From mom life to sleeping in my car

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@Marni58058 Ай бұрын

When I was young, an older woman gave me the advice "Never have more kids than you can afford on your own and never buy a house you couldn't pay for on your own. He could die or he could leave you." Wise words. I share it with every young woman I can. Thank you for sharing your story!

@EadsB7002 Ай бұрын

this is the absolute truth!

@michelleg4069 Ай бұрын

When i was younger my grandmas used to tell me to “Never be dependent on a man”. I am 52 now and i have always had my own home.

@Aaron-SLC Ай бұрын

Or get a good life insurance or prenup.

@viviangonzalez2700 Ай бұрын

Exactly the same words. That I repeat to my 2 daughters .

@susanfudge1737 Ай бұрын

If he dies, you will get insurance and social security. If he leaves you, YOU CAN sell the house.

@defiantlypinki1107 Ай бұрын

Sharing this story must be really hard, but I’m glad someone is warning young women on the risks of being fully dependent on a man.

@deborahdobbie Ай бұрын

Mormon men mostly I swear there’s like 10% actual good Mormons. Weird ppl. I have first hand experience.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@@defiantlypinki1107 thanks for the super chat, it’s always nice to have a little encouragement! It’s very difficult for lost women to tell their stories, but our daughters need to hear them.

@jukeboxprincess7475 Ай бұрын

I know exactly how you feel I'm living the nightmare myself it will humble you for sure and it's so hard after being a homemaker all my life it's hard to convince yourself that your stuff is just stuff when you've worked hard for it living in your car it's not for the faint of heart

@cindycooper9232 Ай бұрын

Something you may or may not cover when you are talking to women is to always keep your resume , credentials, certifications, etc. up to date even if you have long stretches of stay at home mom life. Best of luck in your continuing journey.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@ great advice!

@rebeccajensen8076 Ай бұрын

You are 100% correct..."A man is not a plan". Thank you.

@redbird1824 5 күн бұрын

Wrong!! Women were made from a rib of man not vise versa. After the fall of mankind in Gen 3 man BECAME the plan. The man serves God [Jesus]and the woman helps the man. She was made as a helpmeet. Not a competitor. Plain and simple. Not vise versa which seems to be prevalent thinking these days among foolish women mainly.. That's OK Hell is plenty big to accommodate both wicked men AND women. Satan has had a hayday with both the Mormon thing and the institution of marriage. No one cares what God thinks as HE lays out in the King James Bible. This shows BIG TIME in the ungodly comments.

@michelles2715 Ай бұрын

I am 2 minutes into the video and want you to know there is NO judgment coming from decent people. Good people would not judge! Thank you for being brave and sharing your story so as to warn others. You are a light in this world!

@PatrickBohanWriter Ай бұрын

50 years old?! You look under 30. Crazy that you didn’t age despite all that stress. In all seriousness, thank you so much for sharing this difficult story. Everyone should be shown this video before getting married or having kids.

@categurl3967 Ай бұрын

I’m thinking the same. Can’t believe you were married that long and got nothing.

@TRSTNO1C Ай бұрын

@PatrickBohanWriter I thought she was my age, definitely doesn't look 50 but whatever she's a beautiful 50

@Shayne_T Ай бұрын

Filter.. stop this madness. LOL 😅

@Shayne_T Ай бұрын

She does not look under 30, even with the filter! You all are soooo naive.

@joanbaczek2575 Ай бұрын

Yeah I’m 52 and look like hell since menopause at 47

@ConnyWithA_Y Ай бұрын

As a fellow former way too young Mormon trad wife mommy (we had 4 kids by the time I was 23) I want you to know I have never ever judged you and cannot believe any human would do that. I too suffered abuse and am so glad you are here for me to feel like I'm not alone in my story.

@bethanymcevoy6591 10 сағат бұрын

Stay strong. I admire your courage. Not only will you surviver you will endure and thrive. I to got advice never have the childern you cannot support. It's all about control. The mormons set women up to be dependent on men.

@motherjonesrn Ай бұрын

I was lucky to have a father that prepared me for life. I'll never forget him saying, "You are going to get an education because I don't want you to be dependent on some SOB to keep a roof over your head and food on your table." I went to nursing school, and years later, after escaping my abusive marriage, I was able to take care of myself and my kids. Another thing my parents taught me was that each partner should have their own checking and savings accounts, just in case. My ex-husband never gave me a dime of child support, but I had my own accounts and established credit. It wasn't easy. My life was hell, but I survived, thanks to my father's advice.

@johnt3ducati Ай бұрын

Are nurses promiscuous?

@Threedivasgrandma Ай бұрын

My parents taught me same thing!

@rnupnorthbrrrsm6123 Ай бұрын

That’s wonderful, my parents didn’t teach me anything and it’s been a long hard road to learn life on my own. Blessings

@Messycandy_17 28 күн бұрын

Daddy taught me the same, forced me to finish college. Glad he did 😉 Grandma never wanted me to marry or have kids, she was amazing and so ahead of her time! Glad I listened to her as well! No kids, no ex, no baggage whatsoever 😉 and a great career 😁

@CeliaLaurance 11 күн бұрын

Same here. At 18 my dad opened a retirement account for me and sent me to college. When I ended a 29 year relationship at 53, I had the resources I needed to survive. When I sat in divorce court to hear case after case of deadbeat dads who failed to appear I was disgusted. I am so grateful my dad set me up for that time in my life. ❤

@Aashka_The_Mystic Ай бұрын

I can't believe how many men refuse to pay child support just to spite their ex wife. Like those are your kids too man! Why would you want them to starve!?

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@@Aashka_The_Mystic my ex has been gleeful when the kids suffer. It makes me look like a bad mom.

@TRSTNO1C Ай бұрын

But you can get it through maintenance enforcement the man must pay

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@ not true. My ex hasn’t worked for 6 years at all. And less than 17% of alimony is ever collected.

@TRSTNO1C Ай бұрын

@lifetaketwo7662 can you get back pay, I mean you are legally entitled to it

@lisajackson9431 Ай бұрын

Lord have mercy. 🙌🏿 😭

@onusnous Ай бұрын

Omg! I am 58, divorced and slept in my car for 6 months, during major hurricanes. I also thought, love of my life! He was military, I had to quit my job, and we kept moving around until I became dependent on him. Which he loved. He cheated, got violent, worked to cops like tools to get around multiple restraining orders. Stalked, terrorized, I even now still have night terrors. I finally moved to a small town as a car salesperson for 4 years, but that job got me into an apt. You are doing good work here sharing. I was brought up as a very strict Baptist. Dogma likes women to be compliant and ignorant. Thank you for your post. Keep it up. You are my inspiration ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@virgoviper5 Ай бұрын

Similar story for myself.

@zippermonster9596 Ай бұрын

Wow Is your husband mine. We have almost the same story. Men are g a r b a g e

@cjhoward409 Ай бұрын

I was married the first time for 9 years. I told him early on in our marriage that if he EVER laid one finger on me or our kids, I would file for divorce. And fast forward a few years , it happened and I filed for divorce the next day. I wish more women would be stronger and leave before it gets worse. In my opinion, women should never give a man a second chance when they’ve been abusive. Never

@Shayne_T Ай бұрын

You married a psycho :/ not all men are like that.

