Full Episode: Part 1 - "Family of Lies" (Ep. 415) | Iyanla: Fix My Life | Oprah Winfrey Network

[@Jailyn]

This show always helps me do some self reflecting.

[@Miss_Dani_DWhit]

Always

[@mtr4lyf1991]

@ Just Jailyn & Danielle Dixon Same here

[@danielle9342]

So true

[@metcalfhottie6305]

me as well

[@itssweetiebrandi]

Yes I’m so sad it’s over

[@ImWorthy4Real]

She gave birth to some Beautiful black woman!! I hope they learn to forgive so they can live in there purpose

[@jenniferh.7219]

amen

[@nreynolds75243]

People think forgiving means you want to reconnect. Not necessarily. If the individual is toxic, move on. No need for these persons to be in your life at all. It's their issue, not yours. Also, they may not be toxic but just not a match for what you want out of a relationship, whether its family or not. No explanation needed. Not everyone is going to be friends or close and that's ok. Being civil with one another, if they just so happen cross your path again, is fine.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

YES! i was just saying that. A gorgeous group of sisters🥰

[@Lisnist]

@@nreynolds75243 Thank you for your thoughts! It was so needed for me! I'm having to learn this right now.

[@nreynolds75243]

@@Lisnist 😊

[@lawestphilly]

the amount of damage we do to innocent children who didn't ask to be here all because of our horrible upbringings. drugs , abuse, abandonment , molestation , addiction. the cycle must end.

[@kayhumph9109]

I always say I didn’t ask to be here my raise be like keep saying it and god gon take you outta here smh.....folks noisy wanted they buns done then didn’t want to deal with came after I have no kids @30 and don’t plan on it until god sends a man like him righteous and holy someone who ain’t gon walk out on us smh it’s bad out here You listen to Gino Jennings you outta phill

[@brianramirez8970]

Preach!

[@cjandlayyy6837]

@@kayhumph9109 i know thats right🙌🏾👏🏾

[@evantheking6218]

No one asked to be here

[@redc5429]

How would you have asked to be here

[@NixG97]

No matter how old you get, you never stop crying like the child who was hurt/traumatised

[@TheMwendaa]

I have felt this, from the depths of my soul. Having grown up witnessing domestic violence growing up. How do you deal with the fact your own parent violated another?

[@LateshaRenee]

This is the TRUTH. When I started doing shadow work (looking back into my childhood at what hurt me) I used to weep like a toddler. It's the best thing I ever did though

[@LateshaRenee]

@@girlanonymous I agree to this 1000%

[@kawaiisis86]

@@girlanonymous I agree 💯 it's only so far you can go when it comes to healing with family. Some things are better off left alone with certain people who are supposed to be 'family'.

[@mediaiweb]

@@kawaiisis86 Exactly, what am on right now. but have forgiven them though, but still just want to be left alone still. if they need anything, ill be willing, to help that's about it.

[@blane6592]

Precious can’t even sit without crying! I mean just crying! Poor baby!

[@osheasway38]

Her heart is literally broken, and has been broken since early childhood. My heart hurts for her.

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@claireadekanye]

"They'll get over it"?!!!!!!! I can't believe that's the first thing the mother said

[@zikhonankabi1974]

Right?!

[@peachesmonty1506]

RIGHT! I WAS LIKE WAIT WHAT?????? WOW!!!

[@msawmusic]

Just know that’s how someone in her life told her cope with her own trauma

[@irisesq.6389]

That must be my mother's younger sister. She is exactly the same minus the drug problem and giving her child up for adoption. So nothing she says surprises me. Even though I understand my mother must have went through stuff (that she will never say) for her to be so cold it's still hard to live with. I am the sisters. I am still trying though. No expectations. Just trying.

[@marygiggetts1492]

Yeah. The mom has convinced herself that it’s not important now that her children grown women. What she doesn’t realize is that those girls are stuck at 7 years old trying to function as grown women.....and now they have their own children. Really sad. Years of hurt and dysfunction. There are a Lot of families in the same situation in this world.

[@laurenhall878]

The mom looks like she could be one of the sisters. Wow!

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

They are ALL so very beautiful, but i bet they don't know it or feel it🥺

[@simplygugu]

Good genes indeed

[@mercywahome38]

The mother made sure to put herself first and very selfish

[@misspeacelove7395]

She´s not that old, her oldest is 35 and I think she had them young. But considering the pain she´s caused her daughters she doesn´t look that good imho

[@zaliahjohnson5669]

Right she looks so young.

