I can’t understand how people can be transphobic when you see before and after photos of someone who’s transitioned and it’s so clear how much being able to be themselves has transformed their life so much for the better.
@Leo-le7jx5 жыл бұрын
as a young trans man, seeing your journey is incredibly inspiring :,) coming out to my mom tomorrow
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much! I hope, everything worked out well for you!
@sotsu6184 жыл бұрын
Leo Gendron how’d it go?
@ElvenChaos4 жыл бұрын
Don't leave us hanging, Leo!
@Leo-le7jx4 жыл бұрын
ah, so sorry i didn't give any updates! a bunch of stuff has been coming up so I haven't been able to tell her yet, but it looks like sometime next week it'll finally be a good time to tell her
@AetherIdol4 жыл бұрын
@@Leo-le7jx good luck and very best wishes to you, Leo.
@ALienZ03086 жыл бұрын
Oh hell dude, it hurts to see this, because I feel you so much. I still don't know if I'm trans or just a tomboy, but I'm really not comfortable being this way. I've wanted to be a lesbian many times and I've tried to be more girly, and it's sometimes quite fun, but it still feels not me. And if I act and wear more boyish, I like it, but I feel like unattractive weido, and that no man would ever like me, if I was like that all the time. I love my boyfriend and want to be with him, but something always feels not right. I've been a tomboy for a lifetime, and thinking more this stuff since 2012, and I'm still so lost. Turned 23 this year.
@TobyMcMill6 жыл бұрын
hey......it took me 33 years to get to this point! just don`t rush yourself into any thing, okay? if you know, what you feel comfortable with (like in presenting and looking etc.), then: go for it!! and even until my 1st t-shot I wasn`t sure at all if THIS is MY way.....I once heard from another trans guy on yt: sometimes you just have to DO things - until then, you will never find out, if it is the right thing for you. you can`t be 100% sure before trying......! and that`s sooooo damn true!! my best blessings to you! toby
@ALienZ03086 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill thanks a lot, I try to keep that in mind
@myrkflinn43316 жыл бұрын
yes, it can take years unfortunately before you're sure of things which is good because you don't want to regret the possible life long changes. But people seem to be comfortable with me being trans as if something tells them that I am, and it's true because before I was aware, I just did my considerably 'non binary, tomboyish' stuff and it was more than it sounded like. I have certain acts I either think of as part of my adhd and whatever, or part of another possible mental thing called being transgender. It's psychological, but it depends when it can break out and when it could 'fade' I guess? I'm not sure. However, it's not easy for any of us. It's all fear and insecurities, especially when you already suffer such a life you become desperate to. I want to make sure the choices of ftm transitioning or mtf transitioning is part of the internal need, or part of a trauma experienced. If it's due to trauma, a lot of people that did transition want to detransition. Because they rushed it or actually just had to escape their body for awhile. I jut hope well for you and right now, I hope that i'll figure it out too. I came out a little, but am still too scared to just go for it. I have it with everything so it's not just this. I fear change and pain in general so it holds me back too much for making my choice. I had survived many other obstacles before this way by just again, going for it.... I should get prepared in about a year or two before I meet my gender therapists, and hope to find the answer by then.
@HectorTJHuang6 жыл бұрын
Dude, I feel the same. Been a tomboy my whole life. Just discovered Trans is a thing earlier this year. I’m also 23 now :)
@indecisive.3254 жыл бұрын
Have you ever seen a gender therapist?
@escapingmundane4 жыл бұрын
“So I tried to be a lesbian” *puts on baseball cap* LOOOOL
@littlemeloncoli30174 жыл бұрын
I used to think I was *turns on girl in red* but really I am *turns on cavetown*
@tylerpeyton3255 жыл бұрын
I dont know you but I’m so proud of you. Live your life my man. It’s for you. And I’m so happy for you.
@TobyMcMill5 жыл бұрын
thank you sooooo much!!!! :))
@fahrlight4 жыл бұрын
Dude!!! At 1:00, that’s the zoo I used to go to, around the same years as well. I might as well be the blond kid in the front XD !!! Wtf is this small world?!?
