON BEING ALCOHOL FREE THANKS AGAIN TIM LOVE YOU MY BROTHER STAY STRONG AND KEEP MAKING DOES GREAT KZbinS 🙏❤️🙏

[@Blueshit101]

Your a real one man. Thanks.

[@nancyclisham1621]

This video is very inspiring. Thank you!

[@onlyme7308]

Alcohol defers pain. Might be able to drink it numb for decades but in the end it has to be processed. I’m all for dealing with the pain in the here and now. Life is so much clearer without alcohol muddying the waters.

[@KANUCHRONICLES]

Excellent share here Tim! 🙏🏼❤️🔥

[@tomflynn4720]

Wow you absolutely nailed it!

[@TimothyWard]

👍

[@MegaMoomoo2010]

God bless you Tim.

[@playortry999]

"dont be scared, just get prepared!" - Tim Ward

[@no80dy50]

Wassup bossman? Just relapsed after 7 years. Idk anymore. One Love. God bless.

[@MichaelJames-ob1kc]

It’s a journey brother. Forgive yourself and get back on it. I know it’s easier said than done but don’t give up. The future you is cheering for you right now. God bless

[@no80dy50]

@@MichaelJames-ob1kc Thank you Bredren. It really does mean a lot.

[@jacquelinelandis]

💚🦋🤲 you got this

[@no80dy50]

@@jacquelinelandis Thank you Jacqueline ❤

[@mellowray561]

Ask for help and get support. It’s OK if you relapsed. You can get right back on the boat with all of us.It’s not easy to do it without support.

[@donnadavidson5027]

I am so sad due to heartbreak. I trusted, gave love, and it was rejected....I feel so much regret, pain, sadness...asking why no one loves me...I am now drinking 😢

[@stillirise6527]

Thank you Sir. I been drinking everyday for a month non stop.

[@richardhowe3951]

AA might help....

[@hvmani]

so true, thank you for the inspiration, please keep these videos going

[@lovelyeyessee]

Pain is a portal. If you go into it inside it, you come out the other end… somewhere else

[@mellowray561]

Hey Timothy, thank you for your videos about alcoholism. I have a question. What kind of support did you have to quit drinking? Did you go to AA or anything of the sort? Did you have a good friend help you?

[@mitchellanderson3068]

My anxiety has really been testing me since getting sober. I thought it would get better but I’m almost three months in and feels even worse now than it did in the beginning

[@thefox4279]

Yo I'm still in my struggle..I am still listening to your messages.. I gotta lot of things to deal with..but im still here taking notes

[@MrMitchellw16]

Transition from taking notes to taking action! Good luck

[@kevinmcalpine6929]

My brother was shot in the head and killed when I was 16 and we slept in the same bed growing up. Our bdays are a day apart. I drank to numb the pain.

[@livefromtheground7274]

Life . . . yeah, if you are living there will be pain, everybody gets it. Dealing with it is the hard part.

[@randallfowler9348]

Profound video Tim. Thank you.

[@JenniferLKersten]

Great video Tim, thank you!♥️🍎🥲

[@arsenic-bearingvanadinite6812]

Great explanation on a difficult topic. I just wish there was a way to make people want to do better for themselves.

[@dts4banger]

you hit home with this topic. for me it's been more of ganji then drinking for me but,having addictive personality ( fast to like to numbness feeling of substances) iv'e had my problem of drinking as well but, not sloppy drunk and waking up with multiple females in my bed. more of 1 glass of wine turns into 3 each night. yes... wine is good but, not if you work at a bar/club into the early 3 am hrs with half a bottle of good wine in the system then needing to wake up early to work on building a self made company. iv'e kicked the drinking by leaving the night owl bar life but on again off again struggle with ganji. between 2 -5 am is the hardest to fight the weed demons away. i'll give in then wake up in the morning to look over at a science project meal(meals) i ate having the munchies and cant remember, is a pain in the ass being a fitness/health nut;) like you it has a lot to do with childhood trauma to forget which is only pt until the memories arise again. big ups for being truthful!!

[@fatboyskinniefromdabronx8405]

Pain can mean betrayal. That’s caused me to drink

[@NMRONZ1949]

Thank you for sharing, Tim.

