About the defining masculinity thing, I want to bring up an example. There is a Japanese documentary called "泣きながら生きて". (the whole doc is on youtube btw, just search the title) It's about a Chinese father who became an illegal immigrant in Japan in the 90s, who endured unimaginable poverty and hardship, sacrificed all he possibly can. To afford his daughter a chance to a good education and eventually afforded her to become a physician in the US. I cried watching that doc. I think a lot of Americans, due to a generally comfortable and carefree upbringing, have a relatively shallow understanding of the concept of masculinity. To this day, that father is the manliest man i know. And hes an unassuming, if not a submissive looking man. Like Gus Fring said in breaking bad. "And a man, a man provides. He does it even when he's not appreciated, or respected, or even loved. He simply bears up and he does it. Because he's a man." I think people need to re-learn how to appreciate the strength of one's character.
@AbdulAlhazred-l2l Жыл бұрын
That documentary should be called" A Chinese Family's American Dream", Japan is just a stepping stone.🤣
@GIN.356.A Жыл бұрын
@@AbdulAlhazred-l2l idk if you've seen it. But it's not like they schemed it to be that way. The dad took the only opportunity available to him at the time. Became an illegal immigrant in Japan, so it's literally impossible for them to stay in Japan even if they wanted to. Because at the end of his journey, he is inevitably deported and denied reentry. And it's not like the US just accepted them. During the 5 years their daughter was studying at SUNY, the mom was denied a Visa to visit her daughter , 11 times. So I'm gonna assume you didn't watch it, because their story was honest and humbling. And nothing about it is remotely funny.
@AbdulAlhazred-l2l Жыл бұрын
I know exactly which documentary it is. "Laoding"@@GIN.356.A
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
is this 泣きながら生きて documentary in english or subs?
@GIN.356.A Жыл бұрын
@@quincy189 the entire doc is on KZbin btw, just search the title, its about 2 hrs long. It's completely in Japanese. There are parts of the doc that are in Chinese, there is Japanese subtitle for those parts. I don't think there is a English sub unfortunately.
@Jkd_77 Жыл бұрын
They should carry the Bruce Lee attitude. Polite and humble when you want to be, stoic and assertive when you have to be, and explosive when you absolutely need to be.
@khoalacake Жыл бұрын
Bruce Lee IRL was confident but sometimes cocky and had a bad temper.
@chyeannevojet7664 Жыл бұрын
@@khoalacakeMost American guys do
@allio3459 Жыл бұрын
@@khoalacakemost western men are like that, that’s why Bruce Lee was telling all Asian people to be like that because Eastern philosophy doesn’t work on Western philosophy.
@BT-oq6un Жыл бұрын
Why do they have to be like Bruce Lee? Why can’t they be like Chuck Norris? Isn’t the definition of being alpha having the security to occupy an identity based on your own two feet?
@zwipify Жыл бұрын
It's not about lack of respect or disrepect. As a man you should cultivate self-respect, become able and willing to go out there and put a dent in the world. Don't waste your time and energy trying to get others to "give" you respect, you end up empowering others to hold sway over you. Don't assume a victim mentality.
@bigbigdog Жыл бұрын
Totally agree. This topic always remind me of the "Good times make weak man" poem. It's always good to have the ability to protect yourself and your love ones.
@seanscheng Жыл бұрын
Asian American young men need to work on the very same things every other color of young man needs to work on: the pursuit of excellence, becoming physically dangerous, taking comfort in the discomfort, embracing the suck, finding purpose, practicing discipline. The difference we face is the generational dereliction on our fathers’ part in fostering physical strength and toughness (my pops was an exception and I’m grateful); that simply wasn’t part of the immigrant playbook. And the Asians growing up here in America have had to grapple with the ramifications of that. Jocko wrote The Way of the Warrior Kid as a manual for success for growing up here in this country. Explicit in that book is a reverence for warrior codes, whether harkens from Japanese samurai, Navy Seals, or European knights. How many of our fathers communicated that ethos to us in grade school? My father raised me in his martial arts academy and I grew up doing hard training under his guidance. But most other Asian dads were engineers or doctors or academics and, if they were involved at all, did not properly prepare their sons for life in urban America.
@Teleios15013 Жыл бұрын
Very well said and I completely agree
@andrews68 Жыл бұрын
“Asian American young men need to work on the very same things every other color of young man needs to work on: the pursuit of excellence.” 💯👍👍 couldn’t agree more! I have two sons and for my kids education and upbringing, athletics / physical fitness and social skills are just as important as academics.
@dy1854 Жыл бұрын
Respect to you and your father. I agree with everything you said. My father was an engineer who immigrated here. He had very little to do with my childhood and did not prepare me for the brutality of growing up as a minority in this country and I suffered terribly for it. I taught myself to be a fighter and now look up to other fighters like Tu Lam and Mike Glover (half Korean). I've read the Book of 5 Rings by Myamoto Musashi and carry myself with strength and purpose. I will never start a fight but I fully intend to see one through with extreme violence and aggression if anyone starts one with me. Interestingly, people move out of my way now and I'm only 5'6". I don't openly show my capabilities (wearing tank tops, muscle flexing, etc) but instead I dress modestly and conceal carry my gun and knife. I think what shows to others is how I carry myself (walk tall and alert) as well as the expression on my face which has been chiseled from decades of violence and discrimination. When I do go out in public it's always with purpose and a "don't fuck with me" attitude. I only reserve my softness for my family and grandchildren especially.
