What the 16 Personalities are like on their DARK SIDE...

[@FrankJames]

You may remember I did another video about the "Dark Side", but that was about the 16 Personalities weaknesses, not about their tendencies that could negatively affect others--watch that other video here!👉 infj.me/3C3XMZf

[@trinaq]

Okay, thanks for the clarification, Frank!

[@andrejka_sacred_coach]

what are ways for each type to navigate each other types dark side?

[@CaveyMoth]

I should have known you were just trying to manipulate us this whole time, FJ!

[@jenncplus3255]

@13:04 the mention of Skyrim was awesome. No worries, Frank, some of us get it. 😉

[@tanyas8596]

Hey man, I got a reply to a comment on this video about a giveaway on telegram. Is this really you? Thanks!

[@lukedufresne7866]

Welp it's my turn I guess: 0:34 ESTP - Recklessness 1:13 ESFP - Often does not consider the consequences 2:03 ISTJ - Control Issues 2:52 ISFJ - Catastrophizing 4:10 ESTJ - May unleash A Tirade 4:54 ENTJ - May see others as merely a means to an end 5:37 ESFJ - Friend or enemy no in-between 6:23 ENFJ - Zero tolerance for conflict inciting behavior 7:10 ISTP - Intentionally will do what they want in a way that may upset others 8:00 INTP - Believes They are smarter than everyone else around 9:10 ISFP - Obsessiveness towards something 10:22 INFP - Laser Focus on negative spirals (to almost nihilistic levels) 11:36 ENFP - Test the limits of the rules or norms in negative manners 12:42 ENTP - Questionable methods for figuring out unknowns 13:56 INTJ - Will use the architect mindset to build a future that benefits them 15:23 INFJ - Malicious Manipulator Hope someone Liked this. Also well done as always FJ

[@RM-ti8nf]

Yep that was a good summation, thanks 😀 and after reading it, I think my ex was actually an INFJ, not ENFJ 😜

[@aestheticlover5234]

Wow you give the dark-side types too, very useful!

[@twitzmixx8374]

I thought of doing this, and you made it perfectly. ✧⁠\⁠(⁠>⁠o⁠

[@Dontfucklewithdashuckle]

As an ENTP, I usually sum up our dark side with one word: Selfishness. When we only care about figuring out the things that interests us only for our sake which can be something important but even just out of straight up amusement disregarding anything or anyone else

[@Dontfucklewithdashuckle]

@@RM-ti8nf That's easy to identify. Was she rejected from Art School? No ENFJ Yes INFJ XD

[@HyperNovva]

Frank: The INTP's dark side is that they feel way smarter than everyone else Me (an INTP): Huh yes but I thought- Frank: Now the INTPs watching this are gonna be like "hey but I thought I _am_ smarter than everyone else" Me: WAIT HOW DID YOU KNOW-

[@wolfyblue]

as an INFJ i really didn't expect manipulation would take the cake, I've always thought it's when we use our gathered observations and data to crush someone that made us snap or angry, then i realize it's actually also a form of manipulation, in the end we really be manipulative without realizing it

[@michelacherchi]

When I am at my worst, I really do know that I 'm doing it, but make myself at ease momentarily for "vendetta" and self justice: in those moments, I really do care only for making it pay the major amount of demage for making me upset, knowing that I really do pay a part of it as well later, (when sober from the drunk on self justice)...and sometimes, even saying half baked lies for manipulate the situation to my advantage...but I really do try not to be in this kind of positions, when I can, I run away from them, the most I can...I don't really like this way of me being a "toxic manipulative atomic bomb"

[@wolfyblue]

@@michelacherchi i too hate manipulating because i know the feeling of being manipulated and i dont like to have someone feel that feeling but i notice now that we seem to consistently unconsciously manipulate and has actually became a habit to us, it doesn't necessarily have to be bad since most of the time we manipulate the situations for good like what parents do when they want their kids to behave and such or manipulate someone's feelings to uplift them, whenever we intentionally manipulate for the bad though we feel a strong sense of guilt which is why we dont often intentionally manipulate hence to us we seem like we don't manipulate that much

[@henrysmusic5212]

As an infj i can confirm i do manipulate people but mostly it's a positive type more like pushing people in the right direction and helping them to do the right thing but I'm at regret most of the time even if it does benefit them at the end of the day. I have been manipulative unintentionally in a negative way too without even realising it. It's like an uncontrollable part of myself. Like i just keep accumulating such a lot of anger and rage within myself till one day i explode and someone may get the worst of it. I didn't realise that was being manipulative and now i realise how fucked up my dark side is. with the knowledge and understanding of other people it's just too dangerous. And i know when people are manipulating me at times and it just hurts to hurt that person but then i end up manipulating them. And i admit i lie a lot at times and i don't even realise it i picture myself as an honest human being but this side of me kicks in to push people and help them or just out of a fit of rage.

[@michelacherchi]

@@henrysmusic5212 I think it's a twisted gift... When used for good, you can be indulgent when using it... But when in rage mode, is devastating and I even call it "corrosive"="corrosivo", it's not simply a poison, it's definitely an acid, really the worst. I really do like being onest the most part, even sometimes when I can sound so really impolite, because there's times, when you can't be onest, and simply saying things "euphemistically", like I try to, when possible...I try, really, to not be "corrosive", when enraged, but sometimes, is the world that takes the best of us at worst level, and even this, is so frustrating I can't blame myself all the times, if it happens

[@numlx1068]

I live with an Infj and am enfp he is stepdad kind of not really. Probably because im a enfp i tend to notice whenever he's being subconsciously manipulative about something like he'll try to tell me about his opinion on how a certain person does things and I'll just know that it will also be a "lesson" to me on how to act. A lot of conversations I have with him even if they are casual seem to have an undertone of trying to teach me something. It's not like he's evil bad man trying to control me (but sometimes it feels that way) but more like he's trying to genuinely help me. However I always end up thinking, "why doesn't he just tell me directly? is it because he thinks ill react differently if he's being subtle?This is more complicated than it needs to be" I mean sometimes they are direct but as a true enfp I truly don't like being controlled so it always makes things suck.

[@MelodicQuest]

INFP here: My dark spiral had me in a bleak outlook on life that lasted months. What took me out of it was an act of kindness by a complete stranger in my most desperate hours. My advice to others feeling the same way is: There is kindness in the world. Sometimes you have to be strong enough to reach out.

[@birdyghostly]

And I think it’s our duty as kind people to also reach out to others in need of help once we’re in a good place. :) I’m currently in a really dark place right now, and I plan on being nice and to show acts of kindness to everyone I meet as soon as I get better. I think everyone else should do the same because it will make the world a better place to live in. :) As F types, we should always strive to make this world a better place with whatever we have and can do :)

[@kat.aleeen]

Your best bet if your infp is to find structure and a routine that will help with your mental health , like the gym etc

[@MissSirenita]

As an INFP, the dark emotions is too much on point that it’s scary. I’ve been there and my parents call it a deep rabbit hole nobody can get me out of while I drag those who want to help me in with them. Of course with a lot of help, I’m doing better. But when I was dark, it was dark dark.

[@nicolek.8563]

As a fellow INFP I can confirm.

[@aflood3446]

Same

[@INFP_smoky]

Real,no one can bring me up,literally everyone i know tried their best to help me,but i feel like I’m the one dragging their mental health down with me

[@NancyGaming64]

I have a sister who helped me alot as she is an INFP. So she does let me in after a while, letting her alone. This makes things easier

[@cygnemignon5507]

Same here, dark of dark. (even tho I tested INFJ, I relate much more to INFP so I guess the test can be wrong and/or autism can distort the results).

[@3sheets2thewind98]

As an INFP who has been through some pretty dark times I found myself utilizing my dark emotions for as much creativity as possible and I’ve created a lot of dark works

[@ForBidden1510]

that's so creative!! i'm also gonna write smth when my dark emotions take over

[@Raina_Agarwal]

Same!😢

[@saintfighteraqua]

Some of my best writing comes from the dark times. Poetry flows like a river and boy, some good stories emerge.