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
If you are from Northern Germany....maybe 🤷♂️😅
@fahrlight4 жыл бұрын
Toby McMill gettorfer zoo?!!! ❤️❤️❤️ I’m from that area.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
Keyes ach du sch....🤣🤣🤣🤣 unbelievable......sachen gibt‘s....🤷♂️🤣
@fahrlight4 жыл бұрын
Toby McMill small world. Both about the same age, both trans, both from the same area. It’s heartwarming
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
@@fahrlight yeah kinda......:) 'cause I don't know anybody else from that area being trans (now) in his/her 30ies
@DanielWallace6 жыл бұрын
Congrats on finally becoming you. :-)
@TobyMcMill6 жыл бұрын
thank you!!!!! 😊
@meowmeow66764 жыл бұрын
This is oddly inspiring for me to keep going..
@myrkflinn43316 жыл бұрын
Omg the more I seek puzzles with many MANY trans videos, I realize this too now: rarely any guy falls for me and it's like I don't mind (im s far stated a 'lesbian', but my attitude on it it's like idk... not the standard one. I guess it was either my wild personality or part of me that has a male territory. Meaning: I'm a transman and it's likely many people see it too without me even coming out. My PE teacher and some others had assumptions but kept it to themselves until I came out to them because I of course trust them. Yup.... my doubts are starting to slightly fade away, but I still need more answers on why I was and am who I am today aside of my other personal problems. I thank you for helping me find out yet another piece of the puzzle. I should write it all down but im too lazy... its for my therapist.
@TobyMcMill6 жыл бұрын
I`m sooooo with you......it IS a puzzle.....and right after I started to realize I am trans... well...I questioned my whole life!!!! who was I???? have I really ever felt that way?? where was my childish wish "to become a boy" for almost 30 years??? it was hard....but afterwards, it ALL made sense. But it took me a while. I am glad, if this video has helped you in discovering one single piece of the puzzle!
@alexeajames42005 жыл бұрын
Toby you look handsome (with all due respect). Congratulations!!!👍🤘
@TobyMcMill5 жыл бұрын
thank you :)
@Marcia_Toms4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m so pleased for you having found your true identity. I wish I was 30 years younger with enough courage to change. Things were very different back in the 70s. Very best wishes to you x
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much for your kind words!! and also all the best for your life journey!
@sushikatzchen26774 жыл бұрын
This was beautiful and sad at the same time. I am very happy for you, since you can truly be yourself now💕.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
Sushi Kätzchen thank you 😊
@ericherman54134 жыл бұрын
When I finally had a word for it, my whole life suddenly made sense. Been transitioned since December 2001 and it's the best thing I ever did in my life. By the way, the singing voice comes back--just takes time. It probably took me 3 years before I could sing with any control again. (I was in the music business in my teens, though the album I made never got picked up, so I felt that same sadness). Just give it time to grow again. You might even sound better! Wishing you the very best in all your future days!
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much! :) yeah...maybe one day I will sing again. for now I am finally okay with NOT singing, after almost 2,5 years. nobody said, that the whole voice cracking thing would be over in 2 years.....:))) so, I will just wait. all the best for you, too!
@reyne84245 жыл бұрын
Ich wünsche dir viel Freude und Sicherheit auf deinem weiteren Weg! Du sprichst mir aus der Seele.
@catapillargirl20214 жыл бұрын
Gosh I wish there was more education so people didn’t have to wait so long to understand themselves. It’s like all these discussions can only happen in secret. And then the denial before acceptance because it’s such a new concept. So happy for you! And glad to hear those around you are supportive & happy as well.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you :)
@laurafleischer49474 жыл бұрын
Congrats on being who you were always meant to be. ❤
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! :)
@mizkarvio4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so honest and sharing your journey. It truly is beautiful. Wish you all the best for the future too
@terrorchild24 жыл бұрын
I really needed this today, I recently came out as trans and I'm almost 30 - Part of me is so angry that I didn't realize sooner but I know that things will be getting a lot better (and are already).
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
all the best for your exciting future journey! :)
@NYRanimaciones4 жыл бұрын
What a trip! So glad it worked out and you're happy! Hugs from Argentina!