[@katlegomhlauli8423]

Am just shocked by how Miss Precious has 7 kids at 29 and she’s in so much pain. I wonder how her pain is manifesting while she parents all her kids

[@blackbeautyk6074]

Exactly

[@missg1727]

Right, I bet she's nurturing, loving, attentive, over protective, and hands on with her children. The things she didn't get from her mother she pour into her children, her lack of unconditional from her may even be why she have soo many children. What baffles me is the fact that Alicia gave Precious to the family that molested her as a teenager.... Whhhhhhhhhy?!!

[@FavDogBisquit]

@@missg1727 COGNITIVE DISSONANCE. 💔

[@Tropical442]

Not good

[@ciku-ciku7194]

It’s becomes a toxic vicious cycle. I’m glad they sought help.

[@KeepingItRealWithMill]

Damn that mama is so cold. The way she greeted her children “mhmmm love you too” Jesus

[@KapQueen]

Yep I peeped that

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

She disconnected herself to have her freedom but she is very weighed down🤔🤔

[@KeepingItRealWithMill]

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 100%

[@imsk6729]

Agree.... unable to take responsibility thru her own guilt... a sad disconnect with her own children... a very damaged bond.. if at all bond...tons of therapy needed for all of them...

[@mrshappilymarried1]

Right. Everyone commenting on how good she looks but what about the inside? She's cold and lifeless...

[@yewandeyo]

I’m sorry to say it, but we really need to be holding the men accountable here because the mother is only half of this story.

[@harmonidanijan1488]

its not always men you can;t v\blame a person who wasn;t there for things a mother did hold abusive mothers accountable is what needs to be done

[@yewandeyo]

harmoni aquino firstly these women suffered child abuse at the hands of MEN. So they can be blamed. The abuse they suffered still holds scars that we can see in their whole spirit. Secondly, a child is produced from a mother and a father, whilst the mother was not great, a father being non existent is also just as damaging because where were you?? If the mother was lacking, then the father should be able to step up and get those kids together. No reason why a 10 year old should be fixing bottles and changing nappies for her mothers kids. Where’s the other parents who is responsible for bringing those babies into the world

[@theoreticalviews2939]

@@harmonidanijan1488 almost always toxic environments are the products of male construction.

[@harmonidanijan1488]

@@theoreticalviews2939 no it's not its mentality

[@harmonidanijan1488]

@@theoreticalviews2939 we can't blame men for our own toxic behaviors

[@UsernameUnkwn21]

The mother rubs me.. she is soo disconnected and dismissive from her kids pain ..the kids apologizing to her while she is originator of their pain

[@Jailyn]

She disconnected from her own pain.

[@UsernameUnkwn21]

@@Jailyn I disagree..she is selfish..focuses on herself how she feels..her needs her wants.. superceded her childrens. She had no empathy for her children's pain or the fact they were emotionally stunted BC OF HER.. when she was told to go sit next to Precious she Ran her fat mouth for a 2nd time about how precious is always calling her and yet this is the 1st she is hearing of precious grief as if to dismiss what Precious was feeling held value..

[@asaisrael1071]

@@UsernameUnkwn21 considering she was molested was an addict and wasn’t raised with her mom... how was she supposed to know how to deal in those situations? Those are taught behaviors. Generational curses.

[@UsernameUnkwn21]

@@asaisrael1071 molested as a Teen not as a young child..not that it makes a difference BUT brain development of a teen vs a child IS different. SHE HAS NO EMPATHY for her children ..think about that .. she gestated 6 children..after u give birth you are flooded with bonding hormones ..she has NO FEELINGS for the emotions of her children it doesn't matter if she was an addict or molested Now here in the present she has a choice and yet she STILL dismisses their pain

[@asaisrael1071]

@@UsernameUnkwn21 once in 3rd grade and as a teen. Rewatch, mom needed therapy before addressing the daughters about anything.

[@lunalove7039]

When she held her like a baby.... I felt that... I lost my mother and I wish someone would love on me like that 😢

[@tiffanyhooker5734]

No harm intended. I hope u experience love and know it’s not like mother love. It’s still love. Long as it doesn’t hurt. Peace

[@tamibear7598]

I’m sorry you lost your Mother. Sending you a virtual hug❤️

[@toxicteezy8310]

I just found my sister child after 10 years .. I wanna hold her so tight and feel the love

[@MsMoneyonMyMind]

I was feeling that same emotion, can still feel the last time I hugged my mom... would give anything to actually feel it again.

[@theresasession9230]

Me to call lets be Facebook friends.