[@marianremedios5290]

Damn it. I have a lot of those but I think it is not healthy for my readers to read it.

[@3sheets2thewind98]

@@marianremedios5290 I’m in that same boat lol

[@willowshaffer7410]

17 year old INTJ here. I would add, based on personal experience, that when INTJ's feel incapable of creating a better future somehow, they will begin to despair. At least that's been the pattern for me. Over the course of my teenage years, I've sunk into some pretty serious depressive episodes where I've felt completely walled in by the feeling that I can never improve things enough because of the mistakes of both myself and others

[@YourMom-iy6cv]

I have a solution. Get therapy you intj take forward thinking to the next level, what happens if life doesn’t go as plan what happens if the world ends fricken tomorrow and then an alien does a poo on your house will u still invest in being an entrepreneur thenn

[@grazynawolska8160]

Yeah, totally relatable intj feeling. Best thing I can say is to sometimes take a break from our dominant functions spelling doom and gloom (Ni and Te) and just step into our other introverted personal of ISFP and just enjoy the day, go for a walk, buy and drink favorite coffee. Listen to some music or watch favorite movie.... just step into the Fi-Se. It will help.

[@willowshaffer7410]

@@grazynawolska8160 music is an absolute life saver, I will say that :)

[@Jooney91]

@@grazynawolska8160 ​this is very good advice. Stepping into Fi and Se helps you understand you're not responsible for whole world nor you have to be a change this world needs. Take care of your mental health, find your passion, create and enjoy your life. You never know how much of an impact and change you can make just by setting an example 🙂

[@armchaircoach]

Hey fellow INTJs. Totally relate here. Self criticism and high standards will stay with you most of your life so best is to adapt. Agree music is a healer, and self compassion is tough but helpful. Either way, you'll be just fine 🙂

[@parimahmotlagh]

Intj is a dark side himself. Doesn't need other side🤣🤣🤣

[@darth-imperius]

An infinite sphere of darkness 🤣

[@ChrisBurnerOfficial]

🤣🤣🤣 That's so me 🤣 Either pick a side or be taken out 🦾👊🏽

[@parimahmotlagh]

I think that frank James understands that an enfp (me) would write a comment quickly just hopping that frank James sees it😂😂😂

[@afrosamourai400]

Same with entj estp and estj these are natural villains lol..

[@user-dead_but_not_the_end]

Yeah lol, these people nowadays anyways ur right 😂

[@uglypotatoe8055]

Yeah my darkside always appears when i'm in a bad mood, then ill start to annoy everyone just for fun ISTP-

[@purpleserenity137]

As an INFP, we wallow deep in our negative emotions since we feel them on such a deep level. Since we're aware of how deep our emotions go, that is where we tend to go quiet and not be so outward with our emotions since we don't want to harm someone intentionally with out negative emotions. However, if you get caught in crossfire, you WILL know how we're feeling. It's like a dam being released. And yes Frank, we'll get creative with letting someone know how we're feeling but it's mostly restrictive to our imaginations since we don't want to harm anyone.

[@helgaioannidis9365]

INFP here. I was saved from this dark spiral by love: My love for other people and seeing how painful it was for them to see me in such a bad place. Love is our superpower. 💖

[@JadestonePony]

As an INFP, same. In addition to loving other people, what helped me immensely was also learning to love and value myself properly. I wasn't just a useless waste of space incapable of contributing anything to the world. I had to keep trying to acknowledge that, even when my brain kept lying to me and telling me that I was a complete disappointment in everything.

[@sexytechreviews_]

Nope, there are plenty of INFPs who use love as a creepy and destructive controlling weapon. And it tens to be the sort of love that makes the INFP feel good. You goobers will cry over how many feelings you feel and then feel so many emotions because you feel so much love. Not really elegant refined adult love though.

[@JadestonePony]

​@@sexytechreviews_ I wont deny there are definitely INFPs out there who can get pretty unhealthy and manipulative with their feelings, and I definitely understand how frustrating and toxic that behavior can be to deal with. That said, for the rest of your comment, I'm kind of wondering, were you making an attempt at provocation, or was it the tone accidental? It's fine if you don't like INFPs -- not all types are the most compatible with ours after all, and I think we do generally take longer to mature and stabilize than other types -- but I would at least encourage you to not take the unhealthiest and most troubled members of a group and paint the rest with the same broad-sweeping brush. I find that's a pretty good rule to use when looking at any group of people in general, and it keeps your mind open to new information you may not have heard of before. In any case, hope you've been having a good holiday season, and have a Happy New Year!

[@wintertontoday]

@@sexytechreviews_ pls have some ice cream or something because you sound bitter. Also why governments should not have the power to enforce lockdowns when other countries did not, and have the audacity to fine people for being more than 5km from their homes, influence companies to follow the same tyrannical stance and fire people for choosing to not take red/blue pill when said pills were not sufficiently tested and should any adverse affects happen take no liability for pressuring people to take the pill - it would be "oh well". I met a woman over xmas whose healthy 20 yo son, Melb Aus, dropped dead early 2022. Cardiac arrest. Had absolutely no health issues whatsoever. This is being documented all over the world too, people randomly having heart failure and dropping dead. Innocent people who did as they were ordered and took one of the pills. It's easy to take out your upset on other people, say the INFPS, (personally the ENFPs drive me crazy), but how about the people who make up the rules as they go as well as mandates? The same people who in other countries imprison conscientious objectors who want zero part in killing another person under the political farce of "security" /war which is always the result of people arguing and a refusal to make compromises in the name of peace and to prevent the deaths of the innocent. Rant over. Happy new year.

[@philrei2797]

Love... Why can't it stay with me forever... I mean, I have someone who care about me, I know it, but she can't rly be as close as it used to anymore and... Ugh, it's complicated... I just wanna hug...

[@fc-gc6mx]

I came here just for the INFJ part. As an INFJ myself, I can confirm that it is so true. We can be, and are, manipulators, especially when things are not working in our favor and we are trying to get things right based on our own standards.

[@Suret1124]

Yup...

[@olivierestrada5233]

Yeah sometimes unintentionally we slither our way into people's minds.

[@melanieodhner4686]

​@@olivierestrada5233 So true! I try very hard to be consensual about it tho. Like, "Hey is it okay with you if I rummage around inside your brain right now? 'No' is a reasonable answer."

[@UltraFG5488]

As a 15 year old INFJ I never really have been manipulative but I always knew I could be of I wanted to.

[@artemismoonbow2475]

Being an INFP watching these 16...compilations I'm always like, "oh, I feel that, maybe I'm that? Let me make a story of my life in 4 seconds and feel that I am that." And then I see the INFP bit and I'm like, "Oh, there I am. My emotions and capacity for imaginings reach the infinitude of the cosmic abyss and turn inward to the point of singularity. Yup, that's me." lol

[@rociocollazo9109]

An INFP here, and yeah, I just got out of my black hole year. It felt just like that.

[@connor8709]

it's such a big difference, isnt it?

[@corollavirus4age]

but do you still have your Ferrari 812 superfast 800+hp brain power / Imagination tho?

[@JadestonePony]

@@corollavirus4age Most likely! We INFPs are pretty much saddled with a Ferrari 812 superfast 800+hp imagination for life lol.

[@rociocollazo9109]

@@connor8709 Totally! I don't have a hole in my chest anymore lol

[@rociocollazo9109]

@@corollavirus4age I still have it, of course haha. But I found out that my brain can't fully process the potential worst case scenario when it's right in front of me. Picturing bad stuff cause I'm bored? Sure. Picturing my worst nightmare cause it might come true in the next hour? Nope, show me some memes, I can't think about that or I'm gonna break without no actual reason. But anything lighter than my worst nightmare can be totally imagined lol, and it is not a really scary thing.

