[FULL STORY] AITA for telling my daughter she will have to move out of my house if I get a divorce?

[@TalesChambers]

3:08 If came from short

[@e.ggamerguy5793]

Tbh I feel kinda sorry for OP who lost everything. The daughter and cousin were just horrible though and I feel so bad for OP’s husband.

[@wofitysgalaxy7317]

That and the fact that at the end literally everyone was downvoting op for what seems like ni reason

[@twilight776]

Totally, but I think the husband should at least try to go to therapy, cause if op do something she can't reverse, he would feel bad because she tried and he said she didn't respect him ? She tried everything from him, it's not her fault her family didn't belived her, I know it's was hard her ex husband, but instead of telling "I can't" he should at least tried to got over his trauma

[@purplewolfranger22]

​@twilight776 you're naive. A single false accusation can ruin a man's life, and damn near did in this story. Why would any self respecting adult put himself in that situation again? He's doing the smartest thing he's ever done. The ex wife and ex daughter are reaping what they've sown.

[@twilight776]

@purplewolfranger22 Hey, the OP tried her best to defend her husband. She was ready to do everything for him, and she lost everything because of that. She loved her husband, and her daughter was the guilty one, OP maybe went too far, but when you love someone, you don't think straight and maybe, one day, he will see his mistake, that it's wasn't his ex wife fault and will try to talk to her

[@purplewolfranger22]

@twilight776 the ex wife wouldn't respect him in any way. Wouldn't listen to what he was saying, respect his decisions, respect his words. Her choice to not talk to her family is causing her family to still harass him. Her daughter is the one who started all of this. Her neice is the one who perpetuated the lie. Do you see how everything bad in the husband's life is related to the ex wife? Tell me again why he would subject himself to so much torment for a woman and a daughter who don't respect him?

[@radixmaharaj5912]

There was no coming back from that. Him being cold to Op, because he's broken as well as she is. Love isn't going to fix this but getting away is the only way and making sure her family stays away from him as well as not contacting him. They're making it worst now for Op, her daughter just up and ran away knowing she is fully wrong and left Op to fix it. There isn't a happily ever after years later for them either. He will never date another woman with a child boy or girl. Not everyone get a HEA

[@pimtijmensen991]

Daughter ran away after trying to fix it (too late) and finding out it only made everything worse.

[@brianward7550]

OP should definitely tell her husband that she will support him in a defamation lawsuit against her family!

[@tedisoriano1360]

Not just the family, but the daughter as well. Or screw that, she should start that case herself to push him forward if she wants even the teensiest bit of reconciliation with him.

[@Malcatron132]

At this point there is no hope for reconciliation

[@kiritoshi0]

I feel so bad for that woman and man. Literally made me cry listening to this.

[@siminsasha]

thank god I wasn't the only one who cried listening to this.

[@SmileyFace123Lolz]

It's actually so sad, at least she wasn't motivated by using him like he thought, but it's more sad because of that. They intended to grow old together, I feel like that's not so easy to find. OP life is literally actually ruined because the person she wanted to die next to isn't going to stay with her for good reason 😢

[@snowangel92100]

I agree it wasn't the motivation but she and her daughter either stopped respecting him at some point, or he was never respected. He thought it was a bad accident. Then she or the cousin starts a rumor that the walk in wasn't on accident. She never respected him enough to clear the air quickly. It went on so long and so much even HR got calls. And even when he wanted space OP suffocated him with apologies and therapy(especially when he doesn't need it or want it). Calls, messages, visiting his parents, visiting his job (where he's probably still on thin ice). Op wants the relationship for her sake. And the daughter did the same! Not thinking about him and what he wants despite being so clear. They were selfish. Either out of love, money or guilt, a "no" from him isn't meant to be respected or taken at face value. Keep in mind OP's daughter violated a restraining order and the family is still contacting him despite him now being an ex and threatening to give them the same treatment. All I see, and maybe the ex, is a family of selfish and disrespectful people who can't leave something (and someone) alone. Their harrassment caused the divorce, they won. Why contact him? You can't undo the damage.

[@dianebajorinas5832]

Oop needs to get therapy, specifically grief counseling. She needs to learn how to let go of him.

[@sisira.p]

The fact that the daughter all of a sudden fix everything 💀.. she was loving the attention

[@worldofkings3684]

It really sucks that she lost him and the live they've built but it's an incredibly serious accusation to make so, I can't blame the husband for not being able to forgive and stay. This truly could have destroyed his life completely.