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!! :)
@kepainisk.16154 жыл бұрын
I'm 17 and questioning and this makes me so happy.... i mean most people start transitioning around my age, right? It's so assuring to know i don't have to have everything figured out by 18... thank you for sharing.
@walfischrisotto38174 жыл бұрын
Okay wow i am sitting in front of the screen, confused and crying, and I hope that at some point I can look back on my past and that it is similar to yours ... Feel you
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
hey! you know, I started in 2016 exactly at THAT point...from zero. just googled for ftm timelines on yt......and binge watched every single one I could find - for months! if MY timeline can only help one single trans person out there...then I've achieved more than I ever wanted! greets, toby
@walfischrisotto38174 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill can hardly believe that my comment is 9 months old. I'm finally on t & it is progressing:) I just wanted to say thank you. There were moments when I wasn't sure who I am and how things will continue, your videos have always helped me so much. before I came out, I watched your video, which gave me the courage to tell my friends and family who i really am. I always wanted to go the way you go, now I've finally started too. I hope you are doing well! arlo
Hello mister, I am a trans guy as a lad and I love your story so freaking much!!!! I am glad you had so many supportive people around you, and was able to live with your true self. I am almost on the way to my transition as well, so exciting!!!(๑>◡
@anitamargarita88994 жыл бұрын
I know someone who has been through this. FTM like you! It seems like such a tough thing to go through, but good on you both for finding what made you happy and figuring out who you really were! Loved the video! Thank you for sharing ❤
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much!! :)
@anitamargarita88994 жыл бұрын
❤
@thattoothbrush4 жыл бұрын
I am proud of you (': You are very inspiring thank you
@floriandeters90616 жыл бұрын
Hey Toby....ich hab mir gerade die "Timeline" Deines Lebens angesehen.... ich kann Dir defintiv Glückwunsch zu diesem Schritt sagen. Du hast es definitiv richtig gemacht. Meinen allertiefsten Respekt....🤟 Danke für das tolle Video... Gruß aus Wietze, dem Dorf in der die PlüschTransi Idee entstand😋 P.S.: ...und jetzt zeig diesem bärtigen Radio Onkel was ein richtiger Kerl ist....
@TobyMcMill6 жыл бұрын
Lieber Flo! Vielen, vielen Dank.....:) Ich gebe mir Mühe....*lach
@BosisofSweden4 жыл бұрын
Thanx for sharing. Congrats to have found yourself
@kirstyxxxxx99003 жыл бұрын
Glad to see this video is unprivated. I missed it as it really spoke to me. The tune is epic as well.
@TobyMcMill3 жыл бұрын
had my reasons to take everything down for a while :) thank you so much!
@b_cl_design5014 Жыл бұрын
I'm so happy for you that you found your way. I was born 1984 and startet my transition with 36. Baxk then you didn't know something like trans exists, nobody told you, it wasn't on tv or media and there was no internet. So from 3 years onwards I had these feelings, that turned to pain when I realized I won't turn into a boy by getting older, then I was 6 years. The pain was terrible, it didn't go away even I accepted the fact I was born this way. Not knowing it can be treated often make you wish to die. So I want people to realize that nobody wants to make their kids trans, vecause we don't wish anyone to have to go through the same hell. We want to tell kids that this exists to tell them the truth and to help the few transkids among them who suffer from early age on.
@nataliekate21764 жыл бұрын
I love watching these videos. It’s so beautiful to see people bloom into the happiest version of themselves. Wishing you all the best in your journey! 💜🤗
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much!! :)
@AshtonKnight4 жыл бұрын
I've been transgender for 4 years and last year I got my name legally changed on my 16th birthday. I was so happy and I can't wait for the rest in the future.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
all the best for your journey!
@AshtonKnight4 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill thank you :'D
@izzyspell26294 жыл бұрын
Oh my god this makes me so happy 😊💙 I wish you everything best in life!
