[Full-Saga] Adoptive Daughter Uninvited Us From Her Wedding Bc Her "Bio-Parents " Will Feel Awkward

[@cheekysaver]

First... adoption is hard all the way around. That being said... if a person was not adopted and uninvited the parents paying for the wedding... we would say... yeah... don't pay and don't go. She was flat out taking advantage.

[@tartlynerdy]

$50,000 dollars for an engagement party? Is op out of their mind? More importantly, it sounds like Kyla has something wrong with her mentally and emotionally. Kyla had so many years to come to terms with the fact that her biological family gave her up for adoption. That's no excuse to treat her adoptive parents like garbage and expect them to still pay for a wedding they won't be invited to. That's so disrespectful. It was surprising that even Kyla's own bioparents weren't on her side. She could have had four loving parents at her wedding but choose to be an ungrateful jerk. Tbh I think op did her a favor sabotaging her path to marry a toxic influencer.

[@Furzkampfbomber]

I was about to write the same and then read your comment, you say everything there is to say. I just might add that I strongly disagree with the commenter who said that when a child turns out to be a monster, it's a 100% the parents fault. Sure, there is a lot of truth here, but sometimes people are just... falsely wired right from the start or, the worst nightmare of every parent, gets into the wrong company and there is nothing even the best parents in the world can do about that. All they can do is to prepare their kids for life as good as possible and to teach them respect, honesty, self-respect and manners. Everything else is up to their children from a certain point on and some just make the wrong decisions no matter what their parents have tought them.

[@0mtrebellcyury993]

Never bite the hand that feeds you.

[@aliaykutboz5357]

@@yovettathomas41h e😊😊

[@RandomTrinidadian]

I dont know why Kyla is so butt hurt. She now has a opportunity to rely on her real parents for support.

[@seangarvey8232]

Right that seems to be what she wanted.

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Who abandoned her at birth.

[@dianabialaskahansen2972]

Except bio parents also pulled away, staying away from wedding and not providing any gifts, as they were on OP and her husbands side. Seems like they were happy that OP and husband could provide for their bio daughter and never wanted to usurp the position as actual parents, the opposite of what Kyla wanted.

[@coldhardtruth333]

You really are ignorant

[@kaitohkid7229]

​@@michaelplunkett8059and abadonned her again 😂.

[@daishawilliams8301]

Op your daughter played a stupid game and won a stupid prize and and now I'm surprised you won't help her 😂😂😂 serves her right.

[@divina5616]

😮😅😅😮😮

[@Colorbrush21]

I am amazed that Kyla got her first real job at 23 years old. Most kids are encouraged to get a job after high school or go to college. I wonder if Kyla's parents spoiled her. However, that doesn't excuse Kyla's treatment of her parents.

[@jessicathompson236]

Unfortunately she probably wasn't "allowed". Especially if she didn't have all of her identification documentation in order or if she didn't have access to it. You might be surprised.

[@girl1213]

Kyla made her choice and reaps the consequences of it just like anyone else would. She had the opportunity to have *four* loving parents but choose the "approval" a gaggle of faceless strangers over them. At least she knew not to cause any scenes when the unexpected reunion happened. Prideful as she is, at least she's not as foolish because she knows she needs her job.

[@prin0428]

Kyla was not just disrespectful, what she did to her true mom and dad, you know, the ones who raised her, loved her unconditionally and gave her a beautiful life full of opportunity was cruel and hateful. Kyla's request for 50k (cough cough WHAT?!) for the wedding of her dreams, without batting an eye along w/a directive that more money will be expected from them, was outrageous to begin with. However, factor in the uninvite email. Wow! Just WOW! OP and hubby have done NOTHING wrong. Best of luck to them and I hope Kyla has learned a valuable lesson in life. Kicking people in the face who love and support you without question will be rewarded with Karma's best punch to the face.

[@gomahklawm4446]

Social media is turning so many women into entitled narcissists. It's sad really.

[@SunShower7066]

I think ceasing to fund a Wedding you were uninvited too is perfectly reasonable. Besides you already paid a whopping $50,000 for her party, did she really think she could still get free money out of people she treats like crap? Clearly she never got over being adopted, not that that's any excuse for her behavior as an adult, she needs therapy

[@michaelplunkett8059]

Why did you fund a shower you were excluded from?