@Teleios15013 Жыл бұрын
@@dy1854 real masculinity here
@MrHmongrice Жыл бұрын
My wife wondered why I'm watching this. I told her the part about people testing my boundaries at work resonates with me.
@TomChenLife Жыл бұрын
LMAOOOOOO…a few years ago, my family and I were walking down a street in NOLA. Whte guy walking towards us and expected me to avoid him. Checked him, his drink fell on the floor, he went WTF and I turned around and LOL’ed at him.
@coolbreeze5683 Жыл бұрын
I feel like this quite noticeable in America and Canada. Just from a simple walk down the sidewalk and noticing how many times people of colour (even women of colour) have to move off of their part of the sidewalk and walk in the grass to accommodate others who look a certain way and walk with entitlement says a lot. I went to England for a few months for work and people walk in a more orderly fashion. You stay to your side of the sidewalk and I stay to mine. If I'm walking with a friend, the friend ducks in to my side when someone is coming the other direction. It just seems like common sense but I feel some people like going on power trips or just lack more awareness in certain places.
@Teleios15013 Жыл бұрын
All this is very true and Asian men probably do need to do more. This is a masculinity problem which isn’t isolated to Asian men but we seem to suffer from it more often than other races. Comes from our upbringing of often being very passive, keep our heads down, and focus on our studies cause otherwise our parents will think we will fail and die. We need to become more balanced individuals and become more confident in ourselves by learning to fight, working out, playing more sports. A part of being a man is being able to physically handle ourselves and protecting those we love. Can’t do that if we’re small shy and weak. A “nice” guy is kinda like a useless guy in some scenarios.
@Theophan1238 ай бұрын
The root problem really lies with East Asian culture, especially among immigrants in Western countries. Being passive, nonconfrontational and agreeable isn't a problem when everyone else around us belongs to the same culture and ethnicity and is expected to act the same way. But this is setting up Asian men for failure in a completely different and hostile environment. In the long run, our generation of Asian men would have to take up leadership in our countries (or countries of origin) if we wish for our cultures to survive the chaos of this century
@MedalionDS9 Жыл бұрын
Under respected would imply they got respect to begin with... disrespected is definitely more applicable.
@SmokyOle Жыл бұрын
Tons get respected.
@andrews68 Жыл бұрын
Respect needs to be earned.
@andrews68 Жыл бұрын
Respect needs to be earned.
@what3899 Жыл бұрын
They actually were respected before anti asian propaganda in the media started. They weren’t emasculated and asians were popular with the women, which is why 1920s America’s first sex symbol was sessue hayakawa who was flaunted by a bunch of white women. And since a lot of racist insecure white men felt threatened and controlled media at the time they only portrayed asian men as feminine and nerdy. But there are a couple attractive masculine asians in the media in modern times so the respect is slowly but surely returning
@MrCowabungaDude Жыл бұрын
I’m trying to mature my clothes style now. I’m trying to tuck in my shirts and wear suit style materials. I need to buy more blazers; literally. I found out wearing the right suit attire won’t leave you soaking and damp during hot times. It’s really not that bad wearing suit style.
@TenchiBushi Жыл бұрын
I live in Japan now after doing things in both Afghanistan & Iraq on and off for 10 years. I've traveled from Kobe to parts of Hokkaido for martial arts training and debauchery. Even parts of Tokyo (Kabuchiko) that's considered dangerous in Japan is a garden compared to many parts of America. To give context: I came to America in 1973 after my parents established themselves. I grew up in NJ, NYC and parts of Philadelphia, PA. I've been in several parts of America with the army and government details. American cites can be more dangerous than some of the combat zones I've been in. My parents just wanted me to study and not get involved in sports & martial arts. I was the small kid in the block and never had good grades. I grew up fighting but never got in enough trouble to deal with the law. I went through army basic training at 4 ft 11 in. weighing 113 lbs. Since then I'm 5 ft 6 in at 174 lbs. I grew taller and gained muscles in my army days and even earned a 5th dan blackbelt ranking under the Bujinkan. Myself being the traditional martial artist do other things like shooting pistol and rifle. I also learn Pekiti Tirsia Kali along with Inosanto-Lacoste Kali, Jeet Kune Do & Brazilian Jujutsu. In a sense, I am a warrior due to be a soldier by profession. The mindset that I got from my army days was a good work ethic, proper decision making, proper action (when to and when not do take a course of action), dealing with pressure ie. grow a thicker skin & seek ways to improve one self. You don't need to join the military to learn these things. The Asian American male can return to their warrior roots by taking a shooting class, participating in group sports, archery, the iron sport (body building/weight lifting/power lifting/olympic lifting), martial arts and the list goes on. RPGs like table top Dungeons & Dragons & Pathfinder helps with strategy. I participated in a D&D campaign that met once a week for 3-4 hours that lasted 7 months. I became a certified scuba diver. Some of the things that I listed were done at different stages of my life. Build your body and build your soul. Become stronger while enjoying yourself.
