Be Friends with Your Children - Nouman Ali Khan

[@MuhammadAhmad-bg7kg]

There is a big difference between spending good time and spending big money on your children.

[@CoolGuy-pn9jo]

Muhammad Ahmad true

[@EMAN-sr7ql]

This is so well said

[@NightWarrior972]

True Facts

[@sairayousaf2321]

I remember my father used to tell me I'm your best friend you can talk to me about everything and don't hide anything. Now I'm a teenager and I don't hide anything from my parents, they don't even bother to question my activities because they have so much trust in me, which I will not break. I'm so lucky to have the best parents in the world

[@greenprofile5755]

Mashallah please continue to be good to them So many people would love to be in that position Please

[@ronnafatima6261]

I WISH MY MOM WAS LIKE THAT

[@shimnasuhail3660]

Ma sha allah

[@masjidrats2012]

I laughed so hard at this. He has a very good sense of humor mashallah.

[@udangalah5520]

I know im still a kid, but when I grow up, im gonna get married, and have kids and all that stuff. But that is Allah's qada'and qadar. But when Im having kids, im gonna apreciate my kids doings

[@timemixchine]

Inshallah, even when its after a long time, I wish you the best

[@udangalah5520]

mario on a cross can you like chill? who are you to call my parents miserable and irresponsible? is there any benefit that you get from making this comment? you think this is a good deed? calling someone’s parents miserable and irresponsible? may Allah guide you to the right path ameen

[@clinicaldietitiannotes5552]

Inshllh m too

[@bluerose8165]

@mario on a cross yes but you don't have any right to judge someone's parent without knowing them

[@privateaccount1514]

mario on a cross are you a Christian and if yes than are you a catholic; if no than why did u put the name of your account mario on a cross.

[@aylayzrianne]

As a teenage-ish daughter myself I can say that this is very true. I have a very strained relationship with my father. I know he loves me and I myself wish that we were closer. But I didn't receive that much attention from him when I was little and when I grew up I felt like he was a stranger that was my father by name. It's kind of sad.

[@MBilalZA]

me too. I kinda feel that he is a stranger.

[@zaraabdulaziz3865]

Me too

[@sulemanshaikh1200]

i feel the same way when i was a 4 years old my father wasn't there for me now teenager and it's so hard to talk to father

[@amsa12378]

anyway say alhamdulilallah if getting attention is your biggest problem trust me that is the least of some people`s problems.

[@hamzarafiq2219]

Ssme here

[@anwarjama5668]

my mom does a good job of being our friends 😊

[@marwamas.2777]

Alhamdulilah, thank Allah for this beautiful blessing❤️. May Allah keep your relationship always beautiful and loving 🥰

[@meheranjum4136]

Alhamdulillah 🥰

[@sparklingstarsforeverinthe493]

Alhumdulila, this is so true! Mashallah, same here. 😊👈

[@bodhi4886]

Mashallah

[@ghizbinthuda9917]

All the children want to be friend with their parents, but I guess the parents don't have time for that, they have appointments, meetings, important phone calls... until it's too late. This speech open my eyes, and I hope I can implement his words when I'll be a parent inshaAllah.

[@Myview246]

Agree 100%. No idea why so many parents are more preoccupied with being strict disciplinarians on their children. Why would you want to strain your relationship with your kids? I talk from experience as someone who is close to her mother but a stranger to her father even though he lives in the same house as us. He was too busy being angry and volatile to care about bonding with his children, thats why all his kids are strangers to him now. Sad, why do so many men want this life? Do you not want your children to pray for you when you die??

[@thepanda9782]

From a young age I learned that nobody cared about what I had to say. I was never included in family discussions and my family would talk about me in the same room to other people as if I didn't exist. Now I'm 17 and plan on moving out as soon as I save up enough money from my job because my mom acts as if I'm a burden to her. This hurts a lot from the child's point of view to feel unseen, unheard, and as if anything you say will be disregarded. When your child doesn't speak to you it is because they've learned you don't care. Being a friend doesn't mean you don't set boundaries, quite the opposite. In healthy relationships people do just that, the difference for when you have a relationship with your child is that they reciprocate, like they should. If you don't show interest in them they see that as a normal boundary of your relationship, they will then mirror it and you won't be as close. As a general rule, if you see an unpleasant behaviour in your child or teen, it is a reflection of your parenting and how you act towards them.