[@whoothick]

Why would she leave her daughter with the person who abused her? Pray they get the healing they need

[@Chrisgyalllll]

That part I don't understand, but they did say she was on drugs so it kinda makes sense to her in that moment I think.

[@J_K_.]

Been looking for this Q.! I would love to know why too!

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@Kali_Ma_]

cause she was immature and acting out of selfishness since she was a child. if Precious is 29, her mom was 19 with two kids. She had the oldest daughter when she was 15. Clearly no one taught Alicia vital parts of womanhood like love, discernment, & nurturing or how to mother cause she didn’t have one herself. It’s hard to hold her accountable to her ignorance of motherhood since she was a child without a support system or healthy female role models

[@honeylamour1]

He’s the father of Precious and Shay

[@worldsmostmisunderstood8258]

The oldest child carries the heaviest load because in our culture the oldest child is the mom in her absence so I can imagine her anger towards the mom because these are your children and a thank you would have been nice or I appreciate you having my back, but when a mother doesn't accept she failed it triggers an anger in a child that would be in her relationship with her partner and friendship, she will shut out everyone because if I don't need my mother I don't need anyone.

[@cjandlayyy6837]

Ouuuu yes👏🏾

[@brelovesgucci]

💯

[@MsPoppinbottles123]

That so true!

[@mar69storm]

I wish. My older was TRASSSSSH!!!! Lol I did the work

[@worldsmostmisunderstood8258]

@@mar69storm listen good people can raise their children to be good but the children always choose their path.

[@brandoniswhoiam]

“Family means more than people just being related by blood; a family is people who have positive, unconditional regard for one another.” ❤️

[@FitnessGirlFun]

lol

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

That hit me in my gut😳🤔

[@MissGlitterBow]

Straight out the gate!

[@gideonsplendid5358]

@KZbin breaks The 1st amendment I feel the same way too

[@MsRealitea]

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@Jailyn]

This is therapy for me.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Yes

[@miesha.b8740]

Yessss

[@brelovesgucci]

Me too 💯

[@theresasession9230]

Me to.

[@gideonsplendid5358]

@@theresasession9230 me to

[@abconey1052]

When I'm having a sad sad day. I imagine myself sitting in Iyanla Vanzants beautiful lap , crying crying crying , until I fall asleep in a deep slumber 😔

[@clairerogers179]

Me too!!😭😭😭

[@livingnmytruth]

Facts

[@KapQueen]

Awwwww 😔 try putting on uplifting music even if its instrumental. There are KZbin videos for affirmations for women. Praying for all yall hugs and kisses

[@botlhaleradebe7738]

I always pretend Iyanla is My Mamma

[@rozellamoss3482]

@@clairerogers179l

[@tisayvette]

I can’t get over the fact that she gave her baby to family where she got molested. What in the world? 😡😡😡

[@brownsugako7772]

That was what I questioned!

[@aishaliane]

It seems like they're leaving out that the molester is Preccious's father, and instead of the family doing something about it, the dad just took the baby. Just a thought, but it's all a mess.

[@xxxtrddy]

@@aishaliane the color purple

[@elizabrown124]

​@@aishaliane bingo!! but he's not precious's father, he's Shay's father. She's the one who cried when she found out that her "friend" was her mom's abuser. She was told that he is her father but they left that part off air due to how sensitive the information was.

[@oyas_oracle]

That part! Thats so scary

[@MB3lls]

With all the immense pain Preccious has, I wonder how it affects her parenting to 7 kids? Having 7 kids is difficult for any mother who doesn’t have her disfunctional background so I can’t imagine her and her kids struggle

[@mjevans3259]

I thought about that too. She carries around a lot of pain and sadness, you can see it in her eyes. Like Iyanla said, there's more to parenting than just being there for your kids, you gotta take care of yourself first. We can only hope that her children aren't carrying the weight of her pain and sadness 😔🙏🏽

[@cherh3325]

I'm struggling with my emotions while having 1. I could only imagine.

[@cherh3325]

I think she redirects her pain into love and being busy for her kids... to prove to her mother that she can and her mother should have

[@urmamasmamasmama]

@@cherh3325 I agree.

[@taylorhing3916]

I could tell by the picture their life might be difficult

[@LateshaRenee]

This is why I refuse to have more children until I am sure that I am my BEST self. I have one 10 year old and thank God I'm healing and doing right by her. I still have more work to do. Learning every day.