@ShaySun Жыл бұрын
As a professional trained life coach and Chinese-American, it’s less about a warrior. It’s about leadership and vision. Self-lead by creating a vision for your life. Know your mission, your value cores and express your authenticity with boldness. Protect life. Provide for life. That’s the assertive “yang” energy that will attract the “yin” energy. And remember there’s “yin” within “yang.” There’s balance ☯️
@vanessajones3508 Жыл бұрын
It is about standing your ground and not letting people taking advantage of you. America was built on slavery and violence.
@ftu2021 Жыл бұрын
So was Europe
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
@@ftu2021 so was asia
@Jerrypaks Жыл бұрын
don't forget genocide. And most early European immigrants to America sought asylum to escape persecution from committed crimes.
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
@@Jerrypaks that was all australias history lol england just sent all their criminals and people in jails and just shipped them to Australia. They genocide the natives and took over
@anthonydhan Жыл бұрын
Perhaps we should be reminded that not that long ago East Asia had a plantation economy for thousands of years with the majority living as powerless peasants. Any peasant standing up or rebelling would have faced the crushing weight of oppression by the landed gentry and the aristocracy that owned most of the land. Peasant rebellions came and went but they never fixed the fundamental problem of land ownership until the arrival of Communism or Capitalism. In my opinion, what is often seen as cultural norms are actually adaptations to survive the oppression. FOB East Asian immigrants often shy way from asserting their rights and pushing for recognition of their work. As the result, they often end up pigeonholed into doing most of the work while credit and advancement goes to others. And worst of all, they get no respect.
@joseph3036 Жыл бұрын
The nail that sticks out gets hammered down. It still happens in East Asia today, people that are confident and extroverted are seen as a threat and considered abnormal, they also have a hard time making friends or sometimes even finding a stable job.
@jamesburns679 Жыл бұрын
Not gonna lie I feel like growing up as an Asian in the US is a lot more difficult than growing up in Canada. This is not as big of a deal in Canada
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
you grew up in canada and us or what?
@SmokyOle Жыл бұрын
Canada is like half Asian that's why.
@tfkdandsvkc Жыл бұрын
They should have warrior like attitude like taekwondo/karate vibe that will upgrade the attraction for sure
@mrt445 Жыл бұрын
It would be great to see more Asian American and Asian Australian athletes in various popular sports.
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
where is affirmative action for this one lol and meeting race and gender quotas. They always do this for black people and white women. And honestly even for views and ratings it would boost more viewers from asia which means more money for the western based industries
@mrt445 Жыл бұрын
@@quincy189 I agree.
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
@@mrt445 they do this on purpose because they want to keep the agenda of asian's being less of a man and gatekeeping all woman from asian men so they can't breed. They even have the audacity to say asian men can't breed with asian woman, because asian woman belong to non asian men like white men the real alphas lol how entitled is that? white men and non aisan men will harass asian men and even tell asian men as a insult that they aren't even allowed to breed with asian women like as if its like some law and they are holding authority over it. It's like obviously its not a law but your dating competition who is not asian is trying to say its basically like law and you aren't even allowed to date asian girls and they will be the authority figures who uphold it
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
it's not that there's no asian talent they just simply don't want to show asian faces in western sports on purpose. Remember in the world cup the korean soccer player got like over millions of instagram followers over night cause gen z girls were simping over him. Shohei Ohtani has hella simps. In bruce lee era in the 60s and 70s western girls simped over asians. it was only after the 70s they started to make asians look weak and only cast incel looking asians like long duk dong from 16 candles. 80s 90s and 2000s hollywood gave a new look to asian males. And they sure as hell want to prevent that from happening again from making western women think asian men are masculine. NBA hella tried to shadow jermey lin they did whatever they could to break his spotlight and release him from the nba. Just a reminder even kim kardashian wanted to sleep with jeremy lin during linsanity. Western media and white hollywood can not allow this to happen lol they do not like when asian men get any sort of spotlight or attention and will always give the ethnic attention to black men or lainto men
@Teleios15013 Жыл бұрын
It would be but that’s going to take generations as we are still establishing an economic foothold in the west. The older immigrant Asians all want us to focus on studying.
@sqw5036 Жыл бұрын
The most important thing is to be comfortable and confident in your own skin. Don’t need to try hard to do somebody you are not. I see there is danger that influencers try to impose unrealistic Monotonous standard of masculinity on young men, just like some impose unrealistic beauty standard on young women. It could lead many young men into wrong path of steroid abuse, self hating and mental health issue.
@dy1854 Жыл бұрын
" It could lead many young men into wrong path of steroid abuse, self hating and mental health issue." - Um, racism already does that. This isn't something we choose. It's been shoved down our throats.
@gon7438 Жыл бұрын
Who give a fk about young men..
@johnlee1511 Жыл бұрын
You guys have to look into the Chinese classic novel, Water Margin and the characters inside that book.
@01olracman Жыл бұрын
Short answer yes. Long answer depends on your style
@matthewyang3153 Жыл бұрын
Yes I agree Asian men needs to be more warrior
@user-fb6hy2eh5y Жыл бұрын
That mandatory military experience has a lot of physical exemptions. lol
@Razear Жыл бұрын
I think there's a difference between having the capacity to physically defend yourself if the opportunity calls, but not purposely searching for fights as a means of proving your bravado. There's a reason trained martial artists don't get into street fights because they understand the consequences whereas the layman may be more ignorant of that. The best general never fires a shot, as Sun Tzu would put it.