[@happysloth4441]

Time stamps, also merry Christmas everyone! ESTP - 0:33 ESFP - 1:14 ISTJ - 2:04 ISFJ - 2:51 ESTJ - 4:10 ENTJ - 4:55 ESFJ - 5:37 ENFJ - 6:23 ISTP - 7:10 INTP - 8:02 ISFP - 9:10 INFP - 10:23 ENFP - 11:38 ENTP - 12:44 INTJ - 13:57 INFJ - 15:25

[@happyhapp6]

ESFP for the second one, not ESTJ

[@nahyanislam6742]

you forgot ENTJ

[@mimimo555]

Thank you.

[@blattsee6095]

True God mode here Thx

[@sexytechreviews_]

Slightly off.

[@unionunicorn6776]

As an INFP I’d like to formally apologize for my near constant depression and negative mood spiraling. I’m sorry if this has ever brought you down. I’m going to try and work on being a more positive person in 2023.

[@Musicandfilms7]

Time Stamp 0:32 ESTP 1:14 ESFP 2:02 ISTJ 2:50 ISFJ 4:08 ESTJ 4:53 ENTJ 5:36 ESFJ 6:22 ENFJ 7:08 ISTP 8:03 INTP 9:09 ISFP 10:23 INFP 11:38 ENFP 12:42 ENTP 13:56 INTJ 15:24 INFJ

[@thedarkdiamond1207]

As an INTP, I can agree. Especially when I've had issues with friends and family these past few months. I feel like I'm in constant competition to be better than those around me, especially in school. It has led me to be more isolated from people. I began pushing more people away. I feared having friends because of the issues and the things people have done made me isolate myself even more. I've isolated myself to work and things that appeal to me. It's a toxic mindset, and I hope to be able to make things right.

[@bethtaylor9773]

I got one of my daughters who is an INTP the game Everdell. It's so unique and detailed in the rules but very quirky that she loves it. Now she's socializing with it, getting people together to play it...and she's the gamemaster.

[@thedarkdiamond1207]

@bethtaylor9773 ah. That's awesome. I personally like to think of different situations and events as well as solutions. Like the world has a bunch of problems to solve. I think of strategies as if it's a game of chess. And I like to think of what if things happen differently in sets of events. I think the main way to socialise better is to find "Your people" or a community that you feel are supported and welcomed in. It can be a group of friends or anything really. Just look for people that you can connect with

[@rheegret8405]

Fellow INTP here, I hope things get better! I've definitely been there, and it's easy to rationalize isolating yourself, but it's usually harmful long term (still working on that one myself).

[@willowway42]

You need to lean into enfp friends. They will appreciate your genius and overlook your 'toxic' mindset 🙂👍🏻

[@kunogi09midori]

Also a fellow INTP, I’m sort of noticing my dark side recently too. I seem to be a bit more mean recently when people approach me. It’s like “you want this? *throws the item* go get it!” then hope that person will not come back anymore.

[@NadejdaC]

You really caught me with “quitting the Job 3 days after getting the job”. 😂 As an ENFP I just felt something was wrong, misaligned with my core values.

[@adarcus4053]

My personality type is INTJ-A as a woman and in my five person managerial counterpart team there's a second INTJ who's a man. It's actually really fascinating to see how to totally different INTJs function and how society rewards male INTJs and frequently punishes female INTJs. For him his obsession is data using data to create the future that he wants that he seeks to build a well-oiled machine. I end up using people as my mechanism to build a well-oiled machine create inspiration hopes and aspirations. I know that may sound more like an empathetic statement The truth is is that at the end of the day the only person I really care about is me. If other people benefit that's awesome but me is my number one priority. And I think that's for me, that dichotomy is the collision between societal expectations of women being nurturing team players and a personality that wants to win at all costs.I work for one of the five biggest companies in the world in a very small capacity unfortunately. I've already proven at my level that I can get extraordinary results but I'm also willing to throw every single policy out a freaking window in the process if it doesn't benefit what I'm seeking. When I got one of my assistants in February of this year his words to me were I have never seen such a honed team. I truly made a precision instrument of humans out of seemingly the most disorganized pieces courtesy of their work contract. All of that was created by me and about 6 months by myself with only my pure force of will and cleverness to keep us on track. INTJs rightfully can be scary but so can all of the other personality types too just maybe not as obviously. I personally have absolutely been called a bitch, monster, horrible and many other names. Yet every single time people actually spend a day with me they find out that I am one of the most passionate people about my team I'm just not demonstratively kind but if you need something if you're hurting or you need help I will do whatever it takes to get you help. I've straight up explained to a different assistant that them coming in sick and not restingwould render them useless to me and the team so I don't want them around. Ultimately there is no better or worse personality type. I've been fortunately blessed to have extremely good counterbalances come into my life over the last year at work. Those people who did not have my personality type are part of what really helped me help my team. I may have the architect's mindset but I need non-architects to get me to that future.

[@cellgrrl]

As a female INTJ I never could understand why it was so hard to have friends earlier in life. Finally I realized I don't think like most women. Not that I act like a man but I think like a man and thus I found I do much better making friends with men than with women. The thing is, I don't always go along with the program, I don't respect authority unless they have earned it from me, and the greatest superpower of them all...I really don't care what other people think of me. But I was lucky to find a very high IQ ENTP for my husband. He is happy to do all the talking I prefer not to do.

[@kaorikanzaki5429]

As a female ENTJ, you sound like my type of person. “Honing a precision instrument out of a person” your lines have me enraptured I’d really like to know more about how you honed your team....I’d appreciate any experience-based or personal advice you could teach me to be able to employ so as to make people work for my ideals and be able to lead one heck of a team to produce consistent results, no matter their capabilities, strengths and weaknesses

[@keithauguis2844]

Being a 15 year old INTP, I can confirm this "dark side" you said, Mr. Frank. Sometimes, I feel a little intellectually superior from those around me, especially my fellow classmates. I've won many medals and achievements in school or tournaments in particular prior to my current age (this was before I was self - aware). I briefly and selfishly assumed that students who hadn't received the same achievements as me, had inferior minds. Of course, this was before I was aware of my current capabilities, knowledge and insight. The time I became self - aware though, and became conscious of my capabilities when I was at the age of 14, I realized that acquiring some of the academic achievements I received are really a big deal for other people or at least, students who I sometimes assume, more intellectually inferior than me. I remember my father said, "When you were young, the things you were capable of doing, are special. Be thankful and be humble always." For me, feeling intellectually superior is fine, but when I use my intellect and wits to guide others and help them achieve greater things, I feel good and feeling recognized of my capabilities. It's not that I use my superior intellect to show off and to feel amused though, but instead, I like to think that when I talk to someone about something I know and knowledgeable about, I feel secure of my capabilities.

[@lailanitukuafu]

I wouldn't say I'm a completely healthy INFP, but at least I don't blatantly bring down everyone else's mood. I still feel like a black hole of negativity sometimes, but I slap a pretty little bow on it in public so other people can still be happy. Or if it's so bad that I can't do that, I'll hide myself away until I'm emotionally presentable again. Definitely not healthy lol but I'm trying

[@thepointlesswords290]

Same here

[@pikafan8598]

Same

[@wallflower_365]

This helped me identify some stuff in myself surprisingly. As a somewhat stressed out INFP wanting my passion project to be perfect I've lately became rather cold to those around me. Becoming annoyed by the tiniest things and sometimes even snapping at people I care about for very trivial things. I've become so inwardly focused that I realized how detached I am from my usual patient and charismatic demeanor. Luckily I've apologized to everyone and am trying to de-stress as I'm approaching my deadline. I know it's not going to be perfect but I still want to do a good enough job.

[@norazulkifli2517]

Same. INFP here.

[@grys9245]

Istp here. You’re right, and something similar happened recently, but just in my head as an idea. After being forced to interact with the (normal and not unpleasant) people i kind of wanted to troll out of spite, i remembered they are nice, normal people and that was enough to extinguish the idea. Evil fe shenanigans are unpleasant indeed.

