Best techniques to STOP thinking about someone

[@not_yours_senorita11.11]

No more obsession no more desperation... Only a healthy detachment ❤

[@scottferguson9036]

Trade-in previous Obsession for Francesca the new obsession LOL. Had your joke. Very good information

[@s.k1127]

All I want❤

[@cartoonspace743]

How? Is this possible?

[@Deeepali_]

I saw u on shambhavi di's channel

[@adnan.one8]

us core

[@goofytunes1]

Out of dignity, I will not lose to my fantasy because I am too proud. Even if I'm obsessed, I will behave as though the other person does not exist. I refuse to sell myself cheap!

[@Rebecca-GLaines]

Tell ke you're a fire sign w/o telling me you're a fire sign 😂 lol, I'm earth, I CAN do that, but, I would rather say how I actually feel, that way, there are zero regrets on my end when they come back, I'm able to stand on my word. That behavior of not telling me the truth at the time I'm being honest will bite them in the ass EVERYTIME lol!

[@valleyofthedolls]

@@Blissid_Watersomg i am a water sign too! pisces and i relate to the op’s comment more than the first reply. i HATE expressing my feelings and my ego is HUGE lmao

[@valleyofthedolls]

are you a guy or a girl? i came across some of the comments you left in this video and they’re so relatable 😭

[@andreanavrg4415]

💯🤝🏽

[@shagynaz]

⁠@@Rebecca-GLainesI am too earth sign and clarification is very important for me so i say what i feel for my own peace of mind bcoz I don’t wanna regret in future that I didn’t put my point and no one can blame me later saying how would i know.

[@push_yourself_]

Brooo... This girl literally saved my life😢❤

[@nataliagonzalez6745]

Seriously

[@Vener349]

Same

[@knot_kisses]

For real

[@jolu1621]

True. Wish i knew this 20 years ago

[@samanthabv]

Me too!

[@noremac0123456789]

I don’t feel like I have to fight for love but rather, because I was mostly ignored as a child, I accept and feel more comfortable with that type of treatment in a relationship. Someone who is unavailable, disinterested, ghosts me, disappears suddenly is immediately on my radar and I “love” them, want to suffer for them…it’s sick, really.

[@vikramkanth8086]

My story is so similar

[@Cooltink101]

Same here

[@a_proud_hijabi_girl]

My story is so similar but I am tryna heal myself and my attachment style

[@arnowillekes7979]

I know that ‘sickness’ too but i refuse to believe it as more than a deeply ingrained coping mechanism…i have noticed more satisfaction in interactions when i and the other are not trying to trigger each other…outside of a the all-important joking relationships of course! 🙏🏽👍🏽❤️😋🤣

[@Woburngirl68]

I do the same thing!!!..so hurtful.

[@lbuzzmaroc8944]

One of the most subtle traps to fall in is when a person used to be attracted to you while you probably don't feel the same way towards them, but all of a sudden all the interest fades away, if you are not aware you can fall into a big obsession trap that is a mixture of the forbidden fruit and curiosity about why the interest collapsed this way? What did I do wrong? Is there a chance for me to win the interest over? If you start following these thoughts you will fall into quicksand and end up obsessed with that person and that's going to be a very bad plot twist for you..

[@SinfulGoddess1]

How do you stop it when your stuck in that trap.

[@SinfulGoddess1]

Cause the want isn’t really coming from the heart or real. Yet cant stop

[@lbuzzmaroc8944]

@@SinfulGoddess1 The desire is coming from your mind not your heart once you understand there's nothing wrong with you and stop seeing it as a challenge you will not fall, tell yourself that you already won their interest and that's enough the challenge is over nothing left to proof you weren't interested at the beginning why should you be now it's just a doubt in your self esteem you should fix it through your mindset and not by trying to recover the trash you've already thrown and were already picked up by trash truck.

