How to STOP CARING what others think, letting go of their judgement & becoming confident.

[@dioh19000]

“If you don’t know who you are inside, the world will tell you who you are and you will believe it.” This!!

[@Xoxo.1604]

That’s real!!!!!!

[@ang4ls]

True

[@WiseChris9]

What does it mean to be wise?

[@fangirlinneverland6335]

I AUDIBLY SCREAMED OUT OF HAPPINESS LIFE IS SO GOOD WHEN YOU POST AND YOU LOOK GORGEOUS

[@Persephonesmind]

Thank you my heart ♥️♥️♥️

[@rustam900]

@@Persephonesmindyou said your confidence is not because of others complement to you but it’s from your own but let’s add this too. You are awesome

[@shermantay1254]

@@Persephonesmind thank you, from the bottom of my heart, for being the lifesaver in my life.

[@kittyyy777]

I bought an outfit a week ago. It's a cute black skirt that exposes my belly. I wanted to wear it to my boyfriend's birthday, but his family dislikes me. I put on this outfit and started to cry in my boyfriend's arms. He told me how beautiful I am, but I only cared about my fear of looking unattractive and that everyone could see my belly. Then I watched this video that reminded me that I actually like my belly. I had only cried because I thought they wouldn't like it. After watching this video, I told my boyfriend that I would wear my cute black skirt and that I no longer cared about their opinion. I'm sending a little piece of my positive energy with this comment to thank you so much for opening my eyes.❤

[@u1tr43]

You did it right! Everything would be okay, love your belly😊❤❤

[@aleenawaqar909]

Earlier today I prayed to God to somehow teach me how to let go of people's judgements about me. I feel like He's answering me through this video ❤️

[@R4V3N_777]

same !

[@magicalsheep777]

Same !!

[@tripleb1960]

Very same for me.

[@tingememilian8988]

Same here

[@aseel7605]

1_ Accept the fact that you will be judged. ‏‪0:42‬ 2_ your self worth is not attached to someones opinion or judgment about you . ‏‪1:22‬‏ 3_ Don't let your confidence depend on other peoples opinion about you. ‏‪2:00‬‏ 4_ you know who you are . No one needs to confirm it, and no one is able to destroy that. ‏‪3:26‬‏ 5_ people only have the power over you that you allow them to have. ‏‪3:50‬‏ 6_ stop ignoring your potential. You are here to embrace yourself. ‏‪‏‪5:47‬‏ 7_ Transform their negative by imagining how every energy they lose by judging you is going to fill your cup positivity. ‏‪7:00‬‏ 8_If you don't identify or agree with a judgment, if won't affect nor hurt you. ‏‪8:30‬‏ 9_ We are all the villain in someones story. ‏‪9:59‬‏ 10_ Some people project what they dislike about themselves onto others. ‏‪‪10:32‬‏ 11_ whose thought is that? ‏‪11:26‬‏ 12_You are not your thoughts .You are your soul experiencing your thoughts. ‏‪12:23‬‏ 13_There's a thin line between hate and obsession. ‏‪13:15‬‏

[@editsdharma108]

Tysm! ❤

[@aseel7605]

@@editsdharma108 welcome ❤

[@zazaaaaaaaaa1]

@nxbxxha_1764(I’m a girl) and you’re not ugly baby you are so beautiful and gorgeous. (Judging by your profile picture 🩷) Don’t ever say stuff like that Towards yourself. Even if you think you are ugly, if you keep saying that to yourself you would believe it. This actually worked for me and it’s to say your pretty/beautiful/gorgeous/worth it/cute etc in the mirror even if you don’t believe it at the time and you start to believe it after some time, it’s like your brain alters the way you think and stuff ifykwim. even when I think I look my worst I look in the mirror and still think I look beautiful like wow. On the other hand your gorgeous and it’s not an opinion it’s a fact 💗

[@samara.dadonnn]

@nxbxxha_1764 you’re actually beautiful so idk what you’re talking about ….

