Foster Parents Should Never Talk About This

[@AlexiusDenelle16]

I think that anything you share about the fostering process and Miss.A is always to educate or help others who are currently fostering. There is never any information that we as viewers, should feel like we “need” to know. Anything that you share on your platform is what you choose to share, and I appreciate being able to following along. From her bomb hair changes 👏🏾, to slight issues you have with case workers. You’re an awesome family that has allowed the internet in on your lives. No one should feel like you need to give more of a situation, regardless of what it is.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thank you

[@rissadawn2047]

AlexiusDenelle16 absolutely! Unfortunately in our society these days ppl feel entitled and that you are obligated to "tell everything " or answer any questions they may ask just bc you're on a platform like KZbin or social media in general but I feel like with yt SOME ppl seem to think they need every detail all the little secrets or think that there's something you're hiding or say u aren't being "real" yeah sometimes I want to see someone's daily life or have them tell their opinions on certain things but it just blows my mind how people feel ok asking the questions or saying the things they do. Even going as far as making mean ,angry comments...like why are u not telling us EVERYTHING, it's so odd to me lol

[@bonnies9826]

It’s a little thing, but I just wanted to say I loved the fact that when you took Darcy to the doctor you asked her if she had any questions, that’s such a great opportunity.

[@supersparkley123]

Bonnie Skalecke I picked up on that as well and thought it was a great moment for Darcy to express herself!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Wow, sometimes we don’t realize that as parents we actually get it right. THANK YOU for the acknowledgment!

[@victoriar8284]

yeah that was super great i was really impressed with that!

[@mcg267]

Bonnie Skalecke I was highly impressed with this too!

[@peaceofapuzzlebfg]

I too noticed that and was impressed!

[@tiger-maewright4676]

Can we talk about Darcy’s amazing modelling skills for a second because she was rocking both of those outfits ❤️

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Right?! Who taught her that?!?!

[@michelewhite990]

I think that people sometimes forget that this is an educational channel, and not a drama channel. This is a place where you help us learn and understand what fostering is like, which includes the ups and downs. That being said, when there are these down moments, people watching need to respect miss A, her family, and their privacy. I think you all are doing an amazing job as foster parents. I wish I would’ve been housed with you all when I was in the system ❤️

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

100% and we hope we never unknowingly cross an info line.

[@jennarejman]

We received custody of my sons 14 year old friend at about Christmas time. It’s hard maintaining a balanced relationship with his parents. You have to have a working one, but need to maintain boundaries for yourself snd your family, as well as your foster child.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Sounds about right, we are learning!

[@saml815]

Tbh I don't really watch any other channel that relies so heavily on the KZbinr's foster/biological children (yes, even the bigger ones that many people here probably love) because they always end up feeling very... exploitative. Your channel is the only one I watch/am subscribed to because you don't give me that vibe at all. You always try to speak well of Miss A's family, even in situations where you might be frustrated with them. You never show Miss A (or your bio kiddos!) in any situation where she's vulnerable or upset-- it's very easy to see that she is a willing participant and doesn't feel pressured to do or say anything. It's clear that the intentions behind this channel is to inform and to give insight, and that the kids' comfort and safety is what comes first. So thank you for handling your channel the way you do, and thank you for sharing the information that you are willing to share!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Your comment has absolutely warmed my heart. I hope that all of our viewers can see our true intentions with the channel like you do!

[@nomis9913]

I completely agree!

[@malkalevanna1071]

Why are toddler girl clothing so adorable??? I would legitimately wear that blue dress now as an adult 😃

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Right? Can I get that in an XXXXXL please!?

[@sarcasm.is.a.language]

Even the romper so cute and that dress POCKETS so obviously fabulous haha

[@amypearsall]

I would hope that if not now, in the future, Miss A's family will appreciate you caring for their daughter; since she isn't at home right now, that she is in a loving, nurturing place. I think you are doing a great service: in showing that foster placements can be positive experiences, to counteract the narrative of negative/unhealthy placements others have been through.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I hope so, just want what’s best for her.