[@ashwinisharma7593]

@@lbuzzmaroc8944 Can you please help me because I find myself in a similar situation. If you are willing, i want to share my situation with you. Please help me as I want to come out of this trap. Pleaseee

[@allyzamiesa]

​@lbuzzmaroc8944 wow.. that's rough.. but really helpful.. thanks for the tips..

[@Rebecca-vt7rp]

woah, this has definitely opened my eyes. When you said "i'm sure this isn't the first person you've obsessed over" made it hit home. it really isn't. wow. thank you for opening my eyes. i've done a lot of reading and research and have studied psychology but the way you've explained this has been like a personal therapy session. Thank you so much. i'm going to give you a subcription

[@chrishaynes599]

Are you suffering from Limerence?

[@Rebecca-vt7rp]

@@chrishaynes599 100%, trying my best to cope with the pain and not reach out. It's really difficult but watching yt videos is helping me cope

[@KevvaPMcK]

It's SO different when you get older though. At this age you might obsess over that one person because everyone else has baggage or is absolutely NOT your type.

[@draapulus]

Summary/ Overview: 0:00 Intro 0:50 Why obsession happens - Escapism 2:02 Childhood trauma - Escapism, Everyone has something 3:03 Fantasy - Idealization 5:59 Everyone is flawed - Projection, goals, meaningful life, take care of yourself, have choices, escapism - savior from bad boring life. Social, connection, community, needs, wants. Validation. Work on your self-worth/ yourself. 14:27 How to stop obsessing 1 Become conscious, its not about them, its about you, your unmet childhood needs, your fantasy. 2 Start seeing reality, get grounded into the present, reality check them and you. Get to know them, 'un-mystify them', 'un-fantasize them'. 3 Meet your own needs, what brings you meaning, solve/ work on your problems, self-development. Goals, work, career, hobby, community. Grow. Get focused. 18:30 Summary/ Repetition of the three.

[@marguskiis7711]

Just don`t be in love. Simple.

[@razz0dazzle]

Wooo thank you so much for this 😅

[@Magnificento03]

I always thought someone will come and save me and I still think. But I am trying to manage it by believing that I am that one person.

[@Ida-Adriana]

🥹

[@Ida-Adriana]

That is beautiful, my darling

[@Magnificento03]

@@Ida-Adriana thank you 😊

[@midoriokuizumi3381]

You have no idea how you helped me. How you "openned my eyes", I just had a "mind blowing". This video is AMAZING!

[@mohammedadnan9503]

Needed this so bad.. Thank you.

[@sallytemraz8614]

You are very wise and I think your channel is underrated!

[@beulahveena]

Yes true

[@jemimaoduwaiye]

I agree

[@emanuelmajstorovic9457]

Just wow . I was wondering why I am obsessed with her even after seeing her flaws and red flags and her being completely emotionally detached most of the time ,now I get it . Thank you

[@cinextvisuals]

I finally feel released bc you made me realize that it's not her, she isn't a unicorn. She just resembled the same avoidant style as my mom. Now I see that and I can accept that I created a fantasy of trying to feel secure bc of my mom. Now there is less power in it so thank you.

[@arnowillekes7979]

My mistake is that i get triggered into a saviour complex; i couldn’t save my mom as a young child from her traumas and intense grief and will always try to replicate the situation with anyone who seems similar to her…sad but true…self awareness and ‘proper’ management of my triggers are becoming essential

[@IAmMadMattDog]

I think this is exactly what I needed to hear. Framing it an issue with myself and not another person really helps put it into perspective.