[@mer-yyx]

That's perfect 🤍

[@Persephonesmind]

I deeply hope that you understand that no one and nothing outside of you defines YOU. Embrace yourself fully and let go of any judgement that is sent to keep you down. I love you and I believe in you. 🤍 www.youtube.com/@Alinaviol is the KZbin Channel of Alina that I mentioned in my video ♥️

[@Dolce-Vita1111]

Needed this. I'm working on self validation. For example I would stop wearing a perfume I really like just because my mother said it's not a nice scent. I hate being like this! I mean, we are different. She only likes flower perfumes so everything not flowers disgusts her. By the way, she never wanted me to be feminine, care free and happy so everytime something feels good to me, she said it's wrong! And she's not the only one to do that so it's huge red flag when people around you just want you to never shine.🌅 Thank you for this powerful message 🌟

[@free_mind_writes]

please recommend a book to deal with social situations like this...social intelligence

[@dables.a.2767]

​@@free_mind_writes I recommend: How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. This will help you a lot, it is a good book for you.❤

[@bozhanatoneva1973]

The problem is that I've been trying my whole life to be more yk friendly looking so with different people I behave a different way and it's gotten so bad I can't choose for my self I dont have a personal opinion most of the times( one because as i already said i cant think for myself or two because I would understand both sides) and I define my self worth by others and I know I should stop and defy my self worth from within but how can i even do that when i dont know myself

[@dables.a.2767]

@@bozhanatoneva1973 It's the million dollar question

[@Guddu-go6zy]

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[@tiaa458]

FYI any comments mentioning this book are bots lol it’s a scam

[@ethiopiazoldyk4667]

Thanks for this 😅❤

[@jal1ilaa]

This reminded me of something. In my religion, if someone talks bad about you they actually lose good deeds and those good deeds are given to you. Just shows you why you SHOULDNT care what they say. Theres a story about this ancient Arabian prince. Someone came to him and told him: This dude talks really bad about you. Then, he literally sent a plate full with delecious fruits and gave it to the guy. His people were shocked and they asked him why he did that. He replied: "Well, he gave me his good deeds that he worked hard for".

[@worood_81]

are you muslim?

[@mer-yyx]

You're a Muslim girl?

[@iluwmei]

EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS FACTS, PERIODT.

[@Punki505]

EVERYONE WAKE UPP. THE QUEEN HAS POSTED😭🫶🏻

[@zainabmelendez]

Last week i started posting my poems on my socials. At first i was scared but the most important thing is that i'm doing what i love. I know i will attract the people that like my content soon or late✨️

[@siiwiekxjjzjs]

The best piece of advice I have been given on public perception is "You may hide your potential, but people SEE who you truly are. And if they don't see, you can bend over backwards, but they won't notice, because they're not ABLE to see."

[@Sweetest_dollie90]

Sadly I used to care about what other people thought of me until I found this video I found my self worth and love. And I honestly don't care if people don't like me I not always their type and that's fine. I really love myself and my happiness can't be find by anyone else but myself. So for my girlies who went through this similarity I'm so sorry and I'm proud of you don't give up and be unbothered cause you are a beautiful queen. God bless you😊❤🫂

[@kpk498]

You have changed my life. I know you would probably read a lot of these comments but fr you helped more then my psychologist who I’ve been with for years for this exact reason you should be so proud of yourself luv you always! I’m really happy I can present n calls and talk in class now!

[@Persephonesmind]

My heart I am so proud of YOU 🥹♥️

[@irlprettiestdoll]

girl im crying, your passion makes my heart melt

[@melancholicpoet]

I love you so much. Thank you for this reminder. I'm a teenager who can't do public speaking because of my fear of being perceived and seen, and it has affected me and my school performance quite a lot negatively. I have so much potential but I'm not using it because of my fear. Thank you so much Alessia for being like a big sister to me ❤️ You have no idea how much this video has helped me and your words. I'm getting better now thanks to you 💌 (these words of mine aren't even enough to express my gratitude to you)

[@tripleb1960]

Try your hardest to lay that fear to the side even temporarily when you are performing publicly. I know you are great at what you do because of how self-aware you are. ❤

[@melancholicpoet]

@@tripleb1960 Thank you for this reply. ❤️ One thing that I also learned recently is that I need to live for myself, not for anything or anyone but myself, and this really helped me with my fear of being seen and perceived

[@bambidollie]

honestly thank you, i'm a more gentle & calm reserved person and i've always felt i needed to be more "outgoing" and extroverted. don't get me wrong, i love talking to people but i am just more calm and can appear uninterested. and for years i thought i needed to be more loud or funny. i cared so much for years and it made me hate who i was & create this fake personality. now though, i've learned to just embrace who i am.