[@shaddowsdieout]

Speaking from the parent's perspective. Its hard to appreciate foster parents when you have no clue what happens with your kids on a daily basis. I struggled a lot always thinking my kids were cold or hungry or not properly being cared for because I couldn't physically see them every day.

[@marialuyan]

@@shaddowsdieout why though when every kid is there because of parents bad decisions.

[@antheadzingwa3269]

@@marialuyan that's not true kids are sometimes placed because parents are sick or cant financially provide for them so dont judge everyone when you dont know their situation. thats just rude and ignorant

[@amandarose4184]

I was in foster care for around 8 months , I was placed with the most amazing lady who already had two babies who she was trying to adopt. I wouldn’t change who I had because she was amazing. I still talk to her on Facebook and she now has her two girls plus their two brothers and she does it all by herself and I’m so happy she has kids of her own that will never go anywhere. I was her last foster kid 🥰

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

❤️

[@Nesquik321]

I was looking at your dog looking out of the window the whole time you talked, sorry xD :D

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

No need to apologize, he's adorable!

[@jessicahage5455]

Haha me too I was like is he a doll or real 🤩

[@supersparkley123]

Meeee too! Such a beautiful dog! I love his coloring!

[@maddymiller123]

me too haha

[@lizchapman5250]

Darcy, romper #1. She looks like a little adult. Anyone else find themselves watching the dog watch outside? 😆

[@sil_mang]

Lol! Yes! He looked like the perfect little dog statue. More dog content please!

[@Kirsten_is_cursed10]

"Darcy does this one have pockets?" - teaching the MOST IMPORTANT clothing lessons early on is important :)

[@janelord3061]

Darcy is rocking those photoshoots! She looked great in both outfits. I loved how she said, "Both of them," each time she was asked which one she liked the most.

[@theneens5535]

My daughter got custody of her older brother's two children three years ago. We took that step in order to keep them out of the foster care system. At the time of the custody hearing their dad was being held on felony drug charges and their mom had deserted them 3 years earlier due to a heroin addiction. We were lucky to be close enough to get them before they were put in the system as we had been trying to get them prior to the arrest of my son. Being someone who has a history of being in foster care, and lucky enough to be adopted (with my 2younger brothers) I appreciate and applaud you and your family for doing such an awesome amazing job as foster parents. Thanks to you maybe more people will step up and help the kids who really need someone in their lives.

[@kenzr5375]

In that first shot of Sawyer looking up at the camera he looked just like his mommy! Too cute

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I love hearing that!

[@fosterfam2563]

You're doing an amazing job! It's sometimes difficult to share your experience while still trying to maintain the privacy of the kids in care ❤

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

❤️ hate to say it, but reassurance feels really good

[@GBmitKettensaege]

The $10 dress is so stinking cute. I wish they had it in my size 🙈

[@jroostah]

RIGHT? And it has pockets. Come on.

[@amandas8510]

Ditto!

[@CarrieLemieux]

You are both raising an amazing family. Thank you for sharing your journey with us. I have the feeling that no matter what, Miss. A will always be a part of your family. ❤

[@brandybarnett9953]

What I think is so awesome ishthat you are modeling for Miss A to advocate for herself in the future. It’s an important skill.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Yes! Just spoke with her about using her voice ❤️

[@MeraleeCrowl]

I find myself always having to say, "I'm not allowed to share that information." It can be hard when you are telling the same person over and over, but I try to remember that most of the time, the people asking are just doing it because they care.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

100%, we always assume good intent.

[@jennynadershahi4734]

In the UK every child in care has an annual health assessment. I worked in the 'LAC Health Team' for many years and loved it. We could tell which foster carers were in it for the money. You, are obviously in it for the love and dedication and I applaud you x

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

❤

[@Zero2FiveFamily]

Absolutely love following along and hearing what challenges and achievements you have faced during fostering. It brings back all the memories of the struggles and joys we faced through our fostering and adoption journey. And Shots were a big one!😳 ❤️

[@kymbradley5899]

It's nice that you have people to help you. This quarantine time can take a toll on you after awhile. Great idea to get some help. Stay safe!