@suzygirl1843 Жыл бұрын
Asian men are unapproachable. Other men make the first moves. That's why you're not seen by women. Women know Indian men are in arranged marriages top so they're not dateable. Asian men need to be approachable across cultures or they'll be seen as last place
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Nobody said to purposefully get into street fights
@togo7022 Жыл бұрын
read bronze age mindset and it lays everything out
@weifan9533 Жыл бұрын
Primarily Chinese men need to do more, other Asian men aren’t that disadvantaged from what I know.
@mirychi Жыл бұрын
psychacks youtube channel has a vid on what makes a man, and i agree: having a spine and balls, figuratively speaking of course. asian cultures are typically warrior cultures. colonization did a number on all of us, and no one seems to acknowledge the impact it has on us. knowing who we are, where we come from, and our willingness to stand up for it - tenets our ancestors have lived and died by. One's attitude through life will determine their success. The same water that softens the carrot hardens the egg. Adversity is inevitable. time to rise boys
@Teleios15013 Жыл бұрын
Colonisation, white worshipping, media, the failure of communism, corruption, poverty, starvation, have all wrecked Asians for like 100 years but I think we are now on the up. Asians have had their warriors and have been in countless wars in the past so it’s not like we didn’t have what it takes to stand up and fight.
@TopJoo7 Жыл бұрын
This was a great conversation
@elmcloudtt Жыл бұрын
hello fb, the gardener in war means 1) the man who buys flower to his lady for sorries or 2) grow flowers and have flowers for free to his lady ; gardener in war also means outsider changing the route of the warrior heading to kill ; then the gentile asian man comes in again and show a different car, speed, rims, bumper colors, or etc. to just say stop. elle for meadows
@elmcloudtt Жыл бұрын
in the us, it is a garden - it sounds like you dave and andy did not go and finish school. i am watching this at a workplace. it is a garden and asians do great work in the office and out. just a note.
@hailyrizzo5428 Жыл бұрын
Asians especially East Asian, of both genders, are perceived as less dominant, less masculine and maybe even less mature. Physically, Asians are smaller sized. They have less prominent noses, less pronounced jawlines and their men have less facial hair. And sorry to bring this up, squinty eyes. Squinty eyes gives the impression that you are looking down and not looking directly at the other person, meaning you are subservient. When you have round eyes, they are more prominent and it gives the impression that the person is looking directly at you and holding your gaze with confidence. It doesn't help that Asians are known for being high academic achievers (ie nerds) and not so much for being athletes and sportsmen (ie jocks). Why do you think that other races are so attracted to Asian females, they give the impression of being more feminine than females of other races. But it brings the completely opposite effect for Asian guys, because they give the impression of being less dominant and masculine than guys of other races. That is also one reason why East Asian guys don't get to climb up to leadership posts of most organizations. You can talk all that crap about samurai and warriors but modern times, the ordinary East Asians are not known for being violent and brutal. Look at those random acts of violence on the streets today. How often do you see young East Asians beating up other folks just for the heck of it. It's like comparing a nice friendly golden retriever to a wolf. Look at this video right here right now. You have two Asian guys TALKING and PHILOSOPHIZING about some 'new' masculinity. If you are bloody wolf, you would just move in and bite the retriever's head right off instead of barking and talking about how tough and masculine you are.
@Silenced_by_Utoob Жыл бұрын
Damn I would’ve loved to join in on this convo because this is something I’ve been doing since the late 00’s.
@raofutv Жыл бұрын
yes we do.
@spittingame4241 Жыл бұрын
*Be yourself but be water, my friends*
@noelramirez1551Ай бұрын
Just walk with confidence. I know it sounds weird, but say something like, 'Hey, what's going on?' It shows you're not an introvert like most people assume Asians are; it shows you're not afraid to get vocal. Straighten your back. I've seen some Asian guys hunch over when passing by someone.
@gonflyhigher Жыл бұрын
Love it.
@iamsheep Жыл бұрын
Actually the ideal man in Chinese culture is 文武双全 which means to be complete in, or "master of both the literary and martial arts".
@aznboi1027 Жыл бұрын
We can find that middle ground. Just be able to stand up for yourself and be assertive and set boundary. If that person doesn't respect it and get physical then be prepared for it. I encourage everyone to learn how to fight and go to some martial art school.
@Jose-dh1xz Жыл бұрын
This channel is very insightful even for Caucasians such as myself. We can always learn from each other.
@jmedz893 Жыл бұрын
As a British-Filipino from London who used to be quite chubby & much taller than others when I was younger, I lost the weight by walking in high school & took up kickboxing & lifting weights throughout my younger years. These days, I mainly just lift weights & hit the heavy bag every now & then .. Whilst I agree that Asian men should surely consider empowering & bettering themselves through things like martial arts & other hobbies/activities, unfortunately - this still isn't enough to combat all the irritants of daily life e.g. bad neighbours, racist abuse, irate members of the public, being talked down to by managers/work colleagues etc .. Unfortunately, we live in a society where one wrong move or taking matters into our own hands (emotional or not) - would result in us being on the bad side of things .. Being warrior-like has its moments - but unfortunately we're all still playing on the same chess board of life .. And there's loads of other things that have just frustrated me the older I've gotten, knowing that there's damn well nothing I can really do about it ..