[@fatenumberinfinity]

6:40 wow, i've never thought about it like this! this is a fascinating and very helpful concept, people who talk about you actually lose their energy so it's their problem really. they are wasting their life and even sending you their life energy.

[@diorshivi]

Thanks for one more lesson mother, just when we needed it. Love your intuition and our divine connection 🙏🏻💞

[@s7ells]

Alessia sharing her knowledge with us is something i will never be not grateful for💗

[@bhartichawlaaa]

Your self worth is defined just by yourself and not other's opinions. ❤

[@jufreitws]

thanks for the advice. as a teenager who lives in the modern world, i suffer a lot with online gossip, ppl post a lot of things abt me (the most r not true) EVEN VIDEOS!! im tired of being insecure bc of this, im tired of being uncomfortable in my clothes bc what ppl say im gonna stop caring abt these ppl bc their life is sooo empty that they need to talk about me to have smth !!! i loved the video!!! thanks a lot 💘

[@temporarilyher]

loving you is easy cause your beautiful 🤍 loving you is all i wanna do ✨

[@Persephonesmind]

You sweet soul, I love you too 🤍

[@superdani152003]

You have no idea how much I needed to watch this video today, thank you ❤❤

[@syren-d7o]

My literal angel! You uploaded this when i needed it the most. You have no idea how much love i have for you, thank you 🤍

[@naiashakhila4705]

Thank you so much, pretty lady. I've been down ever since my family didnt support me for my dreams and you boosting my confidence. Ily mother i hope nothing but well for you❤❤ may Allah protect you aamiin❤❤

[@ScarletteArbus]

The point of views of this video is so beautiful and so true!!!Good job Ale!!

[@vanessaprincesssa]

I absolutely agree with everything you said! Thank you, Queen Alessia! ❤ And the best thing is - I have already started implementing this into my life ❤❤❤

[@enhaa0920]

this is what enlightenment feels like, thank you alessia♥

[@LoveManifestTruth]

Thank you for this. You are so on point. Keep doing what your doing. Your videos are a blessing to enrich people

[@vanessaprincesssa]

MY FAVOURITE VIDEO SO FAR, THANK YOU, BEAUTIFUL QUEEN!

[@aliftjeon]

I’m 24 but I look very young, I started my first job and I have to talk to a room of 50 teenagers sometimes. And 2 times, 17 yo girls where laughing about me, mocking me and made me feel like sh*t…. I cried so much at home they don’t realize how mean they are. I have to work on myself to not care anymore if it happen again and know my worth… But it hurts so much

[@savage_girl_07]

Oh my we are on the same boat. I'm 19 and I give tuition to a few teens and kids but boy they are SO mean. Most of the times I ignore it but sometimes it just stings really bad at my weakest points, and just like u I cry at home afterwards. But nonetheless it teaches me a lot about myself and i continue to evolve into my better self.

[@DexterMag-aso]

Your guide to shedding external judgments and finding confidence resonates with Lisa Haisha's teachings. In her recent retreat, she emphasized the power of self-validation. Your message is truly empowering.

[@Yappingtwentyfourseven]

Mother how? Please how? I NEEDED THIS TYPE OF VIDEO I NEEDED THIS OMG you really r a divine being.😭😭😭

[@Persephonesmind]

🤍🤍🤍

[@kennyb8795]

Thank you for uploading this topic. I really needed this to know I’m struggling from low self esteem when it comes to living my life without the fear of judgement from others.

