I find it really awesome that you are sharing your experiences, even tho I never plan on getting bottom surgery it’s still cool to see other people become their truest self.
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
+Sam Henders thank you for watching and listening to my experience! :)
@ElPollitoLoco237 жыл бұрын
I also have bathroom anxiety...I hate when I walk in and its empty and then as soon as I sit do ma bidness someone walks in...and goes up to the urinal...and then theres DA SILENCE
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
lol!! THE SILENCE is the worst.
@mrgotagofar907 жыл бұрын
I've seen plenty of guys go for the stall over the urinal just to pee.
@bluesnowflakes7 жыл бұрын
One of my biggest peeves is a salesman who refuses to listen!! Way to go facing your fears, it takes so much energy just to do that!
@midnytegoddess7 жыл бұрын
I am sorry you are having anxiety and shy bladder. I am sorry to hear you did not get your work out in, that must have been really frustrating. I wish you a happy trip and a happy hallowe'en
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Thank you! Happy Halloween to you too!
@avantgarde937 жыл бұрын
how much do you leak now? i find that i have to wipe and milk for a bit after peeing so i still don’t use a urinal also my favorite is peeing with a backpack on... idk why but it feels so liberating just to be fully clothed with a backpack and pee haha it’s great
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
I don't leak as much now, although I do still have to milk it a bit.. but haven't been able to because of my stricture repair. I have to do it gently... not pulling lol
@joey_50607 жыл бұрын
Wow...I think that walking out of that place was a win. I hope they saw you leave. I think you proved a point about their crappy service/attitudes. I would have walked out too. 😊❤😉
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
yea I understand it is their job to make sales but.. no is no haha.
@taraelsey9266 жыл бұрын
I like your outlook on things. You try to be optimistic, but in a very honest non-delusional way.
@Codytalks116 жыл бұрын
haha thanks :)
@ChromeEdition7 жыл бұрын
Another great vid my dude!!! And i got my bracelet!! Thank you for the note, it made my day. You're the coolest older brother i never got!
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Aw yay!! I am glad you got it! :)
@jaredmorales22087 жыл бұрын
I would have left too. Screw that stupid gym. Definitely a win!
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Seriously! I hate people who won't stop trying to sell you things!!
@KC-zy5jy7 жыл бұрын
Bathroom tip: doing math activates the same part of your brain as going pee does! For me, I do some simple times tables: 2x2-4,4x2-8,8x2-16,16x2-32..... and it usually helps/makes me pee quickly. Try it out!
@emberrowan50047 жыл бұрын
Hey Cody, I was wondering if you've ever tried meds for anxiety? I have pretty awful social anxiety and I've been considering it, just curious if you've tried and if it's ever worked for you? Thanks dude 😎
@paigeg84877 жыл бұрын
For the gym, I know sales people are annoying but you've got to understand that the point of the guest pass is to "try before you buy". Even if you have no intention of joining, just play it off so it doesn't seem like you're just using them/the facility, even if that's the case. They are a business after all.
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Yea but from the beginning I told them I just wanted to workout because I am from out of town. I didn't want to waste either of our times getting more info about memberships but they still tried. I would of even just paid a fee to use the gym for the day. I was trying to let them know I wasn't interested so I didn't have to just "use" them at all lol
@Vandermin0117 жыл бұрын
Too bad about nasty gym experience, sometimes you just have to go with your intuition about a place.
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
yea for sure, I tried lol can't wait to get back to my home gym!
@technicoloryaya5497 жыл бұрын
The precise reason I never, ever understood the girl "gang potty" thing. I can go by myself, thank you... LOL!!!
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
+Technicolor YaYa haha 😆
@psychedforlife71767 жыл бұрын
Mr. Harman looking buff 😍 can you workout in your room with just body weight?
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Thanks! And I could! I was just wanting to lift something!
@eunicedelgadoo6 жыл бұрын
You are very open with conversations :)
@jacecmiller7 жыл бұрын
I always sing the same song/tune in my head every time i go to the bathroom. I do it only at home where i'm completely relaxed for the first couple weeks (make it a habit). After a couple weeks start sing the tune in your head at public rest rooms. Someone told me this years ago and it does help. pick a tune that you would not hear on the radio or anywhere cause you will instantly feel like you need to pee.
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
haha I usually sing "I've got a river of life flowing out of me." sometimes it works! lol
@DeerestAshe7 жыл бұрын
What is a gym Halloween special? I’m legit curious...
