Frustrating Things Enneagram Nines Do

[@AbbeyHowe]

Which Enneagram Type should I make next in this series? ⬇️⬇️⬇️

[@phoebep4688]

How about type 7?

[@Shiri_Yam]

Why not go in chronological order?

[@Avionne_Parris]

Type 4 pls.... Initially thought I was a SP 1w9, then tested as a SP 3w4, then a SP 4w5 and was parading as that type for 2 years. But some things didn't fit so I researched, dug deep, was honest with myself, retook the test: SO 4w3. I was initially leaning more on my 5 wing during the pandemic. Everything fits now and I'm dreadfully uncomfortable. Point being, Abs... type 4 video might be nice :-) P.S. Cameo from Lemon Drop wouldnt hurt either :P

[@spyrie_]

I feel called out. I’m not angry about it though. I don’t have anger issues NO I DONT

[@AbbeyHowe]

😡 STOP ASKING ME IF I HAVE ANGER ISSUES I CLEARLY DO NOT!!!!! 😤

[@Shiri_Yam]

Man, being a type 9 is crazy. I feel like no one expects me to be angry, not even myself, and yet I get angry more than the average person. (9w8)

[@r4ge402]

Now I'm angry

[@paulmatson661]

Someone messaging me with "Can you talk?" or "Please call me when you have a second" with no context was pretty alarming. So much so, that I'd often avoid replying because I'd start dreading what it might be about. Recently, however, I've started setting some boundaries and replying back with something along the lines of "I'm much more comfortable when I can prepare for a call, especially in cases where I don't have the benefit of knowing what the call is about. I feel it helps the other person, too, since I'm better able to respond to their questions. Can you please provide some info so I can prepare accordingly?" Scared the hell out of me, but I'm glad I did it.

[@nancyfunk615]

That's a good way to phrase things!

[@rwelch540]

I’m married to a 9 and I guarantee we’ve had the fire conversation before 😅. And trying to figure out what to eat…ever. And catastrophizing. But his overall chill attitude and love of creature comforts is a great complement to my sometimes intense, anxiety-driven fiveness.

[@LydiaDickson]

Yuuuuup, you just crawled inside my head and wrote down my internal monologue. 3 hurts though. I will say falling back to a 6's habits during the early pandemic did mean I was fully prepared with a second hand bread machine and flour a week before everyone else thought about it though.

[@AbbeyHowe]

The bread thing seems like a major upside to me 😂🥖

[@phoebep4688]

My best friend is a 9 and this was hilarious! I’d love to see it for all the types (I mean it’s only fair that if the 9s are being called out we should all be).

[@AbbeyHowe]

Planning on doing them for all 9 types. Petition for which type next in this thread??

[@Shiri_Yam]

@@AbbeyHowe I would like to see 7, 8, or 2. (Simply because I know people with these personalities.)

[@JH-yj7kk]

I'm a 5 with 9 in my tritype. Some of these are relatable enough that I briefly question if I am actually a 5 and not a 9. But then I remember that I am frequently pessimistic, nihilistic, irritable, and argumentive. Sorry to my 9 friends for whenever I have succumbed to the temptation to ruin their peace by saying something like "do you ever think about how one day we'll all be dead, and none of our lives will have mattered?"

[@starwing2814]

Not wanting to make phone calls is so accurate 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tiffanychildwithin]

ABBEY! Why were you spying on my therapy session yesterday? I quite literally had a conversation so similiar to this, it's uncanny. You nailed that one. 🤣

[@Shiri_Yam]

9w8 here. I'm guilty of point #3, comparing myself to others and not following through with my passions. I had this dream of writing a book about a year and a half ago. I had a name and a concept in mind, and even started writing the book, but unfortunately stoped about halfway through. I got busy doing other things and didn't prioritise writing. I also had this fear that people might not like my book, and I wouldn't be able to handle the criticism. Your video inspired me to get back into writing. (I'm in a pretty busy time in my life though, so it might take a little while.) Thank you for helping me be aware of this!!

[@KendrixTermina]

i encourage everyone with problem #3 to acquaint themselves with the "two cakes" theory of art

[@barbaranobrega8861]

That was very helpful! Thankyou ❤

[@midgetman946]

Most annoying thing about 9s is that they try to end conflicts while my 8 ass hasn't finished yet.

[@karmakauffman7445]

Most annoying thing about 9s for me is that they’ll say they’ll do something they really don’t want to do just to avoid conflict and then never do what they said they’d do. Sigh.

[@AbbeyHowe]

overcoming conflict avoidance is a big challenge (and win!) for Nines in their growth journey ♥️

[@cmpicha2934]

​@@karmakauffman7445 I can't argue with that one. Being a type 1, that's a great way to get on my bad side.

