FTM Phalloplasty Using Public Restrooms Post-op

[@sarahh.7038]

I find it really awesome that you are sharing your experiences, even tho I never plan on getting bottom surgery it’s still cool to see other people become their truest self.

[@Codytalks11]

+Sam Henders thank you for watching and listening to my experience! :)

[@ElPollitoLoco23]

I also have bathroom anxiety...I hate when I walk in and its empty and then as soon as I sit do ma bidness someone walks in...and goes up to the urinal...and then theres DA SILENCE

[@Codytalks11]

lol!! THE SILENCE is the worst.

[@mrgotagofar90]

I've seen plenty of guys go for the stall over the urinal just to pee.

[@bluesnowflakes]

One of my biggest peeves is a salesman who refuses to listen!! Way to go facing your fears, it takes so much energy just to do that!

[@midnytegoddess]

I am sorry you are having anxiety and shy bladder. I am sorry to hear you did not get your work out in, that must have been really frustrating. I wish you a happy trip and a happy hallowe'en

[@Codytalks11]

Thank you! Happy Halloween to you too!

[@avantgarde93]

how much do you leak now? i find that i have to wipe and milk for a bit after peeing so i still don’t use a urinal also my favorite is peeing with a backpack on... idk why but it feels so liberating just to be fully clothed with a backpack and pee haha it’s great

[@Codytalks11]

I don't leak as much now, although I do still have to milk it a bit.. but haven't been able to because of my stricture repair. I have to do it gently... not pulling lol

[@ChromeEdition]

Another great vid my dude!!! And i got my bracelet!! Thank you for the note, it made my day. You're the coolest older brother i never got!

[@Codytalks11]

Aw yay!! I am glad you got it! :)

[@Vandermin011]

Too bad about nasty gym experience, sometimes you just have to go with your intuition about a place.

[@Codytalks11]

yea for sure, I tried lol can't wait to get back to my home gym!

[@emberrowan5004]

Hey Cody, I was wondering if you've ever tried meds for anxiety? I have pretty awful social anxiety and I've been considering it, just curious if you've tried and if it's ever worked for you? Thanks dude 😎

[@taraelsey926]

I like your outlook on things. You try to be optimistic, but in a very honest non-delusional way.

[@Codytalks11]

haha thanks :)

[@joey_5060]

Wow...I think that walking out of that place was a win. I hope they saw you leave. I think you proved a point about their crappy service/attitudes. I would have walked out too. 😊❤😉

[@Codytalks11]

yea I understand it is their job to make sales but.. no is no haha.

[@KC-zy5jy]

Bathroom tip: doing math activates the same part of your brain as going pee does! For me, I do some simple times tables: 2x2-4,4x2-8,8x2-16,16x2-32..... and it usually helps/makes me pee quickly. Try it out!

[@psychedforlife7176]

Mr. Harman looking buff 😍 can you workout in your room with just body weight?

[@Codytalks11]

Thanks! And I could! I was just wanting to lift something!

[@eunicedelgadoo]

You are very open with conversations :)

[@paigeg8487]

For the gym, I know sales people are annoying but you've got to understand that the point of the guest pass is to "try before you buy". Even if you have no intention of joining, just play it off so it doesn't seem like you're just using them/the facility, even if that's the case. They are a business after all.

[@Codytalks11]

Yea but from the beginning I told them I just wanted to workout because I am from out of town. I didn't want to waste either of our times getting more info about memberships but they still tried. I would of even just paid a fee to use the gym for the day. I was trying to let them know I wasn't interested so I didn't have to just "use" them at all lol

[@jaredmorales2208]

I would have left too. Screw that stupid gym. Definitely a win!

[@Codytalks11]

Seriously! I hate people who won't stop trying to sell you things!!

[@jacecmiller]

I always sing the same song/tune in my head every time i go to the bathroom. I do it only at home where i'm completely relaxed for the first couple weeks (make it a habit). After a couple weeks start sing the tune in your head at public rest rooms. Someone told me this years ago and it does help. pick a tune that you would not hear on the radio or anywhere cause you will instantly feel like you need to pee.

[@Codytalks11]

haha I usually sing "I've got a river of life flowing out of me." sometimes it works! lol

[@tanner7443]

I always put earbuds in and turn up the volume as much as I can bear. Then I either wear a hoodie and put the hood up like horse blinders lol or put shades on and close my eyes until I can go.