[@melodyconte]

As an INFP during the holidays it's really hard not to feel like everyone's against you, but then through the years you become self aware and realize you're the problem, which in turn is probably why everyone is against you... 😭🤬

[@naaimanadeem9507]

Let's say a person A has agoraphobia, the person B never experienced this phobia. A and B both interact. B will start thinking that A's behavior is unreasonable and weird. Since phobias and mental illnesses are invisible, people are often quick to criticize those who suffer from them. Imagine there's a person who's one leg is broken. He has five friends. His friends want to race. Do you think if he'll not race with them they'll get angry on him? No. Because they can clearly see the problem, so it's easy to reason. You shouldn't just be self aware. Increase your awareness of other people too. Increase your understanding of the world. You may be the problem, but it's not your fault. And because it's not your 'fault' don't be sad. If you'll dwell on negative thoughts you'll rob yourself of the peace that is still accessible to you. If you think you are a problem, you'll become a problem. Self fulfilling prophecy. Don't take life tooooo seriously.

[@Reu8enofleon]

@@naaimanadeem9507 Or… learn to communicate better.

[@SamAsm367]

That is stinking thinking. Neither extreme is the truth. Reality is somewhere in the middle and much more nuanced. A good therapist can help.

[@Unelith]

I kinda suspect you might not be "the problem". Especially in a situation such as holidays - sometimes nobody is "the problem", some people are just incompatible with some other people, and should ideally not be stuck in a room together for too long, or otherwise there will be conflict and pain. An INFP (individualistic, rebellious and introverted) during holidays (social, based on the group's traditions), where you're likely to run into at least a few of xSxJs (they are about 40% of the entire population). What could possibly go wrong? /s Consider a more-or-less opposite scenario. An xSTJ joins a tabletop role playing game session with 4 xNFPs. Everyone is 15-60 minutes late. Everything takes forever to set up, as the process gets interrupted by random conversation topics that keep popping up. Even once "set up", the table is still a total mess. There are no plans regarding how, when and where to get food - "we'll just figure it out once everyone gets hungry". During the game, everyone just mostly wants to do either random cool things or act out highly emotional dialogue. Nobody cares about the game rules (or even has the game manual on them), and they all end up altered on the fly anyway. Sometimes, people might even handwave plot holes, because to them, it's not the exact length of a castle bridge that matters, but the underlying emotional themes. Add then the session ends 5 hours past the expected end time. The xSTJ would be driven *mad* by the chaos. They'd perhaps try to take charge, but nobody would listen to them. So, who is "the problem" then? Some would claim what amounts to be "the odd person out is always the problem", or perhaps "the person with a personality most different from mine is always the problem", which admittedly is a pretty human way to feel, but I find such an approach to be shallow. Some personality types are rarer than others, so they will naturally be "the different one" a lot of the time, and it's just nonsensical and hurtful to alienate someone based on that (which frequently is, unfortunately, what happens). They already feel like fish out of water in those situations, no need to make it even worse. INFP is one of such types. INFPs are also pretty sensitive, self-reflective and usually conflict-avoidant (as evident by your comment). They also tend to remember and revisit strongly emotional events from the past, and to feel guilt regarding things they used to do, even if (or, perhaps, *especially* if) they no longer do those things, and even if those things are of minimal importance. A lot of self-criticism may accumulate over time and it's easy to, at some point, just go from "everyone else is terrible" to "I'm terrible", when it's probably neither, you just naturally don't feel comfortable when out of your element. My personal experience: I've stopped attending family holiday gatherings and I'm better off. Everyone else that wants to see me doesn't like my choice, and there were moments when I've felt guilty about that, but now I think, that perhaps they should have paid some attention when I was telling them, multiple times, every year, that I don't feel too good when they trash-talk my looks, my hobbies, everything about me basically.

[@Unelith]

@@Reu8enofleon Better communication is useful in a lot of cases, but sometimes you try and put effort into it and it doesn't really work (some people have a really hard time figuring out how to communicate and beyond a certain point it's just not worth the effort). And sometimes you do end up communicating well and it just turns out the expectations of each side are mutually exclusive.

[@millenialfragrancenerd94]

INFJ here, and I gotta tell you this analysis is spot on. I feel like us INFJs can be rather vindictive if someone wronged the people we care about. Correct me if I'm mistaken!

[@flutterwinkle]

As an ENFP, looking back through my life to the times when I was showcasing my dark side, it was usually a cry for help. I perpetuated chaos and darkness, becoming an uncontrollable force. All the while I was hoping someone would notice that I needed comfort and support. I was depressed, angry, and fed up with circumstances in my life. Some people may look crazy from the outside, but they’re really just hurting.

[@dromedariamagica]

I feel you. -ENFP

[@thatonedrainedplatter5421]

Fr, this is present me. -ENFP

[@creekli5273]

I'm feeling this right now -ENFP

[@mcgil8891]

@@thatonedrainedplatter5421 :( sending you hugs

[@mcgil8891]

@@creekli5273 :( sending you hugs too

[@thedreamer215]

INFP, yeah, I get sucked into the darkness sometimes. Currently, I'm looking for a way out, but the light seems to fade in and out randomly. While in this state, I never try to make anyone else feel bad. I basically just disappear. Sometimes, the road gets rough, my friends, but keep moving forward. Give yourself credit for anything you pushed yourself to do today, even if it was taking a shower or eating. If it requires effort on your part, then you are moving forward. And never compare yourself to others. Sending positive vibes to everyone 💞. Happy Holidays 🤗

[@jimUkay]

I was feeling down for about two years until one day while sitting in church, praying and talking to the Lord when he gently told me my answer to my problem, "you need to stop thinking about the bad moments of the past and aim for the future to help others with me helping you achieving this." And ever since then I was so excited for the future. Remember that you have Ne- (Extroverted intuition) to help you with that. 🙂

[@dominicstarr3065]

Happy Holidays from another INFP!! I just wanted to let you know that it Will get better!! Maybe not as quickly as you would like (I'm coming out of a several year long dark spiral myself) but things Will change!! Stunt cut yourself off from the people you love, even if you're afraid to drag them down with you. Everyone needs people to lean on, and sometimes they are what save us!! The Best thing I ever did was open up to my ENFP best friend about my attempted self deletion, and through his help I am now in therapy, have support from friends and family, and I'm in a Much better place!!! So, am that to say, dont give up!! The light at the end up the tunnel isn't as far as you think!!! Sending love and hugs your way!

[@Izabela-ek5nh]

Yes I also disappear because in this state of mind I feel not only a burden to the world but a sort of threat. Like I was poisonous because all that darkness in me. So better not to have any contact with anyone (with a huge desperate need of warm hug and acceptance the same time but this doesn't happen so I'd rather stay in my rabbit hole forever..).

[@thedreamer215]

@Izabela I'm sorry, I hope things have improved since this post. I know with the weather changing to Spring, I feel better with more daylight hours. And the warmer weather makes me feel like I can leave my apartment if I really want to.

[@maia-maria1971]

As an intj i just want to say that it's not a dark side that i have, it's a dark personality

[@sexytechreviews_]

Oh look a real INTJ.

[@Jodla33]

+1 - intj person

[@ttawananna]

INTJs are more emotional than most people

[@Jodla33]

@@ttawananna I can agree, but it makes my personality darker tbh😅

[@Windwhisperer03]

As an INFP I totally agree. From September to February I was in a very bad internal mood. The worst was in October or in November. I struggled with low-self esteem, social anxiety and being in a class where I only know two or three people who already made new friends in the class. I was hanging out with one of them and his new friends and I was always hyper anxious about if I truly belonged here, if my presence wasn’t a nuisance, things like that. I think I’m pretty good at hiding thing (though I also think that I’m not) sinon the surface I was mostly neutral but in the inside I was fueled by my low self-esteem and my darkest thoughts. Today, we’re May 30th. I still hang out with this group of friend that I love and I realised that everything was just my mind trying to fuck wit my mood. So, my fellow INFPs out there, if you have dark thoughts don’t worry, it’ll go away. It may be hard to believe but yeah, it will. Try to remember the positive experiences in your life and if you start to have dark thoughts, tell yourself that your mind is lying to you. Stay strong my fellow INFPs !!!