[@girl1213]

@@michaelplunkett8059 She already paid for everything for that party THEN found out she wasn't invited. And then found out she isn't allowed in the wedding either. So that's why. It was too late to pull money for one thing but just in time for the other

[@kaitohkid7229]

My mother would give me 500€ and feel good about it.

[@theplaintech]

Kyla: Good riddance to bad rubbish. Glad OP cut off the money. At least Nancy turned out well. Maybe Kyla is just 'bad code'.

[@a.greywolfe4056]

Kyla is a Different bloodline...with all their flaws

[@theplaintech]

@@a.greywolfe4056 And maybe a few extra.

[@helgardhossain9038]

Adopted children are generally treated like second choice as soon as a biological child is born. Here in Germany we had a nice case where the Asian girl was beaten and treated like a servant by "the loving parents" who invested so much money & effort in her ... Two roads further down from my place the boy in foster care was ALWAYS treated like THE PROBLEM. How does the saying go ... ? There are no problem children, just problem PARENTS.

[@theplaintech]

@@helgardhossain9038 Be apprised that is generally true, but it does happen in some families with several children, all of them may become responsible successful adults and one will become a psychopath. It does happen. It isn't always the environment and it isn't always the DNA.

[@melindadawn5]

As an adoptee.... I get what kyla is going through. She's young though. It takes time to realize that the parents that raised us are our parents... The biological parents end up looking horrible and you realize what your life could have been had you not been adopted... Again though. It takes a lot of growing and time before you can see this... A little upset at the lady's final comment about her daughter though. The fact that she's going at things alone and learning life lessons the hard way is part of what she needs to grow up and realize certain things... You can tell a child not to touch a hot stove, because they'll get burnt, but when you don't know what burnt means, your parents can keep repeating it until they're blue in the face. You gotta get burnt before you learn why you don't touch a hot stove... In a perfect world, the elderly would give the young all the do's and dont's and the young would not do the things they're told not to do... But that's not reality... That's part of learning and gaining wisdom...

[@CareyBilley]

As a fellow adoptee by my step-father I always dream that my bio-father would save me from the monster my stepfather was, never happened and I never heard a word from him ever. It's fun to dream as a child but eventually everyone has to live in the real world.

[@acpadilla7146]

IDK why it needs to take time. Maybe for some it does, but maybe some get it faster than others. My step son knows I'm not his biological dad and tells me all the time he loves me. He's 10 now and every time I tell him he'll always be my little baby he tells me I'll always be his dad. Btw he started living with me when he was 4 and never knew his real dad.

[@melindadawn5]

@@acpadilla7146 perhaps those 4 years with no father had a big impact on him... The first seven years are the most important years... Jesuit maxim "give me the child for the first seven years and I will give you the man"... He may also have a period where he becomes resentful and angry and say something like, " you're not my real dad"... He's only ten... Teen years are when things can get interesting... Though I do hope that doesn't happen and that he remains this way indefinitely...

[@tazylab6233]

I wonder why they didn't tell her sooner

[@deliciaford4343]

No she had been treating her adopted parents like crap for a while. A lot if biological parents wouldn't had been pushed her out of the nest and not paid all of that MONEY to just be treated like CRAP!!!

[@pamelamitchell8789]

Her wedding, her rules, her bills! The bride learned real life the hard way.

[@TruthSayer2007]

OP: You spoiled your daughter. Period. You messed up by never saying NO to her.

[@MsStormyRose21]

Kyla made her bed, she should lie in it and accept the consequences of her actions. Welcome to the real world Kyla lol.

[@onepieceisking5493]

To not answer op's calls instead send a lond very rude message tells that she blames op for everything rather than it was herself that caused it. Not surprised that the brat cut contact with op as she thinks it's op's fault that her bio parents wouldn't go and everything went down the drain. To not live with her bio parents means she's probably also mad at them for siding with op. Yeah, she's upset with her bio parents for siding with op instead of her and due to her pride she refuses to accept help or that she was wrong.

[@kathrynbillinghurst188]

You gave her soooo much love that it spoiled her rotten and made her feel entitled…she probably thinks it was a betrayal for you not to have told her about the adoption sooner? Young adults sometimes do strange things when they’re trying to gain independence! When she’s older, her heart will break when she remembers how much you poured into her… I just hope it’s not too late for you to forgive her! No mum wants to hear her daughter is a selfish brat!! 💖

[@kathrynbillinghurst188]

I’m so glad you’re not paying for her extravagance!!! 😊👏🌹❤

[@mrsw2923]

Kayla wasn’t a sixteen year old. She is in her twenties. The best thing you could ever have done was done. Make her face her consequences. She still has time to grow up and make amends. Question, Why wasn’t she on a career path that would have saved her from such foolishness.