[@Lochee007]

Given the proof (bathroom door not locked, mother heard repeated knocks, camera shows husband's immediate retreat), the daughter's escalation and conspiring with her cousin suggests a covert attitude. The unrelenting and comprehensive vitriol from the "adults" is not simply toxic but radioactive (half-life 100+ years). My comments are my only involvement in this tragedy, and yet I wish to apologise to the husband. OP is also a victim of her daughter and the family. The apologies OP received were too little and too late. My advice to OP is to: 1) Allow the husband time and space to try and heal. 2) Go low or no contact with her family. 3) Plan your future covertly at the expense of the b*st*rds. 4) After a reasonable time, at least a year, write to your ex expressing your regrets, wishing him well, updates on the family circumstances (good and bad) and offering a no commitment meeting.

[@Zerus1517]

Unfortunately she can't restraining order is a no contact

[@Lochee007]

@Zerus1517 and if she sends a letter via his parents, allowing them to filter for anything (unlikely) negative? I missed the length of the RO and to whom it applied.

[@jenniekham5838]

I mean what's weird to me is how the daughter felt comfortable doing so,she is 19 an adult,she knew what these Accusation would do to the husband, I don't know what she was thinking about ,that he would still pay for her college??,this was a set up ,the daughter did it intentionally But my initial question. Is I think op is omitting stuff,cause the daughter felt wayyy too comfortable doing so in a house where her mom heard him knocking and there was cameras ,I think this is an escalation ,and op let her get away with things prior to this

[@Lochee007]

Some additional thoughts, taking into consideration other comments. The daughter may have been pushing boundaries, talking negatively with her cousin about the husband, and seeking to take further advantage of him. She totally under estimated her ability to control the narrative and was wilfully ignorant to the collateral damage she prepared/instigated and escalated. I hope that in the future, the daughter will partner with someone of similar qualities to herself and that the mother can insulate herself and regain a life currently denied.

[@EmmanuelLYS]

Honestly cant even blame the husband. He was polite and backed awya without accusing. He didnt force op daughter to treat him like a dad hut supported her well. Bith op and her daughter just lost someone super valuable

[@Horses.Romancebooks_Hockey]

Honestly I feel the daughter doesn’t care I think she was faking it. It was obvious through the divorce OP and now ex still cared about each other. But I agree. I can’t blame him for that. I wish things turned out differently but sadly that can’t happen

[@DNaruleach]

Honestly. This is a real man! Dude was like "I love you and appreciate how you stood up for me. But I will ask you to abandon your daughter." Like he was calm and collected not calling out her name or anything. He is literally choosing his peace the best way possible.

[@AdmiralBroom]

Anyone else feel like literally everyone in this story took the nuclear option at every single chance? Like, y’all definitely could have fixed this, but everyone just kept putting more holes in the boat until it sank, get your damn heads on straight

[@Ando1428]

Everyone except the husband. Their bad decision lead to his nuclear moment. They came at his job man. He was sitting at home waiting to be arrested. Trauma inducing stuff right there.

[@PallviRana-cz3of]

Their’s husband side of story too

[@mewpspsps]

Where? ​@@PallviRana-cz3of

[@animelike4826]

All lost. The EX-husband, his general trust in his former wife. And complete trust to the in-laws, till the point of not ever being able to feel safe around them again. While on an emotional level, I'm completely with him. My mind is still asking me, if counseling would have changed something for them (without the daughter in the picture, of course). The wife tried also her best, even though highly criticized, she defended and fought for her marriage and man. Based on the family dynamics, the boundary respecting behavior, doesn't seem to be a general problem there. And maybe someday Op will understand the grave mistake, they made. And the daughter and niece are just shitty. Victim of actual cases are often not believed in, and the behavior of such people used as an excuse to do victim blaming, and the reverse of victim and offender. It's a small percentage of wrong accusations, but each one is too much.

[@Nishat-58699]

The fact that in real life kids suffer from these type of i incidences and ops daughter just did it foe attention is soo pathetic... The mother definitely raised her wrong

[@BASIC8584]

Its not always the moms fault.

[@Alexandra-cy3es]

​@@BASIC8584Exactly...some children just born....wrong, to put it that way, it doesn't matter how much a parents try, is never enough to correct them, the Psychopaths are a example of it.