@Trysaratop Ай бұрын

😢😢😢😢 my heart breaks for everyone here

@lauralaura12345 Ай бұрын

My mom also ended up homeless after divorce. She didn't have friends or community and had only ever worked retail.

@Aashka_The_Mystic Ай бұрын

How is she doing today?

@lauralaura12345 Ай бұрын

@Aashka_The_Mystic she's got a job now and has a place to live.

@Wakeup_women01 Ай бұрын

🚨🚨🚨🚨 They are very misogynists who give birth to girls to be servants for their male, who are the only ones allowed to go out, hang out and roam freely, the only ones allowed to advance scientifically and flourish with their talents in art science.. wihe bury them at home like a bird locked in a cage, not going out to parks, museums, libraries, can't go to educational institutionslike university, traveling or hanging out with friends, They cannot go yo university advance scientifically, they cannot be artists, engineers, doctors, or inventors, heir minds, talents, and abilities must be suppressed and they must be confined and buried in the house. They are buried at home to clean up the dirt, wash away the mold and cook, which are life skills that every adult should do. They treat girls as second-class creatures. It is not normal or normal for a woman to suppress her mind, talents and potential in science and art.. A man nourishes his mind, develops himself and advances scientifically, while a woman suppresses her mind and passion, does not learn and does not advance scientifically. A man develops his potential and talents in the arts, so he becomes a painter, actor or musician.. But a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in the arts, in drawing, in music and in acting.. A man develops his talents and potentials in science and invention, so he invents, discovers and nourishes his mind and passion, while a woman suppresses her talents and potentials in science and invention, so she does not invent, discover or nourish her, and she suppresses her passion and suppresses it and eliminates it. A man develops his talents, potentials and passion in sports, so he becomes an athlete, while a woman suppresses her passion, talents and potentials in sports, so she does not swim or play basketball.. She suppresses herself and eliminates her talents and potentials. This is misogyny Contempt, oppression and racism against women, these women are unconscious misogynists. Also, when women are outside politics, without scientific progress and without financial independence, they do not make laws and thus their rights are taken away from them. Scientific progress and prosperity with their talents in science and art.. means work, health, freedom of movement and travel.

@homesteadlife2235 27 күн бұрын

Did you take her in for a bit?

@ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow 9 күн бұрын

@@homesteadlife2235 - It doesn't sound like it.

@kaylee660 Ай бұрын

This is why I said it's so important for women to form a community and prioritise our friendship over a romantic relationship.

@potato1084 Ай бұрын

And prioritise family and finances

@davelandefeld Ай бұрын

and that way you can talk to each other on how to remain unmarried and unhappy. Great plan!!!

@gailainsley6939 Ай бұрын

@@davelandefeld. Single women are happier. What you said pertains to single men. Stop projecting 😂😴🚮

@Jo-k8g Ай бұрын

Not good to depend on friends either… no way we’re going to ask friends for significant money or sleep on their couch

@kp8972 Ай бұрын

That is the only safe way to raise future generations.

@lil8579 Ай бұрын

If any women ever find out your partner is cheating secure yourself financially first then call the divorce, in the mean time play dumb. 😢 sorry harsh reality

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@@lil8579 yes agreed totally.

@leftfinned Ай бұрын

It’s so devastating to be betrayed like that. I found out he was cheating 4 days before our 14th wedding anniversary. I truly and fully trusted him. 4 years later and I’m still trying to pick up the pieces…. I will know the feeling of being totally financially secure one day.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@ I’m so sorry you went through that, wishing you well in the future.

@leftfinned Ай бұрын

@ back at you! Unfortunately, it’s a very big club especially it seems of our generation. I’m the same age as you. It does mess with you though. I thought my marriage was bomb proof. Now I wonder about all the things throughout life that I thought I believed in and wonder if those too were a lie. I just try to keep on keeping on and luckily the house was mine when I got married so I was able to avoid all of that insanity you went through. Sending you love and light. We got this girl.

@flight2533 Ай бұрын

I was going to say the exact same thing! It’s 2024 people cheat both male and female…most in fact. This is real life, and marriage is not a Disney movie. That’s the 1 thing I teach my daughter more than anything. My wife can have a work hubby and 2 boyfriends as far I care; before I’d let my children suffer 1 second of that story. All Divorcing like that did was ruin your life and your children. Please be strategic and realistic people. NO ONE is going to love you purely and faithfully for 50 plus years. It’s never been reality. Our elders … churches and Hollywood lied to us. Sorry for victim blaming. What happened to you is horrific but we all really need to wake up.

@InvisibleWarrior279 Ай бұрын

A wise woman once said “If you marry for money, you’re going to earn every cent.” This is something EVERY young girl should have drilled into their head - that a man is not a plan. I mean you might get lucky and find a good guy who knows how to take the good provider role seriously but the odds that you won’t are AT LEAST as high; if not higher. Therefore putting yourself in a position where you are dependent on someone else for your existence is extremely, EXTREMELY risky. I too was tempted down that path as a very young woman but thankfully snapped out of it before I married the person who absolutely would NOT have been a good provider. You were raised in an extremely insulated environment where this was an expectation and way of life. There was no reason you should have known any better or different. But going forward yes, this is something we must teach the younger women in our lives. A man should NEVER be your life plan.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

I’ve never heard that…so true!

@winning3329 Ай бұрын

Women are often shamed in society and called gold digger for even asking for any money.

@Aashka_The_Mystic Ай бұрын

I grew up in an abusive home. Being dependant on a man was the last thing I wanted because I saw and experienced the horrors of it first hand.

@joerudnik9290 Ай бұрын

You can marry a poor man for love and have just as many nightmares to experience.

@bethbennett317 Ай бұрын

@@Aashka_The_Mystic Me too!

@dawnmechelle5975 28 күн бұрын

You are saving lives. It takes someone with your story to reach through the fairy tale fog of pretty dresses and wedding events to warn young woman. Protect yourself. If you cannot imagine this happening to you, you're not ready to marry. This can happen to anyone. Thank you for sharing your story.

@MBJean Ай бұрын

Thanks! Wish I could do more. Your content is saving my 40’s.

@Busybumblybee Ай бұрын

If he doesn’t pay child support and alimony he should be locked up.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

He never was. The courts do not enforce anything.

@DonnaMartinGraduates Ай бұрын

He was smart. Evil people usually are.

@twovirginiacats3753 Ай бұрын

@@lifetaketwo7662 Depends on where you live. This happened to a friend of mine. The husband was very well off but also very controlling. He hid assets and simply didn't pay alimony. She had been a stay-at-home mom for many years. He agreed to pay her alimony until she could finish her degree and get on her feet but didn't do it. The courts did nothing.

@Starfish2145 Ай бұрын

@@lifetaketwo7662yes they do. Did you have an attorney?

@Noah4evaa Ай бұрын

Where were her parents during this time of homelessness??