[@sanayaseen5134]

Good luck! Wish you all the best..👍🏽

[@tasnimsarker4653]

Yes, in islam, you should take care of your parents even if they don't took care of you. Your mom gave birth to you, giving birth is not a easy task.

[@amna3121]

Yeah... I understand the part where I still feel not included, and so much pressure... But at the same time, i's already over (past) so think abt your future and theirs.. Please don't forget them and try your best to forgive them cuz u know right your mom could have died while giving birth, they went through so much pain.. Forgive and Allah will forgive you as well, that's what the Ummah needs... Love not Revenge

[@sabaidris6930]

It's rude and unappreciative, but my parents talked for me in front of their friends/grown ups. I never had to answer anyone. Just my name and then they'll take care of the rest, exaggerating my achievements and looking deep to make me look good. That's poison to self esteem. They always meant well, but it just never went well.

[@sunrises5774]

I know how it's feels.... Remember this will teach us not to be like them... From our experience ....we become more understandable and generous...... I had terrible childhood...... Parents were the scariest part of my life.... Their abuse was scary..... They use to starve us for weeks and use to hit us.... And use to electricity to tourcher us..... And use to give us chilli smoke.... Coz.... They don't want to take responsibility.... This is saddening.... The people who should be protecting us from everything.... But they are most dangerous then everything..... They raised me like burden.... Even though I worked harder to complete chores.... Now they ask me why I hate marriage.... Coz of them... My brain and thought change about marriage...i see marriage as abuse..😓😓 I always wanted to have good parents.... But now I'm more scared of people... Living alone is better then living with fake people....

[@bushraanwaar1088]

parents must communicate with their children

[@romaiseb]

May Allah bless the brother who spoke in this video. Finally a speech which teenagers can relate to instead of the typical 'respect your parents' lecture. Yes you should respect your parents but it's important that the needs of youths are respected too and that parents should also see things from our perspective instead of getting too caught up in their own bubble or their typical 'ideal child' view

[@furryfari7904]

It's nouman ali khan, his leactures are really inspiring MaShaAllah

[@chromiyum6849]

Turns out this guy's the best parent ever

[@nilnafauziyah9513]

I'm crying, I hope my parents watch this, this is what i really need. Teenager seems like only playing phone all day, but actually we trying to get friend online meanwhile we can't get anybody to talk at home.

[@paps.4065]

When I wanted to show this to my mom. She didn't listen and said isn't there any other video where they tell kids?!! She never understands me. 😭😭😭

[@Nora_1]

You're not alone

[@shamefulthoughts2712]

Its okay, its not our fault. One day you'll get a life where you dont need her to understand you in order to live peacefully. Sending love everybody's way❤️❤️

[@paps.4065]

@@shamefulthoughts2712Thank you. One of the warmest sweetest things I could ever hear. 🥺😞❤️

[@paps.4065]

@@Nora_1 👐 hugging you tight*

[@hamidelbouazzaouyi3904]

I love FreeQuranEducation!!!!!!!! Mashallah! Those illustrations are amazing!

[@Feeding-Stray-Cats]

this is gold... barakAllahu feekum!

[@ayshhafeela4643]

U should have more than million subscribers inshallah that day is not so far❤️ this story relates me a lot inshallah in future ill definitely follow this🙂

[@saifnilo121nilo7]

I m 35 & married still my mom and dad r my best friends..... Specially my dad....... Alhumdulillah .......it's a great thing ALLAH...... SWT gave me......

[@RenderingUser]

The moment I spotted the word: "funny" in the title, I knew it was a talk from Nouman Ali Khan

[@notlana09]

Me too!

[@paps.4065]

While listening to this, it made me cry. This is exactly what my parents did they never listen to me and my brother. And they always complain how bad we are.

