From mom life to sleeping in my car

[@Marni58058]

When I was young, an older woman gave me the advice "Never have more kids than you can afford on your own and never buy a house you couldn't pay for on your own. He could die or he could leave you." Wise words. I share it with every young woman I can. Thank you for sharing your story!

[@EadsB7002]

this is the absolute truth!

[@michelleg4069]

When i was younger my grandmas used to tell me to “Never be dependent on a man”. I am 52 now and i have always had my own home.

[@Aaron-SLC]

Or get a good life insurance or prenup.

[@viviangonzalez2700]

Exactly the same words. That I repeat to my 2 daughters .

[@susanfudge1737]

If he dies, you will get insurance and social security. If he leaves you, YOU CAN sell the house.

[@defiantlypinki1107]

Sharing this story must be really hard, but I’m glad someone is warning young women on the risks of being fully dependent on a man.

[@deborahdobbie]

Mormon men mostly I swear there’s like 10% actual good Mormons. Weird ppl. I have first hand experience.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@defiantlypinki1107 thanks for the super chat, it’s always nice to have a little encouragement! It’s very difficult for lost women to tell their stories, but our daughters need to hear them.

[@jukeboxprincess7475]

I know exactly how you feel I'm living the nightmare myself it will humble you for sure and it's so hard after being a homemaker all my life it's hard to convince yourself that your stuff is just stuff when you've worked hard for it living in your car it's not for the faint of heart

[@cindycooper9232]

Something you may or may not cover when you are talking to women is to always keep your resume , credentials, certifications, etc. up to date even if you have long stretches of stay at home mom life. Best of luck in your continuing journey.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@ great advice!

[@motherjonesrn]

I was lucky to have a father that prepared me for life. I'll never forget him saying, "You are going to get an education because I don't want you to be dependent on some SOB to keep a roof over your head and food on your table." I went to nursing school, and years later, after escaping my abusive marriage, I was able to take care of myself and my kids. Another thing my parents taught me was that each partner should have their own checking and savings accounts, just in case. My ex-husband never gave me a dime of child support, but I had my own accounts and established credit. It wasn't easy. My life was hell, but I survived, thanks to my father's advice.

[@johnt3ducati]

Are nurses promiscuous?

[@Threedivasgrandma]

My parents taught me same thing!

[@PatrickBohanWriter]

50 years old?! You look under 30. Crazy that you didn’t age despite all that stress. In all seriousness, thank you so much for sharing this difficult story. Everyone should be shown this video before getting married or having kids.

[@categurl3967]

I’m thinking the same. Can’t believe you were married that long and got nothing.

[@TRSTNO1C]

@PatrickBohanWriter I thought she was my age, definitely doesn't look 50 but whatever she's a beautiful 50

[@Shayne_T]

Filter.. stop this madness. LOL 😅

[@Shayne_T]

She does not look under 30, even with the filter! You all are soooo naive.

[@joanbaczek2575]

Yeah I’m 52 and look like hell since menopause at 47

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

I can't believe how many men refuse to pay child support just to spite their ex wife. Like those are your kids too man! Why would you want them to starve!?

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@Aashka_The_Mystic my ex has been gleeful when the kids suffer. It makes me look like a bad mom.

[@TRSTNO1C]

But you can get it through maintenance enforcement the man must pay

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@ not true. My ex hasn’t worked for 6 years at all. And less than 17% of alimony is ever collected.

[@TRSTNO1C]

@lifetaketwo7662 can you get back pay, I mean you are legally entitled to it

[@lisajackson9431]

Lord have mercy. 🙌🏿 😭

[@ConnyWithA_Y]

As a fellow former way too young Mormon trad wife mommy (we had 4 kids by the time I was 23) I want you to know I have never ever judged you and cannot believe any human would do that. I too suffered abuse and am so glad you are here for me to feel like I'm not alone in my story.

[@kaylee660]

This is why I said it's so important for women to form a community and prioritise our friendship over a romantic relationship.

[@potato1084]

And prioritise family and finances

[@davelandefeld]

and that way you can talk to each other on how to remain unmarried and unhappy. Great plan!!!

[@onusnous]

Omg! I am 58, divorced and slept in my car for 6 months, during major hurricanes. I also thought, love of my life! He was military, I had to quit my job, and we kept moving around until I became dependent on him. Which he loved. He cheated, got violent, worked to cops like tools to get around multiple restraining orders. Stalked, terrorized, I even now still have night terrors. I finally moved to a small town as a car salesperson for 4 years, but that job got me into an apt. You are doing good work here sharing. I was brought up as a very strict Baptist. Dogma likes women to be compliant and ignorant. Thank you for your post. Keep it up. You are my inspiration ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@virgoviper5]

Similar story for myself.

[@zippermonster9596]

Wow Is your husband mine. We have almost the same story. Men are g a r b a g e

[@cjhoward409]

I was married the first time for 9 years. I told him early on in our marriage that if he EVER laid one finger on me or our kids, I would file for divorce. And fast forward a few years , it happened and I filed for divorce the next day. I wish more women would be stronger and leave before it gets worse. In my opinion, women should never give a man a second chance when they’ve been abusive. Never

[@Shayne_T]

You married a psycho :/ not all men are like that.

[@Trysaratop]

😢😢😢😢 my heart breaks for everyone here

[@xdoriandanger]

First of all-- you look like, 35! Secondly, I am so proud of you and inspired by your perseverance. I don't know how I found your video/how I ended up here, but God wanted me to see your video. Kudos to you for having the strength and bravery to share your story. This needs to be heard for so many reasons. I wish for the most wonderful holiday season and future days for you and your loved ones. You are a warrior woman, you got this.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@xdoriandanger thank you for being so kind and encouraging 🥰

[@InvisibleWarrior279]

A wise woman once said “If you marry for money, you’re going to earn every cent.” This is something EVERY young girl should have drilled into their head - that a man is not a plan. I mean you might get lucky and find a good guy who knows how to take the good provider role seriously but the odds that you won’t are AT LEAST as high; if not higher. Therefore putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on someone else for your existence is extremely, EXTREMELY risky. I too was tempted down that path as a very young woman but thankfully snapped out of it before I married the person who absolutely would NOT have been a good provider. You were raised in an extremely insulated environment where this was an expectation and way of life. There was no reason you should have known any better or different. But going forward yes, this is something we must teach the younger women in our lives. A man should NEVER be your life plan.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

I’ve never heard that…so true!