@Teleios15013 Жыл бұрын
Maybe won’t fix everything but it’ll go a long way in you getting and keeping what is rightfully yours.
@jmedz893 Жыл бұрын
@@Teleios15013 Well to be fair, when I did confront one of my neighbours about something .. he did eventually leave the neighborhood months later .. Dude was some loaded self-entitled prick from Iraq ..
@waynelee7871 Жыл бұрын
More Asian guys should Carry.
@mrt445 Жыл бұрын
Carry what??
@KelNg130 Жыл бұрын
@@mrt445firearms
@AJ-iu6nw Жыл бұрын
a big stick@@mrt445
@AyanAli-py7ci Жыл бұрын
@@mrt445lol
@tarteen091311 Жыл бұрын
A lot of south east asian do… I know a lot of Filipinos that conceal carry in Cali
@Jerrypaks Жыл бұрын
Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way around or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.
@JTPyrus11 ай бұрын
asians that have masculine features tend to hide them for some reason. I am 3/4 asian. When I do not have my beard I look way less masculine. When I do not go to the gym I look way less masculine, If I grow my hair long etc. Many of us choose to look feminine and then complain :P
@SovaniddTiem27 күн бұрын
In the garden, the gardeners owns the garden. Suntzu art of planting. Grass is only green where the gardener tends to.👊
@JTPyrus11 ай бұрын
My Japanese cousins in Japan can grow big full beards like they used to. After the war having a beard was taboo, so they don't bc it can affect their career. Asian men can look tough, but a lot of it has to do with cultural standards
@willclouded Жыл бұрын
I say yes
@karaoke888 Жыл бұрын
Need more red pill!
@mrt445 Жыл бұрын
We've all had more than enough red pills already, it's not necessary. All Asian men have to do is consistently hit the gym starting at a young age.
@tzenzhongguo Жыл бұрын
@@mokkoriman71hell yes
@WH-mv7bf Жыл бұрын
To gain respect is still old school. You have to let others know you can beat them in the classroom and that you can beat them in the alley.
@invisiblerevolution Жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Really bruh????
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Wtf
@Gopherminator Жыл бұрын
Flow like water.
@chimakalu41 Жыл бұрын
The response will be interesting on this one.
@ThreeFiddyChannel Жыл бұрын
Masculinity is just another label used in Western conversation ... there are plenty of physical and assertive men in Asia as there are meek and genteel ones ... genetics and personality determines this , not culture or ethinicity ... Granted the stereotypes applied in mainstream media of Asian men being feeble and 'unmasculine' was an effective tool deployed in the last century to keep the ceiling low and ultimatetly contain Asian men's role/power in the the US/UK ... now it is all about compounding this with portraying (China) as an existential threat ... If you were to become more masculine ... i.e more confident and more physically formidable ... you're just seen as a bigger threat, and then comes a whole different flavour of descrimination and abuse your way ...
@billcheng3666 Жыл бұрын
This is because the Chinese have always thought about war in terms of planning, management, and numbers, all highly cerebral disciplines. The never valued the warrior as they can be overcome by mass of inferior units. If you read art of war, you’ll find that it’s mainly about how to outstrategize the enemy
@shandysong9912 Жыл бұрын
YES
@StevenTakahashi-d7i Жыл бұрын
What’s the Navy Seal book David references at 20:40?
@CCSMrChen Жыл бұрын
He said Navy Seal but I just looked it up. Tu Lam is a Green Beret. Just as badass.
@victorlui5955 Жыл бұрын
I just want to eat chicken & rice with a beer hot pot boys. 😊
@CCSMrChen Жыл бұрын
A lot of catchphrases to read up on: “Might makes right” being one (I believe this is very outdated and should not be anyone’s motto), and “Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.” Which I also don’t agree with because during hard times weak men don’t suddenly become strong. In the end though, the world is too complex to adopt just a single trait (warrior-like) and leave behind this wisdom: have the skills to pay the bills, know when to walk away, and it’s not about what you know, it’s who you know.
@891delta Жыл бұрын
"Might makes right" is a truth of the world, not some motto
@truetoyou9764 Жыл бұрын
Yes 100 percent As a part asian man that everyone assumes is asian I see asian man as weak. The year may be 2023 and feminism may be the reigning regime but men still respect masculinity and women still crave masculinity.
@Gabsboy123 Жыл бұрын
Young men are dealing with issues arising from feminism and the lack of proper male role models, regardless of race. I don't really buy this victimhood mindset of thinking everyone views Asian guys as effeminate. There are many white and even black dudes who also struggle with being at the bottom of the hierarchy and treated with apathy by society.
@albietg2544 Жыл бұрын
I totally agree with that statement. Look at the people of America, Europe, middle east and even to indian people. They are tall and mascular. Why chinese and rest of the Asian people people neglect their physical appearance?
@aey2579 Жыл бұрын
Different priorities due to cultural differences. Also, most of the Chinese/Korean/Japanese Americans came to America because they excelled in academics of some sort. Therefore, we generally aren't seeing the entire Asian demographic being represented.
@albietg2544 Жыл бұрын
@@aey2579 I understand that. But We all know how Asian people typically look like, right! What I want to say is, they can also become mascular, if they want to. Why did they stay away from Gym?