[@sisiscastle3573]

When I am watching Iyanla I find my self calling out my pain in the name of healing. It happens every time 🥺😫

[@Miss_Dani_DWhit]

Amen. Her show definitely makes you look at yourself in the mirror

[@nomsantuli6023]

@@Miss_Dani_DWhit yep and it hurts 😭😭😭😭

[@ginjilla]

YES!

[@sisiscastle3573]

@@Miss_Dani_DWhit sis it can be cathartic and scary at the same time.

[@sisiscastle3573]

@@nomsantuli6023 Badly Queen. Praying for healing as well as my own 🙏🏾

[@Tpina305]

“I didn’t want to be hindered by another baby” - what a horrible thing to say, words MATTER. This is why precious looks so sad and is on the verge of tears from the beginning - I hope that the relationship can be repaired for her sake if not a lot of therapy is needed to undo that abandonment wound. So freaking sad.

[@blackbeautyk6074]

But she went n have more so she hella wrong

[@Tpina305]

@K aviv why don’t you watch the episode and then comment? She gave her to family members that abused her - she’s completely irresponsible and a horrible mother. Children shouldn’t be called a hinderance - do better.

[@Qeqezwisdom]

I will never understand how people can have so many children that they do not want. Why? No wonder shay is so angry and wants nothing to do with her mother. It’s pretty clear that her mother is toxic and callous as hell

[@mayancj4050]

If she didnt want a baby why she didnt use protection etc. Just bringing kids into the world in an unloving home

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@QueenSugar72]

My heart really, really goes out to Preccious. She is hurting so bad. And Shay is numb inside💔

[@deborahpinkey1264]

"Dumb" or "numb?"

[@NayyRoseee_]

@@deborahpinkey1264 numb not dumb‼️

[@deborahpinkey1264]

@@NayyRoseee_ TY.

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@stephanieryder6044]

7 children at age 29...I can't...imagine...and the picture showed no male/father/husband... Forgiveness is never for the person who hurt us. Forgiveness is for ourselves, the person who is hurt, so that we can move on. Holding on to anger, will kill you, quicker then a physical ailment.

[@nimoirene8266]

stephanie Ryder very true🙏🙏 God bless you.

[@leandahigh1671]

I don't like the fact that Mommy have her favorites.I can tell by how long she hugged one child longer than the other and with both arms. She have beautiful girls. Mommy need to get humble and stop trying to make those lovely woman understand her because she need to understand them.

[@shanyoung8201]

She fraud. Prolly cause of the fathers.

[@murdahmammiez]

I dont think she has favorites. I think she knows she ls hurt some more than others. N at least one ofnthem was fathered by her molester

[@fallyneprinciotta9058]

That also pits them against each other. The mom is calculated

[@Jersmen_Kay]

The one she held the longest is the one she didn't even raise. She gave her to her abuser and probably has alot of regret and guilt but isn't capable of saying that

[@helpkelp3595]

@@fallyneprinciotta9058yep! If they attack each other, that draws attention away from herself

[@mytrollaccount]

How the mama look this good after addiction and 6 kids? 😨😨

[@belle3055]

Genes

[@misspeacelove7395]

Selfish and she´s only 50

[@thelmaigbo8184]

It's sad but selfishness will do that.

[@candyjamaican]

Mama is pretty!!! And all those women are beautiful too. I hope they break the cycle because you can tell they are all hurting and have been through ish. 29 years old with SEVEN kids? SOmething must have happened hence all those silent tears

[@mzTayTay17]

Some or most were sexually abused😔

[@pbmyah9799]

I think something happened to her too

[@bgurley1998]

I was shocked by that too😩

[@jessicathompson111]

I knew someone 26 with 7.

[@ShavonneSeven]

I agree with Shay. Seeing her and her feelings towards her mother was probably a trigger. Shay tried to greet her with a hug and for Marcia to say “look at Shays hug” is like Marcia pointing out and judging how she greeted her mom. They all have different experiences and different hurts, so Marcia should have minded her business. I woulda popped off too!!

[@Queenalika85]

Mind your business, Young! 😂 I felt that

[@angeritalewis8859]

I'm feeling Shay is hiding abuse as well

[@prkzoomin6994]

Good Quote, Strong People rarely have an easy Past.

[@naomit.s7152]

Hearing them laugh from deep in their soul was so beautiful 😍😭

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@stacyjpoliticscommunityfai359]

Tears of joy come to my eyes when I watch Ms Iyanla holds the sisters as if she's mothering her own late daughter. I can see the love that she wishes that she can put on her daughter she instead now gifts it to others.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Yes, im 1 of those women of would do that if i were on Iyanla. Needing that so much but never got it

[@botlhaleradebe7738]

Kayshawn I am sending that to you God❤️🙌🏿

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

@@botlhaleradebe7738 ❤💐

[@Pjsixty60]

And she's lost another one more recently, i couldn't help be think, why was her daughters sacrificed it seemed, due to illness 😢😢? After all the healing that she helps with other people. Just a thought though.