[@ryanitunes6216]

MJ Whatever works for you lol

[@rachelworkman5861]

I’m ftm & i use the men’s bathroom at my school no problem, bc regardless of me being 5’2 i pass fairly well. I use the urinal w my sam stp but public bathrooms w no dividers make me uncomfortable

[@ZeroJohnnyx]

wow, I've never had to see someone whip it out before even at the urinal, that's crazy! I can relate somewhat with the gym experience, they can be pushy with sales, but I didn't have that experience of them having an attitude and eye rolling...that sucks...

[@serenegrace2591]

I really want to ask a question. I'm wondering about the sensations down below......???

[@serenegrace2591]

I mean like a sexual sensation? I'm sorry for asking you can tell me it's none of my flipping business but please don't take offense.

[@DeerestAshe]

What is a gym Halloween special? I’m legit curious...

[@Codytalks11]

+ThatTransChickPlays hahah they offer a year membership and waive the initiation fees.

[@owenpridgen4406]

I have a nervous bladder too I can’t pee in front of people .

[@oculusdexterx6249]

You could have just done the membership online did it online went to the gym signed the paper at the front desk showed Id and that was it.

[@MrMakeDo]

You might be surprised at the number of cis guys who get pee shy at urinals too. If I have the option, I’ll always go for a cubicle over a urinal, especially if they’re close together or busy. Sometimes if there’s no cubicle option, I’ll just leave and hold it.

[@Codytalks11]

yeaa if the urinals at least have a divider between them that is a lot better.. but I hate the ones that are so close together!

[@alnthevalley1]

MrMakeDo what is a cis guy?

[@MrMakeDo]

Ikant Standit it’s a guy who’s gender identity happens to match the gender they were assigned at birth.

[@sheilaallenbach5392]

Why are you wearing a sleeve over the graft? Thanks for sharing your story!!

[@Codytalks11]

+Sheila Allenbach just don’t want to be asked about it in an unfamiliar place where I am already anxious haha.

[@sheilaallenbach5392]

Cody_talks That makes sense. 😊

[@nature_greencool8017]

I love this look on you!

[@drewharris7785]

Way to accentuate the positive!

[@MK_1Ultra]

Awwee. Don’t worry you’ll get used to it, being cis trust no ones looking and no one cares unless they really are curious to see. If you feel awkward it’ll look awkward to other guys so work on that confidence. Anxiety is so weird to me, I don’t have it but I hear it soooooooooo much it drives me crazy, I’m trying to understand.

[@alnthevalley1]

What were your fear in terms of taking a an uber?

[@Codytalks11]

I have social anxiety or anxiety in general so being in a car with a stranger lol

[@nbecker675]

I'm so happy other people experience shy bladder! I thought I was weird!

[@Codytalks11]

hah not weird at all! I definitely experience it!

[@kaylathomasson9619]

How is it going right now with post phaloplasty

[@Codytalks11]

Good! :)

[@kaylathomasson9619]

Cody_talks are there still issues

[@LoganJoannesRollerCoaster]

"I'm dying a little inside". Lol. I felt like that having to miss TWO days last week!

[@Codytalks11]

hahah I didn't workout for 3 months and now I am crying over 2 days :P

[@johnathank7583]

dude you only been out of the gym 2 days lol. But ik how you feel after missing my 2 day i start to get restless, and feel like im loosing gains

[@Codytalks11]

haha yea but I was out of the gym for months for surgery so now I am just wanting to go as much as possible!

[@johnathank7583]

Cody_talks oh true, forgot about that

[@chickennuggets2975]

I’m trans ftm and I haven’t transition at all look full on girl ;-; but they’re gonna let me use the boys restroom maybe even locker room but I’m afraid of what cis men are gonna think of me and I’m afraid Ima get rude comments or looks any advice ?

[@rachelworkman5861]

Twentyoneoli Remember that it’s where you truly belong & it’s ur right to be there. It’s hard w other ppl that don’t accept it, but you have to make yourself happy first. 🧡

[@msprincesss115]

i dont see why urinals aren't in stalls too or at least have walls.. no one likes peeing in front of people..

[@Codytalks11]

I know right?! There are some that have walls and those are fine! But the ones that are right next to each other are weird lol

[@technicoloryaya549]

The precise reason I never, ever understood the girl "gang potty" thing. I can go by myself, thank you... LOL!!!