[@winning3329]

Women are often shamed in society and called gold digger for even asking for any money.

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

I grew up in an abusive home. Being dependant on a man was the last thing I wanted because I saw and experienced the horrors of it first hand.

[@joerudnik9290]

You can marry a poor man for love and have just as many nightmares to experience.

[@bethbennett317]

@@Aashka_The_Mystic Me too!

[@Pcsadams]

Wage garnishment for alimony, child support, and housing should have been set up once he defaulted on the court judgement.

[@cutthechicken194]

She needs to get another family lawyer.

[@rebeccajensen8076]

You are 100% correct..."A man is not a plan". Thank you.

[@Busybumblybee]

If he doesn’t pay child support and alimony he should be locked up.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

He never was. The courts do not enforce anything.

[@DonnaMartinGraduates]

He was smart. Evil people usually are.

[@twovirginiacats3753]

@@lifetaketwo7662 Depends on where you live. This happened to a friend of mine. The husband was very well off but also very controlling. He hid assets and simply didn't pay alimony. She had been a stay-at-home mom for many years. He agreed to pay her alimony until she could finish her degree and get on her feet but didn't do it. The courts did nothing.

[@Starfish2145]

@@lifetaketwo7662yes they do. Did you have an attorney?

[@Noah4evaa]

Where were her parents during this time of homelessness??

[@lauralaura12345]

My mom also ended up homeless after divorce. She didn't have friends or community and had only ever worked retail.

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

How is she doing today?

[@lauralaura12345]

@Aashka_The_Mystic she's got a job now and has a place to live.

[@Elizabeth78946]

🚨🚨🚨🚨 They are very misogynists who give birth to girls to be servants for their male, who are the only ones allowed to go out, hang out and roam freely, the only ones allowed to advance scientifically and flourish with their talents in art science.. wihe bury them at home like a bird locked in a cage, not going out to parks, museums, libraries, can't go to educational institutionslike university, traveling or hanging out with friends, They cannot go yo university advance scientifically, they cannot be artists, engineers, doctors, or inventors, heir minds, talents, and abilities must be suppressed and they must be confined and buried in the house. They are buried at home to clean up the dirt, wash away the mold and cook, which are life skills that every adult should do. They treat girls as second-class creatures. It is not normal or normal for a woman to suppress her mind, talents and potential in science and art.. A man nourishes his mind, develops himself and advances scientifically, while a woman suppresses her mind and passion, does not learn and does not advance scientifically. A man develops his potential and talents in the arts, so he becomes a painter, actor or musician.. But a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in the arts, in drawing, in music and in acting.. A man develops his talents and potentials in science and invention, so he invents, discovers and nourishes his mind and passion, while a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in science and invention, so she does not invent, discover or nourish her, and she suppresses her passion and suppresses it and eliminates it. A man develops his talents, potentials and passion in sports, so he becomes an athlete, while a woman suppresses her passion, talents and potentials in sports, so she does not swim or play basketball.. She suppresses herself and eliminates her talents and potentials. This is misogyny Contempt, oppression and racism against women, these women are unconscious misogynists. Also, when women are outside politics, without scientific progress and without financial independence, they do not make laws and thus their rights are taken away from them. Scientific progress and prosperity with their talents in science and art.. means work, health, freedom of movement and travel.

[@MBJean]

Thanks! Wish I could do more. Your content is saving my 40’s.

[@michelles2715]

I am 2 minutes into the video and want you to know there is NO judgment coming from decent people. Good people would not judge! Thank you for being brave and sharing your story so as to warn others. You are a light in this world!

[@jojojams]

I'm going thru a very similar situation...divorcing after 23 y of marriage. I go thru the timeline and want to kick myself for not seeing the red flags...one day I was talking with my adult children about why didn't I realize what he (the ex) really was and my 18 yo old son said "Mom, never feel bad about having a good heart." And that has stuck with me. Some call it naïveté, but I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to believe that love will conquer all...everyone goes thru the fool's journey at one point in their life. But we are older and wiser now. Jennie, never feel bad about having a good heart. And eff anyone who gets on here to victim blame you...they most likely have their own issues they are too afraid to address so lashing out is their copium.

[@DonnaMartinGraduates]

@jojojams What a badass you are for surviving what you’ve gone through. Your greatest years are still ahead of you.

[@maddart4445]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

Aww, your son sounds like a good kid. I hope he treats women with equal respect as well

[@twovirginiacats3753]

My mom told me something similar when I was going thru separation. I told her I felt so ashamed and stupid, and she said "Don't feel that way. Everyone wants to love and be loved".

[@Green.heron24]

I like what you shared about having a good heart and everyone goes through the fool's journey, a fellow traveler.😊

[@philippalincoln2262]

I wish I had these warnings when I got married! My parents have a traditional marriage and encouraged the same for me, I think we all assumed it would be fine and were (I realise now) ridiculously trusting which was encouraged by their fundamental religion. I didn’t have to sleep in my car thankfully, that must have been terrible and uncomfortable and potentially unsafe, but I know what it’s like to be constantly worried about money and in an unstable housing situation. I have been open with my children about finances, cost of living, money management, savings, credit cards, mortgages because I don’t want them to be as naive as me. I think it should be taught in schools!