[@elenawhite88]

I’m always a little stuck in that INTP rut, where I dedicate myself to an obscure topic and no one else would get it, or rather, they don’t care at all, ha. When I get far too deep in my search for answers, I feel alone and un-relatable, so I basically self-ostracize. In this "dark side" of ours, we view all relations with people as shallow and fleeting if it doesn't somehow pertain to our interests and understandings. The thing is, I know when I'm doing this and isolating myself, yet I get comfortable because it seems like I'm "protecting myself" from the sensation of being an outcast by doing it before anyone else can. Then I lament why I have to be so weird and closed off. I'm always fighting myself lol.

[@kunogi09midori]

Also INTP, I appreciate shallow and fleeting relations because it’s easier to escape or protect myself. Distancing yourself from people before they push you away is so relatable. I also do down-smart myself on purpose if its to protect my intellectual status. People appreciate more when you act more dumb, really what’s wrong with people.

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

​@@kunogi09midori Can you explain what you mean by down-smart yourself to protect your intellectual status? Does it have something with you growing in an intellectual pursuit towards wisdom to accommodate people? Sorry if you deal with a lot of jealous, selfish, insecure people who don't appreciate your gifts.

[@kunogi09midori]

@@JohnHenrysaysHi Speaking out has the risk to make stupid comments/statements so if there’s risk, no matter how smart inside the brain if not communicated well it will instead be stupid. To prevent that from happening, either to make a safer comment/statement (like saying I don’t know even if you know or state general facts) or stay silent. But yes, also to accommodate the general surroundings. Some topics can be off putting like in my place anime has a line between normal and otaku.

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

@@kunogi09midori Gotcha. Really appreciate your insight. Thanks! Hope your week is going well.

[@eun5150]

im INTP too. u r not alone :))))))))) we can be mates if u wan.

[@PixelionRules]

For the INTP one, I totally agree. I'm an INTP and one of my friends is also an INTP. He is EXACTLY how you described. I've seen him change because he apparently knows everything, which I and others have proved wrong several times.

[@StephanieJeanne]

That was both entertaining and scary! Haha. The "dark side" of every personality can do some real damage. 😱 As an INFJ who sometimes feels like a terrible person, I have never manipulated anyone for my own personal enjoyment, so I feel a little better. 😆 Thanks, Frank. 😊

[@artemismoonbow2475]

oh, INFP here and dark INFJs are like the worst thing in the world for me. Looking into the dark as a way of relating and feeling empathy for another is like my life and dark INFJs are like, "yeah, I do that too, as a means to destroy you!!! *evil laugh*" I can deal with the Dark ENTJs Machiavellianism (sociopathy) to a degree, at least I can feel pain for them. But the Dark INFJ gives me the heeby jeebies.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

Sim. Eu também sou assim. Já manipulei alguém tentando fazer o que era melhor pra ela ou, no máximo, para nós dois. -INFJ

[@StephanieJeanne]

@@GrafinVonHopper Sounds like it was with good intentions. 😊

[@Boba_cat027]

12 y/o INFP-T over here😅 This hit so close to home considering I just had a freaking nervous breakdown when a classmate asked me who I was on social media. (I ended up ghosting him, which is very unlike me). But I had countless thoughts about how everyone in my class would find out I ghosted someone and stop talking to me. I’m a major over thinker and my brain was like, well *your life is trash lol*

[@LifeAsaHumanOnEarrh]

as a writer, your channel has helped me a lot at making character arcs. spc videos like this one. also as an Infj, you are absolutely right. though we usually manipulate ppl for their own greater good, sometimes they become annoying and we know which button to push to make them do what we want.

[@sylviaisafoot6570]

Yes same! I use it for writing characters too! It helps a ton. Not an INFJ tho, sorry

[@Am_._]

I also use it for developing characters, INFP tho

[@murisantos]

Same here hahaha It helps a lot indeed.

[@Holy_qu]

Yeah same it helped a lot

[@tomjohnson4922]

I'm digging the facial hair... and as an INTJ I've come close to crossing over along with adding some INFJ into it. Thankfully I'm also an a major introvert so it relates mainly to my Sims.

[@sabrinatraversa6586]

LMAO, I was getting ready to read about your scams but bless the Sims.

[@trinaq]

Happy Christmas, Frank, hope that you enjoyed your first Christmas with your little boy. As an INFJ, people are often surprised that I even HAVE a dark side. It emerges at the most random, unexpected, moments!

[@sethvandycke904]

I don’t rlly tell people about my dark side…. But I have let it show a couple times and everyone was surprised. It rlly does come at random times, it usually happens to me when I’m tired and in constant stress, which is when my internal filter of what to say and do is just not working.-INFJ

[@holleighlordel1575]

Thank you SO MUCH for never cursing so I can let my pesky five year old watch with me, and I can share with anyone I want. Much appreciated!❤ I can identify with the black hole of INFP and, sadly, the collateral damage of ENFP. -ENFP

[@lauraleelooloo]

Same... My ISTJ just said I was being a Manic Pissy 😒

[@cyberhiker3892]

I am confident that I am an ISTP, and all of the descriptions of the personality darks sides' before the ISTP all seemed to be a description that I have possessed/acted, but then he described the uniqueness of ISTP dark side having a Vin Diagram of "things that will upset other people," and "things I want to do," and I could not help but recognize how it works.

[@ElliottTheIdiott]

INTP here! I've already had a (toxic) friend end our friendship because I'm a "know-it-all that thinks I know everything" which I'd be fine with being told, but she said it like she wasn't the pot calling the kettle black. I was dealing with some real hard struggles around the time, AND giving things to her (bringing extra lunch, letting her stay at my house for an hour or two after each school day bc health issue stuff from doctor, etc.) so she maybe could've been a bit nicer instead of texting me in all caps, SPELLING THINGS WRONG ANYWAY ("barely" became "barley" and she didn't use the correct form of your/you're), and saying how I ruined her life because I'm a know it all and apparently people called her weird because I'm weird (which I've never heard anyone call me, they either don't talk to me, try to avoid me, or have polite small talk with me). 🤷 Glad im over that toxicity though! I'm in a much better mental place, I felt so freed once I went a few days without her as a burden constantly bringing me down.

[@naowright9308]

This is actually a triggering one for me. I was brought to my dark side by an ESTJ who was living in his dark side while also living with us. My ISTJ husband would do nothing about it as it would be a violation of his programing to step in, and my INFJ sister in law kept trying to justify it in her mind and keep me justifying it as well. I was brought to my brink, my tipping point, my dark side and almost ran headlong into rash decisions with my children as the collateral damage, but thank God I was stopped. Now the ESTJ is gone, but I have had such a disdain for their system that it has been hard for my ISTJ husband. I also am around some INFPs who struggle at times with their dark side. One of which I am certain lives in their dark side more than they should. I am doing my best to stay out of my dark side because it is not healthy for my children. They need a mother not a lunatic. -ENFP Edit- You are doing a great job FJ, sometimes we need to face our dark side so we can overcome it.👏👏👏

[@bende384]

Yeah you definitely fell too deap into this type shit.

[@tadakatsu14]

INFJ here, I can confirm I’ve used positive manipulation. Especially the kind you mentioned where like you’ve stated, gives the person the idea that it was their idea when it was really mine. I’ve only used the manipulation in a negative way once someone crosses me. At that point, I’ve lost feeling or care.

[@mikudach]

Yeah same,as an INFJ there nothing that I fear other than myself being evil. We know our own potential and if we want to make the world burn,we can do it easily without being spotted. For example we can trigger all of other type dark side without them realising it. And even if I'm spotted,I can take them out either directly or manipulatively without being spotted as well. If we can rate out the evilness of all personalities,we might as well the most wanted😂

[@XaniaKorinec]

I did not expect this as an ISFP, but this is correct. Usually happens when you're at your low - physically or mentally, whenever such an obsession started, I was at some sort of low - either too scared to lose my job (without actual grounds) so I got fixated on it, or fell deeply for a hopeless guy because I was, well, thinking I was going to end up alone. So next time it starts, I'll make sure to remember your video and try to work on it, getting down to what it's cause by

[@HinsonDude]

What I don’t like about my personality type (INTJ) is that everybody just sees us as “planners” and nothing more. Yes, we do plan ahead, but that’s not just what we do. We want to be known more than JUST PLANNING AHEAD.