[@roseck3253]

I can’t describe how much I needed to hear this video… I’ve been looking for someone to say this for months! I’ve been suffering from extreme social anxiety at work and this has opened my eyes

[@JyotiSingh007]

You’re an enlightened being and your words make life worth living. So grateful💐

[@ribbonsinmyhair]

alessia. this is actually getting scary. this is EXACTLY relevant to what is happening in my life rn. thank you alessia ily🌟🌟💌💌

[@sayka3750]

"You are not your thoughts" that hit hard

[@lavenderhoney777]

Just a year ago, there was a group of people in my college who used to talk sh*t behind my back. They made a group just to spread rumors about me. One of the girl told rest of my classmate that not to share any notes to me. They used to make fun of me when I was studing in the class / library .How horrible you know? I have to face them each and everyday. But I started focusing on myself. That's it. I know karma exists.

[@FaerieTidbits]

Imagine being that obsessed 😂 good on you sis, step into your power!!

[@lavenderhoney777]

@@FaerieTidbits yeahh. Ikr ❤

[@missaayaah]

girl may God bless you , thank sooo much , i really needed that 💐

[@obsidica]

this made me realize that im socially anxious and withdrawn because im afraid of others opinions. thank you for this.

[@raylenemariposa2569]

Does anyone even notice that instant smile when she mentioned about alina??? Like that's so freakin cute 🥰

[@Shiaa.24]

Why is it always that, whatever you post is always exactly what i need, THANK YOU MOTHER❤❤❤

[@ХахаХАХХАХАХА-е6т]

Queen, you're kinda wonderful tho. It's such a weird experience - to live nowdays. You help me to stay calm and undamaged. I mean, the whole world broke apart and you helped me to overcome through it.. so thanks, stay as healthy, beautiful, mindful and brave as you are now! Love y'all, have a nice day♥︎

[@givetheravioli3364]

Girl you are glowingggg you look amazing. This video is so well timed because I was thinking about this yesterday 😭

[@hasty-ti3dg]

Idk how to thank you, you changed my life tysm

[@Heartsfor_dia]

Dear Alessia, I hope this letter finds you well and thriving. I wanted to take a moment to express my gratitude for the incredible motivation and inspiration you provide to others, including myself. Your words and actions have a unique way of encouraging and uplifting those around you. Your positive energy is truly infectious, and it has made a significant impact on my own journey. Whether it's through your motivational messages, achievements, or the way you navigate challenges, you serve as a beacon of inspiration. Thank you for being a source of motivation and empowerment. Your resilience and determination are not only admirable but also a driving force for many. As I continue on my path, your influence continues to propel me forward. Wishing you continued success and fulfillment in all your endeavors. Thank you for being a guiding light for so many. With sincere appreciation, (Gracèlyn)

[@aloneNDunseen]

I swear dawg she be spitting fact and i jotting down notes in meh mind

[@EliskaJou]

You are not their version of yourself.

[@Tina_rose1]

I love this

[@nana-oi7vl]

i love u sm 🩷you’re so inspirational

[@Persephonesmind]

I love you too 🤍🤍🤍

[@lavexcoms]

I smiled when i clikced on the video just in a few seconds of you saying positive words made my day!

[@maureenm7341]

yesss just what i needed! i love you so much Alessia 💝🎀

[@Emmyscornerr]

Hi queen!it seems that everytime I see you,you get even prettier!!

[@9zve]

JUST AT THE RIGHT TIME I NEEDED THIS SO BADLY, THANK YOUUU🌷💞

[@Gothy_Guru]

I am finally taking control of my life and embracing my confidence instead of trying to hide it ❤

[@aylin.s19]

"If you know who you are from inside, the world will tell you who you are and you will believe it"Ppl only hv the power over you that you allow them to have. STAY UNBOTHERED.