[@Elizabeth78946]

🚨🚨🚨🚨 They are very misogynists who give birth to girls to be servants for their male, who are the only ones allowed to go out, hang out and roam freely, the only ones allowed to advance scientifically and flourish with their talents in art science.. wihe bury them at home like a bird locked in a cage, not going out to parks, museums, libraries, can't go to educational institutionslike university, traveling or hanging out with friends, They cannot go yo university advance scientifically, they cannot be artists, engineers, doctors, or inventors, heir minds, talents, and abilities must be suppressed and they must be confined and buried in the house. They are buried at home to clean up the dirt, wash away the mold and cook, which are life skills that every adult should do. They treat girls as second-class creatures. It is not normal or normal for a woman to suppress her mind, talents and potential in science and art.. A man nourishes his mind, develops himself and advances scientifically, while a woman suppresses her mind and passion, does not learn and does not advance scientifically. A man develops his potential and talents in the arts, so he becomes a painter, actor or musician.. But a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in the arts, in drawing, in music and in acting.. A man develops his talents and potentials in science and invention, so he invents, discovers and nourishes his mind and passion, while a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in science and invention, so she does not invent, discover or nourish her, and she suppresses her passion and suppresses it and eliminates it. A man develops his talents, potentials and passion in sports, so he becomes an athlete, while a woman suppresses her passion, talents and potentials in sports, so she does not swim or play basketball.. She suppresses herself and eliminates her talents and potentials. This is misogyny Contempt, oppression and racism against women, these women are unconscious misogynists. Also, when women are outside politics, without scientific progress and without financial independence, they do not make laws and thus their rights are taken away from them. Scientific progress and prosperity with their talents in science and art.. means work, health, freedom of movement and travel.

[@mimimonster]

Ex-mo divorced mom here. When my husband left, I raised my kids living with my parents which wasn’t a healthy situation. Had I known my Mormon RM husband was going to leave when my youngest was 9 mos old and did the horrific things he did, I would’ve gotten a better degree and career to support myself and my kids. Culturally, the Mormon church does NOT help Mormon wives prepare themselves for the potential if and when Mormon husbands leave. The church does EVERY SINGLE WOMAN in this situation a horrible injustice. They set wives and children up for FAILURE. Thank you for telling your story. I agree with you 100%. We did not choose our situation - in fact, we were 100% obedient to what the Mormon church told us.

[@donnabryant0615]

It is all religions--not just Mormon. I was raised Catholic and my mom was totally financially dependent on my daddy and with 7 kids. I watched and learned what NOT TO DO!!!! I was only 18 when my parents lost everything. My mom had no where to go and no money and no career, so she had to stay whether she liked it or not. No freedom to choose anything. Completely stuck for the rest of her life. She was so bitter. She prayed for the end to come.

[@nv4900]

Stop trying to find someone to blame. Life happens and you can’t tell how things would turn out. You had a choice to get the degree if you wanted to. I went to BYU and saw all the girls. Most which did not care about the education but more so about dates etc. It’s unfortunate but if it doesn’t make sense don’t do it. The UT Mormon culture is vastly different elsewhere trust me. I didn’t have a bishop discouraging me to get an education. I finished my BS and both of us have kids and are working towards going back to school because the economy and all the reasons why you shouldn’t depend on one persons income. No one is infallible RM or not.

[@lil8579]

If any women ever find out your partner is cheating secure yourself financially first then call the divorce, in the mean time play dumb. 😢 sorry harsh reality

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@lil8579 yes agreed totally.

[@leftfinned]

It’s so devastating to be betrayed like that. I found out he was cheating 4 days before our 14th wedding anniversary. I truly and fully trusted him. 4 years later and I’m still trying to pick up the pieces…. I will know the feeling of being totally financially secure one day.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@ I’m so sorry you went through that, wishing you well in the future.

[@leftfinned]

@ back at you! Unfortunately, it’s a very big club especially it seems of our generation. I’m the same age as you. It does mess with you though. I thought my marriage was bomb proof. Now I wonder about all the things throughout life that I thought I believed in and wonder if those too were a lie. I just try to keep on keeping on and luckily the house was mine when I got married so I was able to avoid all of that insanity you went through. Sending you love and light. We got this girl.

[@flight2533]

I was going to say the exact same thing! It’s 2024 people cheat both male and female…most in fact. This is real life, and marriage is not a Disney movie. That’s the 1 thing I teach my daughter more than anything. My wife can have a work hubby and 2 boyfriends as far I care; before I’d let my children suffer 1 second of that story. All Divorcing like that did was ruin your life and your children. Please be strategic and realistic people. NO ONE is going to love you purely and faithfully for 50 plus years. It’s never been reality. Our elders … churches and Hollywood lied to us. Sorry for victim blaming. What happened to you is horrific but we all really need to wake up.

[@theGRAMela]

No one who hasn’t lived your exact experience (impossible) has any right to judge. You are strong and you have come so far. I am proud of you!

[@who818]

It's almost like women from the feminist movement have been saying this for years. But when we say it we're just bitter. But then the results always prove to be true

[@karinaz8756]

The man that feeds you is the man that can starve you.

[@laurena.3847]

Proud of you! I hope you stay safe and your story helps other young women reconsider such a life!

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@laurena.3847 thanks so much for the support! We have a world to change for our daughters. ♥️🥰♥️

[@rachellemini8632]

I’m 53, been married 24 years. My husband is the main bread winner for the past 5 years. Before that I did work and make a good salary and contributed to a 401k over 20 years. I now work 3 days a week as a nanny but I do not make enough money that I could support myself on nor do I have my own health benefits. I’m on my husbands health insurance plan. My name is on all of our accounts and assets and we don’t have any marital issues BUT I STILL think about would I be ok if something happened and I had to take care of myself. And mind you I would receive half of our home, which we own and half of the other assets we own. I know I would be ok but I still worry is my point because you just never know. I hope that made sense😊

[@elisabethkiesel4567]

Okay, I understand why the lengthy comment: you’re comparing your situation to hers’ ……but isn’t this just grandstanding and virtue signalling?? It’s going to make her feel worse…not better.

