Friendship Reset: Rebuilding My Relationship With My Ex Best Friend | E2

A Journey of Healing and Forgiveness in Friendship.
Join me on this week's episode as I sit down with my childhood best friend, Rebecca Tembo, after a heavy breakup that led to us going our separate ways for over two years. We delve into the challenges we faced in our friendship and the growth that brought us back together.
Witness the power of friendship and the resilience of love as we share our journey. This episode is a testament that some friendships are worth saving. Tune in now to catch this raw & heartfelt conversation on my show.

[@richillartloe]

Body language speaks a 1000 words......you can tell the lady in yellow (Rebbeca) has definitely found her inner peace and her tribe....

[@novemberborn6563]

Wunmi, I know it’s hard because I struggle with it too but please Learn to let people complete their thoughts. It’s especially important in a conversation like this.

[@loycenagawa8638]

I can only imagine how difficult Wunmi’s jealousy would have been for Rebecca to navigate through. It’s so horrible when you’re doing well and you can feel a shift in your friend towards you, don’t want to celebrate you and act as though they can’t see how well you’re doing. That can cause scarring for life! But it was good to see Wunmi own up to that as many women just don’t want to admit things like that and will just gaslight you into thinking nothing is wrong. I commend them for coming back together though. The conversation was a breathe of fresh air ❤

[@yzma6142]

this is SO TRUEEEEEEE!

[@laurapalmer451]

I think I understand Rebecca... It's like always being the chill friend, so when you need your friends to support you and stand up for you, nobody comes through because they're too used to you just doing you and not needing much from no one. I think our personalities are similar... we just distance ourselves if we think someone is not at our level of values in friendship. If that's the case, I definitely relate to her...

[@mazzzzzz40]

Same I can definitely relate to Rebecca

[@monicajenkins9364]

Me and my ex childhood best friend haven’t spoken in almost 2 years and I am no way ready to have this conversation with her. I applaud y’all fr.

[@Fionajosephs]

😂😂😂😂

[@gloriasimiyu5082]

Can I say this, as a typically chill person, it doesn’t make me morally superior to a talker. It’s typical for me to suppress my feelings, be non reactive but also we typically may not express our needs clearly expecting for others to read our minds. We aren’t superior to more expressive people who will tend to seek out their friends thoughts and sound the alarm and sometimes ring the alarm. Also can I say, if you aren’t vigilant, a lot of your personal stuff can be triggered when watching such a conversation. Be sure to be self reflective and maintain some curiosity when watching these two beautiful and talented young people. Both creative both successful in their own right. ❤ much love.

[@nessawithsmiles]

Love this.

[@P05P05]

Well said

[@luyandadube8448]

I love Rebecca’s calm aura 🥺

[@snemthembu6968]

Don’t know both parties: I just stumbled on this podcast but sheeesh: Wunmi speaks over Rebecca constantly. She isn’t given an opportunity to fully finishe or speak almost seems like she’s being brushed off. Nice concept though

[@mummykhai]

Totally agree and Rebecca handled it so gracefully.

[@flower80818]

I feel like she does this with everyone. She over explains herself. That's something I do, too. People find it annoying.

[@cecechampion4]

It would be a healthy outcome if Rebecca actually had more space to express her true feelings, it looks like there's still a lot of holding back and unresolved issues/tension. There's no true healing if there's no honesty, and accountability. Wunmi, please learn to listen more not project what you are hearing but reflect and let it sink in. Your personality, perspective on things comes off overbearing, and draining. I had to learn that about myself, be considerate to others because I can be quite brutally honest, and strongly opinionated.

[@Iamcynthiaa__]

I agree!!!

[@-m9198]

I’ve always said this

[@BoipeloS]

Wunmi, I feel like you spoke over Rebecca a lot, you interrupted her and couldn't let her finish her thoughts.

[@Fatma-bq1jh]

I don’t think Rebecca want this friendship anymore. Understand!

[@janeokoye]

I truly pray God heals your friendship and restores what was lost! These conversations are so necessary because friendship breakup are so painful!