@Drownedinblood Жыл бұрын
@conradtrinh6470 more like without money you can't really get anything, so hyperfocused on getting those resources but usually not stealing it through force.
@albietg2544 Жыл бұрын
@@Billdean25 but comparatively muscular than Asians. I am nothing against Asian looks or their bodies but I want them to be fit and mascular like them. And it is possible, bro! Why do they hate gym?
@albietg2544 Жыл бұрын
@@conradtrinh6470 bro, Atleast, they can go to the gym? It doesn't take much time.
@PricefieldPunk Жыл бұрын
Depends where you are. If you in a terrible neighborhood then yeah you'd benefit from being more "Warrior" like but if you in an office setting then whats that gonna get you? Like you mentioned Ray Allen was kinda soft and quiet but if you acted like Kevin Garnett in the workplace people would think somethings wrong with this guy.
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Warrior mindset has applications in the work place. It's not purely physical
@johnnycage7082 Жыл бұрын
All I say f around & find out ain’t no one pushing me because they think Asian are weak Revenge is a dish served cold stay aware of your surroundings
@Drownedinblood Жыл бұрын
Also if you want to see how Americans view asian society, look at the movie demolition man. It should be pretty obvious.
@switzjon8405 Жыл бұрын
1:00 I'm not Asian but I'd rather be the Ronin. No clan or alliance But will end you if need be. With respect of course.
@wonderland41616 ай бұрын
Come to canada and Australia asian r well respected there
@necaquino Жыл бұрын
just be, love yourself, and let the world be...
@necaquino Жыл бұрын
don't let peterson, rogan, tate, and these supposed more masculine folks dictate how men should be. just be...
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Yea no, that's how you become a victim
@necaquino Жыл бұрын
@@891delta, how i have lived over half a century with my bones and dignity intact - even made allies with some enemies. this toxic masculinity is not the way ahead; just makes us worse as a people.
@891delta Жыл бұрын
@@necaquino Being able to protect yourself and your loved ones from physical or any other harm is not toxic masculinity 🤷♂
@necaquino Жыл бұрын
@@891delta for sure, totally agree. however, living life in a way that avoids harm to myself and my loved ones (I find) is a better way. like in boxing: head movement, bob, weave, slip, a slight show of vulnerability, a feint, a counter punch - my performance is about my training and the science, not about by opponent. live harmoniously, create connection, avoid trouble, back out if you can, fight as the last of all resorts - greater aggression is not the solution to aggression. seriously, I have made allies of enemies by seriously letting them understand... brother, we both don't want this. toxic masculinity infers superiority at all cost, purchased with violence, and maintained w fear. hah, so sorry, you did not come here for a lecture. be well, brother, keep well. peace.
@mmfong297 Жыл бұрын
First all, you have to understand, US has been a superpower developed country for centuries where you can nearly drop out of high school and still be successful. This is where academic isn't everything and you have the luxury to play sports or practice martial arts. For decades in Asia (Boomers onwards), there was a strong push for children in academic, because this was the only way to drive poverty out onto the level of the western world - Science, computer, technology, or basically STEM. Even tho East Asians have created tons of martial arts in history, the art of war, then you got philosophy of Bushido, Samurai, Xiaolin etc. All of these are useless for the growth of the country and it's only part of "'Wu" not "Wen" (warrior + academic), which is essential to have both in order to be the ideal man throughout ancient times (quoted from the hist of 3 Kingdoms). Yet, the ones that are studying those in today's modern time are mostly westerners. Asian have loss touch on all this for a number of decades.. these days they are good at playing video games instead.. If you notice Thailand for example, the ones that practice Muy Thai are extremely masculine males versus an average Thai men are all feminized
@bigbigdog Жыл бұрын
That's why the Chinese gov enact laws that limits the number of hours a kid can play video games each week. And they said no girly men on TV.
@Drownedinblood Жыл бұрын
The middle ground is def asian people finding that middle ground where we arent exploding or ignoring. We are just defending ourselves and standing our ground. We also need go to lawyers to defend our many many self defence cases where attackers try to play victim and hope the asian people they attacked cant do anything legally to them , maybe hoping they have too poor english skills which give them the ability to control the narrative.
@nastang87xx Жыл бұрын
YES!!!!! DUH!
@benjaminabdullah3289 Жыл бұрын
The answer for Asian hate is simple, just always carry a Katana.
@PeninsulaCity2024 Жыл бұрын
If that doesn't work, an Ultimax 100 would suffice.
@allio3459 Жыл бұрын
Lol not in america, carry gun
@benjaminabdullah3289 Жыл бұрын
@@allio3459 glock is oke, but katana is more satisfying
@RoseNZieg Жыл бұрын
but a gardener in a war is basically a ninja.
@eljefeelpadron1843 Жыл бұрын
Where's the Asian red pill or Asian "Andrew Tate"? There's a huge void to be filled by someone....
@joseph3036 Жыл бұрын
'The nail that sticks out gets hammered down', happens a lot in Asia.
@H3ll0-W0rld1 Жыл бұрын
Historically, the region of East Asia has been one of the most violent.😅 A very strong "masculine" warrior culture , I'd say .So I believe Asians progressed to this modern archetype that we see today.. Confucius probably played a huge role, sort of like the prophet from Christianity..Almost like this was a major turning point in human history..