@mimimonster Ай бұрын

Ex-mo divorced mom here. When my husband left, I raised my kids living with my parents which wasn’t a healthy situation. Had I known my Mormon RM husband was going to leave when my youngest was 9 mos old and did the horrific things he did, I would’ve gotten a better degree and career to support myself and my kids. Culturally, the Mormon church does NOT help Mormon wives prepare themselves for the potential if and when Mormon husbands leave. The church does EVERY SINGLE WOMAN in this situation a horrible injustice. They set wives and children up for FAILURE. Thank you for telling your story. I agree with you 100%. We did not choose our situation - in fact, we were 100% obedient to what the Mormon church told us.

@donnabryant0615 Ай бұрын

It is all religions--not just Mormon. I was raised Catholic and my mom was totally financially dependent on my daddy and with 7 kids. I watched and learned what NOT TO DO!!!! I was only 18 when my parents lost everything. My mom had no where to go and no money and no career, so she had to stay whether she liked it or not. No freedom to choose anything. Completely stuck for the rest of her life. She was so bitter. She prayed for the end to come.

@nv4900 Ай бұрын

Stop trying to find someone to blame. Life happens and you can’t tell how things would turn out. You had a choice to get the degree if you wanted to. I went to BYU and saw all the girls. Most which did not care about the education but more so about dates etc. It’s unfortunate but if it doesn’t make sense don’t do it. The UT Mormon culture is vastly different elsewhere trust me. I didn’t have a bishop discouraging me to get an education. I finished my BS and both of us have kids and are working towards going back to school because the economy and all the reasons why you shouldn’t depend on one persons income. No one is infallible RM or not.

@Isabella66Gracen 25 күн бұрын

How is this any religion's responsibility. It's ridiculous. That is something you prepare yourself for. These new generations don't know anything about self sufficiency. Your church had nothing to do with your dependence.

@EphemeraImaging 21 күн бұрын

@@Isabella66Gracen So many religions *actively discourage* women from becoming self reliant. They push the marriage mantra and set up girls for failure, and when it happens they don't offer any help either.

@tmusa2002 15 күн бұрын

Thanks for sharing. The manosphere talks so much about the lack of traditional women. Some men crave a woman at home raising their children. Well, reality and hard knocks has changed that. Many women are either warned or see first-hand that they need to be self-sufficient… not only in case of divorce, but to level the playing field so a husband knows his wife chooses to stay and will act accordingly and respectfully. My parents had a bad marriage and tho she never said it, money was absolutely the only reason she stayed. She had nowhere to go on a secretary’s salary. All four of her daughters were either bread-winner or equally high salaries and all manage the money. It was never spoken but little Kong back now, it’s so obvious. And her son is like my dad, not a good partner and alcoholic and not much saved over his life.

@patriciabandeko3842 14 күн бұрын

I was 60 when my spouse dumped me for a 36yr old. He financially prepared since he knew ahead of time. I'm a truck driver so I pretty much lived in my truck and saved up enough to pay cash for a small used motorhome. It's now my retirement home. I made sure I paid off any bills and my car is old but paid for. It's not much but it's mine. Gotta have a plan, girls, and make the best life you can.

@lifetaketwo7662 14 күн бұрын

@@patriciabandeko3842 I’m so sorry that happened to you, wishing you the best my friend. 🥰

@fictionaddiction4706 10 күн бұрын

What happened to him?

@patriciabandeko3842 10 күн бұрын

@@fictionaddiction4706 No idea.

@laurena.3847 Ай бұрын

Proud of you! I hope you stay safe and your story helps other young women reconsider such a life!

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@@laurena.3847 thanks so much for the support! We have a world to change for our daughters. ♥️🥰♥️

@jojojams Ай бұрын

I'm going thru a very similar situation...divorcing after 23 y of marriage. I go thru the timeline and want to kick myself for not seeing the red flags...one day I was talking with my adult children about why didn't I realize what he (the ex) really was and my 18 yo old son said "Mom, never feel bad about having a good heart." And that has stuck with me. Some call it naïveté, but I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to believe that love will conquer all...everyone goes thru the fool's journey at one point in their life. But we are older and wiser now. Jennie, never feel bad about having a good heart. And eff anyone who gets on here to victim blame you...they most likely have their own issues they are too afraid to address so lashing out is their copium.

@DonnaMartinGraduates Ай бұрын

@jojojams What a badass you are for surviving what you’ve gone through. Your greatest years are still ahead of you.

@maddart4445 Ай бұрын

❤️❤️❤️

@Aashka_The_Mystic Ай бұрын

Aww, your son sounds like a good kid. I hope he treats women with equal respect as well

@twovirginiacats3753 Ай бұрын

My mom told me something similar when I was going thru separation. I told her I felt so ashamed and stupid, and she said "Don't feel that way. Everyone wants to love and be loved".

@Green.heron24 Ай бұрын

I like what you shared about having a good heart and everyone goes through the fool's journey, a fellow traveler.😊

@philippalincoln2262 Ай бұрын

I wish I had these warnings when I got married! My parents have a traditional marriage and encouraged the same for me, I think we all assumed it would be fine and were (I realise now) ridiculously trusting which was encouraged by their fundamental religion. I didn’t have to sleep in my car thankfully, that must have been terrible and uncomfortable and potentially unsafe, but I know what it’s like to be constantly worried about money and in an unstable housing situation. I have been open with my children about finances, cost of living, money management, savings, credit cards, mortgages because I don’t want them to be as naive as me. I think it should be taught in schools!

@Wakeup_women01 Ай бұрын

@xdoriandanger Ай бұрын

First of all-- you look like, 35! Secondly, I am so proud of you and inspired by your perseverance. I don't know how I found your video/how I ended up here, but God wanted me to see your video. Kudos to you for having the strength and bravery to share your story. This needs to be heard for so many reasons. I wish for the most wonderful holiday season and future days for you and your loved ones. You are a warrior woman, you got this.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

@@xdoriandanger thank you for being so kind and encouraging 🥰

@Pcsadams Ай бұрын

Wage garnishment for alimony, child support, and housing should have been set up once he defaulted on the court judgement.

@cutthechicken194 Ай бұрын

She needs to get another family lawyer.

@Jo-k8g Ай бұрын

I had a terrible lawyer and I was so weak and fearful. I started over like this lady and my ex made sure I suffered

@stoneylake4 29 күн бұрын

If it were all true that’s what happens.

@aservantinbabylon 21 күн бұрын

Yeah, that's why her story isn't believable in the least. I'd love to hear his side. She told on herself so many times I could write a few pages on it. But just one example, she mentioned an uncle that gave her the opportunity to get the small house on his property and also mentioned another aunt and uncle. Also mentioned a lot of friends. But none of them were willing to give her a place to live while she was in her car with kids and then they went back on the deal to by the small house. Very strong evidence that she is impossible to deal with, no one want her around.

@rachellemini8632 Ай бұрын

I’m 53, been married 24 years. My husband is the main bread winner for the past 5 years. Before that I did work and make a good salary and contributed to a 401k over 20 years. I now work 3 days a week as a nanny but I do not make enough money that I could support myself on nor do I have my own health benefits. I’m on my husbands health insurance plan. My name is on all of our accounts and assets and we don’t have any marital issues BUT I STILL think about would I be ok if something happened and I had to take care of myself. And mind you I would receive half of our home, which we own and half of the other assets we own. I know I would be ok but I still worry is my point because you just never know. I hope that made sense😊

@elisabethkiesel4567 Ай бұрын

Okay, I understand why the lengthy comment: you’re comparing your situation to hers’ ……but isn’t this just grandstanding and virtue signalling?? It’s going to make her feel worse…not better.