[@Thisdotban]

This is just me speculating but I think Op lost Kyla way before the wedding, From what little info we can gather on the background story it looks like she found out about her bio parents while in her rebellious stage which gave her an escape path in which she idealized her bio parents and resented the structure Op gave her, in a twisted way it makes sense and if this is so you should take solace in the fact that there was nothing you could do about it.

[@kaitohkid7229]

The sad thing is that she trapped herself in this situation. No husband no family no future but her hatred is still directed to anyone else but herself.😢

[@Aelsenaer]

50.000 dollar 20.000 dollar Where on Earth is that normal?

[@fredvelasco9187]

I think a good life is about adding links to the family chain not cutting links out although that sometimes is necessary too. I wish Kayla growth, clarity, and peace.

[@Doggypaddle8]

The bio parents were good to show support for the ppl that gave their child a good life I gave my daughter up 19yrs ago, and she recently found out that I'm her biological mother. I wrote her a very long letter and I got back a txt to let me know she got it. I completely understand if she doesn't want me to be in her life. It's her choice. I would love to have a relationship with her, but I would never want that to be at the cost of her relationship with her parents.

[@mariabunch3541]

Anyone who gave me $50,000 for my wedding - even if they were complete strangers-would be guest of honor at my wedding and reception. It’s called gratitude.

[@kenolson3064]

Kyla had a fantasy about her birth parents that her stepparents could not compete with. Well, was it said; Pride goes before a fall.

[@lycusx]

I'm glad that you know how to be a parent you never reward bad behavior and anyone that says op was being to hard is either an enabler or spoiled and entitled themselves.

[@LordGertz]

Even though my parents never divorced, growing up in California, it is common enough for people people to have two sets of parents. I have even known people with 3 sets and one person 4 sets of parents. This is even before I get into people with more untraditional families, such as poly families, raised in traditional Mormon families, or raised in a commune. We get all types here. But the simple point I'm trying to make is that love is an infinite resource, and multiple sets of parents does not have to be "either/or" it can be "and". Pride and stubbornness go before a great fall. She was blessed with an abundance, and yet by her own actions, she made herself a wasteland.

[@cindykaysermersheim4999]

Absolutely!

[@amandagoldsbury8122]

It's not like the birth parents were telling her to cut them off. She did that in her own.

[@latricemochacappuccino3743]

This little girl wants to blame everyone for her great life. Sily, selfish and angry child needs to grow up . Kyla wants the monetary and not to give the respect her family deserves.

[@johnhazlett3711]

The problem with the adopted daughter is ingratitude.

[@jeffogden2982]

This is not the only time I have heard about adopted kids doing this to this to their parents,do not think I would ever adopt a kid due to this.

[@tumunu]

As has been said, the daughter really needs serious help, but she has to want it before she can get it. I would like to mention that, for all the horrific stuff that eventually happened, Kyla really dodged a bullet by not marrying that scumbag fiance. I hope someday she does get help and reconnect with OP. So far, though, she got what she deserved.

[@gcarr1089]

OP should never have handed out any money, if she isn't close enough to be involved then she doesn't pay for it. She would get more respect from strangers.

[@katherinevaipo3141]

Unbelievable, she had a loving parents, albeit adopted parents, why would she chose her bio parents who abandon her since birth. Entitled and ungrateful human being.

[@jamesleng6231]

The sad part is they made the choice to choose her. Guess they made a bad choice. It happens.

[@TheRobbiUno]

Why did the adoptive parents even send the first $50k. Should have told her to get stuffed right there. The line should have been drawn at that point.

Close her access to your ATM

[@judiththompson2423]

All she had to do was invite both sets of parents. Biological parents told her the reason they wouldn't come. She knew she was wrong but continued to be an idiot. She got what she deserved.

[@rebekah.2187]

I'm not really sure what Kyla was thinking. It sounds like a combination of immaturity and her wanting to pretend, or put on the act, that her biological family was as well off as her adopted family. She wanted Adopted Family's money for the wedding, but wanted her Biological Parents at the wedding. Maybe, in her mind, it was what she has always dreamed of, the perfect family. Who wants anyone to know that their parents gave them up because they were too poor to raise them? Maybe this is also why she was so drawn to an influencer. Influencers can be whatever they want to be online and everyone who follows them believes their fairytale stories. She wanted the fantasy life because she couldn't deal with the real life she had.