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you 😊
@sotsu6184 жыл бұрын
AHHH YOU’RE SO CUTE DGDGGSHA
@addyvillalona4 жыл бұрын
That was awesome! Best wishes to you❤
@ericamaratea13184 жыл бұрын
Ho pianto durante il video.... Mi stupisce come hai affrontato la cosa e mi hai anche un po aiutato ad accettarmi, credo che farò coming out tra qualche giorno, mi hai dato la spinta per farlo... Grazie
@Cemhta4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you uploading your video, most transitioning videos I've seen are from people that were 18, and it's nice to see you can also transition when you are a bit older. I am a cis woman and when I was a kid I used to look myself in the mirror and close my eyes as tight as I could wishing to be a boy when I opened them up, but it never worked and I got so sad... I never thought about trans man, and I had a lot of dumb prejudices about it, like I had to be insane and such (you know, ignorance). But about 4 months ago, I found Jamiee Dodger's channel and I've been amazed about how a lot has changed with transitioning... I also tried being a Lesbian, my sexuality is a complete mess. I am currently 28, but I don't think I'll ever transition, because I'm too coward, and perhaps my dysphoria is not as strong because I'm currently a extremely antisocial Ace, so I don't have any issues with partners or sex. What bothers me the most are the friggin boobs, they're so annoying... And menstruation ugh. I still feel like I can act however I want to act, and my physical body shouldn't be in the way to do so and perhaps that's why I will never transition.
@jasmin09304 жыл бұрын
Incredibly inspiring story thank you for sharing and helping others 👏🏼
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you! :)
@slit4leehan4 жыл бұрын
As a very young trans guy, your journey is probably the most inspiring out of all of the one's I've seen. I still have a long way to go but I'm sure I'll get there.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much!!! and all the best for your journey! :) you will get there. it just takes time.....
@IStandBrokenxo4 жыл бұрын
you're amazing! i'm a complete stranger yet so proud of you dude :) beautiful beautiful man x
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you :)
@whydidyoureadmyname80744 жыл бұрын
"So I tried to be a lesbian" I don't know but I found it kinda funny 😂
@Wilmy.4 жыл бұрын
Respect!!! And you are looking awesom 💕💞💓💖
@navida20055 жыл бұрын
awe rip lil kitty
@tinadailey12974 жыл бұрын
I know that kind of pain.its devastating.😢❤
@AetherIdol4 жыл бұрын
@@tinadailey1297 💔 the price we pay for having them in our lives to love.
@AshtonKnight4 жыл бұрын
Bro you made me cry, I'm so happy for you :')
@ailopullenco58014 жыл бұрын
This is so awesome to see!
@mdrnlevi4 жыл бұрын
Even before you knew what trans meant, i could still see the guy in you. So happy for you :)
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
awwww....thanks!! :)
@vinnyunit4 жыл бұрын
DUDE OUR STORIES ARE THE SAME PROUD OF YOU
@ethanbartoe22324 жыл бұрын
This is truly inspiring. I was born a girl, and I want to be a boy. It gets harder and harder to look in the mirror everyday. My parents don’t even know but I secretly went to my school psychologist and I have gender dysphoria and GID. My mom forced me to wear makeup, my stepmom and dad force me to wear the girliest clothes, and my stepdad couldn’t care less which is good I guess. I can take being a girl and I haven’t even told my mom yet or any other parents. I have long hair and I look female. It’s torture.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
For sure it is a good idea to get some help through a psychologist, transgender youth group... I really hope, things turn out in a good way for you!
@justsomeguywithagoatee28764 жыл бұрын
1:34 Homie, I think you felt trapped inside because you were being possessed.
@cookiezombiebro4 жыл бұрын
The thing that inspires me about this is the fact you got your college degree at 30. To me, being an 18 year old, that seems like too long to be starting my life and my career but your out here starting your entire life at 30 and older. I’m young, I see things in such a shorter time span than I should, and coming to terms with that bit has been a bit difficult to grasp. Proud of you for your journey and hopefully I can be proud of myself in the next 12 years.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
some people say, they knew it since I was 16. but it's good they didn't tell me, because life was pretty rough at that time and there wouldn't be a happy ending now. I think, everything in life has its own time. and although I knew it since I was a little kid or at least that I am different, I had to turn 33 to come to a point in my life where it was finally the time to take care of myself and my future. so - I am good with that. of course, sometimes I tend to get a bit envious if some start to go on hormones at a younger age. oh hell.....yeah, of course I would have loved that. but, it's okay to be a 37-year old man by now, who loses his hair. I have 37 years full of stories to tell. and it's not all bad, but the best years are lying ahead of me! all the best to you on your journey!