[@rachellemini8632]

@@elisabethkiesel4567I didn’t mean to make her feel worse at all. I was trying to back up her point of not depending on a man but maybe it didn’t come across correctly. Definitely didn’t mean it to make her feel worse.

[@jacoblewis2961]

​​@@rachellemini8632You didn't say anything wrong.I totally understand what you were saying. It wasn't harmful or hurtful at all...

[@laraoneal7284]

JENNY ur ex husband is EVIL TO THE CORE. I’m so sorry. How can u trust anyone after Jake❓. How were u able to trust this Kevin??

[@gothicprincess52]

@@rachellemini8632 You didn't say anything wrong. I understood your point and I bet Jenny did too....That's why she put a heart on it.

[@jc1865]

Financial dependence ensures you can be abused, and it's incredibly difficult to escape.

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

That's why patriarchy has it set up that way, or at least they used to

[@azimuthbusinesscenter]

he threatened to leave, he threatened to stay. Everything is a threat, unless he pays

[@EadsB7002]

Very. Many of the women in these situations are being treated terribly too, included being cheated on...because the husband knows the dependent wife can't afford life on her own and can't go anywhere. To each their own, but i would never ever put myself in a position to lose like that. i have a good spouse who is very financially sound, but i am grateful i have a professional degree and have always made my own money.

[@Mimi-ui7du]

I agree. I have also worked since university and I am blessed with a loving partner of many years. We must never stop to educate and empower girls and young women. And always, always stand behind them. I would never blame victims, but I believe that weak and abusive men stand no chance with strong women. At least not for expanded time.

[@janlundberg5924]

I can't believe he was able to "hide" hundreds of thousands from you and the courts. That has to be illegal. Very ugly behavior on his part.

[@arreymbutambe5250]

I can’t believe he let his own children get evicted as well 🤦🏽‍♀️ honestly, I don’t think I could EVER forgive someone who did that to his own children. He’s lucky your kids still have a relationship with him (my assumption based on your videos). I’m LDS and I used to want to just be a stay at home mom, but now I KNOW I will definitely be bringing in income In some form or fashion. Thank you for your videos!!!

[@twovirginiacats3753]

This is why it is so important for women to have a mean to make a living. My ex wanted me to quit my good day job and stay at home. I refused. It was probably the one firm boundary I kept throughout our marriage. I always worked and it really paid off too. He found someone younger and more attractive but pitched a fit about paying child support. He worked under the table so as to avoid any payments etc. Extra money would have been nice, but I still managed to maintain a stable home (which I owned), keep food on the table and send the kids to college.

[@arreymbutambe5250]

@@twovirginiacats3753 Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you!!

[@zodglubby]

Wait, million dollar home and luxury cars, but no assets?

[@pigalottafattenton5003]

@@zodglubbya lot of people rent homes and lease cars. They have assets already and don’t view homes as an asset. Homes over a certain price are harder to sell. Family trust also aren’t considered assets. I’m a single woman with assets and child free. I have a trust. I’m working on transferring my car and home to be owned by the trust.

[@rensin7740]

Why would you transfer your home & car to a trust?

[@marymcfarlane4098]

No judgment, we are all at risk to job loss, failed marriage, or heath crisis.

[@9monava]

I am only at 3:57 and all I can say is that you are very brave and the definition of RESILIENT. I am so sorry that you had to go through so many hideous moments. You radiate kindness and beauty. Your videos are helping so many people right now. I can't wait until you get your book out. Man, to have serious medical difficulties on top of all the rest....you are so strong, so strong!

[@lynnlewis5728]

Your an amazing strong woman!!! Merry Christmas to u and ur family.

[@kasko8550]

I can't believe what you have been through and how you made it! It is incredible! God bless you! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@kgs2280]

This is also a good example of (besides “a man is not a plan”) but just how literally expensive it can be to be poor. People just don’t realize that, if you’re poor, the rug can, and will, constantly be pulled out from under you, and you’re also constantly left in debt while still having to pay for first and last month’s rent and electricity, and then getting charges from the bank for spending just a couple of dollars over your balance that you had miscalculated for. Its just grueling, and the mental and emotional cost is absolutely damaging to your psyche, and your body. And recovery seems to take forever. I went through most of that myself, and now that I’m a senior, and have finally been in a pretty good position for a number of years, I still find myself regularly worrying about what would happen if….. I don’t think I’ll ever get completely past that thought process.

[@musiclover-cu5jy]

Thank you for bravely sharing your story. I’m so happy you are doing better. It is very sobering.

[@Lilliana99]

Thank you for being so transparent and real. I’m 25 and was in a toxic relationship for 4 years. I didn’t want kids. He didn’t want to listen or hear my side of what I wanted out of MY life. Was also 5 years older than me. I am so scared to ever date again. If you find a good partner you simply got lucky and that’s the end of it. I hear so many bad stories and have rarely ever seen a relationship workout in the end. I really don’t find the stress worth it. It is shitty being single but it’s even shittier being with someone that doesn’t respect you and treats you like shit.

[@DonnaMartinGraduates]

Not Mormon, but my religious ex-husband would complain I wasn’t “sweet.” Cause I had opinions.

[@summerstarr1618]

Those ones that call you crazy when you use your head etc and show an ounce of intelligence etc Yup no thanks

[@fionalewis3121]

OMGoodness what a story. Glad you found love again.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@fionalewis3121 thank you! I have a movie in the works so by 2026 you can watch the whole story ♥️

[@virginiaswanson4346]

My day is always brighter when I see your face :) I totally cherish these videos….i myself have seen hard times with children along for the ride. Thank you for all of the content ❤

[@lifetaketwo7662]

I’m so glad you’re here and thx for taking the time to comment it means a lot ❤

[@debbiem73]

Glad to see this message getting out - my mom always drilled in me since I was young (in the 70’s) to never ever be dependent on a man. Always have your own assets and means of support with your name on everything.