[@msbonni3408]

This is so clear and true and when you said we look for distance because we didn’t have closeness as a child. It’s not about the other person. #wakeup

[@Munchkinbaby777]

Oh God, you hit the nail! I used to believe that my ex had this fantastic life that he didn't share with me (because that's how my life is,but I always shared and tried to invite him into it) and then I realised- his life was hella boring 😂😂😂 Now when they act all misterious I just assume they are that boring that they have nothing to say

[@KhadijaRanjha-u2s]

This just helped me a lot thank you for sharing ❤

[@Kavitha2324]

😂 thank you same case🎉

[@sal_onii]

Girl you literally saved me! I had been consuming so much crap on the KZbin such as Soulmates twin flame and manifestation shit I myself do not believe in but gave into it. I just needed to hear the advice you gave! Thank You so much! It all does stems from childhood as I look back now and yeah its NOT the first person I am obsessing over😢

[@twinsoul5156]

This has been …. Surreal. Every single thing you said was like someone put a mirror to my life and I was made to see it through your words. Every single thought pattern, actions and behaviour matched with what I have been doing all life long. I guess acknowledging it is the first step, then comes the acceptance part and then hopefully I will be able to believe enough in myself to even try to change this. Hopefully 🤞🏻

[@twinsoul5156]

Also, forgot to say - Thank you. As painful as it was to discover this about myself, I needed to hear it.

[@Vener349]

It was the same for me 😊 … good luck to you in your journey

[@nekotamo1851]

same. it sucks

[@albertpelletier9415]

This is the most valuable video I've seen on this topic. I wish I had this knowledge 50 years ago. It would have helped save me a lot of needless suffering and heartbreak throughout my lifetime. It's not turnkey. It still takes conscious effort and work. But my God, this is valuable information. Thank you, so much for producing and publishing this video.

[@paris_310]

You just healed part of me and that is very hard for anyone to do. You’re brilliant thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

[@suncat9]

You hit the nail on the head for me, Francesca. You know exactly what you're talking about, and everything in this video applies directly to me. I think you're a gifted psychologist.

[@jrs1128]

I'm obsessed with this channel, thanks for helping me, three months ago I broke up with my girlfriend and I'm still suffering a lot, but with your tips I feel that I'll be fine soon. God bless you and keep doing this amazing work.

[@cj-gc8gt]

Right to the point. I realized that i need to love my self first and find my self worth and not fantasizing or obsessing someone.

[@dmegamanful]

I never noticed that I was obsessed until I started to think of someone constantly and fantasizing. It made me uncomfortable but also curious. But when it started to make me feel sad, I felt it wasn’t healthy. After watching this video, I know what I need to do now and I really thank you for that. Everything seems so much clearer and also it did play apart from stemming from my childhood. I’m shooked 🤣 we humans are something, huh?

[@reyjusuf]

"You're not obsessed with that person. You're obsessed with the version of him/her that you created in your head."

[@YukonFox1972]

“Shared fantasies” with narcissists are tough to break away from. This is probably why so many of us also develop obsessive trauma bonds. 😕

[@lasvegasplease]

Spot on

[@FragmentOfInfinity]

For me the person in question is a coworker. She is happily in a relationship (with the PERFECT man, I must say) but she stops by daily so we can have deep meaningful conversations and also just laugh and share our day with eachother. She's an amazingly compassionate and gentle woman and is almost like the workplace therapist, and she's loved by everyone. I think she sees me as her brother due to our similar childhoods and trauma, and so we often talk of therapy or aelf therapy and our methods of coping and healing. I love this woman from the bottom of my heart and I want nothing but the best for her, flaws and all. But when we leave work everyday I see her walk off and I can feel my heart ripping open in pain from her absense. This is definitely obsessive behavior, and I just try and remind myself that she is taken but I cannot help but feel intense affections for this girl. Because I havent ever really had a girlfriend, there are probably needs I have that arent met. And the internal struggle to ask her to give me space at the risk of disclosing my real feelings and alienating her permanently is always looming. But I'm trying my best to heal the inner child and move on

[@Wikoduszek]

The most heartbreaking thing is that your video is not just a one-to-one description of my situation. Nearly eight thousand likes, five hundred comments, 140,000 views - and yet I searched for this video (the only one that has helped me and truly explained what’s going on in my head) for YEARS. Today, it just popped up on my main page. I don’t know how many people in the world struggle with these kinds of issues. Until recently, I thought I was one in a million 😆. Now I know I’m not. And I don’t feel any relief because of that. I just want to hug everyone who has ever experienced obsession or had a childhood that led to these kinds of problems. No one deserves this.