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
mongols were the baddest warriors on this planet
@hailyrizzo5428 Жыл бұрын
Historical records? Historical reputation has more impact than actual historical records. Who the historical warriors with a fearsome reputation? Vikings. Spartans, Roman legionnaires. Mongols. Samurais. The Chinese only had the antithesis Shaolin monks that preach mercy and non-violence and have little reputation for bloodletting.
@H3ll0-W0rld1 Жыл бұрын
@@hailyrizzo5428 The warring states period? Imperial China? The constant regime changes throughout China's history? We're all guilty lol.
@bryantkobe23 Жыл бұрын
The conversation is riducuous, has anyone been to asia and seen how violent it is
@yukiyu5383 Жыл бұрын
You missing all the great heroes of The Three Kingdoms.
@hailyrizzo5428 Жыл бұрын
the problem with the three kingdoms is that it was basically chinese beating up other chinese. so what. what reputation do the chinese about beating up other nations? the vikings had their reputation of invading and pillaging other countries. the romans conquered much of europe. i don't have to tell you about the spartans. the chinese? since the three kingdoms, we know they got buttfked by the mongols, (why do you think the MC named themselves the mongols and not 'the chinese'.) the europeans, the japanese, the vietnamese. actually i don't know why the western media keep labelling china warmongers. they seem more like puzzies.
@darrylt8502 Жыл бұрын
To me, it's who's an asshole and who isn't and this applies to all race including Asians. At my local gym, I bench 225, majority of the dudes there, muscular or not, short or tall, young or old, (I'll just include women as well), will make way for me but I also show respect by doing the same if we try to get through a pathway or sharing weights etc. There are some Asian dudes who are complete assholes, muscular or geeky, and those are the ones I will not have their back when shit goes down. And this happens everywhere. Also, I train light MMA just to condition my muscles for self defense. Having muscles is meaningless if they serve little purpose.
@zentani67 Жыл бұрын
Be like water - Bruce Lee.
@kdoublec9733 ай бұрын
word up MARZI TARTS!
@rhythmandacoustics4 ай бұрын
What asian need to do is to study aesthetics. More working out and less sedentary activities. Asian men should look for Greek aesthetics and Asian aesthetics rather than Bodybuilders.
@MistressDay Жыл бұрын
Asian men are masculine and warrior like in their own way. They're just very quiet and insular. I've seen a lot of great dancers and musicians who are Asian, soldiers........ but they have a tendency to do, something that I did, as a young woman, in that they resign themselves to the background. I think if people see them in the more popular sports, to INCLUDE teaching ASIAN martial artforms, it will bring them to the forefront. I was thinking about taking a martial arts class and everywhere you go, there's either a White or Black guy, pretending they created it. I think Asian guys need to befriend Black women, because they are polar opposites in some ways, similar in others . Asian men just need more visibility. They don't need to become brutes like the other ones.
@quincy189 Жыл бұрын
you are a black woman?
@chunsze635 Жыл бұрын
Asian men like to silently kill and win and shock people with awe
@madlok9114 Жыл бұрын
This comes naturally. Can't force a bunch of timid cowardly men to act like warriors lol.
@92ChatNoir92 Жыл бұрын
If we should stop pushing Asian men into a softer stereotype, then we shouldn't pay attention to Kpop
@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx Жыл бұрын
Only east asians and southeast asians have this issue. Mongolians, Buryats, kazakhs, Kyrgyz, Uzbeks (central asians) are quite warrior-like and agressive in street fights
@tzenzhongguo Жыл бұрын
Привет друг! Слава Саха (Якутия).
@cambodianpleasuresquad1753 Жыл бұрын
best ever asian boxer was Manny Pacquiao a filipino. no central asian has reached this level and achieved as much. the best kick boxer ever was buakaw banchamek a thai. no central asian fighter as achieved as much. central asians are better at mma but none have one the UFC belt or dominated it like the former in other sports
@ElizabethChee-rj7bn Жыл бұрын
When is toxic masculinity ever a good thing? Being masculine does not equate to being violent. You can be masculine and assertive. No need for street fights, etc. Also, why pit Asians against each other? There are always exceptions to every rule/stereotype. China and India have some of the largest populations. Indonesia has one of the largest populations in Southeast Asia. Is it fair to generalize anyone really?
@tzenzhongguo Жыл бұрын
@@ElizabethChee-rj7bn God bless the Mongolian empire and the gods of Asian toxic masculinity Cao Cao, Liu Bei, Geghis Khan, Sun Tzu, Musashi, Wong Fei Hong, Lee Kwan Yew, Park Chung Hee, and Jiang Jie Sie (CKS).
@tzenzhongguo Жыл бұрын
@@ElizabethChee-rj7bn go away we don’t need leftist feminist vermin.
@anthonysalazar9719 Жыл бұрын
There’s more to masculinity than just brute force but it sure doesn’t hurt to be capable Stoicism goes a long way
@Armz69 Жыл бұрын
Assertiveness is definitely a quality that everyone can benefit from, especially against transgressions. However people gonna need more than that when dealing with psychological aggression/manipulation aka covert aggressive behaviors which is more common among asian cultures.