[@mphil66]

You’re very strong, hang in there, things will get better ❤💪🏻🫶🏻

[@miamiflorida6965]

❤ Thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable to the world❤. Man everyone has a story. May God continue to bless you.

[@TexasAlabama]

I have several Mormon friends who are stay at home moms, that’s why they all have a side gig. Never be dependent on anyone but yourself. I’ve been homeless, sleeping on friends couches. I lived off student loan refunds and had to get a degree. Now I’m a single mom who has a nice home and a business I own. No one else.

[@smarie3874]

Spousal/child support should be part of social security. The money could be reclaimed at tax time from the primary breadwinner. Let the IRS deal with the deadbeats, they have powers women and children don’t.

[@lifetaketwo7662]

Agreed. It’s unbelievable how the courts don’t enforce

[@jennifercurtis8229]

Family services do have the power to garnish tax returns for money owed! It happened several times to both my ex’s when they were behind in support and I got a lump sum of the arrears through that. It can’t be a part of social security- it’s not the governments responsibility to pay for a man who doesn’t want to take care of his financial responsibilities and there is no way to “pay in” to this as some sort of safety net not knowing if you’ll ever use the benefit. Women need to be more responsible for themselves. Women have every opportunity men do to have a career these days, there is no reason this should happen in 2024.

[@potato1084]

@@jennifercurtis8229Actually I expect it to happen more in this day and age. Some women are following a trend now going the complete other way and wish to have a traditional marriage despite all the opportunities offered to them.

[@azimuthbusinesscenter]

he threatened to leave, he threatened to stay. Everything is a threat, unless he pays

[@cassiegreene9528]

Good for you my dear. I am an almost 70 year old woman who saw my mom become widowed at 53. She had no skills and a drinking problem. I caught on kinda quick and finished college so that I would at least have that degree. Life can change on a dime folks. Look ahead. I subscribed to your channel as you're a pretty cool lady. Your kids have a good mom.

[@QueenBee-yh5xi]

Sweetie, God is working it out for you. Im so sorry for all of your loss and grief. But you are inspiring and amazing and beautiful. Please just keep on shining...

[@kayingthao5072]

Thank you for sharing, you are so brave . I applaud you. Your vulnerability……helps many.

[@dinawhite5175]

Wow I’ve been watching your videos and it’s heartbreaking I can’t believe what your EX did to you & his children not caring if they’re homeless unbelievable!!!! But from listening to your stories you are one strong woman Wow good for you to keep going standing up for yourself

[@lifetaketwo7662]

@@dinawhite5175 thanks for this sweet comment.

[@bethrenken4444]

We need marriage Insurance…why not we have car insurance….

[@TRoxanne55]

Thank goodness you were finally able to escape that toxic relationship and cult of a religion. I’m so sorry you had to go thru that and pray you can continue to grow and rise above it.

[@geraldinecolvin8662]

You are freakin' amazing. Thank you for the courage to create this. Your honesty, vulnerability and life experience will be (is) a blessing that is already helping others who watch this.

[@-cMc-]

Amazing amazing the absolute worst case scenario and you are still recovering you are keeping afloat and thankful you are extremely resourceful. This was an excellent video i watched from start to finish!

[@Kathleensplace71]

I’m so glad I came across your channel, I’m so sorry that you went through all this but thank you for sharing and bringing awareness of this to ladies.,💕💕

[@Elizabeth78946]

🚨🚨🚨🚨 They are very misogynists who give birth to girls to be servants for their male, who are the only ones allowed to go out, hang out and roam freely, the only ones allowed to advance scientifically and flourish with their talents in art science.. wihe bury them at home like a bird locked in a cage, not going out to parks, museums, libraries, can't go to educational institutionslike university, traveling or hanging out with friends, They cannot go yo university advance scientifically, they cannot be artists, engineers, doctors, or inventors, heir minds, talents, and abilities must be suppressed and they must be confined and buried in the house. They are buried at home to clean up the dirt, wash away the mold and cook, which are life skills that every adult should do. They treat girls as second-class creatures. It is not normal or normal for a woman to suppress her mind, talents and potential in science and art.. A man nourishes his mind, develops himself and advances scientifically, while a woman suppresses her mind and passion, does not learn and does not advance scientifically. A man develops his potential and talents in the arts, so he becomes a painter, actor or musician.. But a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in the arts, in drawing, in music and in acting.. A man develops his talents and potentials in science and invention, so he invents, discovers and nourishes his mind and passion, while a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in science and invention, so she does not invent, discover or nourish her, and she suppresses her passion and suppresses it and eliminates it. A man develops his talents, potentials and passion in sports, so he becomes an athlete, while a woman suppresses her passion, talents and potentials in sports, so she does not swim or play basketball.. She suppresses herself and eliminates her talents and potentials. This is misogyny Contempt, oppression and racism against women, these women are unconscious misogynists. Also, when women are outside politics, without scientific progress and without financial independence, they do not make laws and thus their rights are taken away from them. Scientific progress and prosperity with their talents in science and art.. means work, health, freedom of movement and travel.

[@deniser45]

I’m sorry you went through all those trials! I’m glad things are looking up for you🙏🏻

[@SarahandSheba]

Sending love and support! You’re an inspiration, thank you for sharing your story and overcoming that abusive marriage

[@amberlawler717]

Telling the Truth sister 🩵 Love and Light to U

[@deborahdobbie]

You’re doing the best you can and best you could have done. I am proud of you. I don’t know you but damn did you gracefully pick up all those little pieces that you didn’t deserve. Wow. You’re amazing. And a Mom of I think you said 6!? Also you said you’re 50!? No. Way. You legit look 30 I’m serious. All the best to you and your kids!!! You rock. And damn you’re tough.