[@Sam._.8]

I don't know why I'm crying while watching it😭😭

[@celestial5036]

Because you are hurt and not ready to let go. You know she is right. You will heal too ❤

[@Lavenderfairy1905]

Me too I cried for my inner child❤

[@Thesebibbles]

We’re going to be okay :,)

[@arnowillekes7979]

You’re inner child is wounded and it recognizes this narrative as authentic, wish you courage 🙏🏽

[@AmritaMallick-am]

How are you? I'm in same situation😢

[@charade9971]

somenone had to put this in such a simple and straightforward way without overexplaining for it to finally register in my traumatized thick brain. Thank you! You have made the next steps easier

[@APP6327]

Thanks you for explaining exactly what is the root cause of obsession. Thank you so much 😊🙏🏻

[@MuhammadAliRaza-t3o]

whatever she says really made an impression on me and made great sense for me At first I thought it would be impossible to get rid of her and her imaginations and love i had in my heart but after listening to her videos about two weeks i changed upto 95 percent and could kick her out my mind now it doesnt make any difference for me if she comes back or leaves me anyway

[@Sicpuede]

This video is pure gold, with the exception of #2. Because after talking/spending time with the person I was obsessing over, it made things worse . She really is amazing 😢. But anywho, I still have to remember that this is about me and not her.

[@suzuissushii]

got real hard reality check 🤦🏻‍♀️ thankyou I really needed this

[@sahraa.6246]

thank you so much for your work! you are really saving lives out here.

[@Cherry-mp2qn]

Really love how you explained the root cause, needed this reminder. Thank you!💕

[@keniaoliveira4048]

😢 my whole life in this video ... now I understand perfectly what happens with my relationships ... and can get over this poisoned dynamic which controls my life and made me so unhappy! From the bottom of my ❤ THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤😊

[@apekshagandotra6104]

Best video I have ever seen👏 A nice slap of reality and much needed. Thank you❤

[@goofytunes1]

This won't change anything in my life. I just have to struggle with this shit all my life. I think looking at myself as the priority is the only way to go for 3 reasons 1. The other person does not care 2. I'm indirectly telling the other person that I have no options and life (humiliating) 3. Their is someone out their that is not on my level the other person is obsessed with but was aloof enough to win. So I cannot afford displaying neediness because I refuse to be a plan B in comparison to an inferior person. It's a disgrace to my ancestors.

[@ContentWithNoContext]

How do you know if the other person does not care?

[@goofytunes1]

In every interaction their is always someone that cares more, and the more the interactions go on the more the other looses interest, so it's like a trend that eventually places person A or B to not being interested, one has to always place themselves as the one who truly does not care, and whoever does not care about you cannot be an ally, so looking the other way becomes the only option. imo.@@ContentWithNoContext

[@valleyofthedolls]

@@ContentWithNoContextwe just assume 🤭

[@Kressa1111]

@@ContentWithNoContext Wouldn’t matter if they cared or not. You care about you and obsession is an unhealthy, delusional state of mind. Making excuses for it is only going to keep you in bondage.

[@nataliam895]

Thanks!

[@nih1107]

you are extremely intelligent plus fluent with your super conventional thoughts and opinions ❤

[@dazzax3370]

All you said makes a perfect sense when I use my mind but in my heart and emotions it so so hard to suppress it.

[@Juan-hd8lh]

Francesca, your videos are so good I may begin obsessing over you! 😂 But more seriously, thank you for this and all you do, excellent content and incredibly useful..!!! God bless you always..!!! 🙏🏻

[@darrelltaylor-zv1wy]

I'm so glad I found this channel. You are helping me see myself.