@rachellemini8632 Ай бұрын

@@elisabethkiesel4567I didn’t mean to make her feel worse at all. I was trying to back up her point of not depending on a man but maybe it didn’t come across correctly. Definitely didn’t mean it to make her feel worse.

@jacoblewis2961 Ай бұрын

@@rachellemini8632You didn't say anything wrong.I totally understand what you were saying. It wasn't harmful or hurtful at all...

@laraoneal7284 Ай бұрын

JENNY ur ex husband is EVIL TO THE CORE. I’m so sorry. How can u trust anyone after Jake❓. How were u able to trust this Kevin??

@gothicprincess52 Ай бұрын

@@rachellemini8632 You didn't say anything wrong. I understood your point and I bet Jenny did too....That's why she put a heart on it.

@jc1865 Ай бұрын

Financial dependence ensures you can be abused, and it's incredibly difficult to escape.

@Aashka_The_Mystic Ай бұрын

That's why patriarchy has it set up that way, or at least they used to

@azimuthbusinesscenter Ай бұрын

he threatened to leave, he threatened to stay. Everything is a threat, unless he pays

@EadsB7002 Ай бұрын

Very. Many of the women in these situations are being treated terribly too, included being cheated on...because the husband knows the dependent wife can't afford life on her own and can't go anywhere. To each their own, but i would never ever put myself in a position to lose like that. i have a good spouse who is very financially sound, but i am grateful i have a professional degree and have always made my own money.

@Mimi-ui7du Ай бұрын

I agree. I have also worked since university and I am blessed with a loving partner of many years. We must never stop to educate and empower girls and young women. And always, always stand behind them. I would never blame victims, but I believe that weak and abusive men stand no chance with strong women. At least not for expanded time.

@PiedPiper38 Ай бұрын

Not to sound rude, but as a woman who is 61 years old married twice several long-term boyfriends I can honestly say there’s no guarantee a man is going to stay with you forever and ever in my experience and in books I’ve read and things I’ve seen with my friends and myself quite frankly men get bored of women, you know they just get bored of you and when they’re done with you, they’re done with you now I’ve broken up with all of the men I’ve dated or been married to, but the fact is, they were too lazy to break up with me. They just begin to treat you in a certain kind of way disrespectful, rude, and downright mean until they give you no choice but to divorce them or break up with them so yeah women initiate the break ups but really it’s because men are too lazy to go out and get a lawyer or to have the conversation they’re too weak so they just start treating you badly have affairs disrespect you at all all kinds of ways until you finally get fed up and leave and these are things I’ve experienced firsthand as well as witnessed a lot of of other women go Through it’s really sad. I choose to be single for the remaining years of my life as I wasted so much time, trying to compromise and make men happy and make men want to stay with me and be charming and be fit and have the right hairstyle in the right clothes and have the right smile and really smile through tearsbut the compromising I mean the endless compromising it never ended anyway good luck to all you women out there it’s rough out there

@singerjo5791 20 күн бұрын

That’s a blanket statement on men. I divorced an abusive husband, was a single mom for many years and have been remarried for over 20 years. If you trust God for the right man you can have a wonderful marriage.

@PuntaPacifica507 19 күн бұрын

I can see that. As a man, although I don't believe that's every case.

@debmcr1 13 күн бұрын

@@singerjo5791 God has made some pretty shitty choices. Why should I trust him?

@mnjimmy21 6 күн бұрын

Lots of women leave men and the man has to write a big check. The idea that a woman provides unyielding loyalty and fidelity is a myth. There's plenty of narcissistic sociopaths to go around and doesn't discriminate between the sexes. Especially that of the female variety.

@arreymbutambe5250 Ай бұрын

I can’t believe he let his own children get evicted as well 🤦🏽‍♀️ honestly, I don’t think I could EVER forgive someone who did that to his own children. He’s lucky your kids still have a relationship with him (my assumption based on your videos). I’m LDS and I used to want to just be a stay at home mom, but now I KNOW I will definitely be bringing in income In some form or fashion. Thank you for your videos!!!

@twovirginiacats3753 Ай бұрын

This is why it is so important for women to have a mean to make a living. My ex wanted me to quit my good day job and stay at home. I refused. It was probably the one firm boundary I kept throughout our marriage. I always worked and it really paid off too. He found someone younger and more attractive but pitched a fit about paying child support. He worked under the table so as to avoid any payments etc. Extra money would have been nice, but I still managed to maintain a stable home (which I owned), keep food on the table and send the kids to college.

@arreymbutambe5250 Ай бұрын

@@twovirginiacats3753 Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you!!

@zodglubby Ай бұрын

Wait, million dollar home and luxury cars, but no assets?

@pigalottafattenton5003 Ай бұрын

@@zodglubbya lot of people rent homes and lease cars. They have assets already and don’t view homes as an asset. Homes over a certain price are harder to sell. Family trust also aren’t considered assets. I’m a single woman with assets and child free. I have a trust. I’m working on transferring my car and home to be owned by the trust.

@furrycatsorchard Ай бұрын

Why would you transfer your home & car to a trust?

@mphil66 Ай бұрын

You’re very strong, hang in there, things will get better ❤💪🏻🫶🏻

@ChiefsFanInSC 20 күн бұрын

My mom married my dad right after High School. After I was born (in the late 60's), my mom knew that she needed to leave my dad. However, before doing it, she went to nursing school and became a registered nurse. Then she left him. :)

@ortallevi7746 20 күн бұрын

It's absolutely unbearable how men can shake off their kids out of the blue with no consequences.

@janlundberg5924 Ай бұрын

I can't believe he was able to "hide" hundreds of thousands from you and the courts. That has to be illegal. Very ugly behavior on his part.

@MSUSPARTANS1973 Ай бұрын

My mom is 94. Even in her day when people married young, she knew to never depend solely on anyone and had a college degree before marrying. She was ahead of her time. For as long as I can remember she told me, before you marry, or have a kid, you better have a college degree- preferably in something useful. These days it could be a trade, but you need SOMETHING. I told all my friends this. Many who dropped out of college, or married right out of high-school, ended up divorced. Their struggle is never ending. On top of parenting, they now need at least 2 jobs just to make it. Even though they’re exhausted, they’re also trying to go to school. You can’t predict what will happen down the road.

@karinaz8756 Ай бұрын

It’s real. You very rarely see a tradwife in her 50s. This content is important.

@who818 Ай бұрын

It's almost like women from the feminist movement have been saying this for years. But when we say it we're just bitter. But then the results always prove to be true

@karinaz8756 Ай бұрын

The man that feeds you is the man that can starve you.

@PInk77W1 Ай бұрын

If u marry a good man this don’t happen. My wife divorced me. I paid a ton. I gave her $1000s without counting. Once she asked for an emergency $3500. I got a cash advance on my credit card. So one bad story is not the only way. I took my daughter on vacations to China and Italy and NYC many times. Now my daughter is married and has 2 kids and owns her own home in San Diego.