[@astalinda]

I’m reading a few comments and wondering if we watched the same thing? Lol. This was a wonderful conversation and honestly has inspired me! This truly shows how organic introvert and extrovert friendships can be too and I identify with both of yall - I really respect the honesty and going through the phases of both age development/timelines too. The last part where you sang a bit of your song was SO cute - I literally felt the nostalgia! Rooting for you both 💗💗💗

[@sarahconteh1406]

I wish there was a meditator. I agree with Wunmi I think that it is hard for women to have hard conversations like this because we don't want to be mean but there's an expectation on us to be "morally" correct even in things that we cant control like emotions or thoughts. And we are all human and have bad thoughts or do things out of impulse. I'm happy you discussed this. However, because it is Wunmi's show and she's the host, I felt like she kind of led a bit too much. It felt as though she narrated her side as fact rather than offering Rebecca the benefit of the doubt. But I get when talking about your side, I get that it would feel as though it is fact. I wish there was less interruption and only say what you felt happened after the other person's finished their point. But i guess this is a real convo and in real life, we all interrupt each other lol. I think an outsider or someone you both feel is neutral and have a relationship with (if you prefer), would have allowed us to get a fairer insight into both sides without one comprising for the sake of peace. All in all, good show and talk !

[@Teecee657]

You can tell Rebecca was definitely holding back. But can you blame her? There were some shady remarks

[@haya7030]

Like calling her sketches ugly was not necessary

[@Teecee657]

@@haya7030 definitely

[@shaniapotter1169]

@@haya7030 she said the faces of the sketches were ugly but the fashion which (Rebecca was passionate about) were great.

[@SweetDamolaShekoni]

@@shaniapotter1169 I think the rumors was about Becca and some men, reason why felt Wunmi shouldn't have hangout with those friends carrying that rumors after the fashion shows. She felt alone and Wunmi just wanted to have fun that night not knowing her friend needed her.

[@sarahjay5484]

@@haya7030 she def didn’t say her sketches were ugly. Just the drawing of the faces which is not shady towards her work at all. She’s a fashion designer not an artist.

[@haya7030]

I feel like you were speaking for her a lot of the time like you can tell she is holding back still

[@mazzzzzz40]

Yeah true !

[@TiannaUncommon]

I wish Rebecca would’ve been more real. She held back a lot.

[@Kayonthemove]

I know I'm late to this party, but from what I watched, Rebbecca could hardly finish her sentence.

[@karabotsotetsi1301]

How I wish I could have such a sit down with my ex-bestie and just talk things out. Till this day my heart aches when I think I've lost my soulmate, after her friendships have never been anything that can match ours, the balance the fun, the craziness all of it from just one person. One say some day I do pray we'll also have such and organic conversation. I so relate to both your personalities and experiences only female friendsships have such vibes 🤭beautiful episode.

[@mummykhai]

Love the growth but you can tell a Rebecca is still broken and guarded. Some moments were also catty for example Rebecca is so passionate about her business and those drawing as much as you may not have liked the faces they meant a lot to her. So I think there is still work to be done between you guys ❤

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

wdym?

[@mummykhai]

@@michelleadebiyi2341 She kept calling her sketches those ugly faces . Even Rebecca looked uncomfortable . It’s her work, no matter if she thinks the faces were ugly. Also she cut off Rebecca several times. You can see that Rebecca stayed away for valid reasons

[@haya7030]

Exsclty !! I saw that too and it was so unnecessary

[@norikay22]

Yeah, 19:34 was not necessary 😢

[@YA-ff6xe]

Massive work still required

[@moonchild8914]

Love how Rebecca doesn't cut her off and takes her time before speaking because she does not want to say something she will regret later. A very intelligent woman. It was nice hearing a little bit of both perspectives. I do believe they each had different needs in their friendships that the other one could not fulfill. A lot of us have to remember that nobody is a mind reader, if you want your friend to be there for you you need to let them know clearly. Most of the arguments that happen even in marriages are caused by one or the other expecting their partner to be a mind reader. at least if you voice your need and that person is not able to be present then you can make a decision. Let's be realistic.

[@hali1432]

Yeah ngl this was a whole lot of wunmi talking and expressing how she feels and talking over the other girl. Definitely changed my perspective of her :/

[@gloriasimiyu5082]

Give people grace. She isn’t a therapist or mediator. She is just expressing her perspective to her friend. It took you so little to change your perspective friend, maybe some of your own stuff was triggered?

[@hali1432]

@@gloriasimiyu5082 what’s little about this? It’s over an hour of them talking. It provided me a greater insight into who wumni actually is despite what she was showing us before. This isn’t hate, it’s a comment section? I’m allowed my opinion :) just like most people feel the same way in these comments too

[@jadeamah]

What’s your perspective on her now ?

[@tidespring6909]

Rebecca you are a class act. Enough has been said, you gave her her ponderosa, keep thriving. No looking back❤

[@cristensuess6991]

…love seeing black women heal and love on each other. More of this!! Definitely feel like people in the comments voicing their opinions need to remember that they don’t know y’all personally. Anyways, sending love from Bermuda 🇧🇲

[@monLdn]

Love this wunmi it’s different and the consept is A1! Usually conversions like this have a mediator but youre the interviewer and 2nd party in the discussion so it may come across as over-talking but you have to steer direction and paint a story for the viewer! This conversation was healthy and honestly, I think you drifted over time due to different directions and interests, which happens!