@artgangstar1104 жыл бұрын
Congratulations man💐 #Artgangstar
@madtingz22884 жыл бұрын
Proud of you being who you truly are
@tudormiller88984 жыл бұрын
An amazing video. Watching from London UK.
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you so much!
@eunaekim92164 жыл бұрын
I am not transgender, but you have inspired me to pursue my own goals as to my body!
@littlebugguy6 жыл бұрын
Did you ever get your singing voice back? I'm trying to sort through all this ftm stuff, and I don't know if I could afford losing my singing. Music is one of the biggest things in my life.
@TobyMcMill6 жыл бұрын
Hey! Not until now....I`ve been on hormones for 16 months now, my voice is still breaking, still very unsecure....And I guess it will take another year or two until my new voice is really "settled" in the new range.
@emmaames96245 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill i need some advice
@TobyMcMill5 жыл бұрын
@@emmaames9624 how can I help?
@emmaames96245 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill I need help coming out to them as an agender but i dont know how can you give me some advice and some pointers
@TobyMcMill5 жыл бұрын
@@emmaames9624 you should find someone to talk to about your feelings, a therapist would be best! and maybe open up to some friends first! coming out to parents can be good! but maybe you won`t get the reaction & support you need. But in a long-term you have to decide what life you want to life and who you want to be. It`s your life and your decision! Nobody else can tell you how to feel!
@jason-w-48734 жыл бұрын
YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND A COOL AND STRONG MAN! BE YOURSELF! WE LOVE YOU! I'M TRANS TOO AND I THINK YOU LOOK LIKE THE COOLEST MAN I'VE EVER SEEN! (sorry for my bad English i'm from Germany and bad at writing in English 😅) Have a good day 👍
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
as you may have noticed, I am from Northern Germany 😉
@doobie91854 жыл бұрын
oh cool!! im also a trans man named toby :) this was inspiring to me, im 22 but im not completely out yet, only to my friends and coworkers so far... im terrified of my family finding out but this gives me hope for my future!! physical transition is possible for everyone who seeks it out :')
@andreiflavianepsih94474 жыл бұрын
Thats și beautyful Man 🧡♥️♥️
@bunnybwn4 жыл бұрын
Woah when you said you've been called Toby sense you were 15 that caught me off guard (Names Toby btw)
@ChaosRaccoonTV4 жыл бұрын
Hey! I found your story very relatable to me. I always felt like there was something wrong but I didn’t know what. I didn’t know how to act like a girl. When I turned 18 I got my first girl crush in college and thought I was lesbian. Then I thought I was agender. Then someone told me that I ‘look’ trans. So I looked it up and still denied it and got back to agender. And then again trans. I’m still pre T but your story is inspiring!!!
@TobyMcMill3 жыл бұрын
oh somehow I missed to answer on this comment. damn......hope, you're doing fine & thank you so much for sharing part of your story!
@arenchiquito80424 жыл бұрын
Esto me motiva mucho mucho u.u
@mashapotatoes58434 жыл бұрын
Glad you found out who you are.
@carolinebesinger86114 жыл бұрын
Ok cook happy for you honey! God bless stay well &be happy.
@guyinawheelchair96483 жыл бұрын
Your beautiful!!♥️
@sos25304 жыл бұрын
Dude I thought that this was going to be a male to female transition video.
@vampobsessed4 жыл бұрын
Sierra Mist I actually though the same thing. Like.. I really didn’t see a girl really anywhere in this video.
@kingthief91184 жыл бұрын
I have a FTM friend, he's pretty cool. I could tell you are much happier after transitioning My friend he goes by Jax, his mom won't accept him as a boy only as a lesbian. He does the best he can to pass as a male. With time I hope his mom accepts the fact that he's a boy, and allows him to be on hormone medicine.