[@OurHomesteadOfAbundance]

So so so appreciate you for doing this channel.

[@meganyoung3650]

Ever heard the song It Takes A Village? My choir was supposed to sing it this year for our spring concert and I think it’s beautiful 🥰

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

We have not heard that!

[@granesperanza6478]

My choir sang that song too!

[@estefanybaltazar8369]

I love you guys!!! As a kid who grew up in foster care, I know that not everyone is as accommodating as you. Some individuals do it for the house payment assistance. I know this because one of my foster homes told one of her family members "you should do it, it's like renting a room to kids." That never left my mind.

[@juliehowman3912]

I think you strike a happy medium regarding foster parenting. People will judge no matter what the circumstances or issues are. Their judgement expresses more about them that that which is held in judgement. I find that you acknowledge the thorns amongst the roses and root out the weeds whilst landscaping the garden of foster life. Each expression an exhibit of the exquisitely priceless gem harvested and placed within the treasure chest of memories. It is important to remember that every piece of coal given the right treatment has the capacity to become a diamond that once mined and polished is unique, valuable and desirable.

[@Inevitable.Change]

What you choose to share is completely your choice. I’m thankful for whatever you do share. The little glimpses of family life and insights into the foster care system strike a balance between maintaining anonymity and sharing valuable information and experiences. I think you’re doing a great!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thank you so much! Your words are so kind :)

[@mariahgarrett8268]

Even Darcy knows the importance of pockets 😂💕

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Obsessssssed with pockets! Every time she wears something with pockets she asks John "Daddy, can I have some money?" because she wants to put coins in them lol!

[@sarcasm.is.a.language]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity smart girl wonder if that will work with my dad I'm in my 30's lol

[@karibroer2398]

I LOVE the dog looking out the window behind you, soooo cute!!

[@BobbieK1997]

I’m also in Ohio and would love to foster one day! I love to get to be apart of the journey with you guys! Thank you for sharing!

[@amandas8510]

I think you’ve been doing an amazing job balancing it all! Keep up the great work💝 love learning from you and love your love for Miss A. Please give her a warm hug from a villager 🤗. Hugs to you and your kiddos too! 🤗🤗🤗🤗 xoxo

[@cassie8177]

I love these videos. I was thinking about fostering but had some fears about things I didn't know about. This is really opening the process and making me feel confident that it is an amazing choice.

[@jenniebarrett]

Your dog is so cute ! Looking out the window.. Awe

[@mkenz4227]

I'm so excited that we've seen so much of you guys recently! 😍

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

You ain't seen nothing yet!!! Really trying to do a video every other day :) Just hope we don't run out of things to say and you all get bored with us lol.

[@mkenz4227]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Haha! I hope not too! 😜

[@JarvisSensei]

LOVE the blue romper on Darcy. Adorable

[@rebeccaturner4988]

Love your videos. I had no idea your husband was the cinnat picker and watched his videos and had no idea. It amazing to watch and see how your foster kids change and grow with the time with u. Thanks for sharing it really helps with my situation.

[@haleywink1307]

Does that striped jumpsuit come in 26-yr-old sized? Asking for a friend.

[@melissagreen1117]

Darcy's new outfits are way cute. You guys do what you need to do for the issues. People need to quit being so nosy. Hav a good nite.🌙

[@juliahofman2861]

Darcy is super cute! Love the modeling

[@JL-iu7fk]

Love the way the dog always makes an appearance, gets all professional not looking directly into the camera! LOL

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Right?! What is he even doing?

[@lauradavis4848]

Isn't that the greatest. And he's so polite too. If that was mine, he would have to have his face all up in the camera 🤣🤣

[@erinlozada1406]

❤️ your dog. Doing the neighborhood watch

[@marneejt]

Not really the point of your video, but I love seeing your adorable dog just hanging out by the window in the background.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I know!