[@tanyas8596]

OH my this made me laugh so much!! I'm an INFJ and my husband is INTP. I think I'm the only one "worthy" to understand his genius hahaha. He also knows my abilities and has a healthy respect. I am starting to think that we could be with no other personality type without a fatality lol Great video, congrats on being a dad!!

[@robbieravensravensrobbie4876]

As and INFJ I would never do anything bad just for fun...but for protecting me, other people or for the sense of justice

[@jo4183]

As an INFJ,I think I’m kinda guilty of manipulating someone without knowing. It’s quite easy for me and sometimes,I don’t even realise that I’m manipulating them. I kinda regret it tho 😃

[@olivierestrada5233]

It does come weirdly natural to INFJ's.

[@andreyburmagin3030]

Thank you for your content. Thank to you I realized that I'm stereotypical ISTP, I gained some confidence and now I'm more satisfied with my life.

[@rasalghul211]

INTP here, personally my dark side is when I'm being unkind to myself more than necessary. Ignoring everything I feel and focusing on what's the truth. Which will lead me to really mean conclusions about myself. And that could go far, taking away all my confidence to the point where I don't think I'm smarter than anyone else, which is in my experience way worse. Idk if i could make my point...

[@jimUkay]

Yeah I was there too. I was feeling down for about two years until one day while sitting in church, praying and talking to the Lord when he gently told me my answer to my problem, "you need to stop thinking about the bad moments of the past and aim for the future to help others with me helping you achieving this." And ever since then I was so excited for the future. Remember that you have Ne- (Extroverted intuition) in your stack to help you with that. 🙂

[@elenawhite88]

Agree absolutely

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

It makes sense being worse because at least if someone is very egotistical, that ego could drive someone to help many people, and while maybe spiritually it's a bad path going deep into pride, at least they'd have the health to have many opportunity to turn their life around to be humbled whereas, please correct me if I'm wrong, but I think that kind of lack of confidence is more harmful to the individual where he or she wouldn't be able to help anyone and just grow deeper into depression close to despair, and that's awful. It's very painful. Thank you so much for sharing. Please be kind to yourself! I've struggled not having confidence thinking I'm stupid and worthless so reading your comment helped me out! Hope you have a very light-filled day, Ra's Al Ghul. You were a reason I argued against the notion that Batman needs the Joker to be interesting when I was a kid because I liked you more and thought you were his best enemy! You were so cool with the sword fighting and how you'd judge Batman's and Bane's intellect through Chess! Take care!

[@JohnHenrysaysHi]

​@@jimUkay God bless you.

[@sianaDIAX]

I know a dark INFJ. I confirm. He has a way with words, it's terrifying. You would believe you are the problem and sincerely apologize when he's the one stepping on you.

[@apollofan1019]

As an ISFJ, I'm more inclined to think that the dark side of us is the inability to express the things that hurt us. Like fr I'm not gonna let you know you've hurt me and at the same time I'm gonna keep it for me and boil down all the anger and this is how a relationship can become easily toxic. It may be a chance that at some moment I'm gonna break down, throw all the stuff that I've been holding to myself to the others around me, or my liver is going to shut down because of the stress accumulated. If someone smokes the hell out of their lungs Imma tell them it's bad for them once or twice but after that I'll keep it to myself and I'll aply it to my own lifestyle while letting eachothers do wtf they want. I don't deny that aknowledging some information I may hold it strongly into my beliefs and think everyone around me is sooo stupid because they can t see things my logic does, but rarely I express any level of despise.

[@highlyfavoured73]

That's basically how he described ISFJs in his "how they kill relationships" vid

[@victor-fb8sh]

as an ISFJ I am everything you described

[@Rosie-uf5ox]

My ISFJ loved one is exactly like this.

[@amazxngvero2645]

Guilty as pointed. I am an INFJ and only after I reminisced it back that I realized I have done those manipulation many times in the past. Now thinking about it, it's scary, not because of the manipulation itself but how terrifying it could be if it became a habit.

[@shannon1242]

INFJ - I used to think I wasn't manipulative but I mightive gotten some people on my shit list on a collective shit list by pointing out little negative truths and inconsistencies in a targets behavior to different people in different ways to influence how they thought about the target. No lies but I knew exactly what I was doing and what outcome I wanted.

[@alexanderblattler3672]

👌

[@irishman2770]

I've been very nasty towards those close to me involving my family. And it hasn't really changed, being an INFP-T is stressful. My family deserves better.

[@spiralcat6376]

As an ENFP I can confirm. It took me a long time to see how narcissistic it was to judge what other people should be comfortable with or not. If I felt they shouldn't be uncomfortable then I would take pleasure in pushing their boundaries because I felt I was making them stronger or something

[@marwaosman4134]

I can see I have an enfp sis who had also gone through this phase but she was building her own identity do I can understand . But what I like about you guys is as quickly as you realize something you will come to admit it and not afraid about it anymore and this is awesome ❤

[@SaturnCrashing]

I felt this as an ENFP. I still think I need to be reminded of how absolutely judgmental I am.

[@recycledminis]

Oh man, some of the ISTJ’s I know are on the dark side…this explains so much. 😮

[@kaikymarques5001]

16 personalities dealing with defeat 16 personalities dealing with loss of relatives, for example - INTJ

[@creekli5273]

why does this sound oddly amusing -ENFP

[@TheDanielMoose]

As an entp your dark entp note reminded me of Christmas dinner and it was a struggle not to ruin the family

[@nataliegivan8726]

This and the 16 personalities as villains videos are very helpful for some fanfic writing I’m doing. Will never be posted anywhere, just a fun hobby for when I’m tired and stressed and need an “introverting time” project. My character is an INFJ protagonist whose INTP spouse works for an ENTJ villain. The villain offers INFJ a consultant job after she stands up to him for refusing to give her husband time off for paternity leave. She accepts and uses her position to manipulate the villain boss into doing what’s in the best interests of her family but will betray him in an instant if he double crosses them.

[@FleaChristenson]

INTJ who fought the dark side for years. Cancer really flipped that switch and gave me more empathy.

[@alexanderblattler3672]

Yeah.. it is interesting how being humbled by such debilitating event/ experience really grounds oneself and changes one's perspective ad outlook. How would you describe your personal change? Did family and friends notice anything or were they still perceiving you as the same person as before?

[@FleaChristenson]

@@alexanderblattler3672 I’ve always been pretty transparent, and that hasn’t changed. Mostly I see it in myself. My husband and grown kids see it. A lot of the newer people in my life are drawn to me Ba use I’ve become more empathetic. Not in a soft, squishy way. I can better relate. And it much easier, now, to say I don’t know.

[@blameese]

Finally having to come to terms with some pain from childhood got me out of the dark side and it was so worth it. Feeling is worth it to be healthy.

[@FleaChristenson]

@@blameese years ago, way before cancer, when the kids were young, I learned to write out my emotions. Learning to feel that way was beneficial. Then I learned to slowly (very slowly) speak the emotions. They still don’t exist like they would for an F, and that’s okay, but I can at least identify how I feel and why. That seems to be enough. I also had to to get in touch with childhood trauma. I felt it. I battled the people who harmed me - verbally with a therapist or with my husband - and moved on. Getting it all out was enough. Forgiving was difficult, but enough.

[@_shad3_71]

Haven't seen any ISTPs so I thought I'd take my chances. I always end up unintentionally hurting my INFP friend because honestly I don't get why people get hurt so easily. She's very emotional while I stay practical. Sometimes I honestly do hurtful things on purpose just to see how others will react cause I'm so fed up with how everyone's feeling. It doesn't help that I'm ironically the therapist of the group.