[@stacyjpoliticscommunityfai359]

@@Pjsixty60 That's so sad to hear. I had no idea. She is definitely in my prayers then,

[@photogenic305]

The mom is beautiful. Precious cried the entire show. Awwww 😔

[@GreatMindsSeekTruth]

Right?! I wasn’t expecting her to be so beautiful!

[@maudbaabaappiah-nyarko7569]

and so young

[@Melisblessed]

I broke down when mom hugged Preccious. She needed that and more.

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@LilJohn2k11]

All of these ladies are beautiful, from the oldest sister with the beautiful eyes and locs, to the baby with her cute young self!

[@angelica7236]

After the 3rd child was "hindering" you "and you gave her up for adoption, why have more ?????? That makes no sense to me

[@tabbypanda82]

Yeah, that’s what I was wondering 🤔 also

[@TreasureChest0806]

Drugs baby!

[@speakintothemicb]

Self-hate doesn't consider healthy behaviors.

[@kennedi7111]

What she SHOULD have said is that “I gave her up because I (the mom) would have hindered her (the daughter) ” 🤦🏽‍♀️ the mom had no accountability 😬

[@abenamansa7150]

The way Iyanla held Precious when she was crying 😢....this is the type of regard I love to see for other women

[@gabrielleferguson1626]

Did she really just say...”I didn’t want to be hindered by another newborn” 😳😳😳 What an appalling thing to hear from your mother!!

[@laurenbarnes1020]

Wow…..

[@sufundasamuels2313]

You know what? I'm surprised that the mother and her daughters are not somewhere in straitjackets...real talk.

[@aritalkstech]

I felt that when she said women who share nothing but lies. Thanks Iyanla my prayer is that the sisterhood is restored in our community. We are pillars of the community. Imagine a world where every black woman uplifted and encouraged every other black woman. Amen

[@janelle_111]

Imagine🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️ We can all do our part & pray for the ones that can’t

[@parisjej]

This is why I love my sisterwife my family is toxic and opted for polygamy to build my own family. Some black folks think it’s taboo but I don’t bc it was how we lived before slavery and my sisterwife is my helpmate and my best friend, we live in the same home and share a husband. Her babies are mines and vice versa. Even though we get judgement from self righteous Christian women who’s marriages are falling apart.....our marriage is solid and we have a sisterhood nobody can come in between. She always encourages me and she never gets jealous of my wins. I love my spiritual polygamous family.

[@earthreign]

@@parisjej I loved reading a little bit about your life, I'm glad that you're happy. I wish you all of the happiness in the world and enjoy your life to the fullest sweetie.

[@danabrown5397]

The world would be in harmony

[@parisjej]

@@earthreign thank you so much sister 😇

[@kamys6133]

I can see what Marcia means about Shay. She took that wayyy left for no reason. Her hurt and insecurities are deep rooted. But direct that anger to the right person.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

I agree that was way out of line

[@leahl7352]

Honestly the Mom pit them against each other...she let Shay have a relationship with her abuser. The Mom created all of this chaos.

[@DanaeLaurenTolbert]

Not trying to justify it. But Iyanla got to the root of it. It's misdirected anger because Shay took care of her when mom was out searching for a hit. I hope they continue to get healing.

[@ShavonneSeven]

Nah seeing her mom was probably a trigger. Shay did greet her, and for Marcia to say “look at Shays hug” is like judging her reaction to seeing her mom. None of these ladies should judge how they react and feel. I can TOTALLY understand Shay poppin off

[@fallyneprinciotta9058]

@@leahl7352I just wrote this. She does it with little comments and interactions.

[@tinathompson2959]

I’m the baby of 4. My sista’s & I r so close & love each other. I’m sooooo thankful...our Mom&dad were absolutely the best ❤️thank you JESUS 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@glowuplife]

That's beautiful sis. Keep that spirit of gratefulness. I hurt because I'm always the one going to my family only to receive the same cycle and treatment

[@SomethingNewAMBW]

....so contraceptives isn't a thing in this family? birthing children while a person is so broken isn't fair to the child

[@gracemunich1476]

exactly. These women need to heal. with so many children when do they have time for themselves? Seven kids and only 29? Children need love and attention and feeding, clothing and schooling them plus camp, music lessons, etc is expensive. Seven kids????