[@iramzahra2222]

My mom n dad r my bst frds🤗 .....i never hesitate to share any thng wth them.....even they understand me and trust on me more than anyone else in ths world....I love my Parents 🤩.....Alhamdulillah

[@user-ej7we6ph3l]

I don't even have kids why did I watch this lol

[@pilotahmed4579]

:D I don't either :>}

[@shadowowl6322]

For education : )

[@satwatrana3208]

We all should watch this. These things should be in education so that when oneday we be parents we know how we should do things with children and all🤗

[@kashanahmed5890]

ImA show this to my mom.....maybe she'll show interests for me then?😂

[@desertsurfer3095]

You will

[@shimnasuhail3660]

Salaam brothers and sisters, We can still get closer to our parents, before it's too late

[@nuryazmin3169]

Ouch snap! This is a powerful rmeinder. I'm not married yet, (and obviously no children yet) but I learnt a lot from this one. Jazakallah Ustaz Nouman and the NAK collection team

[@cameroonbeauty4ever]

Assalamu alaikum sister same here!!! :) I advise you to sign up to bayyinah tv.com and watch "parenting series" from themes in the qur'an. InshaAllah this will give a lot of non married Muslims a great perspective many years ahead of their first child :)

[@sanaahmad817]

Because my father was very strict n ignores me most of the time, I started trusting friends more which ultimately got me into troubles But I make sure to be friend with my younger brother, I listen to him and always try to comfort him no matter what the situation is 😩

[@nazmunnahar1163]

Thanks for concern for teenagers.

[@amarathekiller4367]

Im a teenager nd ur right.... BUT MY DAD ALWAYS SAYS I TALK 2 MUCH AND I NEVER STOP TALKING IN THE CAR. I WONDER WHY???...

[@ThorpeDia]

Maybe because you are a boy...

Yeah I can relate but my dad asks me to talk cuz when ever we got to road trips for like 9-10 hours and I talk for the whole time cuz my dad get pretty sleepy while driving in long trips

[@mjiworld4171]

My mom is my best friend ❤️❤️❤️

[@adnankaukovic2042]

I am friend with my daughter

[@rizkytriasmoro9516]

Me too brother. We're lucky. Alhamdulillah

[@exinx6745]

Mashallah

[@leavemealone5068]

Alhamdullilah since I was little my parents were always supportive and always listened to everything I had to say and would always praise me. Now that I'm older I still have an amazing relationship with my mother and father and I feel like I can talk to them about everything and tell that what happened at school ect

[@Kadraabdi12]

Hahaha its soo funny when the little girl said the "picture" that she made was her mama

[@user-od4tw4yx4z]

Zazakomollah..... Subhanallah nice video

[@MoZiyad]

The best video I have ever come across. This is awesome this is how a family has to be. This is how parents has to be. The young generation is in loss if parents don’t do what they have to do, right now.

[@SimplyaGameAholic]

Awesome work brother may ALLAH bless you !!

[@ayaan1340]

This made me cry 😢

[@sta._rina]

Alhamdulilah my mom is my best friend. We do alot of stuff together and I like to hang out with her and I come to her for advice. But my dad is a different story. He never learned how to properly take care of us and would drop us off at extended family. He did things that tainted my view of him. So he became the cash register you talked about. It's sad really, I wish he was different.

[@knowledgeofislam2879]

Very informative video Masha Allah

[@abdalqaadir1044]

what a Boss. May Allah bless him and his family

[@lododiadia5691]

I love this channel and your teaching ❤️ May Allah bless you and your family Aameen

[@haris.saputra.]

I almost cried. My dad extremely rare talked to me since i was a kid. The only thing he ever talked to me eas if he just asked abt something, just a lame chit-chat. I barely remembered a wonderful moment with my dad, though he isn't a bad guy, he's just a workaholic and a silent type person. I'm 28 now and the one thing i swear on myself is if i had a kid, aamin , i want to be their best friend, their mentor, their playmate. I don't want to create another cold hearted family, the cycle should end in me, insya Allah.

[@SamaraTrollero]

I really like that instead of eyes there's Arabic letters at some illustrations. It's a really good compromise between what we're used to in this age, and what is correct according to Islam. JazakAllah khair for sharing it in such a beautiful way.

[@ItsSalmanbrooo]

I Love this channel so much. MashaAllah It's Incredible.

[@naja1468]

I wish my father also see this!!

[@seenaiqbal9841]

nice speech...hopefully ppl follow this well

[@shadyaaly1774]

Sheikh Nouman Ali Khan the best as always

[@timemixchine]

This makes me sad..