[@DeborahBrempong]

What I need to know is who approached the other first to fix the friendship .

[@sharinganespada]

Forgive me but i'm just here to look at rebecca's beautiful face

[@naalamptey-mills7811]

Omg Rebecca the designer!!! I believe she had a sit down with Hanifa on her podcast.Wasn’t expecting this overlap.Excited to hear the wisdom, transparency, and the honesty you two bring to the table.

[@TouMuchMedia]

There was to many details they clearly aren’t ready to discuss. I was confused majority of the conversation. But I feel them cause it’s hard to put your business out there.

[@jadeamah]

Same here, proper confused

[@nhills505]

Rebecca seems super understanding and comes across as patient as kind

[@sophietucker3163]

I get the feeling Wunmi is a bit jealous of Becky.

[@tessy28]

She admitted she was previously but I am glad they are working through it

[@gloriasimiyu5082]

I think she owned up to being envious. I think she should reframe to envy. And we all at some point feel envy in all relationships. It takes a lot of personal strength and self worth to own up to it. ❤

[@mummykhai]

She still is because of the catty comments she made in this interview .

[@imanayanda]

Loved the transparency ❤️❤️ I wish your friendship the very best

[@YA-ff6xe]

Thank you for clarifying. I believe the comments are because an hour and 20 minutes of our time was spent watching this video and it did come across as one sided so thank you for clarifying that you guys are in a better place now. That’s really good to hear 😊

[@SweetDamolaShekoni]

My constructive feedback after watching this, 😂😂. I see the love you two have for each. However, you both need to listen to each other more. Wunmi you need to listen more and before you brush over any feelings becca express in a conversation, asked your friend this question "are we getting mad over feelins together?, how do you feel about this? how do we need me to be there for you?. And becca you need to speak up more when you need your friend. It's show that you are always ready to listen and give good advice to your friends.but when it comes to your own situation, you don't talk much and expect your friend to get you even without saying much, and you are always afraid to be misunderstood when you express your feelings.. love the place you both are right now ❤️❤️. Talk to each instead of the middle friend "tummy"

[@bellekhweyane101]

Wunmi needs to work on her interviewing skills. She definitely does have a presence but we need to get to know the interviewee more. The interview did not have order at all!

[@bathroomdiaries5393]

It seemed like it was gonna break down no matter what because the relationship was intense and they had expectations of each other. A healthy relationship shouldn't have expectations but obviously you lot were young and honestly just growing up

[@buyijoydlamini6340]

I can REALLY relate to Rebecca here. Sending you both love. I hope you find the space to truly articulate how those things made you feel Rebecca.

[@duduzileskhosana4181]

Rebecca has found a different type of peace ✨

[@Mirabelerhabor_]

You guys tattoo🥺❤️

[@michaelo2845]

Rebecca comes across so grown and a genuine nice person. As a male and first time watching with bias I think Wunmi still needs healing and growth and she seems like the problem and needed this for her own self gratification. Miss R just over it and that’s ok but she knows in her heart that she has been somewhat pour. Wunmi needs to explore who she is and just humble herself a tad.

[@mikebassett9195]

Both have difficult parents. People like to overthink things but you can see both have struggled with their parents and it always fucks the person up. My parents are difficult and it just does wierd things to your friendships. People that are "ambitious" when young are really just people who need to get money quick because their parents are controlling and won't let them do anything. You have to get a career and good money to be able to live freely, but to get that career you have to give up the friendships so your lonely. Parents can be terrible.

[@DeborahBrempong]

The dream part is very real.God really does make you dream about the people who are not in your life anymore and it gets so hard to forget about them and move on.

[@NwaLioness]

But why tho? Like I am experiencing the same thing but I just want to move on. It’s so tiring😭

[@DeborahBrempong]

@@NwaLioness this should be loud enough

[@NGTV600]

Like a lot of people I felt like i could only hear Wunmi speaking most of the time.

[@MovingT5]

Rebecca seems passive and is resentful because of it. Wunmi is or was jealous of her friend’s past successes and privileges. And may have minimised her friends needs. They both need to be honest, and admit to their emotions. “I was angry” “ I was annoyed” “I was jealous” just be honest…to many instances where they were circumventing their true emotions. It appears Wunmi probably couldn’t completely open up to her bestie because of the pedestal she put Rebecca on and self esteem issues. I may be wrong with this point but this what I perceive so far based on what they have presented.