[@ViVALaKiRAxx]

That’s why people need to educate their children on sexual health, knowledge is power and it will protect you.

[@NN-fo1xo]

Having so many children is not a good idea ! You have to heal first and then build your own family

[@nobodyimportant4092]

yall realize birth control not free right but i agree it should be free and available discreetly everywhere in low income neighborhoods

[@SomethingNewAMBW]

@@nobodyimportant4092 yep I sure do, still doesn't change what i said. if she can't afford it then, keep better track if when she's ovulating. and I totally agree. access to contraceptives should be free

[@LindaCasey]

When your own parents (and theirs and theirs and theirs) are broken too ... they don't know how to give what they don't (and never got) have. We can only be hurt when our own expectations have not been met.

[@Monaex98]

This was one of the best ones she’s done.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Yes, an iconic episode😯🤔👀🍿☕

[@lynnwilliams8295]

Wow 7 kids at 29. God bless her heart. She has a lot on her plate. In the past I would have been judgmental. I’m learning a different way. I hope the good Lord blesses her and her kids and the whole family and they can come together and heal.

[@belle3055]

Amen

[@niyahsmommy42]

Amen

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@nicaestelle]

Amen

[@tstheloner153]

AMEN

[@gokaren420]

The mother is beautiful too

[@emiejacktv2889]

This woman is filled with knowledge n wisdom... God protect her so she can continually help many more families.. ❤️

[@charlesklaric]

Absolutely 💯❤️

[@Quadcast88]

I love Shay and Marcia’s speaking voices. So tender and heartfelt.

[@finnthehuman7159]

I don't think the mom is "cold-hearted", she just never knew how to be a mother and handle all 6 of her daughters. I can tell she is hurting just like her children are. Praying for all of their healing 🙏🏽

[@infodigitalsolutions9369]

The long hug with Precious😭😭😭😭

[@jassygot6toeson1foot74]

Black familes need to realize that blood don't mean a thing. Some familyy members can be toxic & fatal. It's okay to cut family members off, if they threaten your inner peace. Be blessed

[@sheed3700]

Shay seems so mature and yet so childlike. She's such a gentle soul.

[@kamys6133]

I wonder why she's ending the show. It's everything free therapy. This is a reality show that needs to stay man!

[@naomit.s7152]

She said that she doesn't need the bad vibes that comes from being scrutinized because of being a television personality. She's going to still work with families but now they're going to have to pay. She did also say that she's reached the cap of what she can give and it's now the season to replenish herself and go to the new level God is calling her to. I hope after a few years God leads her back to this. She's a treasure.

[@kamys6133]

@@naomit.s7152 Okay and that I can definitely understand!

[@atumnefer]

Watching here and there over the last few years and listening to her tell it, she realized that most who reach out for healing now are not coming to heal. They are coming to be seen and or to have someone to abuse for their pains. We cannot expect her to take that. She had taken enough. Many rolled up knowing what she is about and her methodology and when the cameras are on they refuse to participate, cuss her out, and carry on then go on their social media with gripes for likes after and trauma bond over being toxic with followers who are also unhealed and loving it. If this was happening first season OK y'all did not know how it was gonna be and just tried something that ultimately was not for you. Finding your healing path sometimes takes several tries. The fact that they were asking to work with her then behaving as tho they were blindsided and mistreated screams of folk exploiting her and her process at this point cu its been too long she's been at this. She was never for everybody. She did not deserve the hate and being called out her name for tryin to help folk who called out to her tho and so she said she has had enuf. Good. I got tired of seeing her used and dishonored myself.

[@ussm6789]

I do think shows like this encourages viewers to seek therapy, however, this particular show has a history of doing more harm than good to those featured. This is trauma-tainment and I don't recall Iyanla being a trained, licensed professional counselor. The show needs to either change how they work with the guests or end the show.

[@gl5478]

@@ussm6789 I believe Iyanla has licensed professionals assisting her when needed.

[@taylorduvernay9789]

By far one of the most powerful, educational and eye opening family session. All three parts. Our parents are broken. Not their fault. I hope this family is doing well. I never prayed for anyone more than I prayed for this family ❤.