[@rizkytriasmoro9516]

Same here sister

[@bygboi9565]

Tomorrow (when I get married ) .. I'll be the best father in the world.

[@mariah5687]

Nice story daddy and mom togheter with your childrens for good and right moments for play..for give education..

[@bintizulaikahshifurah6586]

my best channel...free Quran education...and Iman 🥰

[@fabiasoha1684]

This lecture has hit me hard😭❤!!!

[@md.sk-rahim6428]

Mashallah ❤

[@leomata7096]

personally i dont remember anything from before i was the age of 14 all i remember are the emotions i felt from people. and all i remember feeling from my parents is fear and panic

[@mohammedrahman1110]

You are right,we have to be a good friend of ours children. Thank you for your advice.

[@إشراقاتمعرفية]

ماشاء الله ❤️

[@AK-iz3qn]

I always thanks Allah for granting me parents as my best friends.😙

[@diyamariyam3658]

im very grateful alhamdulillah that my mum and dad are my best friends. i am 18 and most of the times i love being with my parents than hanging out with my (more than a little bit) judgemental friends.

[@zarishbintanees2095]

ماشاءاللہ very interesting video 💖💖

[@netaeta6835]

MashaAllah 💖 truly reminder indeed

[@fadumafaduma5376]

Jazakulah khair for the video

[@zainabrezgarali575]

By the way your channel is so good and so much fun

[@NadaNadida]

I wish to Allah that my future spouse knows this concept and be so understanding like Mr. Nouman A. 😀

[@yasminsultan9759]

I really needed to hear this MashaAllah. So nice and so true

[@CORONAVIRUS-wp4zv]

Masha Allah

[@omarfaruk1073]

As-Salamu Alaikum.. Jajak Allah khair.

[@anneshine8726]

I want to rise my kids like this

[@ahmadsyarifudin5938]

Caring is importing ❤️

[@solstice1681]

This is what's wrong with society today, parents preoccupied with their careers, their worries, their friends. I'm not a Muslim but I thank you for your video it's very helpful.

[@MuhammadAhmad-bg7kg]

This has helped me with my terrible situation. Thanks for the video

[@hudaibamushtaq5483]

Masha Allah...you all are great

[@Ricedaioh]

Thankfully my mom is pretty good at being my friend alhamdulila

[@anismalik64]

Thank you brother Nouman

[@AksarayliMucahid]

Golden advice!

[@itszaynab1386]

My mum is like a best best friend to me. And dad kind of

[@ishagosavi2620]

Soo true!!

[@sukaipenn8810]

Subhana Allah ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@alaamuhammad195]

جزاكم الله خيرًا

[@tasnia87]

Love love love it....

[@shaikabdulrafey4981]

AlHamduLillah, I've had a good relationship with my parents, but I will understand what they were going through only when I have kids of my own InShaAllah, and now I pray to my master that please take care of me, guide me to do the right things when I have kids of my own. And by that time I can study how to raise them. Still 18 by the way 🙃

[@yasafmahmood9772]

Very nice things are highlighted

[@eemanmuslimah382]

Very educative video. May Allah rewards you.

[@engnrjaved]

Very nice and an eye opener

[@shaikabdulrafey4981]

And now social media!

[@taheraxpedia7111]

So beautifully said..💗

[@engnrjaved]

Sometimes I used to think that there should be some tv programme so we keep it on and it will tell what to do from morning from waking up to going to bed... now I realize that it is we have to be with them and anyone else...!

[@sayedpritom]

Your Videos are GOLD

[@TheNurhasya]

TQ SO MUCH ! MAY ALLAH ALWYS WITH U

[@malekaljabri1459]

جزاكم الله خيرا فعلاً رائع استمروا رفع الله قدركم

[@ruxuanma5268]

I’m literally crying like I haven’t cried before at the second he said “they just want to make you proud, they just want your approval”...oh lord I cant stop crying, I’m an 13 year old and I had a childhood/school year without my mother, I haven’t seen her for 7 years except for summer vacation, I blamed them before at how they didn’t respond at all when I was small and now I’m older and you want me to do something? Where were you when I need you guys the most. I know I shouldn’t blame them but I just feel so lonely, it feels like years since I have seen my dad and mom together at once....it’s just so sad that when I was grade 1 (elementary school) my classmates could have food made by their mother and all I have is food prepared by my nanny (and I a was very close with her) and of course I thank Allah for giving me food but it’s just so bitter....and now it feels quite strange around my mother and just.....I miss her so much to be honest...