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
+ThatTransChickPlays hahah they offer a year membership and waive the initiation fees.
@ZeroJohnnyx6 жыл бұрын
wow, I've never had to see someone whip it out before even at the urinal, that's crazy! I can relate somewhat with the gym experience, they can be pushy with sales, but I didn't have that experience of them having an attitude and eye rolling...that sucks...
@LoganJoannesRollerCoaster7 жыл бұрын
"I'm dying a little inside". Lol. I felt like that having to miss TWO days last week!
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
hahah I didn't workout for 3 months and now I am crying over 2 days :P
@tanner74437 жыл бұрын
I always put earbuds in and turn up the volume as much as I can bear. Then I either wear a hoodie and put the hood up like horse blinders lol or put shades on and close my eyes until I can go.
@ryanitunes62167 жыл бұрын
MJ Whatever works for you lol
@MrMakeDo7 жыл бұрын
You might be surprised at the number of cis guys who get pee shy at urinals too. If I have the option, I’ll always go for a cubicle over a urinal, especially if they’re close together or busy. Sometimes if there’s no cubicle option, I’ll just leave and hold it.
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
yeaa if the urinals at least have a divider between them that is a lot better.. but I hate the ones that are so close together!
@alnthevalley17 жыл бұрын
MrMakeDo what is a cis guy?
@MrMakeDo7 жыл бұрын
Ikant Standit it’s a guy who’s gender identity happens to match the gender they were assigned at birth.
@nbecker6756 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy other people experience shy bladder! I thought I was weird!
@Codytalks116 жыл бұрын
hah not weird at all! I definitely experience it!
@serenegrace25916 жыл бұрын
I really want to ask a question. I'm wondering about the sensations down below......???
@serenegrace25916 жыл бұрын
I mean like a sexual sensation? I'm sorry for asking you can tell me it's none of my flipping business but please don't take offense.
@jooliebeanpajoolie42447 жыл бұрын
I never really understood why there's a difference in bathrooms for men and women? Stalls vs urinals -privacy vs trough? *Argh* I just don't get it! I guess I assume most humans appreciate privacy while peeing OR pooping. :) lol Ugh. Gross Gym Adventure. *note to self babe ~ life lesson! When you run your own business someday, coaching/training whatever it may be...it reiterates the point, to never behave in that unprofessional desperate manner! You are too nice!! I would have been OUTTIE after refusing a couple of times. ~ hugs ~ I love you. ❤
@SageWarrenSageywageypoo7 жыл бұрын
Jooliebean C urinals aren’t exactly private haha
@jooliebeanpajoolie42447 жыл бұрын
Sage Warren ~ I KNOW! Lol That's exactly what I'm saying!!! :P
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
right?! I wish we had urinals with at least a divider. I mean some do but not all. lol Also, yes.. I know I never want to work at a gym like that and if I have my own gym.... it will be way less pushy and way more comfortable.
@jooliebeanpajoolie42447 жыл бұрын
Cody_talks ~ 100%!!! 😍
@MK_1Ultra7 жыл бұрын
Awwee. Don’t worry you’ll get used to it, being cis trust no ones looking and no one cares unless they really are curious to see. If you feel awkward it’ll look awkward to other guys so work on that confidence. Anxiety is so weird to me, I don’t have it but I hear it soooooooooo much it drives me crazy, I’m trying to understand.
@drewharris77857 жыл бұрын
Way to accentuate the positive!
@sheilaallenbach53927 жыл бұрын
Why are you wearing a sleeve over the graft? Thanks for sharing your story!!
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
+Sheila Allenbach just don’t want to be asked about it in an unfamiliar place where I am already anxious haha.
@sheilaallenbach53927 жыл бұрын
Cody_talks That makes sense. 😊
@rachelworkman58616 жыл бұрын
I’m ftm & i use the men’s bathroom at my school no problem, bc regardless of me being 5’2 i pass fairly well. I use the urinal w my sam stp but public bathrooms w no dividers make me uncomfortable
@nature_greencool80175 жыл бұрын
I love this look on you!
@eddeddy35717 жыл бұрын
Don't worry guys. From what I noticed guys don't give a fuck when u get in the bathroom. Usually girls analyze u head to toe up and down.
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
I don't know that girls analyze people head to toe , but you are right, guys usually really don't care lol
@msprincesss1156 жыл бұрын
i dont see why urinals aren't in stalls too or at least have walls.. no one likes peeing in front of people..