[@iPhony_16]

I'm also an ISTP. I feel the exact same way. I'm the most serious kid in the whole school it seems. But I really like causing some mayhem. Maybe that's why I'd love when hurricanes would hit us where I used to live.

[@muskankataria]

As an ISTP I feel like the therapist of the group too. It's just because we can listen to the problems and dissect the pattern or behavior causing the problem without having an emotional response and providing an outsiders perspective. But this also leads to us identifying those triggers to make other uncomfortable

[@_shad3_71]

@@muskankataria This is exactly how I feel. I somehow know all the different ways my varied friends need comfort and and it sometimes concerns me. I think it's because we're able to see the details while looking at the bigger picture.

[@warriorcatkitty]

Infp one is very accurate- I'm always trying to make sure I'm not doing this too much because I know I get caught up in "my life is terrible and everyone is out to hurt me". Ofc even when I'm not actively showing it, I still sometimes feel this way and tbh I think it's fine FEEL those emotions as long as you recognize they are irrational and you don't let them effect you or your actions too much. Just telling someone to stop feeling that way, just won't work.

[@beeswasps7112]

as an intj, I think I would (theoretically) fall more toward the infj description

[@armchaircoach]

Plans and processes we build are a good way to manipulate and steer people into what we judge to be the "best future".

[@alexanderblattler3672]

People architect - why not?

[@olindblo]

I've noticed with the INTJ that it not so often leads to them taking advantage of people (the INTJ usually values moral principles, at least in the abstract), but rather that they become so certain about a vision they have that they are willing to burn any bridges to die on that hill. This hill might be an unsavory political opinion, a moral principle, or a way to prepare for a future contingency, but what's common in each of these scenarios is the INTJ's oversight of what its adherence or implementation means in the short term for the people they're talking to. Think of it as INTJ being Thanos explaining to some rando why killing half the people in the universe is a good idea and then dying on that hill rather than hear the rando out on why that might be a problem rather than a solution. This is related to the ENTP on their dark side who will happily entertain *any* idea that makes the other uncomfortable, holding no genuine commitment to any idea whatsoever. But whereas the ENTP's intuition will contort onto any political or moral position to maliciously troll people, the INTJ's intuition gets invested in one hilariously out of touch position that they'd rather be ostracised for than reconsider. On their dark side, ENTPs are nihilists whereas INTJs are zealots. Whereas the ENTP intends to hurt people, the INTJ hurts people on accident.

[@abii1390]

I'm INTJ and I agree, I've even thought like thanos so that the other half is happy 😲, but my intentions are never to hurt even if it's sometimes by accident, I regret it a lot, since I'm faithful to my principles

[@delusionofillusion473]

They don't care about morals, just what makes sense

[@AngelTheCatHelloAngelKitty]

As an intp… not really I’ve seen many other than are way smarter than me, I believe that I’m smart but not smarter than everyone else

[@coloraturaElise]

YES...Pinky and the Brain reference! And, not an INFJ here (though I've had a couple of INFJ best friends), but rather, ENTJ, and I admit to putting an enemy (they declared themselves my enemy, right to my face....yep!) in a position where their weaknesses would be exposed. It worked, and without going into a lot of detail, the thing they threatened me with became their fate.

[@birdyghostly]

Oh yeah I agree with the infp dark side. Lately I’ve been spiraling into depression, and I haven’t been able to care for other people as much as I usually do and have become so extremely unobservant as a way of coping that I don’t even recognize the people I know’s faces and 1 year seems like 4 months to me. I also can’t take or comprehend compliments that are given to me anymore. Everyone is always telling me how incredibly kind, cute, pretty, funny and intelligent of a person I am, and I just can’t understand why people think that of me because I think so poorly of myself..

[@emelieha]

The dark INFP spiral is honestly really brutal, because you can't help reacting to all the happiness around you and sometimes lashing out like a wounded animal. You don't mean it at all and have to live with hurting or being extremely rude to your friends out of nowhere. The dark side doesn't even care in the moment and relishes in watching them squirm or be uncomfortable when you're dragging everyone down into the pit. Even if it's very minute and only a couple of times, the guilt you feel afterwards is immense.

[@AnneOfCottage]

I think Ur spying on me. The lashing out of nowhere without meaning to happened this morning and I am still trying to forget about it

[@emelieha]

@@AnneOfCottage awh, I'm sorry to hear that :/ know that you're definitely not alone in that and you shouldn't blame yourself too much. Hope you'll have an easier time moving forward and you can resolve the things that are putting you on edge soon

[@AnneOfCottage]

@@emelieha 🥺🥺 You are sooo sweet and I feel so blessed that someone would take time to write such beautiful words. I hope your life also brings you ease and lots of joy 🤍🧸

[@emelieha]

@@AnneOfCottage Well, I know how bad it feels afterwards and wouldn't want anyone to experience that loss of control due to the pressures of life. Thank you for the well-wishes and the same to you :)

[@dala5716]

well curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back so it should be fine like what's the worst that can happen bro - ENTP

[@Dontfucklewithdashuckle]

PREACH BROTHER PREACH - FELLOW ENTP

[@eggb1962]

i got to infj and went “crap” 💀 i’ve been fully aware of this and really trying to use it for good

[@shadow_in_zero3510]

Yeah, INFP here, just recently got out of my "darkspiral" of roughly 6 years, yeah.... fun times.... I luckily never got to a point where I wanted to self harm or anything but I was basically a ticking time bomb of emotions and was just overall antagonizing everything around me while keeping it all bottled Up inside so I wouldn't bother anyone

[@ezabreeza3223]

Frank you're the friend that helps us see ourselves and laugh that our bad behavior. We might not change but yeah you're right!👍🏾💚🤣

[@Epic-1224]

Healthy INTPs - Leave you alone Dark & toxic INTPs - Leave you alone

[@bartzoz]

How about "All XXXX's sites in a nutshell"? 16 videos that briefly summarize each personality, its cognitive functions, dark side and shadow.

[@youknowwhoiam278]

As an infj, there was a moment when I was pretty manipulative in an online community. I ignored my irrational behavior, but one person was able to see thru me. Surprising really. Makes me wonder what type they are 🤔 They didn't expose me, but it ultimately led me to leave that community. It was unhealthy for me in many other ways, too

[@coloraturaElise]

When you say "in THIS online community", you actually mean "in ANOTHER online community", right? Because I started wondering who you were manipulating around here.....

[@youknowwhoiam278]

@coloraturaElise oh lol yeah a different app completely. Lemme edit this

[@youknowwhoiam278]

@@coloraturaElise plus can we even message ppl on KZbin? And have convos? I've never tried

[@depressedphilosopherbitch7581]

@@youknowwhoiam278 we used to

[@rhyliemasons7957]

It wouldn't surprise me if they were also an INFJ. Again, us INFJs are really good at reading people and can recognize behavioral patterns others might miss.

[@meatworm3848]

As an INFP, i've never drag people down in my "black hole" when i had those dark times. I tend to ignore it in public, and fake smile, because their happiness and wellness is more important than mine. But it was more like i was walking above a giant void that i can ignore if i look somewhere else. I also think that the education you receive or give to yourself can change the way you feel/show your "dark side" and how others perceive it

[@YourMom-iy6cv]

You sound like an extroverted feeler than maybe infj. Infp love to talk about their feelings

[@blueischiii1575]

@@YourMom-iy6cv Sometimes infps will suppress their emotions to please others.

[@meatworm3848]

@@YourMom-iy6cv there are other ways to talk about your feelings without being super pessimistic and broke other people's joy, maybe the fact that i'm assertive and not turbulent play a game, but im sure i am infp There are many ways for an mbti personnality to express itself !

[@YourMom-iy6cv]

@@blueischiii1575 Fe will talk about their feelings if someone else does. Fi likes to secure their feelings and only express it to those they trust the most so it does depend if

[@blueischiii1575]

@@YourMom-iy6cv Yeah probably.