@who818 Ай бұрын

@PInk77W1 statistic and data> random man from the internet

@who818 29 күн бұрын

@PInk77W1 status and statistics> random man from the Internet

@theconcealedmistress 15 күн бұрын

@PInk77W1 good man is rare

@CindyLuWho26 Ай бұрын

I'm a new subscriber. It's fascinating to me because I had no idea about tradwifes. I am 65 yrs old and got married at 15 to a 'man' six years older in order to escape my s××ually abuse father. I'm not Mormon. My generation was instilled with you get married, the man provides, you cook and clean and have babies, blah blah Ha! B.S.! I learned the hard way, very early, thank goodness! Divorced at 18, no children, again thank goodness! I knew I had to go to school and learn how to do something, anything, to support myself, never count on anyone else to take care of me, that's my job. And I did. I love me. I'm proud of me. I love my kids too 😂 ❤❤❤

@theGRAMela Ай бұрын

No one who hasn’t lived your exact experience (impossible) has any right to judge. You are strong and you have come so far. I am proud of you!

@debbiem73 Ай бұрын

Glad to see this message getting out - my mom always drilled in me since I was young (in the 70’s) to never ever be dependent on a man. Always have your own assets and means of support with your name on everything.

@kasko8550 Ай бұрын

I can't believe what you have been through and how you made it! It is incredible! God bless you! Thank you so much for sharing!

@cassiegreene9528 Ай бұрын

Good for you my dear. I am an almost 70 year old woman who saw my mom become widowed at 53. She had no skills and a drinking problem. I caught on kinda quick and finished college so that I would at least have that degree. Life can change on a dime folks. Look ahead. I subscribed to your channel as you're a pretty cool lady. Your kids have a good mom.

@lesliemorrison9242 28 күн бұрын

Well done! Good message!

@9monava Ай бұрын

I am only at 3:57 and all I can say is that you are very brave and the definition of RESILIENT. I am so sorry that you had to go through so many hideous moments. You radiate kindness and beauty. Your videos are helping so many people right now. I can't wait until you get your book out. Man, to have serious medical difficulties on top of all the rest....you are so strong, so strong!

@kimbershark Ай бұрын

I was a stay at home mom for years until my daughter’s dad left me for someone else. Had to move back home with my 7 year old daughter (who’s now 19). I went on to meet another guy that was a wonderful stepfather to my daughter when her dad walked out of her life. Well he left for my friend and his coworker after being engaged for 6 years. Well had bought a home together and he never wanted me to work. The only thing that saved me and my daughter was I’m collecting SSDI. We barely made it but we scraped by until I got a little part time job. I promised myself I’ll never depend on a man like that again. I’m now married with an almost 2 year old and although it’s hard to do both I refuse to quit my little job. Men always say how they want us to be home with the kids and take care of the house. Then they throw it in our face whenever they’re angry. They end up resenting us in the end 😢 I’m sorry you had to go through this. I’m glad you’re okay now. ❤

@kimbershark Ай бұрын

Wait hold up… you’re 50?! 😳 🤯 you look 35!!!

@lauraweiss7875 12 күн бұрын

Trad wife role is a huge risk. I taught my daughters to always work to support themselves regardless of who they marry. Everyone needs to be able to support themselves because you never know what’s going to happen.

@kgs2280 Ай бұрын

This is also a good example of (besides “a man is not a plan”) but just how literally expensive it can be to be poor. People just don’t realize that, if you’re poor, the rug can, and will, constantly be pulled out from under you, and you’re also constantly left in debt while still having to pay for first and last month’s rent and electricity, and then getting charges from the bank for spending just a couple of dollars over your balance that you had miscalculated for. Its just grueling, and the mental and emotional cost is absolutely damaging to your psyche, and your body. And recovery seems to take forever. I went through most of that myself, and now that I’m a senior, and have finally been in a pretty good position for a number of years, I still find myself regularly worrying about what would happen if….. I don’t think I’ll ever get completely past that thought process.

@TexasAlabama Ай бұрын

I have several Mormon friends who are stay at home moms, that’s why they all have a side gig. Never be dependent on anyone but yourself. I’ve been homeless, sleeping on friends couches. I lived off student loan refunds and had to get a degree. Now I’m a single mom who has a nice home and a business I own. No one else.

@DonnaMartinGraduates Ай бұрын

Not Mormon, but my religious ex-husband would complain I wasn’t “sweet.” Cause I had opinions.

@summerstarr1618 Ай бұрын

Those ones that call you crazy when you use your head etc and show an ounce of intelligence etc Yup no thanks

@stoneylake4 29 күн бұрын

Wonder what he says

@aservantinbabylon 21 күн бұрын

Doubt it. You were probably very masculine, un cooperative and argumentative over nothing, like most modern women today.

@Humble_DM 29 күн бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. My mother was 22 and on her own with three of us all under 5 because my father ran off with another woman. We were homeless, sleeping in a station wagon in the parking lot of hotels and in and out of shelters. She turned to alcohol and was very abusive to us. Hearing your story just left me in awe for how deeply you love your children and how hard you worked to make ends meet even if that looked like living in your car. You showed love courage and strength to your children and that’s all that matters. I hope you can feel proud to share your testimony which shows perseverance is built from these hard seasons. Sending so much love and encouragement your way!

@SmoothieD2de Ай бұрын

If you were married that long, you have a right to half of everything whether it’s in your name or not

@Charlie-Em 19 күн бұрын

Girl don't be embarrassed of sleeping in your car; I live in a luxury high rise that overlooks a bus stop I use to hang out at when I was homeless as a kid. Life takes you crazy places, you just got to keep your head up. Mind you, I came up at almost 40 years old so it wasn't an over night thing.

@TC-yu1dr 8 күн бұрын

I just came across your you tube channel. I think you are so brave. The ability to start over again and to educate others shows truly how courageous you are. I wish only the best for you and your children going forward.

@virginiaswanson4346 Ай бұрын

My day is always brighter when I see your face :) I totally cherish these videos….i myself have seen hard times with children along for the ride. Thank you for all of the content ❤

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

I’m so glad you’re here and thx for taking the time to comment it means a lot ❤

@shilohbell1573 5 күн бұрын

You’re doing incredible work sharing your story and warning women of the dangers of this predicament, especially with all recent propaganda promoting women submit their lives completely to their husbands in a trad wife lifestyle. It place women in a very vulnerable situation.

@marymcfarlane4098 Ай бұрын

No judgment, we are all at risk to job loss, failed marriage, or heath crisis.

@lynnlewis5728 Ай бұрын

Your an amazing strong woman!!! Merry Christmas to u and ur family.

@PInk77W1 Ай бұрын

You’re

@kaylahevans8334 Ай бұрын

This breaks my heart. My husband and I have decided to take a non traditional approach to life where we both have an education and careers, and have decided not to have kids. I don't believe we will ever choose to separate, but if we did or if something happened to him I know that I'd be able to take care of myself.

@Chickmamapalletfarm 7 күн бұрын

What?!? Judgement?!? No judgement at all! I have seen you interviewed before. You have overcome insurmountable odds. You should be so proud of yourself. I am so proud of you. You are a super hero!