[@MovingT5]

I did enjoy the ending. I wish them both the best!

[@bruhihitdose3088]

Great conversation🥺 & Wunmi those biceps wow🤯

[@ItsJerridah]

Listening to this conversation was healing in so many ways

[@tomzilla_]

So proud of my girlies - this was a beautiful & transparent conversation!

[@janeokoye]

Plumstead was a vibe 😂

[@norikay22]

Girrrrl. The ugly red jumpers they made us wear. 😫 at least the blazers are nicer now

[@penelopeadlebury]

Wunmis energy is absolutely not good. Heal!

[@tidespring6909]

Listen , I was just about to comment that the lady in red needs to heal 😂😂😂

[@melissanamwanje8899]

Awww Do you guys have matching tattoos?

[@sneakstitch]

I was literally thinking about my friendships yesterday and my friends from school. We haven’t spoken in a while, not even because we fell out or anything, but we just stopped talking. We live in the same area which makes it worse 😂. This is a sign to rekindle the friendship and reach out

[@mimi19921]

Is there a link please for her business

[@mummykhai]

You would think there was . Those “supportive helpful friends” 👀

[@ftt844]

Wunmi please share your friend's fashion page

[@hannahlove5]

so basically she needed her bestfriend when rumours were going round and then it spoilt from there

[@michelleadebiyi2341]

this video came right on time! Im also in a friendship where we grew up together but since uni started (we’re even flatmates) everything’s changed and we’ve distanced. talks are very important and i hope one day the air can be cleared.🙏🏾thanks for this video.

[@novemberborn6563]

I’m curious. What are your attachment styles?

[@GG8p]

theyre so cute i love this rekindling and honest conversation!

[@lanreilori8193]

I love this❤❤❤

[@No-cz7dl]

Wumi your podcast are great as a fellow fast talker I would say just slow down with your speech a bit. It will help people to understand you better and improve the flow of your interview. Think about all the people listening to your podcast for some English may not be there first language, they can still get the jist of your entire conversation if you speak slower

[@SarahAlexisDyer]

Going backwards on your channel… finding out more about you. This was beautiful, and inspiring. Really gives a meaning to the concept of PURPOSE in the midst of pain and struggle. You’re amazing x

[@ClassyGyal]

Yes Rebecca, love the designs❤you go girl!

[@yzma6142]

a lot of people are attacking wunmi but I really sense some coldness from Rebecca and it's a bit unnerving

[@cecexo8119]

These pieces are luxurious 🥵💐

[@mya4947]

Love this ! so real and needed xxxx

[@Domwoo00]

The interviewer does not listen, she is too preoccupied with her next question/statement and her own feelings. This is a very poor interview.

[@yzma6142]

I have barely started and I NEEDED this.

[@Mbani94]

Is Rebecca Zambian?

[@lewaogunde6839]

aww they have matching tattoos

[@mrjay918]

Don’t know how I stumbled across this page or why I watched the long video but it was a great watch. Their connection after all these years is undeniable I hope they continue to keep their relationship healthy and growing for the better.

[@SassyOg123]

You’re from ends Omds🥺

[@sandymatt9247]

refreshing

[@pinksandcastles9480]

i enjoyed this, nice outfits...ladies look good. My only suggestion is to make the episodes 20-25 minutes long. I broke it down over several sittings to watch the entire episodes.

[@eghoghoenebi1818]

Love this

[@folaitabiyi7327]

Big ups Wunmi 👏🏿👏🏿

[@haneefasuleiman5929]

Amazing Love this 🥺❤️

[@Haychhx]

Divine friendships, destiny helpers God is good ❤

[@aurelia-golden]

Love this ladies ! ✨💕🙏

[@StephanieRozeene]

this was so wholesome, thank you guys x

[@chidychyk]

❤❤❤

[@Dxstinydi]

love your outfits! where are they from please ?

[@axa5005]

so you didn't watch/listen...lol

[@MelissaReynoldsLawrence]

They’re Rebecca Tembo - the guest on the left designed and made them x

[@GodsGirl4K]

Looooool Wunmi why did you call her sketches ugly? 💀

[@DeborahBrempong]

The faces not the actual dresses

[@noxiematthews2238]

I applaud you ladies for having this conversation! So many of us wish we had this opportunity All the best to you ladies 🤍

[@Racheladekoya]

Becky has always been chill 🤣 so proud of you guys for this and all youve accomplished 🤍 PMS to the worlddddddddd Tosin x