@musikjunkie934 жыл бұрын
Congrats man! I can't wait til I can medically transition
@heyitsspooky69044 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty young and debating how I can make my voice deeper, and one of my concerns was losing my singing voice. I'm wondering if your voice has gotten better since then?
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
Well......my voice is still breaking, been on T now for over 2 years.......it takes a long as it takes.....Surely my voice would be more "settled", if I would take singing lessons & would do some practice. But I don't....so...😅 In the "duet with myself" you can hear what I mean. Greets, Toby
@heyitsspooky69044 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill Helpful! Thank you, and sorry for replying late. I think I'll stick to voice training for now 😄
@goblindude42424 жыл бұрын
Hey It's Spooky there are lots of guys on T who haven’t lost their singing voices, though. it does happen, but it’s very different for everyone!
@heyitsspooky69044 жыл бұрын
@@goblindude4242 Yeah, but as I've said, I've got a bit of time in my life before I'll make a permanent decision. So in short, I want to see if training works first
@fhpurcell77134 жыл бұрын
Toby McMill hey man thank you so much for answering so many of our questions and sharing your story!! It takes away some of the creepiness of the prospect of transitioning, even if the voice thing makes it even more scary.
@user-vu7rv1xf1l2 жыл бұрын
This was uncanny for me.... I am also born in 1983, & my photos & story is SO similar even down to Robin Hood & the transwoman!! And the age & order things happened. Although for me I only ever dated men.
@TobyMcMill2 жыл бұрын
oh wow.....😲😲😲 yeah "similarities" were the things that scared me the most when I stumbled across all of those ftm timelines on yt back in 2016. it felt like: other people have already been living my life.....totally weird!
@vegandolls4 жыл бұрын
I'm on the phone with comcast rn and i've got this vid muted but it's working out great
@derriskywhisky34104 жыл бұрын
Hai Erstmal freue ich mich natürlich dass du diesen Weg gegangen bist und du zufriedener geworden bist Ich wollte mal kurz etwas fragen. Ich habe mich in meiner frühen Kindheit nicht wirklich dafür interessiert ob ich männlich oder weiblich bin. Ich war alles was ich sein wollte oder einfach ich. Als ich dann 12 Jahre alt wurde habe ich angefangen meinen weiblichen Körper zu hassen und ich konnte mich einfach bis jetzt nicht als weiblich identifizieren. Das geht jetzt schon sehr lange so und ich denke seit einpaar Jährchen jeden Tag daran, fast pausenlos. Ich habe allerdings Angst, dass eine Geschlechtsumwandlung vielleicht nicht der richtige Weg sein könnte, weil mir viele Leute sagen, dass man als Transgender fast immer im Alter von 3 oder 5 Jahren das andere Geschlecht sein will und es bei mir nur eine Phase wäre. Würdest du dem zustimmen-?
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
das entscheidene hast du schons selbst geschrieben: "weil mir viele leute sagen".......wichtig ist, was DU denkst und fühlst! es hat gründe, warum eine therapie nach wie vor zum konzept der transition gehört. und für mich war das nochmal ein eye-opener.
@char85324 жыл бұрын
‘i tried to be a lesbian again’ ME LMAO
@Tabata-vf6jb4 жыл бұрын
One word: DADDY
@whoopylink76894 жыл бұрын
you look like the german podcast legend tommi schmidt!!
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
I don't even know that guy - but if I look like a legend I take this as a huuuuuge compliment :)))
@brynleebirch73564 жыл бұрын
Im 13 and i just figuring this all out. And im honeslty scared for my life. But this was so inspiring and it made me really excited for my future. Im just not sure how to tell anyone. I have a feeling if i tell my mom she will finally let me get my hair cut and stop trying to force me to wear girl clothes and push me into somebody that i dont want to be. And maybe if i tell her. Then ill finally be happy. I just dont know how to do this. Any advise?
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
thank you! well...I would say, practice the whole coming-out-thing with friends. telling it your parents is always the hardest part. I mean...it was for me - and it doesn't matter if your 14 or 34 - it is hard! and for me, yeah, my parents needed the most time to understand and to be accepting. but I do have the confidence now, even if they would not have been accepting at all. but if your younger it's different. just take the time you need, to find the right words - and then: give them time as well. I really hope everything works out fine for you.