[@Codytalks11]

+Technicolor YaYa haha 😆

[@jooliebeanpajoolie4244]

I never really understood why there's a difference in bathrooms for men and women? Stalls vs urinals -privacy vs trough? *Argh* I just don't get it! I guess I assume most humans appreciate privacy while peeing OR pooping. :) lol Ugh. Gross Gym Adventure. *note to self babe ~ life lesson! When you run your own business someday, coaching/training whatever it may be...it reiterates the point, to never behave in that unprofessional desperate manner! You are too nice!! I would have been OUTTIE after refusing a couple of times. ~ hugs ~ I love you. ❤

[@SageWarrenSageywageypoo]

Jooliebean C urinals aren’t exactly private haha

[@jooliebeanpajoolie4244]

Sage Warren ~ I KNOW! Lol That's exactly what I'm saying!!! :P

[@Codytalks11]

right?! I wish we had urinals with at least a divider. I mean some do but not all. lol Also, yes.. I know I never want to work at a gym like that and if I have my own gym.... it will be way less pushy and way more comfortable.

[@jooliebeanpajoolie4244]

Cody_talks ~ 100%!!! 😍

[@micaiahhendrickes471]

You look good 😍

[@Codytalks11]

Thanks! :)

[@jayharrison6971]

I used the male bathroom for the first time on sunday.

[@Codytalks11]

Yaya!!!

[@jayharrison6971]

Cody_talks honestly though I'm not sure, I started to socially transition by going by Jake at an army Base I started going to yesterday and felt like shit last night with doubt and no dysphoria and all that. it's happened before but after I slowly got back to a trans mind set and thought I'd taken a step to fast but now I don't know anyone had similar experiences.

[@eddeddy3571]

Don't worry guys. From what I noticed guys don't give a fuck when u get in the bathroom. Usually girls analyze u head to toe up and down.

[@Codytalks11]

I don't know that girls analyze people head to toe , but you are right, guys usually really don't care lol

[@knitting4premies]

I can’t pee when people are around! Il even run a tap! Lol xx

[@Codytalks11]

+vikki Adam-Smith haha peeing in public is just weird.

[@lisalentile177]

Why do they care if you use a urinal I don't want nobody looking at me pee I would use the toilet like I'm pooping

[@KevinS-v9s]

Thank you, feeling more confident every day and noticing my anxiety dissolve until I knew I was “in control” is definitely a relief, I went with what I mentioned and a week after my paruresis was gone. I just go'ogled the latest in Beck Reznark’s guide and now I can go without even thinking about it.

[@game0nnemisis]

I'm 14 transgender male and I'm also gay. Last year I didn't use the restroom at school because I didn't know what one to use cuz there's another trans kid in my school MTF. She is forced to use the men's restroom because she was born a he. That's why I didn't use the restroom last year.

[@emilyhonsinger9665]

😍😍😍

[@Codytalks11]

[@ryanitunes6216]

Yeah...bathrooms are tricky... 😂

[@Codytalks11]

They are haha

[@cppsnexttopmodel6018]

Try going to the bathroom before u go out, so u don't have anxiety. Bathrooms shouldn't take over ur life

[@Codytalks11]

+Cpps Next Top Model lol kind of hard to do when you are on an 8 + hour road trip.

[@cppsnexttopmodel6018]

Didn't factor that in. Good point and good luck

[@lyndagayemiller]

Lol don’t be ashamed of having shy-bladder! My husband has the same issue,and he was born with his penis!😉

[@brianwalling692]

Love the video! I recently came out as trans on my channel I would appreciate it if you could watch it and give me some feedback because you are an inspiration

[@dannyzmcn]

I know this is over 2 years since you posted and hopefully you do not feel that way any more. However, no FTM guy should feel anxiety while standing at a urinal. As a cisgender man, I have a a shy bladder and if it is not completely full, I wait my turn and go to a private stall. On the other hand, most cisgender guys are not checking what others are doing standing in front of a urinal. Each one minds his own business and believe me, there are guys with smaller penises than FTMs.

[@Codytalks11]

Haha good to know thank you :)

[@je7553]

NOT passable

[@Codytalks11]

um ok. Except I am lol

[@je7553]

​@@Codytalks11 not passable

[@Codytalks11]

Passable

[@je7553]

@@Codytalks11 You look like a chick with a beard and FYI, real guys don't have urinal anxiety.

[@je7553]

@@Codytalks11 You are a male impersonator.