[@phyllisbooth3395]

You are a saint to educate all about what to be aware going forth. The fact that you were married so long; you should get one half of his social security. Shame on Utah, the church for not protecting traditional wives. Great that you called them out and stood up for yourself.

[@athleticroots4581]

She can claim his social security at 62 I think.

[@CindyLuWho26]

I'm a new subscriber. It's fascinating to me because I had no idea about tradwifes. I am 65 yrs old and got married at 15 to a 'man' six years older in order to escape my s××ually abuse father. I'm not Mormon. My generation was instilled with you get married, the man provides, you cook and clean and have babies, blah blah Ha! B.S.! I learned the hard way, very early, thank goodness! Divorced at 18, no children, again thank goodness! I knew I had to go to school and learn how to do something, anything, to support myself, never count on anyone else to take care of me, that's my job. And I did. I love me. I'm proud of me. I love my kids too 😂 ❤❤❤

[@juliehussey3675]

How is your ex-husband not being held accountable? The judge should have given you a judgement for half of the missing money and he should be in jail now for him not paying alimony and child support. Thank you for sharing your story and for now helping others. You are so strong!

[@athleticroots4581]

Welcome to the patriarchy.

[@SassySandra01]

Continued from last post- I’m going to skip a lot & get to the point- anyway so once the baby was about 2 yrs old I was done altho I hadn’t worked and knew I’d have to start all over and had no support it was now or never so his parent offered to take the kids for 4 days and I had somewhere I could go for about that amount of time and as that morning approached his dad told him to bring the kids over and on the phone when he didn’t know where I was I told it was over and he needed to move out which he took it pretty well( calm before the storm) plus his dad offered him a temp place to stay and a storage unit & he& I decided when I’d bring the kids to his dads to see him so basics were dealt with and I went out first thing Monday morning to do interviews and got hired on the spot after a 2 hour test run and by the 2 nd day I was a manager and was running a crew of 60 girls that covered downtown SLC all the way to the point of the mountain and I got raises left and right and could train and fire at will it was exactly what I knew and was comfortable handling so I got my own apartment put my youngest in an amazing child care& learning center & my girls were in school but the bus literally picked them up at our front door and they loved their new school and I could be off everyday the same time school ended everything worked out let alone I met an amazing man that has never even called me a cross word and we have been happily married coming up on 20 yrs in March 2025 been together longer of course plus we had a child together using 3 forms of protection lol so he was meant for us which my hubby didn’t have any children when we men but loves kids so much and lives all the kids the same and always has and they would tell you the same! Also there bii dad and his dad their grandpa passed away& in very sad news as well my youngest daughter at the age 27 yrs old recently passed away very unexpectedly and right before that my dad passed away of a heart attack & now my mom passed away so we are all going thru so much grieving this holiday season it’s very heartbreaking 💔 therefore if you have it in heart please pray for us ❤it would be greatly appreciated!!!! All my love this holiday season ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@DivaKitty4]

I just found your channel. I want to tell you that I am sorry that this has happened to you and your children. Thank you for telling other people about the reality of the grey divorce. This has also happened to me as well.

[@corrinnacorrinna5572]

We are stronger than we know. I'm so glad you're in a better place. Thanks for sharing your story.❤

[@WonderWomanInMichigan]

Thank you for sharing your story. Ive been a traditional wife role for over 23 years. I homeschooled our 3 kids k-12. After i graduated my last i got my first full time job running cnc machines. im so excited that this job can support me if needed. Im so sorry for your situation. So incredibly awful 😢 Again thank you for sharing!!!

[@Minorbird1972]

Big hugs and love to you. 18 years trad to battered woman’s shelter. Lost everything, he went on to beat his next girl who is still with him. The struggle is real.

[@FYS27121]

First, thank you for sharing your story, there is so much a married woman who does not work and rely on her husband for support can learn from it.

[@elizabethbennett3208]

You are so brave and courageous for sharing your vulnerability. I am so proud of your endurance and growth. Don't let others shame or blame. You have a lot to be proud of.

[@stephanieking2946]

Do not feel that way your courage and transparancy is a testimony for God guiding you out of that difficult situation

[@E.T.Montana]

So vulnerable and brave! I'm inspired by you. Virtual hug from Ohio !!! ❤❤

[@gardeningforfunandlongevit6076]

Every woman needs her own career. I know it must have been hard for you to share this event but you have my praise for your efforts. Please stay blessed. This story should be watched by every young woman who wants to start a relationship and the importance of not running from one man to the next. Taking the time out for self evaluation and improvement should be the major concern after a failed relationship.

[@acraciadedemiurgo3302]

Excellent video thank you for sharing, you are a very strong and wise woman ❤

[@lindajackson2382]

Glad you met another guy!! You deserve a nice man.

[@cbz5283]

Don't think that's the correct take from this.

[@donnabryant0615]

It is ok to be in a relationship, and still put yourself and your wellness, safety and survival FIRST. Patriarchy thrives when men are at the center of women's lives, and women rotate around them. Standing on your own two feet independently and focusing on self worth is the healthier way. Put yourself at the center, and let them rotate around you--or not!!!!

[@jenndesharnais6101]

Wow! After everything you did for him he left you to live in your car. Shows how uncaring men really are. My x left me and my kids homeless twice! The first time I forgave him the second time I realized he didn't give a flip!

[@Aashka_The_Mystic]

🫂

[@ExLibris-Alys]

Not all men are like him, most are caring and loving family men. Don’t let knowing that some are terrible people make you assume they all are.