[@puffywoosh]

Thank you so much for this video .. you just gave me a lot of hope

[@elainebmack]

I am a nondrinker who cannot be friends with drinkers. Why? Drinkers can't seem to let you be yourself. Maybe it's because they can't be themselves without their crutch of choice. Alcoholics always want you to join them in their addiction. If you don't, then they get hostile and sometimes aggressive with you, constantly trying to shame you into joining them. Alcohol stands in the way of real connections with people. You never know who you are talking to, the booze, or the person.

[@Bboyredmoon]

At 33 just now stopping from a 15 year binge of distraction.

[@glenh4971]

Hi Tim! My name is Glen. I am an old drunk. I live in Panama. Been sober a long time but I wanted you to know I appreciate what you are saying. I am not hearing you talk about your Higher Power though. Does God have anything to do with your sobriety? Just wondering. My Higher Power helps me stay Sober and deal with the pain in my life. I cannot over-state how much this helps me stay sober. Long term sobriety is not easy so you should grab every tool you can reach for to help stay this way. I am a new subscriber. I like what you have to say. Keep it up.

[@TimothyWard]

Glen, I definitely believe in a higher power that helps me in all aspects of my life. I just don't talk a whole lot about 'God' in my videos because I think everyone views that word through their own lens and I don't want to send the wrong message or alienate anyone.

[@glenh4971]

@@TimothyWard I understand. You have to frame this subject correctly in order not to alienate people. Having a higher power should be suggested. Or, recommended. People can continue to make their own choices concerning how they maintain sobriety. When an alcoholic falls off the wagon a few times they might eventually realize that they need to try listening to all the suggestions. Not just cherry picking what they want to hear.

[@lennoraa9300]

Hi Tim-ber tree, love your openness to help people

[@williamthurman9082]

Hopefully ur liver will make A full recovery.....my uncle Died of sol at 55 ....I could not get him to look at a better way

[@5thdimension625]

I’m sorry for your loss. Alcoholism is an ugly death if it’s not treated

[@luiskaponi6777]

I will never drink again, drinking is not for me always embarrassing myself 😔

[@cwats2115]

I hope you're okay. Any type of mind-altering substance like alcohol drugs pills it's all an Escape

[@SimplyNaturalBlack]

Wow Mr.Timothy and everyone.I really enjoyed this video. You're an amazing Truth teller. I'm so glad you're not a Drunkard anymore....🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿Please keep Inspiring others to take heed 👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿👊🏿❤❤

[@UniquelyHerz]

God will always test u , facts

[@SILVARYDAH]

Does anyone ever admit, "I drink because I like to drink"-

[@Mannsy83]

The depression hurts so bad😢

[@pierrelabuschagne7220]

Thank you for your great videos

[@jhause9404]

They say all addiction is born from some kind of trauma

[@ayana188]

True, it is for me

[@OrganicallyYahs]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@tinadarealmilliondollarbaby]

Ty for this💯

[@crystalmontoya6539]

Love you Hun! ❤️

[@ZE308AC]

@Timothy Ward Where did you get the short video clips?

[@elmerrabadan]

Great Video.

[@damiank7374]

Thank you good sir

[@mbell78]

Great Video!!!!

[@concrete981]

when rich people have pain they go to the car dealership buy one then go out to dinner. they don't have to drink!

[@theutuber6984]

Thank u for this video

[@KonsciousLyfe-hc1tb]

Real Talk

[@Investinyourselfdarling]

Yep, I can miss 2 days without a drink and be so happy. Thats a sign right there lol I had even more problems younger and never thought of a drink.I'm so sick of drinking on the old stuff and the next year comes my brain remembered what I did...HATE IT. Lol I'm quiting. No more wino problems. I have been listening to your video all evening, keep up the good work.Some of us need it.

[@stephaniedegange2737]

good for you!

[@ayana188]

Very accurate ❤️‍🔥💯 it’s a choice, I do believe we can stop if we wanted to because like u said I can go days without a sip and be alright.. liquor is more of an upper for me and yes it brings out the fool 🤣🤣, I’m going to go back to weekends only ect

[@Joynyc]

THANK YOU

[@TheMoneyMakingMentor]

Nice shirt Tim.

[@nappyscribe1987]

Good video!

[@BennyOcean]

Thanks!

[@TheUneducatedTeacher]

Great video KM Hemmans The KZbinr

[@Joynyc]

Super cool

[@Joynyc]

I'm OK with pain

[@pierrelabuschagne7220]

good work

[@JOE-rp2cz]

Very true

[@redridinghood1980]

..exactly me💔

[@tonijurisic8200]

True...