[@M3chanicald]

that's just wrong to immediately blame the wife. some parents love their children and take perfect care of then as much as they can and their kid could still do stuff like this. not the mothers fault jackass

[@grave_godesss3649]

It's not always the Mother's fault or the Dad's fault. Look at some of the most famous serial killers, some had the perfect childhood, had great parents and they still ended up being monsters. Op is innocent. Her daughter is 19 years old for crying out loud! Daughter is a spoiled little brat who destroyed her family, took way too long to tell the truth. She just wanted to stir up drama and play the victim card. Absolutely putrid!

[@dannohawaii50fan]

I saw this one on IG and it's sad that the step daughter ruined HIS life more. For OP to say something like oh it's like he's returning something back to the store and not say anything. It's not right to say that. She should blame both the sister and the cousin (her niece) for what happened. Also it's the daughter's fault that she actually went through with it as she claims that it's a 'scenario'. No, it's not just a 'scenario', it's real life. Step daughter ruined HIS reputation and didn't care about the outcome till actually came back and bit her in the behind. OP doesn't deserve this man since she let HER daughter AND family ruin his life. The ex deserves someone WHO actually has his back.

[@CenturianTale_Halo]

She didn't let them do anything, she tried. She can tell them to stfu all she likes but it's up to them if they listen. The daughter is 19 so can't really be restricted. The daughter is 19. OP didn't let ANYTHING happen. She tried to stop it

[@Ando1428]

​@@CenturianTale_Halo she could have sued them for defarmation. She had evidence. All she needed was to get a confession to her daughters bullshit and that would have sealed it. Her daughter and that niece.

[@lucyspears99]

​@Ando1428 the daughter wouldn't even tell her family the truth what makes you think she'd confess for a defamation claim?

[@Ando1428]

@lucyspears99 she already did when he came that day to say he's getting a divorce. He recorded it himself. He even told her. Earlier when the mom told her to tell the truth and her daughter said that she didn't want to look bad to her extended family (before he got harrassed) she could have recorded then. Then hit the defemation case.

[@alejo22bd73]

​@@Ando1428I think that you're right... But we need to put in Op's situation. She obviously didn't know how to fix everything, and even if she tried to make a defamation claim, it wouldn't have change the Ex-husband's mind. It's was over when the daughter start with the lie. I hate her a little bit, it's so sad what happened to Op. I think she didn't do anything wrong, at least with bad intentions, she was just desperate. I'm sorry for her.

[@TheRealRehman]

OP daughter "I just liked the attention, is that so wrong?"

[@V3r1tyR0s3]

This actually so sad, and he’s not even a pedo- she’s 19. I would never forgive her. They almost ruined His life.

[@mimilunawatermelon]

Let him go and have mercy on yourself 💔

[@KokoKoko-iv7ly]

At the beginning op should have really pushed her daughter to persuade the family to apologise to the husband and then leave him alone.

[@Ray-Mai]

I feel really bad for op.. having her heart broken like that is honestly so painful. I feel bad for the husband as well but he's kinda a duck for not talking to her. I understand why he didn't but still to be able to move on you need to communicate. I really hope op gets better and this doesn't cost her any life changing effects like depression or sxicidal thoughts. The daughter needs to be put in jail and so does the family.

[@mykaelnyx8821]

Why would he be waiting for the cops to come and arrest him or worried about being called a pedophile when he accidentally walked in on a 19-year-old?!? I'm sorry the last time I checked that was one year past adulthood. Plus there's video evidence of what happened, even if there is no audio. From the description of the video, it sounds like you could have been a Benny Hill laugh track on it as he stumbled and fell over his own two feet trying to get out of the bathroom

[@kyarramcclellan]

I feel bad for the ex and OP too cause she was a victim of all the problems her daughter and niece caused too. Also the ex husband had no right to accuse OP of “using” him. I know he was going through a lot and a really hard time but that’s no excuse he was wrong for saying she “used” him when she loved him and wanted to save their marriage.

[@green-spectre]

Ya, when I got to that part of the story(the second update right?) I was wondering what OP did, because it explained the daughter, but it didn't really touch on what OP did

[@namutebirinnah301]

An accusation like that has put many innocent 😇 men in prison, wld u blame him, if u wer in his shoes, watching yo life fall apart, accusations reaching yo plc of work, living in fear of being arrested at any moment. His justified in his judgment. She shd hv given him space. I think that’s y he thought she was using him seeing he was the primary breadwinner, men like that r a once in a generation. And for his life to b in shumbles like that over an attention seeker is even mo sadder than anything in this entire story

[@pinkdevil019]

Would definitely sue the family for this.