[@darkcreatureinadarkroom1617]

@@AbbeyHowe ironically I know a very unhealthy 9 that could benefit from learning about proper conflict avoidance, instead of his version which is "whatever keeps the deeply unhealthy 6 that he is latched onto appeased, even if it ends up alienating other loved ones in the process".

[@loganbyrd2024]

This is was a lot like me when I was younger. I'm way more consciously angry, now. It's exhausting to express it, though, so I still have a reputation as mellow and laid back.

[@caseywillett5539]

I showed my wonderful wife (9w1) this video and she was MOST annoyed that one does not yet exist for me (5w4). 😁

[@AbbeyHowe]

haha there will be one eventually but until then she can watch this one: kzbin.info/www/bejne/b5e7mZtvpreDgLs

[@fiig5196]

As a 9, one time my sister texted me at 3 am that there was a tornado warning in her town and she’s taking shelter. She lives in California so when I saw the text in the morning I’m pretty sure I replied with something along the lines of “ …. Looks clear now 👍 “

[@theoldaccountthatiusedtous6767]

I feel called out. I avoid responding to messages because people cause me stress because I tend to... not only get pulled into intense people's whirlpools of drama, but I get pulled into the gentlest current of gentle people existing in the world and still manage to lose myself.

[@trinaq]

Thanks for the video, Abbey. My cousin is this type, and many quotes are ad verbatim things that she's actually said!

[@AbbeyHowe]

You're welcome, Trina! And re: your cousin... That's hilarious!!

[@Avionne_Parris]

My mom is a 9... and yeah this list is totally legit. Thanks for showing 9s some love, Abs :-)

[@JanaylovesLearningandArt9672]

I can lay and relax all day in my bed with my favorite hobbies and need to take more action towards my daily living skills and future dreams and goals. I know that I have prediabetes, hypothyroidism, and anemia along with C-PTSD with a couple more mental illnesses but this is still no excuse to longue all day and let life pass me by. I must take care of my overall health and do better with the 8 dimensions of wellness. I definitely need more energy and exercise in my life along with time management.

[@fernandaortega8516]

100% accurate 😭

[@AbbeyHowe]

😭

[@izy2302]

XD so true! I wonder y it doesn't seem like my mom can relate but maybe it's cuz as she's older she's wiser and therefore a healthier 9 or rather healthy 9

[@AbbeyHowe]

I find that the older and wiser someone is, the less they relate to the unhealthiest traits of their type.

[@m-b0t]

Yes! 👏🤝 this is me! Especially with my passion 🥺 I write music but there is so many talented artist that is so easy to give up 😔 and I think like that when I'm late or when I get called into the office at work and it's like just a standard performance review I'm like great they going to fire me and thinking whatever I don't really like this job 😂 you hit the nail on the coffin again Abby great job 👏 I always love your videos!

[@StephanieJeanne]

I don't know if I know any 9s, but if I run into one...😸

[@AbbeyHowe]

hehehe

[@JenniferJiang2013]

As a 269 tritype, I feel this.

[@LilacSnowBun]

I strongly related to #4, tv binging one. - intj 4w5 (?)

[@LunaFreiheit]

I haven’t finished the video yet, BUT as absurd as number is, it’s absolutely accurate 👍🏻 My sister is 9 and dude ! 🔥 she drives me nuts in difficult situations

[@kellikakes81]

#5! And #6! Lol. #5 I'm like this, but only with headstrong types that never really care about what I want anyway and it drains more energy to say what I really want ( my dad being one of them, but he's a parent so what am I to do?!?! And an 8 at that! Boyfriend too). Majority of the people who've been in my life are considerate and will ask my true opinion, not steamrolling at all, but I definitely have some steamroller folks that I just don't have the energy to go back and forth with proclaiming what I want, when I know they're just going to do what they want anyway. Particularly 8s and 1s lbvvs. (And it's not about losing them more than it's about draining my energy. I don't want to lose these people but that has not been a CORE fear, as losing energy).

[@abbiegclark]

Feel like you read my mind with #3 😂

[@benjaminfast5496]

I guess any time I start to doubt I'm a type 9 I need to watch this video. It was far too real. :S

[@sweetcherry8594]

No. My boyfriend is an enneagram type 9w1🥰 I'm an enneagram type 4w5👋☺ Nice Video 😊

[@sarashakhaly1024]

Thanks♥️

[@godsdaughter6411]

I’m speechless😂

[@edu.monstrik]

Oh yeah... the Buda statues Eneatype... until they explode

[@AbbeyHowe]

Buddha 😂

[@carolfinn4027]

Bout sums it up! 😀

[@PhoenixFlight8D]

(._. ') oh fun- i relate to everything

[@ranikster9955]

Haha yes