[@phoenixmoon3]

Still loving your. Chanel. Awe your kiddos are cutie pies.

[@TheHealerInsideOfYou]

Darcey’s a brave little girl!

[@lauradavis4848]

Oh my gosh, Darcy and her fashion show. Adorable! 😍 And I cannot get over how fast Sawyer is growing. He's going to be running all over soon. Both outfits were cute, but I really loved that little romper. The little boys were too cute. Darcy, Darcy, I have a bike outside and it's mine. 😍😍 They were so happy for those donuts. And her wanting to get some for then also, shows her sweet, giving heart. And let me tell you something.......you are not JUST parents, and not JUST foster parents. Ya'll are amazing and doing a fabulous job.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

You are so kind! Yes, those 3 playing together always gets a good laugh!

[@susiefarnell785]

I think both are cute but love her in the jumpsuit

[@mariansinger9003]

DArcy is adorable. Clothes were so cute.

[@Petercynn]

It is definitely challenging trying to manage work and two kids! Lol Kudos to you guys! 🥰

[@xoxoPilar]

I mean I’m probably one of the most nosey people on the planet. Probably because I want to help. HOWEVER, this is a very delicate situation and you should NEVER feel pressured to share more or apologize for not being able to say more. The most important thing is Ms. A and all the kids.

[@brynnmcdonnell2260]

I love watching your videos and journey with fostering. I will say some of the details I felt were uncomfortable to share. I appreciate your openness on your journey!

[@heidiberry2976]

Little thing I noticed, you look incredibly alike to the twins Brooklyn + Bailey 😂

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I've heard that before!

[@kezza82]

If ms a ever wants to talk I'm here I was fostered all my life so I know how it feels xo

[@bethwatson1884]

I have a lot of family that fosters (also foster adopts) and I think what you share is perfectly fine, It’s your channel your rules etc. They are allowed to show their faces here though, sometimes they share their names but not always. Usually it’s just an initials as you do. I know what’s allowed is very much different based on states counties etc. I think you both are fantastic with Miss A. She reminds me a lot of a girl my sister has taken in plus her baby. She’s not in foster care (as she’s 18 )but her mannerism and style is much like miss A.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Thank you for the reassurance

[@amypearsall]

Darcy is adorable!

[@ecrilly81]

I love the striped dress. She is so cute. I would wear something like that if it was in adult sizes.

[@sarahmccullough1100]

That romper suit is adorable x

[@bpgk2007]

Your dog is so beautiful 😍

[@seifalah0626]

Keep up the great work. Whatever you can share share. Whatever is confidential is find too. Also Darcy does make a great model (I kinda thought both outfits were great :) )

[@thirtysomething4532]

I love option 2. She is so cute

[@hazelrose6338]

Ur dog looking out the window every video is so funny lol

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

He is now my side kick.

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

I think u do a wonderful job in explaining foster parenting. Both outfits r cute on Darcy. I shop at Walmart all the time ‼️‼️‼️‼️

[@xevsetter1201]

#2 is so super cute!

[@musicalfanatics8194]

Do Miss A's parents know you post videos? I hope you Miss A and you guys are doing well!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

At this time, no.

[@nikkihinton3398]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Do the case workers or anyone else involved in the process know? Or Miss A's siblings?

[@jesssebron895]

Unfortunately our governor has declared no school until May 1st. I hope Ms. A is doing okay without the routine of school

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Yup! We are all going to get super cozy all through April lol

[@Tia.H]

Could you please repeat what you were saying towards the end of your video? Your dog stole the show yet again; he's roofin' adorable! Absolutely pawfect! I'm glad that you and Miss A and Darcey got to get out of the house. That hair, though! Miss A, I'm jealous! I use to have Rapunzel hair, but chopped it off. I miss it a lot, though short hair is much easier to maintain! Only share what you feel like sharing, not what you feel that you've GOT to share; if people think that you should be sharing more, that's on them. Suck it up, buttercup! Of course, we'd all like to know more and support you in anyway that we can, but that's not always possible and it's understandable, nor do we have a right to know everything that's going on in your lives and in that of Miss A's.