[@lonelypotato39]

Ruxuan Ma Assalam o Alaikum! I am really sorry for your situation, and I understand what you are going through. I think that it is very neglectful and sad that your parents did not listen to you when you were younger... and that is what has broken your relationship with your parents apart. Firstly, please do not feel lonely. I am here, and so are lots of other people! You can talk to me if u want, and I can tell u my social media if u want to contact me. It’s good that you are close with your nanny, and I think maybe you should try talking to her about your parents? I think trying to talk to your parents is a good first step. Of course, that is easy for me to say and it will be much more difficult for you in that situation, but I honestly think that talking to them and telling them about how you feel will help. I know that u feel bad about blaming them and shouting at them but I completely understand why u would do that and it is not ur fault. May Allah help you and give you a loving and kind relationship with your parents. Remember, I am here for u if u need help and do not give up hope!

[@ruxuanma5268]

Lonely Potato yea i will not give up hope, I am in a quite good condition with my father in fact, but...everything to be honest just feels kind of strange and weird, but I’ve gotten used to it, and I’m trying to rebuild the relationship with my parent better. And the thing too is that I have never told these things to them, nor have I shouted at them, I would never be able to do that. But I think that’s the main reason why I always hid the emotion without them knowing. And thank you very much! I am very happy and glad that there is so many good people on this platform

[@2go517]

I hope if my dad could listen to that

[@sairajawad1710]

MashaAllah

[@mo_7199]

Not a Muslim but this is great advice. It definately can help all parents have better relationships with their children.

[@mo_7199]

@@bullseye9723 No. I'm a Buddhist but my family is Hindu

[@mo_7199]

@@bullseye9723 Of course! In Buddhism, we believe in reincarnation, and the cycle can be broken by reaching nirvana, which is the highest state of realization. Nirvana can be reached through good karma, which is basically like doing you duty, and following the noble Eightfold path, which is right view, right speech, right aspiration, right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfullness, and right conceptration. We also have five general precepts, which include not clouding our mind, which i interpret as don't get knockout drunk, no sexual misconduct, which translates to no rape. One of the main ideas in Buddhism is the idea that pain is inevitable, but suffering is not. Suffering is caused by desire, and once there is no desire, there is no suffering. Hope that helped!

[@mo_7199]

@@bullseye9723 There are a few. There are three big ones: Tripitaka, Mahayana Sutra, and the Tibetan Book of the Dead. One can start with those and move on to the Pali Cannon, which is teachings of Buddha and some of his pupils. However, these are only teachimgs, and not the world of god like in the Bible and the Q'uran. Buddha is not a god.

[@arifmainuddin1028]

Wow so important discussion

[@mariashow5554]

Amazing, barakallah lakoom with your deeds and good doings

[@سارهعيد-ر3ض]

بارك الله فيكم وجزاكم الف خير

[@kazigiasuddin4676]

My ammu and abbu are both working parents. But they never put their frustration of workplace to home. They have given us the proper time. Our bonding is absolutely like Sir has told us to make in the video. My parents are always keep showing us the right path and we also correct them. We, the two sisters can say everything to our parents without hesitating. I always pray to Allah to keep them safe and sound. And also give them a long life span.

[@pugtheweirdo5188]

I am my dad's second best friend, his first friend is Allah. 😊

[@fluffgonaldhexom9109]

please do not say this we are humans and are Allah's servants we are not eligible to be his friends may Allah forgive you

[@muffinmonster2634]

Ncert Class8 bruh who said that

[@tonystonem9614]

I have a powerful urge to send this to my mother 😭 she's the only one who raised me and we don't have a good relationship at all she didn't care about any achievements growing up or no compliments she'd only be there to tell u when u failed or insult u 💀it's painful😭

[@shawzab_mahmood]

Mash Allah ❤

[@zamjed8057]

Wow... Quite beautiful...

[@sadiauddin8701]

How have 26 people disliked this video? It’s literally about raising your kids 🤦‍♀️