@Codytalks116 жыл бұрын
I know right?! There are some that have walls and those are fine! But the ones that are right next to each other are weird lol
@chickennuggets29756 жыл бұрын
I’m trans ftm and I haven’t transition at all look full on girl ;-; but they’re gonna let me use the boys restroom maybe even locker room but I’m afraid of what cis men are gonna think of me and I’m afraid Ima get rude comments or looks any advice ?
@rachelworkman58616 жыл бұрын
Twentyoneoli Remember that it’s where you truly belong & it’s ur right to be there. It’s hard w other ppl that don’t accept it, but you have to make yourself happy first. 🧡
@oculusdexterx62496 жыл бұрын
You could have just done the membership online did it online went to the gym signed the paper at the front desk showed Id and that was it.
@johnathank75837 жыл бұрын
dude you only been out of the gym 2 days lol. But ik how you feel after missing my 2 day i start to get restless, and feel like im loosing gains
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
haha yea but I was out of the gym for months for surgery so now I am just wanting to go as much as possible!
@johnathank75837 жыл бұрын
Cody_talks oh true, forgot about that
@owenpridgen44066 жыл бұрын
I have a nervous bladder too I can’t pee in front of people .
@alnthevalley17 жыл бұрын
What were your fear in terms of taking a an uber?
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
I have social anxiety or anxiety in general so being in a car with a stranger lol
@knitting4premies7 жыл бұрын
I can’t pee when people are around! Il even run a tap! Lol xx
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
+vikki Adam-Smith haha peeing in public is just weird.
@kaylathomasson96197 жыл бұрын
How is it going right now with post phaloplasty
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Good! :)
@kaylathomasson96197 жыл бұрын
Cody_talks are there still issues
@game0nnemisis6 жыл бұрын
I'm 14 transgender male and I'm also gay. Last year I didn't use the restroom at school because I didn't know what one to use cuz there's another trans kid in my school MTF. She is forced to use the men's restroom because she was born a he. That's why I didn't use the restroom last year.
@lisalentile1776 жыл бұрын
Why do they care if you use a urinal I don't want nobody looking at me pee I would use the toilet like I'm pooping
@micaiahhendrickes4717 жыл бұрын
You look good 😍
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
Thanks! :)
@jayharrison69716 жыл бұрын
I used the male bathroom for the first time on sunday.
@Codytalks116 жыл бұрын
Yaya!!!
@jayharrison69716 жыл бұрын
Cody_talks honestly though I'm not sure, I started to socially transition by going by Jake at an army Base I started going to yesterday and felt like shit last night with doubt and no dysphoria and all that. it's happened before but after I slowly got back to a trans mind set and thought I'd taken a step to fast but now I don't know anyone had similar experiences.
@cppsnexttopmodel60187 жыл бұрын
Try going to the bathroom before u go out, so u don't have anxiety. Bathrooms shouldn't take over ur life
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
+Cpps Next Top Model lol kind of hard to do when you are on an 8 + hour road trip.
@cppsnexttopmodel60187 жыл бұрын
Didn't factor that in. Good point and good luck
@emilyhonsinger96657 жыл бұрын
😍😍😍
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
@lyndagayemiller6 жыл бұрын
Lol don’t be ashamed of having shy-bladder! My husband has the same issue,and he was born with his penis!😉
@dannyzmcn4 жыл бұрын
I know this is over 2 years since you posted and hopefully you do not feel that way any more. However, no FTM guy should feel anxiety while standing at a urinal. As a cisgender man, I have a a shy bladder and if it is not completely full, I wait my turn and go to a private stall. On the other hand, most cisgender guys are not checking what others are doing standing in front of a urinal. Each one minds his own business and believe me, there are guys with smaller penises than FTMs.
@Codytalks114 жыл бұрын
Haha good to know thank you :)
@ryanitunes62167 жыл бұрын
Yeah...bathrooms are tricky... 😂
@Codytalks117 жыл бұрын
They are haha
@brianwalling6927 жыл бұрын
Love the video! I recently came out as trans on my channel I would appreciate it if you could watch it and give me some feedback because you are an inspiration
@je75535 жыл бұрын
NOT passable
@Codytalks115 жыл бұрын
um ok. Except I am lol
@je75535 жыл бұрын
@@Codytalks11 not passable
@Codytalks115 жыл бұрын
Passable
@je75535 жыл бұрын
@@Codytalks11 You look like a chick with a beard and FYI, real guys don't have urinal anxiety.