@brynleebirch73564 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@leonie92486 жыл бұрын
Mega ✨ 💜
@TobyMcMill6 жыл бұрын
dankeschön.....!!! :))
@tobiasezekiel76654 жыл бұрын
Dude, same.
@lukeghost5424 жыл бұрын
💙💙
@liljones1664 жыл бұрын
this is amazing also i just wanted to make it 69 comments
@iankrawiec43234 жыл бұрын
Jesus loves you so much.
@toby-jeanne_almy4 жыл бұрын
We look oddly similar...
@agasgvward5724 жыл бұрын
I came out to my family and my dad says I'm just a really tomboy but I've done research I've been wanting to be a boy my whole life I've known since I was three just did not understand what was going on my mom says I should live my teenage life first then do the surgery and stuff like that because if I regret it I wont be able to go back and change back to my old self its 2020 and turning 15 in August
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
Maybe you can get some help and advice from some transgender youth group around your area! Support is important! I know, must be pretty hard to survive your teenage years first. And I really hope you find people, who just accept you the way you are!
@arleccio4 жыл бұрын
It's odd to watch your childhood and teenage years knowing it will end differently from my own. So similar yet so fundamentally different. I think I would have enjoyed meeting you and seeing another girl who likes "boy" stuff. Small towns can be so stifling. I hoped you would figure it out faster. I'm glad it didn't take you longer. Alles Gute für den Rest der Reise aus dem Süden 🤘
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
it wasn't all bad and there were many other things I had to take care of first. so.....yeah, I was ready with 33. I had the time and the strength to go my way. thanks for your words! :)
@mnsohseven4 жыл бұрын
School cone, cool
@martynabarcz44054 жыл бұрын
I have a question. Your singing voice came back?:0
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
not until now. on T now for 2y and 7m, my voice is still breaking. but what I can say for sure is, I am more a bass / baritone. it would take years of work to maybe reach the high tones of a tenor again. most pop songs you hear on the radio are higher, so I am jumping through the octaves several times, if I try to sing it.
@martynabarcz44054 жыл бұрын
@@TobyMcMill thank you very much for reply. And do you think that you will master singing again? At least a little bit?
@TobyMcMill4 жыл бұрын
@@martynabarcz4405 guess so. time will tell....
@Perzikyoghurt4 жыл бұрын
What does going back and forth even mean? Are you referring to stereotypes? They should never define us.
@jackakajackie4 жыл бұрын
I want transition too ._.
@lauraortiz21334 жыл бұрын
Idk why but he looks like he has a raspy voice,, i jus get a raspy voice vibe for some reason lol
@adamarthurs13004 жыл бұрын
I love you ❤️
@jayxfrost89874 жыл бұрын
Heey!! I currently identify as a non-binary but I'm not sure if that's correct :/ I also identified as genderfluid and at one point I thought I was transman... maybe I am though in denial. The truth is I hate my female body... I've been hating my chest ever since puberty came. (It didn't get better!) I hate looking like a woman. I definitely have both dysphoria and dysmorphia and it's killing me....
@lucasdixon99894 жыл бұрын
if you need someone to talk to my insta is lu.luca.s I am ftm
@daeve55203 жыл бұрын
@최성현-u1w4 жыл бұрын
Omg.....
@kortnie59474 жыл бұрын
You’re such a babe! 😍😍
@sammorgan35884 жыл бұрын
If you were/are pansexual you could yourself the pan man
@kaktus3344 жыл бұрын
Women, lesbian women especially are taught to hate themselves, every woman and girl feels bad about her own body. Internalized misogyny is so hard to loose. I am happy to comw to terms with myself without having to change my body so societal pressure. Being a lesbian is tough but its worth standing up for yourself.
@peridaniel82654 жыл бұрын
All this is very true! But being a lesbian with internalized misogyny or homophobia is very different from being a trans person with gender dysphoria.
@randomcomment76754 жыл бұрын
Ok dude nice video but your sunglasses are ATROCIOUS