[@NadiaNusraat]

Girl, you are a life saver. But i forget things so might watch you regularly to remaid me that It's not about the other person, It is about my emotionally unavailable parents.

[@paskalaleid9718]

The way you described it and explained it is just amazing.

[@samanthabv]

Thank you Francesca. I think this is the first time advice actually SINKS IN. You are a pro!!

[@bluestarseed]

OMG ! This video just clicked in my head ! It was a turning point ! Specially when it comes to having the need to fight for love when I was a child ….

[@karenmachnik9641]

Brilliant!!! So true! Exactly!!

[@TerriSloan-g1v]

This was the most healing video I’ve ever watched in my entire life, and I’m glad I found your channel Thank you SO Much

[@YusufPeeally]

Thank u Francesca for opening my eyes, now I know exactly happening to me during many days.

[@ganeshr4371]

absolutely correct. in just one video i could find all root cause of my obsession and solution. you are spot on. Love the way you connected childhood to adulthood

[@jojobee0401]

You are an amazing person to save and change many people’s life! Thank you 🙏

[@xiaoiifyy]

"start building a life that brings you meaning." start meeting your own needs. damn.

[@BusterScrugss]

This is one of the most powerful videos I have ever seen on this topic. Great work 👏

[@bree9097]

This was truly put together so well. Thank you

[@ofe2780]

Most Wise Helpful Clear Advise ever.... scientifically and everything with great personality to really make a difference the way its explained 🎉

[@alessandracamaro443]

This girl is amazing, I see her videos and it’s like she saved me

[@Separo1]

Thank you, someone so young so full of wisdom.

[@cinamonanderson-ou1ej]

Omg 😱 absolutely escapism 🙌🙏😍 so glad I found this video thank you 🙏

[@clementeruizgordillo758]

You explain the first subject between 8:18 and 8:58 concisely.

[@tithi214]

Explained well! Thanks

[@shagynaz]

Aw thanking you so much i needed this, in initial part of the video i got very emotional and i cried and then i explained everything bit by bit now it makes sense. Although deep down i knew it but i needed someone to clarify that to me.

[@edgarhilario0989]

Thanks a lot Francesca, this was eye opening for me. I just found your channel last night and it’s been really helpful 🤩

[@user-ub8iq2td3e]

omg this video was so on point it gave me clarity on a lot of things about myself thank you so much 💗

[@Dpesh.Jadhav]

Thank you very much for this wisdom. Truly Life saving. Very much appreciated ❤

[@TimothySmith73]

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

[@julianapaiottischychof]

this video was damn helpful right now. thank you sis, your calmness is sooo inspiring

[@geenejames875]

That was extremely helpful! Thank you!!!

[@mansijain4258]

Thank you so much for this video. This will help me overcome 8 years of obsession. Keep sharing your work ❤

[@jaspertanxy5753]

Thank you for helping me...I've had this problem for a long time,years to be exact.So when I stumbled into your video yesterday,I was saved by all your explanation,so now I'm going to work on myself.Thanks a lot❤.

[@ma.jenniferjoaquin8041]

Thanks Francesca! I was feeling anxious all week, but your words of advice really meant a lot to me; I needed to hear that.

[@wf4983]

Very good video. Where this becomes tricky is when this fantasy object is not just that. Most often there is something that they did in reality that met a certain childhood need. It can be that the person just did it once (but it made a big impression)- or that the person just stands for this one (but very important) childhood need. e.g. there was a man once that protected me in a certain way, but then showed a very inconsistent behaviour regarding staying in contact: deep discussion and then no word from him etc. But this protection was something I missed so very much in my life - and I am still thinking about this person (even though I cut ties - because I just know now that this inconsistency is toxic)

[@flipperlady72]

Thank you for this video. Now I fully understand what my problem is. The last technique to build my own life is very exciting! I will be positive about my life.