[@DouglasShuler]

Why in the world would you give her that money when she disrespected you?!

[@irishcanuck9489]

My son met his bio parents, they had other children. We had 3 more. My son felt the rejection and abandoned by his bio parents, he became resentful of them. He introduced his first child to them (grandchild) and they didn't seem interested. He would always say "they owe me 16 birthday presents" but never got one, ever (he met them at 16), and his son never did either. His bio parents never introduced him to family and friends as their son when they invited him and his wife to their house party, giving him his rightful place, that was the last straw. He hasn't spoken to them for years. He has issues from it still, he is 50 now! He got on with life and always remained close to his patents that raised him (and siblings). Kayla is struggling with her expectation of acceptance, now she feels abandoned. Kayla was wrong in not including the parents that raised her, she has resentment as a result of her poor decisions. She is messed up while trying to find her way. Her adoptive mother knows this as she developed unconditional love for Kayla. Kayla needs to heel emotionally. I believe her adoptive parents spoilt her.

[@michellegreen7542]

One of my daughters is called Kyla and I find it hard to listen to this story. My Kyla is the opposite of this woman and I am so blessed that she is a kind, caring and loving girl.

[@battfieldsniper1]

Im married and didnt even spend 10k on my wedding... 70k????? Id rather thay for a damn house

[@KDC256]

My wife 'n I got married 25 years ago for less than $10K. A very smart father gave his daughter X amount of money towards her wedding, but he told her the following: "Anything left over from the wedding money is yours to keep; anything towards the wedding over the amount I give you is on you!!" You can bet dollars to donuts, the daughter sought to get as much of the leftover money as possible. Anybody can have the wedding of their dreams, but you have to make decisions, sacrifices, cutbacks to make it happen. It's all about the choices people make!!

[@battfieldsniper1]

@@KDC256 10k in 2018. Like I said I'd of bought a fucking house with the rest

[@KDC256]

@@battfieldsniper1 It's all about choices!

[@lynnechapman6204]

OP I'm so sorry that your daughter acted that way. It is best that you let her be the one to approach you when she is ready. I'm happy that your younger daughter is having a nice wedding.

[@meliholmes]

As for Kyla Not knowing who her real parents are yet being raised by you ... All I can say is Your all she knows as the ones who raised her so learning something that was always hidden from her could honestly be a big shock to her whole system..Mabye her outbursts or running away is just her acting out ...She'll come around after she adapts to the new parents ordeal. I mean I wouldn't judge her how she has been.That is alot to take in all at once and plus her fiancee running out on her .. I honestly have empathy for her.

[@tiaa668]

Thanks for another great story Mr. Reddito have a fantastic day 😀

[@hyperswain]

There shouldn’t be sides, Kyla could have built a relationship with her bio parents without cutting out her real parents. Yes I said it the real parents are the ones that raise you

[@Killertomatoes13]

I noticed op said not one good thing about Kyla. No fond childhood memories,no I love her so much. The wedding shower disinvite, her pride was hurt not, not her feelings. Kyla was wrong, I wasn't feeling the love from op.

[@actnatural9261]

I mean would you when you’re being snubbed? Might fee petty, but they tried being reasonable with Kyla

[@Killertomatoes13]

@@actnatural9261 I'm adopted with a little brother whose their bio kid. It really stood out to me she didn't say love once.

[@elainelawrence4522]

The big problem was them not keeping contact. I’m adopted and we celebrated every year that day. We also saw our mom and grandparents. I when to school with 4-6 other adopted kids who new they were. But didn’t know anything about them selves I was very lucky

[@mythosinmedia]

I see nothing wrong with the OPs actions. Kayla deserved what she got. Being adopted doesn't entitle you to be an ingrate.

[@thewriter2050]

What is it with so many adoptive parents having savior complexes? OP was so busy trying to force the girl to be grateful for SAVING HER FROM A LIFE OF DESTITUTE AND GUTTERS 🙄 that she forgot to be a mom who created a safe space for her daughter to come to her. Like it or not parents don't expect praise for doing what they are supposed to do as parents...and just like we CHOSE to have kids, you CHOSE to adopt one. Your kids don't owe you anything for your choice to be a parent...