[@charli3491]

The picture of the sister with seven children didn't have a father in the picture. I think black men need to do better by their children. SHE is a great mother, the men need to help her be greater.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Yes, im sure it plays apart of her abandonment. They are all so beautiful and heart broken a little of encouragement could have changed alot of little black girls lives mine included🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤔

[@dominique245]

wym by black men

[@lanigaston5360]

@@dominique245 Black men who have children but aren't taking the proper measures to be good fathers

[@dominique245]

@@lanigaston5360 like all racial colors

[@lanigaston5360]

@@dominique245 That's true but its very common in the black community. Deadbeat dads are just as bad as toxic mothers.

[@nanaahmed5412]

Iyanla has to come back; we need updates on EVERY EPISODE!!!

[@crystalhealing9413]

the oldest sister is so pretty

[@rosemaryfadzayi2185]

And natural

[@DeeandCeeT]

She really is

[@bwills3173]

Just Stunning! But they all have the same face! These women are just beautiful.

[@luciayoung8668]

This mother don’t take no responsibility🤚🏼

[@theone2n3]

Fix the broken child within you before you break the child that comes from you

[@kattax87]

I’ve always hoped for an update on this family.

[@konye618]

Damn, I hope this helps them to break the generational curse that is holding them all back.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

It has helped open my eyes to the Pathology of my Mom, older sister and myself. Iyanla is therapy 🤓🤔👀🍿☕

[@myahill7475]

Wow, the mother is gorgeous I could never imagine she was ever on drugs.

[@nishaduggins9132]

Frfr I said the same thing

[@adrienneb4009]

Mom is not taking any responsibility.....far as I've seen

[@fountainmedia4683]

Man, Iyanla simply INCREDIBLE when it comes to restoring and healing wounded families. I wish the show wasn't coming to an end. I mean families need her expertise, wisdom, and guidance.

[@alyssarapp7870]

This show helped me realize that my relationship with my mom is not normal. She was very emotionally co-dependent on me as a child/teenager, and I couldn’t even tell her about my friends because she didn’t care to remember their names. (No these are not the only problems) After getting a job at 16 and rarely spending time with her, then discovering this show, it made me resentful towards her. It made it me realize all of the trust and anxiety issues that it gave me. I’m still in the process of forgiving and melding the relationship. Its hard when she doesn’t listen or want to change.

[@dawnkynard5838]

Why give your child to the person who molested you? It really was only about her. No concern for the baby.

[@aviweanita4939]

Can I just say this Mother looks 20 years younger.... she's pretty

[@redcokamixed6716]

Mom is beautiful too I hope she’s healthy and I pray she heals

[@dominiquedominiquepresents3291]

I love the way you help people identify triggers 💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎💎

[@SW-hy6be]

I empathize with all of the women, including Ms. Alicia. I don't blame anyone and recognize that all of them have been deeply wounded and need to be healed. I want this for them. God help all of them!

[@the24storepodcast]

I can never understand wanting to be around someone who don't want to be around you.....I was adopted and never had a feeling to meet or look for my mom or dad just live life and stop worrying about who ain't worried about you

[@9548470cm]

37:00 In my personal opinion Precious doesn’t owe her mom any apologies and I’m really shocked the mom LET her aplogize smh

[@georgiadyer665]

This is so hard to watch as a mother, who was never raised by my own mother. So freaking hard!! 😭😭😭

[@janelle_111]

🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@virgo7956]

❤

[@joannasaadati8810]

Sending you love !! My mother raised me from age 5 but she was checked out too 😒

[@RD-ms9gn]

@Christin Adams I know what you mean. My mom has mental issues but she refuses therapy and medication.

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

I’m sorry but this mother just doesn’t have the juice. I’ve never seen a mother so cold and incapable. This episode just makes me hug my children bc there’s just no way even if I was a single mother and struggling that I could have such apathy for my own children. It’s just unbelievable 😥

[@throwsomedeez]

I think the mom is treating her kids how she was treated. I hope they can all heal and develop a relationship 😩♥️.

[@LadeOla]

Is it me but the mother is so emotionless

[@paris9474]

23:46 the Mom looks good for an ex addict and, I’m assuming near 50.

[@456dawnie]

She is 50 she looks great .

[@Deelifull]

It was crack, not meth (the one that make you real old & all of your teeth fall out).

[@lailanimessina1473]

@@Deelifull crack does the same lol

[@Theweezle12]

Mom is freaking beautiful... look at how beautiful her skin is. I would've never thought she has ever had a drug habit or have ever drank anything besides water.

[@Jay-tp8ol]

This episode has always stayed with me. It was so so heavy. I really wonder how they all are doing.