[@itslabuhere.646]

Resonated with me.Thank you very much for this video.❤❤

[@elenacai5632]

I love ur podcasts,they are very useful, helpful !! I like something based on experience ,science and psychology

[@Monika-zp4ci]

Thank you so much for explaining all the real matter. No more obsession now ❤❤❤

[@Someoneonearth-t3s]

Your this video is going to change my life .... thankyou so much for being the guiding light✨

[@theunexpressedable]

You are amazing thanks for talking about these things they really open my eyes each time to why my mind works the way it does.

[@Darkprince1977]

I totally agree with all you have said. This is great information for those who are stuck in obsessive thinking. However there is another aspect to being "obsessed" with a specific person. Sometimes we come across a person where we have an intuitive knowing that the person's essence or essential nature resonates with our own you feel drawn to this person and it's mutual this could be coined as a soul connection. There is a recognition of unity. If this for whatever reason werent not able to fulfil this connection and it's left unresolved, this can lead to fustration and constant thinking of this person and it could even go both ways. If this specific person had to move away and what was felt was unexpressed this could make one think obsessively about that person as this kind of connection is rare. If a person is as you mentioned projecting then once that person has gone from their life they could move onto projecting into another repeating that same pattern, why would they continue to think about that specific person months after they left? But I do consider everything you said.

[@supremexz6130]

God Bless you for this GREAT video!!! You helped me so MUCH!!!! Thank you from the bottom of my heart!❣❣❣

[@patriciasadri2328]

Thank you for sharing these tips 👍 it explains a lot

[@theanikiforovich]

My God this is so true. As child my parents always argue and every day and night it was a nightmare to live with them. As I was going to sleep I was imagining a beautiful better life with tranquility and peace. Now that I'm an adult I found myself fantasizing over some situations or men that I liked. As almost none of my fantasies become reality even if i worked hard i start to be very sad. I don't like when I'm obsessing over a man knowing nothing out him and knowing nothing will happen yet, sometimes as I go to sleep still like to immerse myself in that fantasy world I created in childhood. I tried to stop doing it because is only causing me pain. I can't afford therapy so this video helps so so much. Thank you from the bottom of my heart 🙏🏻

[@Lucyxozxo]

Don't worry you are not alone . I also do this.

[@marcellaoreilly2730]

Keep thinking about them until it makes you feel ill you will literally be “sick” of them x

[@ramzirouhana6680]

Lool... doesn't work for me

[@marcellaoreilly2730]

@@ramzirouhana6680 give it time x

[@tcharlesrajan]

Very well connected to escapism and simple workable suggestions to detach

[@zhongxina8533]

best video I ever came across ❤❤❤ Thank You

[@vyshna2906]

Thank you so much!!!.. I haven't been more touched 💖 Now I really do understand.

[@kinxahasan5982]

Best video I’ve ever seen… Really needed it

[@carmelfaithvirtucio469]

I can relate but thankfully I am now doing this recently to cope up , so much better than my past self , so proud of you selfffff

[@joedonlan2979]

Sooo good! This really helped a lot! Thank you.

[@loriestrada.100]

Absolutely what I needed! Had to rewatch about 3 times. Thank you!

[@Marauder-eu9om]