[@colleenshaw1607]

Good for u for being a mama bird! Also, kinda sad to think some still think there's a debate even during days like this, but good for you for getting ur kids vaccinated. I have no doubt that regardless of opinions of others or maybe even ur own at times, u just want what's best for kids. That's what we all need in every foster parent and hopefully others in general

[@ecrilly81]

Darcy has beautiful eyes.

[@kekedior8245]

I'm 8 minutes late its 9:12 and we are still doing online school🙄🙄 but this just made my night sooo much better🥰❤

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Yay

[@agonicole]

Darcy looks so cute

[@hazelrose6338]

My good friends little brother got placed into a foster care home that didn't speak any english! Big failure on the case workers part as he only knew english :((

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

That would definitely be a challenge.

[@lynnemoore9498]

I really like the romper

[@Lauren-rx9fv]

Did you say that John has a youtube channel? Can you please link it? Thank you :)

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

kzbin.info/door/1e7o39iNBeLke6tDaykN2A

[@Lauren-rx9fv]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Thank you!

[@chasityturner6634]

Darcy is such a cutie

[@AnnaPotts818swifferbaby]

Option 1

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Agreed.

[@zannathajane]

The county we are in there is no parental permission needed if less than 10 days.

[@ashleycardenas4518]

Hows miss A's schedule for the day? We just got a teen! He sleeps in till 12 but still gets school work done. Just wondering how you guys are on that?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I think you may have messaged me on Instagram too? Yes, that's about what we are experiencing and we figure as long as work is complete and she's not late for anything then it is fine. Pick your battles

[@ashleycardenas4518]

@@BeTheVillageCommunity yes that was me! Still good over here! Thanks for responding!

[@hanaj]

I think in person school is over for the year in Chicago. Just online teaching 😥

[@adyz9676]

Yay!!! You uploaded!!❤️❤️

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Heck yes we did!!! We are going to be regular posters now.

[@erikaamicucci6011]

your dog is so cute

[@autumnhahn4730]

Darcy is hilarious.

[@Uhohohno319]

Random question: do you ever talk to your first foster or her parents?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

We have not heard back from her.

[@adriennecolantonio8628]

I can’t help but think Ms A’s parents rescinding their permission at the 11th hour won’t bode well with the court. Their decision didn’t demonstrate the ability to put the needs of their child above their own. 2 questions: Isn’t Ms A’s placement rather long? She seems well integrated into your family and there haven’t been any updates as to her parents working toward getting her back. 2. When Ms A finally does return to her family, how is that going to impact Darcy? I can’t help but think for the adults it will be bittersweet but for a child it would be devastating.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

That was our thought too... watch the video I'm about to post about more of that situation. She has been with us, as of today 10 months. It can be up to 2 years. Reunification is the goal. We are very open with Darcy and use language that shows that Miss A is with us for now and that she still has her family. When she returns, we will cross that bridge but it will be transitional for Miss A, Miss A's family, and our family.

[@homiedotkay4801]

are you guys having the online school thing where you’re from ?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Yes! Starting soon, so far it’s been optional.

[@aysha3366]

darcy is your twin!!

[@laurenarquette427]

Do miss A’s parents watch the videos or know about them? It seems like it’d be a good way to see what she’s up to

[@ashleyhooper1499]

I was hoping that you would talk more on your relationship with the birth family. Where you guys stand now with them after the trip. I feel like the past few videos have been more of you repeating the situation just in different ways.

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Yeah, I got stuck in a circle... it’s coming though! Just haven’t had the time to film it yet. Stay tuned!

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

This video is also kind of prepping for that video because there are some things we can’t 100% talk about, so it’s like the disclaimer before that video.