[@gailwarnock2764]

Who give $50 thousand for an engagement party that's crazy . Get your money back and don't give her anymore , she doesn't deserve it you don't reward bad behaviour .

[@bluestarzy1767]

I don't want to make it about politics. But I have a sneaky suspicion that Kyla Had a specific type of idea.. or narrative.. When it came to her biological parents and her adopted parents. Kind of like Colin Kapernick? His views on specific people...even though he was raised and adopted to a family that shared that skin tone...you know the one he projects he has his issues with? Let's assume she blamed the rich for making it hard for her bio parents to keep her... because of finances and how her adopted parents represent the "rich" that did it to her bio parents.. Its like she can't just accept that it wasn't pity, it wasn't some savior complex or some horrible ulterior motive... for them to adopt and love her. So this formula equals severe entitlement, and it doesn't even matter how good her adopted parents were... her narrative of what she thinks of them will not change... and if anything, their "lesson" made her feel more "correct" in that assumption. It's obvious she doesn't equate her behavior as wrong because it showed their "true colors," you know? Even though any parent would do this bio or adopted or otherwise. I wish her luck and if this is a real-life thing...

[@paulinadeboer3604]

The OP did good, the most importend thing that parents teach there children is to be an independent person. Kyla proofs now that she is. So well done.

[@silvanonsilverhorn8371]

Something about the mom’s reactions through the whole story just seems off. She talks about how she gave Kyla a well-to-do life, but where are the mentions of loving her? When she was disinvited from the wedding, she talks not about missing her baby’s big day, but about how her pride was hurt. There was no attempt to sympathize with Kyla’s feelings, rather OP seemed to be inviting us all to rejoice with her that her daughter’s marriage fell apart. What loving parent is happy when their kid is suffering? Kyla didn’t make all the best choices, and I absolutely think OP was not obligated to pay for the wedding, but I feel like Kyla’s side of the story might put a whole lot of this in a different light.

[@nack8310]

Daughter is an adult. The Mother implies she will still help her if she asked. There’s no obligation to help. The relationship should not be based on helping financially as if the adult child should depend on such help. Kyla can take care of herself.

[@LancerkingNoel]

Kayla seemed to made some mental drama about her adoptive and bio parent, antagonizing the parents who cared for her growing up and placing the bio ones as people who were wronged. She seemed to think both sets of parents disliked each other and the truth of her being adopted was the main plot of a huge drama telenovel. She crashed the support of the adoptive parents thinking she was making a favor to the bioparents and like domino pueces their support also crashed since she went doing overboard unnecesary disrespect

[@kmorris2371]

Your daughter is 23 years old. She has excluded and uninvited you and your husband from the wedding. I'd exclude and uninvite my money and try to get my money back. Of course, don't give her any more money. Let Kyla or the bio parents, pay for it.

[@ap8409]

an "influencer" -- i.e., narcissist. Huge RED FLAG

[@annadevore1210]

Being uninvited to my daughter’s wedding would break my heart.😢It would be time to teach her a lesson 🤬

[@Mama_Bear_of_3]

I don't believe OPs story. Just the way she talks about her daughter and how gleeful when writing about the destruction of her daughters wedding. It is probably somthing like OP doesn't like the fiance, and when the daughter refused to break up with him she pulled her funding. Maybe OP was angry because her daughter would nor allow OP to plan the entire wedding. I don't know, I just don't believe the story is how OP is telling it. When there were conflicts, there are always 3 sides to a stories. His side, her side, and the truth.

[@runninggreywolf8313]

Over 70K for one single day is preposterous. That much would make a nice down payment on a house.

[@ericlindgren212]

OP believes in science AND karma. Let that sink in for a bit.

[@ashapuhin72]

What is wrong with that?

[@ericlindgren212]

@@ashapuhin72 they are fundamentally mutually exclusive.

[@ashapuhin72]

@@ericlindgren212 explain your assumption

[@ericlindgren212]

@@ashapuhin72 name one branch of science that has observed and defined karma.

[@ashapuhin72]

@@ericlindgren212 you're deflecting the question, why can't she believe science and karma at the same time even if karma and science are mutually exclusive?

[@jdobe9461]

A good example of how to make a short story long!