[@pinkflowerpetalsxo]

Girl yes!! Honestly, on and off for over a year I felt like I needed to just be alone and connect with myself, and I just IGNORED THAT FEELING. Fast forward, I realised how much of a doormat I was being, and I seriously feel like it attracted more mistreatment towards me. If someone told me I'm x way? I'd believe it, sure sometimes not fully, but even if I had PROOF their words are not true, a little voice in my head would doubt myself. Even now. But if I didn't ignore my possible intuition urging me to connect with myself, maybe I wouldn't have dealt with those things, well, I definitely wouldn't have! It's so important to self validate!! :) I've also been a people pleaser for years, when I overcame it, it sometimes slipped back. Just a little reminder that it's okay to have those moments and sometimes we will fall / slip but we can always fix it. ♡♡ Also, you're beautiful and it's lovely that you don't care about their opinions! For too long I let certain people affect me with their judgingness, lies put on me etc etc..! Even though I cut a certain person off, I sometimes found myself feeling guilty, I do wish things would have been different but they never seemed to take accountability, I can't keep making excuses for people, (including myself) it made me get walked over..! At my core I am very soft hearted, but it became too much, I let myself get walked over and if people claimed I was any negative thing I alnost always believed them, I always consider peoples words but sometimes it was just plain untrue and I can't just let it keep affecting me. Thankfully I'm getting better lately by just self validating etc etc and loving myself 🌸 I can't believe it was that simple.. ♡ I have been self validating but it didn't help me enough, but getting to know myself has helped me alot also. I'm not all the way there yet. I've made mistakes too, it's hard for me to overcome sometimes but by being kind to myself it helps + trying not to care about others opinions. 08:06

[@harshpadiya1112]

I'm going through the exact same shit!! how are you doing tho? :)

[@alanaS2.]

You are everything to me girl🥺 thank you so much for creating videos

[@thecherryhere7]

I OPENED MY PHONE AFTER A STUDY SESSION AND I SCREAMED "MOTHER POSTED!" AND JUST JUMPED IN HERE. YOU LOOK GORGEOUS I CAN'T STOP ADMIRING YOU MOTHER 🛐

[@ellieabreu7388]

i LOVE your videos and seeing you get more and more comfortable in each one. the passion in this video invigorates me so much! now i want to go and get stuff donee

[@sahdaufa]

ALESSIA OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH ❤ i really needed to hear this right now

[@ash-kk3ib]

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED I LOVE UUU💕

[@aylin.s19]

what we hate about ourselves sub consciously.We fight it outside. when this thing happens, we fight it, criticize it

[@Nusaiba06]

Omg I was waiting for my my BIG SISTER 😭. I love you with my whole heart and God bless you ❣️

[@Seekingsophia00]

I needed to hear this! Thank you

[@aylin.s19]

They sent their energy in negative form to u, lose their precious time, not thing bout their selves but you.you are important that they used their precious limited energy to you for youuuuu

[@DIDR-l5j]

i was today very anxious because of the fear of judgement because I failed an exam and I thought everybody thinks that I am stupid😢 Thank you for this video ❤ It helps me a lot ❤

[@HeleneOl-os3uq]

Girl thank you so much. This is very helpful ❤❤

[@harshithabangla]

hello queen thank you for your videos and a friend like you to get is really really rare ,your friends are really lucky to have you❤❤

[@arware1334]

I love how u always post about things that are im thinking about and haven’t found solution for yet

[@veryswaggylol4326]

AHHH ALESSIA AND ALINA'S CONTENT IS KEEPING ME GOING RNN

[@mar-gc2yl]

caring about what anyone else thinks about or says about you proves that you define your self worth by their opinion about you. your self worth is not defined by anyone or anything else outside of you but yourself. don't let your confidence depend on other people's opinion about you. my confidence came from within, and if your confidence is not coming from within, you will spend your entire life searching for someone else outside of you validating what you can't even validate about yourself don't let anyone outside of you who doesn't even know you tell you about who or what you are. you know who you are. no one needs to confirm it and no one is able to destroy that. if you don't know what you are inside, the world will tell you and you will believe it. you give these people the power they have. if u dont give them the power over your self worth, decisions, they are powerless. people only have the power over you that you allow them to have. stop ignoring your potential. if you don't identify or agree with a statement it won't affect nor hurt you. sometimes we subconsciously believe these things because our inner voice tells us this, and when we hear it from someone else we believe it. if you believe you're not you're not good enough you're not pretty enough you're not smart enough and someone tells you these things of course they hurt you because they reflect your inner voice they reflect something that is within you that you don't want to integrate into yourself because you do not like that part of yourself. you need to heal and work on that part of yourself to build that confidence. if someone says something abt you, it is their opinion about you. they don't even know who you truly are at the end of the day except you and Allah. so it doesn't mean that it's true. we will be a villain in someone's story but if you know who you truly are it's not going to affect you. most people are also projecting see we all have Shadow Parts about ourselves and the less we integrate this Shadow part into our conscious self the more we will try to fight it on the outside we don't accept that part of ourselves and whenever we see someone else representing this part that we deeply hate about ourselves this is where we fight it on the outside. some thoughts are not yours, they are planted by others, doesn't mean it's true, and doesn't mean you should believe it. if they are obsessed with you, they won't ignore you. when you don't liek a show you own't watch it. same with people. they like you enough or are obsessed with you to a point znd care so much they would spend their time and energy on you and your life.