@Rudelherz 7 күн бұрын

I am sooooo sorry to hear all this. I double checked on my husband like 100x before we got married. Even though I was sooo in love I still had my rational brain on and tried to look for signs of a narcissist or psychopath 😂😂😂 now ten years later I still haven't found ANY❤ def. more in myself than in him😂 I would absolutely depend on him 100%, but I do understand his needs and he mine. We figured out a way it just works beautifully on an everyday basis, not to say it involves work, sacrifice and time. But we both give 100% to each other and are still both learning how to heal and support each other in everything we can. However because of terrible stories like this, I would never recommend this, not even and ESPECIALLY not for church ppl. Whatever we experienced there from a very young age, just by watching, never or hardly ever involved, has destroyed all trust in so called 'christians'. There is only a very small minority who live what they say. You will find the same great ppl outside of the church btw. I feel deeply for this wonderful woman, she's been through so much. I just don't know how the ex has not been discovered earlier as the evil person he was. There are so many signs these ppl show, especially if you live with them so closely. She looks fantastic especially for after everything she went through. Praying God will heal and bless her tremendously. ❤

@clarawoodcock7629 2 күн бұрын

My situation was very similar when I went through my separation. I can relate to so much of what you’ve shared. I wish I had seen this video years ago. Thank you for sharing, and I hope this helps other women out there protect themselves

@juliehussey3675 Ай бұрын

How is your ex-husband not being held accountable? The judge should have given you a judgement for half of the missing money and he should be in jail now for him not paying alimony and child support. Thank you for sharing your story and for now helping others. You are so strong!

@athleticroots4581 Ай бұрын

Welcome to the patriarchy.

@Kp.adventure.traveler 27 күн бұрын

Your lucky not to be familiar with the legal system. Women and children are treated like damaged goods. Everything about family court is awful. And the lawyers are blood suckers on top of everything else

@aservantinbabylon 21 күн бұрын

The husband is not being held accountable because the story is BS. It isn't believable in the least under the current family court laws.....not even close.

@largefamilychaos1837 3 күн бұрын

I'm the dumb one. I believed that I was following God being a wife and mother. I have 12 kids at home and pregnant. My husband turned out not to be a man following God and now I will have to support all my children alone. He doesn't have money and we don't own anything so there was nothing different I could have done to protect myself. I still believe that God loves me and my children and will make a way for us. We have food to eat and I'm starting a business. Which I hope will support my children and I. I'm working on getting housing help .. I was already caring for them by myself in the marriage so that is the same. I hope my daughters will learn from my mistakes.

@SuperBotanica Ай бұрын

We had 4 children at home. My parents always worked. My father was a policeman and my mother a teacher and city councilor. It worked well, partly because my parents were extremely strict. Our foolishness was always punished. We got our pocket money every month and learned to deal with it. My mother was the finance minister of the family, and my father also got pocket money. I thought that was cool.In the later school years we worked half of the holidays. We learned early on that financial independence is necessary and that everyone is responsible for themselves. We were raised as free thinkers and learned manual skills that helped us a lot in adulthood. My mother would never have stopped working just because she had children. It's all a matter of organization.

@Pauleysteph 27 күн бұрын

My mother's divorce was similar. Abusive husband, 4 children, home with a mortgage, etc,. She was married and pregnant at 16, didn't graduate from high school, no driver's license. She would sneak out for both. When she would try to leave he would tell her because she was lacking the children would be given to him, she would be homeless, and she would never see the children. This was during the 1980s and things were different then. When they divorced 3 of the children were out of the home, which made it easier but she discovered that he had taken a second mortgage out on the house without letting even the court know, he damaged relationships, and left her stressed out. The divorce was contentious and long. The first great thing was she started to date her now husband, the divorce was finalized on what would have been their anniversary, she went to college not once but twice, and found her self and happiness. Thank you for sharing your story, I know that sharing is hard but it is healing to you and can be helpful to others. Just remember that you have this!!!!

@debbiekennedy6030 Ай бұрын

Women aren't protected under Constitutional rights. My state is one of the ones who voted against it. I am 66 and without spousal support since March of 2022. I have health problems. I raised 2 children and a younger husband who became abusive and cheated. I had broken bones and a 9 month long breakdown due to the gaslighting and other abuses. The sexual demands were unspeakable. I took care of his alcoholic mother. I am now dancing on the edge of homelessness. He makes several hundred thousand a year but refuses to help. This is nothing like I thought my life would be. I thought I was making a home that would be the place of safety and comfort for the 4 of us. Our country fails women. Thank you for your moving story.

@debraholz9756 6 күн бұрын

How could anyone say anything mean to you or judge you? You are a warrior! And you are right on. Your messages is important and powerful to women especially women in your situation. You go girl.

@bethrenken4444 Ай бұрын

We need marriage Insurance…why not we have car insurance….

@annawolfe2706 17 күн бұрын

Wow. I am speechless. My son is 31, I have raised him alone since he was 3. Combination of part-time work mostly in child care, and public benefits. Had to home-school him for awhile, school was too adversarial. I'm working as a Caregiver and thinking of completing a teaching credential. I'm 66 but I'm in good health (haven't always been!!!) and grateful for that. Thank you for your video, you are truly an inspiration. God bless you.

@musiclover-cu5jy Ай бұрын

Thank you for bravely sharing your story. I’m so happy you are doing better. It is very sobering.

@mzmistyb 18 күн бұрын

I'm so unbelievably thankful for my strong single mother who only showed me a strong woman making it on her own!!! When I was younger, I was ashamed that I didn't have a father in my family. Now I look at it with nothing but utmost respect and thankfulness for how my mother raised me.

@SassySandra01 Ай бұрын

Continued from last post- I’m going to skip a lot & get to the point- anyway so once the baby was about 2 yrs old I was done altho I hadn’t worked and knew I’d have to start all over and had no support it was now or never so his parent offered to take the kids for 4 days and I had somewhere I could go for about that amount of time and as that morning approached his dad told him to bring the kids over and on the phone when he didn’t know where I was I told it was over and he needed to move out which he took it pretty well( calm before the storm) plus his dad offered him a temp place to stay and a storage unit & he& I decided when I’d bring the kids to his dads to see him so basics were dealt with and I went out first thing Monday morning to do interviews and got hired on the spot after a 2 hour test run and by the 2 nd day I was a manager and was running a crew of 60 girls that covered downtown SLC all the way to the point of the mountain and I got raises left and right and could train and fire at will it was exactly what I knew and was comfortable handling so I got my own apartment put my youngest in an amazing child care& learning center & my girls were in school but the bus literally picked them up at our front door and they loved their new school and I could be off everyday the same time school ended everything worked out let alone I met an amazing man that has never even called me a cross word and we have been happily married coming up on 20 yrs in March 2025 been together longer of course plus we had a child together using 3 forms of protection lol so he was meant for us which my hubby didn’t have any children when we men but loves kids so much and lives all the kids the same and always has and they would tell you the same! Also there bii dad and his dad their grandpa passed away& in very sad news as well my youngest daughter at the age 27 yrs old recently passed away very unexpectedly and right before that my dad passed away of a heart attack & now my mom passed away so we are all going thru so much grieving this holiday season it’s very heartbreaking 💔 therefore if you have it in heart please pray for us ❤it would be greatly appreciated!!!! All my love this holiday season ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@consumerdebtchitchat 23 күн бұрын

No judgement here. My grandmother was mormon. My mother left the church before she adopted us. She taught us the importance of being financially independent. Thank you for sharing your story.❤

@Actavella 5 күн бұрын

I love your channel!! It’s lovely seeing an independent child free woman who is beautiful and happy!