[@lilbru]

Secrets in families & holding in experiences are truly a detriment to healthy growth & happiness in letting go of the trauma & drama. I can see the emptiness, disappointment, numbness, frustration, confusion & the anger in the older sister's eyes...that's unfortunate that she didn't have anybody to trust in & vent to. The cycle of dysfunction & trauma is real. Man this is one of the toughest episodes to watch...watching these are like watching your own family story or those that you know. This shows that no matter how good someone looks or seems like they're doing...you never know the internal struggle they're going thru unless they're willing to confide in you.

[@DR-rt7hh]

I feel empathy for their pain. What a courageous group they are. Thank you for sharing your story. It was very humbling. Praying for your continued growth and understanding.

[@MsRealitea]

Hello how are you? Thanks for the support in watching the show but can you go subscribe to my channel so you can be the first to hear and see me start to heal from my mom and our dysfunctional family antics. This is not a scam it’s really me Shaye lol and I will go live at the end of the month or once I got a good enough subscribers. Go tag your family and tell them to subscribe so we as a family can start breaking these generational curses that we did not ask for. I will upload a live clip of me and Kisha next week so you guys can know it’s really us but until then continue to stay bless.

[@offtopwitit8857]

I think the older sister is so beautiful

[@jasminemiles5139]

“I’m here for your great great GrandMother” Wheew! Someone understand the POWER in this woman’s WORK All Praises

[@realascanb222]

So much dysfunction between black mothers and daughters. This situation is too common.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

YES! the Pathology is deep Disconnect from the Daughter, Love on yo sons, the motto of the black mother 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤔🤔👀🍿☕

[@jazzbush3908]

Not really, there are actually many loving and functional black moms...💜

[@realascanb222]

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 its sad. I pray this generation will be the change we need in our community.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

@@jazzbush3908 we know this

[@Misssixty510]

Yes it is.

[@BeInspiredwithWunmiElebute]

This is so emotional. I found myself crying watching this episode. I hope the family find peace and let go of the past. Addiction is a terrible thing.

[@journeyingwithmasego]

the mother cleaned up well. she is gorgeous and it’s inherently evident in her daughters.

[@brandimichelleakin9940]

Shay's whole demeanor changed after Iyanla held her sister in her lap. She became soft and so very respectful. She just needs a Mama. They all do...it's so very sad.

[@precioushughley674]

Precious pain runs so deep it’s all in her eyes 😩

[@shai9256]

I wish Iyanla was still doing this kind of work. Cause whew chi !!! She’d have her work cut out for her with me & my sisters.

[@ENTme]

Same

[@jacquelineconnelly9189]

My heart is so heavy for precious, and OK shay is going through she is so polite and respectful and I know she's like that on her own

[@ShayBarnes]

Dang thank y’all for FINALLY uploading the full episode! 😂

[@cjandlayyy6837]

Lmao😂right

[@elizabrown124]

lmaoo right!! After I done hunted down and watched the bootlegged versions online

[@snowball-universe]

In the beginning of this episode seeing them come down those stairs. One after the other, 6 girls. I couldn’t believe it. Love this.

[@mz.ak4713]

I went to school with precious omg they said Louisiana she was in New Orleans all her life I went to elementary with her

[@cjandlayyy6837]

Oh wow

[@reneeschancenewme4720]

WOW! There Mom has a lot of pain herself....I don’t really think she knows how to be a Mom..... I’m praying for her and her daughters.

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

Yes, she didn't want her girls holding her back but her whole life she was weighed down. 🥺🤔👀🍿☕

[@misspeacelove7395]

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 Powerful insight

[@kayshawnsimmons6822]

@@misspeacelove7395 moms were daughters at 1 point and her life was miserable so she took it out on her girls. I hope things are better for them

[@misspeacelove7395]

@@kayshawnsimmons6822 True and your analogy is really on point. I think there´s a lot of work to do for them going forward but it´s a positive start that and one I doubt would´ve happened under different circumstances

[@ciandahebe5692]

She is so beautiful I'm shocked she is 50yrs

[@naveen378]

its just sad and super crazy that their mom and their mom's mom (grandma) all grew up without a mother that just blows my mind. talk about a toxic cycle

[@hopehope7889]

Sad! The mother can’t help her daughters because she’s broken herself. She needs to go through a lot of healing!

[@queenknyoki5447]

When your first born takes your whole face💜👌🏾

[@blknitenca]

Mama got some BOMB genes! For a woman that has lead the life she has, she looks great on the outside.

[@LaV593]

All I watch is this show, so glad the full episodes are here

[@killawalez3944]

Crazy how you tell your child “I didn’t want to be hindered by a child” and that child one ups you by having 7 children. 😞