[@Linda-xw9lj]

I had 2 daughters adoptive and a granddaughter that did the same. They cut me completely off. After meeting bio parents. That’s on them. When they have lived life and grow up they will be back.Just forgive and pray for her

[@BadBCs]

Kids need to know from the beginning they are adopted. Finding out later can really blow up.

[@carrieowen5895]

Yah...that is no way to treat your parents...but i got a iffy vibe from op. She's all "scientific" and talking like her adopted daughter was broken throughout the text. she isn't a day in the park either and her attitude about money and privilege sucks. No wonder the child is confused.

[@lissaculbreath950]

I'm adopted and I would never do that to my parents. My bio parents are not my parents. My adopted parents are my parents. This really bothers me!

[@docsavage873]

Kyla starting her 1st job in her mid 20s sheds some light on her behavior.

[@meliholmes]

It's good your letting them bloom into who they are. I think Your doing Good as a Parent.Children may Not understand life even though they think they do the more they learn in life the more they grow into who they truly are or even what they want in life until then things can seem intense for them and they can act out but mabye its because they don't understand yet. I have found patience in solace and mabye that's why your daughter went off on her own. They know who they are better that way because they've internalized things through experience and not because anyone told them what to do. Either way it seems your good at guiding them as a parent that's all You can do 💁‍♀️

[@eletakelley7188]

If Kyla was 2.5 years old when adopted and your bio child was born 2 years later there is more than 2 years between them.

[@Vipre-]

If I had a heart doctor I think she'd freak at the amount of salt this story needs to be taken with. OP practically screams "unreliable narrator".

[@kennedigurl]

I stopped believing this story when it was mentioned that the biological parents were “poor”, but 𝙨𝙤𝙢𝙚𝙝𝙤𝙬 came up with 20k in cash, for the wedding and gifts. 😂😂

[@susiemalphurs5212]

No excuse for her be like that. I'm adopted and would consider such rude behavior.

[@Rebecca-ii2nq]

Kaylas gone from spoiled rich, 50k on a party, to mind blown. Separating from her 'old' parents until the new things made sense and she restabilised, then the parents and bf threw their toys. She has has had to become her own support.

[@Doggypaddle8]

All her 'old' parents (as you call them) only refused to pay for her major life event that weren't invited to. Her bio parents showed support and respect for the ppl that gave their child a good life when they couldn't. The bf just sucks. Hopefully, she will learn her lesson and try to fix her relationship with both sets of parents.

[@bradschwamberger1217]

An ex friend of mine went thru the same thing with his daughter. He adopted her took care of her while baby daddy never paid a penny. Then right before she gets married, baby daddy shows up. He gives the couple all this money. My ex friend got pushed to the back. You need to take the money back, I never would have given her $50,000 for starters.

[@devenecrooks3088]

Why are there feelings more valuable than the people who raised her for over 20 years?😢

[@djterry1218]

Another home run!👏🏼👍🏼👊🏼

[@UntilNecessary444]

The top comment from the video 😂 “even though I’ve never met an adopted person before” 💀 how would you even know? It’s not like we walk around telling everyone we meet that we are adopted 😂

[@hughboyle7251]

Geese, she is that way because you allow it and support it.

[@patriciazabala5480]

Can't believe they gave that kind of money. Her disrespect to them

[@robertscott6048]

My sister adopted 3 kids, one ran up bills that my sister and BIL had to pay then told everyone to get off, she had found her bio parents, the other 2 are a bit distant but other wise ok

[@etda5]

She's so ungreatful!

[@xaldrexane]

Tldr kayla has my sympathy but not my empathy because she not only went to far but refuses to admit she did wrong and that's where she really messed up Not adopted but I grew up without my dad so I can relate to some degree because I've always wanted to meet him just to see what I got from him physically and mentally That said I wouldn't ever dare to give up my relationship with my mother for it even if he turned out to be everything I wanted in a dad because while Mom wasn't perfect and even played a small hand in how screwed up my life is I still love her and I've grown enough to know how understandable her mistakes were not just as a single parent (not one myself but I help more than 1 friend cope) but as a woman who was younger then than I am now This girl threw away the coal that kept her warm for some common quartz that she thought was a diamond only to lose that as well it's a shame and I sympathize because my life sucks because of my choices too

[@ptinca]

As someone not adopted but raised by my paternal grandparents i managed to invite and include those grandparents and both sets of my parents. Yes the marriage didnt last but that was nothing to do with my complicated family arrangements. Only weird bit was the slightly larger head table and the odd way of seating everyone to keep the peace lol

[@journeytwojordan]

Am I the only one thinking the adoptive mom wasnt comepletely honest about her role. She talked about being a sinning woman and how she is vindictive. Most of the time she talked about herself and not much about the adoptive father. Why mention that she whooped Kyla. It was unnecessary. I feel like there is something there that is not mentioned and missing from this story. And she sure does bring up money and her privilege quite often.