[@gayathriv7431]

Thank you for this….. I’m watching it for the first time and it’s so inspiring and helpful THANK YOU ❤️

[@natalie1560]

you are my mentor for real, I'm so thankful

[@daliyaa8]

How mother post everytime when I'm in my luteal phase and I needed it most😭😭

[@rustam900]

This girl is awesome. God bless you

[@mishalkhan9678]

Omg i really needed this!! I have been thinking about so much things nowadays as my boyfriend says i am a gold digger i am delusional this and you think you are better than others blah blah and i cant get it out of my head!! Thanks for this alessia❤

[@andregustavolr2k22]

I don't know if you'll read this, I hope you will, but I'm leaving my house now after being expelled by my toxic mother. I reached a point where I couldn't take it anymore and I'll face numerous challenges in my life from now, and your videos are really helping me not putting my head down and accept what is being said about me, things that are not true, because my mother never listens to me with her ears, only through her triggers.

[@kiaa_81]

I love your videos And we need more of it 😩❤

[@kanji8671]

Yes. When people say woah you did a good job. I feel happy. But started that work , the whole progress by myself. I encouraged myself. I had fire within myself. That kept my passion alive. Others complement didn't boost my confidence. I know some people will judge me . And I know how to react

[@BushraAkbarQuadri]

This video was really I was meant for to watch. Thanku soo muchh

[@jiyadilipbhalodia]

How can u have such a perfect timing gurll❤❤❤❤

[@iam_tofi]

i finally gain confidence to make my first yt and i am so thankful for giving me enough confidence to start!

[@me-vd7rm]

I love u so much omg u have no idea how much this helped

[@kittyparfait]

THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I really needed this and I’m so grateful for your advice, you taught me so much from all of your content! I’m so proud of you

[@sienspire]

I love you so so much and everything you have ! I'm having fun watching your videos please always take videos for us queen

[@SarahRief]

First video I watched and I LOVE you 🙌

[@Persephonesmind]

I love you too ♥️

[@divaraj7628]

you're like my beautiful doll who came to life to heal me ❤

[@sachinreddy2836]

Love this. Going to rewatch this anytime the haters send me their bad energy

[@0MLML0]

Omg i swear u have no idea how ur advices are effecting on me i love u sis ur words always show me the truth and make me feel sacrificed 🌹✨💗💗

[@me-vd7rm]

I love u so much omg u have no idea how much this helped me

[@Factsbypluto]

I did hug a tree though as i had free will. You added me in the story' ( your secret society magazine) thankyou for recognition!

[@Melodiousarcia]

Thank you so much I really needed to hear this

[@heyyy1325]

3:30 REAL. and 2:18 !!! love u queen ur spitting straight FACTS

[@mgr1go]

Your videos are helping me so much. Thank you ❤️

[@lavenderscentedletters]

THANK YOU FOR THISSS AAAAAA I LOVE U !! 💗🎀

[@Sara-wm8in]

Thank you for your words and energy, so eye-opening

[@aylin.s19]

You are not your thoughts.You are your soul experiencing your thought and later on these thought become energy that radiate out of u and in most cases it isn't even my thought it was planted in my mind i mena all cases

[@aaronlyons555]

This video helped me so much thank you💞