[@uaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

I'm a INTP but I don't think I'm smarter than anyone else but I know I'm not stupid, I can do well in my subjects but I suck at math. The most "knowledge" I consume is just various facts from my hyper-fixations and most of them are useless like multiple mythology's, books (especially fantasy novels), horror movies, anime, cartoons, cats etc.. I think my dark side would be me lashing out at people when I really overwhelmed sometimes so I get mental breakdowns where I just shut myself away from people and lash out at anybody who comes near me so I guess It's just me hiding lol.

[@DeeDeifiesGayo]

As an INTP, I can't stand hipocrisy- someone gives you an advice or the worst: criticizes you for doing something wrong, when they do the same thing all the time? That's the only thing that makes me explode

[@vegaalphalyr]

i was confused whether i'm an ENFJ or an INFJ (figured out that i'm an unhealthy ENFJ that was taught by ExTJ parents to use thinking too much), but i can clearly see that my dark side is a mix of what Frank said about ENFJ and INFJ. I do stuff that stuff as ENFJ, but i'm really manipulating A LOT. Sometimes my motives are good and i just want to protect myself or another person, sometimes it's my issues acting, and sometimes i'm doing it without realising at all, and just after i've manipulated i see what i've done. pure horror.

[@sexytechreviews_]

You can only be one or another and ENFJ/INFJ are NOTHING alike.

[@youknowwhoiam278]

It's "further". "Further" is for abstract. "Farther" is for concrete - INFJ

[@TempestTempos]

It is 2:00 in the morning and I have to wonder, from the explanations in this video…is Damon Salvatore an ESFP, Klaus Mikaelson an ENTJ, Sam Winchester and INTJ (I really hope he isn't, because if he is, I fell in love with myself), "Luci" an ENTP, Dean Winchester an INFP? Also, this is coming from an INTJ, that is incredibly accurate. I appreciate it.

[@saarthel8532]

The INTJ's dark side example seems to simply be our current economic system. This says a lot...

[@alexanderblattler3672]

Problem's though if you're not the spider in the center of the web getting fed on all that delicious prey.. might turn one into more of a hunting spider..

[@fatimahamer7131]

As an INFJ, I've been aware self- aware sense I was a kid. I know I could manipulate and I think generally anyone can. I see even kids manipulate each other but I just can't stand it and won't do it even for the greater good. Being direct and honest is the way for me

[@icyhot9464]

Have you heard about the archetypes of seduction which are explained in the 'art of seduction, written by robert greene? I think that associating every mbti to an archetype would be interesting. If you want to consider the idea :)

[@kweniahn4184]

He has great books. I also loved his detailed explanation about these archetypes.

[@rmp7400]

Frank You do not have competition in this "video artistry in social psychology" vocation: you were given a gift for a special calling, and rise to it with dedication to & seriousness of purpose. In a world of broken families and broken dreams, of confusion about identity and blindness about possibilities you present entertainingly educational episodes decoding much of the human drama (not trans-human, not sub human, not anti-human). I am an elderly retiree, & volunteer artist who is continually Amazed and grateful for your work. I wish I had the means to be a patron...but shall continue to pray for your good. Best wishes to the James' now & always.🙏✨

[@jenniferhanses]

The worst part, as an INTJ, is that people can't tell when you're on the dark side, going muhaha in your lair, or when you're just trying to get normal everyday crap done. I don't know about everyone else, but as INTJs tend to learn not to care about what other people think, there's a good number of times people have assumed I'm a villain, I've tried to reason with them, and failed because they were far to emotionally invested in what they thought was going on, and I decided to just be the villain, work against my own goals, and let the other people do what I was trying to do anyway. I mean, I'd like to have friends. But ultimately, I don't mind people hating me if my life goals get accomplished. It's just not worth it to try to fight with people who have already decided you're evil, and I probably wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway. So sure. I'll be the villain because then you'll do exactly what I wanted you to do. It's much easier to guide what people are doing when you've effectively got them kited to you.

[@alexanderblattler3672]

So other personality types share that experience too - being seen as the villain right from the get go and being constantly mistrusted by people who now you a little? I've come to find the frustration resulting from this recurring experience definitely one of the more jarring struggles I have to contend with. I have a good friend who's an ENTJ and sometimes we play a little game, just for the heck of it, if we're in a large group, where I will propose, suggest a certain thing.. and people will recoil, repulsed by those suggestions, not wanting to go along with.. then we're giving it some time and my friend will then repeat that same suggestion, however.. this time I will chime in and contradict him, argue against what was my originally my own point.. funnily enough, one would expect people to be confused, but ultimately agree and side with me (since I am merely repeating their own words/ arguments from before).. however, so far, absolutely reliably, people will spontanuously harshly disagree with me and happily take my friend's side and support "his" position (thus getting my original idea through, that mostly my friend tends to be in agreement with anyway). It is such a cheap trick.. but it works.. every single time.. *face palm*

[@quartz_936]

I might be the only one on this but I heavily relate to the INFPs dark side more despite most tests telling me that I am an INFJ. Still, cool video tho! Very insightful and interesting!

[@christianaudiobooks2023]

Dark INFJ= Albus Dumbledore

[@afrosamourai400]

Yeah..i hate this sucker!!!

[@rashisrivastava7687]

he should probably be in the grey zone....right...?

[@supannichaw.1987]

I agree🧐

[@docthefaust4519]

Gandalf the Grey zone

[@afrosamourai400]

@@docthefaust4519 gandalf is intj and i don't know the books but in movies he was way better than dumbledore.

[@mikescan7050]

INFP in a black hole of emotions here. Damn Christmas! Why don’t people understand we’re supposed to love each other and have peace and harmony?!?! I am so frustrated and upset, I might have to go running down the street hugging people like a mad man.

[@overpower3382]

Do 16 personalities wishing from a genie. You could do a lot there. Especially when the INTJ ends up with control over the entire universe after carefully crafting their wishes instead of simply using them as intended.

[@FlamingCockatiel]

If you haven't yet seen it, Dear Kristin does that, and it's great.

[@jocelyn9058]

The ESFJ part is so true!! You were right on point Frank. I'm an INFP and had a friend like that and one is abilities was being good at manipulation and they would make everything a group issue.

[@samuelfigueiredox]

Hey Frank, great video as always! Can you do a "16 personalities dealing with Timmy" video? It would be awesome.

[@creekli5273]

omg yes 😂

[@theresalawrence156]

Thank you! yes I see that I’m not on the dark side of the ENTJ. I always strive to look after the best outcome of my community.

[@Sunquilibrium]

Can confirm that no one is smart enough to appreciate my GENIUS. That being a bunch of random facts from Wikipedia. -INTP

[@HyperNovva]

I am 😎 -Fellow INTP

[@impact3457]

We are special,greater...SMARTER

[@anthonycrayton5285]

We are the peak of humanity. Truly.

[@akakuro.7376]

As an ENFP, I relate more to the INFJ dark side

[@chocolatefrenzieya]

In ISTP's defense, I will say that generally the only time I'm THAT rude is when I'm so in my head that I have no idea I'm being that rude. As soon as it's pointed out, I stop immediately and am mortified. Not that this have ever happened to me. Ahem. * cough *

[@DaniellaTousson]

So I am the darkest dark side INTJ. A dark side INFJ seems like an ideal partner. Perfect. Now I know what I'm looking for...

[@KantslerOlaf]

I'm an ENTP and a video on what planet am I from would be very very helpful. "Humans for idiots; ENTP edition" would work also. Idk if any other types feel like this, but half of the days I wonder if I'm autistic even though social interactions aren't hard to get (act) through.

[@ЭрнестТимохин-ы9д]

I am an autistic ENTP. At first, I just deduced such a hypothesis out of interest because the meme about autism seemed vital to me. Then I started to dig into the literature on this topic. And then the psychiatrist gave me this diagnosis.

[@zekegore6470]

Bro I'm ENTP and I feel SO slow or stupid sometimes and I dont even know why, but people and working with them just isn't my specialty. I still feel stupid for it though

[@GMoneyTurk]

This is my favorite edited video. Very clean and well put together