@jenndesharnais6101 Ай бұрын

Wow! After everything you did for him he left you to live in your car. Shows how uncaring men really are. My x left me and my kids homeless twice! The first time I forgave him the second time I realized he didn't give a flip!

@ExLibris-Alys Ай бұрын

Not all men are like him, most are caring and loving family men. Don’t let knowing that some are terrible people make you assume they all are.

@lastanciu 3 күн бұрын

Wow! Such a heartbreaking story! Made me cry! Thank you for sharing with other women and I’m glad you’re now safe ! I was also divorced but I had the degrees, stable career and my own home and it was an absolute walk in the park compared to you and I dare to say, the majority of people! You are very strong and wishing you the best !

@Snow-Leopard-MGTOW 29 күн бұрын

I’m a MGTOW and I don’t support men who treat women poorly. My prayers go out to you during this difficult time in your life. 🙏🙏🙏

@aservantinbabylon 21 күн бұрын

We have no idea if she was treated poorly.....just her side of the story with more wholes in it than swiss cheese. Not believable in the least under the current gynocentric family court system. She was married to a very well off man for over 20 years but gets nothing because her "name isn't on things". GTFO. Complete cap.

@scottjackson163 16 күн бұрын

She talks as if her “affluent to destitute” story is the usual case for women in the aftermath of a divorce. This is decidedly not the case. It is usually (statistically) the woman who seeks the divorce and the woman who gets half of the marital estate, child custody, and alimony.

@aservantinbabylon 11 күн бұрын

@@scottjackson163 Exactly

@fictionaddiction4706 10 күн бұрын

@@scottjackson163 Statistically women are poorer, statistically women are left worse off than men after a divorce. And for real women ask for the divorce first because men either cheat or mistreat them till they file.

@karlakay8805 15 күн бұрын

You are stunningly beautiful!! This could have easily been my story My husband required a non career woman stay at home mom. I was 20 and he was 30. He became an alcoholic. I did have half the house and bought a home with my parents who helped me raise my kids. My parents invested in apartment buildings and took over management when he developed Alzheimer’s. Because of my parents, they gave me a career and an asset to inherit. I took care of my dad for 13 years and now my elderly mom. I’m 55 with a son in medical school and a daughter who is a therapist and self supporting. I am well aware how lucky I was and to steer my daughter in a more secure direction. You are amazing!

@Kathleensplace71 Ай бұрын

I’m so glad I came across your channel, I’m so sorry that you went through all this but thank you for sharing and bringing awareness of this to ladies.,💕💕

@Wakeup_women01 Ай бұрын

@debmcr1 13 күн бұрын

I find all of these replies astonishing. Many of you talk as if this were the fifties. But then I grew up with second-wave feminism, something that seems to have passed many of you by. I and most of the young women I knew always expected to go to college and have a career, marriage or no marriage. And I did. I earned a Ph.D. I'm amazed that so many women married with the expectation of being dependent on a man. Today, more young women attend college than young men and expect to have professional careers.

@Kathleensplace71 13 күн бұрын

@ Religion didn’t allow her to work even though she had studied. Not everything is straight forward

@SashaEllie-zc4ql 5 күн бұрын

Wow, what a story… thank you for sharing. Your resilience shines through.

@Lilliana99 Ай бұрын

Thank you for being so transparent and real. I’m 25 and was in a toxic relationship for 4 years. I didn’t want kids. He didn’t want to listen or hear my side of what I wanted out of MY life. Was also 5 years older than me. I am so scared to ever date again. If you find a good partner you simply got lucky and that’s the end of it. I hear so many bad stories and have rarely ever seen a relationship workout in the end. I really don’t find the stress worth it. It is shitty being single but it’s even shittier being with someone that doesn’t respect you and treats you like shit.

@DeAndreaCummings-ry6je 10 күн бұрын

I hope the women who need to hear this do so that more good can come from this hard time. You’re pretty amazing and hope you continue to grow and shine

@TRoxanne55 Ай бұрын

Thank goodness you were finally able to escape that toxic relationship and cult of a religion. I’m so sorry you had to go thru that and pray you can continue to grow and rise above it.

@Nawtperfect 2 күн бұрын

I am so sorry that you've had to deal woth all of this, thank you for sharing your story ❤ It is so important for girls and young women to hear about what can happen when you are fully dependent on a man.

@Minorbird1972 Ай бұрын

Big hugs and love to you. 18 years trad to battered woman’s shelter. Lost everything, he went on to beat his next girl who is still with him. The struggle is real.

@DonnaMartinGraduates Ай бұрын

There is SO MUCH religious oppression in this! Growing up Southern Baptist, we were taught the same. Men are 51%, women are 49%. Women are less than men.

@michellesteffen9761 Ай бұрын

I also grew up Baptist and with it the very cynical views that many Baptist patriarchs have of women and girls. They lean on these ideologies to justify abusing women and girls. So much adult male rage was directed at me under the guise of breaking my will.

@SweetUniverse 23 күн бұрын

I could be there, too. I went to high school in Utah, but I'm not white, so the mormon church didn't want me. I was an outsider & noticed the inequality between mormon men & women and didn't like it. My step-dad was constantly cheating on my mother & I saw that, too. My mother told me to go for a career instead of marriage & children, which I did. I became a graphic designer with mad computer skills. I've still worked hard to survive. Life is expensive! At 62 I'm finally in a good place in life & hoping to hang on to having a roof over my head. Blessings to you, dear lady! ❤❤❤✌✌

@little_threads_of_grace Ай бұрын

You are absolutely gorgeous and I cannot believe you are 50. The fact that you are beautiful, elegant, and that you were a good Mormon wife to your husband and loyal to your church shows me that men will throw away their wives and families regardless of circumstances. My ex-husband blindsided me with a divorce when our daughter was 1 year and a couple of months old. Thankfully I do get child support, however his mother told me that he had told them that if he could get a low-enough paying job to not have to pay child support, he would do it. Thankfully the military won't let him skip out on his duties as a father. But, he would if he could. It goes to show that you cannot trust any man to take care of you or love you unconditionally, and to always have a back-up plan. I will never make that mistake again. The experience radicalized me in a way. I am a Christian, but I follow men like Richard Rohr and Bishop Michael Curry, men who are allies to women and advocate for the dismantling of the patriarchal systems that religions use to subjugate women. I also attend a church that allows women in leadership and ordains them as well. I will never get married again, that ship has sailed. Men whine and moan about how women suck nowadays but they've been abandoning their wives and children for literally thousands of years. Men can get bent.

@Shayne_T Ай бұрын

She is using a filter, let's stop this madneas, it's so obvious.

@miamiflorida6965 Ай бұрын

❤ Thank you for sharing your story and being vulnerable to the world❤. Man everyone has a story. May God continue to bless you.