[@ashleyhooper1499]

Awesome! I know how tough things can be as my aunt was a foster parent and adopted 3 siblings out of it. My friend and her husband also dealt with the foster care system. I just highly enjoy the stories of these children and the work everyone puts in on both ends for the best interest of the child

[@puff4664]

Is that a Luna ukulele that John has? I’ve been investing in one, how does it play?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

He says “probably?”. He’s had it awhile so he doesn’t know. It’s a great one though!

[@puff4664]

Be The Village Thanks! I’ll be getting one soon!

[@gorgeousbeautiful1575]

How do you help miss A with school work from home?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

We are here as a resource, she is really great though and only asks for help every once in a while.

[@kate_6436]

If it makes filming easier you can actually film her head and then later in editing just crop her head out of the video most editing programs have the option for that. That way you don’t have to film just cutting off her head the whole time you can just film her head and everything and then crop out her head in editing before you post it so we don’t see her face it that helps?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Good thinking! I've had to do those crop tricks a few times to make sure she isn't shown lol. Thanks for looking out!

[@kate_6436]

Be The Village Glad to be of help! I thought that also that could be a way for you to have the videos with her head in them just for you and her to look back on memory wise while also not showing us her face at the same time!

[@mooseface2602]

What type of dog do you have and what’s their name?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

He is Crosley, he is a Dalmatian/blue heeler.

[@mooseface2602]

Perfect name :)

[@mcg267]

Have you ever bumped into any subscribers in public?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Only once at a Halloween event and they were incredibly polite and respectful. I don't think we are really that "big" around here. No-one really knows us.

[@gissellez.1000]

I’m not sure if you have ever answered this question but do her parents know you have a KZbin channel? Just curious 🙂

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

At this time, no. Since this channel is not about their story and we are maintaining confidentiality regarding the names, situation, etc. we are not approaching that subject. We hope to in the future.

[@gissellez.1000]

Be The Village thank you for the response ! You guys are great examples of what foster parents are ! I was in foster care when I was 6 and have some traumatizing memories. It’s great to see people doing this for the right reasons 🙂

[@kellya3330]

Really important and highly controversial question here.... and keep in my I promise not to judge your answer. Who do you guys think is going to win survivor this season?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Oh wow... seeing that tonight is an episode... I'm going to have to go ahead and answer. It's a fantastic season and I just love seeing the returning players, so many favorites!!! I think Rob will come back and win it all. He is just a legend. But Natalie is a beast on the island!! I'm also a huge fan of Jeremy and Sarah, and... GOSH! You got me started now I can't stop.

[@Justjessb123]

Would you teach video editing as a life skill if a foster child was interested in that part of the process?

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

Absolutely!

[@donnapenn9284]

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[@azn2xcbbjai]

Miss A's a sprinter ain't she lol. Us sprinters don't do long distance well.

[@secretwhispers9592]

Also do you always call her ms. A or when the camera is off do you call her by her actual name? It seems like you call her ms a so often that you would slip up and call her it while the camera is off lol

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

We do not confuse her name when off camera. Her name is her name and we only use Miss A while filming. We have had family slip up though, that is embarrassing. We laugh it off with her because we know she is more than that nickname.

[@amandakatejohnson7916]

I feel like I would have a hard time remembering to call her “Miss A” when recording. I’d constantly have to bleep out or reshoot without her name.

[@mollymatheny5434]

Why can you not show her face? And why can you not share her real name?

[@meghanleetch8140]

Molly Matheny it’s out of respect & privacy for her.

[@Mylady911]

Molly Matheny in most states the kids are in care of the state and their identity is a protected subject. Most states it is against all the rules and you can loose your license for showing their face or anything with identifying the child. It’s also a safety issue as some parents may try and come get their child. So all That to say it’s the rules, safety and privacy for all parties.

[@janiceclark2573]

We miss ain't got her Siamese twist done you said we could see her hair you never showed us completely shot I would like to see her hair

[@BeTheVillageCommunity]

I totally forgot!!! I'll do that soon :)

[@Mylady911]

Janice Clark Senegalese twist. Not trying to be snarky she’s just always about trying to teach about African American hair so I wanted to type the name for them.