@tarteen091311 Жыл бұрын
East Asians are soft compared to South East Asian
@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx Жыл бұрын
Southeast aisans are soft compared to mongolians and Kazakhs
@yolo9264 Жыл бұрын
As a Vietnamese I know a lot of us Viet really don’t take shit from other races in America. Maybe Southeast Asians( Viet, Cambodians, Hmong) are more aggressive in America compared to East Asian bc we come from war torn countries. Most of us grew up poorer and we have that mentality of nothing to loose.
@tarteen091311 Жыл бұрын
@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx mongolia is in East Asia
@rabiaahmed7659 Жыл бұрын
@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gxmongolians are more Turkic
@cambodianpleasuresquad1753 Жыл бұрын
@@ghhhggrtes-rx1gx best ever asian boxer was Manny Pacquiao a filipino. no central asian has reached this level and achieved as much. the best kick boxer ever was buakaw banchamek a thai. no central asian fighter has achieved as much. central asians are better at mma but none have won the UFC belt or dominated it like the former in other sports
@TheFlagUnit Жыл бұрын
No it’s not about us. It’s about Hypergamy. It’s about white supremacy. You should always strive to self improve but look at the big picture and what is at play here. We should be advocating for a more multipolar world and a less Western dominated world.
@891delta Жыл бұрын
That won't happen without a warrior mindset
@891delta Жыл бұрын
100% Japan was masculine before they were neutered by the US Need more modern samurai and sohei Speak up, work out, stay strapped
@Theophan1238 ай бұрын
The last time Japan had that warrior mentality they treated fellow Asians worse than what European colonial empires did. Up to the present it's still a point of political controversy with China and South Korea. Maybe the rootless Westernized Asian immigrants should learn about that first before they engage into this fantasy of all Asians uniting against the muh evil white supremacy
@mheekkim2901 Жыл бұрын
Asian men being warrior like....Atilla, Genghis, Imperial Japan....yeah..I don't think rest of the world would like that...
@TLiu-1b Жыл бұрын
The West knows this, they've been successful in dividing East Asia.
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Damn that sucks, anyway..
@reptilerule91 Жыл бұрын
I would recommend Martial Arts training like Laido, Kung Fu, Muay Thai, Kra Be Ka Bong, Eskirmira, Karate, Geomdo, Tai Chi, Ninjutsu, all the others. We Asian Men need to be more warrior like to survive in the west, and gain respect in the west and all the rest. Be like historical warriors like Cao Cao, Sun Tzu and Musashi Miyamoto.
@Anonymous-hp8jy Жыл бұрын
The correct strategy is lawfare, not warfare. Scholarships and other encouragements to get your people into positions of power. A District attorney that supports your community is worth more than "warriors" in present day America.
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Wrong, it requires both. "Lawfare" will not protect Asians at the lower rungs living in high crime neighborhoods. It will not prepare Asians to compete against non-Asians vying for the same positions of power via politics.
@d15z1sux Жыл бұрын
Asian men don't need to change for anyone.
@hailyrizzo5428 Жыл бұрын
True. That is why they all alone and ostracized in their own little circle, jerking off each other. Cuz everyone else is ignoring them.
@quietknight9828 Жыл бұрын
In the United States Asian men have never even been a factor when speaking about masculinity, the only Masculine representation they have in media is Jackie Chan. All the Korean men are androgynous, Chinese are seen as nerds who hate the west, and Japan just wants to White so badly they’re not seen as a threat period. so I think even having the option of being hyper masculine taken away lends to even more bitterness.
@fonglu5 Жыл бұрын
Idk bro so we suppose to be street and about that life shit i dont have anyone punking me
@CommandereON Жыл бұрын
You’re approaching this as if it’s an Asian dragon mom raising you and that you need to try harder. The current is strong going against the image of Asian men because of social narratives and maybe how stiff, hard, and cold old Asian “father figure” men are. Be more personable and sociable like how most likable people are in the world. Don’t act like the stereotype. You’re not going out there to beat someone up.
@realeffect Жыл бұрын
Oh, I hate this conversation because when you read a history, book, Genghis Khan and Japan at war was vicious.
@JD-yz4kr Жыл бұрын
Jesus would totally disagree, and Jesus is a Western religious figure, not Asian.
@aiswaryabersan7983 Жыл бұрын
Jesus is asian he is from Israel which is in asia not a European white model Scandinavian
@891delta Жыл бұрын
Ok then Jesus' opinion is irrelevant
@OVI-Wan-Kenobi-8 Жыл бұрын
Just kpop max bro lol
@-amosc.presley-7192 Жыл бұрын
I say No.
@hammersampson Жыл бұрын
So we need to take some Andrew Tate classes.
@Musa03n Жыл бұрын
dont be too harsh to urself just be more man-like
@quietknight9828 Жыл бұрын
In the United States Asian men have never even been a factor when speaking about masculinity, the only Masculine representation they have in media is Jackie Chan. All the Korean men are androgynous, Chinese are seen as nerds who hate the west, and Japan just wants to White so badly they’re not seen as a threat period. so I think even having the option of being hyper masculine taken away lends to even more bitterness.
@suzygirl1843 Жыл бұрын
So Asian men hate BTS Kop because it's too feminine? But it's what got women across the globe to notice Asians? Africans LOVE Kdramas
@jnightmare0 Жыл бұрын
@@suzygirl1843k dramas and k pop are very different though. The Korean directors and writers are super talented.