@geraldinecolvin8662 Ай бұрын

You are freakin' amazing. Thank you for the courage to create this. Your honesty, vulnerability and life experience will be (is) a blessing that is already helping others who watch this.

@QueenBee-yh5xi Ай бұрын

Sweetie, God is working it out for you. Im so sorry for all of your loss and grief. But you are inspiring and amazing and beautiful. Please just keep on shining...

@SarahandSheba Ай бұрын

Sending love and support! You’re an inspiration, thank you for sharing your story and overcoming that abusive marriage

@smarie3874 Ай бұрын

Spousal/child support should be part of social security. The money could be reclaimed at tax time from the primary breadwinner. Let the IRS deal with the deadbeats, they have powers women and children don’t.

@lifetaketwo7662 Ай бұрын

Agreed. It’s unbelievable how the courts don’t enforce

@jennifercurtis8229 Ай бұрын

Family services do have the power to garnish tax returns for money owed! It happened several times to both my ex’s when they were behind in support and I got a lump sum of the arrears through that. It can’t be a part of social security- it’s not the governments responsibility to pay for a man who doesn’t want to take care of his financial responsibilities and there is no way to “pay in” to this as some sort of safety net not knowing if you’ll ever use the benefit. Women need to be more responsible for themselves. Women have every opportunity men do to have a career these days, there is no reason this should happen in 2024.

@potato1084 Ай бұрын

@@jennifercurtis8229Actually I expect it to happen more in this day and age. Some women are following a trend now going the complete other way and wish to have a traditional marriage despite all the opportunities offered to them.

@azimuthbusinesscenter Ай бұрын

he threatened to leave, he threatened to stay. Everything is a threat, unless he pays

@mcawesomest1 26 күн бұрын

It is. I saw this working in Mortgage. A handful of retired guys had their Social Security checks cut in half because they were repaying back the child support they never paid. It actually showed on their annual Social security statements the % and amount getting paid towards back child support.

@TuwisshaThomas 3 күн бұрын

Well thanks for sharing.I been married for 38 years and my husband was not good to me he ran my whole i depended on him financially i ran his business.when COVID hit he got COVID long battle with pneumonia a stroke he is currently in late stages of dementia.we lost everything homeless .we have a place and its so hard to keep we are always in danger of not enough for rent.we have been raising our grandkids for 15 years.i didn't have plan.I was going to leave him but once he got sick i been stuck caring for him cause his social security check is all we liive on he neds 24 hr care and i need to work. Im planning for when he's gone cause i won't have a check and we don't get money for grandkids.this is good advice.you look young and caring I hope your kids no your amazing

@El.GodsPlan1 14 күн бұрын

I’ve been there-it’s a humbling, uncomfortable experience that draws you closer to God. There will be moments of discouragement, and without faith and support, it’s easy to lose hope. When you have children, you’re not only facing your own emotional distress but also trying to stay strong for them. It’s a tough journey, filled with situations that seem impossible to understand. But remember, with faith, God’s plan for your life will unfold, and this season is only temporary. Stay strong and courageous.

@Pam7555 7 күн бұрын

Wow! It's a shame that you had to go through all of that but you have come out so strong. You will help so many other people with your words.

@WonderWomanInMichigan Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. Ive been a traditional wife role for over 23 years. I homeschooled our 3 kids k-12. After i graduated my last i got my first full time job running cnc machines. im so excited that this job can support me if needed. Im so sorry for your situation. So incredibly awful 😢 Again thank you for sharing!!!

@amandalee1268 9 күн бұрын

I started watching you n when you are about to cry, I stop the video. I feel so deeply for you and understand your predicaments. I want to say to you, be brave and tomorrow it will be better. Whenever I faced hard times and difficulties in my life, I tell myself to be positive and stay strong, n I always manage to ride the storm. I am sending my love and praying for you n family.

@cosmictruthseeker3796 Ай бұрын

Jake never ceases to shock in his grotesque immorality, but sad to hear your uncle gave you 30 days' notice to vacate. In California, the minimum is 60 days notice, if you lived in a home for over one year. Jake sounds so dangerous that it's just a blessing, you escaped in one piece. Check out Wendy Ida. She was a victim of DV and she had to escape in a matter of minutes with her kids in her car. She had to leave everything behind and start over in her 40s with nothing. She is still gorgeous in her 70s and is living her best life.

@twovirginiacats3753 Ай бұрын

I think in Virginia it is 90 days. A past landlord notified us months in advance about his plans to sell the house we were renting.

@williammcneill2753 Ай бұрын

When a woman goes on a rant about her ex, I keep waiting for the part where she acknowledges some responsibility for the marriage failure.

@twovirginiacats3753 Ай бұрын

@@williammcneill2753 Like accepting responsibility for marrying the guy in the first place when you should have known better. Maybe you saw the signs that he wasn't the best match for you, but you ignored them and decided to settle. Maybe following the advice of friends, family and counselors when your gut told you to move to the other side of the country and leave no forwarding address!

@cosmictruthseeker3796 Ай бұрын

@@williammcneill2753 hi William, yes, Jennie does take responsibility for the marriage failure, so please hear me out. Jennie takes responsibility for the marriage failure by explaining that she 100% believed in the mormon doctrine to trust her church elders. Her church leaders told her to marry Jake, despite her loving and being betrothed to another man. Her church leader told her not to question Jake about his sexual past. So she was ordered to get married without any screening process. Then, after he cheated on her with a stripper very early in the marriage, and she wanted a divorce, she was ordered to stay married. She takes responsibility that her family had indoctrinated her into this church. If she was in charge of her life, she would have questioned Jake about his sexual past and discovered he was a pervert, and she would have never married him. If she was in charge of her life, she would have married her sweetheart who actually loved her.

@cosmictruthseeker3796 Ай бұрын

@ontheotherhand7627 8 күн бұрын

I am about 4 1/2 minutes into this and the pain is so palpable that I have to exit. But I didn’t want to leave without telling you how much I admire your courage. That shines through. You were thrown into a situation not of your making, none of your choosing, and you made it. If anyone has the temerity to thinking of you or to judge you, just ask yourself if they could’ve done as well under those circumstances. And also, think about the advice that you would give to a young woman in that situation, and the level of support you would offer. You were deserving of the same.

@ezeauction 27 күн бұрын

50!? You look great! Having said that, I’m going to the same thing. Don’t be embarrassed, you’re doing great Mama! Sending you Love and Prayers

@surpriseimblack 20 күн бұрын

I think she said she's over 50

@exhibitdesign901 6 күн бұрын

You are so brave and scratched and crawled your way back to find yourself. I suspect your husband lost his soul or probably never had one. You seem to have kept your dignity through all of it and that makes you so beautiful. By the way, you don't look 50 at all!

@DivaKitty4 Ай бұрын

I just found your channel. I want to tell you that I am sorry that this has happened to you and your children. Thank you for telling other people about the reality of the grey divorce. This has also happened to me as well.

@-cMc- Ай бұрын

Amazing amazing the absolute worst case scenario and you are still recovering you are keeping afloat and thankful you are extremely resourceful. This was an excellent video i watched from start to finish!