[@maryvillagran]

If you were married that long, you have a right to half of everything whether it’s in your name or not

[@SuperBotanica]

We had 4 children at home. My parents always worked. My father was a policeman and my mother a teacher and city councilor. It worked well, partly because my parents were extremely strict. Our foolishness was always punished. We got our pocket money every month and learned to deal with it. My mother was the finance minister of the family, and my father also got pocket money. I thought that was cool.In the later school years we worked half of the holidays. We learned early on that financial independence is necessary and that everyone is responsible for themselves. We were raised as free thinkers and learned manual skills that helped us a lot in adulthood. My mother would never have stopped working just because she had children. It's all a matter of organization.

[@seph4667]

Pure wisdom.

[@kristinecrowley8321]

I know this is not what matters here, but you look absolutely amazing for 50! I’m going to finish your video now bc I’m currently in a situation that I fear could ultimately land me in a similar position to you. Hopefully not. 🤞🏻

[@DonnaMartinGraduates]

There is SO MUCH religious oppression in this! Growing up Southern Baptist, we were taught the same. Men are 51%, women are 49%. Women are less than men.

[@michellesteffen9761]

I also grew up Baptist and with it the very cynical views that many Baptist patriarchs have of women and girls. They lean on these ideologies to justify abusing women and girls. So much adult male rage was directed at me under the guise of breaking my will.

[@aspendewco70]

Good advice!! I hope a lot of women watch this!

[@marysmith9824]

I just don't know where to start. After listening to your story, I am just amazed that you have managed to find the courage to do as well as you are now doing. The thing that bothers me is this. Why is your ex-husband not in jail? Many states put men in jail for not paying child support, and a decent lawyer could jail him for hiding assets before a divorce. It seems your lawyer failed to do his job. Anyhow, I want to thank you for making this video and I hope it opens the eyes of all women, young and old alike.

[@Always_Meeka]

Karma is a beast! Men who do this will reap what they sow. How could anyone be so hell bent on hurting their exes that they don’t care if their children are homeless or have had any food to eat. This is so sad to see that you went through all this simply because their Father refused to help take care of his own children.

[@carlamarlene2927]

Giod god, how do you have the faith in anything? You are blessed and so strong. Keep telling your story, you are helping others

[@dflowers1477]

You are so not alone in your journey. While we all have different survival skills and ways to view what we’re going through, the good news is that we learn and become better for it. (hopefully) ❤

[@DeanneSanchez]

Bless your heart ❤️ Thanks for sharing your story ) we never know what life is going to throw at us and I think it’s ok to be angry and pissed off It’s unrealistic to walk around with a painted smiles pretending that all is well ) how we respond matters so we don’t want to stay in a bad space all the Time . Thank you for taking care of your responsibilities to your children they needed you and they will always need you even though they grow up . We must take our responsibilities with the upmost seriousness It sounds like you did the best you could to get along , Hod bless you dear sister for loving and caring for your children and doing the best you can . May you feel Gods love this Holiday season May his light shine upon you and give you peace ♥️❤️💜🩵💙🩷🩶🤎

[@mistyakana6849]

It’s crazy that he cut the kids off too. Goes to show what type of person he really is. He’ll regret everything he’s done one day and karma will catch up to him. I hope you and your children are thriving. Despite everything you’ve been through back to back in a short amount of time you’ve managed it all and never gave up. Your children are blessed to have a mother like you. Thank you for sharing your story. ❤

[@Texas_Glores]

Oh my goodness - I’m so sad you had to go through this. Thank you for sharing. Even though this isn’t directly relevant to my life, I think you will help countless people like me be able to understand and help our friends who do go through it. On a positive note, you look gorgeous at 50 and the one thing he obviously wasn’t able to take was your beauty inside and out. ❤

[@Yeshuaschild93]

I am so glad you are speaking out, I have kived in my car before and i understand.

[@bebeautiful6613]

I was a trad wife. I never heard that term until I watched one of your videos after several years of being a stay at home mom I worked a part-time job long story short I divorced my husband after 32 years. I was almost 50 years old. you’re right that’s a very vulnerable age! We didn’t have much to split. But somehow men always end up on the sweet side of it.many of my divorced women friends say the same thing. I’m in a good spot now after 10+ years of being divorced. I’m not college educated so I’ll never have a high paying job, but I own a cute little house. I doubt I’ll ever have the money to retire. 😏 I am always telling young women that they have to be able to take care of themselves. Don’t depend on a man. My son made his wife go with him and I say made in a kind way she really didn’t care anything about the money, to some financial classes while I babysit the baby because I knew how important it was. She has been very thankful that she went to that six week class with him, and she was on always from then on than a unit with him when it comes to money. Her father died about five years ago and her mother knew absolutely nothing about the money. She didn’t even know what bank her husband bank at if he had a will if he had life insurance she knew nothing. She had her money and he had his and he made sure all the bills were paid. Her money was her fun money.

[@MiraSky]

Goodness I am so sorry this happened to you I really hope KZbin can be your take two and you blow up and become successful here. Praying for you

[@JT14-rz7fx]

Wait so not only was your ex husband rubbish but so is your family. He's a famous architect and he gave you a run down tiny home. I'm so heartbroken for you.

[@cosmictruthseeker3796]

Jake never ceases to shock in his grotesque immorality, but sad to hear your uncle gave you 30 days' notice to vacate. In California, the minimum is 60 days notice, if you lived in a home for over one year. Jake sounds so dangerous that it's just a blessing, you escaped in one piece. Check out Wendy Ida. She was a victim of DV and she had to escape in a matter of minutes with her kids in her car. She had to leave everything behind and start over in her 40s with nothing. She is still gorgeous in her 70s and is living her best life.

[@twovirginiacats3753]

I think in Virginia it is 90 days. A past landlord notified us months in advance about his plans to sell the house we were renting.

[@williammcneill2753]

When a woman goes on a rant about her ex, I keep waiting for the part where she acknowledges some responsibility for the marriage failure.