1. Yeah , the thing that blocks me from that person is the fact that we can never have a fiture together due to religious differences. He told that to me directly yet told me that he likes me. 2. I have watched many videos on this topic and they all say that childhood trauma must be from our parents, but in the Family i have a very helathy Family but somehow your talks about fantasy reminded me about my thoughts when i was in school , this is something that i have forgotten about , you mentioned it here 7:59 ive been bullied and has had fake friends all throught out my childhood , and i hated going to school so i used to fantasise that im gonna someday get out of this and i used to stare at the sky while in school hoping that id go somehwere far where i can have a good life. And when i was around 14 years old i met a guy on facebook who said hes 22 years old (but in reality he was 40+) he used to tell me how much he loved me and even talked in a s * x ual way with me (t my age i didnt know much about such stuff) and i saw him as a way to escape my boring school life , he was that forbidden fruit and the guy whom i actually fell in love with for the first time. And i do still remember that the first thing i do after getting back from school was to open the laptop and look and reply to his message and it caused me trauma when he stopped talking to me, the only thought in my mind when i was in school was "i need to get back home to talk to him", then when he stoppped talking it absolutely broke me i went into depression , they were days which i avoided going to school because he was a way for me to fantasise about but when its gone i didnt have anything as i was in the reality. 3. And from 9:25 youre again right about me, im not happy with my life, im not where i wanna be , im not working on it either , i dont have an enjoyable life , the only enjoyable life that i had when i was 19 i had a good friend and we did some things together but later she turned out to be a snake and then covid hit and my early 20s just went like that and got to go back to university when i was 23. 4. At 10:09 you say that a romantic obsession to escape from my own life , spot on there too , during the covid time i was obsessed with a guy and it lasted for 3 years which is until the beginning of 2023. I have been so obsessed with him that i tolerated abuse , neglect and everything just so he would stay i begged him more than 300 times to not leave me , i was so totally obsessed. And even the final breakup happened just when i came to know that he was engaged to a woman even before our relationship started which i didnt know about, thats when finally i plucked up the courage to leave yet he tried to reconcile and tried to lie all the way back but it didnt work fortunately. 5. 14:42 , yeah and right once again , i chose this guy(this is a guy i met this february) because he was available to talk to me for hours and hours but still emotionally unavailable, the time he spend on me he know everything about me while i still dont know many things about him. He has this mysterious aura , and he just dont tell me about his plans like over the course of this 4 months he has visited a lot of places while i was just at the same place , i think this mysterious aura increased my interest perhaps because im having a boring life, i say hes emotionally unavailable because he mentioned many times that he likes me more than a friend , this "more than a friend" statement is what drove me crazy , he never said he want me as a girlfriend or amything. He says he cannot ask me out because of religious differences but he still maintained "i like you more than a friend and cannot see you just as a friend". And what pushed me into absolute total agony is the 4 months of consistent communication and he stopped talking to me last week (basically ghosting) , this has got me in absolute agony. Its like im experinecing some horrible withdrawal synptoms , because he gave me attention and validation that i always needed. 6. 15:00 , this is definitely not the first person i have obsessed over, this is the 5th or the 6th person i have obsessed over. 7. 16:00 , i ready know that hes not someone whom i would prefer to spend my life with , he is just a desperate guy so desperate to get laid that he can even get laid with a damn mannequin , i have tried to think all this but im still obsessed with him. I feel it may be that i am addicted with the escapism from my boring life that he has provided me and he provided me validation and attention for 4 months consistently and one week ago is when he stopped talking to me which im still going crazy about. 8. Yeah i did have goals but im in my mid 20s now and i dont really think i can achieve it anynore because i wanted to be a model as i do have a good body and quite okayish looks, but i have low self esteem i cant do it. Sometimes i do feel that i shoudl just end everything and leave this planet for good but i read somewhere that when we do that we dont end the pain we just transfer it to the people who love us and that somehow hit me hard and so thats the only reason why im still here . I feel my life is beyonf repair but yes atleast your video did give me the reason or atleast answered some of the questions which were in my mind. Thanks a lot. I appreciate it truly.

[@lilydara3194]

Damn! it hurts to hear all the truths about me.😅Thank you so much.I've had so much clarity on my issues🎉

[@mydearisyours]

The most useful technique video I’ve ever watched. Thank you.

[@allychar7316]

Thank you! This really put my life in perspective for me and it's time I get it together.

[@AntoniaMargarita-z7m]

YOU ARE SOOOOO RIGHT. CONGRATULATIONS.

[@EricRice-p2e]

This really helped me think things through!

[@colleensandland4851]

THIS completely opens my mind

[@lovetippi]

This is gold. Thank you. ❤ from Beijing China.

[@chaboki]

Damn girl talk to me like THAT 😍