Free Therapy Tool: The Window of Tolerance

[@AlizzaBliss]

"My window of tolerance is actually the size of a cat door." Same 😂

[@GhostFoxMako]

Agreed

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

I love that the advice giver honored her boundaries by insisting on fair compensation for her emotional labor 😎

[@danniboi07]

My window is constantly changing. My partner now asks if I'm in a space to handle big things before diving into them and it has helped me do a quick check in

[@Supaslasher]

The transition to the sponsor was creative!

[@sststr]

Sleep, quantity, quality, and consistency thereof, fixes so many problems. Healthy diet fixes a lot of what's left. Obviously there are some things that even diet and sleep can't fix, but make sure you are good on those two things first, and then see what, if anything, still remains after that.

[@rfldss89]

Totally true, unfortunately it's also a vicious cycle, where bad mental health leads to neglecting your basic needs, which leads to more anxiety, deeper depression, which leads to more self-neglect, and so on 🥲 personally i found anti-depressants worked pretty well to break that cycle, and get me to where i was able to get back up and take on life one problem at a time rather than being overwhelmed and numb.

[@jaylewis9876]

Yes and excercise has been repeatedly demonstrated to do better than prescribed drugs and weekly therapy. Therapists rarely mention this since $150 a week for life is way better for them

[@prosperenfantinylosgeograf2721]

​@@jaylewis9876 What I've seen is that exercise by itself is not necessarily better than therapy or meds (and much less therapy and meds), so I'm curious about your sources.

[@jaylewis9876]

@@prosperenfantinylosgeograf2721 It shows up in every study that has tested it. Most studies use sugar for comparison instead. Sugar itself has effects on the mind so its a curious choice. Why not salt? Or a multivitamin?

[@prosperenfantinylosgeograf2721]

@@jaylewis9876 I don't know. I found a few meta analysis that agree with you, some that don't, and some that lay somewhere in between: "There were no differences in treatment effectiveness among the three main interventions (exercise vs antidepressants: standardised mean differences, SMD, −0.12; 95% CI −0.33 to 0.10, combination versus exercise: SMD, 0.00; 95% CI −0.33 to 0.33, combination vs antidepressants: SMD, −0.12; 95% CI −0.40 to 0.16), although all treatments were more beneficial than controls. Exercise interventions had higher drop-out rates than antidepressant interventions (risk ratio 1.31; 95% CI 1.09 to 1.57)." I definitely agree that exercise should be proposed to patients, but I also know of ppl who exercised a lot and were still quite depressed, and meds helped them more... Ultimately there is a lot of variance between people.

[@Umbra_of_Emberspike]

I tend to feel like I flip between the two extremes in my worst moments. One instant, I am freaking out about how little I accomplish in the day, and the next, I lack the energy, drive, and will to do anything about it. You always did have ways of helping me seek the middle of the window.

[@coaltit]

This was, by far, one of the most important conceptual ideas I learned in dialectical behavioral therapy. It created the vital foundation for further tool usage in therapy. As long as you can tap in and assess your arousal level, you can start to break down what tools might be useful given your current state and where you're trying to push yourself. The first step of recognizing your emotional arousal level can be so tough, so to anyone reading this who has struggled just to get through the first step, keep going! All new skills take practice, and you can do it. This was a message wonderfully delivered, as always, Anna. Thank you. 🖤

[@leonloh5960]

thank you squarespace for the free therapy

[@ryanciani3324]

It’s not free

[@dontgodieinsane]

THANK YOU DADDY SQUARE SPACE

[@cephi]

i thought i was going through depression and anxiety at random long period of months,,, now it all makes sense from this window of tolerance thak you anna this makes so much sense (and squarespace lmao)

[@dumah8878]

Thank you. The Raleigh show was fun. I hope you have a good time in England.

[@AnnaAkana]

thanks so much for coming!

[@Justchillinr]

Love how her content style didn't change

[@dad102]

Nice, Anna. Short but powerful. I have noticed problems when either my diet or sleep suffers. But when both suffer, that's when problems occur most prominently.