[@twovirginiacats3753]

@@williammcneill2753 Like accepting responsibility for marrying the guy in the first place when you should have known better. Maybe you saw the signs that he wasn't the best match for you, but you ignored them and decided to settle. Maybe following the advice of friends, family and counselors when your gut told you to move to the other side of the country and leave no forwarding address!

[@cosmictruthseeker3796]

@@williammcneill2753 hi William, yes, Jennie does take responsibility for the marriage failure, so please hear me out. Jennie takes responsibility for the marriage failure by explaining that she 100% believed in the mormon doctrine to trust her church elders. Her church leaders told her to marry Jake, despite her loving and being betrothed to another man. Her church leader told her not to question Jake about his sexual past. So she was ordered to get married without any screening process. Then, after he cheated on her with a stripper very early in the marriage, and she wanted a divorce, she was ordered to stay married. She takes responsibility that her family had indoctrinated her into this church. If she was in charge of her life, she would have questioned Jake about his sexual past and discovered he was a pervert, and she would have never married him. If she was in charge of her life, she would have married her sweetheart who actually loved her.

[@cosmictruthseeker3796]

@@williammcneill2753 hi William, yes, Jennie does take responsibility for the marriage failure, so please hear me out. Jennie takes responsibility for the marriage failure by explaining that she 100% believed in the mormon doctrine to trust her church elders. Her church leaders told her to marry Jake, despite her loving and being betrothed to another man. Her church leader told her not to question Jake about his sexual past. So she was ordered to get married without any screening process. Then, after he cheated on her with a stripper very early in the marriage, and she wanted a divorce, she was ordered to stay married. She takes responsibility that her family had indoctrinated her into this church. If she was in charge of her life, she would have questioned Jake about his sexual past and discovered he was a pervert, and she would have never married him. If she was in charge of her life, she would have married her sweetheart who actually loved her.

[@little_threads_of_grace]

You are absolutely gorgeous and I cannot believe you are 50. The fact that you are beautiful, elegant, and that you were a good Mormon wife to your husband and loyal to your church shows me that men will throw away their wives and families regardless of circumstances. My ex-husband blindsided me with a divorce when our daughter was 1 year and a couple of months old. Thankfully I do get child support, however his mother told me that he had told them that if he could get a low-enough paying job to not have to pay child support, he would do it. Thankfully the military won't let him skip out on his duties as a father. But, he would if he could. It goes to show that you cannot trust any man to take care of you or love you unconditionally, and to always have a back-up plan. I will never make that mistake again. The experience radicalized me in a way. I am a Christian, but I follow men like Richard Rohr and Bishop Michael Curry, men who are allies to women and advocate for the dismantling of the patriarchal systems that religions use to subjugate women. I also attend a church that allows women in leadership and ordains them as well. I will never get married again, that ship has sailed. Men whine and moan about how women suck nowadays but they've been abandoning their wives and children for literally thousands of years. Men can get bent.

[@Shayne_T]

She is using a filter, let's stop this madneas, it's so obvious.

[@Teaally1913]

There should be a plan in place to help women in this situation. I too have been in this situation. Lasted for some time, it was awful. You have no idea unless you live through this type of problem. I would say to my children to always have a plan B in the back of your mind.

[@twovirginiacats3753]

I have known women that had a hidden emergency fund just in case they needed to leave - even if the marriage seemed good at the time.

[@pmassey5096]

Thank you for sharing this. I know it was incredibly hard to do! Young women need to hear from women who have gone through some seriously tough times. In my family the women have all had to have jobs. The men they chose were incapable of providing for their children. My father was mentally ill, and had what was probably undiagnosed PTSd from Vietnam. My grandfather was burned over the majority of his body in a workplace accident. My other grandmother had to work because my grandfather was always gone. My mother drilled it into our heads from a very young age that we needed to get a college education and find a career where we could support ourselves. My sister dropped out of high school to get married. She and her husband are still in love and married after 30 plus years. She did go back to school and graduated college once her kids were grown and now works outside the home. Please keep telling your story !!! It may just change someone’s trajectory. Marriage is wonderful, but it takes two . Fairytales aren’t for everyone. Me included

[@EnydCrowfeather]

Thank you for sharing your story. You really made a difference in someones life today, for the better 🤍 Wishing you continued success & many blessings

[@lindamcauley4728]

Good for you for sharing this ❤❤❤❤❤

[@pattiupton1499]

Bless you! That is simply inhumane and terrible of him. Glad things are turning around for you.

[@Weezieweeks]

For me, it would be more like “you did not know any different”….

[@debbiekennedy6030]

Women aren't protected under Constitutional rights. My state is one of the ones who voted against it. I am 66 and without spousal support since March of 2022. I have health problems. I raised 2 children and a younger husband who became abusive and cheated. I had broken bones and a 9 month long breakdown due to the gaslighting and other abuses. The sexual demands were unspeakable. I took care of his alcoholic mother. I am now dancing on the edge of homelessness. He makes several hundred thousand a year but refuses to help. This is nothing like I thought my life would be. I thought I was making a home that would be the place of safety and comfort for the 4 of us. Our country fails women. Thank you for your moving story.

[@lisaward8024]

I’m so sorry that such a nice person and mother had to go through such a horrible experience, even losing the guest house she rebuilt! I think she could teach potential clients a thing or two!

[@leeluna6495]

Women, make it a top priority to squirrel away money so you have your own bank account and your own credit card. No excuse to be so dependent on someone. Thanks for posting this video as a hard life lesson for others to learn from.

[@Juli-ie6uy]

Divorced mom of 4 here. Thankfully I worked throughout the marriage, but that also meant that my X who couldn't keep a job got 1/2 of all my assets. I think another very important thing to consider is also "divorce" from your job or career. That actually has caused me more financial instability than the divorce. Having a rainy day fund, getting as financially independent as possible, understanding how to ask for help and who to ask. I like the idea of building a community as a support before these events happen. Sending hugs and prayers for your healing.