[@ashexrome7621]

I see where her daughter gets her issues from. Like mother like daughter.

[@ΠαναγιώτηςΠιτσινης]

The best think u can do is sing the devorse papers and give him everything in court and stop texting. That way he may understand ur pain and just maybe stay in touch with u. Maybe.... 😢

[@Angel_Arika]

I honestly feel bad for the both of them. There is actually no coming back from that, the daughter obviously did out for attention and when she noticed that her life is going to be ruined as well, she backtracked, she didn't care for her mom or the op husband, not one bit and only care about herself and now her actions have finally caught up with her, good thing honestly!

[@ultimatefangirl1663]

I feel bad for her

[@suhanisingh-uz5jh]

I fell soo bad for the op and the her husband , like image you have a perfect family one day and it get fully destroyed. The op lost the 2 person she loved the most in her life. She can't get her husband back or look at her daughter the same way ever again . People are telling her to move on like yes she should give him a divorce because this thing can't be fix any more but i totally get her point of you she really love him and get over it so easily . The husband it also correct at his position as he seem like a nice guy must have liked the op daughter a lot as he was paying for her college but she broked his trust , the op family also destroyed him mentally. I don't really blame the cosin as the op daughter told her a lie which was honestly a really fucked up like if the lie she told the cousin was reality you mind thing that the whole situation was fucked up so telling a adult was the best thing to do here so i thing the cousin was also right at her place

[@522nibbles]

The daughter wanted the husband in my opinion.

[@momolol3724]

This is just sad, and impossible to fix.

[@Galaxy_Butterfly777]

Well...Not all storys have happy endings... 😢

[@Ronnie3King]

Yo these commenters on reddit were definitely single💀

[@MerkyIsQuriky]

Who tf said that she should pick her daughter over the husband?

[@JaydenMbatha]

7:57 dude said nah you're not doing this s*** again

[@Infinitegaming-686a]

Dumb ass our generation is so attention seeking. Lowkey I think we are cooked

[@goeldicotton]

Ok, but I feel like op putting all the blame on her daughter is gross (not for the husband obviously he’s allowed to feel that way). She’s nineteen and told an exaggerated story to her cousin (probably just to vent about how gross it was being walked in on because teens are dramatic), only to suddenly have the story spread like wildfire. Then she has all the pressure to fix the situation that she didn’t even mean to start and that was quickly spiraling thrusted upon her. I don’t blame her for trying to avoid that it’s scary, and seriously blaming her for this rather than her cousin is mental. Should she have fixed it immediately? Obviously, she’s not blameless, but what she is nineteen and possibly scared of being ostracized herself (and given how her family immediately started treating her stepfather I don’t blame her for that fear). Plus, that’s not even mentioning how, after understanding just how bad things got, she’s trying fix things, not caring about her own well-being to the point where she got arrested! And yet somehow, this mother still refuses to see her side in any of this, and is completely willing to abandon her daughter. Even her husband, the victim of the situation, called her out on this, and yet she still doesn’t want to admit she’s a bad mother. Are you kidding me???

[@Barkley_Prods267]

Not tryna be that guy but… that’s not technically a pedo. If the daughter was 19 she’s a legal adult and the family had no right to call him one. Just a horrible story all around.

[@Sg190th]

They misuse the word a lot. It's only applied to those who have sick feelings towards literal kids. After that, it's predatory.

[@Barkley_Prods267]

@ yeah, if what happened was actually what the daughter said then it’d be predatory, not pedo behavior.

[@darkphoenix3347]

I love how all the comments read out are essentially treating op as if she cheated on her ex-husband. The man had every right to leave, but it seemed like her ex was looking for an excuse to leave.

[@netromo]

Elaborate more please

[@raynewithhorns]

I understand being desperate but this is a whole new level, both should definitely divorce. Her trying to see him when he ruined their marriage, I get it being traumatizing and not wanting to be with someone after that I’d say for a couple that’s not married it’s understandable. Marriage you said through sickness and health/death he didn’t want to do that. Definitely think the daughter should move out and go to therapy. He’s not perfect no one is, not worth your mental health fighting for something someone else gave up on. Time to move on and not idolize him, he’s not a good man no human is

[@Pilotito1]

You think the ex-husband is in the wrong?