[@Sarafara7]

Been watching you forever Anna, finally designed my first website using your code -THANK YOU!!

[@italov7816]

I've been following Anna for years and it's surprising how she's always able to teach me something new

[@missmysterious13]

I found the window of tolerance really helpful

[@shomakhan1184]

Thank you always for these videos, never stop making these please. Appreciate you so much and so sad I missed your show bc I didn't know about it till after. Hoping for another one one day and will def go to support!

[@desireer6915]

This is AMAZING!! Thank you so much!! ❤❤❤

[@Fuxy22]

Yeah well I learned about the same thing a little bit differently... it's called setting boundaries and going out of your comfort space. If you have good boundaries you don't need to consider the negative consequences and if you need stimulation you just need to get out of your comfort space and try something new.

[@kateinparadise]

I love your content Queen 💕

[@honeycheesechips]

No wonder these days as I navigate and diagnosed myself (yeah, they diagnosed me with ptsd) my tolerance level is so low. Like I’m disgusted even with my parents, because of my triggers. And thoughts. And feelings. Like ew to everyone and ew to myself

[@monique-octowhale]

OMG OMG omg, this is the first time I've heard about the hypo-arousal concept!! Game changer

[@goldenpetaljewelrycebu9546]

this is exactly what i needed today, thank you

[@Edaakk48]

Thank you so much. ❤

[@starfall9400]

This was really informative and personally relevant, while also being an *amazing* set up for the sponsorship. Nicely done!

[@DannyboyO1]

I tend to end up in hypo as a result of going into hyper. Like, crash. It's a little hard to shake out because I tend to realize only afterwards, because, well, when I'm not *present*, I'm not making choices, I'm just on autopilot. Upside, I tend to come out of it finding I did something I would ordinarily put off. So maybe the bathroom is clean, or I did laundry, or something. Handy, but I think that's not the healthiest way to get those chores done.

[@Clarity126]

MOOOOOOD. Polyvagal theory supposedly broadens it too! 👀

[@sassia2382]

Thank you for your good content!

[@MagisterialVoyager]

thank you so much for this, Anna!

[@yaameeteeee7778]

my best decisions in life (the big ones) came from a place where i was literally out of my mind, going at things blindly until i got there in a shutdown state. can recommend, but u only got one shot XD still, gotta appreciate the extra psychological knowledge from here :)

[@Lily-wt3tu]

This actually makes a lot of sense, thank you❤

[@sstitch97]

Perfect timing luv you think this is my first time commenting but watched your KZbin for rather a while. You Rock ok thank you 💓

[@ChrisLT]

Fun thing about massages around here is when they constantly talk so you can't really relax.

[@sabahnoorrahman7739]

Thankyouuu girlie, for the free therapy ♥️

[@madisonrose1893]

this is amazing, thank you for sharing!

[@Jade.covers]

I get enough sleep, go to the gym, eat and drink ok(too much sugar though and put on a lot of weight) but still depressed, anxious and stressed think cos of my job that I hate just bored and stressed at the same time everything feels pointless like I'm wasting my time and life 😕

[@hernrypalacios2219]

Keep your head up ! The sky's the limit ! 😉

[@VeeJayASMR]

Up until 2 months ago, I had no 'window of tolerance'. I was either uncomfortable stressed or asleep.

[@MikeNovelli]

Anna's makeup on point

[@SICRoosterKido]

Anna is the best!

[@BenjaminCano]

I learned about this yesterday, I've been reading Overcoming Avoidance, if anyone has any more book recommendations!

[@FrootNinja]

Stay awesome gotham 🙂🦇

[@ryanciani3324]

There’s no such thing as friends

[@KnightofRevan2424]

Te sigo desde que te conocí por la película de Ant Man, esperaba volverte a ver de nuevo en alguna película de Marvel 😊😊❤❤❤

[@MrReese]

Great stuff, I got pushed out of the window in both directions.

[@shemarlosscott2656]

Excellent Performance Anna Akana The Therapist is Great

[@bngr_bngr]

My window of tolerance is as big as a skyscraper.