[@jeanduffy7949]

She left out she created that monster.

[@mariehatcher8176]

She was also way to obsessed with money. If they had most of the time been in contact with this girls biological parents why was it such a surprise to her at a different age. They should have always made sure she new. Even though she says she treated the girls equally I can't help but think there was some sort of unintentional biast towards there bio daughter.

[@genechristiansomoza4931]

Why pay stranger's wedding right? Bad parenting by the way, why did they let her grew up as a spoiled brat. Doormats.

[@antoinettebates244]

OOPS..Your daughter messed around and found out!! WOW!!

[@marcopolo7768]

Influencers don't really have financial stability, so you can't expect them to have funds for events like weddings, that's why they're on social media. Their following mainly supports the lifestyle you see on posts

[@josephhurst4902]

11:23, Got to love Stupid and Entitled Children... They want you to pay for it but think that they still have the right to DENY you a seat at the table your paying for. Not how it works honey. 20:32, Sounds about right... What kind of person would uninvite the parents who Raised her, for the parents she barely knows... Shows her true character, or rather lack there of. 21:48, From the sounds of it, I would bet the pansy husband encouraged his followers to blame your daughter for the shit storm she called her wedding... And in truth it was her fault. Had she just invited you to like was originally planned then the wedding wouldnt have failed due to budget cuts. 25:24, it sounds like you have Honestly Tried you best to reach out to her and mend the Relationship. Her Refusal due to her PRIDE is the only thing stopping it. And until she chooses to not be so prideful all you can do is Wait and pray for her.

[@pgmbodybuilding323]

Wow you can tell when God is missing in a family. This lady's kids are both just damaged you failed them.

[@nydiajohnson3632]

The only mistake that OP and Adam did not telling Karla that she was adopted from a young age. I think at one time she thinks that you stole/bought her from the Bio family. That you exploited the Bio’s parents financial difficulties to get her.

[@ginaschreivogel8259]

Biological parents aren't "real parents." Real parents are the ones who care for the child and are their for them through the ups and downs of life.

[@shonnaallen2225]

Ok sooooo adopted mom and dad cant come but the people whom are actually their family can

[@marywray6046]

I hope it was worth it to prove you were right,some things i agree with,but why are you happy she got hate from people who weren't getting the full story.i think you could've handled it better.

[@seangarvey8232]

Got what she wanted

[@jammy25]

I think I figured it out. Kayla thinks her adoptive parents are manipulative. She had issues with her parents prior to meeting her bio parents. Then believed they kept her away from her bio parents. All the advice given was technically helpful to OP. But to Kayla this was another tactic to get everyone on the parents side. She sees them as the cause of her failed wedding. There is no begging for forgiveness. She sees her adoptive parents as toxic. I know someone is going to say what about the money. She felt this was the least they could do by providing funds. The email was she believed she either could control the conversation or believed this would prevent arguing. She feels her parents are the toxic ones from her perspective she can't let her adoptive parents near her life. The comments saying she will learn one day. She did but not what the adoptive parents meant to teach her.

[@swf46]

You gave them $50,000.00: YOU TWITS DEVORCE HER!!

[@chrisneal2109]

Just ungrateful she have happy that someone adopted her and gave her a better life

[@annieg7090]

I don't think the mom needs to explain herself. You don't pay for a wedding that you've been asked not to attend - especially if it's your child.

[@laurabenevelli6783]

Wow! She wanted you and your husband to pay for everything but didn’t want your presence. She’s a totally ungrateful young woman. I wouldn’t have paid for it either. She needed to talk to her biological parents to see if the 4 of you talked. Her bio parents made sense with the choice they made.

[@davidnash8208]

Kyla behaved very badly but how much of it was justified? OP seems to have been violent at times, she has a very aggressive attitude and seems to have mostly excluded her husband from family decisions, he's not mentioned much anyway. I wonder how her childhood and upbringing affected Kyla in a negative way.