[@Pilotito1]

He IS a good man but the daughter destroyed his Life you can't blame anyone but the daughter

[@darmendragurung4882]

The comments in this video are so rude

[@ashleylancaster8378]

I saw this on tik tok and it is a sad ending

[@Horses.Romancebooks_Hockey]

These comments were extremely insensitive to her. I feel bad for both OP and husband. But those comments are cruel. It’s not that easy to move on and I get she has to but it’s clear he is also struggling with it. Those comments probably made OP feel 10 times worse than she already did.

[@samuellindner3442]

That's why I lock the door, and if I don't there is a rule that all bit my brother follow in my house that is, if the door is closed, don't go in

[@mykaelnyx8821]

And truthfully I'm not blaming the woman in this relationship at all, I'm not really blaming the guy either I'm blaming the daughter and the cousin 100%. Both of them admit she stood up for him repeatedly and even showed the video evidence of what happened, but her family kept going at the guy over and over again and that eventually broke him. And even if she approached him once or twice just trying to see if he might consider reconciling that really doesn't mean he has to be a dick to her and treat her like crap especially because she's the one person in the relationship that has been standing up for him no questions asked over and over. On the other hand I think he might have wanted to get out of the relationship even before this happened and it's just using it as an excuse. Instead of allowing her to get rid of the problem, claiming that he wouldn't be able to look at her the same if she kicked out the daughter who caused all this mess.

[@Ando1428]

He wasn't being a dick. He didnt treat her like crap either. They harassed him continually. Her and her daughter showed up at his work in public. Thats undue pressure upon him. Its a manipulative tactic. That was a really bad decision. She really just needed to sign the papers if she wanted to ask for counciling she could have used the lawyer to drop a message. When they came to his job and harrased him there. His best decision was to leave and he took it. You know those moments where they tell women if you don't feel safe leave immediately. Yeah; a false accusation causes that scenario for men. It's an immediate wrap up and go situation. It's a very serious situation that absolutely eradicates trust in everyone involved.

[@Kcboy225]

Damn A prime example of a misunderstanding spiraling out of control The daughter was really really relly dumb and the one responsible for everything Op or the mother was really a victim here she lost 2 of her most love people in 1day The cousin was the light to the fuse sharing and it going nuclear The family members were only told daughters perspective and rolled with it (i dont blame them but they shouldve looked at everything) And finally the husband Where do i even start? He was emotionally mentally broken from everything getting all the blame and for what? A mistake? He was a nice person caring now? His broken from the inside i feel incredibly sorry for him The best thing everyone can do is have some space for sometime and then talk it out.

[@_very.human.looking.alien_]

I’m 19 and I could never imagine doing this. Wtf??

[@Pilotito1]

Yeah you look human

[@ashishitD]

Ah..i can feel the era of broken families and human machines😂

[@522nibbles]

I think what she should have done but I get she just wanted him back but she should have took a step back and respected what he wanted from her at that moment. At that point she was only thinking about her own pain and not his. I get that but sometimes your pain isn’t always the most important. As for the husband I don’t blame him at all for his decision. I would have been devastated by all of it. But we must remember he is the victim. And if I had to say the OP is the second victim.

[@Godisrealforreal]

Why not lock the door. Sounds like a setup. Sad people are so toxic for attention.

[@KyronFolkes]

For anyone whk isnt bothered to watch it.The husband divorced her and is refusing to reconcile.And the daughter got arrested for breaking the husbands restraining order.

[@Declan-zn8sv]

Man some Reddit ppl suck saying it is over goodness

[@Hislovesickgirlz]

I have the cameras too

[@TwoEagles121]

Its not the first time a mother daughter relationship was destroyed because of the moms lover, and it's certainly not the last.

[@allieday03]

what's stbxh?

[@farronespinoza260]

Soon to be ex husband

[@allieday03]

@farronespinoza260 thank you 🫶

[@Sg190th]

I remember this. If she really loved him, she would have shown the video proof or fiight harder, yet she didn't.

[@wispfall-9904]

this was definitely written by a man lmao

[@netromo]

How

[@Pilotito1]

Why

[@Pilotito1]

It's not funny it's sad

[@Pilotito1]

The ex-husband and the OP are the victims and the daughter IS the one that destroyed both of their lives, the husband being called a pedo and other names, and the OP Who losed everything(husband and daughter)