[@emiliojosemedinarosado5503]

I adore You 🥰

[@GhostFoxMako]

0:31 This one killed me! 🤣

[@louiscelenza8017]

Fight, flight, freeze or fawn

[@growing.flowers]

1:39 how to expand ur window

[@sassia2382]

Nice

[@AikiraBeats]

So this is why I tend to shutdown cause this is so true.

[@sscoutistaken]

Warning, she's talking about a CBT tool, so if you don't like the behaviourist school, this may not be for you. But maybe you're into that, just didn't want people to believe ALL therapists are into this.

[@Rozkszesen]

Im wondering why someone might not like this? Like honestly, no judgment, i wanna know the perspective in which someone feels "oof no thats definitely not for me" and why

[@sscoutistaken]

@@Rozkszesen Some people have had bad experiences with behavourists forcing their tools on them, not every form of therapy works for everyone, and some people are forced to waste years trying to appease therapists who refuse to try other schools of therapy on them.

[@est9949]

I'm hitting a like button on this comment, not because I dislike CBT--I actually love CBT--but because I appreciate the information about the branches of approaches. Good to know.

[@brianmclain1955]

Technically square space paper $150. And this attacks right off for you. win win win.😏

[@ismailnassar22]

Some people have multiple windows and others have mac OS, it depends!!

[@DangerAngelous]

“That’s be $150” “..sponsored by Squarespace” “bruh wtf”

[@Szczurzyslawa]

What if walk or exercise make me even more tired

[@cyberpunk109]

I like ant man after credits too

[@sansmojo]

Wait, y'all have a window?

[@muggs105]

Well done, learn to say no

[@jtan4974]

My therapist told me this recently too pretty interesting stuff

[@jasperxmaster9703]

So fine

[@donovanmedieval]

What if Congress escapes through your window of tolerance?

[@marcogutierrez2688]

💯

[@BeeMDeK]

YES🤣🤣

[@jobsierra6036]

O mai ga

[@awesomeadamfrom2099]

Awesome job Anna drop a like

[@BlackTinkerbell]

What if you’re in HYPO arousal on a plane?? For 14 hours? True Story

[@leonloh5960]

sounds like a free pass to sleep for 14 hours

[@BlackTinkerbell]

@@leonloh5960 yes but HYPO so sleep unfortunately wasn’t possible.. and had no melatonin or anything

[@Rkcuddles]

Squarespace paid $150 for this?

[@herbertbaker9522]

😍

[@rongarrett1366]

Anna ♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟👑👑👑👑👑 Kitties ♥♥♥♥♥, treats and tummy rubs.

[@FuzzyStripetail]

Pink dress Anna was assuredly in hyperarousal when overalls wearing Anna broke pink dress Anna's window of tolerance and refused to pay the $150 necessary to fix it.

[@jeremiahlarkins618]

I said, $150. 😂

[@lovejaimo]

❤️

[@alexlane9099]

That'll be $150.

[@Frankcirque]

I get it! I just need to go in Switzerland... this is a neutral country!!!

[@tanneremail3237]

psychobabble

[@dannydanny9875]

[@juanmacias5922]

I said ...

[@TheHazelBowden]

Please come to Manchester U.K., @AnnaAkana? 🙏🏼

[@Arational]

Daily massages?.. I would do that for you but for the distance problem. (I don't have the Mr. Fantastic stretchy arms to do it from here, hope you find a local volunteer)

[@Kira6Sato]

That just makes traumatized people less sympathetic because they should be more tolerant about other people's issues. 🤷‍♂️

[@aurora6920]

Maybe a traumatised person should get professional help about their specific trauma before working on things like tolerance

[@Kira6Sato]

@aurora6920 Maybe. But who can afford real therapy? Not that online BS.

[@pyeitme508]

BRUH!

[@Niekd90]

You love cats don't you

[@MarleyFett]

What she sad. 😁

[@nourgharbieh2251]

How beautiful you are❤

[@Princewilliamultimatepower6105]

You're so Beautiful

[@petersingapore77]

Good but you don't have kids right?

[@socalcuts1284]

Garbage

[@Love_affirmations_subs3333]

Your content is always amazing ❤